BUT I've got something else to say
My name is Janet, and recently my parents moved to a new town for work. And so, I had to leave my friends behind and start over in a new community.
After the move, I was so nervous about meeting new people. But then, I met this boy named Francis at school.
He came up to me during lunch break to introduce himself. We gisted afterwards. He told me all the things I needed to know about the school: the friendly teachers, the strict ones.
Soon, it became a normal thing for us to hang out during break. And sometimes we would walk home together.
One day, as I was walking to school with a group of friends from my class one of them asked me, "So when were you going to tell us you are Francis’ girl?”
I was shocked! Yes, I had a crush on him. However, he was not my boyfriend. I asked her where she heard that news. She told me she overheard him telling his friends during Math class.
I was so mad that I couldn’t talk for the rest of the way.
Initially, my plan was to never speak to him again. But then the next day, I saw him at lunch.
I realised it was important for me to say my mind. So, I went up to him in front of all his friends. I told him what I heard and made it clear that I was not his girl. I even took it a step further and told him that if he didn’t tell people the truth, we would stop being friends.
He admitted the truth to his friends and they made fun of him for weeks. Even after this, I was still annoyed with him.
I felt like he was trying to decide for me. And that’s something I don’t like. I have a mind of my own. And if he had waited, who knows, we may be dating now. But he didn’t, and that’s his loss.
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Trisha
that's wat am passing through right now
May 9, 2022, 1:08 p.m.
HM
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Francis made an error by telling his friends a lie. probably his friends had girlfriends and he also wanted to feel among so he decided to tell a lie
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Francis made an error by telling his friends a lie. probably his friends had girlfriends and he also wanted to feel among so he decided to tell a lie
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Ya, it was a huge mistake
Hi riztikerl cn we be frnds and also i like the way u talk.
Hi bayley!
Hi rizterkerl, hw are u.
bravo gal...u really did wats ryt
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yes
My case as a guy is that this girl is lacking behind in school and i decided to help her up but suddenly i developed feelings for her and i made her understand... She gave me hope of remaining calm till after exam and she rejected my proposal... i felt bad but i still didn't relent in helping her... WHAT DO I DO???
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Just leave her and move on, but you can continue helping her. If I was the one in that situation I'll stop helping her, you have a good heart to still be helping her. Continue helping her, maybe one day she would be the one asking you but you could also find another girl and still be helping her
See scam😮
In my own case i warned the guy never to try that nonsense If he had asked me for friendship it would have been better other than going about telling everyone that am his girl That's so childish of him
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Serious this how my own happen luv the girl de bt i told everyone den that cause a big problem to me wit dat girl
Yes i have found my self in a situation like this
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Mine was I ddnt even crushed on him
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
YES
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
No actually not me
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Yeah I react the same way
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
My you we're too ash on him
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
i reacted the same way
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
dats true shaa boys always like being authoritative but I can't stand it for you to decide my life
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
that how they take decisions without seeking for opinion they say they are the man
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Do not make a decision u wil regret since u av a crush on him but dont let him rule u
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Yep! d guy did it 4 me wen i was in ss3. n dat was hw mah classmates became jealous n fought with me criozly. they showed me hell!! n later d truth was revealed
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Good that's a good thought that woman meet man to tell him her feelings to guy but what if the guy take advantage of that girl just because she approached him? big sister I need your help because some guys are very desperate... I'm male but I need answers to my question....
Hello everyone who can please answer my question is that * Is it right or wrong for a guy to call girl his baby without dating ?
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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y not
wrong she is older than a baby
In my school i really love a boy called Michael but he said that his Mum is against dating and he always calls me his wife. He likes moving about with girls also and never give me any attention unless i meet him and i don't know if really he loves me
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Guys do ask me out and I don't know hw to reply should I say yes or no cuz my mum is against dating and dey are always disturbing me which makes me frustrated
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Can someone pls answer my question?
don't do Anything that can implicate You
Hello Queen, To date is your decision, do not do it because someone else wants it or because the person is frustrating you. That is not a good start for a relationship. Also remember that if your mother is important in your life then you should also think about how dating will affect your relationship with her. We hope this helps.
Thanks Diamond
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Yea I had that type of situation before her name is anuoluwapo,she always abuse,discriminate me in the public whenever she saw me with girls,I was wondering while she always act like that until she came to me and said"you are a daft don't you see someone like me to gist with,at least let's be friends if you can't date me" that day I was dumbfounded
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Some people are just too desperate
so wat u said?
😂😂😂😂😂
Yh..I didn't even know about wat he said it was later someone said it and I was like we re nt dating,The person now it was d guy dah told him and nt only him self he told all his friends... I was really angry
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
wel there's no deciding between us bt i sense she kind of likes bt haven't told me yet
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Hi miko! Good evening can we be friends
Yeah dat a good thought big sister and queen, think of hw it wil affect the relationship between u and ur mama If i were u think about her first.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
I had a crush back then in school, he didn't talk and I didn't too. am sure the boys are to talk not girls
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well to me I think boys and girls have equal rights, and I admire girls with such confidence though in my own part of the world its almost an offence for a girl to ask a boy out
Hey Judyt! We totally agree with @Henry. There is no rule to this. If you like a guy and you are a girl, nothing stops you from telling the boy how you feel. It doesn't make you cheap neither does it make you desperate. We hope this helps
Yes the both hv 2 talk d is song dat says if u love xum 1 go 2 he or she an tell dat u do
Lol Me too Everyone thought we were dating but we hardly talk But I think I love him
Hy big sister I hope u help me with my problems . I have a boyfriend who is my neighbor and childhood friend he started dating this year but anytime I tell him something he will always tell his friends and I don't know why . Pls help me big sis what should I do
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Kc! Thanks for the comment. You need to talk to your boyfriend about this and let him know that you do not like the fact that he tells his friends about things you both say. A relationship is between 2 people and not inclusive of his friends. We hope this helps
Ask him why is he behaving like an immature person And tell him you will end the relationship if he keeps on telling his friends about you guys relationship stuff
Hy big sister I hope u help me with my problems . I have a boyfriend who is my neighbor and childhood friend he started dating this year but anytime I tell him something he will always tell his friends and I don't know why . Pls help me big sis what should I do
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
😂😂😂😂😂
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Yes.i hate d guy
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
my own want to luk lyk bt i has a girl she was my classmate due to our tightly 5rndship my 5rnd think am dating her even my 5rnd use 2 say it in her present which is nt so bt i dnt known wot 2 do
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey THOBSOM! Thanks for the comment. What you need to do is to tell your friend that you aren't dating her. It's that simple. Make it known to your friend that the fact that you both are close does not mean that you both a dating. We hope this helps
rodi y do u hate him na
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
The was this guy in my school any where i go he keeps looking at me and smiling, when i look back at him he pretends like he wasn't looking at me, so i was sitting beside my male friend then he started looking at me like i did something wrong and started shout my male friend , i looked at him and he stood up went outside and he came back and spinked water on me i did answer him. he came close and started smiling.what should i do big sister
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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RUN!!!!!
run where?? confront him and ask him what's his deal is with you
Hey Tarvia12! Thanks for the comment. You need to report this behavior to a trusted adult because he is acting aggressive and that is not safe for you. You also need to try to be safe at all times. We hope this helps
Stop hating someone. no one know tomorrow
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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hi blossom
Yes, na so Blossom.
i don't know how to ask him because we are friends on WhatsApp and he didn't tell me he was the one he kept on telling me he wasn't the one when i asked him in school and i ask his senior brother for his number his senior brother said he was the one that he has all my pictures on his phone and he printed some he Is always waiting for my call .he later admitted and we became friends secretly cuz my friends know i hate him .so how do i ask him
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey tarvia12! Thanks for the comment. Like we said earlier, you need to tell a trusted adult about him and all the things he has been doing. You also need to be very careful. There is a Child Advocacy Center where they help and give professional advice to young people in situations like this on what they can do to be safe. You can call them on 08 00 80 080 01. This service is completely confidential - which means they won't share what you say to them with other people. It is free which means you don’t not need to have credit before you call them. We hope this helps
it is nt gud 2 be hating someone bcos of tommorow
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
it is nt gud 2 be hating someone bcos of tomorrow
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
if not believe to be his girlfriend at that time by next u will find ur self feel in love with
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
One of my male friend usually tell our friends in our class that he wants to date me and he also calls me his girl friend, if he asks me out should I say yes or no? please someone should answer my question.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Don't say yes because you are under pressure. Try to know how serious he is before telling him what you have in mind. Always remember that relationships gat consequences.
One of my male friend usually tell our friends in our class that he wants to date me and he also calls me his girl friend, if he asks me out should I say yes or no? please someone should answer my question.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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No is the answer u shed give him
yes
Well I would say no you shouldn't.. He haven't summoned the courage to tell you his feelings and he is to ask you for a date? That's not how it should be..
yeah it also happens with me it's annoying
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
If he had feelings for the lady,the best he could do was to tel the lady.maybe he is the shy type and feels comfortable letting it out with friends.. You can't blame him.it was his fault yes but we all make mistakes anyways..😶
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
yea..i once found myself in such a situation, it was annoying though, but i handled it in a mature way by letting him know what he ought to do.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
yes..it was so annoying..
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
My Julius am single and I don't even plan to have a wife because girls have really hort me actually I don't have much experience But my patient want me to Mary and I never have anyone In my life Pks u need a honest girlfriend from there we can be couple's
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Dont mind the guy I think he's not matured
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
I have a boyfriend who understand me and Loves me for who I am,we have a little issue about communication and some times neither of us will have airtime to call each other but I told him that he should always drop off a message for me when he comes online, I don't know if I asked for too much
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
U were just being simple dear
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
But girl you should have been a lot nicer. Not making him feel stupid. Put his case in your shoes but am not saying you should not be careful.Think about it pls;(. Dont suspect i know him cause i donot
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nice
Am sure he was just trying to scare other guys away from approaching u
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I stopped talking to the guy till date
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nice desicion
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Nice decision
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Well nice one there Janet Sometimes these guys who go out of their way to say that you're dating them dump the poor girl after everything It was just a crush not LOVE LOVE would wait for the perfect moment
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Well janet wat u did was cool becos if i were to be in ur shoes i would have done worse than tat
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Janet.. If i were to be you though, i would have done worse than that
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What You Did Is Good
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Well i love people that love me even d one day not
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Beuty is in d eyes of beholders,love is real and strong Find yours.
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thumb up, girl u did the right thing.
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hmm i don't think so
i once had an experience like this but it turned out for the better we found out that we both had a crush on each other and we started dating
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Wow girl u did rty
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
My case is somehow likened to dat of d guy... back in skul I fell madly in love with dis girl named Chinyere...bt I was too shy to approach her nd tell hw I felt... bt I did tell my friends hw much I loved diz girl bt approaching her wud b d problem... bt friends u knw cannot b trusted... dey told on me and she hated me 4 such. Diz was a girl wu used 2 chat wit me and we did on well...bt she hated me and dat kept me emotionally depressed and down in ma education... Each tym I beg 4 forgiveness, I was fynd myself messin up again. Bt finali we reconciled bt I still do have d feelin dat she still hates me.
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
Hi
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
Hy big sister Am a girl with no one to give advice to I and mom ain't closee to that extent I once asked you a question last year on a guy who says he loves me but i dont want to date now even if i feel the slightest feeling I explianed he accepted But after a while he brought it up again Continously like that Sometimes i will want to agree but i know itz wrong to make a decision when not sure I keep on telling him to understand me But he wonntt Sometimes we argue on it then as a kindof person i am i still get to be person to say helloo does this means he doesn't respect my decision? To be frank i always miss talking to him But i dont want to date I dont know how to maintain a friendship with him without leading to relationship talk he always bring it up Sometimes i will wanna say yes but somethg keeps telling me hey girl you dont need it now Sometimes ago he started calling romantic names then one day it was raining And he chat me up that he is having my urge i was surprised to hear that Then i told him he shouldn't say that to me He even asked me what i was wearing under my cloth thr social media i was like amnt gonna tell u that he kept on begging saying he loves me calling does names i laterr got angry and told him i am not his girlfriend he should keep it all for her I mean what does he take me for We ignored eachother for days BUT!!!! Big sister i really miss him like did i overeact Or i did the right thing Please i need your advice I am weak within me Very soon please reply
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
Thanks for ur story
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
I have once fine my self in this kind of situation back then in school there waz this girl elizabeth we both had a crush on each other fortunate for me we live at the same compound nd unfortunately my friend also had a crush on her and that my friend came to me to help him talk to her which i did and the girl told me that she didn't like that my friend within me i waz very happy to hear that so i waited for at a month then i ask her out my self and she accepted and we dated for two to three years.....
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Good for you bro...
I was very angry because I don't have girlfriend in my life why I need it in my life I don't know how I can get good girl
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