Who said out of sight is out of mind?
My name is Nneka. I grew up with my friend Lillian in the same compound. I was older by a year, but that didn’t stop us from becoming friends. We went everywhere and did everything together. We finished each other’s sentences. One refused to eat until the other had eaten.
Early last year, my dad was transferred to another state. This meant our family had to move away. We were sad about this. We exchanged friendship bracelets. We promised to keep in touch.
At first, it wasn’t so easy. I had to get used to my new life. But as soon as I settled down, things became normal. It was as if I’d never left.
We called and texted each other often. We sent selfies and shared links to cool stories online. Sometimes we had plenty gist to share. So we would send messages with detailed descriptions. Anytime Lillian wrote about a funny incident, I felt like she was right there.
Even with the distance, we remained close. When Lillian volunteered in her community centre, she told me first. When I formed a singing group, Lillian helped me pick a name.
Over time we made friends with other people. Yet we kept talking about each other to these people. Once, I called my new friend Lillian by mistake. When I told Lillian, we laughed and laughed.
Now we’re both saving up for Lillian’s visit. Lillian is so excited. She has never been away from home. She wants to see all the wonderful places in my pictures. I’m counting down the days too. I can’t wait to show Lillian around. Finally the besties will be together again.
Even if you’re far apart from a dear friend, you can still keep in touch. From calling to chatting, phones have made communication a lot easier.
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Through phone
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
This is very similar to wat happened to me and my friend but am very happy becus we still keep in touch through calls and social medias
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for sharing this. We are glad that you found a way to keep in touch.
U absolute ryt dear
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
BYCALLING
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
call.and social media
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
By chatting with him/her on facebook
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
We stay close thru calls,we talk 4 so long u wld tink we were stil 2geda,we share new xpriences,advices,quotes,dreamsLOL
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Amazing Aurora! That's really great to hear
Life dhe say is not easy.but one tin we need to no is dis life, one most first think of wat yr future holds and start working on it
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Am much of an introvert dnt knw hw 2 start a conversationor bring upa topic with friends even on social media...i jst feel am goin off point in the conversation
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Being an introvert does not mean that you cannot start a conversation. You need to figure out what exactly is making you feel this way. Our guess is that you are shy and you need to boost your self confidence. The thing you need to note here is that your point is always valid. Do not make yourself feel like you do not have a point because you do. Also, maybe you should try this too... Do not be in a hurry to talk or speak. Take your time, think about what you want to say and how it relates to the topic, plan your words, check them again and then speak. This way you have properly planned what you want to say so it doesn't feel 'off-point'. You can apply these to speaking too. We hope this helps
Why is this so?
Really appreciate, and wander
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hi, Big sister...... I'm a kind of person that can't keep relationships, I hardly call my friends because I love staying on my own, but when my friends noticed this, they started seeing me as a snub. I don't know if I really am a snub but I love, love, love staying on my own. What do I do?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Charlotte_1! Thanks for sharing this with us. First of all, there is nothing wrong with you wanting to be alone. It is your nature. What you need to do is to talk to your friends and make them understand this. Also, once a while, you can send an sms to them to make them know that you still have them in mind. When you see them, be friendly and nice. We hope this helps
I always keep frienship,i always contact then tru social media and call
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Big sis pls i dont know hw to gist my facebook friends Can u help me out
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
through chatting
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
#Nice_one
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Good relation
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Bestie_goals...I wish I also have a bestie
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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i could be your bestie if you allow me
This is the nest thing to do for long distance relationships
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
i also hv a bestie
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
i have many besties bt they dnt care bou me
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
I'm d frndly type,i nd my best frnd re quarrelling nd she's d 1 at fault if i beg her first won't i look stupid?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey NATASHA1010! Thanks for the comment. No, you won't look stupid if you apologise. It means that you value your friendship and also that you are mature. Go for it as long as you want to. This is a good step. Friends quarrel all the time but someone has to break the silence regardless. We hope this helps
Please big sister I need your help. I have this guy. Love him so much. And he once told me that he is interested in getting married to me which I promised to wait for him. After we have achieved everything we need in life. So I have been dating him for some long now. I have never offered anything to me. Even gift. Some things he ignored my messages on facebook. When I ask him. He will end up telling me. He is busy. Please is he tired of me or what? Am confuse
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Ella! Thanks for the comment. We cannot say for sure if he is tired or not. What you need to do is to call him and ask him about how you feel. Staying silent and assuming will not help you at all. A promise for love is not enough. Love is beyond just words and marriage should not be based on just a promise. It should be by two people that are very balanced and a ready to start a new life together. We hope this helps
Big sis Am in a relationship with the guy am in love with but we are not staying in the same state what should i do to keep the relationship between us going
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Smart25! Thanks for the comment. Being in a long distance relationship requires trust, hard work and good communication. You both need to be in touch as much as you can... calls, chats, text messages, video calls (if you can) etc. You both should also not hesitate to talk things out immediately if there are any issues. Most importantly, trust is very important. We hope this helps
big sis Am in love with this Girl but I don't love her
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Freshly! Thanks for the comment. Yes, we can be confused about our feelings sometimes but you need to focus and know what you really feel about the person. At times, it is not even love but just a crush. Find out what you want in a partner (without thinking about her in particular) and then see if she has these features. This takes time so do not be in a hurry. We hope this helps
even if the person is abroad
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
My love
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Big sis, i need your help. Ive been best friends with this guy since primary school and i think i had a crush on him back then. After primary school,we lost contact until five years ago. We renewed our friendship,became even better and closer until i realised my the old crush didnt go away. So, i freaked out and started to avoid him but he is a very observant and caring person, so he noticed and questioned me. I gave him a flimsy excuse but he kept on apologizing for mistakes he didn't even make. A few months ago, he came back from Uni, stopped by my mum's shop and asked me out. I am afraid of risking our friendship for a relationship that may not even last.but i like him, alot. What do i do
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Faythe! Thanks for the comment. We understand how confusing and challenging this can be. What you need to do is to communicate with him and find out what his intentions are instead of assuming. Also, once you have any doubt in your mind, please do not continue with the relationship. You should end it immediately because doubts can mess up with your mind and cause issues in your relationship.The final decision is up to you to make. We hope this helps
big sis... I have a friend but I think she is not truthful like I assume is she is an enemy like friend... what can I do???
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey beautifulgold! Thanks for the comment. Your comment is based on assumptions so we cannot give a response to that. You need to get your facts right and be sure before you conclude. We hope this helps
hello big sis, I have a female Friend, she means alot to me and she is my closest Friend, but I didn't trust her there is something she is hidden from me but when ever I ask she is not opening up. please what can I do??
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey moses! Thanks for the comment. You need to talk to her about it. Trust is very important in every kind of relationship and if you do not trust each other, then you both are not as close as you claim you are. Sit down and express how you feel and you both need to settle things. We hope this helps
pls big sister, i have a friend, who don't like calling me. is only me that called him everytime.what should i do pls
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey pope! Thanks for the comment. Talk to your friend about how this makes you feel. Let him know that you will appreciate it if he also calls you. We hope this helps
Hello big sister i have a girlfriend but the girl knows luv me again because she have another guy, pls what can do?
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
I have a bestie dating my friend,ever since they have been together I feel left out because he barely have time for me
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.