Toyin tells us how she made friends
My name is Toyin. I am 15 years old.
I lost my dad a year ago.To support the family I spend most of my time helping my mum at her shop.
I also attend a cake baking class twice a week.
I barely have time to do anything for myself. At times I feel like I don’t have any friends. I am too shy to approach people.
Recently I went over to my cousin’s house. She was gisting with her friends when I walked in. They seemed very close. They have been friends for years.
This made me wonder if I will ever be able to make friends like this.
I asked her how she was able to make friends like this.
She had some really great advice. She told me to work on my shyness.
Then she gave me a task and some advice. She said
“Pick someone your age in your baking class and start a conversation. You can start by introducing yourself. Ask them about their day. Ask how they are enjoying the class. Say stuff like “What are your plans after this training? I want to start a small business what about you?” Try this every day with different people.
If someone your age comes to the shop. Be friendly. You can gist with her about trending music videos and songs.
But be careful. Not everyone is safe to be friends with.
When picking who to talk to try to pick someone your age. Talk to them in an open space. Avoid quiet places or somewhere that makes you uncomfortable.
I tried what my cousin suggested almost every day. I noticed one of the girls in my class became friendly. Sometimes she stops by my seat to gist with me.
Some days we chat with each other on Facebook.
I am so happy to finally have a friend. I hope to make more friends.
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luv the article. I love to make friends. I have friends and I love to make more
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Am new here some one should welcome me
i am so shay to meagon wit people y
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey blessing! You have to make up your mind that you no longer want to be shy around people. You can smile more when around people. Also, you should learn to say hi. Stand in front of a mirror and imagine a lot of people there and feel comfortable in that space. It starts with the mind you know. We hope this helps
Dont be shy my sis
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
hmm life
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
luv dis atticle
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey enyola! We are glad you like this article. We wrote it with you in mind. Feel free to share it with your friends
Big Sister.....please I have girl friend and we always play together, and she is respecting me very well and I want to tost her to be my lover girl, and I don't know how I can tell her because we are so very close and also her mother & my own mother are friends. please Big Sister, how should I do to get her?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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If u really love her call her attention 1 day and let her knw ur mind because if u loss dat girl dat u both knw each other and d attitude for a long time it may possible not to find a lady with dat same attitude again.so go and tell her ur mind
Hey Excellove! Thanks for the comment. The best you can do is to let her know how you feel but she will determine if she is interested in it or not. You cannot force her to choose you or make her fall in love with you. However, you can still #shootyourshot. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. We wish you all the best.
i really learnt how i can advise someone to hv a friends specially
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
hi, today is my birthday
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Happy Birthday.....age wit grace
Hmmm
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
RIGHT WAY,BUT NOT ANYBODY IS TRUSTED.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
i am also shy.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Me too but I need friends too
I was shy at first,i didn't know what to say but i worked on it,introduce myself and ask of their welfare with a smile
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Yes Nicki_b! That's the way to go. Start from somewhere and we are sure that it wasn't so bad after all? Keep it up!
is it good for a girl to ask for friendship form a boy
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey queen! There is nothing wrong with you asking a boy to be friends with you. We hope this helps
Not bad for asking a Guy
Life is easy
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
There is a girl i really love so much but idon't know if she's sincere to me because we are not close together.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey TTG! Thanks for the comment. How do you know that you love her and its not a crush? You cannot love someone you are not close to. You first of all need to figure out what you feel for her because it doesn't sound like love to us. People tend to confuse crush for love most times. We hope this helps
I hv a girlfriend i dont if she loves she is acting way to me, wat will i do big sis?
Grt tips, it really worked.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
wow it really works. buh some people ain't friendly at all.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey 2468! We are so glad that it worked! Thanks for sharing this. Keep doing it... for those that aren't naturally friendly, it is not your fault but you can help them by sharing this story with them so that they can also learn from it. We hope this helps
Please I need advice,there's dis girl I think am in love with.but don't really knw hw to tell her hw much I love her need help
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Shinexy! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you are not sure of what you feel for her so you need to figure this out first. Another thing is to get to know her first because this could just be a crush for all we know. You cannot fall in love with someone you do not know. We hope this helps
Yes i have get a friend I consumed some of more friend from #FACEBOOK
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
I havea a friends more of them we are connected from #FACEBOOK
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
I am a friendly person so to make friends is one of the easiest thing I do, first when I see a girl walk pass me or when I visit anywhere I approach them with breeding follow with smile on my face I don't care if that person is older than me all I needed was a good friend and luckily for me when I jam someone who is not a good friend to make my spirit tell me, I have so many friends and am trying to avoid some because some of them are distracting me so when I notice that I quit and make new ones that are serious with their education
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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wow