Friendships can grow closer — and more distant — without breaking apart
Change is part of life. We change almost every day. It is all part of being a human being.
But what if our friendships change?
It can happen as we grow-up. And it can suck! One day, we can be with our besties 24/7. The next day, poof, everyone is off doing new and exciting stuff on their own.
Zainab has moved to a new school. Yetunde is focused on her sewing training. Chioma has moved to Lagos with her parents.
It seems like everyone is moving on and totally over the friendship. This can make us feel a bit jealous and sad. And that’s totally OK. It’s how we handle the feeling that is important.
Friendships are great because they are like rubber bands, they can stretch really far without breaking. We might feel like we’ve lost them for good. But the great thing about friendship is that they can grow strong again. Nothing is over permanently!
Instead of worrying about the state of the friendship, we can try to explore some interests of our own. Figure out who we are! It is a big world, and we are just getting started. We’ll be surprised at all the people we can meet along the way. And the new experiences we’ll have.
We can also check in on our friends! Find out what they’ve been up to. Talk to them about what we have been doing. This way we would find out that our friends are still the same. They’ve just been discovering themselves. Our friendship will be even stronger.
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Nice one Hello big sis
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
But it's true we do miss them come to think of it not all friends you'll pray for long friendship just like me I like my girlfriend but can't love her,
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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guy really.?????
Yes,I'm missing an old friend....we're in different schools now and I've lost her contact I hope she will not Shaun me wen we meet
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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maybe u might meet again
maybe u have to visit her school on any event ,she might be happy to see u
yeah i am miss my childhood
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
yeah i am missing my childhood friends
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
I have a friend who was once my bestfriend in junior secondary school but as we got to senior school, we became so far apart; though we're still in d same school but we still talk and once in a while we gist but we aren't as close as before..
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
a friend said he likes me and said that he wants me and him to be in a relationship,but i told him i just want us to remain friends but he misundertood and then though i accepted him. but i do like him but just as a friend.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Dat đe Best when it time u can đen bê in a relationship
Hey Mary! Thanks for the comment. You really need to open up and tell him that he misinterpreted the response you gave him. Leading him on is not good for either of you so the earlier you tell him (politely), the better for you both. It will be difficult and you may also loose the friendship but it is better than not telling him. We hope this helps.
sorry abt dat mary just try 2 explain tins 2 him i tink he wil understand
i has a friend who love me
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
i dnt have a friend but i wish i have
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Yeah..so sad i had a bestie sum few yrs back..all of a sudden she changed her attitude..and have tried to talk her over on the suddden change..after then things became normal again..sometime later she went back to that attitude...and the cycle repeats itself again..then i stopped talking to her about it.. And since then have been a no-bestie person.. I seriously need one
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Jay_bee! So sorry to hear that. Something must have made her give such attitude. We are sure there are so many other girls out there that will love to be friends with you. Be more friendly, cheerful, put a smile on your face when you around your peers and don't hesitate to walk up to someone and start a conversation. You can get a friend through these. Also, you can chat with any of the GEM girls, we are sure they won't mind being friends with you. We hope this helps.
Sorry Jay I Can B Ur Friend. If U Want
Hey so sorry fr dat, if u need me as ur besties, am here....
Big sis...thanks... Yeah..it will help
Nelking...thank you so much... Maybe we should share contacts
my besti got divorced they had move out
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Used and frankly missed
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Thank you big sis for this...
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
WHAT CAN I DO TO GET A FACE THAT'S FREE FROM PIMPLE AND IT'S SCARS? WHAT ATTRACTS PIMPLE?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Sexychick! There are so many causes of pimples but the following may help them go for good. Wash your face at least twice a day but it should not be more than this frequency, keep your hands and nails as clean as possible by washing them regularly with soap and water. Avoid popping the pimple, stop touching your face, remove all the makeup from your face before going to sleep. Do not use cosmetics containing chemicals that will irritate the skin. Also, cut down on dairy and sugary foods. Eat more fiber, walnuts, fish and vegetables. Wash your pillowcases and bed sheet regularly and drink lots of water. We hope this helps.
i miss my friends because of distance
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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DO NOT WORRY DISTANCE ISN'T A BARRIER,ALL YOU NEED IS GOD IN YOUR LIFE AND FOCUS ON YOUR STUDIES AND YOU'LL SEE THAT YOU'LL BE BETTER AND HOW SURE ARE YOU THAT YOUR FRIENDS HASN'T MOVED ON?
WHAT DOES TOO MUCH SCRUBBING OF THE FACE DO? WHAT'S OVULATION?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
tanks sexychick
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
sorry to ask hw d someone no if u i online or off line
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Efosa! Feel free to drop your questions anytime, it will surely be answered. We hope this helps.
here
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
I once had a friend who l love ❤ but never got the chance to tell her till distance tear us apart.but I know she feels the same.and am ready to move on.looking for another girl to love and for her to love me too.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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OKAY
Hmmmm
Love to be d next
Am missing a friend that moved from pH to calabar, it's not easy without her because we where so close.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
yes,miss my closed friend named Aysha
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Yeah. Alots of them. Some got admitted to difference school and other relocated
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Yeah...I really miss my childhood friends since I moved out of the compound 2014, it was really hard coping with my new environment because it wasn't fun as my other environment. And even if I wanted to see them now, they're in portharcourt, but I still chat with them on FB & I realise that it doesn't really matter if you're far from the persons, what matters is that you guys are close to each other.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Pls Marie can we be friends on fb if yes u can add me up with Nnaemeka sky..oky............
I Really miss my best friend ever since I moved away still trying to think of a way to get back to her
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
I miss my best frd, since she got married,she dnt call i call she dont pick nd i feel like am been rejected by her
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
i miss my best friend since i chanage my school.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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me too.
Wow! missing a friend results a lot,but still i miss my dearest!
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
I miss my Besties so much....
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
missing a friend
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Its all about time, it will wear off if the distance is too much
pls can a girl get a pregnancy without a penetration
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Is that girl the earthly mother of jesus (Mary)?
Hey Clear! Yes, a girl can get pregnant without penetration. @Thomasjohn, read this well. Penetration is not the only way to get a girl pregnant. As long as the sperm gets into the vagina, there are chances of getting pregnant. Sperm can get into the vagina through fingers (if the sperm gets in contact with the fingers and these fingers touches the vagina, pregnancy can occur). Sperm can also get into the vagina if the boy ejaculates near the vagina. So you see, these are just a few ways a girl can get pregnant without penetration. We hope this helps.
Thanks...u girls really made me feel better..evergreen and nelking... Nelking i hope u don't mind sharing contact
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Jay_bee! We are glad you feel better. However, sharing of contacts and personal information are not allowed on this platform for safety, security and privacy reasons. You can freely chat on this platform without anyone disturbing you. Thanks for understanding.
Oh!..okay then
Can a girl of 5 get pergnant through the process of a boy of 5 using him finger or penis to penetrate the girl and its gets to the vagina
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Marmar! If the girl has started menstruating, yes she can get pregnant. But dear Marmar, 5 year olds are way too young to be doing such things to each other. It is very dangerous and also very very wrong. If you have seen such a thing occur, please talk to a trusted adult about this. You just might be saving someone's life/future from the trauma. We hope this helps.
Hello every 1
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
CAN A GIRL BE DEEPLY IN LOVE WITH A GUY AND HIDE. IT HOW?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Yes, it is very possible. You can hide it by not showing feelings towards the person. This does not mean that you will not talk to him. We hope this helps.
can a finger pregnate a girl
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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nope,a finger cannot impregnate a girl.but avoid both sex and fingering.
Hey Efe! You will not get pregnant if a finger is inserted into your vagina. The only way you can get pregnant is if he had sperm in his fingers before inserting it into your vagina. If he did, you should have a pregnancy test done and also talk to a trusted adult. We hope this helps.
i have a friend that am missing, we presently in the same school, she is my tight friend but she's now drifting away from me i don't know y. may b is because she got herself a new friend
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Sinty! This happens a lot of times. We suggest that you try talking to your friend. It may surprise you that she does not know that she is drifting away. Communication is very important and you both need to talk it out. We hope this helps.
I've a female friend that were friends for a long tym now I fell with her, how could I tell her?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Dzekostg! This is a bit of a complex issue because she may get offended or she may not. If you are ready to take the sacrifice, tell her how you feel.If you are shy, you can call her on the phone and tell her about it but if you are comfortable talking to her in person, feel free to. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps.
well,Same here,but telling her might be difficult, you just have to try
I have a friend who was my seat mate in school for 2 years and so we were close but when we graduated from junior school we parted,we could hardly communicate because she was in boarding school.Now when she posts on social media its all about her new friends and i feel bad most times
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey TED! So sorry to hear about this. This is a normal occurrence and it can be really painful sometimes. You can still keep in touch with your friend but this should not stop you from making new friends. She is in boarding school and she will need to make some new friends but this does not mean that she does not have you in mind. We hope this helps.
big sis help I can't stay a day without having sex what will I do
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Jesy! You can actually do without having sex. What this seems like is an addiction and you need to first of all detach your mind from it (Reduce the way you think about it) because the urge for sex comes from the thought first. Next, you need to occupy your mind with engaging activities that will keep you busy. You can start a business, learn a skill, read a book, talk to friends or just do something that will take your mind off sex. These are some ways for you to get over this. We hope this helps.
wen do u strt hving sex wat age
I had a friend well i would say my best friend but i had to seperate with her and am seriously missing her
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
is a lesbian still a virgin plz
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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no,I don't think so
Don't even think about it
Oh yeah... Virginity is when one has not had a penis penetration
heap,very much, my best frnd is in boarding, while aam in day
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
yea am missing a frnd that is far frm me
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
I Recently Moved To A New Area With My Family And I'm Finding It Really Hard To Make New Friends, Pls What Can I Do?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Vera! First of all, you should not be in a hurry to make friends. Yes, it can be really lonely and all but you need to be sure of the people around you before you become friends with them. Also, what you need to do is to observe the people around you from afar and know whether they can be your friends or not (to avoid being friends with the wrong people). You need to really patient too. Do not worry, you will make friends in no time. We hope this helps
pls how can i stop masterbating??? I really need ur help, my friend told me to start sleepin with boys before it will stop...
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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don't follow ur friend advise, he or she is a devil
Hey Sandy! First of all, your friend is very wrong because having sex is not the cure for masturbation. Masturbation starts from the mind because you think about it before you do it. If you really want to stop masturbating, you need to make up your mind that you want to stop and then do things that will distract you and keep your mind occupied. You can learn a new skill, gist with friends, finish up that chore etc. Just do something that will not let you think about masturbating. We hope this helps.
mine is so complicated nw that i dnt knw how to bring babk the once loving relationship i had wt my best frnd
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Jane! So sorry to hear about this. Have you tried talking to your best friend? Try talking about the good times and the loving relationship you both had and how you want to revive it. Say nice things and be nice to her and maybe your friendship can grow again. Sometimes, it may not get to that stage again because people change but make an effort and see where it gets to. We hope this helps.
pls i do mastubate too but not alway is wen i am felin urge fr sex aat i do dat
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Knw masturbation 4 wat it is,it doesn't keep sex at bay it promotes d urge,try mixing with people when u feel d urge.
try studying d bible like 5 chapters a day,pray 2 god 2 help u,& 4give u.avoid things dat promote sex like films & books
Avoid people dat talk crudely abt sex,find other things doing life is nt all abt sex,Jesus luvs u,don't ruin ur future.
Still Missing My Bestie... She Finally Left 2 Abuja 3 Wks B4 Our WAEC Exam Started
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
I'm missing my bestie o,he has gone bak to skul
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Mhizfella! Awwww… sorry about that. This happens a lot. You can communicate with him by writing a letter to him and telling him how much you miss him. We hope this helps.
am missing my bst frnd becuz I relocate
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
I and my bestie are not in good terms and am not happy..we don't do things together anymore..she annoys me but I miss her
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Divah! Someone has to break the silence and anger. You should talk to her and tell her how you feel about what happened and how you miss her. Holding on to the hate will do nothing but cause more tension. We hope this helps.
cn u date a girl who is a lesbian?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey fireman! This is a personal decision. Thanks
im missing Ma childhood friend what do i do?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. It is normal to miss old friends especially when you have not been in touch in a long time. An easy way out is to reach out to your friend through phone call, text message, a letter or even through social media. There are so many ways to keep in touch. Just choose the one that you prefer. We hope this helps.
big sister can you be with? me i like your habit
how can I know that she is the right one ?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey daddy! You are in the best position to know if she is the right one because you know what you want. Look out for the qualities you want and what she possesses. We hope this helps
I miss my best friend so much. I couldn't get her contact. I have other friends but I still remember her every time...
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Bimbily97! Awwww... we understand how you feel. It happens to a lot of us. You can still hold on to the sweet memories of your friend, who knows, you may see her soon. Hugs from big sis
How can I get a woman to date or marry
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Good
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
I need true love 4 my self
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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are boy or girl
I too i need true luv 4 myself
but if av girl leavng with u togethr like usband nd wife, my born baby she change, if she lack of money no sex btwn us Y?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Dere z dis guy dat am crushing on, i love xo much dat each tym am been left alone in my room i begin to imagine or daydream silly things abt him but i ave nt yet disclosed it to him yet...nd guez wad¿ He happened to b my cousin. he lyks me too as a cousin i am to him nd even takes me as hiz kid sister bcoz dere re all boys(6) widout a sister...plz wad do i do big sis
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Nerg! Thanks for the comment. A crush is usually short-lived and doesn't last long so that is a starting point. In this part of the world, it is a taboo to love or be in a relationship with a family member or close relative. So that is why we are glad that it is only a crush. What you can do is to try and take him off your mind. It may seem hard to you but it is totally achievable. Distract yourself whenever you are around him and try to see him as your brother again. We hope this helps
The Hardest thinz i cud eva do was living mah frndz n moving on but being distance 4rm them help me realise hw much they have contributed 2 mah lyf
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
hw do i tell a girl i like her
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
hi sis pls I nid ur advice I av av a best friend although she's alittle older than me BT we ar closed friends which we can't stay an hour be4 seen each other BT ryt nw she's seriously angry wif me and she has decided to make another friend and they ar always together, eaten together and share many things also av tried in many ways to talk to her bt I CNT get her and I felt seriously jellos wen they ar together plz wot should I do pls I can't watch dem continue lyk dis
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey sneh! Thanks for the comment. Why don't you go to her and apologize? If you can't reach her, write a letter or send a text to her apologizing. Sitting still won't help the situation at all. You need to talk to her about it. We are sorry for what you are going through okay? We hope this helps
Hi sis, I have this very close friend of mine. We aren't in a relationship though but we've grown fond of each other. We share lot of personal problems and solve them together. We're both age mates but he's now in the university. At first,I had that feeling that things were going to change as he got into the university but it didn't really seem so in the first few months. But now things has really changed as he's become very withdrawn from me. Being sensitive, I have decided to keep him at arms length too but I feel bad cos I know it isn't a healthy decision. And I don't want to ask him what the matter is so he won't start having a wrong impression.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Sprinsgter! Thanks for the comment. We totally understand how you feel. You need to talk to him about it. There is nothing communication cannot solve. Let him know that you feel he is now withdrawn. You will be surprised that he is not consciously aware of what he is doing. He could just be very busy. So talk to each other about it to know what next to do. We hope this helps
Big Sister, i have a Bestie who travelled to the United States of America for over 3 years now, I've not really talked to her but I'm scared that she may have changed, what do i do? Help me, I'm really scared
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Kylie! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry for what you are going through tight now. We understand how painful and sad it can be when you're no longer so close to your friend. What you can do is to keep in touch with her through social media and chats. You both can gist and communicate through these platforms and just be in touch. We hope this helps
Thanks a lot, I'm satisfied You just made my day, Big Sister!!!!!
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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You're welcome Kylie! We are always happy to help
this pakage is a nice 1
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
My family moved a lot when I was small. I made friends but I could never keep them, because once we moved, I lost contact with them. Now I'm older and I still have problems with communicating with friends online. When we see face-to-face, we're cool, but otherwise I suck at making small talks. I guess moving around that much makes me suck at being a very good friend
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey BabyP! Thanks for the comment. Moving around should not determine the type of friend you should be. Do you know that you can keep in touch with friends through chats, messages and phone calls? You can still be actively in touch with your former communities through this. You can even create group chats and add all the different friends you met while growing up, connecting them all together to make a larger group of friends. It is very possible., You really do not have to wait till you see people to communicate. There are so many ways to make friends and keep in touch with them. We hope this helps
big sister im j gues in this side also i want you be my friend and babyP did you agree?
I had a friend named favour, we've been friends since childhood, we are so close that people call us 'jolly friends' and 'artificial twins' we were really fond of each other, we go out and do things together, but last 2 years my dad told me we're relocating to another state which means we wont see each other, we really miss each other though sometimes we communicate on phone and through social media.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Hi....everybody,I'm new here hope I'm welcomed.good write up & I luv this platform.Thanks.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
plz be with me
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
i have a companion who migrated to another state olso i'm missing her give me advice about that!
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hi khairat, u can call her or chat her so as to know that she's still in ur heart
My best friend moved to Akwaibom for university, I miss her a lot most times but we chat on WhatsApp and it helps. We don't really call, just chatting. Sometimes I'm jealous when she posts pictures with he other friend but then I know I'm her bestfriend not just her friend and that's enough for me.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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We love it when you said "that's enough for me" SpiceGirl! Understanding that fact and keeping in touch is very important in keeping and sustaining a relationship. Thanks for sharing this with us
Yea. It do happen, but I think its only because the friendship bond is so strong.
only if u cn take care of her and gv her true love
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Hey victor! This is a group that inspires and encourages girls in Nigeria and not a place to look for a girlfriend. Grooming and things like these are not allowed on this platform and so we have to take down this comment. Thanks for understanding
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Big sis I have comment over 7 reply but u didn't reply why!!
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
My bestie moves to a very far away place to study,nd an am missing hervry much because we don't commumicate. Although she doesn't av a phone yet. But am trying my best to catch up
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.