Family is everything
As a teenager you’ll sometimes assume that your friends are way cooler to hang out with than your family members or parents. You probably see your parents as “old school”.
We know as a young girl you want to spend more time with your mates and enjoy new experiences, it is however important to spend time with your family especially your parents who are getting older by the day.
We are not asking you to spend all your time with your parents, but it’s important to connect regularly and build a loving relationship with your parents.
Don’t know how to start? Here are some easy ways to bond with your folks
Involve them
Once upon a time your parents were teenagers who probably experienced what you are experiencing hence why you should feel free to involve them in your life and ask them questions about their favourite movie, what your mum was like as a young lady, your dad’s favourite music etc.. They have tons of life experience and lessons you can learn from.
Be around
Be available for your parents like you would be for your friends. Is your mum confused on how to make use of her phone? Help her out. Invite your friends over to spend time with your family. This will give your family the impression that your friends are good people who matter to you too.
Be responsible
Do you think your mama still treats you like you are 5 years old? Do you want your parents to trust you and allow you more freedom to make your own decisions? Show them how mature you are by helping out more at home without being asked. For example you do not have to wait for your parents to complain about the dirty plates before you wash them. This way you will earn their respect and build a bond with them.
It’s never too late to build a relationship with your parents. You can start today.
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mom and i bond well
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Black! That is great to hear.
thank u for dat
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey girl! This article was written because of you and we are glad you love it. Feel free to share it with your friends
I love ma Family very well.am proud of them
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Bosco! That's great to hear! We are sure they love you too and are also proud of you.
I wish am like u
Thanks.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
I love my family very much.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Adetonas
and me to i love my mum very well
i love my family so much
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
My family my home. I love them but the issue I have is that I don't share intimate things with them especially my dad, what do I do?
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Enella! So many young girls experience this. An easy way out is to begin to feel free and comfortable around them. It may surprise you that your family members are actually looking forward to you sharing things with them. Find that person that won't judge you or make you feel bad. You may not feel comfortable at first but eventually, you will get comfortable with talking to them about it. We hope this helps.
By asking them to enlighten U on things U Dont know
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Ma family is the only thing i love
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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my mother's family doesn't love me since the death of my father till now, and nor of them have ever ask of me.
I love my family very much but they don't love me in anyway.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Sorry but don't feel that way,they also love you.
Hey Chizzy! Thanks for opening up. Your family loves you maybe they don't show it but they love you. Have you tried talking to them and expressing your feelings to them? If you haven't, please do that. We hope this helps.
I love my family so much and I will make sure not to hurt their feelings.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Yes you are right
I love my family but the are not looking fo me!
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Lawson! Have you tried expressing your feelings to your family members? Please talk to them and tell them how you feel. They are probably not aware that they are ignoring you. We hope this helps.
well said big sister
my family my everything
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
My family is my number 1 priority
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
my family my every.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
My family give me joy especially my sister
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
i spend time with them also we watch tv together i prepare the family dinner i make sure they are comfortable by playing game with them nd i keep the house clean nd that makes them happy too.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Big sis,i don't wait for my parents to tell me what to do but still I'm not given that freedom of going out....countless times my parents has seized my phone from receiving calls from friends..
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Pearl! Your parents feel seizing your phone and preventing you from going out will make you behave well. Do not think that they don't love you, they just show their love in a way that you are not comfortable with. Try and talk to them (or one of them that you are close to and is more approachable). We hope this helps.
My parents are the busy type so I don't spend much time with them...
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Sorry my parentS are both dead.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hi Mayababe,so so sorry to hear that but always have it in mind that God is with you,I would like us to be friends!pls text me back!
Yes is awesome living with parent fan our friends
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Oh sorry.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Oh sorry mayababe
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
How Can I Help To Build Communication System In My Family
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Joana! You can build a good and strong communication system in your family by talking more, spending time together (indoors and outdoors), playing some team bonding games and also eat together. All these and more are ways to build communication in the family. We hope this helps.
I subscribe to tour idea. What of where commucation is hard to ensue_I mean a situation where parents are deaf.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Bido! Thanks for the comment. If the parents are deaf, there is always a way of communicating with others. Deaf people have a language they speak (sign language). There is no way deaf parents will have teenage/adult children that they have not been communicating with since birth. They will communicate the same way they have been doing. We hope this helps.
I've Tried All These,but My Mum Is Not Being Friendly.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
I've Tried All These,but My Mum Is Not Being Friendly.She Doesn't Want Me To Invite My Friends Home.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Natty! Yes, it is love. Your mum is only trying to protect you. She loves you so much that she does not want to see you hurt. Just make her understand and if she doesn't then don't bring your friends home so that it doesn't look like you are disobeying her. This phase will pass as you grow older and she will become more comfortable with you bringing your friends home. This is normal among mums. We hope this helps.
True talk,well that will surely help out ,just try it out "natty"
is it ok .... standing on d street wit a guy? .... my mum says 'it spoils ones image'
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Aice! That is your mum's belief. She probably feels it makes you look cheap and people may read meaning when they see you standing on the street with a guy. That is probably the image she is talking about. However, you can still talk to her to get a better understanding of what she means. We hope this helps.
i love my family but just to ask this, as a teenage is it normal to have boy friend
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Love! This is based on personal preference. You need to be mature and mentally prepared to have a boyfriend. We cannot give a definite answer to this because it is solely your choice. We hope this helps.
Yeah! The advantage of parents in teenagers' life is unlimited and infact you can't do without 'em.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Nice one,will try it out
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
I'LL TRY IT OUT,IT IS FUN
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Nyc write up
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
By making them your best friend;telling them things and sharing your feelings with them.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
My family is the best thing that's ever happened 2 me
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
it is scary
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
My father will never understand me no matter what......he believes in making every single choice for me and it hurts me a whole lot.....about speaking up,, I've tried that but it caused anger and everything. I'm a type that loves speaking up and can't die in silence but he sees it as disrespect and disobedience...... Sincerely speaking, I do not know how to really follow my father....it's too much
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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sorry
Hey Irac! So sorry to hear about this. We totally understand how difficult this is for you. Maybe you should check the tone you speak to your dad with. You are definitely angry so your tone may show that you are angry and most parents won't take that. They will see you as being rude. Another option is to talk to someone else (your mum, uncle or sibling) who is close to your dad to help you talk to him. He may listen to this person. Just be patient okay? He probably feels you are too young to make some decisions by yourself. Once again, sorry for what you are going through. We hope this helps.
Yes,parents can be frustrating most times.But dear Irac have you tried communicating with your Dad through your Mom...It could also help
Most parents never understand there children , tht makes there's teens uncomfortable talking to their parents
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
yeah is true but something love concave everything
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
i have many gud friends buh ma friends dnt allow me to invite them over what do i do?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Springster! This could be a personal decision. Your friends probably don't want to come over because their parents may not allow them or they do not want to come over because they have chores to do. This does not make them bad friends. You should also consider other things that may stop them from coming around. Ask them politely and also try and understand. We hope this helps
my dad wont do me good
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Am a teen a with a child i need advice
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Efe! First of all girl, you are a hero! You are strong and courageous and we applaud you for opening up to share this with us. We advise that you remain the strong girl that you are. Your friends may mock you and your parents may be upset/disappointed but remember that you have to be strong for yourself. Remember, your Springster family is always here for you any day, anytime. Our love to your baby. We hope this helps
Big sist how can i manage my self with the little i have with me pls tell me
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Efe! Learning how to save requires a lot of discipline. You should learn to save with the little you have now because if you keep waiting to have a lot, you will not save anything at all. The first thing you need to know about saving is to know what you are saving for. This is what will motivate you to save. You can save for a dress, a phone or your education and you will do that successfully but if you are saving for saving sake, it may not work out well. So you need to define what you are actually saving for. We hope this helps.
HELLO,MY MUM SAYS WHENEVER SHE IS REALY ANGRY THAT AM D CAUSE OF HER PROBLEMS,CAUSE SHE WAS PREGNANT WITH ME,AND COULD'NT LEAVE THE MARRAIGE
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Sori 2 hear dat,i feel d same way u do
Sori abt dt,talk 2 ur mum abt d way u alxo fel weneva she says dt.And alxo let ha kw dt u r innocent abt wteva she tinks of u.and u alxo shd work hard 2 mk ha proud of u,wit diz i tink she wil show u more luv,i hope diz wil hlp u settle it
Hello Vixen! First, We understand that hearing something like that must be very hard and are really sorry that you had to hear that. Please, stay strong. You have said that your mother usually says this when she is angry, right? Try to meet her when she is not angry, if she is happy that will be even better, and start talking to her. Tell her you love her and that it hurts a lot when she says the things she says when she is angry. Try and make her understand how you feel. If you want to, you can also promise to try your best to be a daughter that she will always be proud of having. We hope that once she sees how much you are hurt and how much you love her, she will start think a bit differently. We hope this helps.
I hate my family because none of dem believe anytin I say,dey all tink am lying especially my mum who doesn't understand me nd very hot tempered nd someone who's hot tempered can't understand someone
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Sori abt dt,since dy r ur family talk 2 dem n exspecialy ur mum,talk 2 ur mum let ha kw dt d way she tinks abt u z affartin u.and u shd b truthful,somtym if a child lie 2 much, parent or anybody wont blive him or ha wenever sur a child say somtin.so i tink u shd start 2 b truthful,talk 2 ur mum hrt 2 hrt wen she z nt angry let ha kw n undastds u,by doin diz she wil bliv u.Kw dt mum luv deir children xo much
Hello Sky! We understand that it can get very annoying to feel misunderstood. But we think hating your parents will not help them understand you more. Have you tried talking to your mum (and other members of your family) when she is calm and happy instead of when she is angry. People do not really think clearly when they are angry but they are easier to talk to when they are happy. Also, can you try and do more activities with your family members? When people do things together, they can see how the other person works and thinks and this will make it easier to understand the person. Please be patient and give it some time, family is very important and we don't want you to miss out on your family. We hope this helps.
That is how i'm doing to my parent and they love me much than my others brothers.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
dats hw am doing 2 my parent nd dey luv me more than d rest of my sis.bt my sis hate me coz my parent re showing me mre luv dan dem nd i need 2 alwaix b wit dem bt dey alwaix asked me 2 stay away frm dem,need ur advice.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Farha! Please talk to your parents about this. They also need to show some love to your sisters. Sibling rivalry is a very big deal and it can be dangerous too. There is no crime in showing others love. We hope this helps
tru
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
they are so many tinz u can do 4 ur parent to trss u
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
BIG SIS PLS I NEED YUR HELP MY FAMILY IS FALLING APART WHAT CAN I DO
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hello
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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hey coolgirl I hope u are okay and fine, hope u start the bond with ur parents from now exfort☺☺
is nice
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
With FAMILY i know i can go any mile without being stopped by any force .
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
why coming back from school bought goodies for them I even cloth, buy hair cream and retouch her hair
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
big sis i am tired of my family i dont no what to do
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey queen! Thanks for the comment. Do you mind sharing the details with us? We will love to help you more. We look forward to your comment. Thanks
how do u apologise to ur family 4 a mistake big sis
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey oyi! Thanks for the comment. "I am sorry for..." is a good way to start. Also, you know your family better. If you think they will accept a change better and faster, then we advise that you to do it. Do what works for your family. We hope this helps
tnx big sis
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Hi Big sis,i am in d uni. i want 2 start a fahion designing work so dat wen am in need of money i wouldn't call home for money bt am preverted frm doin it cause of my stepmum.plz wat should i do i need help.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
am new here am i welcomed
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Of course your welcome
Thanks for the info
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.