Your profile, your rules
Dear Ms. Tech,
I have been working at my after school job for about 6 months, since I turned 17. Last month I joined Facebook. I was checking it on my phone at work. My boss saw me and wanted to become my Facebook friend. We are not supposed to be on our phones when we are working, so I was afraid I would get in trouble if I didn’t say yes. Now he’s sending me private Facebook messages asking me to meet him outside of work. It makes me feel uncomfortable. What should I do? I really need the money to help my younger brothers attend school, and I don’t want to lose my job, but I don’t like what he’s saying to me.
Sincerely,
Worried Employee
Dear Worried Employee,
I completely understand the need to support your family. Let’s see if we can find a way to get out of this uncomfortable situation! Your boss is clearly not acting appropriately. He is using his position to try to take advantage of you, and that is not right!
Your boss’ actions are called sexual harassment. He is using his position in order to harass you, because he is aware that you really need this job. You have the legal right to feel safe wherever you go, including while working, whether your job is formal or informal.
The first step would be to either unfriend him from Facebook or block him from your profile. That means he cannot see or post things to your page or message you. Hopefully your boss will take the hint and stop his actions. If you feel confident enough, you could also tell him directly that you feel uncomfortable with his messages, and that you are not interested.
If this does not help, or you’re too scared to face him, talk to a trustworthy adult who can help you manage the situation. This could be someone at work or outside of work, such as a parent or a teacher or an older friend. If your workplace has a human resources department, you can also speak to someone there and file a formal complaint.
Remember that it is not your fault, and you should not feel guilty! With the help of a trusted adult, you may be able to resolve things. If not, you may need to decide if having this job is worth it and try to find another one.
Good luck! I am thinking of you.
Love Ms. Tech
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March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Great
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Wow dat's Splendid
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
wow....
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
hi friendsam new here y dont u want ur boss on ur facebook
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Block him after dat applied in another place just put everything in d hands of God
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
tell him u re nt comfortable wth the mssg he sends to u.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Mehn,this is crazy.Just tell him you're not interested apply somewhere else
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
quit frm de job n aply smewer else n put evry tin to god hndz bcz al tinz r posible wit god ok
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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It is nt easy to live bcoz of d money she needs
i dnt let people fuck me up,if i dnt want that final,i dnt care who you are
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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wow
Don't let ur boss intimidate u just because ur an employee. Stand up for ur rights!!!
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Hi girls am here
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
report here
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
is nt bad accepting dat to help ur youngers once
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Bad news.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Dun knw wat 2 do my sis is being punished 4 covering up 4 her frnds relationship in schl
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Aurora! Please report to a trusted adult about this. We hope this helps
u are rilli funny ooo, dont know wat to say jarr u av said it all
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
you have every right to leave if you don't feel comfortable with the way his acting to avoid getting raped I advice you leave and apply some where else or talk to a trusted adult about it cause you're safety is very important
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
don't do what your boss said...he only need your body...use and damp you...thats all
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
U Should Remove Nd Block Him So As 2 Getting U In Furture
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
hy m new here
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Best way is to block me
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Hey..my facebook dnt want to open for d past 3days and am confuse abt dat i want it to be realese so i cn see wats supping
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey coolguy15! Please check your network connection or try deleting the app and downloading it again. We hope this helps
Hee this is exactly what is happing b/w me and my father
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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is he truly ur father? if so, make sure u let ur mother be aware of it.
Hey Homa! Thanks for the comment. If your father is sending you private messages on where to meet him in private then this is really serious and you need to talk to a trusted adult about this because your safety is the most important thing. So we advise you should do is to keep the messages and then tell and show someone else you trust. We hope this helps
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
i also experienced this but with my dad. though am a guy but i dont like having to chat with mu dad on on social media, so i blocked him on facebook and also blocked him on twitter and later told him i deleted my social media account cos its wasting my time.. hehehe
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
how i wish there is a site like this for guys too. Big sister, i really enjoyed your work here though today is first time i will be commenting on this site. you are doing a very good job. God bless u ma. keep it up
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Michelle! Thanks a lot for this! We love the fact that you love what we do here and also, thank you for commenting. We hope to see more comments like these in the future. Maybe in the future but for now, we are all out for girls. Please feel free to invite your friends
Am a guy anyway is there any problem with me being here?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Emmanuel absolutely not cause we are all here to learn.
U can report to an adult if you are afraid
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Hi am new here
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Wat if he accesses ur profile n he sees ur post and he beats u up
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Matty! Thanks for the comment. He does not have any right to beat you up because of what happens on social media. However, if he does, you should report him to a trusted adult immediately. We hope this helps
But wat if ur reli scared of taking 2 anibody at ur wrkplace abt him bcuz evryone iz unda him wen it comes 2 wrk
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! If your boss is sending you personal messages on social media. You should not be afraid to talk because it is your safety that matters. Please speak up and be confident about it. We hope this helps
Hey big sista.dia is guy a meet on fb.hs friendly nd nice nd den he asked me to date him wic i agree witno delay bcos he's irrisistable.i love hm wit al ma hrt.i want to shower hm wit love buh i dnt undastand hm.wan he has a vry foul temper nd is to jealousy wile i also is hot tempered nd so we qurel al dah time.2nd he has a careles atittidute like nt calling nt piking cal no texting no nth.nd to busy too.i remembe he wance said if i cnt bear wit hm i should let hm go doug leta appology dat he is angry buh bihg sis am nt sure he loves me bcos he is taking me nd dat whole dating for granted
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. We never advise anyone to date people they meet online because you can never truly understand them. They show you the things they only want you to see and most times, they pretend to love and care about you. The final decision is up to you to make but the truth is that you need to know that it is not safe neither is it wise for you to date someone you really know nothing about. We hope this helps
girl no date am cause e no go last at all at all.