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You are right most girls are player and dangerous in terms of heart break

Girls are afraid of getting hurt and most boys are also players, their goal is to make a girl fall in love with them and break their heart.

I dated before but my guy didn't play me .He was very nice wen he knew that he liked someonelse he didn't just dump me but told me y.

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Do not tell him he can tink dat u are cheap and begin 2 play u nd don't b surprised his friends might know about it

dnt do dat bcauc dat means u are already calling/makin urself ashameless girl and i trust d guy he is going to accept d offr bcauc opportunity comes but once he is goin to use,dump and make fun of you telling pople dat you very cheap am sory to say plx dont disgrace we girls

Hey Kobocity! Crushes have a strong tendency of dying at some point (most times, when you get to know the person more). There is no need to tell him about it. You can choose to let the crush die a natural death, get friendly with him (without telling him about the crush) or distract yourself by focusing on other things in school/extra curricular activities. It is all up to you. We hope this helps.

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Hey Dola! Crushes have a strong tendency of dying at some point (most times, when you get to know the person more). There is no need to tell him about it. You can choose to let the crush die a natural death, get friendly with him (without telling him about the crush) or distract yourself by focusing on other things in school/extra curricular activities. It is all up to you. We hope this helps.

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Hey Lilyj! Thanks for this. We like the fact that you know what you want for yourself. Keep it up!

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Hey Kobocity! First of all, we will like to know why he is disturbing you because for someone to disturb you to the extent that it becomes a nightmare, then you need to raise an alarm. So we will need you to tell us why he is disturbing you so that we will know how to address the situation. We hope this helps.

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Hey Escute! We are glad you found this helpful. Now to your question; if you feel satisfied and fulfilled with the choice you made, then you sure did the right thing. It is all about the after feeling and how you handle it. We hope this helps.

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Hey Armed001! What we can say is that the guy is very immature and does not know how to handle rejection. You should be happy that you said no to him because if he is not mature enough to handle rejection, then he is not mature enough to be in a relationship. We hope this helps.

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Hey Joana! Thanks for the comment. Just tell him politely that you do not want anything more than friendship from him. Say it and mean it. He may keep disturbing you but keep standing your ground. Tell him that if he truly "likes" you like he claims, he will respect your decision. We hope this helps.

How will i know if a guy has a crush on me

How will i know if a guy has a crush on me

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Hey girl! You need to answer these questions genuinely to know if you are really ready to be in a relationship. Whether you have feelings for the guy or not, if you cannot give yourself sincere answers to the questions in this story then you are not ready to have a boyfriend. We advise that you keep your feelings aside for a while and take time out to think it through. We hope this helps.

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Choose d one u love more an d one u also know he love u more

Choose d one u love more an d one u also know he love u more.an am new here hope am welcome

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Hey Qeesh! Do nothing about it. If he left you because you refused him sex then he doesn't deserve you. No one should force you to do what you don't want. We are glad you didn't compromise. Let him go and don't regret it. You will find someone else that will appreciate and respect your decision okay? Remember, saying "NO" is the "YES" thing to do! We hope this helps.

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Hey Jay_bee! So sorry to hear that. Just remember that you learn from every experience. Now, you are more experienced and you know better so you can stand your ground and also use your story to encourage other girls like you just did. No need for regrets again, just see this as a lesson. Thanks for sharing this.

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Hey NOSAHAIRY! You need to answer these questions genuinely to know if you are really ready to be in a relationship. Whether you have feelings for the guy or not, if you cannot give yourself sincere answers to the questions in this story then you are not ready to have a boyfriend. We advise that you keep your feelings aside for a while and take time out to think it through. We hope this helps.

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I Do av so many guys who luvz me but all re friendz i luv 1 but he demand 4sex i said NO HE GOT ANGRY AND RAPE ME

So sorry about that SEXY

So sorry about that SEXY

Hey 1234! You need to let them know that you are not ready to be in a relationship with them. Also, you need to be sure that you are not giving them the wrong signals by letting them think you love them. Remember that when you say NO, make sure you mean it. We hope this helps.

Hey Sexy! We are so sorry to hear about this. Have you reported this to a trusted adult and also seen a doctor? You also need to report the boy to someone and stay away from him completely. There is an organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 027 19 27 81 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything

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If u luv him u ve 2 fulfil his wish

Rule your world d way u wanted bcus u're d owner of ur life&don't yeild 2 him ok?

Hey Nonigirl002! Thanks for this question. Please do not visit any boy in a private place. If you both really want to see each other, choose a public place and make sure an adult you trust knows where you are going to. Also, please be extremely careful. We hope this helps.

Hey Sexy! No dear. You should always put yourself first. Do not compromise your standard to make a guy happy. Always consider yourself and your happiness first. Why don't you turn it the other way and tell him that if he truly loves you, he will fulfill your wish? Please, girls need to learn to put themselves first especially at this age. We hope this helps.

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Hey Tonia! When it comes to love, it will be difficult for an outsider to tell you if someone loves you or not. You will know if someone loves you with the way they treat you and matters that involve you. We suggest you talk to him more, ask him questions like why does he love you, what attracted him to you etc. We hope this helps.

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Just forget abt him being ur senior tell him 2 his face that u're not interested but do that wisely.u knw wht i mean

Hey Kobocity! Tell him NO! There's no other way to say NO than by just saying it. The only extra thing you need to do while saying no is not be rude about it. The fact that he is your senior does not mean that he has an edge over your life. You own yourself and should never feel threatened or feel under pressure to say NO to anyone you don't want to say Yes to. We hope this helps.

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Hey Clear! You do not need to tell jokes and stories to prove to someone that you love them. You just need to be true to her and constantly tell and prove to her that you love her. By trying to be a comedian that you are not, you may end up annoying her or even find it hard to keep up with being funny even when you are not. We hope this helps.

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Maybe Bcus I Like So Much Oh I Don't No

Sorry 4 asking this is he your first boyfrnd?

Hey Rose! Why don't you like looking at his face? When you look at his face what happens. This question is not totally clear. We need to know how you feel when you look at his face and other details so that we can attempt answering your questions. We hope this helps.

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Hey Sexy! We are so sorry to hear about this. Have you reported this to a trusted adult and also seen a doctor? You also need to report the boy to someone and stay away from him completely. There is an organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.

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Tell him ur mind nd if he does not changes search 4 greener pastures

Hey Soul! Have you tried communicating this to him? Tell him what is on your mind and tell him how much it will mean to you if he starts caring. He probably does not know how his attitude is affecting you. We hope this helps.

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don.t attempt 2 tell him u love him bcos he will tink u ar wayword

Hey Nickybonat! Thanks for opening up with this comment. Crushing on someone in authority or an older person like your boss can be dangerous because it distracts you from work and sometimes every other thing you are to do within your work environment because you keep getting distracted by him anytime you are in there. The best way to get over crushes like this is to get worthy distraction. This could be a hobby, or even writing/drawing (depending on your skill strength). When you have a strong distraction, your mind will no longer be so focused on your boss. Please, do not forget that if your boss finds out, he may either try to take advantage of you or even sack you because he may be disappointed at you. Also, we suggest you talk to a trusted adult that won't judge you but will help you out. We hope this helps.

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ASlong as love him i will advice u 2 4low ur mained

Hey Value! First of all, are you ready for marriage? Is he ready for marriage? Does he have a house, a good job and is he balanced enough to settle down? Secondly, a guy can promise you heaven and earth just to sleep with you and once you fall for it, there is no going back. Nobody should use marriage as a bait for romance. However, you need to be sure that you are ready to marry him and you both need to discuss what your future will be like seeing that you both have different religious beliefs. Also, we suggest that you still do not get romantically involved with him because you want it that way and no one should ever force you to do what you don't want to do. We hope this helps.

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Hey Tailor! If you do not feel comfortable going to meet with his family then do not go. Nobody should force you to do what you don't want to do. Also, before going to meet his family, ask him on what grounds as you are not ready to get married to him. Also, you have to be very careful and you also need to tell a trusted adult about your relationship. We hope this helps.

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I think i have one for u

PLC can i get her contact. ITS ALSO MEO IT TOT I LOST MY ACCOUNT AND I OPEN ANOTHER ONE

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yes u can engage is not a problem

Hey Mummygirl! Relationships comes with a lot of responsibility and one must be mature before he/she thinks of getting married. When it comes to relationships, age should be the least of your worries. You need to ask yourself a few questions; am I balanced enough to settle down/carry the responsibility and pressures of being in a relationship alone? Once you have answered these questions sincerely and you still feel the need to get into a relationship, make sure the boy has no problem with getting involved with someone younger than him. We hope this helps.

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Its not good to hate anybody Maya but i think at your age, its not a bad idea to have a boyfriend. but it all depends on you to know what you want.

den u shell kill ur brothers nd fathers seens u hate boys nd dont mrry jst stay like dat

I Tink U Should.But Don't Hate Boys Again With Out Boy Who Are U. Becareful Cause Boys!!!!

Hey Maya080! Just like Mummygirl said, you shouldn't hate anyone. You need to take that hatred mentality out of your head so that it won't affect your relationship with people especially boys. If you still insist that you hate boys, then you are not ready to be in a relationship with a boy because you cannot be with someone you hate. We hope this helps.

Hey Ibrahimaliero! Such hateful and aggressive words are not allowed on GEM Nigeria. Maya080 only came here to express herself and she doesn't deserve such a comment. You should try to encourage people for good (if you must). We advise that you apologize. Thanks.

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Forget abt him cause if U don't he will spoil ur life and leave you

Forget abt him coz he has being deceiving you all this while... All he wants was sex and after that he will dump you ..

U Are D One Who Luv Him Did U Tink He Do Forget About Him. All He Want Is Sex

Hey Tynu! Mohammed and Young_J have said it all, you need to forget him. He was only with you because he wanted sex and when he couldn't get it, he left you. Be thankful that you didn't give him your body because he would have used you and dumped you. Please be more careful next time. We hope this helps.

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Hey Mohammed! You cannot convince someone to love you. Love is very delicate and people only fall in love. If you convince her to love you and she eventually finds someone else she falls in love with, she won't think twice before leaving you. So we advise that you stay real and allow her to fall in love with you. We hope this helps.

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Hey Tynu! Your NECO comes before every other thing girl. You are at the crossroad of your future and you shouldn't let the thought of a boy mess things up for you. Get him off my mind and give your exams 110% of your time and we are sure the result will be amazing. This boy should be the least of your worries right now. Focus and enjoy your life okay? We hope this helps.

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Hey Young_J! Thanks for opening up through this comment. The official age of adulthood in Nigeria is 18 but that doesn't mean that is the age for you to have sex. It is all about an individuals readiness and maturity for sex. In preparing for sex, you need to make sure you are ready for it (not because everyone is doing it but because your mind and body is ready for it), also you need to make sure that your partner is above the age of 18 and is willing to have sex with you. Do not force yourself on anyone because that officially becomes rape. If she says she is no longer interested at any point, do not force or lure her into it. The most important of them all is safe sex. Please always have unprotected sex. We hope this helps.

How will i know if i am inlove with a guy because am realy confused

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Hey Young_J! Be free and be YOU. Do not try to be another person to please her. Just walk up to her and be friends with her first. Do not ask her out the first time you meet her. Be confident too. We hope this helps.

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Hey Pecohub! You have to be sure you are ready to be in a relationship. If you have any doubt in mind, think about your decision very well. Also, be sure that you are truly in love with her and not that you are with her because you feel lonely. We hope this helps.

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Hey Rose! This means that you are not sure of yourself (you can fall easily to his romantic advances). We advise that you be careful and try as much as possible not to tell him about this weakness so that he doesn't take advantage of it. We hope this helps.

Were are you living

Peter For Wht

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Hey Odunayo! You don't need a girlfriend to take good care of you, you need to learn how to take care of yourself. You need to learn to take care of yourself and not be dependent on people so that when people disappoint, you will not be devastated. We hope this helps.

thank u very much i do dat

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Hey girl! So sorry to hear about this. The more you keep this as a secret, the more it will hurt you so we advise that you let him know that you are aware of everything that he is doing and then move on. Make sure you cut communication with him because he may come begging. The truth is that you don't need any form of drama in your life. Let him go okay? You will be fine dear. We hope this helps.

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Hey Nickybonat! You are letting your emotions control you and it should be the other way round. Of course you can control your feelings for him because you are supposed to control your emotions. Have you considered what telling your boss might do? Would you rather express your feelings to him and then loose your job? Is your boss married and if he is, are you considering the fact that you are about to destroy someone's home? Ask yourself these questions and answer them sincerely. The best advise we can give is for you to distract yourself and get over him once and for all. Whether he loves you too does not matter because romance with someone of a higher authority is never advisable. Also, discuss this with a trusted adult. We hope this helps.

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Hey Sky! Knowing how to express your feelings to girl has nothing to do with age. All you need to do is learn to boost your self confidence and be sure that you really have genuine feelings for the girl you want to talk to. We hope this helps.

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Hey girl! Long distance relationships work for some people and doesn't work for some others. This is because every relationship is unique. You both need to be determined to make the relationship work. Be open, honest and communicate frequently. Long distance relationships are not always so safe because sometimes, out of sight is usually out of mind. So you both need to talk things true and be sure you both want this. Once there is any form of doubt in your mind, then don't be bothered about it at all. We hope this helps.

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For Real

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Hey Nero! Controlling anything at all has to do with having self control. Some people claim that they cannot control their feelings towards a person they love but we disagree. To control your feelings, you have to make a conscious effort in your mind that you are in charge of your emotions and feelings. Do not do it the other way (allow your feelings control you) because this is very dangerous. In controlling your feelings towards someone you love, you need to learn how to say NO sometimes. We hope this helps.

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Hey Tonia! There is no right or wrong answer to this question. However, masturbation is frowned on by most cultures and religions. Also, getting addicted to masturbation can affect you sexually later on in life. We hope this helps

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Hey Dimples! Thanks for the question. First of all, having the belief that having a boyfriend completes you is wrong. You are a complete and whole being and you do not need anyone (but yourself) to "complete you". When you start having the mindset that only a man can complete you, you start to act desperate (unknowingly) and this can chase boys away from you. Work on being a better person and you will see that you will automatically become attractive. Learn to enjoy yourself for you and for a boyfriend. We hope this helps.

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Hey Dimples! We are so happy to hear that you feel relieved and comfortable too. Stop sitting down and waiting for his call or message because you have lived and survived 4 years without him. If he eventually calls you, act like you would receive any regular phone call. But we still advise that you focus your time and attention on developing yourself instead of sitting down and waiting for his call. We hope this helps.

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Welcome

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Hey Marie! Sharing of contacts and personal information are not allowed on this platform for safety, security and privacy reasons. You can freely chat on this platform without anyone disturbing you. Thanks for understanding.

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Hey Bummy! Having a boyfriend is not a necessity for you to have before you finish your university education so this means that you will cope just fine. All you need to do is to be determined and not be distracted because boys will come but once you are determined, you will not be moved when they make advances at you. We hope this helps.

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Hey LeMainé! It all depends on you and the reason why you want to have a boyfriend. You need to justify your reason for having a boyfriend for yourself. If you feel like you are doing the wrong thing by having a boyfriend, then you have the answer. Although some religions believe having a boyfriend is wrong. It all eventually depends on your belief. We hope this helps.

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Hey Crystal02! Crushes have a strong tendency of dying at some point (most times, when you get to know the person more). There is no need to tell him about it. You can choose to let the crush die a natural death, get friendly with him (without telling him about the crush) or distract yourself by focusing on other things in school/extra curricular activities. It is all up to you. We hope this helps.

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Hey Khloe! If you are not ready to get romantic, talk to your boyfriend about it and make him understand that you are not interested in being romantic yet. But you have to be very careful and try not be alone with him in a lonely place or at night. Also, if you can, tell a trusted adult about your relationship with him. We hope this helps.

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Hey Pulchritude! Long distance relationships work for some people and doesn't work for some others. This is because every relationship is unique. You both need to be determined to make the relationship work. Be open, honest and communicate frequently. Long distance relationships are not always so safe because sometimes, out of sight is usually out of mind. So you both need to talk things true and be sure you both want this. Once there is any form of doubt in your mind, then don't be bothered about it at all. We hope this helps.

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Hey Twikle! There is no yes or no answer for this question. If you are below the age of 18, you are a minor and shouldn't be in any form of romance (this doesn't mean that once you are above 18, you should be having sex or the rest freely either). If you want to be romantically involved with someone, just be ready for the consequences if they come up. These include unwanted pregnancy, STD's, heart breaks, infections etc. We hope this helps.

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Hey FED! There is no yes or no answer for this question. If you are below the age of 18, you are a minor and shouldn't be in any form of romance (this doesn't mean that once you are above 18, you should be having sex freely either). If you want to be romantically involved with someone, just be ready for the consequences if they come up. These include unwanted pregnancy, STD's, heart breaks, infections etc. We hope this helps.

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Hey SMS! First of all, your girlfriend is a minor (younger than 18 years). Secondly, you should be asking yourself this question; do you have a problem with being with someone younger than you? We hope this helps.

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am havin simila case wit u.i've nt even break up wit my bf nd his frnd is askin me out.dnt date him bcos e presures u

Hey 1234 and Khloe! This situation is different for every individual. While some people may not see anything wrong with this, others think everything is wrong with this. However, there are also chances that your ex-boyfriend and his friend are doing this just to play with your emotions. You both need to be sure that you are not lusting over these guys and that what you feel is actually very genuine. Stick to what works for you but be extremely careful. We hope this helps.

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Hey Emicute! You can date when you are READY rather than when you feel like it. You have to be ready to sacrifice your time when you are in a relationship so if you are not ready, you will have a tough time keeping the relationship. We hope this helps.

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Hey Nabzy! We are so sorry about this but you know what, just let it go okay? Your ex-boyfriend is part of your past so let him go okay. It can be painful seeing both of them together but for your own good, let her have him and be the mature one here. Do not revenge or do something you will end up regretting. We hope this helps.

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Hi nme sake

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Neva accept

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Maybe ooo

Hey Kween! He probably forgot. Ask him what happened to be really sure of what happened. Remember not to ask him rudely or start a fight because he may lie and you really need to know why. So ask him calmly. We hope this helps.

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Hey! You can date when you are READY rather than when you feel like it. You have to be ready to sacrifice your time when you are in a relationship so if you are not ready, you will have a tough time keeping the relationship. We hope this helps.

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Hey Realgirl! Please resend your question. We probably missed it. Sorry about that.

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Hey Nellyfancy! Thanks for sharing this. As we always say, being in a relationship comes with so much responsibility and one has to be fully prepared for it. We are glad that you have been through it and now you know what you want for yourself. Not what everyone says is true and saying no money, no sex is one of that because in the first place, putting a value to sex only means one thing. So please take that impression out of your head. Yes, your partner should love you for who you are AND respect your decision at all times. We hope this helps.

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Hey Aice! So sorry to hear this. Please be strong and distract yourself okay? Read a book, start a project… just do something that will distract you. Try not to think about it and if you can, talk to a trusted adult about it. If it will make you feel better, cry! It heals sometimes. We hope this helps *hugs*

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Am also a new hair i need a friend

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Hello Realgirl! First of all, DO NOT do any blood covenant with anybody at all. Please it is extremely dangerous. You need to end that relationship immediately became anyone that suggests such does not have your interest at heart. Also, you need to talk up your parents or a trusted adult about this. And please be careful. We hope this helps.

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Hey 0143! Thanks for opening up with this question. What we can make out of this is that he is trying not to loose your friendship or maybe he is not sure of what he wants at the moment. The way out however is to ask him why he changed his mind and tell him to be very honest with you. We hope this helps.

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Hey Khloe! Talk to your friend politely and tell her that you have noticed that she is flirting with your boyfriend. You may be surprised that she is not doing it intentionally. However, if she is aware of what she is doing, politely tell her you do not feel comfortable with it and you will appreciate if she stops. Please note that you have to be very calm when addressing this issue. We hope this helps.

Thanks big sis...!!!am gonna try dat

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Be careful . Is not really the gold of relationship

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Hey Joyce! Talk to him and tell him to be honest with you. Ask him why he said that in the first place. It could be out of anger because you both had a misunderstanding. But still, we advise that you talk to him still. We hope this helps.

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Hey Nuella! There is no guide on how to date. You can date when you are READY rather than when you feel like it. You have to be ready to sacrifice your time when you are in a relationship so if you are not ready, you will have a tough time keeping the relationship. We hope this helps.

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Hi Olayinka,welcome!

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Hey Joyce! We are glad we could be of help. You're welcome girl.

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Hello Nancy!you're welcome!

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Me 2,makes d 2 of us

am new too

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Hey Philip! The real question is who do you truly love? It is not a matter of who loves you more because it may be the girl you do not really like that may end up loving you more. So search deep and find out who you love more. We hope this helps.

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Go Meet His Friend

Hey Mel! Just like Pretty1234 said, go and meet his friends and ask for his number. We hope this helps.

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Hey 0143! Why did you have to wait till 3 months also? This means that whatever happened didn't really mean much to you. If you do not feel it is right to go back to him after 3 months then we suggest you let it go. We hope this helps.

Hi big sis,tanks 4 ur advice, but,i dont knw hw to start talking to him abt y he changed his decissions and he vissit me @ my home spend tym wit me bt he neva talk to me abt his reason for changing his mind or should i start avoiding him?

Nd evry 1 in my house thought he is dating me bcos he comes tosee me somtyms @ home, am confused nw i dont knw wat he meant?

Big sis from ur point of veiw is it ryt 4 a lady to aproach a guy of wich he proposed to her in d first place she refused, to go back to him nd tell him she love him.

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Hey Grachi! He is very right. What if your parents find out? They will be disappointed and angry. So we suggest you talk to them and make them understand that you are not going to get into trouble or even get distracted because of him. Talk to your parents (or the one you are closer to). We hope this helps.

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Hey Grachi! So sorry about this. Finding it hard to get over a break up can be hard but you have to be determined to let it go because it all has to do with your mind. First of all, you need a strong and worthy distraction like a productive hobby, your studies, a reading group or something that will keep you occupied. Also, we are sure your parents are already very proud of you right now. Just keep being the bright and wonderful Grachi. We are also proud of you here. We hope this helps.

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Hey Vanessa! I don't know wat to say but i think u need to reply dis question again for bigsister to reply to u okay?? ~I hope dis helps~

***sorry ^comment^ dis question again***

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Hey Princess! The final decision is up to you to make. However, if you feel any doubt in your mind toward the guy, do not bother because there will be more from where that came from. Also, you haven't gotten to know him so well yet. Why not know him better and you may see that you don't even like him that much. Just don't be in a hurry to loose someone you don't have yet. We hope this helps.

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Hey Anika! You need to talk to your boyfriend. If he doesn't trust you then he will keep believing what others say about you. Your relationship lacks trust and you need to build it (if you think it is worth it). Also, you may also want to keep your friends out of your relationship too. Sometimes, that is usually the solution. However, fighting is never an option so try not to be violent when confronting them because it never solves anything. We hope this helps.

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Hey Salmat! Did you guys have a quarrel or a misunderstanding? If yes, that may be the cause. If you didn't, try and ask him why he has been ingnoring you. You may be surprised that he will not be aware of the fact that he is ignoring you. He may just be busy with other things but there is no harm in asking him anyways. Just be sure not to ask with rudely or out of anger. We hope this helps.

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Hey Joyce! There is no question from you that we have to reply to. Please ask a question and we will reply. Thanks

big sister I've commented again pls reply. Thanks♥♥♥

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Ur welcome Rukevwe

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Hey Joyce! You need to identify why you are afraid. Is it that you are scared of being rejected or turned down by him? Also, you need to know that fear can sometimes just in your mind. You need to walk up to him and be friends with him (first to be sure that you really like him). The worse thing that can happen is that he will snob you and really, life will go on. Do not let fear cripple you . He is human and you are also human. We hope this helps.

Thanks Bigsis..ur d #best

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Hey Khloe! Instead of thinking of how to act, we will advise that you talk to him about it (without starting a fight). He may not even know that his behaviour is hurting your feelings. The only way he will know is if you tell him. Communication is very important in relationships. We hope this helps.

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Hey Virtuoso! Thanks for opening up with this comment. Maybe she's not taking you seriously because you are showing some signs of interest. You should politely talk to the person involved and tell her you are not interested in a relationship. You do not have to fight or quarrel to make her understand this. If she still resists, involve a trusted adult and also cut all forms of communication with the person. We hope this helps.

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Hey Temmyd! Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.

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Hey Ashie! We have already answered this question in the other article. Kindly check. Thanks

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Hey Temmyd! The only way to know if she is just being friendly or if she loves you is by asking her. We cannot tell because both friends and lovers call their loved ones to check up on them regularly. We hope this helps.

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Hey Genny! It will be hard to break up without one party being hurt (except if they didn't like you). You can politely tell him you are no longer interested in the relationship and make him understand that it will be for the benefit of both of you. It may be hard because he may be hurt but you have to be strong (and not rude). We wish you all the best and we hope this helps.

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Hey Kinky! First of all, you need to tell a trusted adult about what this boy did to you - being forced to have sex. Secondly, what he gave you does not help to flush anything out. You may need to see a doctor for a proper test. There is an organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including sex and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.

kinky what that boy did was not right

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Hey Virtuoso! Thanks for opening up with this comment. If you still have feelings for her, you may want to stay away from her for a while to get over her. If you still want to be friends with her, you have to be very sure that you won't be jealous when you see her with other boys or even with her boyfriend. If you are sure that you won't be jealous or affected by anything, then let her know you just want to remain friends with her and you are not hurt by the rejection. We hope this helps.

Twins brother like me at the same time what should I do

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Hey Eghosa! Please call the number. Thanks

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Hey Love! If you don't mind, kindly tell us what it is that your boyfriend wants that you are not giving so that we will know how to help you. There are a lot that can be given and we cannot guess so explaining better will help us help you. We hope this helps.

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Hey Goody! First of all, you should not exchange blood with anyone because that is a very easy way to get infected with HIV/AIDS. Also, you need to consider the future when taking a blood covenant. What happens when you both outgrow your feelings for each other? If you truly love someone, you should just be about making the person better rather than doing a blood covenant. If anyone asks you for a blood covenant, please tell a trusted adult immediately and avoid the person. We hope this helps.

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Hey IWINOSA! There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurizing you to do it. We hope this helps.

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Hey Khloe! Thanks for the comment. Just tell him politely that you do not want anything more than friendship from him. Say it and mean it. He may keep disturbing you but keep standing your ground. Tell him that if he truly values your friendship, he should leave it the way it is. We hope this helps.

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tell a responsible adult, before you get into a bigger trouble

Hey Deola! Please, tell a trusted adult about this and also be safe! If possible, report this to the community police for your safety. Avoid walking late at night, walking in lonely places or even walking alone (try to walk in groups) until you are sure of your safety. So sorry to hear this but just try to be safe okay. We hope this helps.

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Hey Demizy! Someone needs to break the silence. Walk up to her and start a conversation (be very friendly). Tell her you noticed she stares a lot at you and you are sure she wants to be friends with you but she's just shy. We are sure you can take it up from there. The more you both wait, the more the starring game continues. We hope this helps.

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Hey Beautyrike! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurizing you to do it. We hope this helps.

thank u big sister

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Hey Loveth! What you feel is called a crush (not love) and it is perfectly normal. There are a lot of people in the world who are attractive and have attractive qualities. However, you have to be careful with crushes as they can be very distracting and can also be confused with love because when you get obsessed with the person, you will become distracted and this can affect you in so many other ways. At this point, it becomes dangerous especially when you do not know the person very well. We hope this helps.

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Mhizfella is it him

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Hey Anna! There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.

hy anna am wisdom add me on facebook for chat or drop ur facebook user name

hy anna am wisdom add me on facebook for chat or drop ur facebook user name

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Hey 0143! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Why did you reject his proposal in the first place? There must be a reason why you did what you did and you need to go back to that reason. This is very important. We hope you are not going back out of sentiments and also not because you do not want to be lonely. However, the decision to go back is totally up to you. We hope this helps.

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Hey Meerah! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We are so sorry about what happened. Do not hate yourself for what he did. We understand that you are really upset and sad but hating yourself will do more harm than good to you. You need to let go for yourself. The good thing is that he didn't do more than that. Once again, we are so sorry. Also, be careful and stay safe okay. Love, Big sister

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Hey Splendor! This is a personal decision. You have to be sure that you both are ready to be in a relationship. We hope this helps.

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Hey Favour101! Being in a relationship is all about being ready and not what someone tells you. If you are not ready for a relationship, then don't go into it. It doesn't matter how long he has waited. The worst thing you can do is to date someone out of pity. As long as you are not ready, don't force it. We hope this helps.

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Hey ella! Lol. Nothing is wrong with you. You have a crush on the guy and you are jealous when you see him with other girls. It is perfectly normal as it happens to almost everyone. However, this guy probably does not know that you have a crush on him so he may not know how you feel about him. There is no harm in telling him how you feel (if you are confident enough). We hope this helps

Big sis u are the best thanks i,ella i changed my name to ella123

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if you love her then what are wtn 4, just go 4 her

Hey Happiest! Thanks for the comment. What is stopping you from telling her? Would you like to share it with us so that we know how to advise you. Thanks

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Hey Omobolanle! True love has no age limit. However, you need to be sure that you are truly in love and not lust. We hope this helps

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I so agree

Are you married???

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You can date with decision of not abusing the relationship and your partner must grant your wish.

Hey Cyndi! There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurizing you to do it. We hope this helps.

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Hey Melvin! Being in a relationship or being single is a personal decision and we are glad you know what you want for yourself. Do what works for you as long as you are comfortable with it. Do not allow peer pressure define how you should live your life. We hope this helps

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Hey Chizzy! There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.

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Yea u ar smal 4 dat

I am only a year older but I still feel that boyfriends are overrated and distractions.

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"he will pull out before the sperm enters".. That sounds like a male who's just desperate and sex thirsty

If ur "bf" really luvs u & is willing to make ur r/ship last then sex shouldn't be a "working factor" . It's unnecessary

Hey Blessing! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Sex is not a proof that you love someone. Also, no one should compel you to do what you do not want to do or are not ready for in the name of love. Love is not forceful. Pregnancy is not the only risk attached to having sex. You are also exposed to STIs/STDs, HIV etc. We hope this helps.

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Is that why he's dating you? To suck your breast?? There's more to a relationship than makeouts.. You should know that

Hey Riri! Thanks for responding to this comment but we will like to point out the fact that you are being judgemental and we do not allow judgemental comments on this platform. Every Springster has a question bothering her and answering in a judgemental way will not provide an answer but rather make her feel worse about herself. Thanks for understanding

Hey Love! Thanks for opening up through this comment but this is a personal decision. We hope this helps

Tankx big sis.........u a kind n caring

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Well, ur probably shy & that's why "kissing" him seems hard. With time, u could get over it. He just needs to understand

Tankx Riri

Hey Love! You need to figure out why you find it hard to kiss him when he is around. There must be something stopping you. You may also want to talk to him about it so that he can help you by making you comfortable when you are around him. We hope this helps

Wow.......u a such a durlin big sis,i can't stop tankin u

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Hey Prince! You can either take the risk by telling her or you can just let it go and not risk your existing relationship. You know her better and you can guess the risk involved. The choice is up to you to make. We hope this helps

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Hey elmubeegee! Thanks for the comment. If she does not want to have sex about you then do nothing about this. Do not force because that will be a criminal offence. So you have to make sure that she also wants it before you can do anything about it. We hope this helps.

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I tink de best tin is, u stop playin wit dat person, cuz he may force u to do dat one day wen peple wil nt bi around.

Hey Khloe! Carefree is very correct. What you also neeed to do is to report him to a trusted adult. Please be careful around him too and stay safe because he sounds dangerous. We hope this helps.

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Hey Springster! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Please talk to your boyfriend about this. There is nothing communication cannot do. Keeping it to yourself will only make you feel bad and sad. Just politely let him know how his behaviour makes you feel. We hope this helps

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Hey Springster! Thanks for opening up through this comment. First of all, this guy is taking advantage of the fact that you have a crush on him. Please and please, do not allow anyone pressurize you into having sex. If you are not ready, don't do it! If you can, let him go! Crushes are temporary and they tend to die after a while. You will be fine girl. We hope this helps

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Hey Bumzy! Then do nothing about it. He is not ready and you cannot force or make him to be ready. It's a good thing he knows what he wants. "Being ready" is one of the key ingredients in getting into a relationship. We hope this helps

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Hey Neho! Thanks for the comment. Just explain to him why you did what you did. You weren't trying to be rude but rather, you were only trying to give him privacy. Do this politely, we are sure he will understand. We hope this helps

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yes is a bad

Hey Ayeni! This is his personal decision and you have to respect it. There is no right or wrong answer to this question. It is when you start forcing him to do what he is not ready to do that it becomes bad. He has a right not to think about sex or even want to have sex. It is what he wants and you have to respect his decision. We hope this helps

Hey Dmx! There is nothing wrong in not wanting sex. It is his choice and he has a right to it. Thanks

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Hey Springster! You're welcome. We hope you like the stories. Feel free to invite your friends here.

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Hey Springster! There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. We all have feelings towards the opposite sex so you are not alone. It is what you do with the feelings that matter. We hope this helps

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Is it good for a gal to have feelings with a guy who has gf

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Hey Joel! Start with being friends with her. You can never go wrong when you start this way. This way, you will get to know her better and build trust. We hope this helps

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Hey Benson! This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. We hope this helps

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Hey Virtuoso! Thanks for the comment. There is a difference between all 3. A crush is usually shortlived. Most people are usually attracted to the physical features of a person they have a crush on. Most of the time, crushes are lust because it is more about the physical than the real personality. Love is a bigger and much more different from crush. It is beyond the physical attributes of the person. When you love someone, you love everything about them. As for feelings, there are so many things you feel at every moment. You feel pain, happy etc. So when it comes to feelings, you need to know what exactly it is that you are feeling. Love is a feeling so also is hatred and crush. We hope this answers your question.

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how to test distant love 101 1.Be faithful on or own side 2. Don't doubt his love for you 3. ask him to call you twice a day, if he fails, shout at him for once 4. if he fails again, he is seeing another 5. pay him a surprise visit on Saturday morning and that will be the final step. if he claims to have a lot of cousins, he cheats.

Hey Phaith! Thanks for the comment. One of the most important ingredients needed to make a relationship work is trust. Being in a long distance relationship needs patience and a lot of trust. You need to learn how to trust your partner if not, no matter what they do or say, you will doubt them. You know your partner more than we do. So from what you know about him, find out if he loves you and when you are sure he does, stop doubting him. Just always remember he does. INo matter how much he loves you, if you do not trust each other, the relationship will not work. We hope this helps

Hey Place_koko! Thanks for helping a Springster out. We loved it. The "cousin" part really got us laughing though. What if he is really from a large family? Lool...

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Hey Beauty! He may love you but he is not good at communicating (calls or sms). What you need to is to talk to him about how you will appreciate it if he calls or texts you more often. Talking things out with him will make him understand what you like better but keeping it to yourself will only cause a strain in your relationship. We hope this helps

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It's normal 2 feel so at dis age or want 2 even hav sex it means u are growing into a woman,bt u shouldn't let ur

emotions control u,bt learn 2 b in control of ur emotions 2 avoid inevitable dangers,and it's ok 2 wait a little longer

Hey Queen3636! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Maybe you have not found the guy that you really like. Remember that a crush is for a short period and the feeling goes after a while. It is perfectly normal to have an urge especially at this age. It happens to us all. Don't just rush into a relationship because everyone is in one, be sure you are ready for one. We hope this helps

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How jama?

Hey Springster! There is nothing like a free period until you get to menopause. Once your period starts at puberty, the only time you will not see it is when you are pregnant (this doesn't work for everyone). Periods are part of our lifestyle as females. Enjoy it! We hope this helps

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the question. You can start a conversation with him. This way, you get his attention and also get to know him better. You may even realize that you do not really like him after you get to know him better. Who knows what will happen? Just talk to him and see what happens from there. We hope this helps

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Hey jama! Yes, the hymen can break without having sex. Other activities like rigorous exercises or even riding a bicycle (This doesn't happen all the time especially if you are not rough so feel free to ride a bicycle) can cause it to break. We hope this helps

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Are u prepared to mother a child Why smell what you can't eat

Hello Kaya! Your question is not really clear. If you mean can a girl get pregnant when she has sex on the 9th day of her cycle (9 days after her period starts) then yes, this is very possible. Most girls ovulate in the middle of their cycle and ovulation can happen anytime from about the 5th to the 18th day depending on the time it takes from the start of one period to the next period. If a girl has sex up to 5 days before her ovulation or up to 2 days after it, then it is very easy for her to get pregnant. The best way to prevent pregnancy is to not have sex otherwise it is very important to use a condom.

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no don't said that, u can stil try someone else ok.

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Of course u may b more than that and still abstain As long as you are not married No SUM pays

Hey dear let me tell you the truth, your friends would mock you, make fun of you and even call you a bloody virgin! But you're doing yourself a lot of God! No worries about premarital sex, getting a girl pregnant, and lots more. Personally, don't let your friends know you're still a virgin as some might want to set you up! Be careful, listen to your heart and don't live life to please anybody.

God*good

Hey Hills! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We see a lot of people giving their personal opinions on this through the replies we have seen. Hills, the truth is that sex comes with its own responsibilities and you should be ready for it before you start. So there is no yes or no answer to this question. It is a personal decision and you have to be very prepared for it. Remember that there are risks of unwanted pregnancy, STDs/HIV etc when you have sex you are not properly prepared for. However, if you must have sex, please always use a condom. We hope this helps

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Hey Angel! There is absolutely nothing wrong with falling in love. Love is not a crime. We all fall in love at different points in our lives. Please read "A Nigerian Love Story" on this website and you will understand that it is perfectly normal to fall in love. We hope this helps

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yh it's possible, nd perfect one for that matter

Lol! Yeah it is. Like me

Hey Tetefaye! Yes, it is very possible. Not all guys are cheats you know. And not every relationship is about sex too. It is just a matter of understanding and trust. We hope this helps

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Hey dear, personally, I would advice you stay away from relationships for now. SS1, you have your whole future in front of you! Time to build yourself, get good grades and focus on your life! Trust me, you're not ready for the emotional roller coaster that makes a relationship. Pressure of having sex, wondering why he hasn't called, thinking about him or what he said in class,wanting to please him, the list goes on and on! Bottom line, stay away from dating and concentrate more on building yourself to be better.

Hello Adeola! Thanks for opening up to us. The age is not the issue as you are about the same age and SS1 and SS2 are close enough. The main question is if you are matured enough and have enough time for a relationship. Read the article again. Think of how much work a relationship may need and think of if you have enough time after school work and any other work you need to do at home or anywhere else. Also, think of the boy you are thinking of dating. Do you really like him? Do you think he is ready and that he will treat you the way you want to be treated? We should not try and manage because we want to fit in. Try and make the decision that will be right for you and your plans for your life. We hope this helps.

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Try rehearsing with you mirror in ur room, before you realise it you will be very bold enough to talk to girls. I hope this helps

Hello Yiwa! Thanks for your question. Art_Ninja123 has given some good advice. But first remember that we are all different. Because you have a friend or know someone that is always talking to girls does not mean that that life is for you. Don't force yourself to do what does not come naturally. Also, remember that you may not have met someone that you really like yet. It is possible that when you meet this person, you will have more courage to talk to her. We hope this helps.

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Hey dear, sincerely? NO! Imagine you were in 7 relationships before you get married, then you would have slept with seven boys. I would advice not to have sex with anyone. Hold yourself so you can keep your pride and dignity. Thanks for opening up.

Hey Angelfortune! It has come to our notice that your replies to other Springsters are very imposing and judgmental. We advise that you stop as you are against the rules of this group. We do not do so here and breaking the rules mean one thing - You can be ban from this group. Please be warned. Thanks for understanding

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You guys should talk about convenient times you can meet. I hope this helps

Hey Emel! Thanks for the comment. Relationships come with responsibilities and one of these include having time and creating time for your partner. That is what you should do. Also, you can communicate via phone calls and chats to stay in touch but choose a time that you both can see each other physically. We hope this helps

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Hey dear, first of all, you can do whatever you set your mind to. You wouldn't even know you can jump that high fence untill you are being pursued by a mad dog! OK, enough of the babbling, but really you can hold yourself! It pays to wait! Remember that boy you had a crush on, that is so annoying now? And you thank God you had nothing to do with him? Yeah. That's it! At this age, we mainly crush on people and hardly know the true concept of love. Relationships seem fun, but don't get deceived, don't let your friends intimidate you.please control yourself. Thanks

Hey Dam-z! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Do not let peer pressure affect you. Dating all depends on your readiness because being in a relationship comes with a lot of responsibility and if you are not ready for the responsibility, do not attempt to go into a relationship. Also, do not enter a relationship because everyone is in one We hope this helps.

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Hey chiney! Thanks for opening up through this comment. This is a personal decision and it is totally up to the both of them. When it comes to relationships, age should be the least of your worries. Relationships come with a lot of responsibilities, you both need to be sure that you are ready for the relationship and worry less about the age. We hope this helps

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Wlcm

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Keep on trying bro

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Hey Virtuoso! Thanks for opening up through this comment. It is a personal decision and we cannot determine whether what she did is right or wrong. It is up to her to make that decision for herself. We hope this helps

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hello dear no one can judge him but I think you should politely discuss with him about the dangers of premarital sex...no offence pls. I hope this helps

How old are you first?

Hey lovely! Thanks for opening up with this comment. First of all, if you are not ready to have sex, do not allow anyone force you into it. If he truly loves you, he will respect your decision. Please, do not have sex because you are under pressure to do so, say yes when you are ready. We hope this helps

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Seek a pro help

Hey A.j.b! You need to learn to be confident and do not allow your shyness affect you. Girls won't bite you. They are humans like you. The worst thing that will happen to you is that they will say NO and that doesn't mean life has ended. It is very important that you work on your confidence. It will also help you in other areas. We hope this helps

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Hey Lumi! There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.

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Hey Lulu! There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.

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At anytime u feel u re physically and emotionally ready

Hey Springster! There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.

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stop watching prone movies if u do read less of romantic novels nd keep urself occupied so u won't think of such

Hey Castle05! Thanks for opening up through this comment. If you really want to stop it, you need to make up your mind and make sure you stick to it. Also, look for a strong distraction that will keep you busy all the time so that you won't have the time to masturbate. We hope this helps

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i hope it's already for him , keep calm if it is yours he will surely come back for you

Hey Farha! Thanks for opening up through this comment. There is no need running after a guy that only wanted to cheat on you. He doesn't deserve you. Let him go girl! If you are sure he was only after cheating on you when you were dating then there is no need for you to call him again. You deserve someone better. We hope this helps

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Hey KDRCK3! This is a personal decision. We cannot tell you whether or not to have sex BUT what we can tell you is that you should never have sex if you are not ready for it. If he forces you against you against your wishes, then he is not worth it. Love is not forceful. We hope this helps

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Hey Macbeth! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We are so sorry for what you went through. We understand that heart breaks can be painful but you should be thankful that he didn't rape you or get violent with you. Now, you can move on if you make up your mind to. That guy was only after sex and he is upset that he couldn't have his way. So that should be enough reason for you to want to move on. Distract yourself, delete his number from your phone so that you won't be tempted to call him, delete pictures and memories of him, hang out more with friends, focus on a new hobby. You will be fine girl! Big sister will be here for you okay? We hope this helps

Big sis, you can't understand, I'm sure you have once fell in love. You don't know how I feel, my life is tearing apart. I want him back, I love him, Big Sis please help me. Can we talk privately?

Hey Macbeth! Oh yes girl, big sister totally understands. I've been there girl and so I know what I am talking about. I also understand how hard it is to get over someone you once loved so much. However, you need to know that getting over someone is totally in your hands and forcing him to take you back will do more harm than good. Let me tell you why. He will see that you are desperate for him and he will definitely disrespect you, take advantage of you and treat you in a manner you won't appreciate. Like I said before, he was just after sex and that is why his started showing his true behaviour after you denied him. Girl, for your own sanity and safety, please you need to move on. Don't forget that he has always had a girlfriend (who he has probably gone back to). If you have friends, this is the time you need them. You need so much distraction right now and sometimes when you channel this type of energy into doing something (a career, business, skill etc). I have you in mind girl, don't think that I don't know how difficult this is for you. I genuinely know okay? Please, do this for your own good. Big sister will be here for you always. We hope this helps

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You're welcome!

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How

my guy dated me for two years whitout sex so it's possible

Hey Chibaby3! Yes, it is possible. Not everyone in a relationship has sex.It is all about having an understanding and also being mature about it too. We hope this helps

Hi am NEW here but i think itz possible since not all boys have the boldness to ask 4 sex. Also it depends on your morality i.e if u 're d type dat doesn't take nonsense.

Hi am NEW here but i think itz possible since not all boys have the boldness to ask 4 sex. Also it depends on your morality i.e if u 're d type dat doesn't take nonsense.

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yes, is good as he quickly tell her that he's not interested in her again, maybe he don't want to be deceiving her..

Hey Demizy! Yes, it is possible. It just shows that he is really no longer interested in the relationship. We hope this helps

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Hey Becca1! Thanks for opening up through this comment. So sorry what you went through with your cousin. Please, tell your mum all that happened. She needs to know because you are not safe in your aunt's house. The fact that your cousin did not succeed the last time, he will do all that is possible to get you this time around. Do all you can to stay away from him but let your mum and other trusted adults know about this. We hope this helps

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Hey Princess.Muna! Welcome to Springster. We do not know what your friend told you that made you break up with your boyfriend. This is a personal decision. There is no particular time for one to have a boyfriend. We hope this helps

Thanks a lot big sis for d advice...but do u think I should go back to my boyfriend now and ask for forgiveness, or rather move on already...

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Hey Femzy! This is not a dating site. This is a website for young girls to learn and be free. We do not allow such on this platform. Please be warned

Hey Talia! Going into a relationship is a personal decision. It is advised that you go into a relationship when you are ready. You also need to know why you want to go into a relationship. We hope this helps

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Hey Sprinsgter! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We are so sorry for what you went through. We can only imagine the trauma you faced. There is an organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.

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pls what are u trying to say

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Hey Springster! There is no manual to know whether a girl is interested in you or not. Everyone has their own unique love language. You need to pay attention to the little signs. We hope this helps

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Hey segcy49! Yes, you can control your emotions

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Hey pepisco! Thanks for the comment. You should go into a relationship when you are ready (totally sure not still thinking or in doubt). Don't date because your friends are dating but rather, when you are ready. Relationships comes with lots of responsibilities and you have to be ready for them. We hope this helps

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Hey RINA! This is a personal decision for you. There is no particular age for you to start dating. You date when you are ready to do so. We hope this helps

You're too young for that

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Hey Gracious! This is a personal decision for you. There is no particular age for you to start dating. You date when you are ready to do so. We hope this helps

yes u're free becoz is ur choice

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At ur age u r free 2 date a guy dats if u wnt 2

Hey Springster! This is a personal decision for you. There is no particular age for you to start dating. You date when you are ready to do so. We hope this helps

you are free if only you know what relationship is all about and how to handle it...then you are good to go

hi is your choice but there is no particular age to start dating

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why r u telling us? :) Do u need some one to chat with?

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your mom is....

Hey Promisekentliy1! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Have you tried talking to your mum about this? We think you should find out why she says you shouldn't (please be polite about this). You should also make her understand why you want to have a girlfriend. There is nothing good communication cannot sort out. We hope this helps

u are good to go u are already old enough and whether your mum likes it or not u will still get married dear

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When you have one like me, then I can always be there

Hey Princess! Being in a long distance relationship requires effort, work, patience and trust. Both of you need to make up your mind to put all of this to work if not, your efforts will be frustrated. So you both have to get to work. Talk about how you want to make the relationship work. Remember, relationships come with lots of responsibility. We hope this helps

Hi Tia02.are u trying to boast? :/

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Hey Springster! There is no particular age for one to have a boyfriend. It all depends on your readiness and maturity to be in a relationship. We hope this helps

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Hey Splendid! We cannot say for sure if your boyfriend loves you or not. However, what we know for sure is that sex is not a proof of love. If he is always after having sex alone and wants you to have sex with him because he wants to show you how much he loves you, then that is not in anyway love. If you are not ready to have sex, let him know and if he truly loves you, he will respect your decision. We hope this helps

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There's a difference between sex and love, Love is a mutual feeling coming from the heart while the sex is from the sexual organs

Hey Mide82! Thanks for the comment. Like we always say, sex is not a proof of love. You do not have to have sex with someone to show that you love them. There are so many other ways to show love to someone without having sex. Love making is meant to be subtle, sensual and like the name implies, you are trying to express the love you have for your partner through the act. Sex is a simple physical act. We hope this answers your question.

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no Rina don't tell anyone if u are a virgin or not bcos most time it usually setup and likely lead to rape

Don't disclose such things ignore the question no matter what

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Hey faddy! It's normal for guys to want to disturb you but if you are really serious about not having sex yet, you need to let them know and be really serious about it. Make them know that no matter what they do, you won't change your mind until you are ready. We hope this helps

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Hey Miracle! This is a personal decision and it is totally up to you and your partner. We hope this helps

No,miracle

no,miracle it depend on u & ur partner

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Hey Springster! The fact that you and your bf had issues should not make you feel like he loves you less. We all have issues with different people at different points in our lives but that doesn't mean that you no longer love them. Talk to him and let him know how you feel about this. Settle your quarrel if it makes you feel bad. We hope this helps

Its in your power to solve the issue between both of you . You got the power to so

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it not compulsory but on what u want .everyone is entitled to their opinion

Hey Joyce! No dear, having a boyfriend is not compulsory. If you do not feel like you need one, then there is no need for you to have one. It is based on your personal opinion. We hope this helps

Thanks @MONTEZ and lots of thanks Big Sister..

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Hey Rolly! This is a personal decision. We cannot tell you when to get married but you have to be physically, mentally and financially ready. Also, you need to make sure a trusted adult is aware of your plans. We hope this helps

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Boyfriend nd gf should not be a chance of having sex with each so i'll go for no. Pls don't

i think u should not since u have to consider the responsibility and results me doing it right now .take time to think things over before making this decision cos there is no going back once u do it

Hey OYEWO! Everyone here said the right thing. You should say NO to him. He is looking for an avenue to have sex. Having a boyfriend is not a free pass to have sex. It only means that he is in the relationship for just the sex and nothing more. You should also be careful around him as it seems as if he is not safe to be around. Let a trusted adult know about this. Stay safe okay? We hope this helps

Everyone here are right

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Since U guys av bin 2gether nd u knw his atittude i think u should give him a chance

the choice is urz,but I'll advise yhu follow ur heart not ur head,being frnds for lng

tnks ya al 4 d advice.

Hey lori! You have the final say. Do you like him enough to be in a relationship with him? If you are not, do not try to make him feel good or deceive him, just let him know and if you want it too, it's also up to you. Thank you @tmans and @herryfrosh for helping her out.

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hey ppp..... you are welcome dearest.....

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Hey MONTEZ! This is up to you. We cannot tell you how you feel about someone. You are in the best position to say such things. Also, you need to pay attention to the signs to know if he likes you or not. We hope this helps

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Hey MONTEZ! Please read the article "Does he like me". This will answer your question. We hope this helps

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then you will turn into a mocking and laughing stock

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Hey barbie! Thanks for the comment. Please talk to a trusted adult about this. We hope this helps

talk to a trusted adult.

Barbie,can we be friends

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Hey Springster! There is no particular time for you to start dating. You should date when you are sure that you are ready to be in one. We hope this helps

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Hey Besty! The fact that you have a crush on a girl does not mean that she should also automatically crush on you. It doesn't work that way. However, it is up to you to decide on what to do. We hope this helps

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Hey pssss! There is no particular age to start dating. It is up to your readiness. Do not date because others are doing it or because you are under pressure to date. We hope this helps

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Pls dear u have to wet

✋waiting is cool just wait a little more

Hey Cherie! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Maybe he is not ready to go into a relationship yet. Like others said, you may need to wait. Do not try to force anything so that you do not end up regretting. We know that it can be hard but it will be totally worth it in the end. We hope this helps

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just break-up with him bcos he doesn't deserve u and don't give in to his desire bcos he might end up breaking up with u if he has had enough from u

Hey Lovely! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Sex is totally up to you because you own your body not him. If he loves you like he claims, he will respect your opinion. Do not give in to his demands, you deserve better. Just try to be safe okay. We hope this helps

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Hey Abirah! There is no particular age to start dating. It is up to your readiness. Do not date because others are doing it or because you are under pressure to date. We hope this helps

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Hey Amaki! It is totally up to you. You need to think it through totally and make up your mind on what you need to do. You can also talk to a trusted adult for more guidance on this. We hope this helps

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not right

No for me it nt right for u to av sex even in is dad house

Thank buzzy no

Hey Zizzy! It is very wrong and disrespectful. If you both get caught, you can get into a lot of trouble. This is why we say relationships come with lots of responsibility and you should be ready for the responsibility before you get into it. We hope this helps

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Hey Innocent! Thanks for the comment. There is no particular age to go into relationships. We cannot tell you a particular time. It is up to you both to make up your mind that you are ready to be in a relationship. We hope this helps

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Hey Famzy! Thanks for the comment. We do not know what the problem is exactly. Kindly explain to us better so we can know how to handle this issue. Thanks

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Hey Zizzy! Bleeding is not a sign of virginity because not every virgin bleeds. The truth is that No Two Hymens Are Alike… The hymen is a tissue that’s filled with blood vessels that typically covers part of the vaginal opening. Some girls have a thick hymen or a hymen that covers a lot of the vaginal opening. Other girls have a very thin hymen or a hymen that covers very little of the vaginal opening. We hope this answers your question.

Pls am i till ok

c a doc

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Hey Mortune! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Sex is not a proof of love. Asking for sex all the time does not mean that he loves you. You both need to define what exactly you are in a relationship for because it looks like he is only in it for sex. Also, you telling him No does not make you a bad person. Girl, you have an opinion especially when it has to do with your body and your opinion counts a lot. Tell him that you are not all about sex. You also need to be very careful so that you won't get pregnant or get infected. We hope this helps

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Hey brizzy! Having sex in your dream may be as a result of your thoughts. What you constantly think of has a way of affecting your dream. Please talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor. We hope this helps

i also tink u sud pray n also c a pst

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Hey brizzy! Don't date because you feel like dating. Date because you are ready to date. Don't go into a relationship because of pressure or because others are doing it. Be sure that you are ready first. Relationships come with lots of responsibility and you have to be ready to face them. Before you date, make sure you work on your fear before you go into a relationship. We hope this helps

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. A crush is shortlived and tends to die after a short while. Love on the other hand is real and is not shortlived. Do not be in a hurry to go into a relationship. Be sure of the one you want first. There is no rush girl. You are in a phase where you need to figure yourself first and know what you want before you go into a relationship. We hope this helps

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Hey OJ! There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. This could be your sign for your period. We all have our sign and symptoms when it comes to our periods. Some could have cramps while some others like you may have an urge for sex. It's not a crime okay? We hope this helps

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Hey sprinty! Age has nothing to do with whether you should date or not. You have to be sure that you are ready to date before you go into a relationship. Like they say, if you have any doubt in your mind, do not go ahead with the relationship. Now note that not all relationships are sexual. It just depends on the maturity of both partners and the agreement they have before going into the relationship. However, you have the final say in this. We hope this helps

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Hey enyola! Thanks for the comment. Since you are sure that you are ready to date and you did not mention that there is someone available, we advise that you take your time to choose a partner and not just rush into a relationship with any random guy. We hope this helps

really helpful, thankz a lot.

if urheart is set on having a bf....then do so but in a mindful way

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Hey mary22! There is no manual on how to get a boyfriend. Being in a relationship is when 2 people who like themselves and are really ready to be in a relationship come together after getting to know themselves well. They have a goal for the relationship and work towards it. We hope this helps

Hi Mary,u wanna hookup

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Hey Jesse! There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.

Age is just a nunber.its maturity

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No pro,if Can u face d consequence

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Hey queenie! Please, do not be under pressure to have a boyfriend. If you are not ready, do not bother yourself to be in a relationship. There are so many responsibilities required to be in a relationship. If you are not ready, you will not be happy in the relationship and it is more frustrating. Please and please, there is no pressure or no rush to be in the relationship. Being single does not make others in a relationship better or wiser than you. So try not to compare yourself to others. We hope this helps

It obviously right

having a boyfriend is not a bad thing ofcoure but to kwn de kind of friendship that you are keeping

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Hey Judebrown! This is a group that inspires and encourages girls in Nigeria. Grooming and comments like these are not allowed on this platform. Thanks for understanding

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Hey CHOMMY! Thanks for the comment. Do not forget that a crush is different from love and should not be mixed up. You first of all need to be sure of what you feel for this guy. You need to also know that people stare for different reasons and so we can't say why he keeps staring at you. We hope this helps

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Hey sally! Thanks for the comment. You can discuss your urge with your girlfriend. However, you should know that sex is voluntary and if she is not interested or ready to have sex, you should not force her or try to convince her. Let her choose and say when she is ready. We hope this helps

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Hey basirat! Thanks for opening up through this comment. You need to figure out what exactly you want. Also, you need to find out what exactly made the first guy change towards you. If you do not talk things over, then you will have serious issues. Who do you like and what exactly do you want in a relationship? We hope this helps

thnkz alot ....it gonna help

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You need to ask him why he broke up with your friend,and also try to find out if he really loves you....

You need to ask him why he broke up with your friend,and also try to find out if he really loves you...What do you think

Hey Chisom90! You need to be sure of the feelings you have for him. Is it a crush or something else? Also, you need to take things slow so that you don't get heartbroken like your friend. Take a break to figure out what you feel about him. Like Cute14 said, you should also find out what caused their breakup. We hope this helps

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Hey Cute14! This is a personal decision and it is totally up to her. We hope this helps

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Hey basirat! Thanks for the comment. We always advise that the moment you have a doubt about someone, that's the moment you should let go because once there is a doubt, you start to have trust issues. If she is not ready to have sex, no one should force her to do it. Sex is not love. If he truly loves her, he will respect her decision. We hope this helps

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Hey softest! Thanks for the comment. So sorry for what you are going through. Have you thought of asking them why they do not want you to have friends? Also, you can meet with them and tell them your reasons for wanting to have friends. There is nothing communication cannot solve. We wish you all the best and hope this helps

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Same here bro

Hey Marvell and Melo! Hey Springster! This is a group that inspires and encourages girls in Nigeria. Grooming and things like this is not allowed on this platform. Thanks for understanding

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Just Try And Tell Ur Mum To Give U Time To Think about It,and When He Give U Time Try And Tell Day Guy That U Want To Be Alond For Some Time,if U Dnt Love Him

Hey LAQUINCY! Thanks for the comment. We want you to answer some questions. Are you ready to marry? Does your mum want you to marry him now? Do you have feelings for the guy? You need to talk to your mum and make her understand certain things based on these questions. Do not be rude, be very polite and let her know how you feel about this whole situation. We hope this helps

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Well Well Well,i Have Naver Add This Such Intresting Story,now Everythink U Have To Do Is To Follow Ur At,let Ur Hart Tell U Everthink.

Smiles! Thanks pinjuh;but he has threatened to hurt my bf.

Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. This is really serious and you need to let a trusted adult know about this. Your boyfriend should also do the same. Try as much as possible to avoid being around him and you really should not acknowledge invitations from him again. Politely let him know that you no longer have feelings for him and you have moved on. Your boyfriend also needs to be careful around him too. We hope this helps

Hi big sis .we've talk about it to our parents.they did talk to him but he took it badly now he threatening me. He told me that if he doesn't have me no one else would have me.my mom told me to leave town cause he's been sending boy to look all my moves .should I really leave it's Scarry me.pls help me

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Hey blessing! If you feel comfortable about it, sure you can. There is no rule that says a girl cannot express her feelings towards a guy. However, you need to be sure of what you actually feel for this guy. Be sure that it is really love and not lust. We hope this helps

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Hey pelumi! How do you know that she loves you when you have never spoken to her before? How do you also know that you love her when you do not know anything about her? What you probably feel for her is a crush because you cannot love someone you do not know. Talk to her and get to know her better before you conclude that you are in love with her. We hope this helps

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Hey ASHABIZZY! This is a personal decision. You should not give an answer based on whether someone is disturbing you or not but rather on whether or not you are ready for a relationship. We hope this helps

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Hey Gift! Do not feel pressured to date. You should date when you are ready to date and not because other people are doing it. Do not be in a hurry to be in a relationship okay? Take your time to know what you want and do not settle for less than that. We hope this helps

Big Sister Let Me Toes U Small

Hey Abdul! What does that mean?

hi

hi

hello gift

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Hey frankmordi! Thanks for the comment but this is not the right place to look for a girlfriend. We hope this helps

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Hey Sucy! You are allowed to leave him because it is obvious that he is only interested in the sexual aspect of the relationship and nothing more. We hope this helps

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That not cool Get one

Hey dessy! Thanks for the comment. You do not need to prove anything to your friends. This is how peer pressure starts. If you are not ready to have a boyfriend and you know that you are not a lesbian, then you have nothing to prove to them. True friends will not put you under any form of pressure to do what you do not want to do. Also, Bisi that is a wrong advice to give to your fellow Springster. Having a boyfriend is not the ultimate goal and she cannot get one just like that. You should encourage her to take her time and overcome the peer pressure she is undergoing. So dessy dear, just take your time. Let your friends know that you are not ready to have a boyfriend and if they keep disturbing you, you may need to change your friends. We hope this helps

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I'm not sure what to do ask BIG SISTER

Hey Lizzy! Thanks for the comment. You need to quit that relationship because no one should be with someone that is not faithful to them. He is trying to eat his cake and have it (if you understand what we mean). If he loves you like he claims, he will not be in a relationship with another person. He will stay and stick with you only. You cannot love 2 people equally so it is obvious that he loves one person more. There is no need to find out who he loves more so it is best to just move on and let him be. We hope this helps

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Hey grace,how're u doing? i strongly believe you're doing fine isn't it?.In respond to your message,i too don't have a girl friend and i need one too.So if think you wanna try this with me,i will so much love to have you as my girl friend,because i really wanna get to know more about you.So here is my number in words.....Zero,eight,one,three,two,nine,nine,one,three,one,five.....Pls as soon as u get this message hit me up,so we can pick up from there in knowing each other better.Do have a great couple of weeks ahead.

OKAY NO BIGGI ONLY THAT OUR CHAT STOPS HERE ALSO THANKS FOR BEING MY GIRLFRIEND!!!!

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Hey Damilous! This is a group that inspires and encourages girls in Nigeria and not a place to look for a girlfriend. Grooming and things like these are not allowed on this platform and so we have to take down this comment. Thanks for understanding

Hahahaha!!!;)

u r out of ur mind r u the only guy here?.

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Hey Khloe! Thanks for the comment. Is he in anyway forcing you to do any of these things? Do you feel comfortable answering any of these questions he asks you? Do you both know where this relationship is leading? Do you eventually want to have sex with him? You need to answer these questions and be sure that you know what you really want from the relationship. Do not be sentimental or cover up for him. Be sincere about what you want. Once you answer these questions genuinely, you will have an answer to your question BUT be very careful because 2 months is a very short time to reveal all of these information to someone. Please tell a trusted adult about this and we hope this helps

Tanks big sist… To me he is not d kinda sex guy Buh am gonna take ur advice

Hey Khloe! You're welcome. Since you are sure, then that's good but don't still try to stay safe while you both get to know each other better.

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yes y nt it ok

nt bad

Hey tune! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision but you have to be comfortable about doing this. We hope this helps

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Hi everyone im new, it's not every relationship that distracs you from studying it depends on how you start your relationship how about studying together most times

Hey Springster! Welcome to the Springster world. We love your comment and we must say that you are very right. Not every relationship distracts you. Thanks for sharing this with us. We hope this helps

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Get a new boyfriend

Hey jenny! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision and it is totally up to you to make. Being in different states does not mean that your relationship cannot work.In fact, it can actually work well but only when and if you both are committed to it. Long distance relationships can only work when 2 people are ready to make it work. However, like we said before, it is totally up to you to make. We hope this helps

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Hey Pclassic! Thanks for the comment. You sound like having a girlfriend right now is the ultimate goal and a do or die affair. This is actually making us worried because being desperate will not help you. There is more to having a girlfriend than just 'toasting' her or trying to win her heart. Why do you want a girlfriend so bad? What do you want to achieve in a relationship? What are your specs for a girlfriend or do you go after just any girl? Are you ready for the responsibilities of a relationship? You need to calm down and answer all these questions and be genuine about the answers you are giving yourself. You need to set these things straight before going into a relationship. We hope this helps

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Hey Jbgold! First of all, not every relationship has to be sexual. You can actually date someone without having sex with them. Also, there is really no big deal about it. If you are not ready to have sex, please say No and stand your ground. Any guy that claims to love you will respect your decision. No one should force you to have sex when you are not ready for it. Finally, if you must have sex, please use a condom to prevent pregnancy and other sexually transmitted diseases. We hope this helps

to be honest...it's a big sin..wait until marriage the bible says for your body is the holy temple of the most high but I know it's not easy we just have to pray and tell God to help us overcome every temptation

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Hey Springster! This is wrong and we do not validate this in any way. You should not date more than one guy, it just shows that the person actually doesn't know what they want. You will be stressing yourself and the other guys physically, emotionally and mentally. How will you feel if you find out the guy you love has several girlfriends too? Remember, treat others right/well so that they can treat you well too. We hope this helps

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Hey 5830! If your boyfriend breaks up with you because you refused to have sex with him, LET HIM GO, GIRL! He doesn't deserve you. No one should ever force you to have sex with them. Sex is not love in any way. You should be thankful that he showed you his true color. Don't let this make you sad okay? Do not let anyone pressure you into having sex with them. The only time you should have sex is when you are ready for it. Put a smile on your face darling, you are special. We hope this helps

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Hey zere! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We are glad to have you here too. Long distance relationships require work and lots of patience. What you need to do is to always be in touch with other. Call,chat, message each other and just generally be in touch. Do no beat yourself up about what you can do to make it work. Just do your best and be genuine but do not let it affect your academics in any way. We hope this helps

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Sex is not a one-way thing. It is not just about you. If the girl is not ready to have sex, there is really nothing that can be done. You need to find out if she is also ready for sex and if you are ready for the responsibility that comes with having sex. These responsibilities include; pregnancy, infections, STDs/STIs etc. You must think of these before you start to think of usas sex because anything can happen.

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Hey COLLINS! Thanks for the comment. You do not have to feel awkward. There is no particular age for you to start dating. You can be 25 and not have a girlfriend.. what matters most is the fact that you are ready for the relationship. If you do not have full and complete interest in dating, you should not bother about going into a relationship yet until you are sure that you can handle this responsibility fully. Do not feel pressured or awkward, there is no need to hurry okay? We hope this helps

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Hey splen! Thanks for the comment. You need to first find out if she is ready to be kissed. Kissing is not just a one-way thing. Your girlfriend also has to be ready before you both can do it. So this is a very important conversation you both need to have first. Don't just jump at it. Also, if she says she is not ready, you should not in any way force her to it. She has a right to do what she wants and choose what she also wants. We hope this helps

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Hey Gazelle! Thanks for the comment. You need to politely let him know that you are not yet ready to be in a relationship. Let him know that you appreciate his niceness but you are not ready for a relationship and so you won't start you can't sustain. Remember to be polite about it. We hope this helps.

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Hey Ayomide! Thanks for the comment. There is no particular age for you to start dating. You need to be ready for the responsibilities of a relationship before you get into it. We hope this helps

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Hey camila! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you need to know that crushes never last long so if you have a crush on someone, in no time, the feelings you have for the person will fade/die. We know that it is a good feeling for a crush to pay attention to you but you need to consider what will happen when that feeling dies. Will you end the relationship (break his heart) and move to the next person? You need to think about this properly and not just about the moment. We hope this helps

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Hey Springster! Do nothing about this! Any guy that cannot respect your decision on issues like sex probably does not love you. Sex is not love! You have a right to say No to sex and no one should be angry at you for that. You own your body and you have a right to own it fully. If he loves you like he claims, he will respect your decision. Do not let anyone pressure you into having sex. We hope this helps

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Hey Urudia! Thanks for the comment. If you want something in life and you are sure that is what is best for you, you should try your best to get that thing done. Purpose and hard work are the perfect combination. We do not understand the second part of your question. Please explain better. Thanks

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Hey GIG! Thanks for the comment. The first thing you need to do is to find out (by yourself) what you want in a partner. Once you know this, you won't be confused on what you need to do and on whom to choose. Do not be in a hurry because they are all asking you to be in a relationship with them. Take your time to know what you want and then work with it. We hope this helps

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Hey geary! This is a personal decision. Does the girl want to be romanced? Or is it the boy that wants to romance his girlfriend? No one should be forced or compelled to do what they do not want to do. However, the final decision is up to the girl to make. We hope this helps

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Hey Lillywhite! This is a personal decision and it is totally up to you to make. We hope this helps

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Hey Chilives! Thanks for the comment. You need to stop worrying about little things. You are in charge of your relationship and what you want out of it. Do not listen to what people think should happen in your relationship. The moment you start doing this, you will start to worry about nothing. No, your age has nothing to do with your readiness for a relationship. No, there is nothing wrong with having so many boys asking you out. They find you attractive or they feel you are easy to get. Like we said earlier, you are bothering yourself about nothing. We hope this helps

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Hey lisabel! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry for what your friend is going through right now. We understand that it can be really painful and she has every right to be hurt. You need to be very patient with her as she is really heart broker. Try to distract her by doing things that she loves to do. Let her be occupied as often as possible as possible. Also, it is okay for her to cry. Tears can also relieve her. Let her know that this is a bad experience now but it will be something that can guide her decision making in the future. Remember that she is really sensitive right now and you have to be careful with the way you deal with her. Tell her big sister empathize with her and we hope she heals fast. Love, big sister

thanks

why we she open her leg so easily,which one we she get over first, d fast he had sex with her and dump her or he broke his heart,......just be there for her as a friend

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Hey Springster! There are certain times in your life that you should be careful about who you listen to. When it comes to a relationship, if you are comfortable with what you want (and you are sure of what you want), listening to other people can be a distraction to you. Your decision is final when it comes to things like this but be sure that you really know what you want. We hope this helps

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Goodness The truth no what will be needing a boyfriend for it is irrelevant to you rite now u need to focus more on yourself and your studies which probably should be your main goal

Hey Goodness! Thanks for the comment. There is no particular age to start dating. Getting into a relationship is all about your maturity and has nothing to do with your age. You have to be sure that you are ready for all the responsibilities that come with being in a relationship. There is also nothing wrong with having a crush on someone but you should note that crushes tend to die after a short time. So choosing to date someone because you have a crush on them is not a good idea because the crush will definitely die/end and then what next? Think about it well and please do not allow anyone to pressure you. We hope this helps

Hey GabY! We understand that you are trying to help but trying to impose your opinion on Goodness is not fair. This is an open platform and just making her feel like she is bad for having a crush or asking a question is wrong. We do not promote such on this platform. Thanks for understanding.

Noted big sis but I didn't mean it to sound dat way

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Hey Annamontez42! Thanks for the comment. Having a crush on a guy does not mean that you love the person. Crush and love are 2 entirely different things but one thing we know is that crush is not love. You need to know that you should not just accept to be in a relationship because relationships come with lots of responsibility and it is better to be single than to be in a relationship you are not sure about. Never rush into a relationship because you are under pressure or because you feel you have a crush on the person. We hope this helps

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Hey NIKKICHI! Thanks for opening up through this comment. The final decision is up to you to make. However, you need to note that having a crush is not in anyway love. Crushes tend to die after a short time so it is not advisable to date someone that you have a crush on. Also, you should never date someone you do not know. You should get to know the person you want to go into a relationship very well before you start. You do not want to enter a danger zone just because you want to be in a relationship. We hope this helps

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Hey Lar13! That is what crushes are... they tend to die after a short time. Crushes are not meant to last for long at all so you do not have to be worried. We hope this helps

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Hey Bankz! Thanks for this. We are so glad to have helped you overcome this. Thanks for this amazing feedback. Feel free to invite your friends.

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Is lyin and tryin to get under ur skirt n dump you. am 25yr male and virgin by GOD grace hav never sleep wit a woman n am never sick at all, am jst waiting for a gud lady to get marry to before sex. YOU CAN'T B SICK WHEN YOU DON'T HAVE SEX...IT TOTAL LIES...WATCH OUT N BECAREFUL

thanks for opening up n saying ur heart: Is also up to u if u want to fall to is term... but no that most guy run away from relationshp when the get what they want.

Hey Springster! We cannot say for sure if this is true. However, what we know is that if you are not ready to have sex, no one should force or blackmail you into having sex with them. The only time you should have sex with someone is when you are fully ready for it. If he feels sick because he has not had sex for a while, you should not be the person he should talk to, he should see a doctor for that. You should only have sex when you feel ready for it okay? We hope this helps

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Hey Kola_Wole! Talking to girls should not be hard. You can start by taking things slow e.g smile at them, say hello to them, offer to help them out with whatever you think they need help with, introduce yourself and ask for their information, talk about general things that you both have interest in. It may look so easy but we know that you may still find it difficult. What you need to know is that this is a process and you should not rush to make friends with people so that they do not misinterpret your intentions. We have written so many articles on confidence that we feel can be of help to you. All you need to do is to search for #confidence at the bottom of the page and read all the stories that you think will be of help to you. We hope this helps

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Hey Sprinsgter! This is a personal decision. There is no particular age for you to start dating. You should date when you are ready for the responsibilities that come with relationships and not when you reach a particular age. We hope this helps

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if he truly ur bestie,u sud av already tld him u r already dating.if nt u cn still do dat,he sud understand.plus dating ur bestie is nt advisable,u mite lose him faster den sef

Hey Springster! We agree with Raphael on this one. Your bestie should be aware of the fact that you are already in a relationship. You cannot go into a relationship with someone because you are scared to lose the friendship, the truth is that you will lose that friendship faster than you can imagine. Politely let him know that you are in a relationship already and you really appreciate and like your friendship the way it is. If he truly values the friendship, he will see reasons with you. We hope this helps

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Hey Fi_Ona! This decision is totally up to you. We cannot tell you what to do as regards this. We hope this helps

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Hey KKDIVA! Thanks for the comment. You are not spoiling her as long as you are giving her information that is good for her and will not make her try something awkward. We hope this helps

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Hey ruty! This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. Be sure of what you are going into and you both should define your relationship before you start. We hope this helps

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Hey Bebe! Thanks for the comment. You need to let him know (politely) that you do not like what he is doing. He is not being mature and he is spreading rumors about you which is not cool. The earlier you tell him this, the better. We hope this helps

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Hey candy! Thanks for the comment. This can be very tricky because you could really lose your friend if he doesn't feel the same way. You need to weigh the options properly. Think about it and know if this is the best decision for you. We cannot tell you what decision to make but you have to think about it well. We hope this helps

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Hey oseruware! Thanks for the comment. There is no particular age for you to start dating or to go into a relationship. You have to be ready in every way and be sure that you can handle the responsibilities that come with it. We hope this helps

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Hey Dre! There is no manual on how to toast a girl so we cannot give you tips on this. We hope this helps

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Hey Adetutu860! Thanks for the comment. There is nothing wrong with being single. However, it is a personal decision and up to you to determine what you want for yourself. We hope this helps

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Hey Trace! Trust is meant to be earned. We cannot give you tips on how to gain someone's trust. You need to work hard and do everything possible to earn the trust of your girlfriend. Relationships come with lots of responsibilities and you have to be ready to handle them. We hope this helps

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Hey Viviana! There is no crime in having a boyfriend but the only time where there will be a crime is when you go into the relationship for the wrong reasons or for no reason at all. The question should not be about whether he loves you, you should also ask yourself 1. if you love him 2. If he is the right person for you and 3. What your relationship goals are. We hope this helps

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Hey chify! Thanks for the comment. The thing about relationships is that you need to be ready for the responsibilities that come with the relationship. No one should force you or make you go into a relationship with someone. Take your time girl, do not just test to see if you can handle it or not. Know what you want from a partner and also what you want in the relationship before you go into any relationship. We hope this helps

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Hey king! Thanks for the comment. Before you tell her how you feel, you need to get to know her better. Having a crush does not mean that you love the person. You need to get to know her better and become friends with her first. Telling her you have a crush on her does not mean that she likes you too. We hope this helps

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Hey tekno! Thanks for the comment. Having the urge for sex is perfectly normal. It is what you do with the urge that matters. What you can do to get over the urge and temptation is to do things that will keep you busy and engage your mind. Sex and the urge for sex start from the mind. Once you occupy your mind with something worthy like a new book, learning a skill or hobby, gisting with friends etc. We hope this hellps

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I tink u Suld tell d guy So ur mind willl be free

Hey kellybarbie! Thanks for the comment. You really shouldn't do anything about it. Crushes don't last for long as the feelings will fade away after a short time. What you can do is to get to know him better but do not express how you feel. Just don't be too forward. We hope this helps

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Hey Pre111! Thanks for the comment. We do not understand your comment and will appreciate if you explain it better for us. We look forward to the reviewed comment. Thanks

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Hey akilo123! There is no particular age for you to start dating a guy. You should only start dating when you are ready for the responsibilities that come with dating. We hope this helps

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Hey kelly6! Thanks for the comment. Do nothing about it girl. If he truly loves you like he claims, he will understand and not be angry. Why is it so important for you to visit him in his house alone? It means that he has other plans. Please, this guy is not worth it. Anyone that wants you to see them in private so badly, then they should be suspected. Do not stress yourself over this too much okay? We hope this helps

thanks big sis u are d best

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Hey Virtuoso! Welcome back, it has been a while. The best way to talk to a girl you like is to first be friends with her. There is no need to be in a hurry to tell her you like her. You need to get to know her better first and get talking (earn her trust) before you should start discussing feelings. You should start by saying "Hi" to her and just talk. Once you become friends, it will be easier to express your feelings to her. You also need to know her better and be sure that you really like her before you start asking her out. We hope this helps

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Hey Adury! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you are more than enough so do not say that he is too much for you. Tell him about it. Let him know that you are not interested in all of these things and if he respects and loves you, he will respect your decision. The most important thing is for you to communicate your feelings to him. We hope this helps

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Hey teska! Thanks for the comment. We cannot tell you what to say to him because you will be in the relationship with him and not us. You need to make a decision and be sure of what you want first before you get into a relationship with him. Does he fit the description of what you want in a guy? We hope this helps

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Hey girl! Thanks for the comment. You didn't ask a question. If you want a response, please ask a genuine question that big sister can answer. We hope this helps

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Hey blackgold! Thanks for the comment. Everyone has what they want from a relationship but keeping it a secret, we do not know about that. You both need to have a conversation about this and let him know how you feel about it. If he is proud of you, he should be willing to tell his friends about you. Open up and let him know how you feel and also ask him why he isn't proud to show you off to his friends as his girlfriend. We hope this helps

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Hey bella! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about this. You need to be strong and you also need to heal. Once again, we are sorry about this. We hope this helps

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Hey Henry! Thanks for the comment. There is no particular age to start dating. This is a personal decision and you need to be sure that you are ready for the responsibilities that come with being in a relationship. Your age does not make you ready for a relationship. We hope this helps

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Hey Princess! There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.

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Hey Haywhydavid9! There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.

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Hey cuba! Thanks for the comment. Please do not feel pressured to go into a relationship. There is no hurry or late comer in this. You need to be sure of what you want and the person you choose before you get into a relationship. Please, do not be in a hurry because you may end up making a wrong decision. Take your time so that you can get it right. Jumping in and out of relationships is not fun (trust me). We hope this helps

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if u feel u r ready n not pressured to do it n dat he really feels dsame den y'all can get married

Hey Salma! This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. Marriage is a decision you have to make. We hope this helps

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Hey slake! Thanks for the comment. You are in the best position to know when you will be ready to have a partner and not us. The only thing you need to know is that you should not be under pressure to have a partner. You have to be mature enough and also be ready for the responsibilities that come with relationships. We hope this helps

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Hey caro! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We are so sorry about what you went through. It is important for you to know and remember it is not your fault something like this happened and should not blame yourself. You need to talk to a trusted adult about this because someone around you needs to know what happened. There is a Child Advocacy Center where they help and give professional advice to young people in situations like this on what they can do to be safe. You can call them on 08 00 80 080 01. This service is completely confidential - which means they won't share what you say to them with other people. It is free which means you don’t not need to have credit before you call them. We hope this helps

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Hey enyola! Your friends are very wrong. There is no need for you to be in a relationship that you know will not last. There is no crime in waiting as long as you are waiting for the right person. Do not be in a hurry to have a boyfriend... There is no attendance that picks the last person to get into a relationship. You need to take your time. Do not feel pressured, be sure you know what you want and also know that you should be mature and ready for the responsibilities that come with being in a relationship too. We hope this helps

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I think it depends. If u feel you are ready and if the guys shares your values and not someone who will make u do things you don't want to

Hey Foedalstar! Thanks for the comment. You should never date someone because you are under pressure. The same pressure will make you leave the same relationship. Please note that you should only date someone because you like them and most importantly because you are ready to be in a relationship. We hope this helps

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about what you are going through. We understand how you feel and we get how sad it can be too. The truth is that not all girls are the same. Also, please note that the fact that you love someone does not mean that they should automatically love you back. Love is a personal decision and it is different for everyone. It is better to know the person well before you start to fall in love (yes, it can be hard) but you need to be sure of what you are falling in love with. Is this person willing to go all the way with you? Does this person see a future with you? Going into a relationship requires a lot of effort and it is also a huge responsibility too. We advise that you take your time. Do not be in a hurry to fall in love right now. You need to know what you want for yourself and also what you want from a partner. This will guide you in choosing the right person. We hope this helps

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Hey Sprinsgter! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. Just be sure that you are responsible for your actions and you should think about it properly (cause and effect) when you want to make this decision. We hope this helps

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Hey Sophia! Thanks for the comment. The fact that you are 19 does not mean that you should have a date. There is no perfect age for one to be in a relationship. Since you do not see the need for it, there is no need for you force it to happen. We hope this helps

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Hey Sandra1! Thanks for the comment. All these questions are personal. We cannot give you answers to them. You have to think about it and decide for yourself what you want. We hope this helps

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Hey excel! Thanks for the comment. You need to know what you want for yourself in terms of a relationship. Think about what you want in a boyfriend and also what you want out of a relationship. This way, you know that it is not every guy that talks about a relationship that you will say yes to. This is all about self-discipline and really has nothing to do with being brainwashed. You need to know that it is not every boy that comes to you that you should say yes to. Eventually, every boy will know that you easily say yes to them and they will stop respecting you. Think about it well. We hope this helps

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Hey vicky! Thanks for the comment. First of all, crush is not love and it is a good thing that you know that this is a crush. The thing about crushes is that they do not last long and the feelings fade after a short time. So we do not advise you to go all out and let him know how you feel when there are high chances of the feelings fading. What you can do is to get closer to him and get to know him better. You may talk more and get to know him more instead of just telling him that you have a crush. We hope this helps

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Hey Cindy! Thanks for the comment. First of all, there is no manual on how to get a boyfriend. Secondly, it is not advisable for you to date a guy because you have a crush on him. Like we have said many times, crush is not love. A crush is not enough for you to date a guy. Dating a guy is beyond feelings. You need to be prepared mentally, physically, emotionally and in many other ways. You also have to be mature and know what it is that you want. Please, do not be in a hurry to get into a relationship. We hope this helps

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Hey Aeeiah! Thanks for the comment. You need to know what exactly he wants you to do in his house. Please note that if you have any doubt in your mind and you do not trust him, do not go there. If you do not want to be intimate with a guy, try as much as possible to let him know (very important) and also, avoid being in enclosed and lonely places with him. We hope this helps

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Hey berry_teddy! Thanks for the comment. You should do nothing about it. It doesn't change the fact that he was still your teacher and he is still much older than you. It is best for you to let this go okay? What you had for him was a crush back then and it is over. We hope this helps

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Hey Busu! Thanks for the comment. Having a relationship with the family of the girl is different from knowing her. Also, you do not love her because you do not have a personal relationship with her. If she does not talk back to you, there is nothing you can do about it but please note that you shouldn't be talking about love with someone that you do not even talk to. We hope this helps

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i think u should breakup with him , your decision as a lady matters alot, and befor going into a relationship

you should knwn the reason and why. don't go into a relationship becus my frens ar dating,nd never go agst ur decision

Hi Shukkzy... I don't think LoveLove's first idea is cool... but the second in my opinion is like a phrase/a clause let me complete it... Aiit... All you need to do is work on yourself... ask and find justified answers to the following questions... What attracted me to Him? What Made me say Yes to Him? Why Do I want out of this relationship Now? Then Ask yourself if I leave this relationship... what would be his position in my Life? If you can answer these questions then FriendZone him for a while.... if the feeling to quit the relationship is still there then Sit him down and explain to him all that you feel and Friend Zone him... for life 😂 and everyone is happy ________________ George

Hey shukkzy! Thanks for the comment. You have already made up your mind and you should do what you have in mind. The moment you are not interested in a relationship, you should end it immediately because pretending to the person is worse than breaking up with them. There is no way to end a relationship that will not hurt them. Do not bother yourself about what others have to say. Just politely let him know that you are no longer interested in the relationship with him and that's it. We hope this helps

hi shukkys I actually don't think that when you break up with him is bad but before you do that think if I was in his shoes,I understand you don't want to date him anymore but before you do it call him that you don't want to date again that you want to be single again tell him that breaking up with him does not mean you guys can't be friends and make him to understand so that he won't feel heart broken.

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Hey Hilda_peryl! Thanks for the comment. You should get him out of your mind because he is taken. How will you feel if your friend did the same thing to you or even told you that she loves your boyfriend? You need to get over your feelings for him. Whether or not they pretend they are not together does not matter but the fact that they are dating means that he is out of bound. We hope this helps

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Hey Save! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. We hope this helps

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Hey DELPHINE! Thanks for the comment. Please do nothing about it. What she did was not right and he has every right to stop talking to him. We will even advise him to avoid the girl. Please do not try to intervene in this situation or force him to be friends with her. Friendship is voluntary and should not be forced or imposed on anyone. We hope this helps

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Hey Beauty! Thanks for the comment. There is a difference between "wanting a boyfriend" and "being ready to have a boyfriend". The fact that you want one does not mean that you are ready for a boyfriend. Being afraid means that you shouldn't be having a boyfriend right now. You need to know what is making you afraid first and then address that thing before you get into a relationship. Also, you need to know why you are going into a relationship and also want you want out of that relationship. Relationships come with lots of responsibilities and you have to be ready for it. We hope this helps

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Hey Andrea! Thanks for the comment. We advise you to talk to your boyfriend about this whenever you feel that way. Communication is very important in relationships. We hope this helps

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Hey beautifulgold! Thanks for the comment. There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurizing you to do it. We hope this helps.

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Hey prescott! Thanks for the comment. There is no manual on how to get a companion. This is personal but you need to know what you want for yourself and out of your companion before you get one. This will serve as a guide. If you can, please talk to a trusted adult for guidance too. We hope this helps

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Hey Linda! Thanks for the comment. It is ideal that you talk to a trusted adult about things like this for guidance and also for your own safety. If your mum is the adult that you trust, then she should be aware. We hope this helps

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Hey virtue234! Thanks for the comment. Your friend needs to first of all understand that this guy is 9 years older than her. There are some red flags involved when you date someone much older. She needs to talk to a trusted adult about this and he also has to be willing to see an adult she trusts if he is really genuine and not out for something else. Another thing that is really important to note is the fact that she may not even be in love with him. Love is very deep and much more than what we all say it is. You cannot love someone that you do not know. So she needs to ask herself "how well does she know him?" It is beyond knowing his name and where he lives but it is about knowing and understanding him well. Until she properly knows him, she only has a crush on him. We hope this helps

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Hey Ryan5! Thanks for the comment. Masturbation (especially among teenagers and girls your age) is normal because you are at a stage where you are trying to figure out your body and also explore. So many people your age do this so it is normal. Masturbation is frowned on by most cultures and religions. Also, getting addicted to masturbation can affect you sexually later on in life. If you really want to stop it, you need to make up your mind and make sure you stick to it. Also, look for a strong distraction that will keep you busy all the time so that you won't have the time to masturbate. We hope this helps

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why is it that anytime i see a girl i start manstruating and my body will be vibrating and i have never taste sex before

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Hey King2! Thanks for the comment. The fact that you do not have feelings for any girl has nothing to do with you being a worker in church for a long time or you not going to church anymore. You probably have not seen a girl you like at the moment and no matter how beautiful she is, as long as you are not attracted to her, you will not like her. The way forward is to keep being who you are. You do not need a girl in your life before you move forward. Live your life and when the girl comes, you will see that she is everything will work out fine. You do not have to stop all your activities to find a girl. We hope this helps

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no he wont ask for sex if he truely love you except he is pretending to you that he love you, and after that sex he will dump you and go away to another lady and you may or may not get someone who will marry at the end so it is not good at all

Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Sex is not love. No guy needs sex to prove that he loves you. Sex and love are two different things . If a guy truly loves you, he will not wait to have sex with you to prove that he loves you. He will respect you the way you are especially if you say No to sex. We hope this helps

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Hey floxy4christ! Thanks for the comment. It is not advisable to date someone online. We do not advise this because people tend to pretend to be who they are not online. If a guy asks you for sex, whether you see him or not, you should be able to say NO. If he does not respect your decision to stay away from sex, then he does not love you. We hope this helps

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Hey Basim! Thanks for the comment. There is no particular age for you to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. You have to be mature enough to handle the responsibilities that come with being in a relationship. Yes, you should tell a trusted adult about it if you have to go into a relationship. We hope this helps

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hello adoka boyfriend actually can be kind of easy but for me if am dating a guy that claims he likes me before we start dating I do have things I don't want you to do so that you won't hurt my feelings.

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u can easily ask google LOL.

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Hey Barbie! Thanks for the comment. We are so glad that you love this group and you are learning a lot from us. Comments like this make us happy. Please feel free to invite your friends. Big Sis loves you too.

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Hey Tip! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you need to know that crush is not love. You are already mixing them up. You need to know that you cannot love someone that you know nothing about. Also, note that a crush will not last for long and the more you keep on holding on to the person, the more forced it becomes. We hope this helps

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There's no big deal in telling a girl or guy u love them if the answer is no then move on Good luck🙋🙋

Hey Smecky! Thanks for the comment and please note that you are not barging in on us. You are welcome to Springster. First of all, you are not even sure if you even liked the girl in the first place so there is no need to make a fuss out of it because it is most likely just a crush and not even love. You also do not have to directly walk up to her to tell her how you feel. What you need to do is to get to know her better and also know what it is that she likes and doesn't like. Be friends with her first before you can even know if you have feelings for her or not. We hope this helps

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Hey Tonya! Thanks for the comment. Does this guy know more than your name? Does he know you personally? How did you both get to meet each other? How often do you communicate? These questions are important to even know if he knows you well enough to like you talk less of loving you. As regards the answer to give to him, you do not have to be in a hurry because you do not even know him well enough to like him. Also, for you to even be thinking about it means that you do not even like him. We hope this helps

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Hey Whitney! Thanks for the comment. Love is deep... deeper than what we normally call it. What makes you both so sure that you love each other? You need to be very sure of this. What to do is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. We hope this helps

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Hey Springster! There are different ways people show this and there is no manual to show the steps because guys are different and will use different tactics. You just need to be very careful and also not be in a hurry to give in to sex. We hope this helps

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. You do not need a boyfriend to feel good about yourself. If you even get a boyfriend now, it means that your happiness and your satisfaction will revolve around him which is not safe for you. Please, there is no age limit for having a boyfriend or being in a relationship so you need to know that. Your self esteem should not be about having a boyfriend or not. Please, keep your head up high and know your worth because a guy SHOULD NOT be the one to determine that. We hope this helps

theirs nothing absolutely wrong with you is just that Mr perfect has not yet arrived.

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Hey Princess! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal information and this is up to both parties to make. We hope this helps

Tanz so much big sis

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. You need to stop what you are doing now because you are probably making his wife and his kids sad and you are taking his attention from them. How will you feel if someone did this to your mum or even to you? We do not support this at all. You need to know that you are in total control of your feelings. Please stop this. We hope this helps

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it's possible but not at this tender age of yours girl.

Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Dating is one thing and marriage is a whole different ball game. @jbaby005 has said it all. You both are way to young to even start thinking of marriage. No matter how "in love" you both with each other, marriage is not an option at this time. We hope this helps

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Hey spunky! Thanks for the comment. One experience is never enough to conclude that this is your personality. It could be that you keep thinking about the experience over and again so it you just conclude that this is what you like and who you are. We advise that you take your time and do not be in a hurry to conclude. Also talk to a trusted adult for guidance. We hope this helps

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Add me up jhydey whayar on Facebook Gf needed💖💖

Hey Deblast! Thanks for the comment. Being 19 years old does not automatically mean that you should have a boyfriend? Getting a boyfriend has nothing to do with your age and if you feel like it has to do with it, it means that you do not understand the essence of being in a relationship. You need to ask your parents why they feel that way so that understand where they are coming from. Also, if you feel like you are really ready for it, you need to be in one, you should tell them your reasons why. We hope this helps

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this comment made me to believe you are a boy don't worry when you get married you will see it,I can't explain how it looks like but I think big sis might.

Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. If you female, you really shouldn't be asking that question because it is easy for you to get a mirror and look at yours. If you are a guy, you can always google it to see images and also detailed description. We hope this helps

Big sis and jbaby 005- he said virginia not vagina, u guys misunderstand him, he means virginia.....my dear., virginia is a name of a person, it is not an object and it is not an organ

but the closest thing to what he said is vagina ,and if it not big sis has answered ,he should Google search .

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Hi everyone.

Hello Bayley can we be friends?

thank u miss advicer.

Yes we can be frnds.

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Hi klaus1, boys are welcome feel free. From bayley.

Klaus boys are all allowed here we are all here to learn remember?

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. The fact that you have a crush on a guy does not mean that he will automatically like you back. Most times, the guys we have a crush on do not even like us and this should not make you feel bad at all. We are not saying that he doesn't like you right now but there's a way to know! We have an article titled "Does he like me?". This has all the answers to your question. We hope this helps

Pls Big sis were can I get that article does he like me ? Is it from relationship pls help me

Well u can actually ASk HIM!

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of course girl but only if you are ready for it girl.

Hey lillyrose! Thanks for the comment. There is no particular age for you to start dating. You need to know that age has nothing to do with maturity. You have to be mature enough to enter into a relationship and also be ready for the huge responsibility that comes with it. We hope this helps

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Hey Cleverbae! Thanks for the comment. Relationships come with a lot of responsibilities and if you are not ready to handle these responsibilities, then you are not ready for a relationship. The fact that you both don't keep in touch is enough for you both to keep in touch with each other. You need to ask each other what exactly is it that you both want from a relationship because if you do not know this, there is no way you both will move the relationship forward. Suspecting that he is cheating is not enough, if you want to be in a relationship then you have to be ready to act it and then also keep in touch with him. We hope this helps

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Lil kesh

you got it Beth1 you are really good,but I gave expo self OK another one who is known as mama Africa in Nigeria music industry, this one is really tough but am sure you will get it.

I feel so sorry dat i hav not answer this question since is just now that i saw it....my dear is YEMI ALADE who sang JONNY (Wow u just remember my lovely music now)

yep that's so true u got it.

Of course i know i will got it, because i am a lover of music... i such much love music and it makes me h-a-p-p-y

Mtchew..... Lil kesh won't even be part of my top 100 celebrity crush but it's a choice. Don't be angry oh!

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Hey Pablo! Thanks for the comment. The only person that can answer this question is your girlfriend. You need to talk to her about it. We hope this helps

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Big sis is always here for u

Hey Mikybaby! Thanks for the comment. What help do you need?

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there's actually no precise age for dat but I advice u to wait till u are ready and matured enough to handle a relationship.I hope dis helps.

Hey Inexhan1234! Thanks for the comment. There is no particular age for you to start dating. You have to be mature enough and also ready to handle the responsibilities that come with being in a relationship. We hope this helps

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Hi shontle if u both still love each other I think u should carry on but u really have to be careful,OK,nice meeting u.

K tanks so much jbaby

Hey Shontle! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision for you to make but the moment you start questioning the reason why you are in the relationship, then there is a problem. What it means is that you do not even know why you are in the relationship in the first place. We hope this helps

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have what now please, I don't understand u please.

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Age doesn't matter... It's love datz matter's..

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Hi vibez

hi vibez and cutie how are u

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plz snd me yr pix

Let me make u feal happy girl

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Why are u sad

Why are you sad?

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Ur question is actually really funny, but if u think u have been having too much or u feel that it's affecting u in anyway then u should try stopping, but I just hope u know d dangers of having sex and that ur not just doing it for fun

How older u now pls

Hey Mhiz! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. We cannot tell you when to start and when to stop. All we can advise is for you to always use protection to prevent getting STDs/STIs, HIV or even getting pregnant. We also advise that you talk to a trusted adult about this for guidance. We hope this helps

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if u are ready then go for it

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You have to consider one out of your toasters by testing him a lot and noticing if he has true love for you if he does,,you're good to go

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Yeah it's normal if there's true love between you and him

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Is that So... Just observing oo

funny boy. better do!

I really love that that more like a serious person

that's true, sometimes having a boyfriend seems more like a distraction, you'll be always worried of his ways about,how he is doing,if he has eaten, and sometimes when your parents don't know about him,what lies to tell your parents in order to hang out with him. All this might make you lose focus in you studies.

it's better to face your studies, boyfriends can wait till when you have time for them. I'm better of without a boyfriend now, I'll have a boyfriend when I choose to have it and when I have time for them

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Crush

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Make eye contact with him

Just like you said it is a crush and I believe with time you'll get over him. I suggest you focus more on your future, let your heart beat day by day for where who you dream to be in the next 5 years. Hope this helps.

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No dear its just too young to start thinking of that👍