Even if you don’t like him like that you can still be friends
Can you just be friends with a boy?
This can be a difficult question to answer.
The truth is with puberty comes changes with your body, your mind and your relationships with boys.
This could be a crush on a special boy or a change in the relationships with boys you’ve grown up with or just someone you enjoy talking and spending time with
When you’re spending a lot of time together those teen hormones can make things confusing. If you’re attracted to each other it’s easy for it to develop into something more. But what if you don’t want anything romantic with him at all and he does? Things can get very awkward!
Here are some ways you can build a safe friendship with a boy and stay just friends
Set boundaries
Be clear that you only want to be friends. Set limits. For example, no hugging or touching.You decide what you are comfortable with and stick to it. Make sure he understands this relationship is not ‘on the way’ to something else.
Hang Out in Groups
Include your other friends in outings. Make sure everyone pays their own way. This makes it clear that he is just one of your group of friends.
Be a good friend (and make sure he is too)
Be supportive and loyal. Always be kind and honest. Listen and try to help him with his problems when you can. Take an interest in the things that he likes. Don’t expect him to do you favours. Make sure he does exactly the same for you.
Don’t keep the relationship a secret
People may not understand that your relationship with a boy is nothing more than what it is; a platonic friendship. Because of this, you may be tempted to keep it a secret, don’t. Tell your family about him, introduce him to your other friends, being open about your friendship tells him and others you have nothing to hide and ensures the relationship is always kept in check.
If there is a boy who keeps disturbing you and won’t take no for an answer, or makes you scared and uncomfortable every time he is around you we advise you to stop seeing that boy and report him to a trusted adult immediately.
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dere is a guy dat asked me out,though i dnt luv him bt i answered him,also i av a guy dat i luv and he also luv me.am trapped at d middle of 2 guys,plz wat can i do?
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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choose the one you love and who loves you back.
Hey Celyn! Thanks for the comment. You shouldn't be in a relationship with someone you don't love because you are hurting the person more by deceiving him. You have the final say for what you want. However, please talk to a trusted adult around you for guidance. We hope this helps.
Hw do i do dat,wen d guy i accepted as my bf tinks i luv him d way he does.and d 1 i luv didnt ask me out
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
then u choose d one u like nd but b frends with d other
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
u tell it to him straight to rememba dat it only frnds nd notin more
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Great
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Hello evening,am new Here pls i need help.Am 17 and am in ss3 there is a guy i love very much in sch,i was thinking if it is wrong to date in high sch?
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Sweety2000! Welcome to GEM Nigeria. Dating all depends on your readiness because being in a relationship comes with a lot of responsibility and if you are not ready for the responsibility, do not attempt to go into a relationship. Also, do not enter a relationship because everyone is know one. We hope this helps.
Please this is a serious case, there is this guy in my school his in js3 while am in ss2 and he has been disturbing me for friendship and he keep on request for the past two months till now and i guy whom i have ever loved ask me out and i accepted. But this Same guy in js3 asked me if i had a date i said no after i had accepted the other one. Am i doing the right thing or to open up. Because the brothers of the guy av come pleading on his behave to accept for him.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Peacefulbaby! It is best you open up and tell him the truth because when both parties eventually find out that you lied to them, you may not like the way things will turn out. We hope this helps.
I av already start datin d guy i said i dnt luv,d one i luv is also disturbin me.wat can i do,am stuck
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Alvira! Thanks for the comment. Again, you should never pretend or deceive anyone by telling them you love them when I'm actual fact, you don't. You are in the best position to make a decision. Take your time and think about it thoroughly. Also, be very sure that you are indeed in love with the one you say you love. We hope this helps.
I Av Alrealy Stared Dating D Boy But I Kept It A Secret
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
please i need ur help am new here i love a girl and she loves me, we started dating for some time now. but one day she said she told her spiritual father about it and she was advised to end up the relationship, and I still love her am confused.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey 0813! Thanks for opening up with this comment. Try talking to her and if she doesn't still listen to you, let her go. We know it will hurt you but it’s better to let it go early than to hold on to someone that doesn't want you. We hope this helps.
Hi Dani
Pls ma,if I tell bf to join us here he will say DAT am doing childish thing,plz wat will I tell him
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Cutely! Simply show him a story you think he will be interested in and then tell him you think he should register on the site. Tell him the stories are targeted at young and vibrant teenagers. We hope this helps.
thanks BigSis
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
yea,dat true.my best friend is a boy,i do tell my elder bro!
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Aha!!!
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Thank u big sis,am sweety2000.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
I don't have good friend who is a boy but I pray to have.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
I only have two friends and they girls.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hi! Grace Can i make them 3
Grace are u still awake,i wt 2 hear from u pls 2 hw u feel dis night
Grace re u still awake?
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hi
Hi Angy,is there some thing you wanted to tell me?
Hi guys am new nd i love dis article.big sis u re a genius,hope am welcome
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hi Angy.
Hey Kushl! You are welcome to GEM Nigeria. We are glad you like the article, feel free to share this page with your friends.
Welcome angy♥
Hello am new here ✋
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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hi i'm new here i'm so glad 2 be part of u guys
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Sediella2004! Welcome to GEM Nigeria. We hope you like the stories. You can also invite your friends here.
Thank you Bigsis, she finally want us to continue as just friends. but i told her that is not easy for me..., cos i really love her so much i do call her my Treasure. Pls should I still continue or let her Go? cos i can't be in her (friends zone).
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Dani! You're welcome. Since you already said you cannot be in a friend-zone with her then you already have the answer. Time heals everything. You will be fine. We hope this helps.
Hi am new here am so gald 2 be part of u guys
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
By being bold and confident
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hi am new here am i welcome
Dat is good
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
thank you Grace for ur comment and advice #lol
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hi Dani,you're welcome!
yes i do.And we have been friends since childhood
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Owk I've got a question..... Is it proper to kiss male friend??
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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I dnt tink so
Hey Bubblyz! If you are kissing a male friend and you still hope to keep him in the "friend zone" then you probably shouldn't because you will just be waking up the drama we are trying to avoid. You may just be playing with his emotions which will be unfair to him. We hope this helps.
YES I DO,MAYBE LYK 6 OR SO.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Wat did u say u do
Wow,your male friends are really much but how do you really get along with them?what if all of them falls in love with you what would you do?
What if someone's male friend falls in love with her and she just want to be friends with him what is she suppose to do,pls tell me!
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Grace! Thanks for the comment. Just tell him politely that you do not want anything more than friendship from him. Say it and mean it. He may keep disturbing you but keep standing your ground. Tell him that if he truly values your friendship, he should leave it the way it is. We hope this helps.
Hi.am a new member am i welcome
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey girl! Welcome to GEM Nigeria. We hope you like the stories. You can also invite your friends here.
i hv a boyfriend and the guy his double dating should i beak up with him or i should continue
hi c4 u are welcome to GEM NIGERIA. we also hope u like our stories . and u can also invite your friends here.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Hi there,I have male class mates that I really want to be friends with,buh I am afraid of what people will say or think.I am also afraid that they might think I like them(male classmates).It is not like I like them or somethings,buh just want us to hangout in a group buh I don't know how to organize the group
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey 5432! Be friendly with them and do not try to over impress them. Just be yourself. You need to let the friendship grow before you start thinking of going out. When you all feel comfortable with each other the you can start thinking of going out. Just make sure a trusted adult is aware of the outing, the location and the people you are going out with when the time comes. We hope this helps.
i hv bf and is double dating should i beak up with him
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey C4! If you feel uncomfortable with it, then go ahead. We hope this helps.
I have so many friends and am getting attracted to them, is it proper?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Goldee! It depends on the type of attraction you are referring to. Some people get very comfortable with their friends that they mix it up for attraction while some actually lust after their friends. So please define the type of attraction you are referring to. We hope this helps.
Am new in dis program
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hi! BIG SISTER Can we be friend,i love d way u advise people on dis GEM
am new in dis program i hope am welcome
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Am new in dis program am i welcom
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Hi Angy,Dani,Nancy,big sis,12345,Esther,Peacefulbaby,Love,etc.🖐 I'm new here buh I have commented in some articles I don't really understand how things are here....I need to be more enlightenment about dis program please...
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey 5432! Welcome to GEM Nigeria. To know more about us, scroll to the bottom of the home page and read our "FAQs" and "About". There you will find the answers to the questions you need. We hope this helps.
Hi am new here am i welcome?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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hey! i'm also new here, maybe i'll welcome you.
Tanx abbie
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
I find myself attracted to guys but is it wrong
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Vstar! It is normal to be attracted to guys at especially at this age. When it becomes a problem is what you do with your attraction. Just be careful of what you do with the attractions you have towards guys. We hope this helps.
Can i have crushes on many guys
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Rita0708! This is perfectly normal especially among teenagers. There are a lot of people in the world who are attractive and have attractive qualities. However, you have to be careful with crushes as they can be very distracting and can also be confused with love. We hope this helps.
R Try to stop it
derez dis guy am attracted to and he askd me to date him ave nt given im any ansa. am confusd cos i lyk im and hez carin and mks me happy nd does nt lyk seein me sad nd he said he rily loves me shld i tel im yes or no pls i nid coments
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Divierazee! Thanks for opening up with this comment. You are in the best position to answer this question because if you eventually choose to be in a relationship with him, you need to be sure (by yourself). What you really need to do is to think it through very well and be sure you are ready for anything with him now. We hope this helps.
My ex broke up with me for no gud reason since two month now nd ave tried all i could to let him knw i still love him bt his nt making any move to come back to me,pls wat am i gonna do cos i still love him nd i want him back
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey G-girl! Thanks for opening up with this comment. You need to let him go. He doesn't know that he just lost a gem. No need begging him. Keep your head up high and let it go. It will hurt for sure but you will be fine. We hope this helps.
am new here bt u re nt replyin to my article
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Divierazee! Welcome to GEM Nigeria. Your questions have been answered. Kindly go back to the articles where you asked the questions.
Am new Guys won't just let me be
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Judith! Welcome to GEM Nigeria. Most girls experience the same thing especially at this age. If you are not ready for a relationship, you need to learn to stand your ground and stay principled. Turning guys down is not a bad thing but do not be rude about it. We hope this helps.
Guys keep disturbing me they just dont let me they keep looking at me and some talk to me telling me they love me
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Hi I'm new here There is this guy in my class he loves me but I dont he once borrowed my book and wrote it I dont like him he got my no. from a friend and keep calling me I once picked and got to know it was him I acted as if I still dont recognize him but he keep calling and I dont pick we are on good terms at school bcox I act as if I dont know about his love for me. We are now on holiday how should I act when we resume please kindly reply fast I'll be waiting tnx
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Marus! Welcome to GEM Nigeria. You need to sit down with him and let him know how you feel. But while doing this, make sure you are very polite. Also, tell him you don't want him to call you again. It's better to tell him to his face so he sees the seriousness in you. While doing this, do not be afraid and be as serious as you can be. We hope this helps.
I've dis guy is my exclassmate he ask me to be his gf nd i said no den he has nt call me for over 3 weeks nw de thing is dat i jus wnt us to be friends,nd i dnt wnt to be de one to call him becos i dnt hv any fort,pls wht should i do?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Maft! He probably cannot handle being friends with you because he has feelings for you or maybe he doesn't know how to handle rejections. However, if you really want to be friends with him, there is nothing wrong with you calling him first. Remember to take it easy on him and don't force friendship on him. So call him and offer friendship with him and if he refuses, let him go. We hope this helps.
Pls Grace Can U Send Phone Number 2 Me,on GEM.i just wt 2 be a friend
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey 2468! Exchange of phone numbers and other personal details are not allowed on GEM Nigeria for security reasons. Thanks for understanding
I may Ask,in Every Relationship,is It True That Sex Must Be Involve.Why Did We Girls Find It Difficult 2 Have Relation (friend) With Boys?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey 2468! Thanks for the comment. Not every relationship involves sex. We will leave the second part of your question open for other girls to answer. So girls, the floor is open. Share your thoughts on why some girls find it difficult to be just friends with boys.
Hi 2468,am so sorry I didn't text back early am just seeing it now,you didn't send it me that's why i didn't text back early and I saw it when I was going through all comment,pls do not be an yod are you a male or a female? pls are you in secondary school?
Thesame problem happened to me, i really love her but showed me off, i try to make her understand but take it as just friendship, before i though she was shy of me but it wasn't like that, pls help me out.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Boys cant stop lukin at me. And dere's dis boy since we resumed from break he has been askin me to be his gf i've been sayin no.He now buys things for me so dat I will agree. What else can I do?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Pixie! Why were you saying no before her started buying things for you? If you do not have feelings for him, do not let the spending distract you because once he gets you, the spending wil stop. So if you do not have feelings for him, don't bother entering into a relationship with him.
Hi Grace
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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How do i maintain my bf
hi i am new am i welcome
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hi guys..! i am new here am i welcome?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
My bf broke up wit me 4 no gud reason and anytym i c im am always angry at im
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
What will i do to make my girlfriend happy?i love her so much,when i offend her, she find it difficult to forget about it.what wil i do but am a girl like her
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey girl! Have you tried talking to her? Maybe she is holding a grudge and finds it hard to let go. Communication is key! Try communicating with her and tell her to be very open with you. We hope this helps.
Yes i have talk to her, she told me that she has forgiving me but she will never 4get about it.what will i do.pls big sister tell me i don't to break up with her
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey girl! Try not to hurt her feelings anymore. Things like this happen all the time. You both need to let go of the past and look ahead. We hope this helps.
My bf broke up wit me 4 no gud reason,he plays wit other gals(my classmates)but wen he sees me playing wit anoda guy,he feels jealous and he also stare at me wen am nt looking
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Love! Thanks for opening up with this comment. You need to stop staring at him and also stop thinking about him. Since you guys are not together anymore, live your life and let him live his own life. Just ignore his stares. We hope this helps
Sometimes,i'm always angry at him anytime i see him bcos i didnt offend him b4 he said we shud break up
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
What will i do to make my girlfriend happy?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey girl! Talk to her and find out what makes her happy and what makes her sad. When you get all this information, work with it. We hope this helps.
Thanks 4 ur advice Big Sister,keep On I Will Try All U Have Said.& I Pray It Will Work I Don't Want 2 Break Up With Her. Thx
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
I want 2 be talking wit him and greeting him bt i find it a bit difficult 2 4get wat he has done
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
I just registered on this site and I really love what I'm seeing ...good job big sis ..ok I have a bf but I didn't answer the yes/no ans I just answered yes bcoz he was a frnd at that time ..now we are dating but I still don't feel comfortable maybe it because I attended an all girls school it is affecting my relationship with boys is that possible??
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey girl! Welcome to GEM Nigeria. We are glad you like what you see. Please feel free to invite your friends. To your question, it can all be in your mind. Attending an all girls school should not affect your relationship with boys. It could just be that you feel uncomfortable because your relationship evolved from friendship. You can actually sit down and think it through. Look out for the tiny details that you may have missed to find out why you may be feeling uncomfortable. We hope this helps.
Awwwwn!!!😅😅😅 My male friends are amazing. I love them alot, they're part of the best things that ever happened to me.👌
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
I do!I was 13years old when I meant him..though he wanted me to become is girlfriend but I made my reasons clear to him why I don't want to..though it took me time to speak my mind to him..
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
My male friends are so sensitive..... I express my sincere gratitude for this write up...thank you.......muhh
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Hi i'm new here but i must ask, how do i deal with someone who's always staring at me , we're not really friends and he has never approached me or asked me out but we're in thesame class and i always feel uncomfortable when he's around.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Della! Someone needs to break the silence. Walk up to him and start a conversation (be very friendly). Tell him you noticed he stares a lot at you and you are sure he wants to be friends with you but he's just shy. We are sure you can take it up from there. The more you both wait, the more the starring game continues. We hope this helps.
Thanks i think i'll try that
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Hello Everyone Am New Here. Really Impressed.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Please i happened to be in a relationship with a boy in my ss 1. from his actions i can say he truly loves me and he has plan for our future according to what he told me. on the other hand, i don't like him and i do not have feelings for him but i find myself unable to open up to him all these while. but now am through with my secondary school. i don't know how to break the news to him because he has told his friends and family about me; i do not want to hurt him because he is a good person, yet i don't want to end up with someone i don't love. Please I Need Help. Am Confused
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey girl! You need to sit down with him and let him know how you feel. But while doing this, make sure you are very polite. It's better to tell him to him the truth than to deceive him because when he eventually finds out, it will hurt him more. While doing this, do not be afraid and be as serious as you can be. He will be hurt but it is the best for him. We hope this helps.
Thanks Big Sister. God Bless You
Yes i have lot of guys as frds
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
A friend of mine asked me dat if i want 2 have a bf,cant i have nd she told me dat its bcos am holy dats y i didnt want 2 answer her.Pls help me 2 answer d question.I need more knowledge on it.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey girl! You don’t need to explain why you don't have a boyfriend to anyone. This is how peer pressure begins because once you start to explain to her, she starts to pressure you to have one. So the next time she asks you such a question, tell her you don't owe her an explanation because it is your life and you are in charge of what you do with it. While doing this, try not to be rude. We hope this helps.
My classmate(boy)told me dat he luv me and he always want me 2 say it 2 him,i also luv him bt i dnt want 2 av any relationship lyk bf&gf thing wit him,even my classmates think we are dating.he didn't ask me out o bt d way he plays wit me shows dat he loves me,pls wat can i do
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Love! Saying that you love someone shouldn't be just mere words or because the person wants you to say it to them. If you really love someone they shouldn't force you to say it to them, you should freely tell him at your own time. If you are very certain that he loves you and you don't want to have a relationship with him, just let is go. Don't push for anything to happen because you may eventually be under pressure to date him. We hope this helps.
Hi Am New Here
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Is it bad to hug or give a boy u love?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Deegold! It all depends on the individual and the motif behind the hug. Are you hugging him because he wants you to hug him or are you hugging him because you want to? The aim behind the hug will determine whether or not you should be doing it. We hope this helps.
Is it bad to kiss
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Sendora! It all depends on you and also your intentions. Why do you want to kiss? Who are you kissing? Is it to quench a desire or to spark a desire? Also, it is worthy to note that kissing is a form of romance which can lead to something else if you can't properly control your emotions. So you need to answer some of these questions honestly. We hope this helps.
My parents r de strict types nd dey dnt lyk me hangin around wit male friends even de one dey knw ...wat shuld i do
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey girl! Your parents are only trying to protect you. They love you so much that they don't want to see you hurt. They feel you are not safe hanging out with the opposite sex. This is normal among parents. Try to make them understand that you can be just friends with boys too. Also, you need to make them trust you and this means that you have to act right at home and at all times. We hope this helps.
Plz i dnt de difference b/w wen am crushin on someone nd wen i love soneone
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey girl! Crushes have a strong tendency of dying at some point (most times, when you get to know the person more). When you are crushing on someone, you are most times lusting over a particular feature. Deep down, you know your feelings are not real but you keep nursing it until you start feeling infatuation. On the other hand, everyone has their own definition of love. All we can say is that love is genuine and it does not hurt at all. We hope this helps.
Can any human being do without fallen inlove
Can human being escape being attracted and loved likewise falling inlove with some one.is love inevitable?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Love ain't inevitable dear..#itz up to u
I tried this and it worked....
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Neddie! Thanks for sharing this. We are glad this worked for you. Please feel free to share it with your friends.
Is it bad to tell a guy that u are not dating that u love him but u are both attracted to each other/u both feel desame
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Litzy! First of all, are you sure you even love him or you are just attracted to him? Love is very deep and you cannot truly love someone you don't know (their personality). So before you tell him that you love him, get to know him and be sure you like the complete package. We hope this helps.
Ma parents don't want me 2 hang out wit boiz,but in skull most of ma fwends r boiz nd ma snr sis most of ha fwends r boiz,even ma best fwend is a boy nd if i shud tell ma parents...THEY WOULD KILL ME!!Wat shud I do😥😦😢
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Inem! Your mum is only trying to protect you. She loves you so much that she does not want to see you hurt. Maybe you should tell your sister's to help you talk to your mum. Since they are older and more experienced, they can help explain things better to mum. This is usually normal among mums. We hope this helps.
Ur in de same page with me
Is it ok to remain friends with some one that lyk's u.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey girl! If you do not like the person in the same way, then stopping all forms of communication with the person is the best. We hope this helps.
Can I Date/ Be Friend WithSomeone Old Than I
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Hey Pretty1234! As long as you both are comfortable with it, yes you can. If you are female, it is normal and sometimes, it is expected that you date someone older than you. But the most important thing is that you should date when you are READY rather than when you feel like it. You have to be ready to sacrifice your time when you are in a relationship so if you are not ready, you will have a tough time keeping the relationship. We hope this helps.
Is kissing a boy u love wrong?
I Am Afraid He Might Leave
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
i do have crush on guys buh wen they ask me out i dont like them again pls big sis is this normal.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Leola! A crush is a feeling that is short lived (for a short time). So having a crush on a guy means it will die soon and this is what you are experiencing right now. It is totally normal to have a crush on guys and it is also normal for the crush to also die. We hope this helps.
im new here pls im i welcomed and i asked a question dat is not yet answered
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
That's right! He won't take NO for an answer, and I'm scared of him. What should i do?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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make him know ure not interested and if he still dont get avoid him
Hey Angel! Thanks for opening up through this comment. If you feel unsafe or scared of him, please talk to a trusted adult about this and always try to stay safe okay? We hope this helps.
Hello to yew guys....Am new here,am i welcomed
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Tanx so much big sis, im glad u replied
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Umnm....I like him n he likes me....buh I think he's kinda shy...I don't want to lose him...trust me I need your help
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Black! If you are sure that he likes you, then you can walk up to him and make the move. There is nothing wrong with this as long as you are comfortable with it. We hope this helps.
I like him ad he also lyk me
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Hi am new here I want a bestie and I want a guy wat will I do
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hy kiki, am new here nd i lyk de sound of ur name
Yeah i have a boyfriend who we are close to each other that people around think we are dating which we are not, i tried to explaing this to them but they just can't believe me
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Melly! Maybe you and your boyfriend are giving the wrong signal to people. Try and convince them that you are not dating. If what say really affects you, talk to one of two people you really trust and tell them that there is nothing going on between you two. We hope this helps.
keeping a close or best frnd relys on ur Wisdom, all men r gud n all men r wicked, only wisdom can dictate d gud ones frm d wrong ones
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
I have being betrayed by love many times, I don't want 2 love again but I still have that feeling to love. Need help
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Fabilo! So sorry about that. You are not alone in this. The truth is that no matter how many times one gets hurt, loving again is inevitable. A trick is that instead of seeing it as a heart break, see it as a lesson. Learn from every betrayal so that you increase in wisdom. Healing comes from within so you need to make up your mind that you want to let it go. We hope this helps.
How can I know if he love me
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey 2345! When it comes to love, it will be difficult for an outsider to tell you if someone loves you or not. You will know if someone loves you with the way they treat you and matters that involve you. We suggest you talk to him more, ask him questions like why does he love you, what attracted him to you etc. We hope this helps.
thank u big sister am new here.
I told my female friend that am dating she said OK. and she told me that she is dating three boys. isn't good to been in three relationships or one? she kind of confusing me.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
How do i know whether i am in love?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Pinkybabe! Thanks for the comment. Love is a feeling that is unique to individual. What may be love to you may be lust to another. You will have to search within to know what exactly it is that you love about a particular person. Once you are able to point this out, you will be able to truly know whether or not you are in love or not. We hope this helps.
How do i know that i am in love?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
i have a friend that does all these,i love him very much and i don't know if he loves me or he is just playing on the surface.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Have you tried talking to him and asking him how he feels? Try this because communication is key. We hope this helps.
But if he keep disturbing me
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Ikelola! Politely tell him that you are no longer interested. If he continues disturbing you, cut all forms of communication with him (phone calls, chats, sms, or even talking) then inform a trusted adult about it. We hope this helps.
Hw can u trust a guy
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Kiki! Trusting a guy all depends on your readiness to trust him and also on the signs he shows that he is trustworthy too. The truth is that trusting someone is a choice and also discipline on your own path. We hope this helps.
Hello, am new here! Anytime my mom sees me with a girl she gets the wrong impression, Nd in schl most of my frnds are girls,... What do I do?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Try To Make Ur Mum Understand That There Is Nothing Corrupt Going On.Sometimes As A Guy Growing Up With A Lot Of Female Friends Will Reduce The Temptation U Will Face With Girls
Hey Iam_esheno! Your mum is probably trying to protect you. She feels that being friends with girls may distract you. We suggest that you try talking to your mum and make her understand that the girl's are just friends. All you need is to gain her trust. We hope this helps.
hi am 21 yrs old i av neva had a bf.i turn d guys dat ask me out down.am looking 4 dat magical moment does it exist?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Starbliss! Girl, that magical moment still exists. Sometimes, it is better to wait than to enter a relationship with just anybody (especially when you don't really like them). There is nothing wrong with waiting for that special one but please try not to over expect as this is usually the case. Remember that everyone has flaws as we are all humans. Enjoy waiting for that magical moment, we hope this helps.
Dee's dis guy dat keeps disturbing me to accept him to be in relationship wit him but i don't luv him i keep on telling him i have some1 but he can't let go of me pls big sister i need ur help
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Abiluv! Thanks for the comment. We love the fact that you know what you want for yourself. Please, stay true to this, politely tell him you are not interested in being in a relationship with him. If he keeps disturbing you for a relationship, then cut him off because he is not worth being your friend if he doesn't respect your decision on things like this. If he keeps coming back, please tell a trusted adult about this. Once again, stay true to your principles and we are sure you will find someone that will respect your opinion. We hope this helps.
Any boy i try makin friends with always take things the other way round, so now i av decided to avoid making friends or even talking to them . Pls is that the right thing to do.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey SILVIA! If you are comfortable with the decision, fine. However, we will like to know how long you intend running away from boys. They are probably taking it the other way round because they are getting the wrong message or because they actually want to be more than friends with you. The solution to this is to politely let them know that it is just friendship and nothing more. Also, try not to be too pushy, sometimes, people see it as being flirty and read meaning to it. We hope this helps.
I lyk d headboy in my sch.He asked me out but i turned him down.I know i still have feelings 4 him buh i dont know wat 2 do
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Oyindamola! The question is why did you turn him down if you like him? If you are really sure that you like him, you can go to him and talk to him. You don't necessarily have to ask him out (if you don't want to) but just be friendly with him. Let's hope he is not sad about the way you turned him down. We hope this helps.
I turned him down bcause i was scared of wat my mum might do if she finds out dat i had a boyfriend
it make sense
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
I've a crush on mah teacher and he likes me too... Buh whenever he wants to talk to me I run away... Don't know why... I like him buh am just scared... Cux it's against the rules of my school to date with your teacher... Don't know what to do
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Amrah! Thanks for opening up with this comment. Crushing on someone in authority or an older person like your teacher can be dangerous because it distracts you from that particular subject and sometimes every other subject because you keep getting distracted by him anytime you are in school. The best way to get over crushes like this is to get worthy distraction. This could be a study group, a hobby, or even writing/drawing (depending on your skill strength). When you have a strong distraction, your mind will no longer be so focused on your teacher. Please, do not forget that your teacher is trying to impact knowledge to you and you should try as much as possible to learn. Also, we suggest you talk to a trusted adult that won't judge you but will help you out. We hope this helps.
I have a boyfriend. i am 2 years older than him. my friends make mockery of me saying that i befriended a boy older than me. i feel like quitting my relationship with him but am still confused on how to go about it.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey MummyGirl! You are the one in the relationship, not them. Remember, for you to be in a relationship, you have to be mature and maturity includes not minding what others are saying. If you are comfortable with dating someone you are older than, then you shouldn't be bothered about what other people will say. You need to define what you want for yourself if not, you will always be affected by what people will say because people will always talk. We hope this helps.
Sorry i mean that am older than him.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Thanks alot big sister... I'll try harder to avoid him.
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Thanks A Lot Big Sister.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
can crushing on a guy turn to luv:-|
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Taby! Yes, it can. However, you need to be very sure you are not having mixed feelings. We hope this helps.
How do u differentiate between crushin on a guy nd loving him???
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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To me, to ave a crush on someone means to just admire d person bcos of maybe his look and so on, and u don't often think of him, but when u love someone u like dat person 4 wu he is nd not just look and u tink of him often. Am not sure o
Hey Exybarbie! Etomi has done a good job explaining the difference. A crush is a feeling that is short lived (for a short time) and tends to die once you get to know the person better. When you love someone, you get that feeling of satisfaction despite the person's flaws. Loving is usually beyond the physical sometimes. We hope this helps. Thanks Etomi for taking time out to explain this to a Springster.
does age matters in relationship?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Honeym! This is a personal decision. Some people feel like age matters while some don't. Follow whatever you prefer and not what others may say or think. We hope this helps.
someone told me, my bf is filtering with another girl,and I told him and he said they are just friends, but his friend say his lieing,and I don't know what to do,cause our relationship is a distance relationship, cause his in school,he told me to trust him am really confuse
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Amakaright! You need to choose who to trust. What you are experiencing is called trust issues and you need to be sure of who to trust. You also need to be sure that you really want to be in the relationship and be sure of the benefits too. If you trust your boyfriend, then it is up to you to believe him. We hope this helps.
wat do u yur self think about it do u truth him
am in love with a guy nd the guy said he love me i have not giving him an answer but now his told my best friend the same thing wat should i do
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey victoria! We do not really understand your question. Do you mean to say that he told your best friend that he loves her too? If yes, you need to be really sure if he really loves you like he claims because a guy that loves you will not tell anyone else (especially your best friend) that he loves her too. We hope this helps.
i love a guy and the guy love me but i lost in so month ago but na i have see a guy that i love
I dnt feel 2 comfortable hanging arnd with male friends bcos of wat my parnts nd people will say....bt one of my male friends always want 2 hang around with me even wen i have explned y i cnt. He said if we dnt go out 2gether most tyms hw z the friendship expected 2 grow
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
there is this guy i love, he loves me too but he doesnt call me on phone, he's always busy wit work he doesnt give me attention and i really love him. What do i do?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Slimzy! Talk to him about it. The fact that he is going about his own business does not mean that he does not love you. He probably just does not know how to show it. So you need to let him know how you feel because the only way he will understand what's on your mind is when you tell him. Communication is very important in relationships. We hope this helps
I loved someone but I don't know if.he loves me too and i keep thinking of him.big sis help me
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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But his brother told me his brother has a crush on me but he never told me such
big sis i love a boy but i don't know if he loves me but his sister said he has a crush on me but he hasn't told me yet
Hey Temi! He is probably not ready to tell you yet or may be he is shy. Sometimes, it is also very difficult for a guy to approach a girl and express his feelings to her. So you should either be patient and wait for him to talk to you or you can approach him and be friends with him. The choice is yours. We hope this helps.
Big Sis there is a boy i like,he told me dat he loves me and i should be his gf bt i wasnot ready so he told me 2 wait 4 him for 1year and 6months.but he plays wit girls alot and i still love him ..pls am confused
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Fave! Him playing with other girls does not mean that he has stopped loving you. However, if you do not like the fact that he plays to other girls, tell him about it but there is nothing wrong with playing with other girls except if he is flirting with them but if he isn't flirting, it is very normal. We hope this helps.
big sis i notice dat i av no feelings or emotions for any guy even though there are many guys who want me to be their girlfriend..pls help me out
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Oyin! You do not have feelings for any of the guys out there because they do not appeal to you and this is normal. Do not settle for less because you want to have a boyfriend. If you do not have feelings for a guy then there is no need for you to be in a relationship with him. Be patient and take your time, don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship. We hope this helps.
Hello big sis! I really like the way you reply us. You are a source of inspiration to a lot of us here. May God bless you and give you more wisdom. Thanks a lot big sister, you are the best.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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She's very nice
Thanks for the kind words Jahb. We really appreciate
very nice
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pls i hv a prob i hv somny date n i dnt knw wch one to date n guys r stil asking me out n my dad dnt lk me to mk frndz wit guy
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Lambert11! Choosing who to date is a personal decision and you have to be very careful about this decision too. You have to be sure you are ready to date before you start and not because boys are asking you out. It's normal for your dad not to want you to date. He is only trying to protect you. LIke we said earlier in the other comment, you need to earn the trust of your dad before he will freely allow you to date. We hope this helps.
dats right stop seeing d person and report
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thats just perfect
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I like dis
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BIG SIS this have been bothering me for a long time now, am just tired of pretending@ there was a guy that has been disturbingmefor a longtime, even till now and he also told me that he is ready to do any thing just to make me love him back
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
THE REASON WHY I CAN'T ACCEPT HIM IS BECAUSE HE IS MY STEPSISTER BF,my qustion is this IS THERE ANY THING IN DATING UR STEPSISTER BF? bigsister i really need ur help THANKS!!!
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Honeym! Yes, there is something wrong with dating another person's boyfriend (when it is your family or friend's boyfriend, it is even still wrong). If you choose to date him, what will you be in the "relationship"? He doesn't deserve you so please do not give this a second thought. If you have to date, please be with someone that will make you number 1 not a "side chic". You should not share a guy with anyone. We hope this helps.
If yhur frd iz crushing on ur bf....making im lose interest in yhu nd so brking yhur hrt badly.....r u adviced to quit de relationship...bigsis
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Mexxa! It is up to you to quit the relationship if you want but we advise that you politely and calmly talk to your friend and let her know how you feel about what she is doing. Do not start a fight or an argument with her as it is never the solution to anything. Talk it out with her and also with your boyfriend. We hope this helps.
Hi am a university student and i met this boy who is in final year and he is asking me out but am scared that after his final exam he will not show interest in me again and if i say yes he will ask for sex am scared that if i also give him sex that will be the end of it pls help me out this has happened to my friend and the boy left her, wat should i do?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Mimi! Thanks for opening up through this comment. First of all, no one should pressure you to have sex with them. If you must have sex, it should be based on your own decision not because you are being pressured to go into it. Secondly, if your mind is not at rest or settled to go into a relationship with the guy then don't bother going into it because you will have trust issues and that will be a major problem. Think it through very well and be sure of what you want to do before doing it. We hope this helps.
Hi big sis can someone wait for a boy for five years before the relationship stabilize well
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey 2345! What do you mean by stabilize? We will appreciate if you explain better so that we know how to answer this question. Thanks.
there is this guy i love but he is not a sweet type i mean romatic but last time he called me he told me if i still love him and i dnt say anything i dnt know why but i still love him and ever since he havent called me am worried
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Lisa! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Maybe you should call him to find out why he has been distant. Assumptions don't help, they only make you get more worried. Don't forget to ask him calmly and politely. We hope this helps.
Is it right to tell a boy you havent talk to before that you love him? If a boy have never come to you and say he likes you,does it mean that sth is really wrong with you?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Dorcas! First of all, you cannot love someone you do not know. Love is very deep and it is hard to love someone you don't know. We advise that you become friends with him first. Put your feelings aside and then get to know him better. You may be surprised that once you get to know him better, he may not be "all that" again. There is nothing wrong with you dear. It's just best that you wait till the boy that truly appreciates you shows up and expresses his feelings for you. We hope this helps.
Big sis help,i may or maynot be friendly to a guy before but whenever he ask me out i feel scared of him for i seeing him i didn't feel comfortable again dat has make me never date a guy for a day
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Hy guys I think we should make a group chat on this and we know wen we are online or offline
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Eden! Thanks for sharing this but private group chats are not allowed here. Every form of discussion is meant to be open here so that no one feels left out. Drop your message in the comment box and when anyone comes online, they reply your message. Thanks for understanding.
Wat of the online or offline stuff
What do I do to make a boy I like ask me out?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Goody! Thanks for this comment. First of all, you should make sure the boy likes you back before you make a move. Want to know why? Well, if he doesn't like you, it will be that you are forcing yourself on him. Like we said earlier, you should be very very sure that he likes you before you think of doing something to make him ask you out. We hope this helps.
Someone I like kissed me does it mean he likes me
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Goody! Kissing does not necessarily mean that someone likes you. People kiss for different reasons and sometimes, likeness for the person they kissed is not one of those reasons. We hope this helps.
Thanks big sister,you're the best.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Goody! Thanks a lot darling. Muah!
yes i have 1 loving nd caring boy as a normal friend who our parents also no about
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
yes nd he propose last week but am saying no i dont know y anytym i want to say yes i will just say no
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Shaloy! Do you really like him? This question is for you to answer to yourself sincerely. You need to be really sure you like the person. Search deep and do not add sentiments when you are doing this. We hope this helps.
The guy i date is my clasmate,i rili lyk dis guy,on d day of our skul's aniversary,i met him n 1 of his church member(girl),d gal was lyk mayb huggin him bt wen i saw dem dey didnt c me though,i was rili angry bcos i didnt expect it,bt d thing is dat,no mata wat he do to me,i stil lyk him
Hi big sis am datin sme1 in my clas he tries to be romatic but am not felin any close connection wit him wat should i do
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Payson! You need to sit down with him and let him know how you feel. But while doing this, make sure you are very polite. It's better to tell him to him the truth than to deceive him because when he eventually finds out, it will hurt him more. While doing this, do not be afraid and be as serious as you can be. He will be hurt but it is the best for him. We hope this helps.
Big sis,theres this guy i like in my school but he doesnt speak to me,he only stares at me when am passing,when we are in french class he sits behind me or opposite me,he is also my church member he stares at me when ever we are giving offering and also when we dismiss.please big sis i dont know what to think again,i dont know if he likes me or not.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Ngozy! Someone needs to break the silence. Walk up to him and start a conversation (be very friendly). Tell him you noticed he stares a lot at you and you are sure he wants to be friends with you but he's just shy. We are sure you can take it up from there. The more you both wait, the more the starring game continues. Also remember that staring does not mean love. We hope this helps.
I av a lot of boys wich re my frnds nd my mum knws most of dem
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Just be careful about how keep many male friends.
Big sis, please I need help to break up with this guy, he does not want me, he has a gf alredy and I want to break up him, I tried breaking up with him, but it was not that easy. I don't want anything to do with relationship and I regret this one am in now
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Faith17! Do not be depressed okay? All you need to do is to be polite and tell him that you are no longer interested in a relationship with him. Since he doesn't want you, it will be much easier for you to do. Breakups can be difficult but once you are sure that you are no longer interested in the relationship, it is better for you to end it once and for all and let it go. We hope this helps.
Thanks big sis, it really helped me, am no longer in any relationship with him. But one thing, he still tells me he loves me, miss me and all that.
Big sister ur the best sweet nice and amazing I want to ask you a question what of if you notice a boy is always staring at you does it mean he likes you
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Sam1! Awww… thanks a lot dear. Staring does not necessarily mean love. Do not assume that a guy loves you because he loves you. You may be wrong. We hope this helps.
What of if ur laughing so hard when u look back he's laughing with u Does it mean anything big sister please reply me 💜💜💜💜💓💓💚💚💚👼👼
Hi Big Sis,u Said Dat A Guy Starin At U Does Nt Realy Mean Love, Den What Else Does It Mean?? :/ Love Ya Big Sis
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Caeli! Yes, staring does not necessarily mean love (not in all cases). Let me ask you a question, is it everyone you stare at that you love? The answer is obviously NO. We stare at people for different reasons - to admire (not love), to mock, to enquire, out of lust and so on. Which is why we advise that the silence is broken when someone is staring. Talk to the person to know the intentions. We hope this helps
hi big sis,there is a guy who I was dating before. from the beginning of the relationship the guy love me I also knw he love me a lot but I don't I begins to give him bad behavior so the love he has for me begin to drop and I start loving him but I broke up with him I don't knw what to do I still love him.What can I do?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Kemzy! You broke up with him for a reason. Go back and think of the reasons why you broke up and treated him badly. You also need to be very sure if you really love him or you miss the idea of being in a relationship. We hope this helps.
A very good advice
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
First time commenting tho....hi big sis. .love your work....xoxo....there's this guy he's always tryna get all lovey dovey with me but he has a gf and I was like it's not right he was like he doesn't want her anymore he wants me ....kinda confused what should I do
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Starflame! Thanks for commenting and thanks for the kind words. Sounds like he is still very into his girfriend and just wants to have you too. You are too special for a guy to make you a second option. He shouldn’t be telling you that he doesn't want his girlfriend anymore. He should settle it with her first before coming to you. However, you have to be very careful around him as he sounds desperate. This is so that you don't become a victim. Avoid being in lonely places with him or even being alone with him. We hope this helps
Hello, I am a boy and I'm thinking of getting a girlfriend. How should I do that when chatting with the girl through facebook messenger.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Izzy! We cannot teach you what to say to a girl. You have to figure that out by yourself. Remember, having a girlfriend is meant for mature people and you have to be mature enough to know what to say to a girl if you really need to be in a relationship. We hope this helps.
Nice post
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
i am dating a guy of my age,just say he claims to senior me wit a day,my question is it right to date the guy of my age
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Springster! This is a personal decision. You are the only one that can choose who is good enough for you to date. We hope this helps.
Pleace what can i do if both of us have a crush on our self. When i Know tha it's very bad
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey iconing! There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a crush. This is perfectly normal especially among teenagers. There are a lot of people in the world who are attractive and have attractive qualities. However, you have to be careful with crushes as they can be very distracting and can also be confused with love. We hope this helps.
Big sister i find it difficult talking to girls at the first sight and whenever i do i sound nervous what advice have you
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Lhaif-10! It happens a lot. Maybe you should watch the girl for some time before approaching her to talk to her. We hope this helps
Big sister... I have this childhood friend, a boy to be precise. I take him as my friend but he wants more than that... what should I do?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Chidinma! Thanks for the comment. We love the fact that you know what you want for yourself. Please, stay true to this, politely tell him you are not interested in anything other than friendship and if he keeps disturbing you for a relationship, then cut him off because they are not worth being your friend if he don't respect your decision on things like this. If he keep coming back, please tell a trusted adult about this. Once again, stay true to your principles and we are sure you will find true friends that will respect your opinion. We hope this helps.
hi big sis I'm new here . I dated a boi for some months and suddenly I broke up with him with out a full settlement for no reason I knw about , but if I talk to him he wnt reply me and I don't knew wat to do..
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Fiti! He obviously is not happy with you and he has every right not to talk to you. Not everyone knows how to handle a breakup and you should also consider the fact that you didn't give him a reason for the breakup. Allow him to hurt and heal. Give him some space for now. We hope this helps
hey big sis i av crush on my frend bf wat shuld i do
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Morenikeji! Crushes have a strong tendency of dying at some point (most times, when you get to know the person more). Telling him will definitely cause problems between you and your friend. The best thing for you to do is to let the crush die a natural death. So do nothing about it. We hope this helps
tank u big sis
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Pls m avin prob wit my relationship presently d guy m dating is avin affairs wit my fwend..pls don't knw wat to do and m not ready to leave im
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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What??? A boy who truly loves you won't be seeing someone else let alone your friend..
He doesn't value you. he knows ur weakness & he's using that against you. Honey, pls move on; a better person will come
Hey Adunola! Thanks for opening up through this comment. You already said you're not ready to leave him and so that means you do not really need our advise because your mind is made up. However, the truth is that he doesn't respect you and the person you call your friend is not a good friend. Staying in the relationship will only make you angry and bitter. The final decision is left for you to make but just remember that you are worth more than this and you definitely deserve better. We hope this helps
i hav a boifrnd an i cal him my bestie is tia somtin rong wit dat?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Love! What you choose to call your boyfriend is a personal decision. Do what you like and what works for you. We hope this helps
I DONT THINK SO
Wow
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
I have a guy like that.pls,How can I help him is these kind of matter?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey TeeWest! We have given you all the tips you need in the article. Please read through it again and follow the steps. We hope this helps
hi big sister i need your opinion,am in a longdistance relationship with a guy but is friend is always coming to tell me that d guy am dating dose not love me that he is dating another girl and him too is also woeing me please what should i do?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hello 2001! This is a tough one and really depends on the trust you have in your relationship. First, remember that the friend telling you this is also trying to woo you so there is a big chance that he is lying. On the other hand he may still be telling you the truth. The person to focus on is your boyfriend. If you are truly meant to be together then you should be able to talk to him. Do you trust him? If you do not then it is hard to have a relationship based on love without trust. Tell him about your worries and see if his answers make you feel more relaxed or make you even more worried. If you are more relaxed after talking to him then that is a good sign. Also, you can ask his friend very clever questions to try and find out if he is lying about your boyfriend. When people are lying, they usually cannot continue to defend their lies when they are asked for clear details. Try this and see how he responds. We hope this helps.
Yes I got one... But the problem now is people around is always thinking negative, making me uncomfortable towards him now... Pls I need ur help.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey nezzy! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Do not let people define your relationship for you. The truth is that people will talk whether you like it or not but do not define your life or relationship by what they say. You were in the relationship before they started talking so face your relationship and leave them alone. There are a lot of responsibilities that come with being in a relationship and this is where maturity comes to play. If you listen to what everyone says, you will end up being a puppet. We hope this helps
Thanks alot
Please am a male can i comment?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey First-man! feel free to comment and share with your friends, big sister is here to help
Hi big sis,I have a situation I'm a new student in my school and must of de boys have told me they like me but i dn't know what to do I'm not de time dat turn people down easily,pls what can i do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey maft! Thanks for the comment. You have to learn to turn people down for the right reasons if not, you will end up dating all the guys in your school. If you do not like any of them, there is nothing wrong with politely telling them that you are not interested in a relationship. It's better to turn a guy down than to endure being in a relationship with someone you do not like. You can actually "Keep some of them in the 'friend-zone' and avoid all the drama" like we have said in the article. We hope this helps
Hello, please I need your help, I met this guy 5 months ago, he's nice and cool, he asked me out and I said no,because i am not ready for a relationship and he also told me he has a girlfriend who's not always available and doesn't have his time. We became so close, like best friends, he wants more but I couldn't, he has a girl. Unfortunately I fell in love with him, yeah, I know it's love because I never felt that way before. I tried all my best to avoid him thereafter, because I knew it was a bad idea, but he keeps coming back, I couldn't hold back also, he's the first person I fell in love with. I told him, he said he also felt that way since he met me. We were very close that I began to forget he has a girlfriend. I only see him once in a while, but we talk and chat on phone daily. We then chatted about sex and so, I told him I'm a Virgin, he said he had sex before. I love him so much, sometimes I even buy our meal. He said he will love to be with me forever, i told him our age difference is quite much, hes 26 and im 18, but he told me it doent mean, that love matters. One day he took me to his sister's house, she went for holiday. We planned on having sex, and he promised he'll be gentle on me. When we got there, he kissed me, that was my first kiss, then he offed my cloth, I didn't care aslong as he's the one, the one I loved, and he loved me. As he was about do it, I told him not to, then he didn't, he wore my cloth back for me, he always promise me he'll never rape me, so he drove me back home that night. He didn't call or chat me, I called him the next day he didn't pick then I called again he shouted on me and hanged up when he picked, I couldn't believe it, I cried, I remembered the days he use to call me for hours and beg me not to sleep yet because he wants to hear my voice. I remembered everything he always tell me like, he'll never leave me, he love me. I didn't love him from start but I don't know how I fell in love, but I think he's over it now, he doesn't call unless I call him, whenever I call him hell tell me I just forget him. I couldn't bear it, I deleted his number. But I swear I still love him, and I don't think I can love another person. Please help how can I get over this. I was trying to put him in the friend zone, but he escaped from it, here I am
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Macbeth! This comment has already been answered in the other article. You do not have to comment on more than one article to get Big Sister's attention. Please, comment on just one article and you will be replied. Thanks
baby u c its nt easy 2foget hm bt rememba ur past as a virgin md forget hm
#baby# I feel very bad and sorry 4 u, buy am advising u to stay strong, some boyz are too stupid and some are very good....
Hi baby. Please run for your dear life
hi baby tank GOD u rfuse dat 2 show u dat he never truely love u but lust over u
hi baby tank GOD u rfuse dat 2 show u dat he never truely love u but lust over u
hey big sis, I need help in dis mater, I WS in a relationship but becus of some issues we broke up n I really don't want to call or text even go close to Him I aslo told him same tin but from time to time he will want to call m bcus of DAT I changed m numb n each time he calls he talk in a way DAT it will upset m. is being long he called just of recent I font know how manage he got m number n started calling but I dint pick. so I need help on how to stop Him from contacting m again he is not good for m again to get close poss help m
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey 2233! Thanks for opening up through this comment. You can politely tell him that you are no longer interested in being in a relationship with him. If he doesn't listen, cut all forms of communication with him and also inform a trusted adult about this. Also, please stay safe. We hope this helps
am in love wit a guy n hes a frnd also but he dos oot notice me n am dying in silence.pls what should i do,can i open up to him?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey tega! If you are comfortable with opening up, you can. However, you need to be ready for both the good and the bad. The good is that he may like you too. The bad is that he may not like you. We hope this helps
big Sis, u need ur help, am in a relationship currently we do enjoy it for d past yes although is a No Sex date n he kept to it but recently he is changing before he calls often but now no calls he always say He is too busy dats y, he doesn't give m surprises except I man demand n he will like He don't have . he doesn't give m mony but he do loan peopl n have discuss did issue with him but he said his salary is not much but he do loan peopel o... am tired I don't know what to do again. wat should I do plss
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey 2233! Thanks for the comment. First of all, it is not your boyfriends responsibility to give you money. If he chooses to give you money, fine but you shouldn't force it. Going into a relationship with the mind that your boyfriend will take care of you is not right. From your comment, we see that you are in the relationship for the benefits you get and that's not a good thing. Have you considered how he is managing his resources too? Talk to him another how he has reduced communication but you also need to step in and call him if he doesn't. Relationships have responsibilities and you have to be very ready before you get into one. We hope you understand our point and change your mindset
AV got a boyfrnd bt i told him n0 sex he agred.he likes to hold me around my waist.just 2 day relati0nship he kiss me
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey GOLD! Thanks for the comment. You just need to be careful and stay safe. If you are comfortable with the way he holds you, fine. If you are not, let him know politely. Try not to be alone with him in a lonely area or in an enclosed place. We hope this helps
yea I have and we are just friend as in normal frend boh people do think we ar dating which is not
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
can u have a boy friend as a teenager
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Springster! This is a personal decision. There is no particular age to have a boyfriend. It all depends on how ready you are. We hope this helps
I av a boy dats my frnd, we talk n play together even every one in my school knws us 2 b vry close until a girl who i thought ws my bestie lied 2 im abt me nd now he sees me like n enemy i tried 2 talk tinz over but it didnt work out now am shy 2 talk to im am jst so confused i dont knw wat 2 do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Betty i think God just wanted to show you who ur friend is. Nowadays you don't just make any one ur BESTIE or BEST FRIEND 'cus any BENEFICIAL OPPORTUNITY can lead to their BETRAYAL. TRUST NO ONE. Don't you hear stories or watch movies or learn from experience that ur puting all trust in a bestie??????
i think u can trust a bestie but to an extent u know.not all boy relationships end in betrayal
Hey Betty! We are so sorry for what happened. We can only imagine what you are going through. Like others said, it was a good opportunity to know the real personality of your 'friend'. We know that you have tried to make him understand what really happened but you can send a text to him so that he really knows. You can't force him to reply you or change his mind but letting him know will release your mind so that you no longer feel bad. Let him know and leave him to decide who he believes. We hope this helps
its ok to have a boy as ur friend as long as u both play it safe. be careful with ur heart
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
why do boys think when u stare at them always associate with them its a crush?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
I have a question to ask..I have a friend we have been friends for long like for 4 years,but recently we became so close and I started feeling guilty as if we're dating.. But I keep feeling guilty.. PLEASE guys I need your help here..
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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me too
Hi Springster. Is good you have known this guy for 4years now, the decision is yours to make now if you really want to stay with.
There is nothing to be guilty about unless u av order intentions
There's did man on my street, he always say hi. All of a sudden, he stopped.and now, i think i like to have a relationship with him. Being a single mother. Kofo
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Bola! Thanks for the question. You do not have to wait for someone to say hi to you before you reply them. You can also say hi. In terms of the relationship, we think it will be better for you too get to know this man before you think of going into a relationship so that you do not get surprised after entering the relationship. Do not be in a hurry, know him better first. We hope this helps
hey
There's this man on my street, he always says hi whenever he sees.All of a sudden, he stopped.and now, i like to have a relationship with him. Being a single mother, what should I do? Kofo
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Hy Big Sis, u are doing a great work here God bless u pls i shared my story av not gotten help and if it as bin answered how do i know? pls help me, thanks
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Jemonyi! Thanks a lot. We do this for you. To know if your question has been answered, you need to go back to the article you asked the question and search through the comments. We hope this helps
Thanks
There is this boy who is a close friend of mine,we go out together attimes,he cares abt my family alot but there is nothing special between us. People around keeps telling me that they ar suspecting both of us. Pls what can i do to make them know that we are just mere friends?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Annie! Thanks for opening up through this comment. This happens a lot as people tend to assume a lot of times. What you can do is to tell these people that you both are just friends. Let them know that there is nothing wrong with girls and boys being just friends and not every friendship between a boy and a girl has to be more than just platonic relationships. Remember to be polite while saying this to them. We hope this helps
There is this boy,he's in the same school with me, every time he is always starring at me and making me feel uncomfortable anytime l'm around him he gets so happy all of a sudden and it's making me scared, please what should I do?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey onuchioma! Thanks for the comment. We understand how uncomfortable it is when someone just stares at you without saying anything. You should let him know politely how he makes you uncomfortable. If you do not feel like you can tell him to his face, tell someone that knows him well to tell him. Also, talk to a trusted adult about this since you are scared. We hope this helps
hi...there's this boy I like and I've never ever spoken to him even once..
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Dear Bee There's no manual to know if a boy really likes you. What's worse: You've never spoken to him... Are you an introvert? A Phlegmatic maybe? My advice ; Get close to him, become friends and in time, I'm certain you'll get your answer.
big sister,there was a guy,he was my first date,so my friends knew him,we thought the relationship was secret,but it wasnt,nw i dislike,i told him am nt dating again,he beg me always,some of my friends said i suld leave him,some said no,am confused,he stil love me
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
There is this guy in my class,i love him so much,we started dating wen we were in Jss3,but he brokemy heart and left me 4my best friend.His own friend now became my supporter,he helped me to over come my fears,he made me see that there is a warrior in every girl,he helped me overcome my worst fears of been alone.Along d line,we became besties,people even thought that we were dating,my ex had issues wit my friend who is his girl friend and they broke up,now he begged me 2 forgive him and i did.But now d main problem is that my ex wants me back and 2be honest,i still luv him but d other guy has expressed his feelings 4me,and now i don't know who to choose between d two,i don't know if i should trust my ex again,pls help me big sister
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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I suggest u chose the new one .ur ex had an opportunity and he spoilt the relationship.let him know that is too late and too this new guy Love's u
But I still love my ex
Hi ariana,honestly speaking if u ask me i will say dat u should go for de second one.
Assuming she has already accepted her ex back,how will she go about it
There is this guy who was dating one of my friends but latter broke up wit her.some month latter he started dating my bestfriend and due 2 dis i hated&never talked 2 im.few month back i became friend with him and d perid of our friendship i fell in luv wit him but i promise 2 keep it to myself but now d guy told me he loves me also but i know it is wrong becos he is dating my bestfriend &am his.guys i luv dis guy more than my boyfriend but i dont want any of our relationship 2 ruin please what should i do?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
There is this guy who was dating one of my friends but latter broke up wit her.some month latter he started dating my bestfriend and due 2 dis i hated&never talked 2 im.few month back i became friend with him and d perid of our friendship i fell in luv wit him but i promise 2 keep it to myself but now d guy told me he loves me also but i know it is wrong becos he is dating my bestfriend &am his.guys i luv dis guy more than my boyfriend but i dont want any of our relationship 2 ruin please what should i do?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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hi princess,if u really luv him de best tin for u 2 do is 2 openup 2 him so dat he will not break your heart.
Hey Princess! Thanks for the comment. How will you feel if your friend comes up and says she loves a guy you are dating? How will you also feel if the guy you are dating says that he loves your best friend? Think about it honestly and let your answer guide you. It is easy to fall in love but please note that not everyone is meant for us no matter how much we love them. He is in a relationship with your best friend. She may never forgive you and it will really hurt her. The final decision is up to you to make. We hope this helps
Hi princess there's nothing to worry about.Have a talk with your boyfriend &sought things out with him.I hope this helps. Thanks.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
There s this nabour of mine a boy we both grow up together nd become very close other people say we re dating but nothing like that ever occur to us we don't move out alone we move in group secondly i won't follow him to a lone place wthout others
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
i dont have any friend who are boys
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Hi bigsister! i jst commented bt i cant find it
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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its nice having friend with a guy
hi bigsister am new here I need ur advice there is this guy I met some months ago his cute he is talented and really understanding we met at my friends place so the second day we met he asked me out but I said no because I am not ready to be in a relationship so he said it waz ok after sometime I don't know how it happened but I had this strong feeling for him I couldn't get him off my mind I felt he was different from other guys so one day we were chating on FB so he asked if he could come over because i was alone in the house so i said yes when he came we talked for long and got to know each other more i started feeling guity and bad because he really loved me so I asked him to be my best friend he agreed and waz so happy so we got to know each other more we have been friends since but I now feel he doesn't love me like before he doesn't have time for me like before and he is hiding things from me bigsister what can I do to get the old guy back
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. The truth is that this is the real guy. This is why we say that you need to get to know the person better before you get into a relationship so that you know if you can deal with the real personality. No one will ever show you their true color just by casually meeting them. The old guy you had a crush on him because he was trying to win you and so he was only trying to be nice but this is the guy's true personality. We hope this helps
big sisthere is this guy i meet somemonth ago we started as a very good friend ,i like he and he like me too ,but now he is telling me to be is gf pls sis help me because i don no what to say
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey queen! Thanks for the comment. You need to be sure that what you feel for each other is love and not just a crush. We advise that you both should take time to know each other better and not rush into a relationship yet. We cannot tell you what to say but we can tell you to know him much better so that it will be easier for you to take a decision on this. We hope this helps
Hello big sis; I have a boyfriend, we've been together for over 2 years now. Last year he had to leave but we talked a lot on phone. We don't anymore. It's like I'm talking to myself these days! He does not answer my texts on sms or whatsapp. I confronted him about it and he changed-for about a few days. Even if he doesn't talk to me, I know he's broke, so I decided not to push it anymore. Now it's like we're strangers. So much has happened these few months that he doesn't know about. I feel so stupid and scared. I don't want to hurt him, but he's hurting me without even realizing it. I'm not the type to speak my sensitive thoughts out because most men I know tend to use them against me. Oh; and he's older than me by 14 or 15 yrs. Please help
big sis my friend want to breakup with her bf but she does not no are to start
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey queen! There is no special skill involved in breaking up with a guy. All your friend needs to know is that she should not be rude in any way. She needs to also know that she needs to say NO and mean it. We hope this helps
Big sis!. Why do I find it difficult to make girl friends?. When I'm talking to a fellow girl, my mouth tends to shut down and my mind turns blank. It's like other girls speak differently from me!. It makes me sound odd to them. I only have classmates, no real friend I can chat with, even on FB. People I'm close to tend to be at least 4 years older than me, and they are male!. Someone once called me "stuck up" because of it. Another said I sleep around with older guys, I'm don't understand yoruba, but I'm living in a yoruba village. How do I make friends and start a conversation with a girl?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Sia! Thanks for the comment. If you do not feel comfortable with making female friends, do not force it. It is not written in any constitution that you must have female friends or friends in general that are your age mate. Society cannot and should not choose what you should do especially when it comes to choosing friends. You need to do what works for you and try not to be under pressure. People will always talk and spread rumors but you need to learn to be strong enough to ignore them sometimes because the talk will never end. You just need to be careful while choosing your male friends and be sure to choose friends that are not out for other intentions unknown to you. Please, do not allow peer pressure to influence your choice of friends. There is no special way to talk to girls or make female friends, you just have to be yourself, if it doesn't work for you, do not force it. We hope this helps
may be its just not the right time, for there is always a right time. so be more careful now!
Hey Yungwill! This is a group that inspires and encourages girls in Nigeria and not a place to look for a girlfriend. Grooming and things like these are not allowed on this platform and so we have to take down this comment. Thanks for understanding
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Yes I do, but recently we started having feelings for each other and he has asked me out.What should I do?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Kyla! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. You need to think it through properly and also know what it is you want for yourself and also what you want from your partner too. We hope this helps
Hi big sis! Each time I tell my mum about guys talking to me, she always take it personal nd gets angry as if she doesn't trust me because of that am keeping things secretly from her now I have a boyfriend but nothing sexual is going on between us but my mum is not aware, big sis please help me I don't want to hurt her.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey 042! Thanks for the comment. You need to talk to another trusted adult about this or you also need to find a way to tell comfortably talk to your mum about boys without getting her upset too. We believe there is a skill to it. You need to understand and learn how to talk to your mum and also when to talk about certain things too. If you feel like it is impossible, you can ask another trusted adult (that understands your mum) to help you talk to her. We hope this helps
big sisi I am 18Years and I don't feel like having a boyfrnd,but there is a guy dat use to want me to be his galfrnd, pls may I accept him,pls help me
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Succy! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you should not go into a relationship because you feel like having a boyfriend or because someone wants you to be his boyfriend. There is much more involved in having a boyfriend and you need to be ready for it mentally, physically and in every other form. We understand the pressure to be in a relationship but it is better to enter for the right reasons than to enter for the wrong reasons and with the wrong person. Please take your time and think of what it is that you want from a boyfriend and also what you want from a relationship before you jump into one. The final decision is up to you to make too. We hope this helps
Hmn..My Mumma will always say; A boy and a girl can never be friends.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey ShyKid7! Thanks for the comment. Everyone has a right to believe what they want and so your mum thinks and believes this. This does not mean that there are no successful platonic relationships between boys and girls out there. We hope this helps
Thanks big sis, it's 042 just changed the name!
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hi 0427!
Big sis please how can I control a relationship of hot tempered
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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0427 asking!
Hey 0427! Thanks for the comment. Lots of patience. You need to be patient and also think well before you talk or react. Most importantly, you should learn to choose your words well before you speak them out. Think about the situation properly before you respond too. We hope this helps
Thanks big sis God bless u!
Hi big Sis,am kinda confused.I have a boyfriend and we love each other.We talk each day but I am the one that always call him and if I don't call he won't call. I always use my money to buy airtime everyday and the calls do last for about 20-25 minutes daily.You can imagine the amount of airtime I buy.Please big Sis,I am tired of calling always, how best do I tell him to start calling me because I am almost going broke.Help a Springster please....
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Alexa! Thanks for the comment. We advise that you talk to him about this. It should be a shared responsibility in a relationship. Tell him how you feel without being rude. Also, you can try chatting with him on different chatting platforms. We hope this helps
Thanks alot big Sis,I hope he'd understand
hii big sister. I love my boyfriend so much. he does same but my problem is being too jealous and he doesn't like it.. he says it makes him feel I don't trust him.. I need to tame my emotions
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
I love a girl and i dnt wnt to live her cus am born again and i want too live her cus i dnt want to miss heaven i love her like mad infact to ensure u that i love her i propose to her i gave her ring an she collected o love her and i dnt want want we make me miss heaven ad we have date for 4 years now i promis to marry her an she did also so wat can i do i dnt want to miss heaven an again i love her pls answer plssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Raphael! Thanks for the comment. If you are both ready to marry and you are above 18 and have a steady source of income, accommodation and consent from both parents, then you should go ahead and marry. If not, you need to exercise patience and wait till you are ready. Also, you both should talk to a trusted adult for guidance. We hope this helps
LUV DOESNT STOP U FRM BEING BORN AGAIN.IF U DNT DATE HER HW WIL U MARRY. WEL IF U LEAVE D RING ON HER FINGER 2 LNG...SHE MAY DOUBT U
Answer pls
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Hello , there is someone i love with all my heart and am not sure maybe he also do d same too but he like saying i care , nd i use to go to his house more time nd he never force his self on me in any way nd when time i note dat he lies i 'll tell him and all he will said is dat "am using it to protect u ni " also i note my he av a bf but there is sonetinz i does't understand is he New d lady b4 me but i really does know wht he want frm me ...Plz help me out with dis ....bcus like seriously am lost.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Adex! Thanks for the comment. Please, do not be deceived, lying is not allowed. What is he protecting you from? If he is lying then that automatically means that he is not honest and a dishonest man is not faithful. You both need to know what you want for yourselves but if you feel like he is not being honest, tell him. You have a voice and you should speak up. The only way you will know what he wants from you is by asking him. The final decision is up to you to make but do not accept a liar because if you do, you will have to keep up with the lies. We hope this helps
Also he's older dan me nd my mom d not like seeing me with him.
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I have a best friend from my school and now he told me that he has feelings for me, and I also told dat i have a boyfriend but my boyfriend does not call me the way he does to ask me how i was doing, but my best friend does. pls big SIS what should I do?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey excel! Thanks for the comment. From your comment, you are not sure of what you want in a relationship. Quick question, since your boyfriend does not call you the way you like, have you tried calling him too? It is not the responsibility of the guy to call you. You are both in a relationship and so it is a shared responsibility. You need to know what it is you want in a partner and also know what it is that you are willing to sacrifice to make a relationship work. We hope this helps
my friends are more of boys nd am always cool around them, they re funny and caring but one of them is trying to take the friendship to another level and am not comfortable with it, pls big sis, wat should i do?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Gifted! Thanks for the comment. The only response to give to that boy is a polite NO. Since you are not comfortable with it, there is no need for you to think twice about it. If he is really your friend, he will respect your decision. We hope this helps
Hi!am hyelkar,am 21 years old,presently in the university,there is this young man am having a crush on we attend the same church but i still go to the teens church while he attends the attends the adult church but we do meet in the youth fellowship which we attend Every week.we had a get together resently and we were ask to pick some one and know about the person hkmm...suddenly I saw him coming toward me and he pick me took a chair aside and we started chating told me about himself and I also told him about my self and he ask If I was facing any challenges in school.....we talked about a lot of things.without asking Him he told me he was in a relationship he was even stressing it am in a serious relationship he showed me her pix and told me abt her it happens we came from the same state...he works close to the university I attend and so many time I see him in my school coming to meet his client,whenever I see him I always go and greet him and we have little conversation and he encourage me and we go our ways.I love him and I can't tell him I do and I have learnt now to move on and forget abt Him we see our self as friends.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Hyelkar! Thanks for the comment. The truth is that you probably do not really love this guy like you claim. Love is beyond sitting down and talking just once. You need to know the person's flaws and love them regardless. it is good that you have learned to move on, we are really proud of you for that. So many girls find it hard to do so. Thanks for sharing this with us
But I love Him big sister,what should I do?
Since you've moved on, nothing else should be done. Leave it at that.
Hi am nt too gud make frnd cos I dont really like boy buh ave diz guy am dating I like him buh I dont sure maybe he like me cos the way he always behave .and I leave him and I dont no wat to do
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Lizzy! Thanks for the comment. We advise you to read the article "Does he like you" to know if he really likes you or not. We hope this helps
yeah, it's really hard to find that one that truly loves you don't just make such decision be wise..
really everyone make a decision for a better life, because it's really hard to find the one to trust in life time...
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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big sis I don't why any boy that is handsome immediate start liking that even when I don't know him please him me to overcome this I need your help so I won't mistake a crush for love and fall into a bad relationship please help.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey jbaby005! Thanks for the comment. Having a crush on a handsome boy is perfectly normal it is what you do with the crush that matters. They are handsome and attractive so it is normal. To know the difference between crush and love, please read the story "Crush vs Love: Know The Difference". It has the answer to all your questions. We hope this helps
I'm shy whenever I see this girl, short of words but I want to be her friend how do I make it possible. But I notice she's shy of me too I've been working hard with my relationship with girl I find it hard to talk to them except they talk to me first
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Cythia! Thanks for the comment. Start by saying Hi. You can also start by just smiling. This is always an easy way to start a conversation. You can also try to help them with something by being polite. We hope this helps
hloo big sis.....I try to love all my friends(guys) as I would love myself......BT I think they mistake my genuine love for something else and are asking me to either date or marry dem....and I don't want to do either of those stuffs..... and I have been trying to make dem understand.....BT dey just keep talking abt dating or marriage..... and I still do talk with dem on phone...... dey tell me they love me and I tell dem I love dem too because I feel that, that is the only fair, mature and rational thing to do because YES!!.....I really love them as my friends.....so , wat do u think I shud do....so they won't have to talk abt dating or marrying me again..... thanks for sharing your thought.....
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Hey success10! Thanks for the comment. You need to set the record straight and let them know that this is just platonic. This is also more than just saying you love them, your body language can also be sending a wrong message to them. You need to talk to them about it and let them know. We hope this helps
if u hv a crush on someone for so long,is it love?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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hy gwen
hy gwen, If u r really sure it's a crush then i think no matter how long u have it, i may never be love...... e. g, i can keep admiring your dressing for a lifetime and that may not mean that I love you because it's only your dressing dat brings u to my mind and keeps u in my mind...... if something happens and u don't dress dat good again...... den u r are out of my mind........ bt i think love is more dan just liking or admiring only dose gud stuffs in a person.....i think if u want ti to love?.... u 've got to know dose bad stuffs too and still love the person dat way,,,, ....and not just loving and leaving d person dat way..... u have to try to make d person better..... dat is all i can say 4 now.... i hope dis helps
Hey gwen! Thanks for the comment. Crush is not love no matter how long it lasts. We hope this helps
Big Sister, A guy asked me out on social media and I accepted cos I thought I really love diz guy. We used to be classmates in sec school. And now am confused, I want to end d relationship n I don't want to hurt him pls help a confused lady
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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hy chloe i really think you shud tell him how you feel because i believe in sincerity....... maybe b4 you are done telling him.... u may understand something you didn't understand b4 now..... and it may help you decide to move on with him or confirm your decision of quitting....... and i wouldn't really advice you to say YES!!,.....to online dates..... if u r really lonely , just go ahead and make good friends not dates..... bt 4 dis guy, just go ahead and tell him ur mind..... i hope dis helps...
Hey Chloe101! Thanks for the comment. There is no subtle way to end a relationship without breaking the person's heart. It is inevitable. Just let him know what is on your mind. The only extra thing you need to note is that you should not be rude. We hope this helps
Thanks Success10... Big sis, thank you!
Dear Big Sister!, I need ur honest advice MA, I had issues with my boyfriend we have been 2geta for closing 3yrs, we always have misunderstanding and we do settle it within ourselves, but this time around I was at fault and when I apologize he said he needed space (he wants to be alone for a while) and I did respect his opinion but it's almost a month now and he hasn't call(i noticed he has changed ever since a new neighbor moved in opposite his flat, my boyfriend tells me many things bout Dz guy even b4 I met him, he is nt in2 relationship ND I think my boyfriend want to be like him... They just met and he likes him)... Pls what should I do? I'm worried Big Sis!
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Hannah_1! Thanks for the comment. You are only assuming and the only way to get your facts is by confirming. I think you should reach out to him and ask him what's going on. You do not have to conclude that he is already uninterested until it has been confirmed. We understand how you feel but concluding is not safe for you. We hope this helps
Pls Big Sis, respond to my Question!!!...
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Hi!! big sis my friend a boy told me he wants to be my boy friend But I told him that I just want us to friends ,he is still disturbing about it and if I tell him no he might get annoyed and stop taking to me. Am confused I don't now what to do
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. There is nothing to be confused about. You need to tell him NO. He has no right to get annoyed and if he chooses to stop talking to you, that means that he is not mature. You do not have to be worried about what others think or do but when it comes to standing up for what you want, do not compromise. We hope this helps
Hi!! big sis my friend a boy told me he wants to be my boy friend But I told him that I just want us to friends ,he is still disturbing about it and if I tell him no he might get annoyed and stop taking to me. Am confused I don't now what to do
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Hi! big sis my boyfriend is always care about me and also cheating on me what will I do?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Eva! Thanks for the comment. Cheating is never an option. You should never allow anyone to cheat on you. You deserve more than a cheating boyfriend. A guy that cares about you will not cheat on you. Please, you need to move on. We hope this helps
Actually he's just a bestie too me because we both attended the same school,but sometime's he act too over protective and i don't understand
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Barbie! Thanks for the comment. Talk to him about it and let him know that you don't like the way he treats you and over projects you. Communication is very important in every kind of relationship we are in. We hope this helps
HEY BIG SIS! I'M NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE I PUSH EVERY GUY AROUND ME AWAY. IS IT THE SIGHT THING TO DO?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey URI! Thanks for the comment. Being in a relationship is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. We cannot tell you whether it is right or wrong because things like these are meant to be done based on your own your own will and not what another person thinks. We hope this helps
HEY BIG SIS.I'M TOTALLY A FREE AND FRIENDLY PERSON AND I HAVE A LOT OF GUY FRIENDS WHICH MOST OF THEM EVENTUALLY ASK ME OUT WHICH ENDS UP BEING A NO.ALSO, I SET HIGH CRITERIAS FOR GUYS TO MEET WHICH I HAVEN'T FOUND ANY ONE WHO COULD QUALIFY.I WILL LIKE TO KNOW IF I'M MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICE OR NOT
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. It is good to set criteria's but you need to be sure that these criteria's are realistic especially for your age and the age/stage these guys are in. For example, you cannot and should not be looking for a guy that will have a car and at the same time, be waiting for a guy that is 19/20 years old. It is possible for a guy that age to have a car but how many guys have cars at that age and even if they do, how did they get the car? Another important thing you need to know is that it is unfair and totally unacceptable for you to set criteria's for the guy when you actually do not fit into that category. So for whatever criteria yo set, you need to be qualified in that aspect and also fit into it. Whether it is the right or wrong choice, this is a personal decision. We hope this helps
Hi Big Sis pls i want 2 know why people date becos my boyfriend usually tell me dat people date so they can hv sex.Is it true?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Felicia! Thanks for the comment. This is not true. No one should date because of sex. Your boyfriend is not correct and he is obviously dating you because of sex. What this means is that you are only valued because you have sex with him and not because he loves you. Also, note that the relationship is over the moment he finds someone else that is willing to give him more sex than you. Everyone goes into relationships for different reasons but anyone that does it for sex does not understand the essence of a relationship. We hope this helps
Hi big sis am 16 and am in love with this boy he too loves me we met through fb thereby i accepted been his girlfriend and he is 22yrs is it wrong for us to date pls big sis i need help and have told him my age but still he says he dnt care abt my age but our love that i shouldnt leave him and this my first date with a guy i dnt want to loose this relationship pls help me big sis tank u
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hi Shontle...Firstly...age is not a barrier in love...it doesnt matter the age gap between u...Secondly....U dnt love him..U might have a crush on him...but this isnt love....love is much deeper...my advice?....1st of all...get to know him better...u can meet somewhere...remember-somewhere open with people around...get to know yrselves better...b4 u jump into anything...remember to follow yr heart...and stay safe...I hope this helps
There's this guy my friends forced me to date him bit i dont like him talk less of loving him but he likes nd loves me I don't want the relationship anymore but i don't know how to end the relationship pls am confused .
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Tell him that you don't love him and if he really loves you as he claims, he should let u go. If he persists, report him to someone you trust, perhaps ur parents. Pls avoid such a person. How did he force u to date him??
There's this guy my friends forced me to date him bit i dont like him talk less of loving him but he likes nd loves me I don't want the relationship anymore but i don't know how to end the relationship pls am confused .
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Yes and they behave normal
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