Don’t Be Fooled By The Smile

Look out for these warning signs

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Imagine this. You meet a nice guy. You like him and he likes you too. Everyone says you’re the luckiest girl in the world. Next thing, he turns into someone else.

Sound familiar? Well, you’re not alone. Some people are not who they say they are. So in relationships, you need to watch out for red flags. Here’s what you need to know:

He gets jealous
It’s not normal for a guy to be jealous all the time. If he always accuses you of cheating, it’s a clear sign of trouble. Same thing if he’s suspicious of every call and text. Or cuts you off from your family and friends.

He tells you what to do
When a guy is insecure, it affects the way he treats you. He’ll tell you what to wear. Or what to do. Or who to talk to. But you have the right to make your own choices. So you should be with someone who respects this and values your intelligence. Instead of someone who wants to control you.

He doesn’t respect you
Name-calling is a no-no. A guy should never say rude or insulting things to you. It’s not okay for him to mock you or laugh at you. All this can destroy your self-esteem and make you feel worthless. Stay away from people who put you down.

He stops talking to you
Some guys use silence as a weapon. For example, after both of you quarrel, he’ll start ignoring you. Then if you try to break up with him, he’ll threaten to harm himself. He’ll even say he can’t live without you. These are cheap tricks to make you stay with him. Not cool at all.

He shouts at you
Maya Angelou said, “When people show you who they are, believe them.” Wise words. Avoid hanging out with guys who get upset over the smallest thing. Avoid guys who yell, curse, threaten you, or hit you or anyone else. There’s no excuse for this horrible behaviour. No relationship is worth you losing your peace or self esteem.

If you’re in any of these situations, please end the relationship immediately. And if a guy hits or threatens you, don’t keep quiet. Talk to a trusted adult or report to the police.

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My boyfriend always ask me for sex, when ever I visit him and he don't want me to make friends with...

1 year ago

most of them are deceitful, Heartbreakers . I think waiting is the best

1 year, 1 month ago
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