What you need to know
Dear Big Sister,
I am 15 years old with a boyfriend who is 17 years old. We have decided not to wait anymore. But I am scared of getting pregnant. When I was younger my mum told me just hugging a boy can get me pregnant. But my boyfriend says I can’t get pregnant at this age. Do you think I can get pregnant at this age?
Thanks
Your confused baby sister
Dear Baby Sister,
Honestly if you are sexually active, and have started seeing your period you can get pregnant.
No one gets pregnant from hugging. To learn more on how pregnancy really happens click here to find out
But pregnancy is not the only thing you need to consider.
If you are having sex you need to also think about sexually transmitted infections.
Sexually transmitted infections are infections you can get by having sex with someone who has an infection.
Infections like herpes, gonorrhea, syphilis, and even HIV can all be transmitted when you have unprotected sex.
Having sex is a big deal. You need to think about it carefully. It can lead to health issues if your sexual organs are not fully developed.
It also comes with a lot of emotional stuff. Are you ready for the emotional attachment that comes with sex?
Then there is the risk of getting infected or pregnant. This is why you need to think of safety (protected sex) first.
This means insisting your partner wears protection like a condom.
You also have the option of visiting a health center with your partner or a trusted adult like your older sister, cousin or aunt to talk to a health personnel on protection options.
But you know these options are not 100% reliable. The only 100% reliable option is to abstain from sex.
At the end of the day only you have the power to choose what options best suit you If you are ready to take this step. But when deciding we want you to think of safety first.
Your lovely,
Big Sister
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Thanks a lot
Dec. 12, 2022, 12:46 p.m.
Hi bigsister! can a girl discharge disapears when she is pregnant?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey chioma! Yes, a girl will still have vaginal discharge even when pregnant. We hope this helps
CAN A GIRL GET PREGNANT AT THE AGE OF 14
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey ANONYMOUSLY! Thanks for the comment. Yes, a girl can get pregnant at age 14 as long as she has started her period or even started ovulating and also if she is sexually active. There is nothing like too young to get pregnant. We hope this helps
Hello Sis, How do I know when I'm ovulating?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Snowwhite! Thanks for the comment. In calculating your ovulation day, day one is the first day of the menstrual period and the last day is the day before the next period begins. Ovulation happens about two weeks before the next expected period. So if your average menstrual cycle is 28 days, you ovulate around day 14. We hope this helps.
hello my sis please I need your advice, my boyfriend insist not to use condom with me of which am always scared of having sex and I don't want to take drugs please what will be the next to did
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey ruthy! Thanks for the comment. Unprotected sex is not safe and it is not a decision only one person should take in a relationship. It should be an agreement between two parties (you and your boyfriend) so you should not be forced to have unprotected sex. Besides, it is beyond getting pregnant. You can also get STDs/STIs and even HIV. You need to tell this boyfriend that you are not ready for it. You should be able to take this decision for yourself and not for someone to take for you. At the end of the day, you have the responsibility of taking care of yourself and your body. Don't also forget that taking pills have an effect on your body and taking the wrong pills can be disastrous on your body. We hope this helps
big sister, abstenance is a 100% escape from stds. so what do you do when you are sexually active/ attractive? You need to keep yourself away from boyfriends at this time to ensure that you do not fulfill it.stds could be deadly, so when sexually active, AWAY FROM OPPOSITE SEX. thanks.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
bigsis i need your reply,,,,i had sex de first day of my period ,,,please will I get pregnant???
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Sanchez! If you had unprotected sex, then you can get pregnant. Please note that pregnancy is not the only risk involved when you have unprotected sex. You also stand a chance of getting STDs/STIs or even HIV. If you must have sex, please use a condom. We hope this helps
big sis,when is it safe 2 hv sex according 2 my menses cycle?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Teddie! Thanks for the comment. The safest way is abstinence but if you must have sex, always use a condom. Please talk to a trusted adult and a professional health expert for more details on this. We hope this helps
Hi sanchez i am new here i hope u will like my commet ,i just want 2 say dat it is not a matter of de day u had sex just no dat de very first day u saw your period u can get pregenat if u only have sexual intercourse witha guy.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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what if he didn't cum
Hey Precious! Thanks for the comment. Having unprotected sex means that you can get pregnant. It does not matter the day or time that you have sex, as long as you are sexually active, you have a very high chance of getting pregnant. So please, saying that it is only when you have sex on the first day of your period is the only time you can get pregnant is wrong and also misinformation. We hope this helps
Hey Majesty! Pregnancy is not the only risk involved in sex. If you have unprotected sex, you can have an STD/STI or even HIV. Please note that there is something called precum that is even as potent as the cum itself. It is before the orgasm and most people don't even know when it comes out. This is potent enough to get a girl pregnant too. So, this is why you either use a condom or abstain. We hope this helps
What if his dick is so big
hi big sis ,,,My boyfriend is complaining am too tight please what can i use to become loose
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Majesty! Please talk to a trusted adult and also a professional health expert for tips. We hope this helps
USE KUCUMBER I HOPE THIS HEPLS
yes prednancy is made for al ladie wen lov is inuolue lolz
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
pls if u have put ur hand inside ur vigina really deep are u disvirgined
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Fingering can break the hymen of a girl but not all the time though. We hope this helps
hi big sis am sexually active and I want to have sex with my boyfriend although my parents approve it d truth is that u don't no how to start having sex with him since am a virgin pls help me pls teach me how
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. We cannot teach you how to have sex because everyone is different. Please note that the most important thing is to always use a condom when you want to have sex. You should note that pregnancy is not the only risk involved in having sex. You can also get infected with STIs/STDs or even HIV and so a condom is very important. You also need to take care of your body too. Sex is a decision and you have to be very sure that he is also willing and ready to have sex with you too because it is not just about you alone. We hope this helps
How will you know if you are sexually active.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. You will feel the urge to have sex. You will just know. We hope this helps
hell big sist.Am new here.... was just be currently disvigin few days ago but yet I still feel wick nd I feel pain on my viginal pls wat must I do to stop de pain Pls tanks.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey happy! Thanks for the comment. We advise that you talk to a trusted adult and see a certified pharmacist or doctor for prescription of drugs for you. We hope this helps
helo big sis,I am a virgin,but my bf sperm drop on my laps, very close to my vagina,will I be pregnant
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. There are chances that you can get pregnant. Pregnancy does not only occur when you have sexual intercourse. We advise that you go for a pregnancy test after 2 - 3 weeks or you can buy a pregnancy home test kit and do a test. We hope this helps
if it drop on ur virginal u can pregnant bt if its jst drop on ur lap u cnt be pregnant
Is it possible for someone to get pregnant wen she meet a guy just once wen she is not on her period
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey happy! Having unprotected sex puts you at risk to get pregnant. You also stand the risk of getting STDs/STIs or even HIV as pregnancy is not the only risk involved with unprotected sex. If you must have sex, you must always use a condom. However, the safest way to avoid pregnancy is abstinence. We hope this helps
can a guy with small dick impregnate a Girl bigsist
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey lhord! Wwe have replied this comment in the other article where you asked. Please, go over there and read big sister's response. We hope this helps
Hi Big Sis... Am New Here! Pls I Want U 2 Answer Dis Question 4 Me, Am 16 Years Old And Am Still A Virgin Can I Get Pregnant On D Day I Disvirgin?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Lizzy! Thanks for the comment. Yes, you can get pregnant on the first day you have sex. You may also get an STD/STI or even HIV if the person is already infected when you do not use a condom. If you must have sex, please use a condom. We hope this helps
Am 16 n my bf is 17 he has always disturbd me 4 sex n i refused we ve dated for almost 8 months n we kissed for d first time last month n d 2nd time dis month den he invited me to his house n we happend to b alone in d house we were watching movie be4 he carried me to his room n tried to rape me i pleaded wit him nt to do it den he stoped n did somtin he called PARTIAL SEX sumhw i liked it den d next day he broke up wit me sayin he love me so much n dont want to hurt me cos if we ar togeda a day wil com dat he ll not b able to control his urge n rape me so is beta we jus b frens n i was really sad n even agreed to hav sex wit me bt he insisted he dont want me to do sumtin i dont want to do jus bcos of him so he broke up wit me n now am so sad n sumtimes even cry bcos i lov him so much n dont want to loose him i want him badly n i cant live witout him please i really need ur help.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Kim! Thanks for the comment. We understand how sad a breakup can be BUT you need to know that a guy that attempts to rape you is not a boyfriend material. You need to know that rape is not accepted in any way. You should not compromise because of your boyfriend. If you are not ready to have sex then you should not actually have sex. Do not force it neither should you rush into it. We believe that you need to talk to a professional about this. There is a Child Advocacy Center where they help and give professional advice to young people in situations like this on what they can do to be safe. You can call them on 08 00 80 080 01. This service is completely confidential - which means they won't share what you say to them with other people. It is free which means you don’t not need to have credit before you call them. We hope this helps
Hey Everyone! note that it is not advisable for you to have sex at this age. wait until you get married and that's the safest time to get involved. Just imagine, you had sex with your boyfriend, he had used you. he might even decide to breakup with you since he got all what he needed from you. you might not have any further respect in his eyes. Think wise! maintain your virginity.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Gudday big sis Is it safe my period to start 24day after my last period.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Big sis,i a m asexually active,but do not want to have a boyfriend, what do I do
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Hi big sis..pls,i need ur help.i always have sexual urges,nd i've never had sex.the urge is becoming much on me,am actually trying my best in controlling it bt it doesnt work anymore.Big sis,pls help out
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Babygalaxy1234! Thanks for the comment. It is normal to have the urge for sex especially as a teenager. The way to get over it is to get a worthy distraction. You can occupy yourself by learning a new skill, starting a business, reading a book or hanging out with friends. The truth is that there will be distractions everywhere but you need to make up your mind to overcome it. We hope this helps
Wow,tnks alot,big sis..am super greatful
I always imagine sex why?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey special_1! Thanks for the comment. It is normal especially at this age. You want to know more and you imagine it a lot of times. It is what you do with this imagination that matters. We hope this helps
A friend of my mensurate after sex can she get pregnant?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Beta start buting baby pampers.... Lol
Hey Zeenah! Thanks for the comment. Of course she can get pregnant especially if she had unprotected sex. She can also get infected if the guy has an STD/STI or even HIV. The best way for her to know her status is to go for a pregnancy test. We hope this helps
pls I need help since 15 of April have been feeling the signs 4 my next period bt uptil now I haven't seen it and the sign is still here though my period does nt have a specific date bt it hasn't happen this way.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Ababe! Thanks for the comment. You need to learn how to calculate your period. It is not about it coming on a specific date. When we say monthly cycle, what we mean is either 28 days or 30 days (depending on your cycle). It does not have to start on the 1st of the month and end on the last day. It can start at the end of the month but as long as it lasts up to 28 or 30 days as the case may be with your menstrual cycle, that is all that matters. What you need to do is to track your period using a calendar to know how long your cycle is. Please note that menstrual cycles last from 21 -35 days depending on the individual. We hope this helps.
hi
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
If you are pregnant which signs or changes will you notice
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Vincentalli! Thanks for the comment. Signs and symptoms are different for everyone. We advise that you pay attention to your body and also seek guidance from a trusted adult and also a doctor. We hope this helps
pls Big sis,can someone get pregnant if u had sex with ur boyfriend and not yet seen ur period
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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capital YES!!!
Hey Springster! OT has answered your question already. Please and please, if you must have sex, always use a condom because it is not only pregnancy that is involved in unprotected sex, you may also get infected. We hope this helps
hey big sister a friend of mine is asking that if she has sex 2days before her period begins will she get pregnant ?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey maffluv! Thanks for the comment. Yes, she will get pregnant. If she is having unprotected sex, she will most likely get pregnant. The truth is that she is also at risk to get infected with STDs/STIs or even HIV. Please and please, if she must have sex, she should always use a condom. We hope this helps
hello big sis i seriously nééd an answer abt diz,iz it true dat wen a girl is a virgin nd had her first sex she wont get pregnant so i want to knw if it is true or false???????
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. It is not true. Having sex for the first time does not stop you from getting pregnant. As long as you have unprotected sex, you can get pregnant and it doesn't matter if it is your first time or not. So please, do not believe that rumor. We hope this helps
yessoo
Hey big sister i finish menstration, after 4days d 5day i had sex will i get pregnant?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Adaora! Thanks for the comment. Yes, you can get pregnant if you had unprotected sex. Please note that pregnancy is not the only risk involved in having unprotected sex, you also stand a high chance of getting an STD/STI or even HIV. If you must have sex, always use a condom. We hope this helps
U CN NT GET PREGNENT THROUGH HUGGING
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Big sister if you have never seen your period and you have sex will you get pregnant
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Sonia! Thanks for the comment. What you need to get pregnant is to be ovulating. You may not get pregnant but please and please, we advise that if you must have sex, always use a condom. We hope this helps
Hey big sister. My breasts are big and I feel weird around people. How can I reduce it without surgery.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Moduzz! Thanks for the comment. The size of your breast is hormonal and there is little or nothing you can do about it. You should not feel weird around people because of your breast, this is who you are and you should learn to appreciate your body. We hope this helps
hey moduzz,please give me some,my breast are small and i need more💔💓
Moduzz please don't you ever think of having a surgery cause it's risky and you spend a lot of money on it and remember to always love yourself no matter what you are beautiful
dear big sister am realty confused i had sex with my gf since last four month now without condom and she didn't inform that she has get pregnant how can that happened is it not all unprotected sex get to pregnancy
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey ibukunoluwa! Thanks for the comment. Having unprotected sex will surely lead to pregnancy. There is nothing like "not all unprotected sex gets to pregnancy". The deed has been done and you need to own up to your responsibility. She is not to blame as you were both involved in the act. You should not blame her for it either because it takes sperm to get a woman pregnant and that was what you gave to her. You both should talk to trusted adults about this and get prepared for the life ahead of you. It is too late to try to start blaming one another. We hope this helps
is it good to have sex with a lady that have pregnant
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey gbenga! Thanks for the comment. We advise that you talk to your doctor about this. Also, to have sex, you have to be mature and enlightened enough to know what to do and what not to do. We hope this helps
thanks big sister
Wot man 👨 can do to stay longer on wonan
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey akanji! Thanks for the comment. There is no manual on how to do this. Sex has to do with maturity. We cannot give this information because this is different for everyone. We hope this helps
Nice!!!!!! Buh sex x fun at the came gym dangerous
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Hello big sister can shweps drink and salt abort a pregnancy? If no what else can also abort pregnancy?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Yes please don't be offended why do you want to know things that can abort a baby.Abortion is a very risky stuff so to do it can even kill the person involve.
Please in fact Abeg! I hope ur not thinking of abortion,it is not only risky for ur health but it will affect ur conscience😞😟😟😢😢
pls i want ask a question,i feel lyk having sex everytym wat can i do
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Come to my house hahaha lol
You can come ad meet me
lolzz cum to my house..
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
SEX EVERY TIME
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
My Hymen is still tight but I had a kinda sex with a guy yesterday he poured on my vaginacan I get pregnant
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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He didn't penetrate oo I'm scared
Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Kindly explain what you mean by kinda had sex because with sex, it is either you have sex or you don't have sex. Also, since he poured on your vagina, there are very high chances of you getting pregnant. We advise that you go for a test to confirm and also talk to a trusted adult about this. We hope this helps
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March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Big sis that is great!.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
hi big sis
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Totally educating, I loved it!
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Yes I love it nice
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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U.like.sex? :-/
Ofcourse is really truth but anyone has a right on his/her path.like me l have interest in sex with my girl but l do recognizing some above mentioned
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Hey big sis I had sex with my girlfriend but I didn't pour inside I pull it out wen I want to pour what will happen??
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Big sis i heard that condom can break while having sex pls is it true
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
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Hey Daten! Thanks for the comment. Yes, condoms can break when you have sex and this can be caused by friction. Using condoms is not a 100% safe and so you are still prone to getting infected with STDs/STIs, HIV and even getting pregnant despite the fact that you used a condom. The safest way to avoid this is to abstain from sex. There is an organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything
Is it true dat when someone take pill she can't get pregnant when having sex
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
Please is it true that if my boyfriend cum in my mouth and I swallow it I can be pregnant
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.