Are your friends bad for you?

Look for these signs.

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There are many types of people in this world, and not everyone will be good for you. The best way to find friends who will make you a better person is to learn how to spot the ones who will bring you down: A bad friend will make you do things you’re not comfortable with. So if you feel uncomfortable around a certain person, or with something they ask you to do, it’s time to take a step back.

They make fun of you or your beliefs. A good friend will respect you and what you believe in. If someone judges, mocks or laughs at you because of your religion, looks or a life choice – that person does not belong in your life.

They don’t listen to what you want. Bossy people or bullies expect you to listen to them without question. It might be difficult to stand up to them, especially if you are shy. But if they see themselves as your friend they should try to include you and listen to your views.

You don’t feel good about yourself when you’re around them. Good friends are happy when you are happy. Be careful of people who are unhappy, bitter or speak badly about others – they will try to make you that way too.

Saying no to a bad friend can be hard, but it’s worth it. If you want to be successful in life, surround yourself with positive people who will support your dreams and goals.

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Yes! that's d meaning of a true friend!

March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.

wow! i never thought about all these things

March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.

A true friend will always be there for u

March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.

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Sure

i don't know how to say no to my friend she is a bad influence

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Olamide! First of all, we are glad that you quickly indentified that she is a bad influence. That is the biggest step. The next thing you need to do now is to detach yourself from her. No one needs a bad influence in their life. It may be hard but you just have to. Remember, it is for your own good. We hope this helps.

my friend hurt me alot i cal her my sis buh she plan Wet a guy to slep wet me she hurt me nw she is datin my boyfriend....wat should i do nw big sis?

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Mhizjay! We are so sorry about this. It's an issue that affects lots of young people and it's important you get good information and advice from people you can trust. There is an organization called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.

stayin wit bad company can destroy ur future,xo u av 2 b veri careful

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

Pls sis i nid ur advice i am a girl and i hav a female friend, she is so beutiful, carin and understandin i mean she has evry good quality of a good and realiable friend bt we always quarel over small thing pls i dnt wnt to lose our friendship we av been quellin since last week what should i do?

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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wow....same thing with me Confront her about her attitude towards you that you dont like the way she treats you why she is always quarrelin over some issue if she doesnt speak up then you just have to let her be for the main time

Yes

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

Big sis,were six friends,in our class.when ever were doing something i alway feel left out.and if were have a quarrel,the rest five will start saying nasty things about me

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Mai! What we feel is going on is lack of trust. You all need to peacefully talk about it (no fights or quarrels). Tell them you feel that they have abandoned you and also all your concerns. There is nothing communication/talking cannot solve. You all should just talk it out. We hope this helps

I met my friend on facebook.on her birthday she is 7 years older than me.she is kinda best thing that has happened to me.but i think she dont care about me need advice on what to do

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey STEPHANIE! Try sharing your worries with your friend and hear what she will say. Communication is very important among friends. We hope this helps

A friend in my tutorial is trying to force to date a guy i don't like and she wouldn't listen no matter how i try to make her understand she just keep pressuring me,making me feel small even though i know this guy way more than she does and longer.the guy is a roughian and i hate being treated roughly.

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey Talia! Thanks for opening up through this comment. No one should ever force you to date someone you do not like. Being in a relationship is a personal choice. Let her know that you are not interested in dating the guy and stand your ground. You can also let your other friends know about this and talk to her to let her know that you do not want to date the guy. She is your friend and she should respect your opinion. We hope this helps

yes talia, u must nt be forced

i once started some group of friends in school but my grades began to dwindle and all my hard work down the drain.how do i distance myself from such friends cause they are hardcore jesters.

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

i once started some group of friends in school but my grades began to dwindle and all my hard work down the drain.how do i distance myself from such friends cause they are hardcore jesters.

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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By been alone in a quiet place and they themelves will know that you are avoiding them

ive learnt a lot 4rm dis z nice!!

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

True advice

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

wow!!!

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

wow!!!!

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

Waow!!! Dat Gud

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

gud one

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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hi

Hi ,the boys of my clas are planing sometin dangerous to the girls what can we do

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey Rejoicequeeneth! Please talk to a trusted adult and report to your teachers immediately. Your safety is the most important thing. We hope this helps

Hello Big Sis. Now i'm in love. And the boy in question loves me too, he cares, he has sponsored me once in minor occassion. Buh. We aren't up to a month yet. Buh, he is desperately seeking my attention for sex and i keep on declinig his request because, i'm not yet ready for sex. Not that he wants it as a pay back for the sponsor. He always emphasis on not wanting to be a cheat in our relationship. Please, Big Sis. (1) how long is someone expected to be in a relationship before giving in to sex? (2) is he the right with the actions? (3) does this action of mine show true love (i mean not being able to give him what he needs right now) (4) does his own action portray any sign of true love?. Kem

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey Kem! Thanks for opening up through this comment. First of all, you should not have sex until you are ready for it. No one should pressure you into having sex with them. Sex is not love in any way so you do not have to have sex to prove that you love someone. You both need to talk about this issue because it is very important in every relationship. If he truly loves you, he will respect your decision. Politely tell him that you are not interested in having sex right now. Please note that you have to be ready for you before you go ahead. We hope this helps

If I'm a Christian can I have a crush on a Muslim?

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey Springster! This is a personal decision and it is totally up to you to make. Thanks

yes you can cause their is just a little difference between the both but they both serve the same God but in different form.

Hey Big Sis! From reading this, I realised that I don't really have friends in my school and I feel really down. Please help or tell me something that will help.

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey Purification! Thanks for the comment. We understand that such realisations can be hard and painful to handle and we are so sorry about that. What you need to do is to first know what you want in a friend and also what you want out of the friendship (this includes what you have to offer). This is more like a guide for choosing friends this time around. You can use this guide in choosing the friends you will make going forward. Please do not be in a hurry to make friends, choose wisely. We hope this helps

bigsis there is this two guy in my area i would like to be friend with the two of them but i don no are to talk to them

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey queen! Thanks for the comment. It is easier for girls to make friends with boys so you can start by saying "Hi" to them the next time you see them. Smile at them and when you are comfortable, you can walk up to them and introduce yourself. We hope this helps

there is this man i meet yestoday he say that he like me that i should be him friend that he did not come for boy and girlfriend that he just like me he ask of my number nd i get he now he is asking me to go out with he today bigsis pls i need your advice

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey queen! This guy should be avoided. It is not right to meet someone today and ask the person out tomorrow. What does he know about you that he wants to date you? You need to be very careful and try to avoid him as much as possible. Also, please inform a trusted adult about this. We hope this helps

txns bigsis luv u

I find it easy 2 like someone but hard 2 communicate/talk with the person what should i do

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey M.J! It happens to people so you are not alone. You just need to learn how to communicate because communication is very important in every relationship. It can be hard but once you make up your mind to communicate, it will no longer be a problem. We hope this helps

i have friends that are good but my mother dont lik dem i dont knw wat do

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey VICTOR! Does your mother know how good these friends are? You need to let her know what you like about them and also find out why she doesn't like them. This way, you both know why you have different opinions about them. We hope this helps

Hey so I have a friend he is funny and nice yet he hoe shamed me he lied on me and that we did something that we actually didn't do afterwards he comes back saying he is sorry that I heard those things from the mouths of people but that he never said it and he never told anyone anything about our kiss what should I do I'd I'm positive he is lying

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. The final decision is up to you to make. If he didn't tell other people, then how did they all get to know? Since you are positive that he is lying, then you need to make up your mind on what you want. Lying is not right and he needs to own up to what he did. We cannot tell you what to do because you are in the best position to do that. We hope this helps

i have a friend who loves sex more dan anytin but when i want 2 cut her 4rm me it hurts me why?

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey Petra! Thanks for the comment. You love her too much that is probably why it hurts so much. Don't you think it is better to try and help her instead of cutting off from her? She may never understand why you are ending the friendship but letting her know why and making attempts to help her will be nice. Let her know the dangers of sex and the risks involved too. This can really help her you know? We hope this helps

I heard some friends who are brilliant but I still make friend with them but i think they affect my studies but I don't know what to do

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey funny! Your comment is kind of confusing. Please explain better so that we can help. We hope this helps

No matter the good friend i make they are always bad influence on me big sis help me

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey Purity! Thanks for the comment. No good friend will be a bad influence on you. You need to check your friends and be sure that they are good for you really. Also, you may need to check yourself too. The fact that your friends are a bad influence on you means that they are not good friends. We hope this helps

you 2 up my life

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

You are right, I will surround my self with positive people

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

Wasting time is worse than wasting money. Some will have more money than others. But we all have twenty four hours in a day. No one can buy more time on earth. Remember, a wasted dollar comes back, it can be earned. But a wasted minute is gone for good. Use your time wisely.

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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u are right king

My friends are not good in their studies but I make friends with them and they affect my studies. pls ma Wat can I do

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey funny! Thanks for the comment. You need to know that when it comes to your studies, you should not joke with it. You need to focus more on it. The decision to either cut off these friends or keep them is up to you but when it comes to your number one priority (which is your studies), you really should not joke with it. Set out time to study on your own (if that is your reading style) or you could join a reading group. Doing all of these does not mean that you are no longer friends with them, it just means that you are focusing on what is the most important thing for you right now. We hope this helps

If the only friend you have goes and backstab you and you don't care but now you don't have friends and you feel lonely what will you do

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Pls can anyone help me

Hey Jp! Thanks for the comment. Getting back stabbed can be very painful and sad but you need to move on and make new friends. Holding on to this can be bad for you and trust me, it is also unhealthy for you too. You really should not be lonely, you should make new friends. We hope this helps

I think what she said is the right thing to do jp

it's really hard to find real friends, that will make you happy in a life time.. i pray i find such friends in life..

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

Big sis my aunt always abuse and call me and my siblings names pls what should I do advice me on what to do

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

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Hey peace! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about what you are going through. We suggest that you talk to a trusted adult about this. This can be anyone that knows your aunt and can talk to her. We hope this helps

big sis told my dad but she continue even worse what should I do

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

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Hey peace! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about this. What did your dad do about this? You need to let him know how this is affecting you and how it makes you feel. We hope this helps

I pray that god give us good friends that will really love as i do because one of my friend have to help me now not do it because am not in her own level

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

My best quality in in a friend is LISTENING👂👂👂.......

March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.

thank u and I hope to have such friends that will influence my life positively.

March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.