Who should I talk to about boys?

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Is there a boy you like in your community?

Is there a boy who is toasting you?

Are you unsure what to do about it? Not sure who to talk to?

Scared to speak to your mum or aunt? Worried they will you scold you for talking about boys?

Or do you think they don’t understand how you feel?

What if we told you your mum or aunt understand how you feel.

Yes, that your mum or aunt you are scared to talk to about boys know a lot about them.

They were once teenagers. They probably liked boys too when they were younger.

They know a thing or two about boys and relationships. They want the best for you and will mostly tell you the truth.

This is why it is a good option you speak to them.

But sometimes it’s hard to know if you can open up to someone that is why it’s really important to be able to identify the best people in your life who can support you and give you advice.

Whoever you choose to talk to should be at least two of the following;

- Trusted
- Experienced
- Older
- Non-judgemental

You should choose someone you are comfortable around, whom you admire and respect. It makes it easier for you to open up.

You need to choose someone who won’t judge you. You don’t want someone that will make you feel like a “bad child” for liking a boy.

You need someone with experience. Perhaps a married trusted adult.

You don’t have to choose someone you know everyone goes to for advice. Choose the person who you most feel comfortable with, whom you trust and look up to. It could be your older sister or cousin, aunty, older brother, teacher, counsellor or group leader. Someone who is like a role model for girls in your community.

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Gudday everyone their is this boy in my church i have a great feeling for he i don think if heself have thesame about me for the first time i set my eyes on he i fall in love i don know what to do, i have never have this kind of feelings for a boy before, please help me what will i do?

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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just be patient with him , be friendly with him, I'm sure he will surely av interest in u.

WHY?

I guess our elders under us than every one can do

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

hey everyone there is this boy am dating ever since i slept with him his behavior has changed dont know what made me to cause i have been refusing his advances dont know what to do now

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey fumy! So sorry about that. You should talk to him about it. Express yourself to him and also your fears. We hope this helps

Maybe that's all he wanted from you, or he could by shy to see you, try to figure out which one, hope this was helpful

Make a strong connect with him, make him feel happy when he is around you.

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

the last time i talked to my mom about a guy who tried to touch me,she scolded me.she talked to me like i asked him 2 touch me.ever since then i swore never to tell her anything about my relationship with boys..i'd rather talk 2 my friends about it i dont know if there's something wrong with that

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey beverly! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We are so sorry for what you went through with your mum. Talking to a friend is not bad either but why we advise on a trusted adult is because we want you to be guided. With friends, you tend to gist but with a trusted adult, you get good guidance. Things did not really go well with your mum but you can try talking to another trusted adult that won't judge you or scold you. It could be a teacher, an aunt, older sister or brother, neighbour, dad, cousin etc. Just anyone older than you that you trust. We hope this helps

thank you bigsis

Hey big sis there dis guy am dating anytime he make love to me i feel pain because his penis is big so i want to quite the relationship but he don't want to let me go what do i do?

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Oh my God...😂😂😂

Hey Ebere! Thanks for the comment. If you want to end the relationship, then end it. Do not let him force you to remain in a relationship you are no longer interested in. Sometimes, having sex with someone that is extremly big can be harmful to you too. You have a voice and a right to make certain decisions without anyone forcing you to do otherwise. We hope this helps

iz dey typ was lukin 4

Hi Ebere I would advise u to speak up 4 urself n don't let him use u just 2 satisfy his sexual desires, bcos after he's tired of u, he would dump u 4 another gal.

He didn't buy a big dick, he didn't ask for it, it's just nature, try to tell him that you feel pains as a result of rough sex, next time tell him to be slow, size doesn't matter in sex, don't break a heart, give him another chance, if it doesn't work, please don't let him cause any damage, hope this was helpful🙏🏼

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March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

hey,,,bigsis mai boifrnd kips askin me 4 sex.....buh due 2 d fact dat am a virgin....makes me scared dat it myt lead 2 pregnancy....wah shuld i do

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey zaynee! Thanks for the comment. Sex is not a proof that you love someone. Also, noone should compel you to do what you do not want to do or are not ready for in the name of love. Love is not forceful. If you are not ready to have sex yet, please do not let anyone put you under pressure okay? Once you have sex (with or without a condom), you will no longer be a virgin and you may even get pregnant. Not only that, think of the other things involved - STDs, infections or even HIV/AIDS. So dear, think about it very well.

Hey Zaynee, I believe sex is not for people outside marrige. A lot of people have sex without being married these days but that does not make it right. For ladies, a guy that deflowers you, you can never forget. You become seriously attached emotionally and a lot of guys are out there just for the fun of it counting scores. The one to whom you give your body for sex you become one with and he must be responsible for responsibilities that come with sleeping with you. I advise you keep yourself till marriage.

Hi guyz m new here hope m welcome

plz what is this all about

If you've told your boyfriend that you are not ready for sex and he still insists, ones he gets it he is off, that could be the reason he claims to love you, if you keep rejecting him, one day he'll get tired and maybe break up with you, but that doesn't mean you are going to let him sleep with you, be strong, hope this was helpful

Goodday All, pls is't good to tell a boy u have feelings for him because there is dis boy am having feelings for and we dont talk but anytime i see's him with another girl i always feel jerlours but there was oneday he was talking to me and he was asking me lf i was his girlfriend and i said no and am madly inlove with him, pls what will i do?

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey Springster! Get to know him better. Talk to him, be friends with him, know his personality and other things. Love is deep! You need to know someone well to love them. What if you do not like his behaviour? So this is why you should get to know him better before you express your feelings to him. We hope this helps

Okay thankx

Hey guys am new here

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

Help me! A guy have been begging me 2 be his girlfriend 4 over 2 yrs now but i refused and now he wants 2 marry me. This guy is going crazy b cos of me, he pleaded wit so many people 2 help him talk 2 me. Pls what should i do?

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Put the guy to test. Are you a Christain pray about it.

Hey Princess! Thanks for opening up through this comment. The first question is do you like him? Another question is Are you ready for a relationship or even marriage? Because no matter how much someone begs you, if you are not ready or interested, there is nothing you can do about it. You rejected him for 2 years.. why did you do that and why are you considering marrying him now? Remember you didn't date him and you probably do not know anything about him. Is he also ready for marriage? Do you both have the basics - a steady source of income, accomodation etc. There is a lot that goes into marriage and you have to be consciously ready for it. The fact that someone says he wants to marry you is not enough reason for you to want to jump at it. Answer all these questions sincerely and then think about it properly. In the end, you have the final say. We hope this helps

Well Princess, I also told some girls I 'll marry them when I was younger but guess what? I didn't marry them. I guess neither you nor the guy is ready for marriage in the next five years so I suggest you focus on other things that will equip you for the best in future like developing your mind by reading books. We guys are more of accomplishment driven and once he gets you, he becomes tired of you an is off for another catch only the matured ones that are not so. I suggest you ignore him.

That's so wrong, is he begging your heart to love him, follow your heart

i got lots of problems.pls help me.i flirt wit girls alot,wen i dnt even like them,i wanto stop it bt dnt knw hw to go about it.by d way am new,

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey tonworio! Thanks for the comment. This is something you consciously need to work on. Try to consciously make an effort not to flirt. There is a difference between flirting and being friendly. You need to know when to draw the line and that is totally up to you. We hope this helps

Just have self control

Hi am new here, I think its better to talk to ur best friend about it rather than ur mom or aunt bcos, like my mom she would scold you for even listening to the guy at first

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Datz true like my mum 2 she does d same

Its better to talk to a thrusted prson am new here

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

For me, i choose my mum

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

Guys come on Is better 2 talk 2 ur mummy

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

dere is a boy whom am dating he asked me to vow to him dat i will never cheat on him and i did it wholeheartedly now he is dating another person i dnt know wat to do pls advise me

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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The other guy you have now dated....does he know u were dating ur ex??

am not d one dating my ex he is d one

Firstly make sure dat he's truly dating d girl..then talk to him about it

If you are sure he is cheating on you, just cut the relationship, he doesn't care about you any more, but be sure he is cheating,

I dont know how to speak to my mum about thist guy

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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You can Just go up to your mum and joke about it.....she will understand you very well.....just try

You should know your mom well, if she's strict then I don't see any point of you talking to her about a boy except if you are 18 and above, doesn't mean you shouldn't love, just know what is right and do it, one day we'll become parents and we will be protective too, we would want the best for our kids and avoid every danger, try to be in their shoes for once then you'll understand, hope this was helpful

Hi everyone am new but what i have to say is in a case like this the fist tin u do befor going to tell your mom is,did the boy love you ? how are u sure the person will not dissapoint u when u tell ur mom or somone about him

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Yes! das true guy.

dere is these particular boy dat luv me althought i had a date i tld him instead of him 2 quit he get closer d more nd i found myself lovin him than my date i m confuse i dnt knw wat 2 do bcus i dnt luv double datin

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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my advice is for u to look the two char

Look closer

Hi, the thing is, if u don't love him u tell him frankly ,relationship is not by force..

You can't just shut down a guys love, don't shatter his feeling, do the chemistry, compare them, notice the one that is fun to be around, if you are happy with the old one, keep him, but don't turn against the other, try to explain the fact that you are dating someone, no one knows tommorow, you could still love the new one tommorow, follow your heart

mum

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

Liked a guy don't know what to do

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

When i told mum she stopped me frm evrytin. .i felt shame i couldnt share it with frnds,my grades went down, i cant forgive him,not now until he payz!!

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Ehya sori ooo,but u should ave knw dat no parent suppourt u to be dating a guy,u knw our parent will jst be u ave nt finish ur school nd u want to be aveing boyfnd.u no dey wont agree, u suppose to tell ur aunty or some older person u trust nd u knw she or he wont judge u.nd pls frnd dont let dat week u pls...........u are a springster.u go girl!!!

your mum of course.......

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

i need advice pls bigsis,wel der z dis guy hu jst came 2 my strt newly n his quite cute though but i dnt lyk him,wel he ask me 2 b his frnd n i aven't yet n i dnt tink i eva wil cos of my mum,n he's been disturbing me,wel d best ting i do z 2 aviod him,bt u knw i cnt aviod him 4 eva so pls i need ur advice on wat 2 do pls bigsis.thanks.

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hi guyz

I Will Rather Talk To Someone Confidential In Church Than Any Other

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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it's not all about Church it's about trust

u hav 2 trust in urself!and watch ur side.

my order brother

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

I have a childhood friend our parents dont know our friendship is no longer an ordinary and i love him but am looking for a means to tell my parents about it. what can i do it that is tell my parents about it?

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Hey MimiSilver! Thanks for the comment. There are so many ways to tell your parents about this. You know your parents more so you know when to tell them certain things and the time to tell. Just do it when you are sure that they are in a good mood and you are sure that they won't judge you. We hope this helps

I toast A Girl ,nd She Agree ,i Dnt Knw Wat Nd Wat To Talk To Her,can U Tel Me Wat To Talk To Her?

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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its simple guy u guys shud just discuss talk abt ur likes and dislike try and build ur relationship

Hey Emzyfrosh! Thanks for the comment. We cannot tell you what to discuss with a girl you toasted. It is more personal. You need to be sure you know what you want and how to communicate with her before you go ahead and ask her out. You need to think of why you toasted her and what you want out of the relationship (this is not a one-day thing). We wish you all the best.

Just be yourself around her, don't try to be cool, you'll see, stuffs will keep getting into your head, and before you know it, you've got good conversation, but at first try to know her better, be very relaxed while around her, because being nervous could cause you to be speechless,

HOW CAN U ASK FOR KISS FROM UR GIRLFRIEND

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Hey Emzyfrosh! Thanks for the comment. Before you ask for a kiss, you have to make sure that your girlfriend is ready for the kiss too. If she is not, you should not force her or try to convince her. Respect her decision and let it stay that way. You both need to discuss this openly rather than just asking for a kiss. Ask her if she is ready for it. We hope this helps

Never ask for a kiss, let your instincts do it, try to kiss her when you feel it's right, when you know she's so much in love with you, and can't resist, you must be romantic, be a gentle man, and don't touch too much on your first kiss, with time you will enhance, step by step, don't force her, hope this was helpful

A gy toasted me nd i don't know what to say either yes /no bcause we are close nd did'nt know it will get to that point,so what should i do.

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Hey Jomiloju! We cannot tell you what to tell such a guy but what we advise is that you get to know him better. You cannot go into a relationship with someone you do not really know much about. We hope this helps

Girls shouldn't say yes to boys because they requested to love you, say yes to a boy whom you've been waiting for his request, whom you've got fellings for, that's true love, don't force yourself to love, hope this was helpful

Who will I know if this person is the right person

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Hey Effiong! There is no manual to know if the person is the right person or not. It is totally up to you. You need to know what you want in a partner. Once you know what you want, you then need to find out what you can offer to that partner too. This is the best way to know this. We hope this helps

Bigsis I need ur advice...there's dis boy I love and he told me he loves me too but I don't know what to do cause he's not always around for like months cause of school. I'm used to it but sincerely am tired of always waiting for him to come back...What Should I Do??

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Just be very careful, talk to a mature adult about it...

Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. It's okay to miss him but you have the final say in this case because he has to go to school (he can't give up his education just to be with you). This is why we say going into a relationship has to do with how ready you are for it. This is one of the things that come with it. Talk to a trusted adult like FeriWhite said. We hope this helps

Thanks Dearies

Hi bigsis pls is't good to sexchat or mastarbet i really need help 4 my friends sake

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Hey Angel! This is a personal decision and it is up to the person to make. We hope this helps

Pls hw do u know when a guy loves u or when his lyin to u

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Hey Angel! There is no manual for us to share with you on whether a guy likes you or not. You need to pay attention to the signs. We hope this helps

They are not smart than you, soon they'll reveal their true selves, just observe,

Big sis,m scared of having sex with my boyfriend bcos of the pains.......we did it like two times all I felt was pain,,,what should I do

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Hey Jenv! Thanks for the comment. You should talk to him about it. You should also talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor. We hope this helps

wow.

wow

some boys are unexperienced and they end up making a girl uncomfortable. see a doctor. try enough fore play. tnks.

Pls I need help

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

That's quite helpful

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

thanks for diz

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

I can't taik to my mum about boys

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

Am tired of being mum pet she don't like me playing around boys

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Hey DAY! Thanks for the comment. Your mum is probably worried about your safety and so that is why she doesn't want you to play around boys. She probably feels like boys will hurt you or take advantage of you. So you may want to talk to your mum about this and make her understand that you only want to be friends with boys and nothing more. We hope this helps

moms are protective,live right nd gain her trust then watch out.

Then don't play around boys, play around a boy, make sure he isn't corrupt, enjoy yourself, don't really allow him to enjoy himself, get what you want, be safe, keep your distance, boys are destructive, give your mom credits for what she's doing, hope this was helpful

Hey, I do fall in love, I'm always honest, but I don't know how to stay in love, I get tired easily, and loose all affections, is there a solution?? Pls

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Yeah,there is a solution,what makes u feel tired just make sure you study yourself

Hey Psam! Thanks for the comment. You need to find out the reasons why you are falling in love. If you are falling in love for the wrong reasons (because all your friends have a boyfriend or someone pressured you into having one). These reasons can make you get tired easily. We hope this helps

examine ya self nd know why yuh loved that person. maybe yuh were infactuated,while thinkin yuh are in love

well,they all said the truth and i think what you need to think about is what makes you tired+ there are boys that makes you special you wont want to leave them i had 1 as a friend and it was painful we couldnt date he would sing,write poems,do beautiful things for me. Imagine what that would do for his girl look for someone that will make you feel specia i believe that will heipl

I think I'm falling in love again, I want it to last

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

HOW DO I KNOW IF I REALLY LOVE A GUY?

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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You will get uncomfortable when ever you see him, a bit shy, you won't be able to last 1 hour without hearing from him, you will always reply his messages first, you won't stop thinking about him, you'll dream about him, your heart will just tell you, that guy, hope this was helpful

hi everyone i'm new.sori 4 cendin a mesage b4 telin u i was new.

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

well,am new here,i have 3 boyfriends and they all clim to love me,i want to brk up with them all,how will i do it without breaking hearts?

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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just tell them you are no longer interested, and you have lost all affections, it's easier for girls than boys, they'll be fine, besides, having three boyfriends is not loving any, don't play yourself, do what's right , you'll feel much better after, hope this was helpful

Hey 7410! Honestly, it will be hard to say that you won't break hearts when you end a relationship. If you think of the hearts you will break then it may stop you. What you should do is to politely let them know that you are not interested in the relationship anymore. Like Psam said, they will be fine. Thanks Psam for this wonderful advice.

pls.... How can I toast a qirl?????

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Hey ToUcH! We cannot teach you how to toast a girl because this is personal and not meant to be scripted. All you need to do is to be friends with her first. This is very important and you should get to know her first. Don't be in a hurry, take your time okay? We hope this helps

Pls,I have a lover...seriously all he'll say to is for us to be more intimate in this our relationship but he finds it hard to talk to me outside even on chats,but he'll be like give your attention,I don't understand him...am confused about his love for me

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Hey Natasha! Have you spoken to him about this? If you haven't, you really should so that he knows how you feel. Communicating your feelings and your worries are very important in a relationship so please talk to him about this. We hope this helps

i hav a boyluver who luv my family bt dey dont no we ar dating.wot can i do to make dem know and nt feel bad abt it?

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Ask them if it's advisable to be in a relationship,just to know thoughts towards it

Hey cute! Telling them depends on your relationship with them. Are you free to talk to them about random things like friends etc? If yes, it will be easier for you to tell them. If no, you can start talking about other things to build a relationship with them. You can also choose the one that you are closer to and talk to the person privately about it. We hope this helps

There was a guy which hpn to be my classmate friend and also my church member bt i realze that whenever i saw him i fil like i should hug him i love him so much whenever i saw his picture i fil like crying i dnt kwn wat to do i have try my possiable best to get him out of my mind but the more i do that the more i felling in love i dnt wat to pls help me

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Hey Bright! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We are so sorry for what you are going through. It can just may be a crush and crushes tend to die after a while. What you need to do to get over him is to, first of all, make up your mind that you want to do it because it all starts with the mind and your thoughts. Next, you will need a worthy distraction that will help you take your mind off it (you will start by getting rid of that picture that always makes you cry). You can also channel your energy on other things like a hobby, gisting with friends, learning a new skill etc. Things like these that will take your mind off him and still improve your skills and build relationships. We hope this helps

Thanks big sis

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

Pls if a boy ask u out in a relationship what can i do

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Hey Deborah! This is totally up to you as it is a personal decision. First of all, are you interested in being in a relationship with the boy? Are you ready to be in a relationship? Do you really like this boy in question? Do not go into a relationship because a boy asked you out. You should be in a relationship because you are ready to be in one. We hope this helps

Is simple, first ask yourself this questions; do I really know this guy? Do I like him to be my friend? Don't go out with someone you don't really know his way about, and someone you don't have any feellings for, finally don't force yourself to be with someone.

Hi,m new here I need advice,m in luv wit a guy bt he z much mre older dan me he doesnt care abt it bt m worried pls wat do i do?

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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That z not luv z called upsesse n mastobation, it will only lead you destruction

Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. If you are so bothered about his age then it may be a problem. You have to be totally comfortable with the person you want to go into a relationship with if not, you will definitely have problem in the relationship. The final decision is up to you so you have to make up your mind on the decision you want to take on this. We hope this helps

Age is just a number u have to decide like am i ready to get a long with this guy, do I really need him in my life those questions. Be sure u like him also then make your choice.

I kinda like two guys re once, pls s dis normal

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Luk Chiami It's Nt Bad Though Most Tyms It Can Lead To Confusion Just Giv It Tym N U Will Know D 1 U Truly Luv,n I Also Say U Shud Be Careful Nt To Make D Wrong Chioce

Hey chiami! What you feel for the two boys is called a crush and there is nothing wrong with having a crush. You cannot like 2 people equally, there is definitely one you like more. We hope this helps

It happens to me as well o

DATING SOMEONE FOR MONEY IS AS THE SAME YOU DONT LIKE THE PERSON TALK MORE OF LOVE.VERY BAD

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

I'll rather talk to my friend but I can't. I really like this guy and I feel like I can't tell anyone even my Bestie and she's experienced guys help me

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Hey Ng07! Thanks for the comment. Why don't you try talking to a trusted adult to give you advice based on their past experience? This can be an aunt, older sister or cousin, mom, neighbour (just anyone older) that you can trust. We are not saying that your friend is not good enough but her experience with guys cannot be compared to that of any of these people we mentioned. Consider it. We hope this helps

Please I am 23years of age and I am am handsome, cool and God fearing but I have never been in a serious relationship. Every girls I have met just want me to be there friend, they all say to me that "you are a very nice guy so we don't want to break your heart" Please what can I do I need your help

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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I would say you caused it...Guys Just Have To Be Free And Nt Make The Ladies Scare From Them

Hey Springster! Thanks for opening up through this comment. You have not found the person that you should be with. Being in a relationship is not about being with just any girl and it seems like you just want to be in any relationship. What do you want from the relationship? What qualities do you want in a partner? What are you willing to give or sacrifice to make it work? Until you discover what you want, it will be hard to find the person that will appreciate. We hope this helps

Hey Purity! Being nice is not a crime and blaming him for his personality is wrong.

Hi ps help me i have a close girlfriend but whn i ask her to be my lover, frm tht time she do want to speak with me she hate me morethen ever tin but i love her please wht will i do?

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Hey 954! It is obvious that she is not interested in being in a relationship with you. She only wanted friendship. You cannot force someone to love you so there is nothing you can do about it than to let her go. We hope this helps

Pls i dnt knw wat wrong wit me any guy dat ask me out they always irritate me let me put it dat way no matter ao handsome dey are nd av nt be sexually abuse before but dont just knw why.

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Hey Hardey! There is nothing wrong with you. What is happening is that you have not yet found the person that you truly like. So do not be in a hurry. Take your time and wait for the person that you really love. We hope this helps

I'm madly in love with this guy..Though We are in a relationship but i ain't happy in the relationship cause i know he doesn't love me as much as i do my question now is how can i get him off my mind..are there tips 2 forget about someone? because i can't even sleep right now

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delete his picture on ur phone don't think about him

Hey Purity! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about what you are going through, we understand how hard it is. Are you breaking up with him or are you just walking out of the relationship? If you want to end everything, we advise that you properly break things off and then make up your mind that you want to get over him. Try to distract yourself by concentrating on other things like learning a new skill, starting a small business, reading a book or even hanging out with friends. We hope this helps

I WILL LIKE TN TALK TO MY MUM

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I am Ayo, 18 years of age, a male. I av neva been in any relationship before. I av seen a girl I really like and anytime I av the opportunity to approach did girl and tell her my mind I am always afraid. I av tried to overcome dis fear but its not working at all. Please advice me!!!

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Hey Ayo! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We advise that you start by being friends with her. It is really awkward for you to walk up to someone you do not really know and start professing love. You both need to get to know each other better before you can even know if you truly love her. This will help you boost your confidence and also let you know if you truly love her. We hope this helps

Thanks Big Sister, Hw do I knw dat she loves me?

Hi,I am new here....I will like to ask a question...How will u know if u av fallen in luv with a guy,and how will u know if the guy truly loves u like he has always claimed.Bcus I always av this feeling dat guys are wicked and not trustworthy and they are always there to hurt one's feelings towards them.

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Hey Louis! Thanks for the comment. Before you get to know if you love someone or someone loves you, you need to change that mindset first of all because not all guys are wicked and so many guys are actually trustworthy. Once you are over that feeling, you will then be sure that you can start talking about love but until then, it is not safe to enter a relationship when you have trust issues. We hope this helps

l am a youth today it's so hard for me to forget wat has been happening to me and i have been appraoch by three gays first he want me to spend a night wit him second i like him so much he does not know dat i ve feelings for him yes he has appraoch me bt i am afriad of telling d truth bcos he had spoil everything by saying i should kissed him first time seeing each other. thirdly dis did allow me to introduce myself suddenly d gay was standing naked in front of me wanted to rape me, i was so scared bcos dat was my first time seeing a man's nakedness.what can i do pls am afriad.

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Hey blessing! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We advise that you talk to professional about this. There is an organization called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.

HELLO AM NEW I LIKE TO ASK ............AM 21 Y OLD MAN.SO I LOVE A GIRL THEN I WANNA MARRY HER BUT I CAN TELL HER BCOS IT WILL TAKE LONG TIME TO START TALKIN ABOUT MARRY ..CAN I TELL HER THAT I LOVE HER OR TO MAKE HER BE MY FRIEND THEN LOVE

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You don't have to be in a hurry, allow it to pass through the test of time.

Hey ILLO! Welcome to Springster. There is no need to be in a hurry about marriage when you are not ready. Marriage is beyond love, you both need to be compatible and that will take some time for you both to know. Now, to whether or not you should tell her, it is really awkward to just meet a girl and start professing love. So, you need to get to know her personally and know if you really like her before you take things to another level. We hope this helps

How will u know if a guy is trustworthy and how will u know if d guy is truly in love with u?

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. We have an article titled 'Does he like you?' and this explains your question on whether he truly loves you. On knowing if he is trustworthy, you need to pay attention to the details of what he says and does. However, are you a trustworthy person? Remember, like attracts like. We hope this helps

there is dis gay i am in love wit bt i found it diffult to tell him my feelings i do pass his street everyday we do greet our self bt yet i can't tell him.wat should i do.

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Hey blessing! Thanks for the comment. You do not have to be in a hurry to tell him you love him yet because you just know him on a surface level. You do not know if you will also fall in love with his personality or not. So get to know him better. Get more friendly, talk to him more and then you will know what will happen next. We hope this helps

y is it dat gay makes things so had for d ladies were by if d girl refuses to prove her love for him.Y is it so

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Intimacy needs time to prove its whot, dnt be forced to prove your love, take it step by step

Hey blessing! Not all guys are like this. Please do not feel pressured to say yes to a guy. No guy should force you to give him a response. He has to respect your decision. However, girls should not intentionally punish guys by waiting unnecessarily when you already know what you want. We hope this helps

Big sist and other guidian out there please to me d different between CRUNSH and LOVE,am waiting

I am bigsam I found it difficult to login to that account why.

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Hey Isme! If you can send in this comment, it means that you are already logged in. We hope this helps

Isme is new account I just opened but I can't login to "bigsam" account with the correct password.

Big Sister,der Is A Boi I Luv So Much,but I Don't No Hw 2 Express My Feeling,but I Don't No Y They Hide Der Feelings

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Hi gift. Stay calm don't be in a hurry, it may be your emotions for him is high, give it a time to prove you really love him and just be friends and show his reactions because he may not really love the way you think.

Hey Gift! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you need to be sure that what you feel for him is really love and not just a crush because it is really hard to love someone you do not know on a personal level. Also, he probably is not hiding his feelings because he probably does not feel the same way for you. Like Isme said, do not be in a hurry and also be friends with him so that you will know him better and know if you really love him like you say. We hope this helps

Am new here.. Am a boy i have been dating a girl morethan six month now. I love her so much. But i dnt know if she love me desame. And i want to no if she love me also How do i no?

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Hi Sally. Her response, attitude towards the friendship will tell you more if she really loves you too. Again does she easily want to get along with you. I hope this will help.

Hey sally! Isme has said it all. You need to pay attention to details. Thanks Isme

But isme.... We have love pretender. You know that?

Hi Sally. Yes I know that, she can't pretend forever just be showful. I hope this will help.

Big sis am in luv with a guy he asked me out wat shuld i do?

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Hi Lizzy. It's a personal decision you will decide if to go out with him. But in normal sense don't go out with someone you don't really like to be with.the choice is yours to make. Hope this will help.

Hey Lizzy! Like Isme said, this is a personal decision for you to make. We cannot tell you what to do but be careful and be sure that you really like him. We hope this helps

I happy

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Is it possible 2 fall in love with 2 guyz at d same time

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Hi Robin. Yes but you have to makeup your mind and choose one

Hey Robin! Thanks for the comment. You cannot love 2 people equally. You definitely have to love one more but you need to pay close attention to find out. We hope this helps

how can I fight shyness

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Hi Mahy-kuh. Go through this article #confidence.

lol

Hello every one i'm new here

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There is a guy in my area we use to be friends but when he told me that he luv me i told him i dont luv him i only want us to be friends sinse from that day he stop talking to me and i luv him as friend plc tell me what to do

HI

GOOD

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Big sister why do people date? and in secondary school what does dating benefit both parties?

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Hey Gesi! Dating is a personal decision and so everyone has their own reason for dating. This reason also affects the benefits of dating too. We hope this helps

Why Do People Av To Date, Especially In Secondary School?

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atimes per pressure

Hi,big sis...i know this site is for girl's only, but u have to help me....i have a friend who happened to fall in luv but when he told her, his feelings, she stopped talking to him nd it has put him in a bad mood,but lately he said he is done with her, but when he see's her, his heart skips, he trys to say something to her but she ignores him,he crys most of de times, he doesn't laugh at my jokes again...well the girl was wait to tell me how she feels about me nd she did on valentine..am going to play along with her then smash her heart for what she did and still doing to my friend, but i want to hear what big sis.. Has to say

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Please don't punish this girl for not loving your friend. It is not her fault. Love cannot be forced. She saw your friend as her friend and now she knows he is in live with her she doesn't know how to deal with it again. You say she tells you she likes you? This might be why she acted like that towards your friend. Maybe she has been liking you long before and she did not know how to deal with your friend's love. Two wrongs dont make a right. Please leave her alone and let God judge. For your friend, it is only a matter of time, he will be fine. We all have been heartbroken at one point or the other before, with time, he will get over it. Moreover, if your friend really really loves this girl, I don't think he'll want to see her heart broken as his is. If you really want to help your friend, help him get over her. Help him get his attention focused on other things that are beneficial to him and his future. He will be fine.

Hey K299! AO is very correct. You cannot and should not pay someone back for not loving your friend. LOVE IS NOT BY FORCE. You paying her back will not make her fall in love with your friend neither will it heal his broken heart. Violence is never the solution to any problem. You can do something that can endanger her life and put you and your friend in trouble just because she said she did not fall in love with your friend. Also,your friend needs professional help. We recommend The Child Advocacy Centre to your friend. They help young people who need professional help. Your friend can call them on 08 00 80 08 001. He doesn't have to worry about anything because it is a confidential service and calls are free. We hope this helps

Pls all the girls tune to this channel i have a story for you

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what story is it cause I what to know.

i'am in lov with a gir but she did not lov me so what will i do

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non'thin

there is nothin u can do

Nothing, just let her know u love her besides u don't force someone to love u.

It is better i take to my anut

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Hey Mercy! If you are comfortable with her, then you can. It is just about who you are comfortable with. We hope this helps

My Girlfriend Name Grace,i Love So Much But She Is Not Opening Up To Me And I Don't Known What To Do To Make Her Open Up To Me.Please What Should I Do?

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Hey Emma! Thanks for the comment. You need to give her time. Some people are hard to crack and need to trust you totally before they can open up to you. Be easy on her and don't force her to open up. Try having conversations instead of just asking her questions. Let it flow but the most important thing is that you need to give her time. We hope this helps

hi,I became close friend with a guy in my street(portharcout) for about 2years,he buys me gifts and I do receive them, he was transferred(Lagos) early this year, to cut d story short he is now asking me out and he is older than me for sure...am confused ...plz what should I do?

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Hey Springster! Thanks for opening up through this comment. You need to be very careful with this guy! Why was he buying you gifts for 2 years without making his intentions known? Was he trying to buy you over? You just need to be careful and do not let what you were gaining from him lure you into a relationship with him. In your comment, you did not say anything about having feelings for him. Please, let a trusted adult know about this but we advise you think about it properly before taking a step. Your safety is better than the gifts he's been giving you. We hope this helps

If he gives u any thing again and try to cut your relationship with him

Hey Sis. why is teen girls so obsessed with boys that seduced them and why did girls always think boys are demons that always come to woo and ask for sex

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Hey Vic! This is not a general thing. Not all girls act that way or fall under this category so please do not generalize. Well, girls that think that boys are demons do so because of the experience they have had with boys in the past. Maybe the boys have done something to make them feel like they are with demons. We hope this helps

Hi big sis,pls advice me on this,their is this girl that live close to me for 2 years naw,we are almost shearing disame fence,but i can't even open my mouth and talk to her,pls hw can i start to talk to her

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Try to make her ur friend wave at her most times

Hey Kira! Thanks for the comment. Thanks for the comment. You should smile at her and like Joy said, you can also wave at her. Say Hi when you can and even offer to help her do somethings. Friendship starts with a step. We hope this helps

Always try to visit her and always smile to her and make her feel free near you

i like the article

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Have gist my frnd abot dis site BIG sist cn he joint since he's male?

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Hey Donminic! Thanks for the referral. Your friend is free to join this group. He can learn a lot here too. We hope this helps

hi i have a frnd i love him but his hot tempered am trying but no change what should i do

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Hey chilove! Thanks for the comment. You cannot change anyone especially if the person is not ready to change. You need to just let him know the dangers of having temper issues and not try to change him because it will feel like you are making him what he is not and this can make him even more angry. You need to talk to him and let him know how his hot temper can affect your friendship with him and even with others and generally the dangers of having a hot temper too. But never force him to change. We hope this helps

i think u blessed with wisdom big sister i love the way u answer questions with knowledge

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Hey Petra! Thanks for your kind words. Big sister really appreciates you. You are amazing and we love you for this.

Im happy to be here.....kudos to Big Sister

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Hey Apostech! We are happy to have you here too.

BIG SIS,DO U THINK MY MUM WIL UNDERSTAND ME TALKIN TO HER ABOUT BOY,WNT SHE TAKE IT D WRONG WAY?

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Hey GRACE! Thanks for the comment. There is only one way to find out and that is to tell her. We always advise all Springsters to talk to a trusted adult about things like this. There are ways to talk to an adult about boys and other things like this. You can start talking to her about all your friends and general issues. You should also know when to approach your mum about issues like this. We hope this helps

There is dis boy my uncle told me about. My uncle said d boy likes me and want to be my friend what should l do.

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Hey Rosemary! Thanks for the comment. What to do about it is totally up to you. You both need to get to know yourselves better first and not even rush into anything. This is very very important. The fact that he likes you does not mean that you should automatically like him back too. Don't get too excited okay? Get to know him first. We hope this helps

my mom is harsh an she dnt want any issue involving boy, dere is dis boy who like telling me abt his friend,wat shuld i do am confuse sis

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Hey lovable! Thanks for the comment. You need to know how and when to talk to your mum about things she does not really like to discuss (especially boys). You should just talk about general random things and them add the conversation of boys into it or just talk to her in a way that you are sure she won't misinterpret. As for the boy your friend is telling you about, you need to calm down and get to know him better. There is no need to hurry and rush into it. The fact that he likes you does not mean that you will automatically like him too. We hope this helps

hey big sis, is it a crime 4 a girl to a boy is inlove wit him

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Hey lovable! We do not understand your comment. We advise that you explain better so that we can answer you better. Thanks

my brother whom I trust to tell him about my feelings for my bf is making me to feel uncomfortable. He doesn't like it to hear that i have a boyfriend, he always scold me, whenever I talk of or ans a call from a boy, he must ask me who am talking with but he makes his own frnds and never let me do mine. what should I do pls

Hey excel! Thanks for the comment. Your brother is just being very protective. He probably still sees you as his baby sister and will not be happy for you to start dating so he is trying to control who you talk to. A lot of brothers do this. Talk to him about how you feel. We hope this helps

My mum is nt an easygoing person nd if i tell her about boys she might feel dat am slipping off her finges or becoming bad, pls big sis wat shld i do

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Hey Gifted! Thanks for the comment. You are only assuming all these things about your mum. Have you tried talking to her about it? We suggest you try first instead of concluding. We hope this helps

am 14 is it wrong at my age 2fall in luv cos my mum tinks am still small

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Hey oyi! Thanks for the comment. Age has nothing to do with love. Your mum thinks you are small because you are not mature enough to know the difference between love and crush. She probably doesn't think you are mature enough to know how to handle and manage love and feelings in general. We hope this helps

Hi big sister, there's a guy who want to marry me, he is known by my parents and friends cos he have made his intentions known to my parents by doing an introduction on my behalf. He's not based in Nigeria but he don't show care love nighter is he romantic. He don't call often duo he is my sponsor cos am in uni. But each time i complain to him or tell him my problems, all he will say is sorry. If he manages to call me, we will talk for just few minutes and he will say bye. I love him but am not convinced yet that he also love me. What should i do cos i dont want to marry a man that do not love me

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Hey Beauty123! Thanks for the comment. First of all, it doesn't seem like you know this guy well enough to say that you love him and vice versa. You both need to talk about this and get to know each other better. You should not hide behind the fact that he is your sponsor because you have to be real to yourself. We hope this helps

Hi big sis dere is girl dat I love and she loves me but I neva got d courage to let her know so recently I told her abt my fellings 4 her den she change totally to me pls big sis wat should I do

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hi big sis am I allowed to celebrate my birthday in this platform please respond cause I would like to celebrate my birthday in this platform.

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Yes, you are jbaby005

am always scared 2 tel my mom abt a boy in my church who want me 2 date him.

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my sister follow ur heart

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Yes my sister, concern is rit but let it b d rit tin .basi

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I will talk to my bestie, cos ever since my mom gave birth to me she hasn't shown me love, am nt fond of her neither am i open to her, she doesn't know my heart desires nor did she know my feelings. I prefer to talk to a stranger than my mom.

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Hey prescott! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about what you are going through but the truth is that your mum does not hate you. She probably does not know what you want and the best and only way for her to know is for you to tell her. Have you tried communicating what you want and how you feel to her? If yo haven't, please try to do so. Your mum does not hate you, give her a chance and make her know how you feel. We hope this helps

hi big sis ow can u help, approaching a girl I seem to have feeling for she replied i should give her time. From then she has been avoiding me, what should I do?

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bukola just wait a little longer is like she is still thinking about it or she might be shy to tell you about her reply.

jbaby is right.

I actually prefer talking to my elder sis and sometimes my sweet mum.

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

My mum and my lil bro are my best friends. I tell them everything. I go to them for advice when i need one

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Nobody in my family, just my friends which we are 4 bestie

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I am actually scared to speak to my mum about it .I think she will just tell me to focus on my studies and no more boys

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I'm always scared too I think telling my mum or aunt will be difficult

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Hey Tommy! Thanks for the comment. You really shouldn't be scared. If you do not feel comfortable about talking to them, we advise that you talk to other trusted adults... cousins, dad, older siblings, neighbors, religious leaders and even your teachers at school. Just be sure to speak to someone older that you can trust. We hope this helps

Thanks tommy i like yor comment,if u need to have confidence but she yor mum.

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Big sisWhy do boys ask for sex in a relationship?

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Why do boys love sex so much

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please I want to say something about My boyfriend and me so that I can get him back. 2)why guy's always request for sex?

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but if my mom will scold me cos I know she will

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but if my mom will scold me cos I know she will

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