Alone and suffering

I found friends and hope

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In recent years, refugees from Somalia, Sudan, Ethiopia and the Democratic Republic of Congo fled from violence in their countries and arrived in Kenya. This is the story of one girl.

My name is Fatuma, and I was born in a remote village in Somalia that seems far away in both time and distance, but I remember everything.

My mother abandoned me when I was just a baby. My stepmother hated my mother, so she treated me like an outsider and a burden. She would always find a reason to beat and insult me.

She never let me play or attend school. Instead, she sent me out with the goats each day and made me stay out until it was dark.

My father was old and didn’t bother with household matters like how I was treated. I grew up feeling lonely and sad. One day I begged my older brother to take me away to the city with him. He did and I was happier than I had ever been in my life.

But one day, when I was at the market, I heard a blast. Even though everyone was running away from the noise, I ran toward it. I’ve always been a curious sort of girl that way. Suddenly, I fell backward with my groceries flying above me. Then everything went dark. I woke up in the hospital to very bad news: I had been shot in the arm, and my brother was missing.

My neighbor asked me to escape with her to Kenya, where I could find a better hospital. I said okay. That was the worst decision of my life. I hate that decision. Even today I don’t know where my brother is. I should have waited for him. He is the only person who ever loved me.

I was in a lot of pain from my wound, and I was afraid because I had no family in Kenya. I was so lonely. A family took me in, but they said I was using my injury as an excuse so I could get out of doing chores. After a year, they kicked me out.

An older lady had been helping me try to see a doctor at the hospital. When I had nowhere to live, she told me about a group called Heshima Kenya that could help me. When I told them my story, they welcomed me with open arms. For the first time since arriving in Kenya, I felt hopeful. At the safe house I met other girls who had escaped war in their countries, who didn’t have families, and who were facing the same challenges as me.

They arranged for me to get the surgery I needed to save my arm, and then they taught me how to read and write. It took six weeks for me to learn how to write my first, middle and last name! Now I am training to become a photo journalist! It is important to tell the world what is happening to us refugee girls. Just because my hand is not working properly, I will not give up on my dreams.

My eyes were closed, but now I can see so many possibilities for girls that I never realized existed. And for all the girls out there who are only sleeping and waking, I wish they could see what I see. No matter how hard the ups and downs of life are, don’t give up. Work toward your goal. I won’t give up. I know that behind many successes there are sad stories, so I too just have to keep going. Even if you are not there yet, it is nice to be on your way.

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Sorry fatuma may dis neva happen in ur life again Amen...

March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.

O Sorry it will never happen again

March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.

Ok let us pray for Fatuma

March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.

😟😟

March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.

Its really a sad moments going through d tough road with nobody with u not even ur family,so sad,we are here doing nothing while some people out dere are suffering.Fatuma u overcome becus victory was meant to be urs dont give up...

March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.

KAI I LOVE DAT

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

eh ya girls we have had it

March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.

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Life not easy right now. Everybody is just fighting to survive. we should learn to support others

i will never give up in any situation

March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.

never give up in any situation you find yourself

March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.

This is impresive big sis

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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hi

That's nix

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

Subhanallah ,may allah make u,a photo journalist

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

Dat true

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

May your dreams come true in the name of Jesus Christ

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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amen oooo

Dat true

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

I've always felt lonely. even though I have a lovely family I always feel left out.I have gone through some major breakdowns and my family don't even know I've been depressed a lot of times but they don't seem to notice.at times I think they don't care about me.

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Dutchess! Thanks for opening up through this comment. It's an issue that affects lots of young people and it's important you get good information and advice from people you can trust. There is an organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.

I also feels thesame

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

I just entered a new school and I have no friends. I am always feeling left out.What do I do?

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Precious! First of all, you should not be in a hurry to make friends. Yes, it can be really lonely and all but you need to be sure of the people around you before you become friends with them. Also, what you need to do is to observe the people around you from afar and know whether they can be your friends or not (to avoid being friends with the wrong people). You need to really patient too. Do not worry, you will make friends in no time. We hope this helps

i do feel lonely, there are somthings that i need to talk to someone about bt i cant and its killing me inside n makes me feel alone.

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Tress! Thanks for opening up through this comment. It can be really sad and lonely when you don't have anyone to talk to. The good thing is that there is a solution! Yes, there is! You can make new friends in your community (at least, people you can always talk to). Remember the secret to having good friends is to be a good friend on your own. Say hi when you meet people, smile more often, walk up to someone that is alone also and start a conversation. Having a friend will really help with keeping you company especially when you are lonely. We hope this helps.

I Always Feel Sad Nd Lonely Bcoz I Dnt Ave Anybdy To Share My Thought With

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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i am empty,i ave a tiny skin dat d world's insult pass through it

I always feel sad, lonely, angry almost everytym and none of the advise have received isn't working

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Mimi_bfab! So sorry about how you feel. Just try to make yourself happy. If all the advise people give you don't work then you should try to advice yourself. You are the greatest motivation to yourself. Make new friends, meet up and talk to old friends that are trustworthy, talk to your close family members, do the things that make you happy (especially when you are sad). Do not allow bad thoughts to take control of your life and always remember that you are in charge of your happiness. We hope this helps.

I am feeling happy now because I have learned from Fatima's Story

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey Olaitan01! We are happy that you are happy *smiles*