“There are people in the world who will like you, the real you, as you are.” – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Friends. We love them, don’t we? They help us and cheer us on. They make us laugh when we are sad. But sometimes it can be hard to be our real selves around them. We want to be just like them. We might start talking like them. Or dressing like them. Or pretending we like everything they like.
Ever felt this way? Don’t worry. It’s normal to want to be accepted by your friends. However, it pays to be yourself no matter what.
Here’s how to stay true to yourself when you’re around your friends:
Try not to do everything your friends do or say. If they want to gist instead of study for a test, say no. Be polite, but firm. You can hang out after your test. School first, everything else later.
You don’t have to dress a certain way just because all your friends do. Wear clothes that suit you and make you feel good. Take care of your hair, skin and nails. Make sure your clothes are well-washed and ironed. It’ll help boost your confidence and let you shine like the star you are.
Don’t make your friends feel bad if they are different from you, or if they do something you don’t agree with. Maybe they like other kinds of music or have unusual hobbies. Remember, we can’t all be the same. When we accept our friends, it’s easier for them to accept us.
It’s okay if you don’t dress or act like everyone else. Who you are is the very thing that drew your friends to you. Changing who you are to please others is a waste of time. You can’t please everyone. The next time someone says you’re different, smile and say: Yes I am and ‘different’ is good.
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Wow
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
trying to apply Bible principle, not to be part if the world
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Type your comment here.. Its encouraging, good write up
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Yeah I believe in myself and in myself all alone
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
I believe in myself that i can be great being the real me
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
No one knows me better than myself
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
My friends always gist about movies which i always xcuse myself and find sumtin else to do
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Am an active member of the class,but my friend always tell me that i love calling people attention 2 myself that she hate it,so i decided 2 stop answering questions...but to my surprise shes now d active member..BIG SIS what can i do?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Kiki! Thanks for opening up through this comment. You need to go back to being active in class. It not only boosts your confidence, it also helps you academically. Don't act you are competing with her, just do your things (the way you used to do it). We wish you all the best and we hope this helps.
Hi kiki,don't change for anybody, always be urslf
Hey Kiki! a friend who is always discouraging you is not worthy to be called a friend.....moreover, she is jealous of you....so kindly quit the relationship
Wow..
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
This is called imitation,if every body luk in a luk lyk syndrome,wat is d beauty 2 all dis
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
i love it, what make me different from some of my friends is d fact that i dont do everything that they do
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
M diferent frm dem cos m principled n always wants 2 luk natural unlyk sum of dem
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
To Speak Out Something Good Always
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Hello every one, I'm new here and I like what you guys are doing here. I just want to say "and be contented with what you have"
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Springster! This article was written because of you and we are glad you love it. Feel free to share it with your friends
Wow this is so sweet I am new hear and I love this game keep eat up
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Same here
Me too and am loving the articles
Because am different
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
l am ashame of speaking in their presence
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey kosy! Thanks for the comment. We suggest you read the article and follow the tips written there. They are very helpful. We hope this helps.
Am too gentle and quite . I do feel bad each time my friends tell me that am too gentle, not talking.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
i,luv that but they are some of,my friends who make jest,of my teeth what should,i do pls.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey miri! Do not let what they say about you get to you. Always remember that you are unique and no one can be like you or have your teeth. You are special the way you are and nothing can change that. What you need to do is to learn to love yourself the way you are. We hope this helps
Same here miri,buh I've learnt not to feel inferior
I am, who I am. Am unstoppable
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
i want to be myself,how will i?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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You can be your self by being confident..don't be intimidated, don't let anyone speak or make choices for you ..look at your self in the mirror and say to your self *YOU CAN DO IT ,IF SHE CAN*,say nice things to your self and don't always try to be someone you are not ..
Hey 77512! HonestK has said it all. Thanks HonestK for sharing this.
Thanks Honest i like ur advice
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
I don't share my problems with them, I pretend as if all is well,and they do come to me for advice and it always work out for them but not for me cause am not the listening type
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Alice,sori to say,it nt good to keep ur problem alone,try to share it wit some trusted frnd nd d problem can be solve through dat.but if dey give u some advise nd u see dat z nt good,u can turn it down by telling dem u dont agree wit dat.pls alice z jst a pieces of an advise.if i offen u through dis pls am sori!!!!
I do not aggre to my friends view about guyz.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Same wit me
I always be myself and don't I really rely on friendSs•
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
I'm kind of an introvert, and I don't socialize as much as my friends plus their views of fashion is quite different from mine making me different.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
please how cn i stay clear with my life, though am focused,but i gat many bfs nd i want to make things right
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey zeemah! Having many bfs is not satisfying but rather more stress on you. You do not need many bfs. What you should do is to end all the relationships you have now and focus on yourself. Plan your life and what you want for yourself. We hope this helps
I don't just know why people hate me for no reason,pls m very confuse......
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. What makes you feel that people hate you? Have they told you this before? Please share this with us so that we can help you better. We look forward to a response from you.
i real talk to girl but i refused there demand so some say am humanizer what should i do
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Hello Big Sis. What home made remedy can be used to give our washed dresses a nice fragrance?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Kem! You can make your clothes smell great by using a detergent with a good fragrance when washing. Also, keep your closet, box or storage place clean. You can use an air freshener or spray your favorite perfume on a piece of cloth or paper and place in between your clothes. Baking soda in an open container can absorb the bad odour in your closer. Please remember that these won't work if you do not dry your clothes properly. We hope this helps
Thanks. Big Sis.
I me,no one can be me,am unique and special that's what make me to be me.So be happy that u are u, unique and special no body can be like u. Song U are special in ur ways It's u like no other No one else can be like u It u like no other!!!!!!.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.