Nobody has the right to put you down
August 11th
Dear Diary,
Guess what??? I met a guy! His name is Emeka! He’s everything I want – tall, hot, and three years older! He listens when I talk. He makes me laugh. And he really likes me. I’m sooo happy! My friends have been yabbing me for not having a boyfriend. Who’s laughing now? LOL. I wish you could meet him. Anyhow sha, I’m hanging out with him tomorrow ♥. Off to pick what I’ll wear. See ya.
September 21st
Dear Diary,
Long time! Emeka keeps me so busy. I don’t even have time for my friends. He gets jealous whenever I’m with them. I guess it’s because he loves me so much. But some of the things he does. I’m not sure.
One time, I went to his house. He asked me to cook for him and his friends. I said it wasn’t by force. He still said I had to do it. He said women are supposed to cook. I was so annoyed, I left the house. He refused to say sorry.
October 3rd
Dear Diary,
It happened again! Last week, I went to buy suya with Emeka. I said let me pay. That’s how he got angry. He said a boy gave me the money. I told him it is from my business selling slippers. He said good girls don’t ‘make money’ .
After I got home, I texted him all night. No reply. When I finally saw him, he said he lost his phone. Next thing, his phone rang!
I told my best friend everything. She was so mad! She told me to leave him. That I deserve better. But I want to give him another chance. Maybe he’ll change.
November 4th
Dear Diary,
I did it! I broke up with Emeka! I just couldn’t take it anymore. I told him I don’t want him in my life. That I deserve to be with someone who loves and respects me. He cried and begged. But I didn’t back down. I told him to delete my number! I feel much better. Now I get to see my friends again. I’ve missed them so much. Later.
Are you with someone who hurts you or puts you down? Please speak up like Sophie. Don’t let anyone make you feel worthless. We all deserve to be with good people. Share her story with your friends. We are stronger together.
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i have a frnd whose story is also simillar to shopie's story. I have try talk sense into her to quit d relationship ,but she always claim she loves him.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Talk to her again tel her that u are warning her if anything goes wrong let her don't come to u looking for advice because u warned her and she didn't listen i hope this helps u thanks
Nana wat libby said is true coz frndshp is a serious aspect in lyf.talk 2 her again nd warn hr 2 stay away frm him,hpe it will help
I hv a frnd in ma class dere is dis guy day has been asking her out since ss1 nd nw we r in ss3. She lyks d boy bt she said she is nt ready to date cos she's scared of been hurt bcos nt all boys r 2 b trusted(majority). I found a gal in ss1 and want d gal 2 b his sch daughter bt he refused nd I made him talk to d gal by force after which he was happy. I think tinge r getting out of hand cos am suspecting he likes d gal to be his GF. Pls fellow springsters wat shld ma frnd do??????? Am I at fault??????
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Pretty tell the gal sch daughter to stop been the gal sch daughter i don't know if this will work but convince the girl
Hey Pretty_val_32! Thanks for this comment. What you need to do is to tell your friend that not all boys are bad. There are actually a lot of good guys out there. She cannot judge all guys based on her experience with just a few. Now, you do not have to feel guilty because you are not at fault. Your friend has been rejecting the guy for almost 3 years and now that he has seen someone he likes, let him be free. She chose not to date him so someone can freely do that. You only introduced them to each other. You didn't force them to fall in love with each other. So you see that you did nothing wrong. We hope this helps
Hey Libby! No, that is not the right thing to do. Telling the girl not to be his school daughter will not stop them from dating. You cannot convince someone to do something just because you don't want to seem like a bad person. Her friend was not interested in dating this guy so she should allow him to be free to date others. Even if the relationship doesn't work with this school daughter, it will work with someone else (not her). So don't put this innocent girl under pressure for no reason Pretty, let them be. We hope this helps
big sis! is it an ideal tin for a girl to woo a boy?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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I think it's nt ideal bcos it makes d gal stoop so low which will nt bring value to her. Wait until d guy cums nd if he doesn't, den forget abt it. I hope dis helps
Olarmi I tink is not ideal cos it makes d gal stoop so low wich will nt bring value to her, even if a gal lyks a guy she shld nt woo him she can only be friend wit him den wait till d guy ask her out bt if he doesn't seem to do so den she shld jux forget abt him nd wait cos other guys will cum. Bt these days teenagers are jux so carried away dat gals even go extra mile to woo a gal which is nt rite. If I may ask, wen u want 2 marry will u as a gal be d one to woo d boy?
No..........pe
Hey olarmi! There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. It is a personal decision. As we can see, Pretty_val does not like the idea but you may like the idea and may want to try it. So go for what you want. If you like a guy and you want to let him know you do, feel free to oaky. We hope this helps
Hey Pretty_val_32! There is nothing like stooping low. There is no crime in it. You have a voice and you have the right to speak up! You do not have to wait till a guy tells you he likes you before you can date. Please note that this is a personal decision. You may not like the idea but please, do not impose your own opinion on another person okay? Every girl is a Springster and every Springster has a right to express herself so feel free to. We hope this helps
i have a friend who was in a relationship with a guy but she discovered that the guy was cheating on her..den she broke up with him...d guy was begging but she stood to her right...but she still has feelings for d guy nd d guy still loves her...do u think it's right for d girl to go into d relationship again
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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I knw am not big sis but if the guy truely loves her he wouldn't be cheating on her don't let her go back to the relationship if not he might still countiuning cheating on her i hope this advice helps u THANK'S!
Hey beauty8! Well, we know you care about your friend but it is up to her to make a decision. This is extremely personal and we cannot tell her what to do. We hope this helps
Hullo springsters!while loving wit ur hrt try 2 take ur head/brain along wit u
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Tnx aurora u spk out d truth
Life is also terrible to me like sophie,when i met my first boyfriend but now everything is okay
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Sure,but he's just a friend... I don't really know why he's like that
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Wow! That's a great story Sophie. True love is not jealousy. It would love to see you with others. Thank God you broke up with him and had your friends back.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
THAT WAS GOOD!!!
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Love is patience,caring and kind....nice one Sophie
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hi sophie ! You go girl:*
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Datz d rite step sophie n rite ting tu do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
you did wel sophie
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
I love this story
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Sophie actually did very well You have to be with someone who sees the best in yoy
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Sophie actually did very well You have to be with someone who sees the best in you and believe in you& likewise believe in your hustle Emeka is only selfish and believes in his feelings and all Sophie made the right decision Go girl
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
well it is not by force to be wit him
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
my frnd does everything for her bf even buying him food, i think she z a fool, she think itz love wat do i do??
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey queenie! It is her personal decision and you do not know how their relationship works. However, you can still talk to her politely if you feel she is unsafe. We hope this helps
sophie atleast you should have given him the second chance
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Same thing with me. I made a guy on facebook, we were happy together. But i was like, i know everything about him except 4 his age. So i ask him he gave me permition to go through his account and change, i did just that and he ask me what if he's small? My answer to that was that true love knows or has no age, that what matter is dat we love ourselve. I found out dat he wil be 20 yrs this yr. He ask me i told him i wil make 23yrs dis yr. He said to me that i am to big 4 him and that he can't date his seniour. And was madly in love with him with him, i cried and post sumtin on facebook people comment that he didn't love me that love knows no age. He apologize to me but i told him that the both of us can be friends not lover, he really begged me i 4gve him but now he's alwys busy and dnt even have time for me. Please big sister is he 4 real?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Rocxy! You really need to be careful with the people you meet online because so many people online are not real. They tend to pretend because all you can see is what they show you and tell you. A lot of people have been betrayed and scammed online so we always advise all Springsters to be very very careful with the people they meet online. We cannot say if he is being real or not but please be extremely careful so that you do not make a mistake. We hope this helps
hmmm very touching but dat the right decision to make
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
neva giv ur life 2 sum1 who pretends 2 luv u so much coz boys er nt trustable
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Dzeimz! Thanks for the comment. Not all boys are the same. There are so many trustworthy boys out there. Please, do not generalise and assume that all boys are not to be trusted because this will definitely affect your relationship with boys. We hope this helps
neva luv someone dat is not interested in you
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
buh maybe dey guy over love her cuz wen derez too much love u will be montoring ur gf and wat of grls should we guys suppose to trust dem
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
I think what you did is the right thing to do
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
hey sophie u did perfectly #likeagirl#
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Hey Sophie Off Course there is some One who hurts me and broken up my heart 💔💔💔 Her Name was Teema,nd I really love her so much but she didn't mind... She doesn't care about me and she respects me and even when I call her on telephone ☎ Sometimes she cut it off and sometimes she ignored my call. What should I do now am I going to break up with her or what? I need ur advice Sophie and Big Sister and other springster ?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Nice story dr
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
NICE ONE
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Laugh
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Sophie was just right in my shoes..... I had a cool life when i left him.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
No
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Nope
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Nope
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.