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Kate

My mom is always hash on me am sacred to talk to her

12 months ago
Shontle

My mom dosen't understood bt my sis she gves me advices on everything as of nw she's my mentor tanks big sis ur my great help

1 year, 9 months ago
Cephas

I hope articles on male gender can also be posted because it's not all members in this group that are females. Or better still @Big Sis. I think a WhatsApp group can also be created.

1 year, 9 months ago
bella

why isn't my breast growing

1 year, 10 months ago

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Big Sister - Moderator

Hey bella! Thanks for the comment. Your breasts are growing but not at the pace you want it to grow. Also, you do not have to compare your growth to others because it will make you feel bad. Please note that the size of your breast is hormonal and it really cannot be forced. You need to be patient and also trust the process. Big breast does not mean that you are growing okay. There is a lot more to growth that has nothing to do with breasts. We hope this helps

1 year, 10 months ago
bella
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Tenny007

hello since my mum saw me drinking she hasnt been talking too me like before wat do i do pls big sis

1 year, 11 months ago

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Big Sister - Moderator

Hey Tenny007! Thanks for the comment. Your mum is probably still disappointed in you. We advise that you talk to her and apologize. Also, you should let her know why you did what you did. We are sure that once she knows that you are remorseful and ready to change, she will forgive you. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps

1 year, 11 months ago
Rukybadoo

Im new in these forum,i want to say hi to everybody

2 years ago
Anonymous

Hi Big sister ,a friend of mine is going through a lot each time she laments I feel like crying with her.My frnds mum had her went she was 16 n nw she is married n she has a son they all stay together .My friends name is Rita ,Rita was raped at d age of 6 by an uncle ,she wa later raped again at d age of 9 by a family friend n she almost did something stupid to her self becos of d incident ,nw she is 16 years old.When ever her mum gets angry at a(jst a slight mistakes)she will start reminding her on how she was raped n dat she is no longer a virgin at her tender age and dis breaks her,she cries nd wanna hurt her self if nt becos of d frnds nd kind of person she is she would have run mad or feed on drugs .At a point she started talking to her self pls help help us,how should she deal wit her mum? n d thought ?

2 years ago

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Big Sister - Moderator

Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about what Rita is going through right now. No one should ever be shamed for being raped. It was not her fault. We understand that Rita is really sad and disturbed and we sympathize with her. There is a Child Advocacy Center where they help and give professional advice to young people in situations like this on what they can do to be safe. You can call them on 08 00 80 080 01. This service is completely confidential - which means they won't share what you say to them with other people. It is free which means you don’t not need to have credit before you call them. We hope this helps

2 years ago
Anonymous

please are you really sure that's Rita mother or an aunt because I have never seen a mother that could say hurtful words to her own blood,reminding her of what she went through when she was 6 and 9 that's inappropriate Rita am very sorry for what is going on but remember this everything that happens in one's life has a purpose don't worry my God will help you dear.

1 year, 10 months ago
KEDDY

Big sis but i hav tried 2 let her understand me it seems she dont 1t 2 hear me out.

2 years ago

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Big Sister - Moderator

Hey KEDDY! Thanks for the comment. Well, since you have tried talking to her and she won't listen, it is obvious that she still sees you as her baby. One thing we can say is that this won't last forever, after a while, you will definitely get your independence to enjoy. Life is in phases, when that time comes, you will even miss your mum's protection. Until then, we advise that you try to enjoy the love and covering your mum gives. It can be hard but once you understand her point of view and see that this is just pure love, you will appreciate it more. We hope this helps

2 years ago
KEDDY

I WAS 17 YEARS I FINISHED MY SECONDARY SCH DIS YEAR I JUST FEEL LI KE CRYING RYT NOW I DONT TINK MY MUM UNDERSTAND ME SHE ALWAYS TREAT ME LIKE BABY I CANT GO OUT ON MY OWN LIKE GOIN 2 A FRIEND BIRTHDAY IS IT GUD BIG SIS BCAUSE I WAS TIRED OH!!!

2 years ago

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Hey KEDDY! Thanks for the comment. We totally understand how you feel and honestly, you are not alone in this. To you, you are a big girl but to your mum, you are still her baby. What you need to do is to make her understand that you are now a big girl and she needs to allow you to certain things by yourself without policing you because very soon, you will be all by yourself. No need to fight or argue with her, just talk things out with her and we are sure she will understand. We hope this helps

2 years ago
enyola

i feel comfortable talking 2 my uncle nd he also advice me bt since he was transfer.i don't feel comfortable talking 2 some1 else nt even my mum talkless of my dad who does nt want us around guys.

2 years ago

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Big Sister - Moderator

Hey enyola! Thanks for the comment. When we say talk to a trusted adult, we do not necessarily mean that you should talk to your parents. What we actually mean is that you should talk to any adult you can trust. This can be an uncle, aunt, sister, cousin, brother, uncle or even neighbor/teacher. As long as you are comfortable talking to that person and you are sure you trust their advice, then that is a trusted adult for you. We hope this helps

2 years ago
Cephas

Am aldo also in the same shoes with you. To share what's happening with me with my dad or mum is sometimes difficult. I prefer chatting and sharing burdens with people who aren't my blood.. and if those people just go or weren't around us due to work transfer or the likes..we feel perplexed, worried and tends to be lonely a times.

1 year, 9 months ago
Anonymous

my mum was someone who lyk 2 pretend as if she does nt understand u until u fell in is trap. even u has 4 permision b4 goin out wen u rtun she'll said y do u come late. as in i don't fel comfortable telling my hw i fell.

2 years ago
Ndianaobong

it is good to have a talk with her mother but my mother anytime i talk to her she will not give me a better instead she will use that and quote me wrong so what should i do

2 years, 1 month ago

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Big Sister - Moderator

Hey Ndianaobong! Thanks for the comment. You need to talk to your mum about this thing that she does and how it makes you feel. We are sure she will listen. We hope this helps

2 years, 1 month ago
Mayo

Aw can someone tell a boy she like him

2 years, 1 month ago

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Big Sister - Moderator

Hey Mayo! Please read the story "Does he like you". This has the answer to all your questions. We hope this helps

2 years, 1 month ago
Anonymous

My mum does not understand me

2 years, 3 months ago

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Big Sister - Moderator

Hey Springster! So sorry about that. We have given you tips that can connect you with your mum. If you follow them and you are patient, you and your mum can understand each other better and get along easily. We hope this helps

2 years, 3 months ago
GRACE

grt Post

2 years, 3 months ago
bars

but i don't have to tell her bcos i have not start my period yet

2 years, 4 months ago

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Big Sister - Moderator

Hey bars! You don't have to wait to start your period before you start talking to your mum about it. You can actually start talking and even bonding with your mum before you start your period. This is a good way to get closer and learn some new things from your mum. We hope this helps

2 years, 4 months ago
bars

our mum had experience all this they know how to take good of us so let discuss it with them ok

2 years, 4 months ago
Anonymous

my mum's cool too but still have some issues with her

2 years, 4 months ago
queen

how can i talk to my mum she dont want to see me with a boy and most of all my friend are boys

2 years, 4 months ago

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Big Sister - Moderator

Hey queen! We totally understand how you feel and we had you in mind when we wrote this article. Please follow the tips in the article and you see that they work like magic. We hope this helps

2 years, 4 months ago