Lies about sex

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Sex. Everyone knows everything about it.

But do they really?

There are, sadly, lots of lies and rumours about sex out there. And they’re not helping us. So we need to separate the truth from the lies right away. It’s important to know how our bodies and our minds work. So, here we go:

Lie #1
We can’t get pregnant if it’s our first time, if we’re on our period, or if we have sex in certain positions e.g. standing.

Truth #1
For pregnancy to occur, a sperm has to meet and fertilise an egg. It has nothing to do with the time or day we have sex, or the position in which we have sex. Even if we wash up, run around a room or urinate after sex, it won’t prevent pregnancy. As long as we don’t use protection, there’s a high chance of us getting pregnant.

Lie #2
Having sex with a virgin can cure a man of a Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI).

Truth #2
If you have an STI or suspect you have an STI, it’s best to go to the hospital for proper test and treatment . Having sex doesn’t cure anyone of any disease. People who say such ridiculous things are only out to cause trouble. The last thing we should do is pay them any attention

Lie #3
Girls who have sex and think about sex are ‘bad’ girls.

Truth #3
Being curious about sex and being sexually active are normal for all humans—girls, boys and everyone else. Remember, girls aren’t lesser humans than boys. Like them, we have questions and ideas about sex. It doesn’t mean we’re ‘bad’ girls. It just means we’re human beings. Nobody has the right to shame us for who we are.

Lie #4
If a guy likes a girl, she must have sex with him whether or not she wants to.

Truth #4
Our bodies belong to us alone. Our bodies aren’t some fancy gift to be given out once someone snaps their fingers. We don’t ‘owe’ anyone sex, no matter how crazy we are about them. We don’t need to sleep with someone to prove we love them. Having sex is a choice we can and should make by ourselves when we’re ready.

Lie #5: If you don’t want to have sex with a guy, he can force you to change your mind.
Truth #5
We see this all the time in books and movies. A girl refuses to date a guy she can’t stand, then he bugs her until she agrees. This creates the impression that in real life, when we say no, we really mean yes. But in fact, ‘no means no’ and ‘yes means yes’. No one should bully us into doing what we don’t want to do. If we don’t want to have sex with someone, let’s stand our ground. Even if we once said yes, we have the right to change our minds.

Note: Abstaining from sex is the surest way to avoid getting pregnant or an STI. Click here to learn more about safe sex

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Kofo

My boyfriend broke up with me and he was my first now I’m finding hard to love again and I just find a way to make every guy I talk too hate me ,I want to stop but it hard.

Sept. 9, 2022, 6:13 p.m.

Fineboy

Big sis, u ae right, nice one

Aug. 30, 2022, 11:01 a.m.

Michael

Yes

Aug. 9, 2022, 4:29 p.m.

Tjay

Hey big sis, how can I share my story? I need to talk to someone

July 2, 2022, 6:57 p.m.

markw285355

True talk✅❤️

May 12, 2022, 2:30 p.m.

Itz true

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100% truth is there big sis you ar right

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I love this. It's so true

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true n

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Big sis i do hear of a lady's free days after her period dah wen she sex a guy she wnt b pregnant;pls enlighten me more

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Snowy Its a really tuff question there....but i think 4days when u are tru with ur period u can have sex(so if u finished by 4th july u can by 8th) but dont try havin intercorse on 10th cos it might fertilize another egg by 14th or 15th july...*wink*

Hey Snowy! Thanks for the comment. The Free day that you want to know about is different for everyone. You first of all need to know how to calculate your period. If you do not understand your menstrual cycle, including your vaginal discharge, you will never be able to understand this. Finally, please note that if you must have sex, you should always use a condom. Pregnancy is not the only risk involved in having unprotected sex. You can also get an STD/STI or even HIV. We hope this helps

Hey ELNaabii22! This is not true. We advise that you only share facts that you are sure of to avoid misleading other Springsters. Thanks for understanding

Big sis am medical student n you n i would agree that menstral cycle sometimes goes out of hand......all I gave to Snowy was a simple suggestion n advice of which i gave her the implicatory part......so please I m not trying to misled her..........coz am the macaroni with the cheese

Hmmm All this talks and my date is forcing me to have sex with him

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Guyz are the ones forcing you girls always........IoIz

Big sis is it right for minors like us to have sex now because isn't it better when you are married that you can have sex

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It's not good for you to have premature sex coz you are vulrable(open) to some sex harzards if u engage in it... I meant health wise......PRECIOUS just pop champagne like you won a championship*stay safe*

I believe sex comes after marriage but the problems with the youth hit down on me cos we don't wanna wait for that we wanna feel it coming in that why ladies of 16 to 17 having sex and get pregnant day by day at their younger age I believe girls and boys needs to be advise on #JR.

Hey precious! Thanks for the comment. Sex is personal and you have to be mature enough to first of all understand your body, the male body and also know how to be responsible for the consequences that come with sex (both positive and negative consequences). If you believe you should wait, then wait. We hope this helps

Hey ELNaabii22 and JR! Thanks for the comment but your comments were judgey and that is not allowed here. You are allowed to air your opinion but do not judge anyone on this platform. We hope this helps

sex comes after marriage but the youth wanna feel it coming girls around 16 to 17 getting pregnant at their younger age its something else I believe what his killing most of us youth is that we wanna know more on #JR

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Am sorry but I can't do without having sex with my gf. coz.....I believe dating without sex is useless.....help me out

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Hey Douglasmuyiwa1! Thanks for the comment. The problem is that you got it wrong from the beginning because sex should NEVER be the reason why you should date someone. Sex is not love. You need to start by changing that mindset because when it comes to sex, you do not have to be in a relationship to get it and this means that the moment you get another offer, you breakup and move on. This means that you are first of all vulnerable and also exposing yourself to a lot a harm and STDs/STIs or even HIV. We hope this helps

don't say that again cause this attitude of yours is bad so you want to tell me that the reason you are dating a girl is to have sex?bros your don finish cause one day you go jam the one wey get AIDS better stop that attitude abeg e no good.

Big sis you just don't like my comments on here but i understand.........what I said to me doesn't look that judgey but the truth but you own the stage though n Elna'abii respect zat......

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Hey ELNaabii22! Thanks for the comment. How can you say that Big Sister does not like your comments here? That is not true in anyway because we reply your questions and comments where necessary. No one should be above caution and we did so because we have rules here that everyone MUST obey and if you are cautioned, it is because your comment went against the rule. If you notice, you were not the only one that we cautioned. To you, the comment was not judey but to us (based on our house rules), they were. Big sister hates no one and does not give preferential treatment to anyone so please, do not think that way. We hope you understand

Yeah i get it.....*house rules* i think it aint worth it anymore.......:.....................haste luego a todos

I Thank All Of U Here, U Plpe Make Me Feel Happy.... Keep On The Good Work

Can 10 years old girl get pregant

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Hey brown! Thanks for the comment. Yes, a 10 year old can get pregnant especially if she has started her period and is ovulating. Girls start their period as early as 9. We hope this helps

what an impact! Infact i just read what i would have loved 2 ask mum or my teacher over here nd seriously am nt just happy bt am dangerouslly happy

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Hey ifex! Thanks for the comment. You do not know how super duper happy your comment just made us. Thanks a lot for sharing this with us. Please feel free to share with your friends. We hope this helps

Thanks for your advice

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Wow!that nice

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Wow!that nice

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Awesome post

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I fell in love with my corsin before we know we were related the love we feel in us made us cant separet even when we were told the truth the wast thing in it is that we had sex together am ready to say let it stop but i promise her my love forever.i cant beleave i made love to my relative sometimes the memories of the we dad de sex keep me erotic abaut her and her screems and de way she was briting.am comfuse

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THAT LIFE FOR U

Krisly,how did u feel after having sex with the girl

You aint know what you're saying.

sorry about that you just have to break up,and forget your past.but it your choice if want to tell a trusted adult.

Hey Krisly! Thanks for the comment. We understand how you feel and we suggest that you talk to a trusted adult. There is an organization called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.

Krisly want god has planned has happened it was never you guys fault,so just break up and continue after all she is your cousin sister and am very sorry for the pain it's causing you both.thanks take care.

Big sis,is it true dat if u ar a 20 years an stil virgin u have faebrod??

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Dat is a bloody lie I've ever heard in life, let me tell you a little fact that you don't know, is that people will always find a way and excuses/rumors to lure you into doing what is bad or to start to behave like them, if you like believe me or not. The worst fact is dat if ur colleagues sees that you are still a virgin and they are not they will never be happy because you have a distinction difference. You can never ever have a fibroid because you are a virgin more so it was not proved scientifically, so it's not possible 4 you to have a fibroid and I will admonish you to distance yourself from those people telling you such a thing. (Your Virginity is your pride, so make sure you protect it by all means) am a boy speaking here

Hahahaha. Dont fall for that

Buddy_02,an experienced one right. i like your reply.

Kenny wats so funny????

Buddy- 02 thanks alot for your advise, i think am moving on wit bad friends......

Hey Deblast! Thanks for the comment. This is not true in any way. Fibroid has nothing to do with being a virgin or not. @Buddy_02 has said it all. We hope this helps

Buddy0-2 am proud of you for giving my friend this helpful advice, I was mistaken along I taught all boys are the same but they are not the same and they would never be the same bravo.

hey jbaby005- infact that was impressing i didnt know a guy could say such thing, he is really a good guy.

@Deblast as a determined person in life I think that is the first step to take,am happy for you

@jbaby005,@bessy‚@Deblast,@Bigsister Thanks for all the comments...you are all welcome

@Kenny pls I will be happy if can you boldly explain what you meant by “dont fall for that” in a way we could understand

Really thanks i thought u will get pregnant your first time

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Is sex 4 enjoyment?

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Yes and for recreational purpose

I mean procreation purpose not recreational

NO its not

please why no,through my own view male:enjoyment female:pain both: reproduction if married.

There was a girl she like sleeping with pillow to control her emotion

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everybody likes sleeping with pillow I don't understand what you mean by to control her emotions.

Can Pillow Holp

YES AND NO

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am feeling bored

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How can i help?

I love sex.but still a virgin

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how old are you

Everybody loves sex. I dont see who loves it more than me

hunhun ,you are very funny,kenny can i say you are a sex addict

it depends on you ooooooo if you want to if you think you are ready then go on.

Biebera if you want to keep you virginity then you can masturbate if you want .

Hey Biebera! You cannot like sex and be a virgin at the same time. Maybe you like the idea of sex. We hope this helps

Biebra don't mind jbaby, masturbation has health effects

Biebera don't mind jbaby, masturbation has health effects

i dont advise you to mastrubate it has both emotional and health effect......and take note its not normal to masturbate you just have to control you urge and pray

masturbation has after effects like premature ejaculation weak erection and may probably lead to impotency (for boys) for girls ur vagina might not be tight later on or prolonged orgasm

Am Feeling bored

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Am Speechless

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Abt wat cephas, can we be frnds.

Please emphasize on virginity... what z virginity in detail.... how can we no tru our vagina, or our body

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tru the vagina

Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Virginity is a whole different ball game entirely. What exactly do you want to know about virginity so that we can answer those questions directly and clear the air. We hope this helps

I got sex when I was 16, and I feel like having more sex and sometimes I mastubate, I need help

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but why did u not get pregnant then

but why were u not pregnant then

08038,you have to make up your mind that you dont want to masturbate anymore.

08038 for me it's not bad to masturbate especially when you are going through purberty but it's bad when done excessive and you said you had sex when 16 and you feel like having sex that why you masturbate that's absolutely normal also cause we teen we are trying to discover our body and at times we kind of feel sexually aroused and we start to masturbate you see it's normal but if you want to stop masturbating that's your choice thank you.

Hey 08038! Thanks for the comment. Getting over addiction is up to you to make. You need to first of all make up your mind that you want to get over this addiction. If you don't make up your mind that you want to get over this, it will be impossible for you to get over it. There is an organization called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.

you need to pray and control yourself masturbation is not the way out

please big sis i want to tell you something can i go ahead

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please big sis i want to tell you something can i go ahead

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Hey Springster! Sure, you can

The truth is always the truth👐👍

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Pls am new here. Big sis pls i need ur advice,i have a bf,he has been sleeping with me with condom and i don't no what to tell him because i don't want get pregnant

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Hey Silverbabe! Thanks for the comment. From your comment, it seems like you have been having sex with your boyfriend not because it is what you want to but because he asked you for it. Please note that as long as you are having sex, there is every chance that you can get pregnant. The safest way to avoid pregnancy is to abstain from sex. So you need to tell him that you do not want to get pregnant but before you do, you need to know what YOU want to do because if you throw it open to him, he will choose something that will favor him. We hope this helps

Thanks big sis

Hello big sis, I have a bf and he loves me so much and I also did.... Have always been virgin and its has been my pride... So, I had sex with him recently buh I didn't know we had sex that day... I felt no serious pain, I didn't see any blood buh felt it not deep though buh half.. He said I wasn't a virgin anymore.. Buh you know what, Right now I feel my future won't be bright again or it ll strike back at me maybe I won't marry because been a virgin still marriage is pride am now ashamed coz I broke my vow of being a virgin.. Though, now he's helping me to control the urge of sex because he just deflowered me and doesn't want me to sex another guy, he now loves me more and afraid he will loose me because am giving him attitude... What will I do??

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Hey Panda! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you made the decision to have sex and so you do not have to blame yourself for losing your virginity. It was a choice you made and it does not make you less of a person neither does it make you lose your worth. Secondly, sex doesn't make someone love you more. You need to know that sex is not love and it cannot be used to quantify love. Someone can only love you because they really and actually do love you and this should have nothing to do with love. He doesn't want you to have sex with another guy for his own reasons. This has nothing to do with controlling your urge. You are the only one that can control your urge for sex by controlling your thoughts and also your feelings. No one can help you do this. We hope this helps

Yea big sister You are right it

Yea dat right

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Big Sis, when am sex it pain me pls what should i do?

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Hey Bliss! Thanks for the comment.Sex is not meant to be painful so it is obvious that you and your partner are doing something wrong. You both need to communicate to each other and know what it is that is causing the pain. Please talk to a trusted adult for guidance. We hope this helps

Big sis a guy said that if I had sex for the first time that I won't get pregnant is it true

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Sia that a lie cause a far as you have started menstruating and you have an unprotected sex with a guy that is able to impregnate a girl for the first time you will surely become pregnant cause his semen has fertilized the egg.

Hey Sia! Thanks for the comment. @jbaby005 is correct and this was the first thing we mentioned in this article. Please note that YOU CAN GET PREGNANT IF YOU HAVE SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME. Do not let anyone deceive you. The guy is obviously looking for who to deceive into having sex with. We hope this helps

Thanks big sis and jbaby005

My bf specied my drink and took advantage of me and now he is threatening me that if i should tell anyone about what happened,he will send my dad pictures of us sleeping together.pls i need advice on what to do

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Girl am very sorry he used you,you need to tell you dad or mum or even a trusted adult that can tell them for you because what happened was not your fault I advice to tell your parents if not he will continue to threaten you please tell your parents everything that happened because if he sends your parents those pictures they won't believe you so take action first and tell your parents they would understand you and please gentle but this relationship to a stop cause you are not might to guys like this,immediately you see this comment please tell somebody before he would show the pictures to your dad and remember this "nothing is hidden under the sun" I wish you good luck as you tell your dad.

Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about what you went through and we totally understand how hard it must be for you to get over this tight now. We advise that you talk to a trusted adult first so that the threats can no longer be valid. He raped you and you should never be blamed for it but you need to speak up because if you don't, he will keep taking advantage of your silence. You also need to see a doctor for check up just for safety reasons. There is a Child Advocacy Center where they help and give professional advice to young people in situations like this on what they can do to be safe. You can call them on 08 00 80 080 01. This service is completely confidential - which means they won't share what you say to them with other people. It is free which means you don’t not need to have credit before you call them. We hope this helps

hello springster am a guy my body easily move whenever i hear that some people are discussing about sex or whenever i huge girls and i usually want control myself but still thesame.

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Hey Tepsy! Thanks for the comment. What do you mean by your body moves? We will like to know what that means to help us answer your question better. You need to know that self control is a personal decision and you need to make up your mind to control yourself when you hear or see certain things. There is no rule book or guideline to this. Like the name is called, "self-control" is all about how much you know yourself and how much work you are willing to put into stopping certain things. We hope this helps

big sis can u pls tal me what wrong with me am a singl an i can't take three dayz with out havin sex

Hello BIG SIS, i always have bad feelings about girls, please what should i do?

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Hey Olawale! Thanks for the comment. You need to change your mindset. This has to do with you and not with the girls. We hope this helps

I girls am new here

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Welcome chp.

Pls big sis I hv been masturbating and I feel like stoping it but I can't bcus some pple said is a sin and I want to kip my virginity pls help me

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Hey chp! Thanks for the comment. Masturbation starts from the mind because you think about it before you do it. If you really want to stop masturbating, you need to make up your mind that you want to stop and then do things that will distract you and keep your mind occupied. You can learn a new skill, gist with friends, finish up that chore etc. Just do something that will not let you think about masturbating. We hope this helps.

Big sis wht if u hv d urch bt u dnt wish to hv sex na

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Hey Caress! Thanks for the comment. This is a decision for you to make. If you do not want to have sex, you can make up your mind not to do it since you do not want to. We hope this helps

Jbaby005 you seems to be kind can we be freinds please

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hi Ahmed,we can be friends.

Hi jbaby005 can we be frnds.

friendliness 😃😃😄😄

can a girl get pregnant even if she has not seen her period

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hi ginna she can't until she starts her period.

Noooo

Yes

Yes if she is ovulating, she can get pregnant widout seeing her period.

Hey gina! Thanks for the comment. @Bayley is very correct. You do not have to start your period to get pregnant. What makes pregnancy occur is ovulation and not menstruation. We hope this helps

Lyk yhu say it true oooh

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plz big sis is it a bad thing to ask a friend like (girlfriend) a time she use to see her period I wnt to know

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For me it depends cause some girls don't like guys asking them if they have seen their period so for me it is not bad.hi.

Hey Springster! This is a personal decision. Some people see their periods as secret and personal while some others don't have a problem sharing this information with others. You can ask her if she is okay with this before you start asking for details. We hope this helps

my ex tried to rape me and failed but since then i dont feel safe around boys anymore i just cant help it pls help me

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Hey abigael1! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about what you went through and we want you to know that it is not your fault. We understand that you are afraid and feel unsafe around boys but please note that not all boys will have the same bad intentions. We advise that you talk to a trusted adult about what your ex did as this can make you feel safe. There is a Child Advocacy Center where they help and give professional advice to young people in situations like this on what they can do to be safe. You can call them on 08 00 80 080 01. This service is completely confidential - which means they won't share what you say to them with other people. It is free which means you don’t not need to have credit before you call them. We hope this helps

Hi Abigael1 am very sorry for what he tried doing to u.

hi Abigail, don't allow that incident to be ur excuse to blacklist boys; you'll surely find one that may not fancy sex

I really want to stay a virgin til my wedding night..lol..so help me

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I really want to stay a virgin til my wedding night..lol..so help me God

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that my decision too. I want wait for the right man. sometimes I do think I still have a long way to go. but I will surely wait

keep it up. virginity is not dignity but lack of opportunity 😃😃 lemme close my mouth 🤐🤐🤐

But my virginity is my pride .and what do you mean by lack of opportunity

Why is it that most people feel like having sex and some can even do without it for a day ?Is it that they are harlot or what plz help

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It's there hormone

sometimes ,it bcoz they are already addicted to it. a virgin won't feel like bcoz she had not experienced it b4

Same here too i want to wait till my wedding night for the right man lolzzz😄😄😄

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yeah,sweetie

Am new here am i welcomed???

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of course u are

U welcome

U're highly welcome

Big sis pls help,am a virgin nd anytime a guy want to ask me out i always turn down there request, cos am always shy that if we are in a relationship nd they ask for sex,i dnt knw wat to do.........

there is a boy in my camp he do look at me what should i do

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Go to him n ask him ....y is he looking at u

I don't know hw to date a girl. What should i do?

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Go to hell

Boyz are so wise ...so gals be careful

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hunnn, we know that already and they are not wise they are cunny and they got tricks een , and only foolish girls fall into their trap. cause a wise person wont hurt people,and besides are you a guy or a gal

Boys aren't wise they have an empty brain

hahahaha

Hi Boy.kk,before u date a girl,make sure u are emotional, physical responsible and matured enough to date a girl before u jump into any relationship. Hope this helps,Thank you God bless.

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Are guys welcome here cuz am just seeing its a girl's thing

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Yes guys are welcome

yea ,guys too are welcome, just tell big sis about any thing and remember we re one.

Am new here

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Yes they are welcome

Hi holy mouth am also new kindo here.

Welcome.

This are the true facts...am so happy in seeing someone stand up to changing the wrongs to rights about sex

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Hello Daphne

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Hi,Im New Here.I Have A BoyFrnd I Really Luv But He Wants Me To av Sex With Him If I Truly Luv Him. Im A Virgin Nd I Want To Wait Till My Wedding Night Before Having Sex But I Dont Want To Lose Him Too.Need Help Pls.

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Presh no f**cking bitch that loves someone will ask for sex,cause having pre marital sex is wrong in the eyes of God and man,so I advice u to let him go,cause u body is the temple of the holy ghost and beside u aren't a sex machine dear,so let go if not ur life's gonna get ruined

Tell him if he loves u then he shouldn't ask, he shld learn to respect ur decision.

It is possible for one to love you without having sex with you, most boys are after sex while few are after real love.

Hello Presh,you're highly welcome to this platform. As for the issue of your boyfriend, politely tell him No that you cant have sex with him since you want to be a virgin and stand on what you say,explain to him that you are still a virgin and you want to remain a virgin until you're married. Please girl,don't use because of pity because sex is not love. The decision is now let for you to make.Hope it helps you.

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hi who told u that sex is not love!?

sex is love

oh ,i hate those words ,they make me get mad,SEX IS NOT LOVE.wait are you a boy or a girl.

Am new here...

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u are so welcome to the group.

Welcome to springsters.

Hello good morning am new here

Hi am new here

hi am new here

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Hello

hi am new here

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welcome deary

hey am new here

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Hi...welcome...have fun....

hi, welcome

welcome

HI AM NEW HERE

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welcome👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

Welcome, feel at home sis or (bro).

U are welcome snazzy

hello I new here

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hiiiii

u are welcome kenedo.

Ur highly welcome, hope ur enjoying the site like I do

Hello every one in the house Just let you know that am just coming oo

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i need a girl who can make fil sexy

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Hi Abdul, Having sex with a person don't prove you love that person in any way. You don't have to sleep with somebody to prove that you love him or her. You don't owe anybody sex. As a matter of fact is just a choice to make or decide whether you want to have sex or not, is not by force. Thanks.

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Hello big sister if I have sex to times and don't have again for some years can I be a vagina again

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My bestie told me she has a friend-I could say an online boyfriend- they've been chatting for almost two months. They guy concede he's love for her and they wanted to date but could not because of distance. Now the guy is pressuring her for sex when theyll meet and insists if they don't they're gonna break up. They worst part of it is that she's deeply in love with him. Please big sis give me an encouraging words for her☺

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it's better she break up with him

can we have sex at the age of 18

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dats your decision to make

no sex no love

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whose rule is that ,take your mind off it mennn,it is very possible,if you love ,you can do without sex.

SAYS WHO??????!!! it's this kind of comment that makes girls have sex thinking it will make their boy friend love them

Can i have a partner here?

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Yes

Hi frnds sex is not a priority

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Yea kismet

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I dnt wana have sex until am married. does that mean am stupid?? n wht shud i tell my boyfriend if he ask 4 it? coz i dnt want to tell him am a virgin

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no,no,no,you are not stupid infact you are aiming at the best thing a woman could use to support her marraige life,keep it up ,tbat my aim too.for your boyfriend i guess you dont tell you are a virgin coz my mum do tell me men are greedy you know what that means,he should respect your feeling and decision if he truly love you.if you tell him he might try to rape you .tell him you dont want to have sex for now ,then he doesnt agree then let go of him. but be careful ooo

Hi Hesterification, You are not stupid at all, in fact you are the opposite of stupid because you know your mind and you are not letting someone else tell you what to do. If your boyfriend asks for sex, tell him that you do not want to have sex and the relationship is for both of you and not just him. If you don't want to do something, he should not make you do it. The same way you should not make him do anything he does not want to do. If he disagrees or continues to disturb you for sex then you may need to discuss breaking up with him because it is a sign that he does not respect you. We hope this helps.

Can I get my partner here

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What kind of partner?

U r m or f

A friend of mine told me that a guy told her that having sex makes menstruation less painful I had to slap some sense into her

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yea ,i think is been fooled,thanks for the slap.

For me I don't know 😞 because I don't know who I am getting married to but the best thing is to not have sex before marriage 💑

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Hello kenethyaA6 nice to meet you r u new in this site

I AM NEW

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same here and I have questions to ask BT don't know were and how

ask me ur question

Wow i learn a new thing today

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Pls I have a frnd who was dating two guys n dey both stay on de same street she luved one n didn't luv de other one de guy she didn't luv broke her virginity she did all dis cos she needed money n she told de guy dat she luv dat her aunt forced her 2 have sex. But she's always crying n saying dat her conscience is blaming n I dunt know how 2 help her out in dis situation. Should I tell her 2 tell de guy de truth or she should 4get abt it dat is she should just cover up?

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I am new here pls

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Welcome Eunice.

u are welcome to springsters @eunicebabe.

Pls my name is Victoria am 20 yrs older the guy am dating is 23 and his name is Toheeb he is a Muslim am a Christian I love him so much he usually call me his one and only and he ask me wat can he do to prove his love but the main thing is dat I don't know if he really loves me

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Hey Victoria! Thanks for the comment. We cannot tell you if a guy loves you or not. You need to know what love really means and also know what you want from a relationship. Most importantly, you need to know that relationships are not just about getting loved. Do you love Toheeb and does he for any reason doubt your love for him? We have written an article on this. Please search for "Does he like me?" and read it. It will be of great help to you. We hope this helps

Hello friends am new here

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u are welcome @fazzy.

hello

Their is this girl I hv been dating, she has been so nice to me, she love's me nd I love her too, she said if i love her so much I shud break her virginity but I rejected it nd I told her I can't, now she decided that we shud engage ourselves into a blood covenant, and telling her no will seems as if I don't love her. Pls what shud I do??

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Helo. Fazzy! Welcome to springsters. Now since u are nt ready to ave sex with ur 'gf' you shld nt allow her to pressurize u into it with the popular slogan "if you love me you will do it", don't fall for that. Don't go into a blood covenant with her because if you do that u stand a chance of getting an infection from her and am sure u don't want an infection, you don't even know why she is keen on both stuff. Be safe. hope this helps. 0Deb in

Hi fazzy, nice to meet u. I'll like to say u should tell her u love her BUT u can't have sex with her or go into a blood covenant with her, make sure u explain in detail and tell her exactly how u feel. If she still doesn't listen then tell her she's emotionally blank mailing u to do what she wants

hello @Fazzy,since this ur girlfriend is just disturbing u on having sex with her and having a blood convert with her, firstly ask her these questions 1) if I have sex with u,does that mean I love u? 2)can the blood convert tell u how much I love u? 3)what in the process of u and I having sexual intercourse and u become pregnant what will I do. 4)am not yet ready for all these u are asking me to do or do u want me to do this things to please u? 5)what do u even think is the true definition of what love is.

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Helo. Keturah, how are u doing.

I'm fine and you?

Am kul

Hi can I chat privately with someone or do I have to chat through comments? Please reply anyone with the right info or Big Sister please help out!

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Hi, you can only chat with someone through the comment box, you can't chat privately.

Thank you Bayley.. Does anyone know how to make money through blogging because I've heard that without paying for your blog you won't make much money and I also want to start a YouTube channel help pls... hi bayley

oh what you doing and are you a girl or a boy. I'm a girl

Sorry, i didn't see this on time, am a girl. Any gist for me.

That was true....

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is a lesbian who does not bleed still a virgin hymen intact

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is a lesbian who does not bleed still a virgin hymen intact

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is true dat love is nt all about sex

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Some guys will even ask ,are u a Virgin

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Some boys will tell u your not a woman untill you have had sex

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hello am new here,I av a question dat has been bothering me.am a triplet my two sisters re no longer virgins,am de only one who's still a virgin,dey now keep tins from me, we no longer talk like old times and I feel left out.wat should I do

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hello u are welcome to springsters my dear friend.

Pls don't listen to them do what u think is right or else you'll regret it

Ur virginity is what ur husband will enjoy on d night of Ur wedding, and u will be proud of yourself for being a virgin ,so I will advice u not to be like anybody just be Ur self .

Sex has a spirit in it that's yet to be discover. Do not venture, for if you do, you will rue about it. I forgot you didn't tell your years. But I advice you should be atleast 18or+; at that age you know your likes and dislikes. We hope this help

Ello big sis.... M new here I've bin having dis question churnin.... Ah had sex three days afta my period..... In d same week.... Is it true dhat ah could get pregnant?..... Pls ah rilly nid an answer

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Hey Bee! Thanks for the comment. Having unprotected sex can mean that you are pregnant. We advise that you go for a proper pregnancy test and also talk to a trusted adult. There is an organization called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.

Thank you

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Hi I'm new here

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Hi am new here

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I think it is the thurth

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F*** you nigga

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Thanks

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Kinda think that's true💁

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I agree with this words, nobody is perfect and nobody is forcing anyone for sex because if a guy should force his girlfriend to have sex with him when he knows fully that the girl don't want it, is called rape ... but the truth is that if a girl want sex by all means and the boy don't want sex at all this girl will go out to have sex and she will be satisfied with it not knowing that is not done that way , the same with men .

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Yeah it's not a must to have sex or is it?:-|

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Hey Goody7! No, it's not a must to have sex. It is a personal decision that you have to make and if you are not ready for it, no one has the right to force you into it. We hope this helps

i agree

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Yh it true d atm of humans 4 sex abteinance till marriage

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True talk, everyone needs to know this

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Hey Springster! This article was written because of you and we are glad you love it. Feel free to share it with your friends

Tanks big sis i wished evry1 knew dat love's nt sex

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Hey Ozana! Thanks for the comment. Feel free to share this article with your friends so that many more people can know about it. We hope this helps

Thanks for this article. It helped. A lot. I hope more people can get the truth about sex in articles like this.

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Hey TheIyinoluwarh! Thanks for the comment. Feel free to share this article with your friends so that many more people can know about it. We hope this helps

Can we live without sex

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Hey Pizzysmart! Thanks for your comment. your question is not well understood.( it depends do you mean in marriage or in a relationship)?

Thanks

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Hi

Is it safe to tell a boy that i am a virgin?

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Hmm now a day no trust guy anymore but no matter how their are trust people among of them if you say it its not bad but let it be your lovely guy

Okay,thanks 4 dat....

But sometimes I think sex is part of love.

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Sex is not love its just part of it and it not good to do it before marry because you cant say that its that person you will marry with

Wao,its true talk but everyone must be take care of her body because most of guy are not gud reason be this when he have sex with you surely you will not value in his face anymore he will look you as dog sex if not love its just part of love

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the good part about sex is dat we should be ready for sex

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please ladies don't allow yourself to anyone until you become his wife.

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👍 very right!

Hi am new here , am i welcome ?How can one have sex while standing? it's impposible.

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it's possible @Datan welcome,you are welcome here.

Hi am new here pls I would like to share my story with you I have a boyfriend and I was disvirgined by him and after that we had sex twice again nd ever since then I feel can of attached to him, I want to end the relationship but I just can't pls wat should I do I really need ur advice

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Hi big sister What does postinor 2 do My boyfriend gave me one after sex And I don't know what it work for I couldn't ask him I took it and left

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Postinor is a birth control pill. Taking drugs should be based on the doctor's prescription and not based on what your boyfriend gives to you. Also, there is a prescription on how this is meant to be used and not just something random. You need to talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor. Taking this pill means that you had unprotected sex. Postinor may prevent pregnancy from occurring but this is not 100% effective. There are high chances of you getting infected with an STD, STI or even HIV. There is an organization called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including sex and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.

Hi big sister What does postinor 2 do My boyfriend gave me one after sex And I don't know what it work for I couldn't ask him I took it and left

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I heard Postinor 2 is used to abort pregnancy or to prevent it but am not sure. Pls do not take it. If he is not responsible enough to father a child then you shouldn't have sex with him

Does anal sex cause pregnancy

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Hope u don't mind me asking...is it possible to have sex for d first time without it paining u...cus d first time I tried it I almost died..

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Dats the problem,u shouldn't do it wen u r nad prepared to

Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. It is different for everyone. Remember we are all different? So while you may experience pain the first time you have intercourse, another person may not. It is not something to be worried about though. We hope this helps

It must be painfull.

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Girls are easily deceived by made words, we shouldn't just fall for made words against destruction

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Re u sure

Big sis i need advice on crush were du get it

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I've never slept with a guy before and I also feel like knowing how it feels. Pls I also don't wanna get defiled till I get married What do I do to get my mind of such??

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diamond ,I ve some piece of advice for you, if you really want to know how

diamond ,I ve some piece of advice for you, if you really want to know how it feels, I guess till your wedding night. we are still young to know how sex feels.

if you don't want is OK "

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Hey felas! Am new here

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Hey welcome

I'm new here

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Your welcome

Hey all, I don't know if this is relevant to this post but I need help. There is this man who is about 35 years old that keeps pestering me for a relationship. I recently turned 18 but I am not interested in boys or sex and this particular man is becoming a torn in my flesh. He lives beside my house and I really can't avoid seeing him. I want to tell him to stop pestering me but I don't want to be disrespectful. What should I do?

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You have to be bold and tell him straight up that you're not interested, maybe something like "with all due respect sir, I'm not interested in having anything to do with you and I need you to stop pestering me or else I'll report you" You should find an older person that you can trust and share this with to help you out.✌🏾

Hey big sister, I am a virgin and that's probably because I schooled in a same-sex school through out my secondary school education but my heart races whenever I see handsome boys. I feel so afraid walking pass a group of boys and I think this is bad for me as I will be leaving for the university very soon. How can I be brave before boys and stop misbehaving so that I will not be deceived in the university?

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