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Hey Springster,
We know you are at the stage where you want to know a lot of things.
You probably have questions and no one to ask.
You probably feel shy to ask. You don’t want anyone to judge you.
You want someone to listen to you. You want someone to advice you.
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She wants to listen to you as you talk about friends, boys, your body, puberty, fashion and everything else.
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Big sis pls can I have sex tomorrow after my period has finished today with a condom, will I get pregnant
May 17, 2023, 3:07 p.m.
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Pls what should I do to reduce the pain after disvirgining and secondly can I take any pain relief after having sex for the first time to reduce pain
May 17, 2023, 3:03 p.m.
Big sis my sis said i should Nt date at my age Nd am 15 Bt She dated at dat age Nd there is a boy i Lk should i listen to ha or Nt
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Clear! Thanks for the comment. Age is not a good way to tell whether or not you are ready to date. The fact that your sister said that you should not date at this age means that she probably has a reason for it. Why don't you politely ask her why she doesn't want you to date and hear her out. That will be a good way to hear her opinion. We hope this helps
Y is it dah smtimes ovulation re very very painful in some months compaired to oda months?? And is there a way to avoid the pains??
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Am 19 and I don't have a boyfriend... Am so scared of boys I don't know why... Have Never had a boyfriend...
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey coly! Why are you scared of boys? Boys are meant to be your friends and you should not be scared of them. Find out why you are scared of boys first before you have a boyfriend okay? When you do, face it and fight it. We hope this helps
Hello big sis.have already ask my question,so pls help me to ans dem.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Big sister i really likes this pagae, my question here is,does bible warns about pornography and fornication? If yes why so many lovers having sex before marriage isn't prohibited ,
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Cute! First of all, not everyone that follows these things are Christians and some of them do not believe in the bible. Also, our country and government does not use the bible as the constitution but rather, they follow the constitution of the country to rule us and so such cannot be prohibited. So this is very personal and depends on the individual. We hope this helps
Hey G-xtin! Ovulation is not meant to be painful. If you experience pain, please talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor immediately. We hope this helps
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
hi big sis is masturbation bad 4 girls
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Springster! It may not physically affect the body but it may affect you in other ways. Being addicted to masturbation can have a negative impact on your relationships and other parts of your life. Masturbating too much may interrupt your work or studies, which can lower productivity. We hope this helps
hi big sis .I know is not good to bleach.am light chocolate buh am very susceptible to tan under sun.shld I still buy a toning/bleaching Cream.cuz sunscreen makes me hot and am a sweaty person
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Chickchary! We cannot advise you to bleach. Why don't you look for a brand of sunscreen that will suit your skin instead of bleaching/toning. We hope this helps
hi sis can you suggest a course of study in science a woman can do very well
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Springster! There are no courses for men and women. You are free to do any course you want to do as long as you are passionate about it. We hope this helps
big sis Hw fa.wat do I do to get money.I always feel so lazy and very tired.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Springster! You cannot get money if you always feel lazy and tired. You have to overcome that laziness first. There is nothing you can do to make money if you are lazy and tired. Remember the saying, No food for a lazy man. Get up and overcome that laziness. We hope this helps
IF u always want to look gud .And any time u look gud pple always say u are lookin 4 something .IN dat case wat will u do
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey KIMMY! Thanks for the comment. What do you mean by looking for something? Please explain better so that we can give you answers. Thanks
there is a guy who tell his friend he like me i don't know what to do but any time i try to talk to me he tries to ignore me but he stay at me always
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey damilola! Thanks for the comment. This could be a combination of things. You need to confirm if his friend was telling the truth. If he was, then he is probably shy. Staring doesn't mean love too you know. We hope this helps
there is a guy who tell his friend he like me i don't know what to do but any time i try to talk to me he tries to ignore me but he stay at me always
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
i work hard in my studies but still repeat
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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U will have to work hard more
Hey Springster! So sorry to hear that. What you probably need to do is to come up with a study plan on how you want to pass and get promoted. You can put in a certain percentage for notes and continuous assessment, another percentage for tests and projects and then another percentage for exams. Strive to reach all the percentages by passing your tests and projects, getting a good score in your CA and then passing your exams too. This way, you are not just studying but strategically studying. We hope this helps
Hey.. big sis . please am really geting fat and i dont lik excercise pls tel me what to do
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Dance or squat in d night until u start sweating
Hey Shania! You can try dieting and eating right if you don't want to exercise but please note that it will take a longer time. Try not to eat after 7 pm, don't miss breakfast, eat in smaller portions, eat fruits and vegetables. We hope this helps
Hi am new
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
what does having a boyfriend means and is it good to have a boyfriend
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey damilola! Having a boyfriend means that you have a special friend that you really really like (in fact, love) and you always want to talk to, share dreams with, spend time with etc. Having a boyfriend is a personal decision and so it is up to you and how ready you are. We hope this helps
I AM 14 BUT I HAVE NOT SEEN ANY SIGN OF PUBERTY WHY?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey ABAS! Thanks for the comment. Do you mean that you have not yet seen pubic hair, hair in your armpits or your breasts have not grown at all? Puberty is not just about seeing your period or ovulating, there is more to puberty than that. If you haven't seen any of these signs, it is still not something to be worried about. Some people are late bloomers and tend to start late. We hope this helps
Hi,Big sis i hve a boyfriend. while we were still in skul i knew he loved me a lot bt right now am tryin hard nt to doubt his love 4 me,he hardly calls/texts me nd anytym i call nd ask y he doesnt call he tells me he doesnt hve card. i feel lyk am alone /am beggin him 4 relationship . i doubted his love once nd it caused a quarrel? pls advice me
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey wonder! Thanks for opening up through this comment. What you need to do is to is to talk to your boyfriend about this. Let him know about your worries and you both should talk things out. There is nothing communication cannot solve. You both should talk about it. We hope this helps
Big sis my friend advice me not to have boyfriend but she has like five boyfriends
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey DAY! Thanks for the comment. Your decision to have a boyfriend should not be based on what others (your friend) says. You should have a boyfriend only when you are ready to have one and not because your friend says so. We hope this helps
Oh Big sister!! I really like my friend's boyfriend He likes me too alot And wished he had met me first I feel guilty And i dont want to hurt her Pls wah can i do?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Cherie! We have only one question to ask you. How will you feel if someone felt this way or thought this way about your boyfriend? It's not right that and you really should not encourage him at all. Please, do not get yourself involved in their relationship at all. Just live your life and focus on other things. We hope this helps
Hi Why are we so attracted to boys?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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We re attracted 2 boys becos we re opposite sex take 4 instance a magnet with same sides It ll neva attract but a magnet with different sides ll surely attract.
Hey Springster! Thanks for this comment. Girls are attracted to boys because of our hormones. It is just a natural phenomenon and we are wired that way. Just like NATASHA1010 said, it is just like a magnet and it attracts anything metal. It's the thing about opposites attracts. We hope this helps
Hi My friends seems to have a break on their periods Like a month Or two Buh mine is different No break at all Is something wrong with me Or am i more healthier than them?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. What is probably happening is that you all have different lengths for your menstrual cycle. With periods, we all have different cycle lengths. Some have 21 days cycle while some have up to 35 days cycle. This may be the reason. So, none of you have a problem okay? We hope this helps
hello big sister i love a guy but i thought he didnt like me so another guy asked me out and i accepted now the guy i love asked me out and i dont know what to do
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. You are in the best position to make this decision. You need to figure out who it is that you like genuinely and stick to that person. You do not need to be in a hurry to make this decision. Take your time so you do not make a mistake but you have to choose one over the other. We hope this helps
please tell me the signs of ovulation
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Springster! There are several signs that show that you are ovulating and some of them include; Cervical mucus changes, increase sense of smell, breast soreness or tenderness, mild pelvic or lower abdominal pain, light spotting or discharge, libido changes.etc. Please note that you may not see everything at once but at least one of these signs. It also depends on the individual. We hope this helps
BIG SISTER, I AM NEW HERE,I HOPE I AM WELCOMED
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey THE-SPIDER! Yes, you are welcome to Springster Nigeria. Feel free to invite your friends too.
HI,BIG SISTER,I AM AFRAID AND SHY OF TALKING TO GIRLS OF MY AGE,IS THERE ANY THING TO DO ABOUT IT ?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey THE-SPIDER! Thanks for the comment. You need to learn to overcome that shyness. There is really no big deal with talking to girls. You can start by saying hello and introducing yourself. You just need to learn how to approach the girls without sounding rude and getting ignored. The secret to this is by smiling and being nice. If you meet more than one girl talking, do not just jump into their conversation. Take an excuse or just wait for them to finish. We hope this helps
Hw fa sis.wat can cause ur menses 2 come out in clots.I feel so dizzy after this last period I saw.and feel less weightier
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
How can I confuse a lady,if I love her and I want to tell her
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey DanielH! Thanks for the comment. You should never try to confuse a girl into liking you. If you like her and she doesn't like you, it is not up to you to make her like you. You can walk up to her and let her know that you like her. There is no big deal in it. We hope this helps
Wtat is it that is happening that when someone is menstratin,she always have a stomach pain,and how can we stop this pain
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey DanielH! Thanks for the comment. Periods come with pain/cramps and it can be really uncomfortable as nobody likes pain but getting your period means growth. You can try any of these easy solutions to stop the pains; have a hot bath, place a hot water bottle on your tummy, take a walk or take some pain killers as prescribed by a doctor or certified pharmacist. However, if the pain persists, please talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor. We hope this helps.
am kind of in love with dis guy thou I have not meet him one on one according to him he said he likes me too my question is how do I no that his telling d truth?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Rikki! You need to pay attention to the little details. However, if you met him online, you need to be very careful and be sure that he is not pretending based on the fact that you can't see him. This happens a lot. You need to be very careful okay? We hope this helps
WHAT IS THE DIFFRENCE BETWEEN OVULATION,MENSTRATION AND MASTURBATION ?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey THE-SPIDER! When you get your period, one of your ovaries then releases an egg. This is called ovulation. The egg moves down one of the two fallopian tubes toward the uterus. If the egg is not fertilized with a man’s sperm and pregnancy does not occur. The lining of the uterus breaks down and flows out of the body through your vagina. This discharge of blood and tissue from the lining of your uterus is your menstrual period. Masturbation is when you pleasure yourself sexually with your hands. We hope this helps
Big Sis, Pls Wat Can I Do If I'm 16 And I Ave Small Breast? Wil Wearing A Well Fitting Bra Make It Smaller, Pls Help
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Lovable! Do not worry about what will happen then. Wait till when you're 16 and when you get there, you will definitely know what to do. Just live your life to the fullest now okay? We hope this helps
Pls Big Sis I'm 16 Already
Hi lovable it is normal for some girls to have small breast
Thanks Queen, Wil Wearing A Bra Make It Smaller?
Hey Lovable! Thanks for the extra information. Wearing a bra won't make your breasts smaller. Bras help support your breasts. We hope this helps
Hi i am new here and i want to share something with u guys cause i need answer
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Share It, Cos U Can Only Get The Best N Correct Answer Here
Hlo loveable, havn a small boobs shouldnt be a problem to u at all, its hw ur created #learn_to_love_yourself
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Yes Marty_Ross! You are very correct. Thanks for sharing this
Is it possible to have a relationship wit sum1 u ve no feelings for? Hoping to develop d habit wit time
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Beloved! Yes, it is possible but is it right? We do not think so. This is because love is not a habit but rather a feeling. If you are in a relationship with someone you do not love, it means that you are deceiving the person because you are most likely pretending to the person. It is even more stressful because you are forcing things to flow. We advise that you only go into a relationship with someone you love and are comfortable with rather than out of pity. We hope this helps
What Can We Take To Stop Menstral Pains
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Steve! Thanks for the comment. Periods come with pain/cramps and it can be really uncomfortable as nobody likes pain but getting your period means growth. You can try any of these easy solutions to stop the pains; have a hot bath, place a hot water bottle on your tummy, take a walk or take some painkillers as prescribed by a doctor or certified pharmacist. However, if the pain persists, please talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor. We hope this helps.
Which pad is the best that can last longer
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Steve! We cannot recommend a product like this to you. Different brands work well for different people. We hope this helps
I Am 16 I See my Menstration Once And Since Then I Haven't See It
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Please talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor. We hope this helps
hi, hw can i be free nd stop been shy 2 people i know & don't know & hw can i make every1 around me my friend & be nice 2 them
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey FLAME! Thanks for the comment. Overcoming shyness has a lot to do with you making up your mind to be more confident around people. You should start with people you are more comfortable around (your friends). Smile more and learn to keep your head high. Also, when asked a question, don't be in a hurry to answer so that you can think of an answer and a proper way to structure the answer it in your head. Finally, please note that everyone is not meant to be your friend. You need to be careful when selecting friends and you should choose people that you are comfortable with and people that will support you and not make you feel inferior. We hope this helps
It's natural sometimes,
hi,hw can i be free & stop been shy 2 pple i know & don't know & hw can i make every1 around me my frnd & be nice
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
I prefer opening up to friends and non relatives.. nd my family members think I'm very secretive.. but I find it uncomfortable discussing ME ( problems and every day challenges) ..sometimes it makes me feel weird.. like, " am I normal
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey ANNYBENNY! You are absolutely normal as long as you are comfortable with it and you are sure that you can trust these people with your personal information. When we say trusted adult, we mean any adult you can trust and this could be your cousin, teacher, religious leader, neighbour etc. It may not necessarily be your family member but someone you trust. We hope this helps
HI GUYS AM NEW HER
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Big sister,wat can I do to stay happy with my girlfriend,and also with my family when married
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey DanielH! Happiness is relative and personal. We cannot tell you what we think can make you happy because it may not work for you. You can think of what makes you happy and stick to it. We hope this helps
To stay happy when married, just never give your job your all, spend time with your family, and go on adventures, vacations, family times
What can i discuss to a girl i meet for the first time??
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Dora! Thanks for the comment. You can discuss regular things like friends, interests, future plans, school, likes, dislikes and other things. There are a lot of things but you need to discuss and not just ask questions. We hope this helps
Bi sister am a 22 yrs old nw nd i can pregnant a girl bt my penis is not large until i will hv d hudge for sex b4 it will get up wat is d cause nd d solution
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey feyvour! Thanks for opening up through this comment. First of all, it is perfectly normal for your penis to stand erect when you get the desire and shrink back after. This happens to every guy so do not let that bother you. We hope this helps
Big sis it is good for someone 2 hv marstubation anytime is hurged 4 sex
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey feyvour! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision and it is totally up to you. We hope this helps
Masturbation is not a replica for sex, when ever you are urged, your body seeks the opposite sex, and not yourself, but if you can't control it, you might have to masturbate, well, masturbation has advantages and disadvantages
How a boy can toast a girl
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Klaw! We cannot teach you how to toast a girl because this is personal and not meant to be scripted. All you need to do is to be friends with her first. This is very important and you should get to know her first. Don't be in a hurry, take your time okay? We hope this helps
That word toast, lol, just walk up to her, tell her you have feelings for her, and u like her, don't say you love her, request to see her again, and get her phone number, talk and chat in a friendly Manner, then you can start telling her she's beautiful, things that blows their mind, discuss things about her, and not you, then she might just open up and tell you she likes you in return, don't play a girl, not cool, have fun
hey big sis,I don't know if my gf find out u masturbath.can she breakup with me?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Emydon! Thanks for the comment. We do not know if she will be angry or not. This is for her to decide or say because we are not her. We hope this helps
Every guy wants to have sex when matured, if your girlfriend is matured enough to have sex and doesn't let you, she can't blame you for masturbating, but if she lets you and you still masturbate, man, then... It's kinda offensive
AM 15 years,and anywhere i go in life i always hav a problem of boys, they always askin of friendship which i always say NO, bt it hapPen,1 day dat my best friend DESMOND which i trust and cheerish so much !,had a plan wit some boys in my area 2 rape me,so dat 9it he came 2 my houx, then my mum send us 2 go n buy her kerosine which she is going 2 use in frying D Xmas meat, so on our way going we meet his friend on the way and b4 i no wat was happening d boys cover my eyes n take ME 2 an uncOmpleted building n they rape me n ran away including DESMOND,i wept bitterly n i manage to go get the kerosine! when i got home my ask of him and i told her he went home on my way coming!n i refuse 2 tell her wat happenned, i went inside n wept bitterly coz i was disvirgin threw my best FRIEND,and i wait 2 see if my period will come again, bt I am lucky now, dat i've started seeing my PERIOD 2day!!BT IT WAS SHAMEFUL TO BE DISVIRGIN AT D AGE OF 15! AND I SWEAR WIT MY LIFE DESMOND MUST SURELY PAY FOR WHAT HE DID!!!
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We are so sorry about what happpened to you. We can only imagine what you are going through right now and how angry you are that your friend betrayed your trust. There is an organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and talk to about this issue. They are experts when it comes to rape, sex, preganacy and periods. The number to call is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.
Im so sorry, and it hurts me than it hurts you, but if this is true, he is dumb, cause he knew that you know his identity, but it wasn't wise to be disvirgined through rape and not open up to receive medical treatment,
Am so so sorry..but d advice i will give to you is to tell this to a trusted adult or friend!! Okay?? "But Surely One Day God Will Judge Dat Desmond"
Plz wat iz d cause of clumpy discharge nd pains, nt really pains but inches on d virgina
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey JayR! We are not sure but it could be an infection. Please talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor for more clarification. We hope this helps
Pls I have a guy I've been dating; two months ago, he proposed to me and I accepted but last month I found out that he has someone he engaged before we met and they never broke up. The lady in question called me to tell me about their relationship and when I confronted the guy, he told me that he is no longer interested in the girl but she won't stop calling him but what I don't understand is why they still see each other, talk on phone and sleep in the same house whenever he travel to the same state where the lady resides. Pls I don't know what to do; I need your help
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My advice to you is that you shall forget about him and move on with your life because he will even breaks your heart. see he lie to you and after that he will break your heart
Hey Vania! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We are so sorry for what you are going through. Jony is totally right! This guy just seems to be taking advantage of you. You need to just move on girl, there's no need to bring all this drama. We hope this helps
Hi, iz it possible 4 mi 2 gt pregnant 13 days after ma last period???? Nd 4 hw lng can it takes b4 I can conduct a test using a test strip??
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey JayR! As long as you have unprotected sex, you are prone to getting pregnant and also open to getting an infection too. It takes up to 14 days to get accurate results with a test strip. If you must have sex, please always use a condom. We hope this helps
What Will I Do To Have A Flat Belly?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Hanna! Eat healthy (more fruits and vegetables), reduce the way you take soft drinks and sodas and sugars too. Avoid eating dinner after 7 pm. Drink lots of water and exercise. We hope this helps
I Need Tips On What To Do To Have A Smooth And Spotless Skin.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Hanna! We have written lots of articles about skin care. All you need to do is to search for #beauty for so many articles you can read and learn from. We hope this helps
Hi big sister I didn't see my menses last month and to this month January and I didn't have sex I'm 100% sure I didn't have sex but I'm seeing it. just having pain as if it's coming. but I don't see it.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey sofie16! The first question is do you know how to calculate your period? Because it is a very easy way to calculate and track your period. You can feel the pain sometimes meaning that it is coming soon. We advise that you search #periods for stories and articles about periods and also, please talk to a trusted adult about this. We hope this helps
Hey big sis I want to go to school but I don't have money how can I go about it
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Jony! Thanks for opening up through this comment. To get a sponsor, you can write a letter to different people in your community/environment asking them for support or to sponsor your education. You will never know who will be willing to help if you don't ask. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps.
Hey big sis what does it mean if someone have not her period for 2 to 3 month
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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HEY WELL THAT MEANS THE PERSON IS PERGNANT BUT THE PERSON NEED TO GO OF SOME TEST TO BE SURE
Hey Adaeze! Missing your period doesn't always mean that you are pregnant. Some virgins also miss their periods. It could be a situation of hormonal imbalance. Winifriend please talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor for clarification and treatment. We hope this helps
Please big sis How will I no when am in love
I'll i know if a guy luvs me?
Hey rigobanks! Thanks for the comment. There is no manual to tell you the signs. This is very personal and it is different with everyone. You need to pay attention to the signs you feel and the way you act towards the person. You also have to be very careful so that you do not mix up crush with love. We hope this helps
Big sis,i will i know if a guy truly love me?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Springster! This is hard to tell because everyone shows love differently. However, we have written an article with the basic signs a guy should show. Please search for "Does he like you" and read the article. We hope it helps
Hi, dr iz diz guy dat av been askin mi out 4 d pass 2yrs but neva gav him d chance till date, but we happened to make a vry gud frndz. In d cos of our friendship, I decided 2 hook him up wit ma bst frnd instead of dating him but she didn't agree 2 dat (bcoz de dnt knw each oda nd av neva meet, but according 2 ha dat she luvs him nd jst trying to knw him beta b4 accepting 2 date him). But wat diz guy was doing was askin d both of out, I knew dat bcoz d both told mi(she told mi nd he also told mi, coz am vry close 2 d both of dem). But d problem nw iz am falling 4 d guy, I tink am in luv wit him nd based on ma observations he doesn't luv mi like b4, I mean d luv he had 4 mi faded, he don't even care abt mi like b4, he calls ones in a while nd dat'z only whn he wants 2 c mi nd am jst confused. And all d luvin stuff of a tin started d vry dae I kissed him. Plz hlp mi on wat 2 do.
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Hey JayR! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We are sure his love for you faded because you pushed him away. You gave him the permission to love someone else so we cannot blame him for it. However, what you feel may not be love since it was after the kiss. It could just be the excitement of what happened because you never wanted to date him. Go back to the reason why you handed him over to your friend and why you refused to date him for 2 years. There is definitely a reason behind that and it can make you get over him. We hope this helps
I don't understand Why guys are attracted to me. They are getting much and it's frustrating me. I need help seriously.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Mirabel! It is normal for guys to be attracted to you. That's why you are female (and we are sure you are beautiful too). You can politely let them know that you are not interested in being in a relationship with them. Please, do not be rude but still stand your ground and make them understand how serious you are. We hope this helps
big sis,am in a relationship with a guy whom i love and he also feels the same way but my mom is nt in support of me being in a relationship because my elder sis became a mom at the age of16,she dont even want me to talk to any guy,i dont know what to do to make her understand that my relationship is sex free.pls advise me.
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Hey haryor! Thanks for the comment. We both understand why your mum is against you being in a relationship and we really get that she doesn't want you to make the same mistake your sister made. You can talk to your mum and make her understand that you are in a sex-free relationship. Be polite and be patient with her because it may take a while for her to understand but don't stop talking okay? We hope this helps
I have a guy. I love him so much and he promised to marry me After we are have achieved what we want in life. so I have been dating him for some long Now.he have been ignoring my texts. since I meant he have never care to offer me a gift or something like that .when ever I asked him the reason he ignores my messeges he end up telling me he is busy .but he do visit me some times .
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Hey Ella! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you cannot force someone to get you a gift. It is called a gift because it is something someone offers to give on their own. Secondly, it seems like you are in the relationship because you want to get gifts. If this is the reason, then that is a wrong reason to choose to be in a relationship. Finally, you both need to sit down and talk things over. We are not blaming you for everything that is happening. Him ignoring your messages is not right. You both have a lot to discuss as regards your relationship. The earlier you start talking, the better for you. We hope this helps
big sister, hw was ur day? ......... I notice something about my cousin, he always like touching my laps, and he like advicing me about sex , he never ask for sex, but he is always horning whenever he is with me, but whenever he touch's my lap, I feel the same. advice me on what to do, because the last time we were together we almost had sex, and I ran out of his house. pls I need advice
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Hey princess how you.you just have to be careful
Hey princess! Just like rigobanks said, you have to be extremely careful around this cousin. You also need to talk to a trusted adult about his acts and then avoid him as much as possible. Also, you need to let him know that you do not like the way he touches you and he needs to stop but be sure to do this without being rude. We hope this helps
Hey big sis. Whenever I go out of my house I feel strange cause guys stare at me. I always wear clothes that are bigger than me but it doesn't stop. Now I just stay at home but my mum says its bad. What do I do? The attention I get is really disturbing.
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Hey oyinkan,is good you say your mind buh don't let that bothers you.do what you want to do buh you just have to be careful. I hope my ideal can help
Hey oyinkan! Guys do not only stare at you because of what you wear. Sometimes, they stare for other reasons and surprisingly, some stare for no reason. However, you have to be very careful. Try not to go out at night or at odd hours. It's a good thing that your mum knows about this. You just have to be careful. We hope this helps
Yes Pls I Dont Know How To Get Rid Of Sunburn On My Forehead
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Hey Esther! You can get rid of sunburn of the face by applying aloe vera gel on the affected area. Also, try to bath with cool water instead of hot water so that it can soothe the burn. We hope this helps
Hello Big Sis, There Is Dis Girl I Love Nd I Knw She Loves Me Too, I Want To Express My Feelings To Her That I Love Her, Bt I Wnt To Do T Witout Spoiling Our Friendship, Hw Do Do Dis?
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Hey Jaycee_Blinks! Thanks for the comment. The first question we have for you is how do you know she loves you too? We are asking because you really value your friendship and you don't want to lose her but if she doesn't feel the same way, this will probably affect your friendship. So be very sure that what you feel for her is love and not just a crush. We hope this helps
Is it normal for a girl to see her period twice a month. Like she saw it beginning of last month and also saw it again ending of the Same month. And end in beginning of new month.
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Hey Springster! When we say monthly cycle, what we mean is either 21 days or 35 days (depending on your cycle). It does not have to start on the 1st of the month and end on the last day. It can start at the end of the month but as long as it lasts up to 21 or 35 days as the case may be with your menstrual cycle, that is all that matters. What you need to do is to track your period using a calendar to know how long your cycle is. Please note that menstrual cycles last from 21 -35 days depending on the individual. So if someone's cycle is for 21-28 days, she is likely to see it twice a month sometimes (not all the time). If she sees it twice every month, please advise her to talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor. We hope this helps.
Is it normal for a girl to see her period twice a month. Like she saw it beginning of last month and also saw it again ending of the Same month. And end in beginning of new month.
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Hey Ella! When we say monthly cycle, what we mean is either 28 days or 30 days (depending on your cycle). It does not have to start on the 1st of the month and end on the last day. It can start at the end of the month but as long as it lasts up to 28 or 30 days as the case may be with your menstrual cycle, that is all that matters. What you need to do is to track your period using a calendar to know how long your cycle is. Please note that menstrual cycles last from 21 -35 days depending on the individual. We hope this helps.
hi every1 pls hw i get rid of black spot & black head from my face pls i nid help
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Hey Flame! You can get rid of black spots by using either of the following; lemon juice: apply to clean face for about 5 minutes, rinse off. Aloe vera gel: apply to clean face for about 10 - 15 minutes, rinse off face. Potato slices: Cut potato into thick round slices and place on the affected area, rinse off. We hope this helps
Is it Okey to date someone that has promised to marry you
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Is it Okey to date someone that has promised to marry you
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Hey Ella! A promise for marriage is not a good reason for you to date someone. You should date because you are ready to be in a relationship and also because you like the person enough to date. If you are also not ready to get married, do not be in a hurry to avoid being decieved. Marriage is very different from being in a relationship. You have to be very prepared for it mentally, physically, financially and in every other way. So, do not be in a hurry. We hope this helps
Hi, dr iz diz guy I dated 4 2yrs nd a half but I brk up wit him bcoz I feel he iz 2 small 4 mi ( he seniors mi wit jst 2yrs) nd bcoz I tot he was cheating on mi. But afta d brkup, we still c each oda, dr was diz dae he invited mi ova 2 his house (d first dae I wnt 2 visit him afta d brkup) nd we had sex dat dae, nd afta d sex, I was like am vry sori 4 wat I said abt d brkup stuff, nd all diz guy could sai was "Sheh he told mi dat he will try all hiz possible bst 2 c dat we don't brkup, but ones we do..!!!! We won't dat again" I tot he said dat bcoz we smtimes av small issue but no.... dat dae I regretted knwin him. And nw am regretting eva brkin up wit him, bcoz it was afta d brkup I knew he had neva nd was nt cheating on mi whn we wr datin. Hiz relatives nd evri1 hu knwz us 2geda always talk 2 mi abt ma fuckup. Nd nw d guy iz begging dat we continue datin nd d truth iz dat I still luv d guy but evn if I want 2 go bck 2 him, he iz already dating sm1 I knw (ma frnd'z x rummate) nd nt evn dat, d guy iz datin many galz nw. Nd he also askd 1 of ma frndz out( nt dat close frnd). Plz advice mi
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Hey JayR! Thanks for opening up through this comment. The answer is already in the comment. If you go back to him, what number will you be? (Girlfriend number what?). Girl, it is not worth it. You probably feel this way because you got intimate with him and this has a way of playing with your emotions. This is the best time to move on. We can never advise any of our Sprinsgters to settle for less when they are meant to be a priority. The final decision is up to you to make. We hope this helps
pls don't date him...he is not faithful and unfaithful guy can bring u heart broken or infection.....
If someone notices vaginal discharge when urinating, does dat mean someone is having an infection?
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no it do happens to me
what is the best solution to cure staphylococcus
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Hey Stephen! A doctor will be in the best position to respond to this. We advise you talk to a trusted adult and then see a doctor. We hope this helps
Hey Lyla! Not every discharge means you have an infection. Some are normal. The only time you should be worried about a discharge is if it green or yellow in colour, if it looks like cheese, if it has a bad odour, rashes, swelling or if it itches. If you see any of these signs, please talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor. We hope this helps.
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there is this foolish uncle of mine, he said wen I was young, that he slept with me three times , and he said I was too tight but he never sees blood. and I didn't have sex since that time. pls i want to know if i was disvirgin by my uncle or am still a virgin.
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Report him to ur parents.. if u can't.... always stay away from him....
Hey princess! Like Nickigold said, you need to report him to a trusted adult around you and stay away from him as much as you can. Do you remember anything like what he is telling you? The most important thing is for you to tell someone about this issue. If you need more help from us, always note that big sister will be here for you. We hope this helps
thank u ma, but am I still a virgin like that?
Hey Springster! If there was a form of penetration at that time, you are most likely not a virgin anymore. But since you do not remember what happened, we cannot know if there was some kind of penetration. We hope this helps
Hey Mellisa! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Rape is a very serious and is a punishable offence. First of all, you all need to talk to trusted adults about what this man is doing so that they are aware of what is happening. As you also said, he is making your friend feel guilty about it. Please let your friend know that it is not her fault in anyway and this is something rapists always do so she should pay no attention to him. Most importantly, please do not plan anything. The best way to pay him back in his own coin is by reporting him to a trusted adult (all of you in the group) and leave it to them to handle. Violence is not the way out and also note that he is a dangerous person and can do more harm than good to you. You do not know what backup he had. So please Mellisa, for your safety and everyother person's safety, you should just leave this to the older people you trust to handle okay? Big sister is pleading Also,your friend and all the other girls that were affected need professional help. We recommend The Child Advocacy Centre to your friend. They help young people who need professional help on around rape, pregnancy and other issues. Your friend can call them on 08 00 80 08 001.She doesn't have to worry about anything because it is a confidential service and calls are free. Big sister will be here if you need more help on this. Please send our love to your friend and all the other girls that have been affected and we hope this helps
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hello big sister I am five foot tall and have small body am 19 years old but people see me as 14 year old or 15 its really embarrassing I want gain weight so I can look matured please what else can I do to look matured
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Hey Christabel! Thanks for opening up through this comment. First of all, gaining weight does not equal looking mature. What we mean is that you can actually gain weight and still look like a baby. Secondly and most importantly, have you thought about this being your natural body structure? Your body structure may be that you are naturally small in nature and this shouldn't be something to worry about but rather, what you should do is to embrace your body structure and love it. This will not only help in boosting your confidence, it will also make others appreciate you more. We hope this helps
it may be heredity
Thanks My Big Sister
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You're welcome Steve
Is it good to masturbate
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No dear
Hey Feyi! Masturbation is a personal decision so there is no right or wrong answer. The question is why are you masturbating?. We hope this helps
Hello big sis I have a problem, the tin is, I even been dating a guy for a year now but six months back he traveled out of the country but before he left, he hardly call, he can stay for one month without calling me, whenever I ask,he will say that he doesn't have phone (which is true) and sometimes airtime. I love him so I don't bother but after sometimes I don't feel for him anymore (i:e before he left) I don't miss him like before, the night before the day he traveled he wanted to come over to my house but I told him NO. He told me that he loved me so much that I shouldn't disappoint him. When he left, he didn't call, after a month he called and he was like he missed me and blah blah blah, after he always call once a month or two months, I grew bored of the relationship, whenever he calls I don't feel like answering the phone but I will answer just to fulfill all righteousness. I have grown tired of him .Now the problem is I have a best friend (boy) when we were in school, I had a crush on him but then he had a girlfriend but they broke up before we left school. Now he's the one that always call me to ask how am doing, after sometime he told me that he love me that he loved me when we were in school but the problem then is that he had a girlfriend, hardly will a day pass without him calling me, I told him that I don't want to date at the moment because I'm still waiting for my boyfriend to come back so that I will sort the issue, but the problem now is, I can hardly stay a day without talking to him, I don't know if it's love that am feeling for him,whenever he didn't call, I always get worried, I have become so close to him that I can't stay without hearing his voice. Please what will I do? Remember my boyfriend still think I love him
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Don't rush, if u think u love ur best friend tell him to wait if only he can and not to except anything from u now. Take ur time if u rush u may be with d bad one.And don't forgot enjoy ur singleness now.
Thanks 1999
Big sis please, I also need your advice in this so that I can take proper decision
Hey big sis, I'm new here. I had a crush on my bestie (boy) when we were in school but he had a girlfriend then so I hid my feelings, now I'm dating a guy I don't love anymore cuz of long distance and no communication.but the thing is that my bestie broke up with his girlfriend before we graduated, now in one of our discussions,he told me he had a crush on me in school but couldn't tell me cuz of his girlfriend and also cuz of he thought that I will start avoiding him then, please what should I do cuz I'm starting to feel for him again
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Hey Nessa05! Thanks for opening up through this comment. You shouldn't be dating someone you do not love. You are punishing yourself and also the boy. Do not be in a relationship for just the sake of being in a relationship. You both need to free yourselves and let go. As for your bestie, you need to be sure of what you feel for him. Is it a crush or the comfort of being in a relationship with someone that is closer to you? The final decision is up to you to make but be sure that you are in a relationship for the right reasons. We hope this helps
I started seeing my period in the year 2016 and up till now my period is not regular and am still a virgin what is wrong with me
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Hey nikkylove! Thanks for the comment. Please talk to the trusted adult and see a doctor. We hope this helps
I dnt knw y any guy dat asked me out always irritate me nd av neva been sexually abuse before by d way am new here.
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Hey Hardey! Maybe you are irritated because you haven't yet met the guy that you love or like. When you get to meet the guy that you truly like, you will see that you are no longer irritated. We hope this helps
to have waist and hip
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Thank you big sister, I am really encouraged.I am new here
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Welcome dear
big sis pls help me out I saw my period on the 4 of DEC nd it ended on the 8 dis month it started on the 4th nd ended on the 8 pls help me calculate my cycle thanks
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Hey Mimi! Your period lasts for 5 days while your menstrual cycle is 31 days according to our calculation. To calculate your period, day 1 (4th) is the first day of your cycle so this means that the 3rd was the last day of your last menstrual cycle. So what you should do to calculate your next period date is to count from the 4th of this month and stop counting when you get to 31 days. The day after the 31st day is your next period. Try it and let us know what you calculated so that we can tell you if you are correct or not. Let's do this! We look forward to a response from you.
big sister I don't know how to open a conversation with my girlfriend and I need a quick advice please big sis
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. We cannot tell you what to say to your girlfriend but to start a conversation, you have to think of something that will keep it going. So think of something that she will be interested in (do not just ask questions so that it doesn't seem like an interview). Talk about your plans, her interests, friends etc. We hope this helps
what is love
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i relly love a boy i don't kown if he love me wat do i do
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Y do our parents misunderstand us
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Hey Ryan! Thanks for the comment. Your parents are from a different generation and so they tend to misunderstand what most young people want and are interested in. It is just that you think very differently from them so you get to be misunderstood a lot. We hope this helps
pls big sis wat can u do to have waist nd hips
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Hey itz! Everyone has a waist but for hips, most times it is hormonal and comes as you grow. Look at your family members and see if this is something so many of you have because some people do not naturally have big hips. In all, learn to love and appreciate your body. We hope this helps
HI BIG SISTER I SAW MY FIRST MENSRUATION ON AUGUST 5TH 2017 TILL DATE I HAVE NOT SEEN IT WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME? THANKS IN ADVANCE
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Hey BEIJOSTW! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Please talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor. We hope this helps
Are u sure it ia not ur menarch
Hi, pls I need your help Big Sis. My gf and I have been dating for almost 2yrs and she really Love me but I'm a stammerer and I have Anger problems even I had beat her 2times. though I never beat any Ladies b4 including my exes but our relationship gives me concerned that I've told her To move on coz I regrets my attitude beating a lady but She refused cuz she believes I will stop dat Habbit... Help me out what should I do
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Hey Springster! Thanks for opening up through this comment. First of all, being a stammerer does not automatically make you have anger problems so we advise that you do not blame your anger problems on the fact that you stammer. Also, violence is never acceptable in any relationship and the fact that you are being violent with only her means that there something more to it than this. Violence is never the cure to anger. She has every right not to believe you and in fact, she is permitted to run away because her life is at stake. You are in the best position to stop this because it is a habit and if you do not make up your mind to stop a habit, you will definitely go back to it. The easiest way to get over an angry situation is to walk away that moment so that you do not do something you will not like. Also, make up your mind not to do it again and make a conscious effort not to. We hope this helps
big sis, I really liked a girl and I don't know how to toast her to fall Inlove with me
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Hey randy! You cannot toast a girl to fall in love with you. Love is voluntary and no matter how skilled you are at toasting, if she doesn't like you, there is nothing you will say that will convince her. Love is also not forceful so no matter what she says, you cannot force her to love you. Just do your best and let her make up her mind to do what she wants. We hope this helps
big sis,wat i meant by looking for something,is dat u are wanting to get pregnant or looking for a boyfriend
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It's not that I don't know how to toast oh! Big Sis, but please, they is a girl that I want to toast, and when ever I see the girl even if it's a secreat place I can't say anything and she is looking at me as if she know what's on my mind, even if she is passing by near my house, she always look directly to me even if they is another people there. even when ever I pass her by that I was about to look back to behold her, she too will look back at me and our face will just jam, so Bigsis, please. How should I do to get the girl?
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Hey Excellove! Thanks for the comment. Silence will never solve anything and no, matter how much you both keep staring at each other, if you don't talk about it, nothing will happen. Walk up to her and start a conversation or say Hi to her the next time you pass by her. Don't just keep silent, get talking. We hope this helps
Pls go and sit down o.. cos if u toast her ehnn, she will nor gree..
Big Sis I Need Ur Advice My Friend Want Me To Leave My Man For And I Truly Love Him And Also Our Friendship Is Very Stroge What Should I Do
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Hey Lia! The only thing we can tell you is to be careful and think about everything properly. You are in the best position to make a decision on this issue. Do not make a decision that you will eventually regret. We hope this helps
Big sis,my boss was making advances at me.i wanted to stop work bt my mum said i shud go back to work.he cant appologise after trying to forcfully kiss me at work.am resming by febuary nd i want to make him regret wat he did.i lost my respect nd trust for him.nd nw i hate him.i need help i want him to see a different me nd feel intimidiated by my presence.
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Hey Sinang! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about what you went through. Is there someone of a higher authority that you can report this case to? If yes, please tell the person as soon as you can. You do not have to pay back, what you need to do is to give him some distance. Try not to let your anger take over your emotions because it is a work environment and it is not right to do so. In all, we advise that you be careful and try to stay safe at all times. It is really painful but paying back is never an option. We hope this helps
I'm waiting big sis.
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Big Sis, is there a way of stopping menstruation other than being pregnant? bcos my period is no fun for me
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Hey Preshy! No, dear. There is nothing that can make your period stop. Periods are normal for females. It is what makes you a woman. The pain can be annoying but it really shouldn't make you want to not have it. You are not alone. Sometimes, even big sister tends to hate her period too but no matter what, it is what makes us women and we totally love it. We hope this helps
i'm 18 and my guy friend asked me to be his girlfriend.i new him too well and i say no. i like him but i fear my family
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Hey softest! Thanks for the comment. Why do you fear your family? Would you like to share this with us? Thanks
big sist i need ur help nd is very urgent i used a cream and is causing ring worm-like all over my face nd body nd d same cream did d same tin 2 my friend. wat i dnt undastand is dat i used d same cream b4 purchasin dis new one nd it was perfect. am applying skin treatment stuffs it keeps goin nd comin nd it scratch alot. i'av stop using cream close 2 a month nw cos any cream i rubbed i kip seein d symptons...guyz i nid ur help pls
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Hey pariss! So sorry about this. You probably purchased a fake cream. You should stop applying anything on your skin for now You should talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor. We hope this helps
ok...thanks sist.
Hi,bigsis i love a guy in my class we mistakenly kissed twice, after the kiss he has been avoiding me and before the kiss we were very,very close.pls big sis what should i do
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Hey Gemmy! He may be shy or maybe he regrets it. We are not sure but you should talk to him and ask him why he is being distant. We hope this helps
Hi bigsis,there is a guy in my class that i love and we have mistakenly kissed twice and since the kiss he has been avoiding me and before the kiss we were very,very close big sis i don't what to do or am i to small to love
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hi everyone, hw can some1 whiten his or her teeth
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Hey Springster! Please see a dentist if you want to whiten your teeth. We hope this helps
Hi big sister please I'm experiencing pain in both of my breast and the left one just keeps on increasing and it's very heavy. I feel lumps too but I cannot bring myself to tell anyone because I'm ashamed. The pain is much so I don't sleep without a bra. Please help me.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. You need to talk to someone about this and you need to do it really fast. Lumps on the breasts should not be taken lightly. Do not worry about what people will say... In fact, talk to a trusted adult about this and see a doctor immediately. We hope this helps
Hey...Big sister.... I need answers...Am currently dating....But we do not av alot of cmmunication in our relationship...And i dont like dat..altho i try to understand the guy....cos of his parents....Recently i found myself crushing on a guy...n itz getting crious....He loves me too....We chat n tok on phone...n we are close...And now...i av feelings 4 d both of dem...I donno wat to do....Big sister help....
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Hey Tiana! Thanks for the comment. Communication is key in every relationship. You do not have to see to communicate. You can chat, call, send sms etc... There are many ways to communicate and there should be no excuse for it. You are crushing on the other guy probably because you both communicate very well. Remember that a crush is very different from love. You have to talk to your boyfriend and let him know what the lack of communication is causing. However, you need to decide on what to do but what we know is that you can never love 2 people equally. We hope this helps
Thanks alot Big sister.....Av toked to my boyfriend abt d lack of communication...bcos of dat my feelings 4 him arent strong as b4....If onli he could just call n chat most times...i would b okay...but he doesnt...so...we just chat weneva he can come onlyn...n itz not so healthy....oltho i understand itz not his fault....Av actually come to really like my crush...I tot of cutting my crush off...but i just cant do it....Big sister....I may not love both of dem equally...but i dnt think i want to let dem go....What should i do??
Hey Tiana! But you know that you do not have to wait for him to call or chat you up before you both talk. Communication is not just the guy's responsibility in a relationship. You both have a big role to play. If he doesn't call, why don't you call him? You also need to remember that a crush is usually for a short period and doesn't (never) lasts forever. Once you outgrow the crush, what next? And no, it is not possible to love 2 people equally. Your heart will always prefer one to the other. It just seems like you are tired of the relationship. If you are, there is nothing wrong with saying it. Think about what you want very well and be sure too so that you do not make a mistake okay? Big sister will be here to help you but you always have the final say. We hope this helps
Hey big sis....My bf doesnt av a phone....so i cnt call him...We onli chat wen he has a chance to do so...n we met up wen we can set up a date....Datz d issue....We av bin dating 4 8 months...n datz aw it has bin....Av ivn told him abt d crush n he says he undastands itz his fault it apened....Big sis...the thing is i dont trust my self...in making ani decision abt dis....Big sister pls help...What do u think i should do???
Hi Tiana. Love endures. But I guess your heart is poised to love the other guy.
Thanks big sis but am not sure i can talk to him cos we are currently not on talking terms
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Hey Gemmy! Are you both quarrelling or you do not just talk normally? Well, you may want to let it go if it was a mistake and you are not on talking terms. But it may not be love because you cannot love someone you do not talk to. It is probably the excitement of the kiss. We hope this helps
Big Sis, my bf thinks i should only suck his dick, and he will suck my vagina. no sex! pls, is it safe??
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Hey Preshy! Thanks for the comment. There are also some risks involved in having oral sex and this include some infections like Herpes which either of you can get if one person is infected. Apart from getting the infection, oral sex (as it is called) is generally unhygienic. So we cannot say for sure if it is safe. We hope this helps
Hi,it's not hygenic and may lead to sex
Pls, big sis, how do i shave my pubic hair? it is very itchy when i use shaving stick, help
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It might have something to do with d shaving stick u use for instance I experience itching and great discomfort when I use other brands that aren't bic shaving stick.. pls am not advertising a brand just giving my opinion. so u might try another brand of shaving stick and shave using warm water
Hey Preshy! Shaving can be a bit technical sometimes. You just need to learn a few tricks like NEVER shave dry! You should always shave on a damp skin. Also, Shave towards just one direction (preferably inwards; the direction where the hair grows from). Also note that you should moisturize 30 minutes after shaving as the skin remains sensitive immediately after shaving. We cannot tell you whether or not to use shaving cream. It is a personal decision. We hope this helps.
Hi big sis,am 15yrs old,pls am i too young to have a boyfriend?
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No, but be careful because boys just need something from you
Thanks princess2334
Hey Martha! There is no particular time to have a boyfriend but this is a personal decision. Starting a relationship is about you being ready for the responsibilities that come with being in a relationship. We hope this helps
That one doesn't matter, it's base on your own responsibility, if you wish to have, because now as we day age 13 down has know what's boyfriend, (they have a boyfriend). so if you wish to have, you're OYO oh!.
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Hey springster i have never seen my periods and am 17 already what do i do
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Go check your body or take drugs if you feel pains below your Tommy
Hey Princess2334! Thanks for the comment. Some people are naturally late bloomers (they tend to see their periods late and their organs also develop late). However, we advise that you see a doctor and also talk to a trusted adult. We hope this helps
I have never seen my period and am of age
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Your period does not start at a particular age but rather, it starts when your body is fully ready for it. So we advise that you stay calm and wait because your period will still come. We hope this helps
Big sister please how do people reduce breast size?
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Hey Gesi! The size of your breast is hormonal and little can be done about it's size. If your breast is big, that means that is how it is meant to be and if it is small, that is how it is meant to be. We hope this helps
But Big sister I've seen transformation pictures of women that they were fat with big breasts but after they reduced they became smaller and thinner
Hey big sista.i am nt realy the shytype ,or nervous.am aactualy an xtrobart,i chat laugh talk dance do evrythng wit mah frnds boys inclusive bt i found it dificult to talk to sm1 who says he like me.i become xtremely shy nervous .i cnt even luk dem in d face.i kep avoiding em.wat cn i do to stp dis big sista?
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Hey Nainah! It happens sometimes. You can actually make up your mind to be free around him. Imagine talking to him and gisting with him when you are away from him and then replay what you practised when you are around him. Sometimes, this thing starts from the mind. So program your mind to do things like this and you will see the change. We hope this helps
Pls i have a boy friend i luv him so much and am vry shure he loves me too, he wants to have sex with me because he has waited for so long i told him that i dont want to do it yet an he said that some one else has been satisfying me thats why i dont want to do it so wat should i do.
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Is becuz he love u
Hey Happiness! Do not give into pressure (yes, he is pressurising you). You shouldn't have sex because someone else is tired of waiting. If he loves you, he will wait until you are ready if not, he doesn't deserve you. You own your body and you are in charge. The only time you can have sex is when you are ready for it not because your boyfriend is tired of waiting. We hope this helps
I go with big sis happiness..if he truly luvs u den he shuld wait till u re ready...my boifrnd undastand dat beta...sumtyms we folo d rong guys for the fame bt no ryt guy will wanna tak ur pride before he makes u his bride
my dear lovely friend don't even be ready untill u're marry cos pre-marital sex is a in against ur body nd mind nd u'll alwayz feel guity wenever u remember it nd dat would deprive u, inner hapiness nd remember girl! Dat ur greatest happiness nd freedom is rest of mind.
my sister, that boyfriend of yours doesn't love you but lusting after your body, once he gets you on a bed now, you will see how he quit the relationship leaving you with regret ....if he loves you, he wouldn't even mention premarital sex before you but help u to grow spiritually, in your relationship with God and encourage you in building your future. dnt ever open your legs to any man except your husband....dnt ever displease yourself and God just to satisfy a future destroyer in the form of boyfriend and in the name of satisfying his desire
HW U
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Big Sister I engaged my self in far relationship with a girl.. Is more than a year now that we have been dating and when last I traveled to where she is...I founded out that d girl really loved me so much and I also do love her...if she came to visit me..we romance each other but we don't have sex..spend much time together and have fun.. But when I left her to go back to school..she stop calling me or else I called her, and she will even said she as forgot about me.she did not even have my time like b4 again.her attitude just change suddenly..but I still love this girl Big sister The question is Should I countinue d relationship with her or I should brake up with her?
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Hey Teezkid! Thanks for opening up through this comment. First thing you need to do is to talk to her about why she doesn't communicate with you. Is it because she does not like you or because she cannot afford airtime to talk to you? Also, you need to be sure of her feelings towards you because you said that you are sure that she loves you and she, on the other hand, said that she sometimes forgets about you. So, do not assume that someone loves you because you love them. The final decision is up to you to make but just know that being in a long distance relationship is a lot of work and requires 2 mature people that are ready to be in the relationship. We hope this helps
Hi, Big Sister. My Girlfriend and I normally have grudges but we settled it amicably . she called me three days ago and told me she's no more interested again. I felt depressed coz we don't have any issues b4. but she gave me excuses dat if she marry me, we will later be divorced or End up as single Mother. I need ur advise pls, coz I wanted to move on, coz I've begged her but she refused. Thanks
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Hey James_222! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry for what you are going through right now. Breakups are sad and painful and we can only imagine how hurt you are. The good thing is that you are ready to move on and that's a great way to start. Once you make up your mind to move on, recovery becomes fast. You need to distract yourself by engaging in other activities. You can read a book, make new friends, start a business, learn a new hobby, etc. Once you get a worthy distraction that will keep you active and engaged, you will see that in no time, you will forget about her. Once again,we are sorry. We hope this helps
Hi big sis.....I have a question Is it normal to have wrinkles on ur vagina lips nd if ur overweight nd u see too much discharge nd dark thighs cos of no penetration of air Will it all go away wen u lose weight nd will d too much discharge stop??
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Yes, it is normal to have wrinkles on your vaginal lips (we all have different vaginas and you shouldn't be comparing yourself to others okay?). Your weight has nothing to with the amount of vaginal discharge you are getting. Your discharge is hormonal and has nothing to do with your weight. What you can do is to clean up as often as you can, use a panty liner and/or change your panties more than once a day. Dark thighs hardly go away. What you can do is to add some powder to your thighs to avoid them rubbing against each other. We hope this helps
hi big sista.....I am in love with a girl in my school and I will I ask her out
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. You need to be sure of what you really feel about this girl - if it is love and not just a crush. We hope this helps
hi big sis in my area people regard girl dat is putting on trouser as iresponsible girl nd my mom would alwaz say "Go 2 bible it is written dat girls shld nt put on wot belong 2 boys nd vise versa plz my question is dis is wearing trouser a sin nd disobeying God?
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Hey chrisdove! Thanks for the comment. We do not have an answer to this question. This is purely religious and this is a sensitive topic and cannot be handled by us. We hope this helps
The makers of trousers classified it and more over the bible said garment not trouser
big sister please i need you help me suggest a business i can start doing with 5000 please tell me to think myself you are the only one i can ask for help now ooo bug sis dont let me down ooo
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Hey seyitope! Thanks for the comment. There are so many businesses you can start with 5000. It all depends on your interest too. What are you interested in? What are you passionate about? You can make zobo drink and sell or sell recharge card/snacks after school or at religious places of worship. You can also make and sell handmade beads or customized beads for the wrist (this doesn't require so much skill). These are just a few of the businesses you can start with 5,000 naira. We hope this helps
Big sis pls I need help and advice, I am writing jamb this year, but I no longer have interest in reading my books and I am sad about it ,I am a science student and I want to become a civil engineer.
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Hey Kingsley! Thanks for the comment. You can make reading fun for yourself. You should first start by creating a reading plan and follow it through. Also, you can form or join a reading group that will make reading fun and interesting for you. Finally, you should learn to read at a time that works for you. Understand your reading pattern and it will be easy for you. We hope this helps
Hello big sis there's dis guy i love so much nd he loves me too he was given admission dis year pls wat do i do does it mean dat our relationship is going to end after he has gone
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Hey Perfection! Thanks for the comment. Your relationship does not have to end (that's if you don't want it to). People have successful long-distance relationships. It is just all about how much work you put into it. You both need to make up your mind that it will work but the first and most important thing you need to do is to trust each other. Without trust, forget about the relationship. Talk about how often you both will communicate and be deliberate about it. We hope this helps
Hello big sis I was introduced into lesbianism which also led me into porn and masturbation It became a habit and in as much as i hated dem,dey were difficult to leave so I told my teens Church teacher about it and she told My pastor now am scared bcos he wants to tell my parents I don't know how they wud react P.S am no longer into d habits but my pastor blivs dat telling my parents is d best for me Thanks
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Hey Chilive! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about what you are going through right now. It can be really hard and depressing too. What you should do is to talk to your pastor about this and let him know what the reaction of your parents will be. We hope this helps
Hey big sis I jst can trust any guy i always fell like de just want to decieve me becus of that i have neva fallin in love ,n when i get into a relationship i alway break up with no reason, m 23yrs now, i hav try so many time to trust n love some guys but i still end up hatin them pls what do i do, cus m so confus
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. The first thing you should know is that not all guys are the same and so not all guys are out there to break your heart. We think the problem is that you are probably not taking your time to choose the right partner. Before you get into any relationship, you need to be sure of basic things. Some of these things include; Your feelings towards the person, the person's background and of course, trust etc. Do not hurry into a relationship with anyone, take your time to get to know the person better before you go into a relationship but most importantly, you need to learn to trust the person first before you start dating. Always remember that not all guys are the same and sometimes, you do not have to read meaning to everything. We hope this helps
Please i seems to be goal-less and passionless. is something wrong me or somewhere?
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Hey Lillywhite! You are not goal-less or passionless dear. You have something that you really want to do even if it is to pass your exam or learn a new hobby. Your goals do not have to be what every other person wants it to be. It is okay to think differently. It doesn't make you less of a human being or a determined person. Nothing is wrong with you okay? We hope this helps
Big sis i hve a bf a guy i love nd he loves me too bt he keeps on telling me dat am too local dat i dnt behave d same way other girls do nd yesterday he told me dat his mum said am ugly pls is dat true love
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Hey Baby! This guy does not deserve you. Didn't he know that you were "local" before he started asking you out? No one should ever make you feel less of yourself and NO, you do not have to behave like other people. There is nothing wrong with you being unique and different from others. It doesn't seem like he loves you because love means knowing how someone is and loving them regardless. Please do not allow this guy make you have low self-esteem. We hope this helps
Does dating matters age
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Hey Baby! This is a personal decision. However, you need to know what you want for yourself (relationship wise). This will guide you on the right decision to make. We hope this helps
big sis pls help!!! there is this boy dat asked me to be his girlfrend ,after i thout abt it for a while i agreed we dated for just 2weeks i told him i ws no lnger intrested .. Den we broke up .. and since den he hs been ignoring me he dosen't talk to me again and i dnt want him to hate me .
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Hey cynthia! Thanks for the comment. He is ignoring you because he is obviously not happy with what happened and he has every right to be. If he doesn't want to be friends with you again, do not force it. Let him be. You need to be very sure of what you want before getting into a relationship because someone else is involved in it. It is better to stay single than to get into a relationship you are not ready for. We hope this helps
BIG SIS, THERE IS A BOY, HE'S BEEN A REALLY GOOD FRIEND TO ME......BUT I WANT FRIENDSHIP TO GO DEEPER AND I KNOW HE WANTS THAT TOO BUT I CAN'T JUST TELL......HE IS TOO SHY HE TELL ME HE LOVES ME ON FACEBOOK BUT WHEN HE SEES ME, HE ACTS DIFFERENTLY, LIKE HE DIDN'T SAY IT BUT I LOVE HIM I DONT HOW TO COPE, I CANT TELL HIM, WHAT DO I DO???
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You need to guide him. He's really shy. It's expected of every boy to be the one to make the advances. If you do, He might mistake it for you being desperate and take you for granted... Guide him dearie
Hey CHOMMY! Thanks for opening up through this comment. First of all, you need to be sure that he feels the same way towards you. This is very important so that you can know that you both are on the same page and that you are not assuming things. You can get closer to him, be friends, find out if you really love him. This will guide you and also let you know what step to take next. When you do this and you are still confused, always remember that big sister will always be here to guide you. We hope this helps
pls big sis i have a bf nd i love him so much nd he 2 but am very shy of him i don't know d reason why pls wat can i do
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Hey Babelicious! Thanks for the comment. Why do you feel shy when you are with him? Try to find out what it is and also talk to him about it. Communication is very important in every relationship. He can help you when you talk to him about it. We hope this helps
Hey Babelicious, I too go through the same problem. I feel really shy around him outside my school. Big Sis could u please advice me more about this too.
tnx big sis
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Hi Big Sis, I'm a teenage girl and cuz of that I'm gonna have hormones, and this hormones make want to do sexual related things and sometimes I want to be touched in my private parts, and I even end up touching myself. I admit at first I enjoy it and it makes me feel good, but at the end I feel bad. Do u or any other springster know how I can control my sexual urges, before I end up doing something i regret with someone. (No mean comments please, I just want help)
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. First of all, what you are experiencing is perfectly normal. Teenagers tend to very inquisitive about their body and you are not the only one experiencing this. Controlling your sexual urge is all about self-discipline. You need to mentally train yourself to get over the thought. This can be through occupying your mind through a new hobby, reading a book, gisting with friends or learning a new skill. We hope this helps
Hi Big Sis, My mum and I best friends, I tell her everything, except for this one thing. I have a boyfriend and I really love him, and I really want to tell my mum bout him but I don't know how to. Could u please help.
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Hey Purification! Thanks for the comment. There are so many ways to tell your mum about your boyfriend. The good part is that you both have a good relationship already. The way is to start a conversation about school, friends and other things you know she will be interested in. Then you can randomly talk about the boy at different times. By the time she hears you talk about the boy a couple of times, you are sure she will be familiar with his name, then you can open up and let her know about your relationship with him. She may ask you before you tell her (you know your mum better than we do). We hope this tip works for you. We hope this helps
I don't know what is right Dating someone I met online is it wrong ?
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First of all, you have to be careful because not everyone on social media (Facebook, Instagram etc) lives a real life. Some of them are hiding their real personalities on social media. If you must go out on a date with him, please go to an open place that has many people and be very watchful. If he asks you to go to somewhere private and/or secluded, please do not go. If possible, go with someone and tell a trusted adult where you are going to and also give his number. We hope this helps.
am in love wit 2 guys one my family knows him and d other one dey dont d one my family no is an actor and a makeup artist d two of d know am a virgin few days ago d one my family do no forced me to have sex wit me and after everytin he told not have changed dat he still love me and confused i dont no wat to do
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hey am guy and I don't know if guys are really welcome here, please i have this problem and i don't know how coup with it sometimes when i see girls i will shy to talk to them, so i don't know what to do, I feel their gonna insult me nor say something bad to me, so how can deal with this problem
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Hey KALIA! Thanks for the comment. Being shy is something you can overcome once you make up your mind to overcome it. It is really not hard to talk to girls or make friends with them but it depends on your approach. You can smile and say Hi but the most important thing is that you should be yourself and do not pretend in anyway. The worst thing that will happen is that the person will say "I don't want to be friends with you" and that is not the end of the world. You need to make up your mind that nothing wrong will happen if you talk to girls. Boys and girls can be just friends too. We hope this helps
hey am guy and I don't know if guys are really welcome here, please i have this problem and i don't know how to coup with it sometimes when i see girls i will shy to talk to them, so i don't know what to do, I feel their gonna insult me nor say something bad to me, so how can deal with this problem
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I can't go a day without thinking about dis guy and he treats me as a sex partner coz he dont care abt me, he only calls me when he wants to see me and when i go, its sex. I feel serious pains after three days of dis sex and he dont even care calling to check on me. Am heart broken The worse part of it is i dont cheat in d relationship.
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Hey Springster! We are so sorry about what you are going through but you are the only one that can help yourself. Want to know how? You need to stop picking up his calls. You are worth more than a sex partner. You are worth more than he is treating you too. He doesn't deserve you and you definitely deserve better. You also need to go to the hospital for check up so that you can know why you feel so much pain. Sex is not meant to be painful for anyone doing it the right way so you need to get checked. Once again, we are sorry about what you are going through and we hope this helps
i want to go school, but my score is nt up to my school, and i dont want to go for poly, i dont loose a year without achieving not tin, so what should i do big sister
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Hey OMOBOLALE! This is totally up to you to make this decision. You need to think of the things you want to achieve so that you can plan accordingly. Do you want to learn a business, learn a trade or do you want to do a professional course? Answer this question within you and use it as a guide to choose the path you will take. We hope this helps
Big sis plz i am 20 years old have a boyfriend nd we dated for like five years but he normally request for sex bt i dont answer him he thought i was a virgin but am not i disvirgined through some mistakes,he later broke up with me coz i didnt give hime what he want.he is now beggin me to come back to him nd i want to tell him that am nt a virgin but am scared.what should i do?
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Hey Ifeoluwa! He doesn't deserve you. He broke up with you because he couldn't get what he wanted and sex is still the only thing he wants from you. Whether you are a virgin or not, the fact that you are not ready for sex or interested in sex is all that matters. If he cannot respect that, then he doesn't deserve you in any way. The final decision is up to you to make. We hope this helps
Big sis does kissing really matters in a relationship. cus d guy m dating we do kiss whenever we meet will there still be respect in dat kind of relationship.
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Hey Perfection! This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. Every relationship is different and personal. Respect is also a personal decision and is different for everyone. You both need to be mature enough to know what respect is and also what disrespect is too. We hope this helps
Big sis as perfection has said does kissing really matters in a relationship
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Hey Springster! This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make based on what you want from your relationship. Every relationship is different, you both should know what you want and do what's best for you. We hope this helps
big sis am 14 and I know am still young but this is a new generation well I have a boyfriend I have had a crush on him for 4 months I gave him green lights that is signs to let him know am available he told me after 4 months that he loves me and wants me to be his girlfriend I accepted and now it feels like what I had for him is dying he is handsome he can dance(I love dancers) but he is not brilliant people have told me a lot of ugly things about him yet I don't want to break up with him I am afraid to break up with him what if I still like him and I regret it sometimes I see him and I get this feeling that I am Alice in wonderland sometimes I feel like kissing him but I control myself he doesn't ask me to kiss him or any thing he gives me full attention please is it love or crush what do u think anybody and everybody can comment
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Hey Helen8! Thanks for the comment. Like you said, it was a crush and it was meant to be that only. Crushes never last long and we always advise that you do not try to turn a crush into a relationship. Just enjoy the feeling and watch it fade away. Now that you are in this "situationship", you need to end it because you are not only punishing him, you are also stressing yourself and that is not fair. The final decision is up to you to make. Please note that no relationship should be based on the physical or outward feelings. Another thing that can help is for you to know what you want in a partner. This can serve as a guide and help you choose right. We hope this helps
@t your age? Lord have mercy©
Big sis my boyfriend is addicted to romance pls i need ur help how do i help him stop it
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TELL HIM U DON'T LIKE IT
Not that he is asking me for it but i only want to help him get rid of it
Hey Sprinsgster! Thanks for the comment. You cannot force anyone to change so the first step is for him to be ready for this change. Once he is ready, he needs to distract himself with things that are far from romance. He can also make good use of this opportunity and learn a new skill or improve in a hobby. He needs to do things that will occupy his mind. We hope this helps
Hello big sis.there was a particular boy in my school when we in junior school we use to be friend but when we got to senior class i started having feeling for him but she has a girlfriend already but now wen i got to school i started avoiding him i don't want him to lose his girlfriend bcos of me and i can't stop thinking of him since i get home i don't want to lose him either wat should i do big sis
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Hey ANONYMOUSLY! Thanks for the comment. He is in a relationship so it is best to let him enjoy his relationship the way it is. Think of it this way, if you were in a relationship and someone starts to like your boyfriend and distract him, how will you feel? Of course, you will feel bad so you need to consciously try to get him off your mind because he is taken. It can be hard but it is the option you have. We hope this helps
hey big sis its me again Helen8 can crush turn into love I heard someone say that when u see someone u love u heart starts racing when I see him my heart doesn't race I just want to look at him and I want him to look at me only but he does not want to look he wants to talk and he wants me to begin the conversation I don't know how to start I am shy today I saw him and I felt like kissing him I don't know if that is my feelings trying to break out or I am in my heat period these are my questions have my crush turn to love does he love me too should I still break up with him me feeling like kissing him is it normal is it normal for me to Start the conversation in our relationship big sis I await your reply
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Hey Helen8! Thanks for the comment. Yes, crushes can sometimes turn to love but this doesn't happen all the time. The fact that you have a crush on him does not mean that he is meant to like you back. You have a crush on this guy, it doesn't sound like love to us. Kissing him is a personal decision for you to make. You need to get to know this guy better to even know if you really like him or just feel the urge to kiss him. You can get to know him and realize that you cannot stand him or even like his personality. We hope this helps
So Big Sis this is like super important so there is this guy in my school initially I didn't even used to talk to him because I just got transferred into the school then after a while that I was a a student in the school he still never used to talk to me or anything like that then this day that I came to school when others weren't around he came up to me and told me he wanted to talk then I shut him up when I later responded he said he wanted to play a game with me that he was going to just do dares so I said alright then I asked him if I could like give dares and he said no and because I was weak minded I just accepted like that sha after accepting I didn't do any of my dares with him until he later forced me but I sha fought my way through somehow then when he forced me I was sha feeling somehow but I just didn't tell anyone then later on people came and asked me if anything happened then I said yes (because we kissed)but I didn't tell people that I just said yes not knowing what he had told them about me that I gave him head and some other things I'll never do now his back in my life saying he is sorry that he'll never do such and that he never did such and some of my friends told me they overhead telling people nonsense about me what do I do plss answer big sis I really need a big sis in my life right now
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Hey Springster! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We totally understand how you feel right now but the truth is that this guy is not mature at all. A mature guy will never "kiss and tell" plus he is even lying against you and tarnishing your image. You need to let him know that you do not appreciate what it is that he is doing and it is really not mature. The final decision is up to you to make though but you need to know that he really isn't mature and will most likely tell everyone what you both do together. Id that what you want? We hope this helps
Hello big sis its me again anonymously. big sis remember the guy i told u about i had a nightmare dat he had an accident in d next day i had to rush 2 his house although his house his a bit far but on getting dere he had been in an accident i did'nt no wat 2 do i was just crying but he told 2 stop crying and i also call his own girlfriend 2 come and check on him she did'nt come. but glory be 2 almighty he is find now,i always going dere everyday 2 check on him but on monday he told me that he love me and i didn't say anything i tried my best 2 explain him dat he has a girlfriend already but he did not want 2 hear wat i have to say he just said he is in love with me. i didn't say anything until i left his place on monday i haven't go back 2 his since dat time or call him.big sis have i made a mistake by going 2 his house 2 check on him or wat should i do big sis.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. You did nothing wrong by checking on him. As for what to do concerning him liking you, we cannot tell you what to do. However, you need to remember that he is in a relationship and since he is saying nothing about it, then he wants to keep his relationship and still have you. You need to be careful so that you do not fall into a trap or into the wrong hands. Think about it properly before you make a decision. We hope this helps
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March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
yeah me again big sis hope am not disturbing I have not seen him for 2 days and I can't eat or sleep the last time I saw him he asked me if I've kissed a guy before I replied negative then he asks me if he should kiss me and I said no then asks why and I said no reason then he said that there must be a reason and I asked him if he is forcing me to kiss him and he said he is not forcing me and I should not be angry it was a big temptation to kiss him that day but am not ready now I have not seen him for 2 days and I want to die is this love or crush if I kiss him do u think he will regard me as worthless and is he interested in me or my kiss
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. It is a good thing that you did not kiss him. If he is avoiding you because you refused to kiss him then he doesn't deserve you at all. It also means that he is only after your body and what he stands to gain and nothing else. Just be careful and do not do anything that you will regret. Also, do not compromise too. We hope this helps
Big sis.can u believe d guy i luv is my mum friend son. we went 2 dere house today 2 have a family dinner with them,on getting dere i met his girlfriend dere she was so rude 2 me she taught i was getting more attention from him more than her, her mum really like me alot although i have never met her mum before today i only met his older sis before and wen we are coming back home he remember me of our last discussion,even his mum gave me her shop address she told me am welcome any time any day.wat should i do big sis am confuss
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey ANONYMOUSLY! Wow! This is getting more serious. The fact that he has a girlfriend that knows the family and visits him regularly is a NO! Do nothing about him and just move on. You do not have to quarrel with him o, just tell him that you are not interested and you need to mean it too. Just let him go because he is not worth it. We hope this helps
Hi bigger sis, I'm new here and I need answers I have a boyfriend, he always tell me he loves me, I have come to love him so much, we have dated for 2 months. He is a play boy which I know but he swore to me that I was the one who changed him, we have been in love since then but recently his friend called me to warn me that my BF was just trying to play games with me, that he never loved me, he told me to be careful with him,that he told them that he just wanted to use me and dump me. I was very confused, I don't know what to do. I kept it a secret with friend.My boyfriend called me yesterday and said that I stabbed him in the back, that he is very dissapointed in me that I was keeping a secret about him with his friend, he said that he couldn't believe that I believed what his friend said, he concluded and said that I should do what I intended to do but he is still waiting for me.Later last night, he sent me a msg saying that he did really love me but it's unfortunate that we can't be together that I should take care of myself. Since then I have not been myself, I've been thinking maybe he's just covering up. Infact I don't know whether to believe him or his friend but I don't think his friend Will lie to me Cuz he told me a lot of things which is possible .i still love him and I'm not ready to let go but I don't know what to do ,I'm totally confused.pls big I need ur help.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Mitzi07! Thanks for the comment. First of all, there are so many things that started out wrong with this relationship. Your boyfriend has always been a playboy and that is one thing that you knew and still went ahead with. You never trusted him because you know that he was going to cheat on you. These reasons alone can end any relationship. You both did not start on the right foot so we cannot say if he really loved you or not. This is why we always say you should know why you are going into a relationship in the beginning. The final decision is up to you to make. We hope this helps
OK I've seen him and he's not avoiding me because I did not kiss him he is also going round telling people I'm the love of his life so what do u think
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. This guy keeps telling other people things that are not true. It seems like you are enjoying this attention you are getting but to us, it seems like the wrong thing. He is trying to impose himself on you by letting everyone think that you both are dating when you are not. You both do not know each other well enough so this is not the right way to go about it. The truth is that he won't even stop until you let him know (and mean it) that you do not appreciate what he is doing. This is just a crush and we cannot even say what he feels for you because it just looks like he wants kisses and touches. You have the final say but this does not look like a good way to start anything with a boy. We hope this helps
Big sis, am new here though nd I need ur help M dating a guy but people are telling me he is not good for me, although he claim to love me.... I talk to him abt wat pple are saying abt him nd he said he WS once a Playboy DAT y pple r saying DAT... And now he do check my fone every time nd anytime he see a message of a boy telling me he love me, he get angry, ave never ask im of money bfor nd ave already give him my virginty to him ... Pls big sis wat do I do CU's he is being too watchful of me nd m having a bad feeling DAT he is looking for an excuse to break up.. Is dis true big sis?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Debbie1ndonly! Thanks for the comment. From what you wrote, it is obvious that you both do not trust each other and this is not good for any relationship. Only an insecure guy will always search your phone. Also, why do you think you have to ask him for money and also think it is best to collect money from him because you gave him your virginity? Your body is not for sale girl. If you gave him your body, it should be because you were ready for it and not because you want money from him in return. It is not his responsibility to give you money because he is in a relationship neither is it your duty to give him your body. We cannot say if he is looking for an excuse to break up or not but you need to talk to him about how you feel. Communication is very important in every relationship. We hope this helps
Big sis im new here nd i hv so many questions
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hi big sis, my boyfrnd askd 4 sex bt i refused den he later went n had sex wid his bestfriend (female), den even up til nw his stil keepin it as a secret 2 him self bt he stil claims dat he loves me alot, pls wat do u tink?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Ivy! Thanks for the comment. We think that he does not deserve you and he is not worth the stress and the headache. If he could cheat on you because of sex, then it is obvious that he is only looking for who will have sex with him and nothing more. The truth is that once he gets what he is looking for, he will move on to the next available person. The final decision is up to you to make but you have to be very careful. Know that sex is not love. We hope this helps
hi big sis i need an advice frm u cuz am troubled abt somtin,my siblings told me to break up wit my boyfrnd cuz dey dont lyk his background buh i dont want to break up wit him cuz i luv him so much nd we want to spend our lifes 2geda nd at dsame tym i dont want to disobey my siblings expecially my elder sis, so big sis am confuesed cuz i dont knw wot to do nd i need ur advice plz tell me wot do.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey joyzy! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. We cannot tell you what to do because you are directly involved in this. You have to take a decision on this one but think it through properly. We hope this helps
big sis I need your help..am going out with this guy in my school..its been like a month now..and he is naw behaving somehow..he doesn't share his problems with me,he avoids me...and am jux wondering if I went wrng..what should I du...
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey tushaine! Thanks for the comment. You need to talk to him about this. Communication is very important in every relationship. You both need to sit down and talk it out. Keeping quiet and wondering what may be wrong cannot solve anything. We hope this helps
dear big sister there is this nysc corpper that's asking me out ,and am confused because he have just one year to use here. am afraid if he's gonna run away leaving me. xeena
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey epitome! He has just one year and he will definitely leave after then. Please, do not let him put you under pressure. So many corp members use their service year to take advantage of young innocent girls. You have to be really careful and please talk to a trusted adult about this. We hope this helps
dear big sis, i liked this guy before i came to this school and i hadnt even met him he rejected me and my feel still hasnt died my friends told him and any time i see him my heart starts beating very fast he looks at me across the room i am confussed does he like me or am i just seeing things
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. The fact that he is staring at you does not mean that he likes you. It could mean many other things but not feelings. Do not mistake this. You have a crush on this guy but this is not love. After a while, this crush will fade. Trust me! We hope this helps
Hey big Sis, I'm a very shy person. Which organisation can help me out of this? I'm in my early 20's and still feel shy a lot. I need to join a group or something likewise, where I get to talk to people because I really want to stop being shy. What can I do?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. You are the best person to help yourself from shyness. It always begins with you. Look in the mirror and encourage yourself. Boost your confidence and be try to be happy. Say "hi" to people when you meet them for the first time, smile more and when you have a presentation, practice it in front of a mirror first and know your script well enough. We hope this helps
Hi big sis a guy approach me and i love him but he is shy to express how much he loves and i too love him but i dont wanna show him that love too much because i am afraid if show he will run away from cos he a fearing God guy please learn how tackle this i seriously love and like his type but i could not.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. You need to make up your mind on what you want and then go for it. We cannot tell you what to do but rather, you need to know what you want for yourself. We hope this helps
Hi big sis, I'm new here.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Hey big sis,am new here,i hope I'm wlcm and I have so many questions
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Hey big sis, am new here and i have something to share with u guyz, i have this probem with girls that every girl i see on the road i will always like to date her, i do crush on a lot of girls but i don't knw how to choose the better one for me, pls help me out. Thanks !
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey King! Thanks for the comment. It is normal to have a crush on girls but you will remain confused on who to choose because you do not even know what you want in a girl neither do you know what you are choosing for. Being in a relationship requires a lot of maturity and you have to be very mature to be able to even know what you want for yourself. Go back, shut your eyes and ears to the option of dating until you know what you want in a partner and also in a relationship. We hope this helps
sis, am dating 2 guys at dsame time nd i love both of them, i met 1 on social media bt d 2nd is in my sku, i dnt no wat 2 do nw coz i always lie 2 them enytime each of my secreat want 2 leak out bt i date d 1st out of pity bt i later love him bt d 2nd one i do love him 2 nd he use 2 send me a text messages once in a day nd sometimes cal me nd d 2nd use 2 call everyday coz we av never seen each, bt dey both trust me nd i dnt want dem 2 no d tin am doing nd i want 2 tel dem am no more interested bt i dnt no how coz i stil love them. Big sis help me pls
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
My parents keep comparing my results with other people and it makes me feel dumb and I have an upcoming exam and I don't have the urge to read
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BIG sis.. am dateing 2 guys, at d same tim.. but i luv d bot of dem... but i really luv d first 1... i didnt wanted 2 accept 4 d second 1... he was just disterbing me... so i had 2 accept it..... wat if d first 1 finds out..? pls sis help me....... am waitin 4 ward 2 hear 4rm u.... tanx
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big sis am new here and i have a problem whc is am crushing on a girl so badly,i try meeting with her, but she the #INDOOR TPY.so we do talk on phone sometimes,an she talk politly,am heart keep pounding very fast and it telling me (guy go 4 her she ok) since she cant come out am thinking of telling her how i feel 4 her on phone or on facebook,maybe normal text but am scard,an am lacking words i need ur help sis, how can i do it
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Hey big sis isn't bad to love someone u don't know
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Hey big sis isn't bad to love someone u don't know
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it not even possible. how could you love without seeing ,I don't sometimes believe at love at first sight but I have not heard of love at no sight
Hi big sis, I am a stammerer and it is really frustrating me, Recently, they called me for a presentation in an organization buh because I can't talk to a lot of people cause of my situation I turned down the offer which I didn't want to, please can I do to stop the stammering?
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Hello sister can someone become a vagin again after having sex for years
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Hello sister can someone become a vagin again after having sex for years
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I'm new around here big sis but a friend invited me...i wanted to ask you what age you think is best to start dating
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hi Ayibella, Unfortunately there is no answer for this. Different people are ready for dating at different times so age is not the question. You should ask yourself other questions before dating like, 'Am I mature enough to take things well even if this relationship ends badly?', 'Do I have enough time and money to give to this relationship (it takes alot of time and money to date), 'Can I tell everybody I know that I am dating without being afraid?' etc. If your answer to any of these is NO then you are probably not ready yet. There is no need to push yourself just to fit in. We hope this helps.
Hi big sister,i am New here and i really need your help.I have dated my boyfriend for three years now and my parents are against our relationship because he is a muslim guy and am a christian lady.I just don't just know what to do i really love this guy so much.I will be happy if you reply back cause am in pain right now.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey posh! Thanks for the comment. We totally understand how you feel right now but you both need to be sure of where your relationship is heading to first. Are you both interested in getting married to each other? If yes, when do you see this happening? And how committed are you both to the relationship? We understand that this can be a worrisome but sometimes, it is advisable that you take that thought out of your head and just enjoy bring together with your partner. However, you need to talk to a trusted adult that knows your parents about this and ask them to guide you still. We hope this helps
Thanks alot big sister,i will talk to an adult who knows my parents about it...
Big sis,I dont why i usually feel irritated toward boys.
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Hi big sis
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I like someone but we both feel shy he always ask my friend about me what will i do?
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