My name is Sumbo, I am 16 and the firstborn in my family. My brother and sister are 12-year old twins –Taiwo and Kehinde. I love them so much. And I always try to make them feel like they can always count on me.
And so, you can imagine my excitement when Kehinde decided to confide in me.
I can still remember the day it happened and how she came to me looking worried.
She wanted to know what was wrong with her. She didn’t understand the strange changes in her body. She needed me to explain why she was beginning to look older than her twin. She was scared.
And so, I said to her;
“Kenny, you see what is happening to you? It happened to me too. And, I was like your age when it happened. I was so scared ehn. It took mum to calm me down.
Mum told me I was going through something called Puberty. It is something boys and girls experience as they grow older.
Although they all experience the changes, it however might not happen to everyone at the same time. Look at you and Taiwo for example.
Another thing she told me is that some of these changes are not the same for boys and girls.
Changes like growing breasts or getting periods in girls or wet dreams and a deep voice in boys.
But there are changes that are similar to both boys and girls. Such as mood swings, pimples, growing hair under the armpit or pubic area.
So get ready oh!!! You will see more changes than these ones. But you have nothing to worry about. It is totally normal.
My sister felt better afterward. And it felt so good that I was able to be a big sister and help.
A few weeks later, our cousin who is about a year older than the twins visited the house. My sister noticed his voice was a bit deeper.
She wondered why Taiwo’s voice didn’t sound that deep. When she mentioned it, he felt a bit embarrassed about it. I told her what was happening.
Afterward, they asked me a load of questions and I tried my best to answer them all.
It’s a good thing we had this conversation as she is now helping her brother prepare for his bodily changes.
Going through a change like this is normal. It is also okay to talk about it with a very close friend, a trusted family member or even an older trusted person with experience.
Wondering how to start a conversation? Well here are our tips; keep the conversation relaxed, clearly, explain your questions, and listen to the other person’s advice.
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