Now I am a big girl can I get a boyfriend?

Are you ready for what comes after?

Now I am a big girl can I get a boyfriend?

Do you have a crush on a cute boy? Are guys already toasting you? Are your friends always talking about their boyfriends? Do you feel like the only “uncool” girl without a boyfriend?

At this age it is natural to be curious about boys. But here are some things to ask yourself:

Can I handle the emotions?
From the outside, we don’t see the hard part of relationships. Having a boyfriend comes with a lot of pressure. Sometimes couples fight. It can take a lot to make another person happy. We have to be sure we are ready to deal with all the feelings that come with a relationship.

Am I ready to have sex?
Having a boyfriend doesn’t mean you have to have sex. But it can be hard to say no. He might pressure you. You might want to do it. But having sex comes with risks. There is the danger of sexually transmitted disease. And pregnancy. We have to know we are ready to handle any consequences.

Do I know myself enough?
What do I like? What don’t I like? What do I want from life? If you don’t know yourself, life can become all about what your boyfriend wants. You end up doing things just to make him happy. Even if they are not good for you. We need to know who we are before we start dating.


Do I have the time?
Boyfriends take a lot of time. Most of us have school or work, chores at home and family responsibilities. It is not so easy to share time between a boyfriend and real life. We need to make sure we can still do all the things we need to do.

In the end, only you can know if you are ready for a boyfriend. Don’t let peer pressure push you into anything. Think about what you really want. Think about where you want to go in life. Think about what it really means to be in a relationship. Only start one if you truly feel ready.

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  • puberty
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