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As a teenager, it’s normal to be curious about sex. Which is why the question – Am I a virgin? – may have popped into your head once or twice. Don’t you worry. We’re here to help.
For most people, a virgin is someone who has never had sex. But it’s not that simple. Sex means different things to different people, and so virginity can mean different things too. As a result, there is no single agreed definition of virginity.
Many people think a virgin is someone who has their hymen intact. The hymen is a thin, fleshy tissue at the opening of your vagina. Some girls are born with thick hymens, some are born with thin hymens. People say if a penis stretches the hymen during intercourse, a girl is no longer a virgin.
However, the hymen can get stretched through other ways like riding a bike or doing sports. Let’s say your hymen stretches while you’re exercising. Does this mean you’re no longer a virgin? Nope! Long story short, having a hymen may not be the best way to define virginity.
Truth is, no one can really tell whether anyone – girl or boy – is a virgin or not. Even doctors can’t tell. You can’t tell if someone has had sex just by the way they look, talk or behave. Yet some people shame boys for being virgins, then shame girls for not being virgins. If anyone shames or judges you for being or not being a virgin, they are wrong. Not you. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for what you have or haven’t done.
At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter whether or not you’re a virgin. What matters is not doing anything that makes you uncomfortable. Or anything you don’t want to do. What matters is respecting your body and making sure you’re with someone who does too. You have the right to make your own decisions. If you’ve started having sex and you want to stop, fine. If you choose not to have sex, fine. It’s #YourBodyYourChoice. After all, it’s best to wait until you can handle the consequences e.g. pregnancy and STDs. Click here to learn more: http://ng.heyspringster.com/sections/my-body/i-think-im-pregnant/
Besides, there are more important things in life. Like following your dreams and achieving your goals. So go ahead and write that book. Learn how to code. Find the cure to cancer. Conquer the world.
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Hey big sis, how can I share my story? I need to talk to someone
July 2, 2022, 6:56 p.m.
Thanks big sister, at least, virginity isn't all about hymen, is it?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey lola! Thanks for the comment. No, it is not because it is not everyone is born with a hymen and this does not mean that they are not virgins. We hope this helps
Thanks big sis,it is good for people to be aware.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
hi guys this article is great thanks a lot to big sister.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Thanks Big Sis You Have Really Answer A Question Have Been Asking For So Long And Did Not Find Answer To
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
thanks big sis for dis wonderful article .can you pls educate us on masturbation
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey ivia! You're welcome. What exactly do you want to know about masturbation? Ask and big sister will answer. We look forward to your question
are masturbators still virgins
Marstubators are half virgin
Please I need help I can't control my temper this days, while I was younger I tried controlling it but the method I used doesn't work again. I get uncontrollably angry at the slightest thing this days and my mum always tells me to control it cause I could easily get hypertension since it runs in our blood, but I've really tried I just can't.
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Hi Paris2 I know you can control this feeling girl,just keep trying and you will overcome it I trust you girl you can do it.
just keep trying
Hey Paris2! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Your mum is correct. You need to learn how to control your anger and the truth is that no one can teach you how to control it. You need to learn this by yourself by trying different methods. We believe you can do this. Big sister will always be here for you in case you need someone to talk to and we are sure @jbaby005 and @bolu will be here for you too.
so am i can keep her company too.
Is their anyother way one can lost his/her virginity apart from having sex......???
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Beth1! Thanks for the comment. Yes, there are several other ways. Fingering can also make you lose your virginity. Rigorous exercises can also make you lose your virginity. We hope this helps
hey big sis, what are the rigorous exercises??
I feel relieved of my heavy burden n big question. Tanx so much.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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You're welcome YoungQueen!
why is it dat wen I am seeing my period I always hv the urge for sex
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It happens to me also
Hey AB2004! Thanks for the comment. This happens to some people and it is not abnormal. Like we have said before, we all have different signs and symptoms when we are on our periods and this is what some people feel. We hope this helps
diz article is so jxt made for me cuz i ve found where my questions will b answered ova d yrs now i ve been wondering if am a virgin or not cuz i really need answers abt myself nd my body,big sis is it possible for someone to be a virgin again after having sex once for many yrs dat has passed??
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey jjmi! Thanks for the comment. Once you have had sex (penetration occurred), you are no longer a virgin. You cannot get your virginity back because once the hymen is torn, you cannot get it back even if you abstain for a long time. We hope this answers your question.
so having sex protected is it cool
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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No sometimes isnt safe
Bip sis if it being long like 4 3years some1 had sex does dat means she's stil a virgin?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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No, u really no more a virgin if once had sex before.
Hey Isabella! Thanks for the comment. Virginity once lost cannot be regained no matter how long you wait to have sex again. We hope this helps
Is der anyway I can message you privately.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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what's your social media platform
Hey PrincessRyan! Thanks for the comment. There is no way to private chat here. This is a free zone and it is okay for you to freely ask a question. Don't worry, you will not be judged. We hope this helps
But what make man known if a lady is no long a virgin?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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if the vagina is so tight even after several minutes of stimulation, secondly if the penisisnt stained by blood 😃😃🤐
Hey Ene! Thanks for the comment. There is no way for a man to know about this. We hope this helps
WITH OR WITHOUT THE HYMEN A VIRGIN IS STILL A VIRGIN "RIGHT?"
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hi rozy scientifically when the Hymen is broken a girl is no longer a virgin but people do say if u have not have sex before u are virgin but if u have not have sex before that u are a virgin.
all vagina has a hymen, once the vagina is deflowered, the hymen is broken 😄😄
Hey ROZY! Not all girls are born with hymens. If a girl does not have a hymen, this doesn't mean that she is not a virgin. So yes, with or without a hymen, a virgin is still a virgin. We hope this helps
if a girl get fingered will she lose her virginity
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Nope cause I once finger my gf
finger is not as big and thick as a penis
try a bottle or the whole of your hand annoyed the difference
try a bottle or the whole of your hand note the difference
Hey horheoluwa! Thanks for the comment. Yes, fingering can disvirgin a girl. We hope this helps
life is all about what you want to do!
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
It Is Not The Girl Fort
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Since i was 16 i've began to feel the urge of sex but i try to calm myself with my hands, I mean masturbating but i've never put anything or fingered my vagina before, i only rub my clit till i orgasm. So i want to ask am i still a virgin???
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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yes and no yes because your hymen is still intact no because you've masturbated and you cum
Hey Cindy! Thanks for the comment. As long as there has been no form of penetration, you are still a virgin. We hope this helps
hi big sister. Can clitorial stimulation make you loss your virginity?. Please i need an answer
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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probably if you finger your pussycat in a way a dick can do it
Hey starlee! Thanks for the comment. No, clitoral stimulation cannot make you lose your virginity. Penetration is needed for one to be disvirgined. We hope this helps
hi big sis, please answer my question... how do I know if my hymen is still intact?
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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your hymen is intact if only you are still a virgin. According to research; defloration is when your hymen breaks and blood comes out like when you're wounded
why is it that some girls that are still virgin get sexually urge
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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It is good
because virginity isn't dignity but lack of opportunity😄😄😄
Please is there a way i cn chart u privatly?
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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which social media platform so you use
which social media platform do you use
yes
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Yes dat right
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Yes
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Good evening house Am busayo nd 16 years old nd still a virgin bt planing to have sex nw bt wen am abt to do dat i do fell lik urinating dat why i want to ask for d reason why before i go deep into it
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Good evening ma Am busayo by name nd a 16 years girl D issue am having nw is dat wenever i giv up my mind to have sex i alwaz feel lik urinating dat why i wana ask for d reason why before i go deep in to it
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey Springster! There is nothing wrong with this. It is normal and nothing to worry about. We hope this helps
is a lie I don believe u
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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What is it you don't believe, ivia?
If a guy put his fingers into your Virginia and blood comes out re u still a virgin
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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I need girl in my life
Hey Ife! Thanks for the comment. If blood comes out, then you are no longer a virgin. We hope this helps
Wow.. I used to think being a virgin was all about not having sex... I never knew our hymen can get Stretched doing other things..
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey 24! We are glad you know this now. Please share this knowledge with your friends. Thanks
Is a laying
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Nice one
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God will help us
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
If a girl has a thin hymen and loses her virginity by riding a bike will she bleed?
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey dhamzkhid! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you cannot know if you have a thin hymen. Also, please note that not everyone bleeds when the hymen tears. Another very important thing to know is that not all girls have hymens. We hope this helps
If a girl has a thin hymen and loses her virginity by riding a bike will she bleed?
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
how will you know if you have when your hymen has been removed?
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey ac! Thanks for the comment. The hymen doesn't get removed, it gets torn. Some people know while some don't but please note that not all girls are born with hymens. We hope this helps
sorry I ,meant how will you know if your hymen is removed?
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hi ac, the hymen can't be removed it can only be torned.
Hey ac! Thanks for the comment. Because it is not only through sexual intercourse that one's hymen can be torn, some girls experience mild pain and bleeding when their hymen breaks, but others don't have any discomfort. If you do not experience any pain or discomfort, there is no way you will know. You also need to know that not all girls are born with a hymen but it doesn't mean that these girls will not lose their virginity. What it means is that there will be no tearing of the hymen. We hope this helps
is it possible am still a virgin ..just kissing a girl mouth to mouth ..am scared and confuse if am or not a virgin no more..please tell me the real truth oh
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hy ablemoni,kissing does not means u are no longer a virgin ..... U are still a virgin as long as u have never had sex , hope dis helps
Ok
Is kissing a sexual act
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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hello beauty yes it is.
ok,what of if mun kissed me,or i kissed my sis .does that means that we are having sex,or sexual action.
there are basically 2 types of virginity 1)pure virgin 2)renew virgin
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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jbaby005-pls explain better
Hey jbaby005! Thanks for the comment but there is nothing like types of virgins. Once the hymen has been torn, there is no renewal. This information is not correct and it is actually misleading. Splendor, please note that once someone has lost her virginity, there is no recovery. We hope this helps
Pure virgin is a person that has never had sex before (Hymen) is still intact and remember this no kind of exercise can tear the Hymen, if u think am lying then ask ur doctor
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
good morning guys,let me continue a renewed virgin is someone who have had sex in the past and are sorry for their deeds and what to turn a new leave and ask god to forgive them for what they had turn, so by praying and promising God u won't do it again, ask asking him to restore ur virginity but remember that the hymen is already broken so it can't join back together.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
it is only 2 activities that can break the hymen, the are the Penetration of the penis into the vagina and also by using ur finger or any other object that is also capable of penetrating into the vagina,no kind of exercise can break the hymen.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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jaybaby,i think you shud make more research,big sis told us that exercises can break an hymen ,i google search ,and got to know that they can break an hymen .
For me, Abstinence is the best. Avoid premarital Sex, and Reserve your Virginty. I love it when Teens/youths are being CHASTISED. Honour God With your body, cos he dwells in Us. THANK YOU!
hi big sis actually am new here I just discover that am discharging some whitish stuff from my vagina pls help me out
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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hello splendor what do u actually what me to explain please.
Hey jbaby005! Thanks for helping out but I am sure the question Splendor asked was directed at Big Sister and not at you. Thanks for trying to help but you should let Big sister handle it to avoid giving information that is no correct. We hope this helps
hi is maxwell04 i had sex with one girl last nigth and blood startet coming out of her viginer and she was crying and shouting dose that means she is virgen
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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hi Maxwell she might be and she may not, the cause of her screaming and crying might be became of the way u did have sex with her.
OMG, never heard of different types of virgins b4, keep up the good work
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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can we be frnds?
I was fingered by a boy d week I was supposed to see my monthly flow n am aving blood flow Please wat can I do to stop it??? And Am I still a virgin??
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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hi jazz since he fingered u,u are no more a virgin cause the hymen has been broken, so for the blood I think u should see a doctor to know what's wrong with u OK?
Jezz drop ur no
jbaby 005 explain more about the type of vagina
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
if u are a virgin but had sex with ur pant are u still a virgin and u got wet please Big sister I need answers
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Àm scared of my bf asking me if am a virgin,cos don't know what to say,and am not a virgin and I never had sex,don't know if he will believe me and don't know how to make him believe cos I never had sex and a nurse told me am no longer a virgin that's how I know,pls help me ,trow more light for me I need help,cos am confused
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Hey chinny! Thanks for the comment. How did the nurse know that you are no longer a virgin? What made her give you this information Also, if you read the article, you will see that it was stated that being a virgin does not only mean that you have never had sex before. Sex is not what will determine if you are a virgin or not. You really should not let your virginty determine who you are. We hope this helps
help
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Am scared my bf might ask if am still a virgin and I never had sex and I don't know how to make him believe me ,he might doubt me,like u said some girls are born with light hymen I think am one of them.I don't just know how to make him believe me that I never had sex pls help me out of this
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Hey chinny! Thanks for the comment. You do not have to be afraid of telling him anything. You are a virgin, tell him and if he doesn't believe you, it automatically means that he doesn't trust you and you shouldn't be in a relationship with someone that doesn't trust you. Your hymen does not determine if you are a virgin or not. Some people are born without hymens and this does not mean that they are not virgins. What makes you think that you have a light hymen? There is no way for you to know if you have a light hymen or not. Besides, there is nothing like a light hymen. So, do not be worried for no reason at all. Take your mind off this and live happily. We hope this helps
Hey Jbaby005! We have to take down your comments because they are untrue and misleading. We understand that you are trying to help out here but you need to be sure of the information you share or better still, ask. This is why Big sister is here. Thanks for the attempt though but there are no different types of virgins.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Big sister please answer my question I discovered that I'm discharging some whitish stuff from my vagina and I don't know what that means. pls help me out
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Hey splendor! Thanks for the comment. The whitish thing you see is called vaginal discharge and it is not just whitish, there are other colors and feels that occur at different times in your menstrual cycle. It could be clear, milky or stretchy depending on your cycle. The only time you should be worried about a discharge is if it green or yellow in colour, if its clumpy like cheese, if it has a bad odour, rashes, swelling or if it itches. Seeing a discharge does not necessarily mean that your period is coming soon. We hope this helps.
I really learn a lot from dis article.it really helps.
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Honestly, your taught is amazing keep it up.
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True life story Child: mummy is it compulsory to be a virgin. Mother: it's a commandment from God. Child: but God didn't say we should marry as virgins. Mother: God says we should not commit fornication, if you don't commit fornication you will remain a virgin till marriage. Child: is it a must to obey God. Mother: imagine you commanded your mother car to go to the right and it goes left or vice versa or you commanded your laptop to open a game and it opens another application, you see that you won't be happy, so is God. Child: now I understand, if my computer does that I say it's faulty. God is my creator he have commanded me so if I don't obey he won't be happy, thanks mummy. Always obey God he is your creator he has a reason for every creation.
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Share your thoughts
it true , you body is the temple of the lord.it good to keep you body.And it is meant for only a man I mean the right man,the destined man to be with you.
Ya bravo bravo!!!!! yeah the holy spirit dwells in us that's the reason we are his temple.
Big sis are you saying someone can be dusvirgined through fingering??
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Yeah
As far as something enters into ur Virgina u are disvirgined
Really!?
Hmmmm
Hey Qween_ella! Thanks for the comment. Yes, a girl can be disvirgined through fingering. This is because all that is needed for a girl to be virgined is penetration and fingering is a form of penetration. We hope this helps
Cool
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Nice one
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am very sorry guys for sharing an unwanted information but that was want I was informed about, so am really sorry next time before sharing any kind of information again am going to research properly.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
hi am new here someone should please talk to me
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hi @loveth u are welcome here dear.
Hi loveth!
Hello Loveth, You are welcome to our educative, fun and interesting platform. Nice to meet you.
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thank u everyone thanks for accepting me
If I masturbate with objects n never had real sex b4, am I still a virgin?
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Pls Guys help Me. Am Afraid Of Having Sex With A Virgine Cos I Cant Stand The Pains She Is Going To Feel And The Blood I Will See In That Moment Of Sex. So Pls Should I Leave Her, Or What Should I Do? Pls Advice Me.
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hi sunspot,you dont have to have sex with her,it not nessary you leave her,but leaving her like ,you wanted to have sex with her,but you thought about the pain then you left her,that means you didnt love her actually.and please dont let her loose her virginity,if is trying to ,please convince her about it .i love it when a girl is avkrgin
Hi Loveth, You are welcome my dear.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Hi Loveth, You are welcome my dear.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
I had sex when I was younger then I don't know about virginity but no bleed after over 8years I was fingered and I bleed Little.am I still a virgin. Big sister please answer me.
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Hi Presh212, Anyone who has had sex is not a virgin. Being a virgin simply means that someone has not had sex. We hope this helps.
I had sex when I was younger then I don't know about virginity but no bleed after over 8years I was fingered and I bleed Little.am I still a virgin. Big sister please answer me.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Not everyone bleeds when they have sex, nd abt being fingered maybe the person scratched u, thats why u bled.
I was molested but never had penis sex before so am I still a virgin
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
I had sex lately but no blood came out and since then I've been wondering whether am still a virgin or not
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
I masturbated once and bleed... Q Am i still a virgin?
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no,maybe you fingered yourself coz fingering too can cause loss of virginity
Hi vian
When someone masturbates,is that person still a virgin?
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if the hymen is thorn you no more a Virgin but if the hymen is intact you are still a virgin.
If Someone who Was A Virgin Does Not Bleed On First Time marsturbation is The Person Still A Virgin?
yes ,if the hymen is not affected.
There is no proof of how to know if someone is a virgin not even by checking the hymen
is having sex in d dream means you are no more a virgin?
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Hello Ooea, No, sex in your dreams does not affect your virginity in real life. We hope this helps.
Hi,Am new here
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Hi actually am new here Big sis plz I need answer if a girl is raped can she get pregnant
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hello Fifi, The simple answer is yes, a girl who is raped can get pregnant. Do you have a reason for asking this question? Big sis is here to answer any questions you have and help you out. We hope this helps.
Some people said if you are rape you should quickly go to the hospital to flush your belly
Hi pls am new here I just want to ask dat is it good to have sex after 18 years or bad
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Hello Omowumi, There is no specific answer to this, it depends on the individual. The more important thing is that you do not let anyone pressure you into having sex when you are not ready or you do not want to do it. We hope this helps.
Big sis, please I was asked to carry a big generator set since there was nobody around to help When I lifted it the pressure was too much, then I went to the bathroom and saw a drop of blood on my panties and something that looks like mucus. Please what can that be?
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey rayinc.jr! Thanks for the comment. What you saw on your pant is probably your period. You did not bleed because you carried something heavy but rather because your period came. Also, it wasn't mucus that you saw, it is called discharge. This is not something to be worried about. It is normal with girls. All you need right now is to get a sanitary pad, take a bath with clean underwear and also talk to a trusted adult about it. We hope this helps
I've been having heavy blood flow lately with large clots.how should i stop it please?
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
you are a layer
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CAN VIRGINITY CAUSE ANY PROBLEM TO ANY ONE WHEN IT TOO LONG?
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Hi, being a virgin for too long can't cause any problems to you, you can even stay for about 30 years as a virgin without any problem. Hope this helps. Bye, proudly a virgin.
Hey TEASY! Thanks for the comment. Just like Bayley said, being a virgin for a long time CANNOT cause any problem at all. A lot of people spread rumors on the danger of staying a virgin and this is because they are trying to take advantage of you. Please, do not let them get that opportunity. If you are not ready to have sex, stay a virgin and do not be worried about anything okay? We hope this helps
Yeah Actually I have gotin another experience
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
I was raped in my primary school days 15yrs back nd since den i av never have sex with anyman.am i still a virgin plz
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Goodluck! Thanks for comment. We are so sorry about what you went through back then. We understand that rape is a serious issue and also a traumatic one that is hard to get over. You lose your virginity just once because of the way the female body is formed. So once the hymen is torn, it cannot be recovered. There is an organization called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.
A girl who maturbate severally is she still a virgin
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Masturbation can make one lose her virginity. This is because the hymen needs just penetration to break and your fingers can do the job too. We hope this helps
Having heavy flow of blood for a long time,is it normal?
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Hey Beyoncee! Thanks for the comment. There is nothing wrong with having a heavy flow. Not everyone has a heavy flow but once you do, it is just best to manage it properly by changing your pad regularly. We hope this helps
Help big sis.there was dis frd of mine dat was disvirgin when she was 8yrs old,due 2 her parent seperation.her mum took her 2 one alfa 2 be taking care of her.nd her mum went 2 remarry.it was where her mum took her 2 they disvirgin her nd she did'nt really knw d person dat disvirgin her among d alfa's children bcos they cover her eyes when they disvirgin her.nd d thing has been killing her silently.she did nt want 2 tell parent bcos they won't believe her.what can she do? Pls it's urgent.
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Hey Aderinola! Thanks for the comment. Thanks a lot for the comment. We are so sorry about what your friend has been going through and we understand that it must be very hard for her to handle alone. The truth is that she needs to talk to a trusted adult about this because she needs guidance. Also, there is a Child Advocacy Center where they help and give professional advice to young people in situations like this on what they can do to be safe. You can call them on 08 00 80 080 01. This service is completely confidential - which means they won't share what you say to them with other people. It is free which means you don’t not need to have credit before you call them. We hope this helps
Hi Aderinola
Hi big sis,am new here.my question is that is it all virgins that bleed at 1st time sex
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Hey Biliqueen! Thanks for the comment. Not all virgins bleed when they are being disvirgined. This is because bleeding is as a result of the hymen is torn but not all girls have hymens. Not having a hymen does not mean that you are not a virgin but this just goes to show how different we all are. I hope this answers your question.
What if the hymen is torn but still a person is disvirgined, is it possible or get pregnant?
Hey fernanda! Thanks for the comment. Yes, the person can get pregnant. Having unprotected sex increases your risk of getting pregnant and also getting infected with STDs, STIs and even HIV. Also note that one can get pregnant the first time he or she has sex or the moment the hymen is torn. We hope this helps
How do u knw if your hymen is still intact. Plx reply big sister am new here
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Is it possible for one one to be a virgin throught dis process 1 。if the penis is in your virginal and no bleed and dat is d first experience
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Hi, mercy
Does it mean dat if u have sex but the man dick did not enter ur vagina,is just ontop of the vagina .you are no longer a virgin
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Hi, beauty
Big sis pls answer my question.
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hi big sis,pls i need an answer.a friend of mine had sex wen she was just eight years but she did not bleed is she still a virgin?
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hi am new here
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hi, am new here , hope I'm welcome
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what are some of d important of being a virgin
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No importance particularly especially speaking outside religion . Basically , being a virgin keeps you off STDs and unwanted pregnancy. From a religious angel , it keeps your body holy as it is the temple of God.
big sis pls i need an answer,a friend of mine had sex wen she was just 8 years but she did not bleed,is she still a virgin?
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It depends . Bleeding doesn't define if someone is a virgin or not . When you have sex and there's penetration of the vagina , that person ain't a virgin no more.
Hey shin555! Thanks for the comment. Bleeding is not a sign of being a virgin. Girls bleed when the hymen is torn. However, not all girls are born with hymens and this does not mean that they are not virgins. So what this means is that virginity does not determine whether you are a virgin or not. The fact that penetration occured, it means that she is most likely not a virgin anymore. Having sex at the age of 8 needs to be raised with a trusted adult and also with a professional body. There is a Child Advocacy Center where they help and give professional advice to young people in situations like this on what they can do to be safe. You can call them on 08 00 80 080 01. This service is completely confidential - which means they won't share what you say to them with other people. It is free which means you don’t not need to have credit before you call them. We hope this helps
Why do some girls lie about being a virgin even when they are not ??
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And how do you know they are not virgins? Whatever they want to say or do is none of your business. It's their choice so you shouldn't get involved with it
Hey DOTxoxo! Thanks for the comment. This is their decision and everyone has a right to disclose this information to whomever they want to. We are not encouraging lying, however, there are certain things that should be left private and up to the person involved. We hope this helps
Nice words
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Guys can these happen if u are a virgin and u get finger are u still a virgin
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Been finger for the first time can it make a girl to lose are virginity
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Hey Fifi! Thanks for the comment. Yes, it can. This is a form of penetration and that is what is needed to achieve this. We hope this helps
My bf lyks 2 grope me cuz m DD cup nd i feel bad wen m touched bt i'm scared he'll cheat if i stop him, wut do i do?
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. If you do not like it, stop him! You are meant to consider your own happiness first and not what he wants. You should not allow such because you do not want to lose him. If he loves you like he claims, he will respect you and stop groping on you because of the size of your breast. Tell him how you feel about him and if he does not stop, it says a lot about how he feels towards you. We also advise that you talk to a trusted adult. Also, there is a Child Advocacy Center where they help and give professional advice to young people in situations like this on what they can do to be safe. You can call them on 08 00 80 080 01. This service is completely confidential - which means they won't share what you say to them with other people. It is free which means you don’t not need to have credit before you call them. We hope this helps. We hope this helps
Been masturbating for a long time now.. Does it mean that im no more a virgin
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Hi
Hey am new here hope am welcomed
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Hey Springster! You're welcome. We hope you like the stories. Feel free to invite your friends here.
pls is masturbating good
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Hey jowie! Thanks for the comment. There is no right or wrong answer to this question. Masturbation is a personal decision and different for every individual. The truth is that there are also side effects to this. You also need to understand that getting addicted to this can also have a negative effect on you. We advise that you talk to a trusted adult and also speak to the agents at the organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.
What is fingering? azin to finger someone
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Hey Fernada! Thanks for the comment. Fingering is the insertion of the finger into the female genital organ for the sake of pleasure. To learn more about fingering and also guidance on this, we advise that you talk to a trusted adult. Also, there is an organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.
Hi Big Sister😄 . I've never really had sex but I am not a virgin. Reason is my hymen actually got torn when he penetrated but I couldn't stand the pain so he didn't go any further. Ever since then, I haven't tried having sex again because I'm still somewhat scared. Occasionally, I get fingered but I still bleed😩. Please, what could be the problem?
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Hey Kiki! Thanks for the comment. Why are you so sure that you are no longer a virgin? There is no obvious sound or feeling to know when the hymen is torn. Also, you shouldn't let this affect you neither should you allow this to make you feel bad. Your virginity should not determine your happiness neither should it make you scared. What is probably causing the bleeding the is friction and necessarily the hymen tearing. We advise that you talk to a trusted adult for advise. We hope this helps
hi am new here how do i check my self 2 knw if am a virgin cuz am confused am having a feeling dat sum one molested me wen i was young
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Am new here Hope am welcome
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M also new here....
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Hmm i big sister I have a question oooo last year me and my boyfriend had Romance which lead into sex and I haven't done it in my life before to cut the story short I was bleeding So I cleanuo my body after like two weeks the same thing repeat it self but this time I was also bleeding my question is I am still a virgin
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No ooo
I Am Glad 2 B A Vargin
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I can't feel my hymen and m still a virgin hope there is not problem
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Hey Misty! Thanks for the comment. There is no way to feel your hymen. This is because the hymen is not meant to be felt. We hope this helps
am still a virgin and am proud of it
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Is a lie
Bossman what problem do you have about her being a virgin, it's her choice her life,so don't doubt her or make her feel bad
hi ballerina don't let anyone make you feel bad or regret your decision it's our pride as a girl, I'm happy to meet someone like me. ALWAYS A PROUD VIRGIN!
Tina and ballerina, its a good thing to remain a virgin but but never be embarrassed or discouraged by your friend's reaction to it. AM ALSO A VIRGIN. I remain #ilerioluwa_Baebee 💙❤💙❤💙❤
Please i need answer to this question I have a friend when she was 8 years old.she as not started menstruation, she was a virgin but her uncle raped her and she was surprise that she the not see blood after her uncle raped her. The question is that when she the not see blood after her uncle raped her does that means she still a virgin
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Hey Oluwapamilerinayo! Thanks for the comment. Like we said in the article above, not all girls are born with hymens and what this means is that not all girls will bleed when they are disvirgined. The fact that she did not bleed when she had sex for the first time does not mean that she is still a virgin. We advise you to ell your friend to read this article properly as all these were addressed in it. Also, and very importantly, your friend needs to talk to a trusted adult about the fact that she was raped at the age of 8. This is something that needs to be addressed urgently. There is a Child Advocacy Center where they help and give professional advice to young people in situations like this on what they can do to be safe. You can call them on 08 00 80 080 01. This service is completely confidential - which means they won't share what you say to them with other people. It is free which means you don’t not need to have credit before you call them. We hope this helps
Big sis wat if a gal had been fingered bt no blood is she stil a virgin.
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Hey Kaira! Thanks for the comment. Please note that sex is not the only way to lose your virginity. The concept behind being a virgin is to have your hymen intact. Once your hymen is torn, you are no longer a virgin and this has nothing to do with if you have had sex or not. Penetration or force (through rigorous exercises) are the things that can tear one's hymen. Fingering is a form of penetration and yes, it can tear the hymen. We hope this helps
hummmm........but does that means that there is no prove to know if a girl or boy is a virgin?
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Hey ewameecutty! Thanks for the comment. Like we said in the article above, there is no way to prove this. We hope this helps
Hey ewameecutty! Thanks for the comment. Like we said in the article above, there is no way to prove this. We hope this helps
Does someone loose her virginity when she is immediately fingered or it takes some minutes to loose it
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Hey Virtuouslady! Thanks for the comment. Loosing your virginity is no ta process, it happens immediately. Let us liken it to this scenarios - Imagine using a sharp pencil to pierce through a paper. Does it tear in a process or immediate? It sure happens immediately. The hymen is a light skin and it when a finger goes through it, it does not require a process to tear, it is done immediately. We hope this helps
Plz...aw can I stop masturbating.. And not get easily manipulated by friends to have sex..... And aw can I shoo off bad friends and boys from me..
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Masturbation is a thing of the mind and you have to make up your mind to stop. That is where it starts from.You also need to make sure you stick to it. Also, look for a strong distraction that will keep you busy all the time so that you won't have the time to masturbate. You need to change your friends if they are bad for you and also try to manipulate you into having sex. This is very important for you to do because the kind of friends you have can either make you or mar you. We also advise that you talk to a trusted adult about this. here is an organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation, masturbation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.
Does someone loose her virginity if she already had Sex before seeing her period
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Yes. Your virginity has nothing to do with your period.
I am new here
Hey kama! Thanks for the comment. @TheIyinoluwarh is very correct. Your period has nothing to do with your virginity. Whether you have sex before, after or even on your period, it does not stop you from being disvirgined. We have written a lot of articles on this. We advise that you search for #sex at the bottom of the page and read the articles that relate to this. We hope this helps
please I want to ask what can cause it because if I. romance for almost 45minutes to an hour I will not release what have been causing it
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. There are a lot of things that can cause this but we advise that you talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor about this for further clarification. Also, when you say romance, what do you mean? Does this mean that you had sex? We will appreciate if you answer these questions so that we can be clear. We hope this helps
Hi big sis... Am having problems with my mum over sporting issues.. She wants me to quit sport because she feels i mignt loose my virginity.. Please what can i do
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Hey Toluwalore! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about what you are going through right now but you need to talk to your mum and make her understand that it is not all kinds of sport that will make you loose your virginity. Also you can get your teacher or trainer to explain better to her. Let her know how much it means to you and we are sure that she will understand. We hope this helps
hi big sister...please what is masturbating
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Hey wildflower! Thanks for the comment. Masturbation is the act of touching your body intimately for the sake of sexual pleasure. We hope this helps
Ok big sister
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It is possible to bleed for two days after hand fucking
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Hey Ayolomo! Thanks for the comment. It is possible and if this happens, you need to talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor as soon as possible. Also, there is an organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything
Hey Ayolomo! Thanks for the comment. Bleeding after masturbation can occur as a result of friction however, bleeding for 2 days should be raised with a medical personnel and also a trusted adult. We advise that you talk to the organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything
is it possible for a girl that is putting her finger into the virgin to be virginer
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Big sis, I had unprotected sex in one of my fertile days, but sperm was not released in me. can I still get pregnant?
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Please big sis a guy finger me and blood did not come out, please am I still a virgin
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nope
Can u get pregnant through anal sex
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Can girl who have started her period, get pregnant for the first time of having sex
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As far as nothing has not been inserted into your vagina that leads to penetration but you've felt hw sweet it is without inserting anything..just the pressure..can we say...U are still a virgin
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If a guy finger a girl is she still a virgin
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If a guy is fingering u can u feel ur hymen
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If a guy is fingering u can u feel ur hymen
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How does one know she is a virgin?
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Can a boy be a virgin
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yes of course
Hi tina can we be friends
C.l.i.c.k.means:c=cant live without u l=love u i=i miss u c=care about u k=kiss from my heart 2 u so whenever u miss sameone just say click
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am new here
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Hey Springster! You're welcome. We hope you like the stories. Feel free to invite your friends here.
hi newbie here
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hi same as you
I had sex but my hymen didn't break is it possible
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hymen is not a true test of virginity
hymen is not a true test of virginity,boys don't have hymen but are still virgins and some girls are not born with hymen,some broke theirs unintentionally through some strenuous exercises.
A virgin is a person who have not had sex ,most especially penetrative sex(like penis and vaginal sex). A girl who was not born with hymen or broke her hymen unintentionally won't bleed on her first sex because it's the breaking of the hymen that causes bleeding. no hymen no bleeding
In some cases people have sex(first sex precisely) without completely breaking their hymen. Moreover people seems to have their own different definition of virginity, hope this helps to answer your question dear
I have never had sex but I used to insert two fingers pls I'm I still Virgin
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Hi big sister, please what is hymen
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Hey ppk! Thanks for the comment. The hymen is a membrane which partially closes the opening of the vagina. The hymen is usually a sign that the female is a virgin. We hope this helps
Pls big sister what is cum?
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Pls big sister what is cum?
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Cum is your ejaculation
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Cum is your ejaculation
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There was a tym I have a thick discharge and my private part was itching me, I was also itching it den I saw blood..big sister dos DAT not make me a virgin anymore
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am new here and am a gye will you love me to be your friend ❣️
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pls big sister if u are fingering a girl but ur finger didn't go deep into to Virginia is the girl still a virgin
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I really want to know about this too
ope are u a boy
i have question why girls cry while having sex
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Their clitoris has been shift
Hi ! Please how will i know if i have thin hymen
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give me ur number let's talk more
But its very good not to have sex, till marriage
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sex?....i get more curious