Always be the best to your bestie

Not only now, but forever

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You might have a big circle of friends.

But there are a few you can trust with your deepest and darkest secrets. They are your best friends

The truth is your best friend today can stop being your best friend tomorrow.

Friendships always take work. All relationships need to be maintained.

If not careful you can lose the friendship.

Lost besties?! That's a total tragedy!

Here are ways to remain the best to your bestie

Don't compete

You're equally beautiful and talented.

There's no need to feel envious of each other.

Your bestie might be better than you at something, but there is something you are also better than her at.

Say things honestly

Many people think that “sorry” is the hardest word to say.

Speaking truthfully and from the heart is much harder.

Be honest but not hurtful with your words.

For example, if your bestie asks what you think about her new hairstyle, don't tell her you don't like it.

Just say something like, “I see you are trying a new look, but let me show you a really nice style you can try next.”

This shows your honest opinion without hurting her feelings.

Give compliments

Give sincere credit and compliments

This doesn’t mean you have to compliment everything. But everyone likes to hear a nice word every now and then.

Friends pay attention to each other, even if it's something small.

Celebrate together

A good friend sincerely celebrates their friend’s achievements.

Is your friend the best student? Congratulate and celebrate him/her!

This goes for anything else your friend is working on.

They worked hard to get the result. Celebrate with them.

The key to strong friendship is supporting and being there for friends when they need you.

It’s the difference between BF and BFF!

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Abasiama

I have a male bestie 😇, he is very nice, loving , caring and funny. Bt I have a big problem with him, he doesn't really call,chat and since he is in school, we seldomly see each other. Secondly, he is nt open to me,he has deep secret dat I dnt knw abt and as besties, we are supposed to knw everything abt each other right??? Bt hasn't told me any, nd I dnt knw how to make him tell me. My instinct tells me that he is this way cos of his girlfriend. Pls I need ur advice.

April 24, 2022, 2:57 p.m.

I which so showing kindness,likness,is needed

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Yeah....... It is needed

Hey uhh am a guy nd new here,am i welcumd ??

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Yeah...You Are

Okay,basically My Bestie And I Are Not In Good Terms,is Like Am The Only One Who's Trying And Fighting So Hard To Make Sure Our Friendship Works,she's The Type That Loves Attention,she Sent Me A Text Telling Me To Get Out Of Her Life,that I Should Just Go,and Since Then I Gave Her Space,we Don't Talk Anymore,if I Call Her She Won't Return My Calls,is Just As If We Don't Know Each Other,along The Line I Heard She Was Sick As A Friend I Called Her To Check On Her,but She Didn't Pick My Calls And She Didn't Even Bother To Return It,despite The Fact That We Don't Talk Like We Used To Do,i Still Love Her,i Miss Her Dreadly,big Sist What Do You Advice Me To Do?Should I Give Her A Call And Talk The Whole Issue Out?Am Really Perplexed

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Give her d space she seeks..friendship is not by force,maybe she doesnt want u no more for a friend,let her be before u start makin' a fool of urself,she might gain her senses back afterwards u've given her space nd a more whole lotta space....

Thanks Dear

Hey Kimberly! Thanks for opening up through this comment. You have really tried and we commend your effort to save yoru friendship. Try and pay her a visit and see how she reacts. If she is still mean to you then you should give her space. Then you will be sure that she is no longer interested in the friendship. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps.

Thanks Big Sist...I Did As You've Said,and Thanks To You We're Okay Now

My bestie is a male,is it okay he is really caring n nice...can besties start dating?

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey MhizIra! This is a personal decision. It is up to you to know and define what you want for yourself and in your relationship. We hope this helps.

Yes dear your right your attitude towards people matters alot most especially toward those you call your friends.

I don't have friend.All my friends have all left me.e

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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my dad told me today that attitude is compulsory in every thing .attitude keeps friends and attitude lose friends. if ur friends don't like ur attitude then u try to change it for the better .if u change ur attitude and u don't still have friends maybe it is not from u tis from them.try to find reasons y ur friends Left u and then adjust ur attitude with those reasons cause ur attitude takes 100% of ur life. a wise man once said.wen ur without friends it feels like a walk in their desert. am not saying ur attitude is bad. just trying to help

Hey chizzy! Thelma has said it all. Go Thelma! That was really wonderful and deep. Thanks for helping big sister out and also your fellow Springster. We really appreciate.

I have three besties... All are guys buh amongst them I am in love with one.. Will it be possible to get rid of d feeling?

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Plss someone shuld give me an advice

Hey Lizzy! Yes, it is possible. It just depends on your determination to get rid of it. Make a conscious effort to do it. We hope this helps.

I Ave A Male Friend Just Ordenary Friend But Wil Are Close To D Extent Like Girlfriend And Boyfriend Nd Some People Even Think May Be Am Dating Him Nd Am Not Dating Him Pls Wat Can I Do Nd Dat Guy Is Gud To Me

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Ewaola! You need to tell them that it is not true. Also, they may be spreading this rumour because of how you interact with the guy. If you are too close or you flirt with him, you may need to stop or reduce for a while so that your friend doesn't think it is true. We hope this helps.

Hum Tankx Big Cysta I We Do It So

Will usually play .And joke together

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

my bestie lyks 2 hurt me by speakin spiteful words abt me at my back bt i cnt let go of her cus frnds stick 2geda

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey KerryGold! We are so sorr about what you are going through. The truth my dear is that you shouldn't be around people that do not make you feel good about yourself. If your friend says spiteful and hurtful words to you and about you then you shouldn't be friends in the first place. True friends are meant to stand with and for each other at all times and not the other way round. Do not hold onto someone that does not have your interest at heart please. Friendshp is not by force. If you have to let go for your own safety and sanity, please do. We hope this helps.

My kind of friends ar nt say understanding,dey always complain when u try to correct them hw can't I get to make then understanding

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Dax True(All u hve t0 d0 is plaY urs r0le&never mind what lt might c0st u!"

Hey Agustina! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We like the fact that you have it in mind to correct your friends. However, have you considered the way you correct them? It may be judgemental and harsh and this may be the reason why they are not understanding. You should try to talk to them and ask them how your corrections sound. We hope this helps

NICE ONE! #PROUDLY_A_SPRINGSTER

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

im a gud friend to ma frnds buh im sometimes carefree

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

I really need help on how to save my friendship

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Lady_preshus! Thanks for the comment. We suggest you read the article and follow the tips written there. They are very helpful. We hope this helps.

keep 'em in the deep freezer

This days is hard to see a trust worthy friend, all i see are hypocrites and back stabbers.

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Goldwyn! Always remember the secret to having friends is to be a good friend. Not all friends are back stabbers and hypocrites. There are some really amazing friends out there. We hope this helps

Don't worried, cuz life is full of challenges.

I need a trustworthy friend bt i avent find one,,pls can u help

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Asat! Finding good friends can be hard sometimes. However, before you start the search for a good friend, you need to check yourself to see and know the kind of friend you are. Are you trustworthy? Will you be trustworthy to your friends? Answer these questions with all honesty. The truth is that you have to be trustworthy/good friend to attract such people into your life. We hope this helps

Hi I can be your friend,if you want

hi asat u mum can b bestie

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

My bestfrnd z in love wit me... Wat shud i do?.

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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If u truly lke de frnd too, den u make it open to him/her

Hey YoungSowe! Thanks for the comment. How do you feel about this? Sad? Happy? Whichever way, open up to him/her and say how you feel about it (whether happy or sad). We hope this helps

Is it bad to have a boy as your bestie?

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey Kylie14! No it is not bad.

My bestie is cool. She z kindof a blabber mouth bt she z caring. I dnt knw bt i think she z proud coz d last tym she came 1st in our klas i felt she was kindof rubbing it on my face. I dnt lyk talkin 2 her abt my love lyf anyway nd xo she says m secretive

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey Springster! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Have you tried talking to your friend about this? You should politely tell your friend about how you feel. Maybe she doesn't know how she is treating you. There is nothing communication cannot do. We hope this helps

my best frnd is nice nd courageous

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

Big sister, Is it OK to feel jealous about my best friends being more popular than me? Guys look at them more than me, they look prettier than me, they are tallr than me and sometimes I feel like they have a leverage over me, I don't stand a chance whenever I'm around them, even on Facebook they have numerous friends and followers when I can count how many friends I have...They post beautiful pictures on Facebook and get more than 1000 likes whenever I post mine I barely get up to 100 and I don't like it, I feel like m not up to their standards though they are all older than me and they are always here for me whenever I have problems but their being more popular than me makes me jealous of them maybe it's because they are tall and m of average height but I believe m still growing I'm Just 16 they are all up to 18 or more... Big sister pls help me since it's about to tear my best friends and I apart.

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey Princess.Muna! It is wrong to be jealous of your best friends. Jealousy is bad and can lead to other things that can get worse. We are all indviduals and we are different. You cannot have the life that they have or their body or popularity. They worked hard to become popular (maybe by being very friendly to others or smiling often or just being nice generally). Being jealous of them or breaking off the friendship won't make you popular, it will only make you bitter and angry whenever you see their friends on facebook or the likes they are getting from the posts they send. Make up your mind not to be jealous of them again and then talk to them politely about this. We are sure they will understand. Another thing you need to do is to learn to love your body. You can redefine what beauty is when you love yourself. Appreciate what you have and how you look and you will see that others will do the same. Thanks for being sincere about this. We appreciate your courage and we hope this helps

Thanks a bunch big sis...ur advice really helped me now I'm going to put everything u told me in practice...m nt going to be jealous of my friends again and I will start or redefining beauty from my own perspective... Thanks once again big sis... This site is really helping me...I'm glad I joined it,,I will recommend it to my friends..

Big sis am afraid 2 tell my best frnd abt my bf becos i dnt trust her pls wat shuld i do?

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

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Hi...if she is your bestie,then you are supposed to trust her and not hiding anything much from her.but if you feel you can't tell her,then don't.

In this word i dont have a best my best frind is Jesus.

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Pls Know frisds u keep okay.

My Friend Always tells Me Wat to Do,and Sometimes Gets Jealos When A Boy talks 2 Me.Is Dat A Real Friend?

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

Hi,my friend sometimes tell me lies and she likes flirting with guys stylishly,most time with guys who are interested in me.What can i do?

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey Crystal! A real friend will not lie to you. Have you spoken to her about this yet? If you haven't, we advise that you do so in a calm way. We hope this helps

i dnt hav a female bestie, is it bad? and, can a boy and a girl besties without falling in love?

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey Gifted! Thanks for the comment. Choosing a friend is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. You do not have to be under pressure to choose a particular sex as your friend. We advise that you do what you are comfortable with. Yes, a boy and a girl can be besties without falling in love. We hope this helps

Sowie I juz saw dis.............. It ain't bahd 2 hv a guy as a bestie. Itz a personal decision. Juz dont get pressured;-)

I dont have a best friend cause I think I cant trust any one am I wrong help me big sister

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey diamond! Thanks for the comment. Trust is personal. You need to, first of all, ask yourself why you do not trust other people. When you figure it out, that is when you will be able to help yourself. Have you been betrayed? Is there anything that has happened in the past that has stopped you from trusting people? Please answer these questions honestly. We hope this helps

my best open up to me, telling me about her boyfriend,often tell Me am handsome,intact she do admire me,i also have feelings for her recently wat should i do

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

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Hey tobyianok! Thanks for the comment. You should get over it immediately. She has a boyfriend and you should respect that. The fact that she told you she admires you does not change the fact that she has a boyfriend. How will you feel if someone starts to have feelings for your girlfriend? That's how it feels. We hope this helps

Sure... Get over it man.

Big sis , hw can i make my friend open up for me , and hw can I make Dem trust me with dere secret

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

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Hey jay5! Thanks for the comment. Trust is earned and not given on a platter. There are no secrets or shortcuts on how to trust someone. You have to make the person trust you. Also, their secrets are their secrets and they do not owe it to you. They will be the ones to choose to share their secrets with you. You have to be the kind of friend you want them to be first before expecting anything from them. We hope this helps

I can't find someone 2 put up wit my behaviour big sis pls help

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

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Hey Gifted! Thanks for the comment. You won't find anyone that will put up with a bad and unfriendly behavior, that is the truth. What you need to do is to work on changing your behavior so that you no longer start looking for people to put up with it but will rather love to be with you and be friends with you because of your amazing new behavior. Highlight what it is that chases people away and also what people always complain about and work on them. We hope this helps

Big sis y is it dat people like telling me their secret nd it will never be leaked out they trust me, Bt once I open my mouth nd disclose my secret to any body dat person will expose it to de air almost every body I tell things about me even my own sister Bt she tells me hers nd I will never say it out, I don't know y am so unlucky, am afraid don't know Hw to share my problems anymore, pls I need ur help

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

pls I need a bestie

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

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I can be ur BESTIE. Kikikikikikikikikikikikikikikiki. LOL

I don't even have a bestie

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

I actually need a bestie,d one dat would always be there for me in any situation

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

woooohhioooo i really enjoy this am new here and following yhu people hope am allow

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

Hi champsundee, You are welcome.

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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hi. ...

yeah, yr welcome

March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.

My bestie is a girl with selfless interest,The other one is a guy with a goid sense of humour.I love their Company.

March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.

I hv 3 bf but i'm closer 2 1 she is d helpful typ and very sincere ,and can go 2 any extent 4 d welfare of her frnds .

March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.

ii which i can have bestei in my life I would be very happy I don't have

March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.

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Me too i don't one, but wish to have one