Next time I’ll be more streetwise
I was on my way home from an errand one evening. Just a few blocks from my house I could see a group of three teenage boys hanging out on the corner. I knew they were trouble. I didn’t slow down. I didn’t want them to know I was scared. It was too late to turn around.
So what I did was cross the street to avoid them. But they were watching me and waiting for me. They crossed the street and started to follow me. My heart was pounding. I was so scared. They started whistling at me and calling me names. They said to me “Come with us pretty girl, we can make you smile.” The street was totally empty. There was nobody around who I could call on for help! I walked faster but they were right behind me.
As I turned the corner I could see a store open. I ran as fast as I could and got inside. As soon as I got inside the store I felt better. I was not alone and there was a shopkeeper there. “Please help me,” I said. “There are boys out there and they are chasing me.” He looked outside and shouted. But they had run off already. He called my brother, who came to fetch me and I got home safely in the end.
This situation was definitely scary but I learnt 3 important things from it:
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Hello prety
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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We should dress decently and also avoid going out alone at night
I don,t understant fill free with me
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
wow! u obiously been save from those guyz. lady!
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but don't u ever made such blunder again by going to the dangerous area like that lady, cause i don't want u to fall into the deep sea of trouble. K?
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
pls b care with sum men
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
That is right be careful with some men
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
I would rather advice girls to prevent walking alone at night cos its dangerous and risky .
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Zuriel! Very good advice. Thanks for sharing with other girls.
pls u boys u should stop cheasin girls
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Plz stop cheasing girls so that we can figure our future well.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Mayb u r prety looking,bt nt all boys r d same
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Really
young ladies should stop naked dressing to avoid raped from guys
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Is not all about naked dressing, most of the girlz dat were raped usually wears cover up but they were still raped. Its those jobless guyz in d street looking for whose life to destroy like thieirs, boy who has sexual immorality assulting girlz all around and forgeting the future. There is a saying dat one good turn deserves another
Hey Mbash nice point dere.
That is truth, how wish they caught you, they might have do bad thing to you, but dear sorry for that
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Sorry for that
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Is all this street boys that jobless, rolling around all the streets
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
mbash,dressing sometime are not the problem
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
sorry for dat.i will advise u not to go out late because if u where to be in my street u would have been raped.but tanxs to God
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
but it our fault.d way we girls drees it brings them closer to dat
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ABI?
see anyways dis is avlesson gals shuld be carefulvd way deh wrk at nyt and also dress in a good way
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Nice
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
very nice gud advice it usually works alot for all girl sha
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Me,am very scared to go out at nite,even in day time most especially when they are tourts boy,i rather follow long journey.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
In my area we have boys that always want to chike girls and my mom feels that i'm safe on my own so what do i do?
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey 165481! Safety is key! You need to stay safe at all times, avoid walking late, try to walk in groups and also, always tell someone you trust where you are going to. We hope this helps.
Am always attracted by boys and it makes me famous, and I dnt lyk it ,pls advice me
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Cutely! Boys will come and go but it all depends on how you treat them. If you welcome them, they will keep coming back but if you don't, they will stay away. Please note that welcoming them doesn't necessarily mean telling them they are welcome. It can be through your body language. If you don't want them around you, quietly and politely tell them when they come that you are not interested in them. We hope this helps.
I don‘t go on errands at night. it‘s to be happy
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
The fault is mostly from the girls ..e.g the way they dress that what attracts boys most! #Fact
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Kayl! Thanks for the comment. It is not about the way the girls dress, it is about what the boys see. Girls should not be restricted to wear a certain type of cloth because boys will be attracted to them. Please note that this is not a call for girls to dress anyhow but rather, to make you understand that it is not the fault of these girls all the time. You may not like a certain type of dressing but that is what another boy finds attractive and the girls are left in the middle of this. Girls should however be careful with what they wear. As the saying goes - "dress the way you want to be addressed".
Big sis you are sooo right
not 2waik alone in de street
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Hi guys am new nd i enjoy every bit of de article.hope am welcome.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Angy! You are welcome to GEM Nigeria. We are glad you like the article, feel free to share this page with your friends.
it gud to go out early than late hour
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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YES PRINCESS YOU ARE RIGHT EXPECIALY, WHEN YOU DONT KNOW HOW TO DEFEND YOUR SELF.ANY WAY AM BC NICE TO MEET YOU.
Learn How To Defend Yourself
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Learn How To Defend Yourself
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THIS MESSAGE IS FOR ALL THE GIRLS OUT THERE... For You To Feel Safest, Learn How To Defend Yourself In Case You Mistakenly Enter A Dangerous Place, Because To Be Honest Not All The Time Your Brother, Friend Or Parent Will Be With You Whenever You Go Out.So You're Left With One Option Than To Defend Yourself.Now How Do You Do That?You May Ask. All Yout Have To Do Is To Be Pre-Prepared, And For You To Be Pre-Prepared You Have To Learn How To Defend Yourself By Watching Youtube Tutorial Videos Teaching You On How To Defend Yourself. Any Phone Can Watch Youtube Videos Or Download Youtube Videos
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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I Wanted To Explain More On This Comment But My First Comment That Contained All I Wanted To Say, Got Rejected
Hi kevinmattew346,pls don't feel like that I love the message, thank you you're so caring to have written this,thank you.
Everyday girls are been harrased physically or emotinally or both ,so we've got to be careful of how we dress where we go and who we meet....
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Boys Are Just So Useless, I Wish They Neva Existed
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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What!!!boys ain't useless
Hey Loveth6! You must be really upset with boys but whatever they must have done to you, please forgive and move on. Boys need girls and girls need boys so wishing they never existed is very extreme. So dear, please forgive. Also, try not to use such words to describe a human being like you. First of all, those words are not allowed on this platform and secondly, no one should ever be spoken to/about like that.
Lollll u seem to have a bad experience with them ...I also did it was because I wasn't used to them I attended an all girls secondary school so meeting them in the university is so crazy ..but still they could be fun not all of them though
No.! so ur broda or ur dad is useless ?Omo bae,its not lyk dat bcos ur dad waz once a boy.
hello ..... I like dis platform dats y I decided to sign in hope am warmly welcomed and free to tell my stories
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Bhahibhy! Yes you are. Welcome to GEM Nigeria. Please feel free here and also invite your friends to read stories and share theirs too.
Well next tym dn't pass a lonly place bcus its dangerous ok.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
No das fornication act
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
I don't think we have bad boys in our estate oo,buh I will be careful
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
sound advice
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
what if u dnt hav anyone dat cn follow u
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Efosa! If you don't have anyone to follow you, just be extremely careful and be fast about it. Wasting time will attract the boys to you. If you can run an errand in 2 minutes, no need for you to use 15 minutes doing it. We hope this helps.
Hey guys am new hope am welcome
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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yes dear
Thanks, I have learnt a lot
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
My name is joycee.i have had dat encounta b4.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Yeah thanks for that
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Hmmm....what a story
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Not too bad
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
We shouldn't walk about at night It dangerous.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
how can i find true love
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Wait if the rite guy comes your heart will testify..
Ya 4sure Dats D Truth, Cos Dis World Is Nolonger Save!
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
No place is save for girls any long
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
no save place for girls bt y?
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Because guys r dangerous, and we better be careful because of unwanted situations, especially those who have started their mens
Show them u are not scared them
Nice point dere
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
HI Big Sis.i will to Use this medium to to gve you kudus on what you ve been doing on this platform i must SAY may God continue to increase your grace and strength.. i want to use this medium to appeal to you if you can make a platform for we the boys to also share our views and stories.. or if you can create a whatsapp group platform for both the two opposites side.,thank you. God Bless You..
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Investor! Thank you so much. We are glad that you like this platform and you learn from it despite it been girl centered. Boys are very free to share their views here as there is no form of discrimination. We cannot create a Whatsapp group because we do not want to drift away from our platform and also we try to keep every member's personal information private which will not be possible with a Whatsapp group. If you have any inquiries, please feel free to ask. Once again, thank you so much and please invite your friends to like this group.
Yap dear it is true not to Work alone in the dark okay girls
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Yeah I think daz true ,nt 2 walk alone in an empty quiet road or even using short cut mediums,two girls were raped at my area yesterday,,1 fainted d other 1 was breathing slowly like who was abt to die,there were raped by 4 huge guys
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Vanni! This is very sad. Thanks for sharing this with us and other GEM girls. Please share this with the girls that were raped - There is an organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that they can call and find out everything they need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 027 19 27 81 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so they don't need to give their name or any details - can just ask questions and get the support they need. Good luck with everything.
gud luk
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Good luck girl.....
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we just thank God for that
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
This is very gud advice.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
am beginning to enjoy your storeys
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Hey girl! This article was written because of you and we are glad you love it. Feel free to share it with your friends
i like ur story
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
emmy how are u
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Wow!see how u got saved. Thank God
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
wow!!!!!! I thank God 4u cauz I dislike seeing girls in DAT situation
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U re lucky jst tnk God
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Wow.U safe
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Thnk God,u're safe.
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girls aren't supposed to be walking at night but thank God you are safe
Totally
Thank God u are safe, and never u accept such invitation to unknow guyz cos any thing can happen oooh.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Yes,
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Good you were able to get home safe and never mind guys are like that
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Hi big sis,is it proper to tell d guy u re datin dat u re a virgin
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Favour! There is nothing wrong with telling the guy you are dating that you are a virgin. It is actually very important for him to know this information so that you both can be on the same page and there will be no misconceptions of your sexuality. We hope this helps.
I don't think its gud. Someone told me never to reveal my virginity to anyone.
There is this boy that i love,he say i should meet him alone inthe night,i dont know whether to accept his invitation and am scare of lossing him.what should i do
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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hi pinkbabe....... do not answer him if you love him, it's a lust for a girls to sleep with a guy which is not your husband, just ask him- will you responsible for my pregnancy if it comes by mistake? will you still love me after seeing my nakedness? did you plan to marry me has your wife? then if the ans is yes..... tell him to go to your family for introduction, so they can know him if anything happens to you. add me on facebook for more advise. thanks.
but if he said NO to your Question, you must run for the guy cox he don't love you, he just want the juice in you and throw you out like a useless Orange
Hey Pinkybabe! Like everyone has said, please do not meet with him in the night. Whatever it is that he wants to tell you can be done when there is daylight. Please, try as much as possible not be with him in a lonely place at any time. Also, let a trusted adult be aware of him and also a few of your close friends. Just be careful, we hope this helps.
I'd advice you not to cuz his only after your body NCOs if not why will he tell you to meet him in the night. If you value yourself and your education, you won't go. #love#yourself#first#.
As every one said is better 4 u 2 becarefull,watchfull and mindfull unless u fall into his trapp and next dat will happen u will regret
If he luvs u he won't want to meet u at nite. So be very careful
ummmn,i'm new here.i just join dis grup. oooh,it's also happens 2 me a day.my mum sent me 2 buy tomato.1 boy is now calling me many names nd d place is very silence so i quickly run as fast as i culd
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
nyc
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
are u girls doing social media chat lyk WhatsApp
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
I've had experiences like this.I go to evening tutorials and I get called names and sort. It's so embarrassing.I thought it happens to those who dress waywardly but I was wrong. What should I do?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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you should recheck your dressing
It's definitely not my dressing.
don't go alone
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Dens,t go alone go with ur friend.
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Is too bad
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Don't joke with boys if not they will take you for granted and destroy your life
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YES BAE YOU ARE RIGHT AND BC,NICE TO MEET YOU.
that's true woo
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Is it right to accept a boy who ask u out at the age of 13
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Hey Ch8! There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.
hum.m.m.m
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
at d age of 18 am i free 2 date a girl without having sex with her
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Oluruntoba! There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.
abt sex if ur hrt z clear nd hers 2 noti can happen
any time a boty calls me/ in the street i always ignor them then start sharing fals romors about me
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Ashie! Keep ignoring them girl. They are spreading these rumours so that you can come and confront them. Don't give them that chance okay. Let them talk all they want just don't answer them. We hope this helps.
There is an annoying boy living in front of our house whenever i pass d road beside his house he would start whistling there was dis day he waited nd planted his broda by d road so i wil fal in2 his trap bt i ran away wen he almost tore my cloth wat shld i do wit him
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Serena! Please report him to a trusted adult and also be very careful. If possible, avoid following that path but an adult should be aware of this. We hope this helps.
Some boyz dis dayz can be dangerous
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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YOU ARE RIGHT GOODY,BUT NOT ALL
Thank you,good advise
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Good,nyc advice
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
The same thing also happened to me and I was almost raped but I pleaded with them not to rape me
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Prisca! Wow! We are so glad to hear that you escaped. Please try to stay safe at all times and tell a trusted adult about this. We hope this helps.
It is dangerous for a girl walking alone in the dark
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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It'r true but my dad say's am stubborn for not going to what he sent and sometime it's already getting to 9 pm
THAT'S TRUE MICHEAL BCUS I MYSELF AM EVEN AFRAID OF GOING OUT IN THE NIGHT.
Type your comment here.. it is very dangerous for a girl to b working alone in d street at night, became dere Are sum boys out dere looking for wu dey will sleep with or rape nd go scout free,nd d gal will nt able to recognize d person
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
When my dad send me at night and i refuse he always say am stubborn and don't want to go.why?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Blessycute! Telling your dad 'NO' outrightly when he sends you on an errand may sound rude to him. What you should do is to explain to him why you do not like going out at night. Another option is to ask him if he will like you to get something for him before it gets really dark. This way, he knows
Stop Walking In The Day Night
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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yes thats right avoid walkin in lonely place and into the night
Its really scared to go out late at Night, even on errands. Scares the sh** outta me. Good Advice! #Thankx
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Never walk alone
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
walking alone is bad
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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It can be bad if its night.
Will it be that bad to stand up for ur self??
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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not realy
Hey Nicky! No dear, it is not bad to stand up for yourself. As a matter of fact, it will be brave for you to stand up for yourself. We hope this helps
TELL ME SOMETHING
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Yes
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
u are right,but my dad dosent allow me out d house after 9 cuz our street is realy dangerous
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
I am new here can sumbody welcome me
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Ola! Welcome to Springster. Feel free to invite your friends
I am new here, there re lots of guys at my street but i ignored dem
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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KIP IT UP!
If there are lot of guys in ur street what does that mean
there is a boy living in the same street where i work, anytime i pass his compound to my work place he disturbs me nd sometimes chase me. there is no way i can avoid him because dats d only way dat leads to my work place pls what can i do to stop him
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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All you have to do is to give him a listening ear but if start saying things u don't like stop him and also have d courage to kick him out of ur way and by doing this u will see that he will be scared to approach u again
ok thanks i do just that
ok thanks i will do just that
Hey Vina! Thanks for opening up through this comment. You need to be careful with this boy. The fact that he chases you means that he is violent. be sure that he is sane first before you give him audience. Also, you do not have to run away. Just walk with your head up high and if he makes an attempt to talk to you, listen to what he has to say but do not be rude in your response. Still be careful. Try not to walk alone when you close from work especially if it is late. Also, let someone close to you know about this situation. We hope this helps
Nice
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
NICE ARTICLE
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
good one
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Awuu! dat was awesome
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Great one
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Some boyz can be so amazing
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Gud one
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Na God nai save you oh
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
I think the reason why they followed you is that you have exposed your body like your breast,back and all your part of the body.That make there feeling on you.My advice to you is that don't wear bad clothes when you want walk on the street.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Pharm.Faruk! We should never give excuses for boys that abuse girls. Even if a girl covers up totally, some boys will still abuse her. The fact still remains that some boys just like to abuse girls and that's it. Thanks
Thank God nothing happened to u.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
boys this days are terrible!
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Pls dear not all many are nice
Girls be very careful ...pls
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
thanks be too God
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
But you didnt even knew what is in there minds
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
IS IT GOOD TO WASH UR FACE WITH SPONGE
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Rina! This is a personal decision and it is totally up to you. But please, remember to change your sponge once in 3 months. We hope this helps
good choice
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
It has once happened to me when I was returning home from work it was late and some guy stop me but I acted as if I was not the one they where talking to but one came and tauchy brust and I try to fight hem when others of his friends rush me but thank God a man was coming that way and he helpet me
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
HI
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Xup
THANK GOD U WHER SAVE OO
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
hi everyone am new here
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mhee too.nice 2 meet u
That is good advice
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Wow,gud advice.
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I will really love to be your friend Debbie
great!!! dat shud be an advice 4 d girls mostly.......
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
try to move at right time.don't move around in the not
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gud
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
True, you could also get protective weapons e.g pepperspray
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
thank you
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you are de lucky one
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
I walk dangerous path everyday nd am nt always scared.Why?
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I think u r ryt cus my friend had experienced rape incident cus of loop late night movement
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
that is good by walking with friend or some older people even morning and night
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Girls re prone 2 more assaults than boys , thats y as girls we must be very careful & prayerful.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
thank i learn thing since i join dis group
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I'm new here, I hope I'm welcomed
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dat good
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
BIG SISTER, I MUST REALLY COMMEND YOU, YOU'RE MY INSPIRATION; I LOVE AND APPRECIATE YOU ALOT, KEEP THE GOOD WORK GOING.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey fay_fay! Thank you so much for this. You are so sweet and your words just made big sister's day. Thank you so much
huhhhhhh♡♥♥♡♡♥♥
I like it
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
NICE ARTICLE
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Faith thank God for u
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Wow
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Tank u
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
true talk bravo!
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Walking with a friend your age at such hours of the night may not really be advisable.... But walking with an older person makes it better
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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cudoos!
Yes u re very right
Big sist. Someone told me that when street boys call you.itd Ur fault and that you failed to add value to your self and the person gave an example of a banker going or returning from work and said Street guys whether men or boys don't whistle at her or throw nasty comments.... Those street Boys and their calls are embarrassing.please hw can I stop them without being called proud or becoming a loner with all my neighbor hood friends gone or avoiding me.??
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Despacito! What that person said is so NOT TRUE! Those boys on the corner do not select who they make comments to. They just talk at anyone they feel like and this does not make it your fault. You cannot blame yourself for someone else's irresponsibility. Going to and coming back from work does not exempt you from being bullied. Do not let anyone feed you with such lies. Be yourself and try to be safe at all times. If you can stop them without your safety being threatened, then you should not think about what others will say about you. You need to learn to believe in yourself and also be confident. This will help you a lot. We hope this helps
hi🌹
hi bigsis,there is dis guy,he used 2 come 2 my school,but now he as gone and now coming 2 my church,and used 2 play keyboard,and used 2 stare at me, and it make me feel uncomfortable,and i luv him,pls wat shuld i do,shuld i tell him how i feel,pls i need your help!!!!!!
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Hey Precious! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you do not know this guy on a personal level so the chances of you being in love with him is very slim. You cannot love someone that you do not know on a personal note. It sounds like a crush to us. You need to get to know him better first before you start to talk about feelings with him. We hope this helps
hi bigsis,there is dis guy,he used 2 come 2 my school,but now he as gone and now coming 2 my church,and used 2 play keyboard,and used 2 stare at me, and it make me feel uncomfortable,and i luv him,pls wat shuld i do,shuld i tell him how i feel,pls i need your help!!!!!!
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Hmmm thanks
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Thank Ooo
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I Am New Here, Whatzup Gals.
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you are welcome
D mood of dressing can cause. It Because if a girl always wore a short dressing it can cause. And my advice. Is dat u should always dress well. May god project u ooooo
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey ifeoluwa! First of all, you should never give an excuse for an irresponsible person who feels he should assault an innocent girl. Dressing is never an excuse for people to be harrassed sexually. There are people that have been dressed decently that still get raped. Who do we blame at that point? The girl still? If you do not like the way someone is dressed, is it an excuse for you to rape them or attempt to assault them? NO! When you see a guy dress in a way that is not decent, do you get aroused and then go after him? NO! If you do not like the way someone dressed, is that a good reason for you to rape them? Another NO! Giving excuses for them means that you approve of such act. Please, do not do that. Rape is a crime and anyone that does it should not be protected by the excuse of dressing. We hope this helps
hi big pls can i make new friends here?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Precious! Yes, you can.
of course precious,feel free to make friends.nice meeting u darling.
I HAD THAT ISSUE SOME DAYS AGO, I WAS GOING TO A STORE THEN I SAW GROUP OF OLDER BOYS COMING TOWARDS ME,I IGNORED THEM ,SAME THING HAPPEND YESTERDAY.WHAT SHOULD I DO
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey FAROGINA! Thanks for the comment. You need to talk to a trusted adult about this immediately. Also, you need to try to stay safe at the same time by either going with a friend or going at a time when they aren't around there. If there is another route, you can also try passing there instead. We hope this helps
Big Sis,how can i make friends here.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey FAROGINA! Thanks for the comment. Just say HI to anyone in the comment section and get talking! It's that easy. We hope this helps
feel free to make friends here,if u are not asleep pls reply,nice meeting u,thanks.
Big Sister My clasmate told me he is in love with me, but i did' nt reply so he hardly talks to me now, i dont kw what i have wrong: am i bein to harsh? or should i avoid him by telin him i dont feel the same way
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey daina! Thanks for the comment. You are not being too harsh but it is obvious that he does not know how to react to your silence. What you should do is to let him know that you do not feel the same way. There is nothing wrong with doing this and we are sure that he will understand this better than just leaving him in the dark. The best way to communicate with someone is to actually talk it out. Silence is not a response to anything. We hope this helps
hi FAROGINA feel free pls
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Big Sis, all the boys dat ask me out and i refuse are not talking 2 me again, what do i do?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey daina! Thanks for the comment. Do nothing about it. They are probably not happy about the fact that you did not say yes to them so let them go. Not everyone takes rejection well so they will rather be by themselves. Do not try to force them to be friends with you. We hope this helps
Daina hi if u don't want to date them its not by force
BIG SIS MY 14 YEARS COUSINE WAS RAPED WHAT DO WE DO PLS REPLY
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey GRACE! We have replied your comment already. Please check the other article. Thanks
Hi daina have u tried saying no
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wow u were really brave but big sis i have big bust and butt and boys folow me around what do i do now and especially a boy named emmy but i have a crush on him.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey funky! Thanks for the comment. Do not let these boys distract you. Yes, they follow you but they only do it because they like your shape. This is not in anyway love. You need to know this. For the crush, please remember that crush is not love so you do not love Emmy. After a short time, you will see that you will no longer have feelings for Emmy. Please, do not be distracted by all these. We understand how hard it can be for you but please and please, all of these are distractions. We hope this helps
Wow thanks for the advice
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big sis I don't know why any teenage boy I see I just start developing a crush on him big sis am I actually okey.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Having a crush is not a crime. As a matter of fact, it is normal especially among teenagers like you. You should not be worried because they do not last long and crush is not love. You should only be worried when you try to force that crush to turn into love or something else. We hope this helps
this question is for every one in did platform why do boys like telling girls because of you I do have sleepless night and other love talk cause am confuse if they are lying or not please you guys should start posting cause I and someone are arguing about this.
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he simply wants to get ur attraction maybe u feel less attracted to him
He is just trying to win your heart.
He just wants u to loose concentration,maybe u should ignore him or better still ask big sis
although guy has the biggest lies but just believe in ur self dear and trust what u believe
hey everyone including big sister.Big sister I have started my BECE exam and am finishing on the 9 of July big sister now I know that education is the key to success but if you don't know God Almighty want you are doing is varnity but when I grow up by the help of God who strengthens me I would build a free school where Nigerian children whom are unopportune will school and be great because when I see children whom are not going to school I would call that child abuse especially when her kids are going to school but the servants won't go even when you have the morning so people don't know that when you help someone God will help you in 70 folds please big sister how can I convince my friends parents to send them to school cause they are missing a lot.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey jbaby005! Thanks for the comment. We wish you all the best in your exams. Not everyone can afford to send their kids/helps to school. Talking to your friends parents might be sensitive and we advise that you should also be careful so that you do not get into trouble for doing so. We hope this helps
Hi . . can we be friend...... Can we meet on facebook. Username .. Mohammed baba bussu or whatsapp
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Hey Busu! This is a group that inspires and encourages girls in Nigeria and not a place to look for a girlfriend. Grooming and things like these are not allowed on this platform and so we have to take down this comment. Thanks for understanding
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
big sis don't be offended what is the meaning of masturbating and orgasms
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big sis please help me I have not see my period even I haven't develop breast
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Kenzie be patient, u have to have boobs to get your red visitor, don't worry, it'll come, as long as ure a girl, you'll havw ur period, how old are u?
Yes, its wat girls face almost evryday.
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U said it sister!
Yes it always happen everywhere expecial nowadays
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THAT WAS TOURFUL OF YOU. BUT YOU MAKE IT TO DAY I LEARNED MY LESSION.
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I have learnt another lesson
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that 4 thing was important to evry person who are in need to defence him self from danger
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Wow thanks
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i've been in this kind of situation b4 ....i was coming back frm an errand at nite,bt unlike d girl frm d story,there was no store wit a saviour waiting 4 me on d corner,i ran lk d devil himself was after me,unfortunately for me, dey caught up wit me ....bt fortunately one of dm spoke up and told d rest to leave me alone dat i had helped him wit 'stuff'( dnt knw what he meant ,i didnt care and i did nt wait to find out)i took off only stopping wen i got home,i told my family wat happened,since then i've nt been allowed to go out alone at nite......
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