How I dealt With Rumours
I was in year one when I experienced my first boy drama.
The boy in question was my family friend Jide.
He was like my brother in school. Always helping me out with school matters.
During our second semester, I noticed he started acting weird. He started avoiding me. Barely spoke to me.
I spoke to him a few times about his behavior. His behavior however remained the same.
After a while, he totally stopped talking to me.
I figured he did not want me around him. I decided to mind my business.
Everything was fine until a girl approached me one day. She introduced herself as Jide’s girlfriend.
I was surprised to hear he had a girlfriend.
She said she only wanted to meet me. We exchanged numbers and she left.
2 weeks later, Jide himself approached me. He asked me to stay away from his girlfriend. He acted as if he was protecting me.
To my surprise after our conversation he went about to tell people I was in love with him. He said I was the reason his girlfriend broke up with him. He even called me a gold digger.
I didn’t know what to do. I was so upset and sad.
I couldn’t walk alone around the school.
I really needed to talk to someone. I opened up to my mum. Although, I did not tell her it was Jide.
My mum said to me;
You can’t control what people think or say about you. However, that should never change who you are.
In life, some people will be good to you and some will be the opposite. So, don’t let this experience make you think everyone is bad.
I am happy you opened up to me. But I need you to report this issue to an authority in your school. He needs to apologise to you. He is spoiling your name and that’s not acceptable.
In the meantime, try not to bother yourself about this issue. In a matter of time, people will forget about this gist. You just focus on your studies.
My mum was right. After a while, people just stopped talking about it.
I will like to say if you ever find yourself in a situation like this please speak up. Report the person to an older person or an authority. You can also talk to an older person like a mum, aunt or even cleric. They will be able to advise you on what to do.
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That was very bad of jide
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Can we chat privately
Thanks to her star she talked to her mum
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Nooooooooo
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Hi cheecha
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Hi prince
Bayley how was ur day
Fine, reply unda my name in this article '5 ways not to get stained or unda this one last comment below, cos i didn't see ur reply.
Bayley can we chat private
There's no way we can chat privately because everything we comment or type here is "public" to everyone in this platform.
are u facebook
i mean are u on facebook
No not yet, but very soon.
please how old re u
Am 15, how old are you too, no lies please
15+
bayley are u a nigerian,if yes which state?
Yeah, am frm akwa ibom state, re u a nigerian too if yes which state.
ya, from Enugu state
Alright, happy sunday
tnx alot
U're welcome.
Hi prince, good morning hw was ur nite, hope u slept well. Please what class are u in.
Reply below.
Bayley am in ss2
my no is 0 7 0 1 9 1 0 4 8 5 3
Mine is may.
Mine is may
hey, how was school
a little bit stressful but still good. If I may ask are u an art student or science student
I've also really missed you and anytime your online I'm not and vice versa but by God's grace we will still talk again. And thumbs up for knowing how to cook
My situation is different. In school a rumor had spread that I am going out with a boy and my mum must not know about it. Big sis wat do u think I should do?
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Hello Barley, cutie, jbaby005, Paris 2,bessy, and all my dear friends Happy new month to you guys. Including my special big sister happy new month to u.
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Same to you dear pinky.
thanks and you 2
hey ,just seeing this ,not too late,happy new month.
How are you friend, it has been long oooo.
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Yea, u too its been long since i last heard from you.
Good morning friend, i am wishing you a very blissful and prosperous morning, have fun all the way.
Gud nite, swt dreams dear friend
bayley
i had been in situations like this, A boy likes me bt had never told me instead he went about telling his friends that i liked him, when i heard this i went straightly to the boy and warned him to stay of me and stop lying abt me so immediately he opened up and told me he liked me, that he had been wanting to talk to me bt i didnt give him the chance so he had to do wat he did to gain my attention. so my advice is if any offends u walk straight to the person and tel him or her and find out why they did it
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Yeah,i love that..keep it up you are brave
bayley my no is 0 7 0 1 9 1 0 4 8 5 3
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Tnxs, but if big sister sees ur no. she may scold us or delete both of us from this platform, and u know sending ur no. is risky as well. And i don't want any scolding neither would u want it. Am very much afraid because this is ur personal info, there's no way it can be deleted, sory if am acting childishly bt i've got to relate my fears to u.
Sorry ooo, good night.
ok
I'm not trying to be a busy body but prince _jnr do u know by giving bayley ur NO.u actually gave a lot of time other people
hmmm
Hi prince, how was ur day, hope u had a blissful day and no troubles, just wanted to say gudnite nd swt dreams.
Please dear friend whats ur birth month ?
Hello Prince2, Bayley is very correct, you are not allowed to share your personal contact information on this site. It is for your own good and your privacy. Please do not do this again or your account will be deleted.
Boys r very funny when I was in jss1 a senior in my s hook always bullied me and yet on valentine's day he asked me out LOL!
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Now what class are u
I dn't undastand wat u mean by "u actually gave a lot of time other people" please don't misundastand me ooo. "biko". Thanks emmy, reply unda my name last comment below this article.
Oct and u
Okay emmy i've heard u
Hi bayley
So both 15yrs, akwa ibom and enugu, one gave out phone no. Just watching
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Excuse me anonymous5, i didn't ask for his no. so u better watch what u say abt us, don't think otherwise.
did I say u asked for his number, I said one gave out the no. What I mean is that alot of people could just hack him. Please girlfriend go get a cup of cold water
ummm! anoynmous luiz
What is luiz
May
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Hi @bayley sorry my phone keeps entering auto correct I mean he exposed his phone number
kul
Hi @prince jnr, I'm actually now in ss3 but I have not forget that incident
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ok
Emmy that is exactly what I'm trying to say and they want to chew me raw
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I will chew part of u raw and use the remaining part to make pepper soup. Hahahaha, Good evening.
gud evening 😂😂😂👌👌
Thank God somebody understands, it's not easy to type when ur phone keeps entering auto correct it can translate the wrong thing
is a terrable one
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Bayley pls what type of pepper soup, I want to know the kind of drink to buy so that we can eat with satisfaction.😋
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So u guys are preparing to eat me, well my meat is rare, it isn't easy to find 😜
Prince jnr, how can u just say ok and not expect me to ask you about ur class
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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am in ss2
OK prince jnr, well it won't be fair that I know ur age(u told bayley) and I didn't tell u my age well I'm 15yrs
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wow ur very fast in class o. 15 ss3 thats gud sha
Big sis, am sorry for sharing my personal info.
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Thanks u, I feel good to hear that.l won't let it get into my head but🙌🙌🙋🙋🙆💪💪just kidding!
emmy ur state nko? or is it part of personal info?
I don't know if it's part of personal info or not, so I don't think I can answer ur question, sorry
Ok
sorry for interfering ,I don't think state is a personal info,but names ,address (city,town,home address),phone numbers .e.t.c.
Hi @gemini if u have a problem with us using u for pepper soup no problem so... since u r our fellow springster we'll manage u with egusi
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pls enough for pepper soup
OK fine we'll stop talking about pepper soup after all the talk was just making me hungry!
I think is better with fried rice
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Hi gemini
school was good and yours?
Science and u
science and u
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science too. That means u want to be an engineer or something related to that
yess civil engineer or architecture what of u
I want to be a neurologist or demertologist
So what is your biggest dream? mine is to study in Oxford University on scholarship
Any university can serve for me
Who is the present minister of education? can u answer with out googling it
I want to copy my data processing note, bye. It was nice talking to you
sure? tnx. sorry i was cooking
please Gemini,I don't want to Google,tell me the name,please minister of education, I don't know it,if you tell me ,it will make it stick to my brain.
hey
Hello Gemini how was ur day? I was wondering what made u choose Gemini as ur user name, is it ur zodiac sign
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I'm 13
My day was okay and Yes it is my zodiac sign @ emmy
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Cool so am I😁
So u are born btw May 22 and June 21
Hi Gemini
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Hello Emmy.
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Hi pinky.b it's been awhile since I saw u online, hope you're ok?
Hi Gemini I was born on the 9th of June
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Yes,it have been awhile I'm alright and you how was your day?
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I'm alright, and my day was👍
Mine is the 5th of June
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Yay! nice to know, just 4 more days and we would have been birthday mates, so.. how old are you?
hi pink y.b
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Hello Gemini.
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Hi pinky.b, hw was ur day
hi.
Hello!!! ironlady, how are u?
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My day was fantastic,what about you.
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It was hectic, good to hear yours was fantastic
Gud morning friends, am new here,
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Welcome
u are welcome @Easygirl
Ur welcome
it is not good for people to use bad words on other persons,should just stop saying bad words to other persons cause bad words really hurt,cause had it been Jide was that was getting hurt,he will not be happy with it.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hi, happy new month to you and ur family and a prosperous new year in advance. 4i
Hi guys am new here
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Welcome bella. You will find this site very interesting.
hi girls am new year
Hi jumoke
u are so so welcome here,am not new ooo,am jbaby005-
Hi guys am new here but i love how ur mum advice u
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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You are highly welcome, pleased to meet you although its not physical.
Hi
I Have missed u
Gemini
I missed u 2. Exam don start oooooo 2morrow is mine and November will soon end
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hi
Good luck👍
Good luck
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Hi Strongwoman and Emmy, Happy New Month ooo! My exam is ending next week Wednesday, and good luck on ur own exams
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Awwww ur d first springster to specifically tell me happy new month tnx a lot and happy new month. Ur so lucky ur exams will soon be ending I haven't even started
Happy new month to all my friends and every springster including my special big sister.
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Merry Christmas in advance to all my fellow springsters including bayley, Gemini, pinky b, prince jnr etc but most especially my BIG SIS
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Hi. So ur school should be closed by now, and u should be preparing for ur JAMB. Anyway, Merry Christmas and a beautiful new year, greetings to u and ur family members. Tell them a fellow Springster is greeting them. Remember to read well for JAMB, I'll be praying for you. Byee
Hi ! Same to u jst saw this nw and merry xmas and happy new year in advance.
being through that before but me and the boy don't talk no more
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Hi Emmy, we are not ur only friends. Everyone here are family and our eldest is our precious Big Sister. Happy new month everyone
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Exactly what I said
I really love the way she handled the situation. You know guys such happened to me, but then I never reported to anyone. Brave one.
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Well Sometimes we need to do certain things on our own
I pretend as if nothing happened and keep on smiling
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I ignore it since i know i didnt do such i dont care wat anybody says or do
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Yes... But there is this guy that goes around telling them am his girl friend.. Which is not true, he has been asking me out though, buh i dnt like him
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Thats some boys for you but i think you need to tell your mum or a trusted adult before the guy spoil your name and don't give him face
I am guy who like one girl but I don't know how to approach her
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Do u truly love her or u just want to use her as sex mate?
I had a friend named Assumpta we were best friends but suddenly she stopped talking to me one day i asked her why she stopped talking to me and she said that it's because she found out her crush liked me i told her that she shouldn't worry cause i never liked the boy but deep down my heart i did but i decided to let go of him but to my greatest surprise her crush never liked any of us
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Lol, I find this story funny because it actually happened to me. I heard a best friend also very beauty and there was a guy in class that told her, he likes her but I didn't like him at all for her. So a day before Valentine he begged me to be his Val in front of the whole class, while still dating my friend. Long story cut short I said a big NO. My friend stopped being my friend from then on and she completely avoided me One thing you have to realize is that as one grows we have to drop some friends that are toxic. I hate to say thus but your friend does not consider you a true friend. She should have told you she was having an issue with you and not stop talking to you. She seems to have a bit of an ego feeling entitled to crushes and you, her friend should not have crushes. Have a heart to heart conservation and let out your opinion with her. Considering the boy, it is best to avoid him and be careful
I was in a relationship with a girl.But she sometimes hmm. sometimes i feel like she is avoiding me. cause any time we met she would just pretend she didn't see me.I will not say we were in a relationship,because we didn't discuss such.but we are close to each other for long, like2years now.. and we have never kissed nor fucked.. but she allows me touch her,even her breast... but now we are just saying only hi to each other.. but am really into her sexually... it's like the more we are away from each other the more my urge grows.. And I always feel it the strongest when we are alone... she lives in the same compound with me.. and it hurts to lose those old times we had together cause now we hardly talk to one another and it hurts.. she is one year older than me... Big sis i need some advice.. Fast cause i can't control my self to sexually do stuffs anymore😖
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987, I believe the girl maybe avoiding you because she no longer likes you or she is afraid you guys relationship may lead to sex. It is normal to have a sexual feeling but don't ever let it control you or ruin your relationship. Learn to have sexual control over your body and realize that it is a serious business and not an act to just experience with a girl. Have respect for your sexual urges and please don't take them for granted by not having SELF CONTROL
I was in a relationship with a boy any time we meet he always behave weird ,he does not talk to me he does not want to see my face one day meet him with a girl is he okay
Yeah, that's right.
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Yes what you said is right. Always do what is right and don't bother about what people say.
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