Let it out girl!
If someone was to give you N1million naira right now how would you feel? Excited, happy?
And we can imagine the next thing you would do is try to share the exciting news with someone close to you.
Now, that’s you showing your emotions.
So you see expressing emotions is normal.
Yes, we know some emotions are not so easy to share. For example, showing an older person you are upset with them or telling a crush you like him. You might probably be scared of how they will react.
And sometimes, some of us hide how we feel for fear of being called weak.
Guess you have probably heard things like “Big girls don’t cry, or crying is for kids”? Well, that’s not true.
You are human and you have something called emotions.
Emotions are expressions of how you feel about someone or something. Examples include anger, happiness, sadness etc. Showing it doesn’t make you weak. It shows you are strong because you understand yourself and you are not afraid to show exactly how you feel.
And when you express it, you will be happier and healthier.
Plus, when you show how you feel people around you will understand you better. It will also help them know how to behave around you in some situations
For example, let’s say a friend says something that makes you sad and you decide to hide how you feel. Do you know what will happen?
Because you decided to hide your feelings, your friend might never know she hurt you with her words. And she might repeat this same behaviour making you sad over and over again.
But if you show her how her words make you feel, she might apologise and not repeat the mistake.
So would you rather die in silence or talk about it and feel better?
Holding back is not healthy. It can lead to anxiety or even depression. Bottling up things can make you act in a way that might make you unhappy.
So girl, you need to let it all out. No fears. If you are scared to show how you feel face-to-face you can send a text, write a note, or call the person over the phone.
If it is someone older, you can ask a trusted adult to help you speak to them.
Go out and express yourself today.
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I find it so difficult to my emotions especially if I luv someone plz wot Shld I do ma
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey chrisdove! Thanks for the comment. This is why this article was written. We advise that you read this article and learn a few lessons that will help you. We hope this helps
what does a chest binder do?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Gesi! Thanks for the comment. Chest binders flatten the breasts by the use of constrictive materials. We hope this helps
am fear to express my thought to my boyfriend because i dont know how he will feel what should i do
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Matter! Thanks for the comment. You should not be afraid to talk to anyone not even your boyfriend. The reason why they are called boyfriend is because they are meant to be your "friend". No one should be friends with someone they are afraid of. Communication is very important in every relationship and if you cannot communicate how you feel, then that means there is a problem. Please tell him anyway you want or like but you just need to tell him. We hope this helps
Telling your emotion to someone and he/she is still repeating what you dont like, what will you do?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Ybnl! Thanks for the comment. It depends on how you told them. There are several ways to communicate your feelings that makes the person understand you well. However, if you are sure that you did this well and you are still not getting the results you need, we advise that you avoid being in a situation that will make the person do that thing that you do not like. I know this can be hard but you can do it to avoid a misunderstanding. We hope this helps
Big sist i dont like sharing my emotions becos,after doing that i got tunt and laughed at by the people i trusted.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Adp! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about that. People tend to take advantage of other people's weakness. What you need to do is to watch and study people before you open up to them. Also, do not let their laughter and mockery get to you and also, do not let it lose your trust in people. These ones are not good friends because good friends will not mock and laugh at others. We hope this helps
am new here i want to ask if it is bad for a young teenager to develope feeling for an opposite sex
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey disa! Welcome to Springster. It is perfectly normal to develop feelings for the opposite sex. This is part of human nature. We are naturally attracted to the opposite sex so it is not bad in anyway. We hope this helps
there's this guy in my area that loves me he shows ,how much he loves me but am kind of having some doubt
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Automurna! Thanks for the comment. Once you have any form of doubt then that is a warning sign. Do not try to force it because the guy says he loves you. You have a huge role to play and once you have a little doubt, you have to watch it so that you do not make a mistake in the process. We hope this helps
my friend feels bad because she is not straight forward and she was told by her mum that her bad attitude will affect her marriage and she's in pain always because she disrespects her mum even when she don't want to so big sis what should i tell her cause she needs my advice urgently.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Kinny! Thanks for the comment. Your friend needs to first of all make up her mind to change. If people are complaining about her then there is an attitude that she has to get rid off and this has to be a personal decision from her. There is not much to say to her at this point but she has to make the move to change her attitude and this starts from her admitting that she is doing something wrong in the first place. If she doesn't see that she is doing something wrong, then that is where the problem is. We hope this helps
Big Sis,i Hav A Very Big Problem I Find Its Very Hard 2 Share My Emotions Wit My Elda 6sta Doe I Stay Wit Hr.Deaz Dis Guy Hav Bin Datin 4 Al Most A Yr Now Witout Hr Knowledge Am Realy Scared 2 Tel Hr Bcos I Dnt Knw Hw Hr Reactions Wil B Pls Help Me
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Ritkama what's the worst that can happen,is she harsh?but if you really wants to tell her start by practicing her to tell her and always tell her when she is in a good remember she is your elder sister and not a stranger to you feel free to tell her nothing will happen she won't kill her rather she will give you a great advice on how to handle your relationship very well she can even be your mentor or your very own big sister.
Hey Ritkama! Thanks for the comment. You cannot know her reaction without telling her about it. What you need to tell her first and not avoid it totally. The worst that can happen is that she will be upset and disappointed and may even scold you. Keeping this information from her is not advisable in anyway. We advise that you talk to her about or any other trusted adult. We hope this helps
Hello I have a problem in expressing my self among my peers especially boys what should I do big sis
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Lilllove just try by being yourself OK.
oh!!!! lillyrose I taught your username was lilllove.
Hey lillyrose! Thanks for the comment. You need that boys are also humans and you should not be afraid or uncomfortable around them. You need to build your confidence as this is what will help you. We hope this helps
Yes I feel so shameful to express myself with important people, I don't know how work on it
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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minlove always remember you yourself you are important, never look down on yourself always remember you are great.
Juliet ar u on facebook
U kn I was same as u ....,but then I found I could trust my mum with anything...so just be who u re it a free world ...u can also confide in a trusted adult.❤
Hey Minlove! Thanks for the comment. You need to learn to build your confidence. We have written a lot of articles on this topic. We advise that you search for #Confidence at the bottom of the page. We hope this helps
My mom does not trust me anymore and she is the only one I can confide in....😭😭..i don't know what to do...
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey Florarose! Thanks for the comment. You need to first of all find out why she doesn't trust you anymore. Then go to her and apologize to her. Start to do things that will make her gain your trust like running errands, doing chores and talking about things that can make her trust you. We believe that things will get better but know that it may take time. We hope this helps
I find it so hard to speak to mom ....especially about my problems ...cause I lost the trust I have for her...😭😭..I don't know what to do
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Sowie 2 ask.... buh wat made u lose trust in ur mum? Buh its important 2 trust pple especially ur mum.
hmmm.....if its me I will take advice from mom
I have a really close friend who is really precious to me He likes me and I like him but the problem is he is way older Am 14 and he is 19, everything's going okay between us We're just normal friends tho we are really close, he's almost my bestfriend. But everyone thinks we're dating and I usually get taunted by my siblings cause they say he's too old The situation has put a distance between I and my elder sister because everytime I try telling her what's happening with me and the guy I end up getting taunted And I really feel alone now coz I have no one to share my thoughts and expression with I really need help coz I want to tell someone how I feel
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey kobocity! Thanks for the comment. Since you are not dating him, you need to let people know this and be serious about it. You do not have to argue with them and do not let it affect your relationship with this guy too. You really need to not let this get to you okay. Find a trusted adult to talk to. We hope this helps
It's really safe no matter wat ur mom has done 2 u 2 confide in her, cos she must love n mean well 4 u, she should'nt lead u astray. Others could , frm ungodly advice .
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
masturbation have become my hobie in this life and am tired of it, please how can I stop it? I can't control my self any more. please I need some advise about my problem.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hi,it's all about distraction and determination.I hope dis helps
Hi girl please don't say u can't stop it I know u can stop it just as cutie said if u are determined u can do it all u have to do is to always keep urself busy when the urge comes, believe in yourself that u can stop ur addiction to masturbation before it ruins ur life,I know u can do it, go girl and stop ur addiction for masturbation OK.
Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Masturbation starts from the mind because you think about it before you do it. If you really want to stop masturbating, you need to make up your mind that you want to stop and then do things that will distract you and keep your mind occupied. You can learn a new skill, gist with friends, finish up that chore etc. Just do something that will not let you think about masturbating. We hope this helps.
Thanks a lot
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hi
Wow,this group as taught me alot,there is particular guy whenever he mention the words I don't like I feel unhappy and I will b sort of words because I had crush on him,pls wat can I do.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Talk to him face to face or call him or write letter to him and you can also send it through essament.
Hey jum! We are glad that you have learnt a lot of things from this group. We do not really understand your question but you need to know that crush is not love. You need to know that you should not mix up crush for love. You need to get to know him better and understand him so that you do not make a mistake in the process. We hope this helps
yes thanks
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
i have phobia 4 boys i might like a boy but to speak out is a problem
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey Springster! You do not have a phobia for boys, you are just shy and you can get rid of this shyness by working on your confidence. We advise that you search for #Confidence at the bottom of the page. We hope this helps
Why being shy to let out your feeling to a guy ,remember it doesn't makes u cheap rather u re bother cox it an equal rite
Why being shy to let out your feeling to a guy ,remember it doesn't makes u cheap rather u re bother cox it an equal rite
Hi Big Sis......there's this girl that just moved to our street......I've caught her staring at me...nd stop talking wen I pass......I think I like her...I tried talking to her...tried to shake her but she refused...wen I asked 'why'...she said 'nothing'...besides that...we talk normally... Pls...does she like me? Nd y did she refuse shaking me? :/
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey Jason! Thanks for the comment. You do not like her because you do not know her. We cannot say if she likes you too because you both do not know anything about each other. She has every right to choose who she wants to shake and who she doesn't but you do not have any right to question this. You both cannot start talking about liking each other when you do not know more than her name. What exactly is it that you like about her then. We hope this helps
Gud evening girls, hw was ur day.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hi bayley my day was fantastic
HI I AM NEW HERE
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
There's a girl in my neighbourhood who i admire and wants to be friends with but i don't know how to go about it.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
There is a boy in my vicinity; we were once friends but as time swift, i never knew what caused our seperation, he had been avoiding contact with me though i don't talk to him too we are both keeping mute. I wonna be friend with him again but i don't know how to go before that. Please big sist. I need your help.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey Patience! Thanks for the comment. Someone needs to break the silence and talk. There will be no resolution if there is no conversation. Since you really want to be friends with him, talk to him (this does not make you weak but rather, it makes you stronger). Talk to him and find out what happened that made you both fall out. We hope this helps
But is it true that girls are not supposed to express their feelings
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
No Chinny, we are all human, we have feelings and emotions and we are meant to express our feelings /emotions. Don't hold back your feelings because it risky to your health, unhealthy, it even causes depression which is very bad. So let it out girl and be happy.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Hey Patience. Start a conversation with him, when you have gone far with conversation, You can then ask him why he is avoiding you and remember don't be rude rather be friendly with him as you guys are before.
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Hi
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Hello.
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Most times I hide real emotions from people around me,sometimes I can't help it.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
yes I find it difficult to show feelings to some one
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
I'm in love with a guy buh I don't know how he'll react if I tell him
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
I tend to bottle things up.... how do I deal with this??
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Mimi! Thanks for the comment. Bottling things up can be dangerous for you because you will end up only being more angry with people and this can make you bitter. You need to learn to let out your anger in a subtle way if not you will end up being a bitter person. We advise that you have at least someone you can talk to will really help. We hope this helps
Am in love with a guy and i know he loves me but, am shy to open up to him
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Am in love with a guy and i know he loves me but, am shy to open up to him
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Marygold! Thanks for the comment. We advice that you keep being friends with him and let the feelings flow naturally, we hope this helps.
Yes, i ever find myself in that situation when i and intimate female friend of mine get closer and closer enough to me, some times she do slept in my room. But upon that i find it very difficult to told her what's on mind. But gal, pls go ahead, use body language to the guy surely will he understand you. Infact telling someone you love him isn't a crime according to African China. Go open up to him good lock...
Love this thanks
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
i knw dis site is for girls am in love with a girl but am a shy guy very shy
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
I feel shy...can't tell a girl hw much I luv her
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And...Can a boy and a girl be best friends without falling in love with each other??
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