Are you struggling to find direction?
Here are some tips
- Try new activities when you have the opportunity. You may find a natural talent you never knew you had!
- Encourage yourself by thinking positively instead of negatively. For example, say to yourself, ‘I am courageous, ‘I am beautiful’ or ‘I can do this.’
- Find friends and mentors who support you to develop your talents. Friends can build your self-confidence by encouraging you to keep trying even when you feel down. They also notice when you do well and celebrate with you. Surround yourself with positive friends who encourage you.
- Everyone going through puberty feels strong emotions. When you are feeling overwhelmed by your emotions, it can help to take deep breaths, to do something active like dance or take a walk (if it’s safe), or to find a trusted person to talk to.
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nice. i wish to find more directions
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
nice
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Hmmm
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
how can I learn to be optimistic
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
How Can I Discovered My Talent
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Abiluv! We believe everyone was born with a talent. Whether is it talking, singing, cooking, writing, reading or even taking care of little children. Now to identify your talent, all you need to do is to think of the things you love to do and the things you do without stress. Once you identify these things, think of how much passion you have for them. If everything is positive, you have discovered your talent. We want to encourage you to develop it. No matter what it is, use it for good things and see how far it will take you. We hope this helps.
Type y our comment here...you are right
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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m a gal i dnt knw wat is wrong wit me i brk relationship wit any guy dat cum in contact nt less than 4 mnth
Thanks but Big sister i a problem discovering my talent .... i have passion for two things one îs for cooking the other for Singing and i love doing both of them ...
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Pretty! You don't have a problem dear rather, you have two great talents and all you need to do is to work on them. With proper planning, you can actually do both well and have a great life. Don't be confused, just plan properly and you will be fine. We hope this helps.
hey big sister,i'm a very shy person and i don't really like it, is it natural or is there something i can do?
I just finished my national diploma programme but i dont know wat to do after now i am 23 pls tell me wat to do
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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find a handwork you love to keep you busy, remember< an idel man is the devils workshop>
Hey Ritame! This is a personal decision for you to make because whatever choice you make can either make or break you. However, if you are passionate about education, you can go back for your HND if not, you can look for a job. We hope this helps.
big sister i am a secondary school student and i don't know what i want to study bcos i don't have passion for any of the university courses what can i do to identify a course to study in the university.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Sandra! You need to know what you are passionate about and what you love to do. Do you like to talk, sing, act or dance? Art class is the place to be. If you like to calculate, budget, save, plan finances etc, then commercial place is where you should be. If you are more passionate about everything science, experimenting, building etc, then science class is the place to be. This is a very tough and serious decision to make so we advise that you talk to a trusted adult and also a guidance counsellor in your school. We hope this helps.
Am confused... I really want to play d game Scrabble but my family are against it
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Zuriella! Have you tried talking to them about it? Explain why you like the game and how it helps you think faster and creatively. Also, if playing scrabble affects your chores at home or other activities, you may want to plan yourself better so that it does not affect your basic activities. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps.
Is good to share your story but the person you shared your story with can turn against you in other way.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Sage! You are very correct. One has to be really careful with who they share their secrets. Which is why you have to pick your friends carefully and also those you trust too. Thanks for sharing this.
Poor people can not be closed to a rich people why should it be so
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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it's only this mentality that kills..u see we all Hv different taste your food might b my poison..U can't ask me for money when u N I know u r lazy nd when i gave u u did nothing important wt it..The poor should always strive n b ok wt what they achieve Also the rich should circulate their wealth...N all will be Happy
finding inspiring friend can give one direction
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Be With friend that bring the best for U
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Good friends pls not all friends..!
its just like i feel like am the worst gal living.all my mate are totally in uni or into something but am here so left behind.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Ammynart! Thanks for opening up with this comment. We totally understand how hard it is for you right now but you should understand that everything happens for a reason. You can also get things going for yourself…. Start a business, a skill, hobby, something that will occupy your mind and also give you some money pending the time you gain admission. Also, remember it is not who gets in first, it is who gets in to do what they love and do it very well. Life is a journey, everyone has his/her map. You will gain admission but while you wait, make the best of your time. We hope this helps
thanks ma
I really find myself in this type of situation and I don't feel good because it makes me feel like am a total loss
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Big sis,help me out.i dont know wether i'm talented buh when i found myself in the midst of friends,all i fancy doin is preaching to them & i'm a science student.
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Hey emmzyflemmzy! We believe everyone was born with a talent. Whether is it talking, singing, cooking, writing, reading or even taking care of little children. Now that you have identified what you love doing, continue to work on it and be the best you can be at it. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps.
you know,i don't have issues with my self esteem,but sometimes i feel so bad,i know how to write poems and act very well but i feel bad atimes when i see my elder sister,she knows howto bake,sew,make beads,interior decorations and so many more,i've tried learning some of them but it was a total failure,i feel so bad that as a girl i can't do those:-(:-(!help me please...
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey sharmine! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Sharmine, you do not have to be so hard on yourself girl! You are doing just great for yourself. Please and please, stop comparing yourself to your sister or anyone else. Everyone is different (Yes, even if you are blood sisters). Your interests are different ans so are your strengths. What you need to do is to stop comparing yourself with others and start developing your writing and acting. Be the best you can be for yourself and not to prove a point to your sister. You will be doing more harm than good to yourself. You are a champion girl, do not look down on yourself. We hope this helps
You're probably a Melancholy. My advice; read 'The New Spirit Controlled Woman' by Beverly LaHaye. It'll surely help.
Hi pls help am in to 2 relationship one have child for and another one is pregnant and I want to married only one Wife pls help
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Obajeson! Thanks for the question. Sex comes with responsibilities. Please talk to a trusted adult for guidance on how to handle this situation. And to avoid situations like this next time, please use a condom. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps
One problem wit some men is,they cn't control dem self. I wn't advic u 2 abort dat child bcuz u dn't knw hu e's.
Pls I have a boyfriend that I love but I don't know if he loves me and we only chat online ,he does call me .and we had sex several times ,sometimes I tik to quiet .am confused I need ur help.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for opening up through this comment. You need to stop keeping quiet and ask him how he feels about you. You cannot know if you don't ask. The truth is that communication is very important in relationships. You both need to talk a lot and share your feelings. We hope this helps
What Kind Of Sex.You Mean Sexchat...
My daddy will say communication is the key the relationship strong, talk to to him why is he not call you does he really love you as he say then he prove it. For you to start a relationship with sex is bad
My boyfriend don't use to call me like before he is either busy or not available Am confuse at the moment
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey meemee! Why don't you call him to find out why he stopped calling you. Calling and keeping in touch is not solely the responsibility of your boyfriend alone. What if he is financially down or he is busy with something. Guessing will do nothing that's why you should talk to him about your concerns. We hope this helps
Yes, he used to call you, I strongly believe that you don't call him as he Call you so he is giving you time to see if you will call when he doesn't call. So I will advise you to try to be call him to say hi even when don't have anything to say
There's this girl I love but I don't know if she feels the same way. My friends have adviced me to approach her or delete her from my memory. I chose the latter because I'm too bashful. The problem is that although I've not seen her in months, I can't seem to erase her from my mind no matter how I try. Please, I need assistance.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Jeff! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We understand that it can be hard to get someone off your mind. You can try getting a worthy distraction like sports, a hobby, gisting with friends, learning a new skill... something that will occupy your mind. Also, it is best to delete photos, chats, numbers that will keep reminding you of her. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps
Jeff I will advice u to notice if d girl likes u and u like her too then go to
Go to her
I have a bf dat i love so much bt am having doubts if he loves me d way i do,cos he doesn't call me,give me d attention dat i need nd he's always busy...hav tried talking to him nd he keeps on saying dat he hasn't changed,i jst feel like breaking up with him
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey 8095! Talk to him about it. Let him know how you feel about how he treats you. Communication is very important. You can also call him, keep in touch with him. The final decision is up to you to make. We hope this helps
Put him to test if he really love you and also for counselling from church....
My Name Is Nerry Am A Student I Got My GirlFriend Pregnat And Both Of Us Just Got Admin Nd I Was Afraid Of Abortion What Should I Do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hi Springster, Pls I really need ur advice. D girl dat am dating presently is 20yrs old while am32 & we ar madly in Love with each other, but her Dat insist dat she must go to school. While am getting Older. I don't any other girl aside from her. What should I do?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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If you can persuade her dad into getting her married to you and you paying her fees i think it will work
Hi pals, pls i need ya help a guy asked me to be his gf and i love him too but i told him to wait for me until am through with school but we do chat on facebook,calls and text.I want to ask that is it ok.And is it ok to give out my number to some male friends like my former senior in school?!
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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are u ready for a relationship and the things involved?
hy,please how does a girl handle a heartbreak??
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
BigSis..am just 13+ and someone i like asked me to be his girlfriend what should i do pls??
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If you're ready for relationship and he's good then,accept him. Thank U
IF U FEEL URE READY AND U FEEL D GUY IS OKAY DEN GO FOR IT BUT STILL THINK ABOUT IT
Thanks guys..I will think about it!! But BigSis I still need ur support Please
Please Big Sister
Joyce what do u know about boy nd girl friend which class are u pls run 4 ur life.
@081 thanks dear..^Lol^
Hey Joyce! Thanks for the comment. It is really up to you to make up your mind on what to do as regards this. You have to be sure you are ready to be in a relationship before you go into it. We hope this helps
A girl fall in love with me so deeply but she has a boyfriend and she love me and we are dating and I know she has a boyfriend. What should I do?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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At first tell her dat she should break up wit her boyfriend if she truly loves u.. Then secondly if u do love her ask her to be ur girlfriend.. I Hope This Helps!!
Hey Zaga! The final decision is up to you to make but it is absolutely not right to be in a relationship with more than one person (now this is for the girl). Also, on your own part, why choose to be the second option when you are meant to be priority? You should talk to her about it because she is really being unfair with the both of you. We hope this helps
Nice
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
My dear first belive ur self that u are the best
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Big sis gud day am new to dis group but i need some advice,there is nobody around that can mentor me,i find it diffecult to talk to my mum about my life,i do feel happy wen am among my friend than being at home bt nw i av no friend again we all departed wen we left skul nw i need who to share my feelings with.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Loveth! Thanks for this comment. We totally understand how you feel. When we say talk to a trusted adult, we do not necessarily mean that you must talk to your mum and dad (you can if you feel comfortable with them). You can also talk to an aunt, uncle, cousin, sibling, neighbor, religious leader, teacher etc. Just anyone you trust and you are comfortable with. You also need to be sure that this person will not judge you or take advantage of you too. Do you have anyone in this list above to talk to? We hope this helps
The only way a man can be successful is when you embrace the infinite intelligence and live a good life.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Plz big sis i really loves my partner buh i wasnt so sure mayb my guy also love me....wat cn i do to knw mayb he loves me like i do
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Hey Bukmex! We cannot tell you whether or not a person likes you. You are in the relationship and so you are in the best position to know this. You should pay attention to the little signs and also read the article "Does he like you". We hope this helps
pls big sis I've two boyfriend,my relationship is about 6months with the first one, I just met the second on early this year,so I don't know what to do with both. both of them know that am doub
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Bella! First of all, you do not need two boyfriends. You cannot love two people equally so you need to make up your mind on why you are with two boys because you are totally being unfair to them. Will you like this if a guy did the same to you? We are sure you won't. So think properly about who you can do without and end it with the person. This is for your own good and so that you can concentrate properly too. We hope this helps
i had misunderstanding with my wife four years ago she left my kids 4 me and she decided to stay alone, i wanted to re marry but my daughter say no
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
please I have a girl that we are dating before and we have a daughter but the has left me because her parent don't want her to marry me and her father said we are family because my mother and her father they relate and I love her what should I do now because the girl is already left me now
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey prince! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We are so sorry for what you are going through and we understand how tough it is. There is an organization called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.
plz Big sis their is a question that always disturb my mind, is it true that guys love before sex or vice versa?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey hertheydoyin! Thanks for this question. First of all, you have to note that sex is not love so you should not compare sex and love. People show love in different ways and a lot of people tie love to sex which is not right. There are so many people in relationships that love themselves so much but are not about sex. So do not hold on to the fact that love and sex go hand in hand. Sex is a decision one has to make only when they are ready to handle all that comes with it. We hope this helps
THANKS ALOT FOR HE TIPS......I'LL TRY THEM
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Pls Bigsis i need an answer...this boy i like and he told me that he likes me too, but someone that goes to his school told me that he has a girlfriend at school i didn't believe her until i ask him,when i later asked him he confirmed it to be true but he then told me that i'm his girlfriend secretly..and now he's asking me to be his girlfriend~I don't even know if he still loves that one.! Please Bigsis am confused..
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Springster! There is no need to be confused girl, you just need to move on because it is obvious that he wants to eat his cake and have it. There is nothing like a secret girlfriend. he obviously wants to use you while he continues to enjoy his relationship with his girlfriend. We hope this helps
Thanks BigSister..!! "I love you..............."
Thanks BigSister for understanding..!! "I love you..............."
You're welcome dear. Big sister loves you too
lol^ ur d best
BigSis I need an answer to this serious question please!...there's this boy that likes me and i also have a crush on him, sincerely it was just recently i realized that my bestie likes him but anytime i ask her she just sighs lyk as if she doesn't lyk him..he doesn.t like to talk to her but he loves to talk to me he even calls me on the phone..anytime he talks to me she feels jealous wat should i do please??
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for this comment. You need to sit your friend down and ask her what she wants from this guy so that you know for sure how to handle it. Also, you said you have a crush on him, please note that a crush is different from being in love because a crush tends to die after a while. The final decision is up to you to make but you cannot make this decision until you know what how you really feel about him and also how your friend feels about him too. We hope this helps
Thanks Bigsister 4 ur time to answer all my questions..!
Nyc one^
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HELLO
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Xup
Hello
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Hy Mary Can Hy No U More
Hi pals.i have a question. i have a first love but these days he behave strangely dat we dont talk anymore not that we quitted our relationship.i dont have the courage to question him but i love him.i feel nervous when am with him.please big sister what should i do i love him.meanwhile since we stopped talking he had never approach me.please i need advice
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey luckygold! Thanks for the comment. Why do you feel nervous about talking to him? He is also human. The only way there can be a solution is for you two to talk about it. If he doesn't talk to you, why don't you talk to him and ask him why his behavior changed? That's the way to go forward if not, you both will remain silent. Communication in a relationship is very important and also solves a lot of issues too. We hope this helps
Hey PrettyTomi! Thanks for opening up through this comment. First of all, it is not your fault that you were abused. For him to strip you and abuse you even after saying NO is not acceptable in any way. Also, making you feel guilty about what he also did is wrong. Please know that you do not deserve such treatment. You have a right to have emotions, express them and also be confused (we do not know it all), this is perfectly normal and does not mean that you should be abused by anyone. You should not be in a relationship with someone that puts you at risk or threatens you because it can affect your way of thinking. Please talk to a trusted adult (if you have one). You can also speak to the women at Risk Foundation who help young women who are faced with similar situations such as yours. You can call them on 08 09 21 00 00 9. This service is completely confidential-which means they won’t share what you say to them with other people. We hope this helps
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Hello Frndz
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Hey Oluwafemi! This is a group that inspires and encourages girls in Nigeria and not a place to look for a girlfriend. Grooming and things like these are not allowed on this platform and so we have to take down this comment. Thanks for understanding
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Thanks big sister
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WHAT CAN I DO IF MY BOYFRIED IS DATAING ANOTHER ONE?
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helen try to ask him mayb he still love u
Hey Helen! Leave him. You deserve better. There's no need to drag anything. If he really loved you, he won't cheat on you. You will be fine dear. We hope this helps
Talk to him
big sis i need ur advice,am datin a guy,for like 4years ago,nd i met anodar guy recently d new guy is married.Both of dem av gud plans for me,but am confused of wu to follow.Dey both love me bt first guy is a student of 200l,i need ur advice
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey temmyz! The second guy is out of it. He is not an option at all because he is married. What you need right now is to figure out what you want for yourself. Do not wait for a guy that has plans for you. You need to make plans for yourself first. The final decision is up to you to make but the new guy is not an option. We hope this helps
big sis d new guy really care nd he his ready to marry me,am afriad of student
the second guy is out of it, he did not love u he only wan to take avantage of u and dumpt u, ask God for the right persion.
My boyfriend and my best friend are very close dat i dont kno wat i going on and dey claim to be friend i dont like seeing dem together
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Moreni! Thanks for the comment. This is called 'trust issues'. You need to talk to them about their friendship and let them know how you feel. Remember to be calm about it. You also do not trust your friend and your boyfriend so you should find out why you feel that way. We hope this helps
I'm a new here i need somebody to wlcm me
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
I'm searching a good girl to be my profoser
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Hey Mayana! This is a group that inspires and encourages girls in Nigeria and not a place to look for a girlfriend. Grooming and things like these are not allowed on this platform and so we have to take down this comment. Thanks for understanding
am looking a relationship
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey greatman! This is a group that inspires and encourages girls in Nigeria and not a place to look for a girlfriend. Grooming and things like these are not allowed on this platform and so we have to take down this comment. Thanks for understanding
I don't know I need advice,please tell me how to narrate my ordeal to you
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey AmyJohnson! Just write your comment in the comment box. You will get a response from there. We hope this helps
Please i need a advice. I love my girlfriend so much to the extend that i don't bother her for sex and am sure she loves me too,now i intend marrying her but am not ready and she promised to give me some time so,i need advice on how i can keep the relationship successful till the right time to avoid losing her because I LOVE HER SO MUCH
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Hey SamPerfect! Thanks for the comment. It seems like you both understand yourselves and what you want for each other. Do not try to force anything. Just continue being real and caring. If you both like the pattern of your relationship right now, there is no need to change it. Just continue that way and you both will be fine. Also, you should ask her to tell you what she wants you to improve. This is actually the most important thing to do. We hope this helps
Thanks big sister for always been there for us!
I've been in a non sexual relationship with my girlfriend since dec2015,we broke late 2016 and later reconciled on17th April 2017 only to break up again 2wks after preparing her to go bk to school. Now she's pushing for another reconciliations and honestly I do really love her so much and also want to be with her. But am afraid that am just being used Pls advice me on what to do.
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Hey Zeros001! Thanks for the comment. The fact that you love someone does not mean that you both are meant to be in a relationship. 2 people may be in love but they are not compatible. You both need to find out what has been causing your break up all these years and work on it. If you are already having doubts about whether the relationship will work to not, then be rest assured that it won't work. We hope this helps
Hey big sister I didn't see my comment not to talk of the reply....
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Hey Springster! Please check the article you commented on and search for your comment. Thanks
I am addicted to my girlfriend whom i love so much,we are very far from each other but,i can't count or number how many times we talk.the main thing is how strengthen i feel each time i hear her voice,even when am busy, working or tired i will call her just to boost my energy and courage to do more. SO BIG SIS.,HOPE MY FEELINGS ARE NOT WRONG?
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Hey SamPerfect! Thanks for the comment. There is nothing wrong with always being in touch with the one you love. In fact, it is amazing to know that you are enjoying a long distance relationship. So many people cannot sustain it but you both are doing an amazing job. There is nothing wrong with you expressing your feelings and being in love too. We hope this helps
My girlfriend is the best i love her so much,her birthday is drawing close and we are very far from each other but,i promise to come back and try my best to make that day special for her. So big sister,i want to know the special things i can do for her to make her feel special and to prove my love for her the more. I LOVE HER,I NEVER WANT TO LOSE HER 'COS she was there when my spirit was low and She was there when i don't know what to do. I NEVER WANT OUR LOVE TO DIE!
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Hey SamPerfect! Thanks for the comment. You know your girlfriend much better than we do so it will be just best for you to go with what you know about her and with what she likes. If you need more direction, please ask her what she wants. It will be better and much more appreciated. All the best!
Big sis....pls, at d age of 19 is it good for a girl to av two lovers?
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Hey Springster! No matter your age, it is not right to date more than one person. It is not only stressful but you are also putting 2 other people under mental and emotional pressure. Another important thing to note is that you cannot love 2 people equally. No matter how hard you try, it just won't happen. So please, it doesn't matter how old or how young you are, it is not right to double date. We hope this helps
Big sis ,I find it very difficult to accept relationship proposal from men. Is it normal
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. You have probably not yet found the guy that you really like. Ideally, you should not even accept proposal from just any guy. What do you want from a guy? In a guy? You need to know what you want before you can start thinking of dating. We hope this helps
Thx for all information ... Im precious by name.. Im just new to this gp.. Hope im wlcom?
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Hey Precious! Welcome to Springster! We are glad you find all the information useful. You are definitely welcome. Don't forget to invite others. We hope this helps
My boyfriend have gotten another girl wat can I do to have him back
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. You do not need to do anything. That guy does not deserve you at all. Let him go and move on. You are better than him and you should not be sharing a boyfriend with any other girl. This means he never loved you in the first place. We hope this helps
Forget him and go on,he is not yours dear
am broken Cant sleep
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i love my boyfriend so much and it seems he dont care for me &i cant go a day without thinking about him
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hi big sis,my boyfriend and i were dating when he was still processing his admition,and now he is in university but ever since he has been there,he does not call, text, or even try visiting me,and anytime i call ,he will tell me dat he doesn't want a situation where by he will call and my mom will pick the fhone bcus am still under my mom. pls what can i do, am confused i dnt know whether to breakup or to keep calling him,because the love i have for him is already limiting,n i dnt know y,maybe bcus of the distance or because i don't know what he is doing there.Please help am confused.
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Hey T.A! Thanks for opening up through this comment. When next you both talk, you need to raise this issue and you both need to talk things out once and for all. Assumptions do not work in relationships. So instead of assuming, you both need to straighten things out. Let him know your fears and how you feel about what is going on. Be honest but don't be rude. We hope this helps
hi big sis, I have a problem. I really love my boyfriend but he is asking too much of me. he wants us to have sex and am not ready for that now cause am a virgin. I told him about it and he said that we should do romance. when he explained romance to me I couldn't figure the difference BTW sex and romance. now the problem is he is always talking about his virgin ex-girlfriend.pls advice me on what to do
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Hey leemarh! Thanks for the comment. Sex is not love in any way. You should not be under pressure to have sex with anyone or even romance. If you are not ready, do not force yourself to do it to please him. Comparing you to his ex-girlfriend is not right in any way and so you may want to talk to him about this. The bottom line is that you should talk to him about all of these. If he truly loves you like he claims, he will wait for you and respect your decision to wait. We hope this helps
Well, am new here and I really don't know how it goes....BT I love ur article thou nice one!
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Hey Abbymoren! Welcome to Springster! We are glad you like the articles and stories here. To use this platform, you can freely comment on any article you like or you are interested in. You can also reply comments and talk to other amazing Springsters. Remember that everyone is a Springster so feel free to invite your friends.
Is sex good in the morning ?
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Hey Lyonboy1! This is personal. We hope this helps
Hi am new here thou i like the conversation
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Welcome to Springster Gidorty24! We are glad you like the conversation. Feel free to invite your friends.
hi am jidda am new here and your conversation are really motivating and I love it...my problem is I can't find the right partner cox i did before and the relationship didnt work out so am afraid to fall in love with the wrong person again and the biggest problem am facing is my ex boyfriend friend is proposing to me and is asking my hands in marriage I don't know what to do
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you just need to do just 1 tin to him to knw if he s ready that is if u love him.... Let him knw that u want to go and c his parent to knw them beter from ther any he say wll be the judgement u wll charge hm
Hey jidda! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We understand how hard it is to trust after a horrible breakup but one thing you need to know is that everyone is different and the more you keep holding on to what someone did to you in the past, the more difficult it will be for you to meet other amazing people. The easy way out is to know what you want and what you do not want in a partner. Stick to these things and do not compromise for no reason at all. As regards your ex, you need to go back to why the relationship ended in the first place and why he is coming back. Remember, he is an EX for a reason. Also, if you do not have feelings for him, then he is not an option. We hope this helps
Pls ma am in love with a guy but am afraid 2 date him bcos he might ask 4 sex pls wat should I do
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Hey Diny! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you need to be sure that what you feel for him is really love because it could just be a crush. You need to figure this out first before you even think of a relationship. Another very important thing is that if he not on the same page with you, then the chance of you both dating will be slim. You need to take your time first and sort all of these out before you get to the point of sex. We hope this helps
Tnks big sis
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HELLO I Guess Am New Here,um Sorry Am Confused Is It Normal For A Girl To Approach A Boy I Mean Loving A Boy But D Buy Will Pretend Not Loving U. I Dont Know Why Pls Explain To Me.
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yes it is possible for a girl to approach a boy if she feels like and if she really loves him.
because they dnt knw ur feelings
HELLO I Guess Am New Here,um Sorry Am Confused Is It Normal For A Girl To Approach A Boy I Mean...
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Yes... Nothing is wrong with that
am new hope am welcome big sis
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am new hope welcome dear sis
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am welcome sis
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i want a girl
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what do u mean by that?
Thanks sis d articles was so helpful to me
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Thanks big sis d articles was so helpful to me. Your advices are always so beneficial to me THUMBS UP!
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Beautiful
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tanks fao d advise,,,,,so mature
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Awesome
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Hy big sis, Y is it dat in a relationship both bf nd gf do fight nd there re sumtimes dat dey do fight alot.
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Hey Remtoy! This is normal. They are 2 people are getting to know and understand each other better. This is not limited to just in a relationship, siblings also fight a lot too. This is why we say that you have to be mature enough to be in a relationship to be able to manage such times and to use the right words at such times. We hope this helps
Hy Big Sis. I'm 21yrs Boi Nd I Dont Av A Gf All My Friend Do Insulted Me Buh I Dont Care, I Av A Lot Of Girls By Myside Buh I Dont Av A Confident To Talk 2dan.So Wat Should I Do? Nd Does Pple Cal Der Self My Friend Gf Dey Use To Come My Place Tel Me I Dey Love Me Buh Insult Dan Am Even Convis I Dont No Wat To Do.........
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hello i am new greetlng to every one
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You're welcome!
Hi big sis®! Most of my friends are ladies and it is affecting me seriously. What can i do?
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Hey TernaAkange! We cannot tell you what to do. This is a personal decision that you need to think about properly and make. You can ask a trusted adult for guidance. We hope this helps
Take another step............. If female's friends deos not favour you........ Go ahead and choose the once that will favour you..... Okey?
make them uncomfortable in ur present so they quit ur friendship one day
just follow de friends your spirit match
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if god say it be so no 1 can sy no
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Pls big sister, I don't like to move closer to girls. I don't date, not even a female bestie, I even used to fair them, I even have it at mind that I will not get married. Though, I naturally admires there beauty. But am afraid to cross there path. Maybe it as something to do with my destiny in life. Pls advice.
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Hey Sammy0631! Thanks for the comment. There is no reason for you to be afraid of girls. Girls are humans like you . There is no need for you to avoid them at all. Finally, it is a personal decision for you to make. Just ask a trusted adult for guidance. We hope this helps
what if you r shy to approach a girl what should you do?
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Hey macel! We always advise that you start by being friends with a girl first. It is easier and better. You do not have to put yourself under a lot of pressure and you get to know her better too. We recommend you do this. We hope this helps
Hi big sister. there's a girl am in love with, although we are friends but I have feelings for her but am frightened to tell her because I don't know how I will express my feelings to her either
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Hey Lazzy! Thanks for the comment. Since you are sure of your feelings towards her, we advise that you tell her about it. You can either tell her to her face, call her on the phone, send a text, chat with her or even write a letter. We hope this helps
Big sister, my boyfriend and I had issues and he said he needed space (he wants to be alone for a while) and it's been a month now he hasn't call... (for the past 3yrs such as Neva apun) Do you think I should call him or just focus on my life for now to avoid future complications. What do u think?
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. We advise you still give him the space he asked for. We understand your worry but calling him can make it seem like you are desperate. We hope this helps
Hi guyz am lonely
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Big sister,There is this guy who claimed he loves me dearly...But my doubt is uncleared about him.Mean while,i told him i have a boyfriend already nd i hate to double date..he‘s still coming after me pls what can i do to knw if he really loves me?
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Hey Gwina! Thanks for the comment. If you have a boyfriend already, you have no business knowing if he loves you or not. You shouldn't even pay him the attention you are giving him right now. What you are doing is that you are giving him a chance to get into your life and if you are in a relationship, this is already a form of cheating. You need to know what it is that you want from a relationship. You have to choose who you are focusing your attention on. We hope this helps
Yes Big sis thank u nd You‘re the best
Hi! Please Big Sister, Am kinda Confuse, Still An UnderGraduate Am surrounded With Girls Each Of The Girls Show Me Love And Companion But Am Not Ready For Relationship And The Most funny Thing Is That When Ever I Missed Any Of Their Call.. They Will Start Complaining Or Found Me Around Any Other Girl, Still Complaining. And I Don't Like Any Of Them.. But The Girl I Like Most Is Just Toying Around.. What Should Do..? Thanks.
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Hey DeBliss! Thanks for the comment. You need to let them know that you are not interested in them. This will help you and also help to keep the girls in check. The reason why they are all complaining is because they feel like you are committed to them. Since you are not interested in a relationship, you need to let them know. We hope this helps
I have a girlfriend I love her so much but she does not like me they way I like her she have another guy but when I ask her she denied it what will I do and day by day she is loosing interested in me when I try to forget her I can't am just stoke
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Hey Wiz-bliss! Thanks for the comment. You need to first of all confirm and be sure that she really has another guy and that you are not just assuming things. Next thing you need to do is to talk to her about how you feel. The final decision is up to you to make but if you want to get over someone, the best thing to do is to cut off all forms of communication with her. We hope this helps
I'm really happy 2 hear this and I really like this page.
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hello big sis i got into adate with a guy i luv him so much nd he luvs me too but my fear is ahm now in abuja and his in cross river and i promised him that ahm going to wait for him and he promissed me same he is in de university nd ahm still in sec. sch. ahm scared of de distance help me out
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Hey nikita! Thanks for the comment. Being in a long distance relationship requires a lot of work. You both have to be willing to put in all the work that is needed. You also need to be sure that you are ready to put in all of the work because if you are not willing, you will not be able to work it out. Trust is also an important thing and finally, you should always communicate often. We hope this helps
I need a female friend
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I need a female friend
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pls hw can i find a mentor
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Hey PATB! Thanks for the comment. You need to know what you need the mentor for? Look for someone that is successful in the field you need mentoring and ask the person if he/she can be your mentor. Please note that you have to be careful while you choose so that you do not end up with someone that may want to take advantage of you. We hope this helps
l do have a crush on a boy and i don't know if he likes me .what do i do?
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Hey joy! Thanks for the comment. The fact that you have a crush on a guy does not mean he is meant to love you back. A crush is not love and should not be mistaken for love. The feelings you have for him will fade after a short time because this is how crushes are. If he does not love you back, it is very fine. There is no law that says a guy must crush on you back or even give you attention. We hope this helps
Hi big sister,there is guy dat i love but i don't no if he loves,plr help am so confuse
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my mum sells food outside my sch and each tym my sch mate see me they always mock me and i feel bad I need advice pls big sis..
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