Should you keep your period a secret?

It’s not something to be ashamed of

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Getting your period for the first time is a big deal! You’ll most likely experience different emotions all at once – scared, excited, confused, embarrassed and, of course, you’ll have lots of questions.

Don’t bottle up all those emotions and concerns because you’re afraid of what others will say. Remember, every girl is going to get her period. It’s a totally normal part of puberty.

The key to coping with your period in the best way is to talk about it!

How to tell your friends
If your group of friends does not openly discuss what it means to get your period and all that goes with it, then it’s time to step up. If you hang out with boys and girls, try to create a time when you have just the girls around and gently bring up the subject.
Start by saying something like, “I got my period this month, it’s pretty exciting! Has anyone else got theirs?”
Your honesty will most likely encourage your friends to open up. You may be surprised that you’re not the first one in your group to start your period. The great thing about being open with each other is that you’ll be able to help each other with advice and answering questions.

How to tell your family
It’s important to let those close to you know what’s happening with you. This will give them the opportunity to support and help you. Find a quiet time at home to tell them, it might be your mum, dad or guardian. Explain how you feel – scared, excited, nervous – and ask them if they have any advice for you.
This will make them want to help. It will also make them realize that you’re growing up and becoming an adult.

Remember, periods are a normal part of life and all girls will get their period eventually. Don’t try to go through it on your own. By talking about it, you’ll create a support system for yourself.

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Damilola

Love this

May 21, 2022, 12:53 p.m.

Superb!!!!!

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Yeah

Wonderful

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its good to ur family mamber most expecily ur monther

March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.

well!! the first time I saw my period I was so scared and when my mommy came back home I told her about it and she asked me to go and buy pad and she also explained everything to me..

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The first time i saw mine i told my sister

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i was scared, so i did'nt tell anyone

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Hello everyone.

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Hey bayley watzup.

Hi bayley,am back

7Hi goody7 sup gurl, where ave u been.

Hi gurlz.

Pls I need ur advice my period do come middle of the month at times last week of the month and some time I feel pain in my stomach anytime I eat food

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Please I really need help.. My period cycle isn't stable and I don't know what to do about it

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Do not worry about it, it is normal

Don't panic, it's normal ,u jst need 2 observe d changed tym so u won't be taken unaware

Is it normal when you have stomach pain while seeing your period

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Yes You are normal Is called menstrual cramps

Hey wite! Thanks for the comment. Yes, it is possible. Some people experience pain when they are on their period. Every girl has different signs and symptoms when she gets her period. For some, it may just be slight discomfort while others may feel extreme pain and like you, may vomit, stool and still have cramps. All of this depends on the individual. But please, talk to a trusted adult and also see a doctor. We hope this helps.

It's totally normal.

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I need your advice, a 20 yrs girl did not see her period since January and now , but she is not pregnant : what is cause?

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I think she should see her health care provider, it should be an infection , since she's not pregnant

Keeping your period secret is a big No from your mother, and a big yes from your peers

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I have a friend, when she was in her period she told all her friend about it, is she wise

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My friends knew first coz we were in a camp wen I had it for the first time b4 my parents

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My was funny because when I saw it I was scared and didn't tell anyone till the fourth day. I summoned courage and told my sister who shouted joyfully but because I was scared u never saw the joy on her face but all I heard was her shout. She went and told my mom and I was like "am gone for good." My mom's advised me that if any guy should come close to me I would be pregnant but never knew she told me so just to stop me from following guys because back then I had no female friends.

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At first I was scared ooo I told my mum I had injured She laffed nd told me not to worry she educated me on how to use pad nd if any guy should touch me I will get pregnant

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U are right also and dat is hw i was also told by my mom and sis but if u have sex wit a guy u will be pregnant but alway calm ur self

I was so scared i thought i injury but my mom and big sis explained abt it

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Hi everybody

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Hlo... Am new here!... Have loved the way you guys are doing.. And am interested in all this..cos I also need them at this stage..

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Hey Beyl! Thanks for the comment. We are glad to have you here. Please feel free to share with big sister and also comment on the stories.

Big sis I don't have a mother whom I can share my period talk with and my friends are not interested in it what should I do?

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There is no how..U will see someone that u know u can tell...though it's not everybody that will like to hear...buh there are some good listener..good friends that u can share it with that they will help..And if u av not found yet ..calm down ..or better still.. share with us ..we can also help

Am here for you mhiz angel We can share our taught together

I am here for u angel

hello ,angel but I'm sure you live somewhere with some people,find someone you can trust then the person know ,it not good like that and sorry for the loss of your mom. It a pity you loose your mom at early stage .

Hey Angel! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry for your loss, We advise that you speak to a trusted adult about it. We hope this helps.

Can u tell your boyfriend about your period??

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At what age did you got a boy friend and at what age did see 👀 your period because it's too early for you to have boy friend talk of telling him.

hi,am new.In my opinion i think it wrong.

yes , having a boy friend is the last thing on my mind for now.it just add more trouble to the existing one .I see it as way of hindering a bright destiny.If you are in a relationship at this early stage (secondary schools)I think you put a stop to it.

#stronggirl I love ur comm., going into a relationship at young age is wrong

For me the first time I saw my period I didn't tell anyone because I was afried of my mom and I didn't have friend to tell what is happening to me but when my mom eventually know she beated me and said I that a boy have dis-virgine me if not why didn't I tell her about it.

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Lol that sound funny Don't you have friend I can be one because am lonely too

since u no u ar still a vigin, why dont u tell her

Ah think its wrong to keep it a secret, at least someone might be of help 😎

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Hey Becky50! Thanks for the comment.

but cant tell a male it makes me feel uncomfortable

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Hey Tolu! Thanks for the comment.

I think its normal to be uncomfortable saying it to a boy

may be

Pls i did't see my period over 4 month what can i do

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Stay put as long as u did not let any man use u

Oh when i got my first period i was 12 an in a hotel with my entire family for christmas and i just went to the bathroom and i saw it , i was stained. I was confused should i tell my mum or not i mean she might think i lost my virginity , she might over react excitedly or start lecturing on how a woman can get pregnant so i puckered up and told her but she didn't do any of those but she have of a long lecture on u know what.

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hi girl,can we be friends?👩‍❤️‍👩

big sis, if I may ask, at what age does it nomal for a girl to start hving sex?

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big sis, if I may ask, at what age does it nomal for a girl to start hving sex?

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I'm a newbie can u be my frd

Hi girl,can we be friends

I always feel bad each time I see my period. but I don't know may be is because of the pain.nd I want to ask is it possible for someone to see her period in the same month ,the person saw it before . 2 to 29 of April

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Hi i'm new here.I had my first period when i was 14.Before i had it,u knw the whitish stains dat appears some days before u get ur period.Mine appeared and the day before my first period,instead of the usual whitish stains it was brownish but it was not blood.And two days after my period the same brownish stains appears and dis time even thicker and i dont knw whats wrong.What should i do.

March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.

Hi i'm new here.I had my first period when i was 14.Before i had it,u knw the whitish stains dat appears some days before u get ur period.Mine appeared and the day before my first period,instead of the usual whitish stains it was brownish but it was not blood.And two days after my period the same brownish stains appears and dis time even thicker and i dont knw whats wrong.What should i do.

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My mum

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Hello am new here i started my period when i was 13

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I get irritated when i see my period i dnt know y

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Me too

It was my granny i talk 2wen i got my period nd she was encouraging

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Hi am new here am I welcome.

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Hello...Kate...I'm also new here

Am also new,can we be friends?

nice one

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I always feel uncomfortable whenever am on my Period,i don't really know why,i'm always sitting down all day in school and also change my seat to the back

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Its normal my dear. Just make sure you have an extra sanitary towel.

I also feel the same way but I always check every time to make sure I am not stained

Me too ashbaby

it's normal dear

I tell my guy but i feel uncomfortable

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