Whose path should I choose?

It can be hard to choose between what you want and what your parents want

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Our parents. We respect them. We have grown up under their roof. They have given us everything that we have. We are a part of them. We want to make them proud and happy. Yet, we also have our own dreams. We have our own heads and hearts.

As a teenager Azeezat’s dad wanted her to be a doctor. Azeezat wanted to become a writer. She never shared that dream with her parents. She spent nights reading novels and writing. She spent her days studying to become a doctor.

Now a successful doctor, Azeezat says “my biggest regret is not telling my parents about my dream. I don’t want other girls to make the same mistake I made. I should have told my parents."

Who knows, they might have supported me by helping me study to become a writer or even allow me attend writing workshops. They might have supported me. Now I will never know because I never really told them what I wanted to do."

"Maybe if I had made an effort to be closer to my parents by talking to them about my dreams and spending more time with them they could have helped. Every girl needs to learn that talking is the best way to solve problems.”

Tell your parents about your dreams. Don’t just assume they won’t listen. They want the best for you. That means they also want you to be happy. If you talk to them honestly, they will see how important your dreams are to you.

Have you shared your dreams with your parents? You don’t want to live the rest of your life wondering “what if I had spoken to them?”

If you haven’t considered it yet, maybe try:

  • Showing them your skills. Show them samples of what you can do
  • Asking a trusted adult to help you speak to your parents if you are scared
  • Making a deal with your parents to give your path a try for a while and after a set amount of time if it doesn’t work you would do what they want

It’s important to talk to your parents about what you want. It’s also important to listen to what they think. Together, you should be able to make the best decisions.

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Thank God 4the kind of parents I have,they encouraged me,to go ahead in any profession I like

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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You are very lucky to have such parents.

Hyy I tried writing my story severally on the story competition but it isn't working and each time I type something stupid like 'hhhhgggfffccc'it submits ...I need help please

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Hey Bubblyz! For our Your words competition, you have to write the article at once and then submit because once you submit the article, you cannot go back to edit. Start by writing your topic (which should be in line with the theme for the week) then proceed to the body (which is the main story). Once you are done with your story, click submit. We hope this helps.

Each time time I click submit,it takes me back to my login page

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

I AM WHO IWANT TO BE

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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I agree with u

I tried all these but my mum refused instead of international relations I am stuck studying economics a course I am failing pls advice

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Hey Kendra23! You need to talk to your mum and make her understand that are struggling with the course. If possible, show her your results and let her know what you are going through. We hope this helps.

Me,i told ma parents abt me being a diplomat or a mass communist,ma mum encouraged me nd told me 2 pray abt it... Lol so happy😀😁😂😘

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Hey Inem! That's great to hear! Do as your parents have said. We wish you all the best of luck.

I tld my parnts abt bein a Gynecologist nd dey didnt av any problm wf me instead dey encouraged me

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

I wish to be a lawyer and also an author,and i told my parents about it and both of them encouraged me

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

Luv d article. by God's grace i will b a medical student .actually my parents dont hv 100% support it bcos they say d yr i wil spend is too much[7yrs]. My dad wants me to study agriculture in skul.

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

For me, i have an ambition to be an engineer/ civil engineer. But unfortunately no financial support!!

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey Danbaba1988! Thanks for opening up through this comment. So sorry about that. One thing we are sure of is the fact that your ambition will not die. There are a lot of scholarship programs you can apply for. Just be on the look out, surf the internet, enroll for them and we hope this helps.

Am Already Writing A Poem.But Have Nt See Helper That Can Help Me Analys The Poem

This will go a long way in encouraging girls all over the world... Your parents won't live your life for you, opt for what makes you happy, they might not like it at first but when they see how much it means to you I'm perfectly sure they'll come around. #Keep_living_your_dreams.

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

Hi every1 i'm new here,i wish 2 become a medical doctor but i'm a talented actress can i be both an actress nd a medical doctor?

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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hi natasha1010,i dont think it is possible bcous it will b very stressful a doctor at d same time an actress

Hey gurls am nanah (nt my real name) anyway am new here and i like what am seeing but i havent seen what i can relate to. am sixteen i'll be seventeen june i graduated high school last year and couldnt secure admission, i consoled meself by telng myself i still hav tym nw dis year came along nd i couldnt even apply for financial prblms i blame myself really assuming i worked nd saved last year, i wud be in skull september nw registrations hav closed and i hav to stay home another year bt dis i want to do somethng different but i dnt knw wat to do am planless i dnt even have a 'pla' nd its awful i need advice gurls wat do i do with my time that wud help me in the long run? i've gat a year nd a half nd nthng to do with it dats crisis if u ask me help me anyone pls what shld i do with my time????????!!!!

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey Nanah! Welcome to Springster! We can only imagine how bad you feel.. So sorry. Do not beat yourself up about this. One thing we believe is that things like these happen for a reason. You are in the waiting phase and this is a good time to develop yourself and your skills. You can either get a job or even start a business (doing things for people for money). We hope this helps

Hi Nanah!life isn't all rosy,it puts us in several test our aim should always be on d top.Well i will advice u forget going to university for now and look for a notable skill and engage ur self in rather than doing a monthly pay job,trust me skills last for ever.do;make up,facinator/hat making,fashion and designing,bead making there are lots more and these can sustain u as a stream of income even in school .hope this helps

yes ooo

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

Dearest Big sister, i have two courses in mind : 1)Human resource management 2)Accounting. i don't wanna go far from PH has cause my career is here,my first choice is (1)but d schools offering this course is not in Riverstate/port Harcourt at all.As for accounting i will manage but don't think i can,pls help me check if any school in PH has dis course in a different dimension and if not,tell me wat to do?

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey Twinkle! Thanks for the comment. This decision is very personal and you need to take your time to think about it too. We cannot tell you what school to attend because there are so many things involved. Please talk to a trusted adult or a counsellor about this. We hope this helps

But Wat If Dey Disagree Wit Wat U Want

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

l've been in Azeezat's shoes and l know how awful it is..not being able to tell your parents what you want.l was lucky someone believed in me and succeeded after much struggling in making my parents change their minds. After that, l learnt my lesson.

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

my dream was 2 become an accountant but my dad want me 2 become a medical doctor so i went 2 science department and i was so scared to tell my dad i want 2 go 2 commercial department but after d first term,d we resumed for second term i gather my courage and told my dad i want to go commercial class and he agreed now am very happy dat i told my dad

March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.

My dream is to become medical doctor and that's what my dad also want. I also want to be a musician, due to my frequent singing at home, my dad said I can also be a songwriter after studying medicine. My question is can I do both?? Maybe go to music school after my university?? I'm confused. Pls help

March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.