Is He Too Old For Me?

The answer you didn’t know you wanted

Is He Too Old For Me?

Dear Big Sister,

I don’t even know where to start. Okay, there’s this guy I like called Jude. He’s so nice. I can tell him anything. He’s the coolest person ever. Once he took me out for ice cream. You should have seen the way other girls were looking at us ehn! I was very proud to be with him.

Today he asked me to be his girlfriend. I was about to scream “Yes!” then I panicked. He’s 24 and I’m only 16!!! I don’t want his friends to call me a baby. And I’m afraid of what other people will say. Some of them will think I just want his money.

Since he’s much older, I’m scared he’ll want to do things I can’t do. And I don’t want to lose him because of that.

I really, really like him! He’s not childish like guys my age. He’s sooo chill. I don’t know what to do, Big Sister. Help!

Kate (Not my real name)

Dear Kate (Not my real name),

Awww! It’s okay, girl. I can see why you like Jude. But as he’s much older, things will be a little tricky. Your lives are different, so it’s best to be sure you guys have a lot in common. For instance, if you enjoy the same kind of music, you’ll have something to talk about.

Sometimes older guys want to date young girls just to control them. So look out for the signs. Does he keep telling you what to do? Accept you the way you are? Respect your opinions? Keep this in mind. That way, you won’t end up with someone who treats you like a baby. Because if he does, his friends will too.

Also, Jude may be ready for a serious relationship. He may want to take things to the next level. You shouldn’t be pressured into doing stuff that makes you uncomfortable.

Then ask yourself: Do I really like him for who he is, or just because he’s older? It helps to be sure. So you’ll be with him for the right reasons.

Remember to check if he only dates much younger girls. If he does, it’s not a good situation for you or anyone else.

I hope this helps. Good luck!

Lots of Love,
Big Sister (My real name)

  • puberty
  • love
  • relationship