Five Ways to Be More Confident

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Sometimes the world gets a little too much for us girls. Our bodies are changing and we’re trying to figure out who we are. In times like this, we might doubt ourselves and lose our confidence.

But let’s look on the bright side. We don’t always need someone else to remind us how amazing we are. We can do it all by ourselves.

Keep reading for tips to help you become more confident:

  1. Say it Out Loud: Whenever you’re feeling down, stand in front of a mirror and say, “I’m worth it,” “I’m good enough” or “I can be anything I want to be.” Choose the one that best suits your situation. Say the words again and again. The more you do, the faster they’ll sink in and become true.
  2. Learn New Stuff: Knowledge is power. Read many books & online articles and ask questions about things you don’t understand. Take up a skill like painting or drumming. You’ll be surprised by how good it’ll make you feel.
  3. Don’t Be Hard on Yourself: It’s normal for us to make mistakes. We’re human. Whenever you do anything you’re not proud of, ask yourself what you’d tell a trusted friend in that situation. Then tell yourself the same thing and cheer up.
  4. Don’t Compare Yourself To Others: We’re all special in our own way. The next time you want to compare yourself to anyone, stop and remember that you’re unique. Better yet, write a list of ten things you love about yourself and read it often.
  5. Set Personal Goals: We all have ‘something’ we’ve always wanted to do. For instance, if you’ve always dreamed of saving a certain amount of money, you coold start spending less pocket money on treats like gala, biscuits and drinks. Instead save that money for something you need like a textbook. Achieving a goal is a great way to boost your ego.

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my secret to my confidence is prayer nd encouragement

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

Good advice

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

thanks

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Tnks

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

Hi,ammynart i think know u

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

determines

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

Your comment want determine what they your mind don't forget to comment right

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

Action speaks louder than voice

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

I dnt have much confidence no one to talk to.

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Love! You always have your friends, family (immediate and your Springster family) to talk. To get more confident, we advice that you follow the steps in the article. They can be really helpful. We hope this helps.

You have a phone chat with your friends ....it help,ask them out for friendship it will make you defeat your fears....loneliness and boredom are silent enemy of man,be around good people as much as you can.....speak your mind for it will make your friends know your personality Have good friendly qualities it will attract good friends to you Never go for less because you are superior Can we be friends?

Yea,love,Shugaboo n I can be friends my username on fb is Tebrimam Ira n u guys?

I av confidence bt nt self confidence...sometimes i cn be chatting with some confidently bt i will nt be able to talk confidently to d person face to face

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Snofee! It happens a lot to so many people. We have given you so many useful tips in this article. Read them and apply them. They work. We hope this helps.

Hey Springster! We removed this message because you added your personal information

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

Okay am sorry for not strictly the rules

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

Hey sis,i have 2 friends and we do things together,but am noticing them that when am not with,they start gossiping about me,advice me

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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How do you know they gossip about you....?

Hey Kiki! You all need to talk things out. If you are close, then you all should be able to talk things out. When you all start suspecting yourselves, it means that you are no longer comfortable among yourselves. Talk things out and clear the air. Tell them your suspicions politely. Holding it in will only make you angry or even jealous. We hope this helps.

Am always a shy type how do I over come it?

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Pater! You need to overcome your shyness. You can start by talking in front of small crowds (family members, friends and neighbours). From there, you move to fairly large crowds in your community and place of worship. This is just to boost your confidence. Once you overcome this, you can overcome anything. We hope this helps.

I read alot of important scripts,grow myself spiritually through God coz i want to be healthy in spirit & body. I believed & have faith in my gentle self.this alone makes me a special being

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

GOD first

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

hello big sister i have two friends and they are my seat mates at school sometimes when our teacher is not around they will start romancing me or they will start talking about sex,boyfriends,and girlfriends and they will tell me that when i'm indoors i should take a biro and put in my private part or i should take a pillow and have sex with the pillow so big sister how do i isolate my self from this girls

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Stephanie! If your friends are influencing you badly, please talk to a teacher or any other trusted adult. Also, please change your seat and also reduce communication with them. They are bad company for you and you should learn to say NO to them. Please note that we are not asking you to start a fight or quarrel with them but we are all about your safety. We hope this helps

Im happy for who God made me

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

Happy to be myself.... BT Mum is always comparing me &Not Appreciating me..Wat should l do Big sister??

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Bannie! Thanks for the comment. Have you tried talking to your mum about this? We suggest that you should. Politely tell her that what she does affects your self esteem and makes you feel unappreciated. You may be surprised that your mum doesn't do these intentionally. We hope this helps.

I often get depressed, I can't help looking down on myself and most of the time others look down on me. Is there any way to redeem my status quo?

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey cie_jae! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We are so sorry about this. There are so many ways to gain your confidence back. The first is stop looking down on yourself (yes, you can. Start looking out for the good things you can do for yourself). The other steps are listed in the article. Please read the article. We hope this helps

have this feeling dat u can do it nd dnt care abt wat people say abt u......

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

I often feel insecure when i see some of my friends...i feel lyk they r socially wiser than me...nd i also feel depressed wen people tell me dat my younger sis is more mature than me

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

knowing that confident comes from d spirit but constance prayer bring it to fulfilment

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Dats true

Dats true

,hey it,s intresting and i hve learnt,something how do i invest my savings ,

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey miri! Thanks for the comment and we are glad that you have

ITHINK ITS TRUE

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

the secret is the fear of being a failed lady

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

9ice writeup

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BEING BOLD

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am also happy to be myself. but i have two friend at school wu hate me wat can i do big sister because am tired of them

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey Springster! The answer is obvious. If you are sure they hate you and you are tired of them then it is time to cut off from them. Do not fight or quarrel with them just let them know (politely) that you are no longer interested in being friends with them. It's that simple! We hope this helps

but i like dem big sister

Hi dear?

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

nice one

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

It's Really Super Confidence

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

AM LOSSING MY BABE

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

Hello

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

Pls i don't no how to start my life my mother is not feeling fine she is mad pls how will i make it to save my younger once pls help

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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I Think These Will Help: 1) Learn A Handwork,Something To Support You. 2) Be Prayerful 3) Be Humble

Hey nkeoma! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We are so sorry for what you are going through with your mum. We can only imagine how painful it is for you and your siblings. There is an organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call for counselling. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Please be string and know that Big sister and other Springsters will always be here for you. Good luck with everything.

Since am NEW here who is BIG SISTER_am just curious & 'll like to know u better (maybe name etc...personaly) NO OFFENCE

Pls how could I say it boldly to my girls either she is love me intentionally or not,pls help me out

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey Omotosho! Just say it! LOol. But seriously, you should just say it but if you are shy, you can place a call, send a message or write a letter. Just choose what you are comfortable with. We hope this helps

Holle morning

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

I think am ok now

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

thank god i am happy now

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

big sis i don't like it anytime you place a picture on a topic the girls are muslims anytime i see it i get initimidated like it only muslims are in the world and am a chrstian i need an answer big sis

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey pinky! We apologise if you feel offended by the pictures but let us be honest here. Sprinsgters don't discriminate! Christians and muslims are all humans. We do not appreciate the hate or segregation. We try to keep it balanced here. We live in a country that has both Christians, muslims and traditionalists so you cannot think that the Springster site will favour only one religious group. We advise that you take this mindset away as it is very discriminatory and may affect you on personal grounds. Sprinsgter is for EVERYONE and it will remain that way forever because EVERYONE is a Springster. We hope this helps

PLS and pls we a sorry if muslim offend u pls 4give us and makavir if it me i would have live are but am so sorry

My Bro, pictures of watsoeva kyn no mata, all dat mata is dat we re educated a lot, isn't it?

Big Sis I Have A girl She Is A Virgin I Too Am A Virgin We Promise Ourself Dat We Won't Have Sex Till Our Wedding Day & She Can't Conrol Hersrlf, She Go Have Sex With Other Man, The Matter The Bornder Me

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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Hey Mekaiver! We are so sorry about what you are going through right now. It can be really painful. The final decision is up to you to make. We hope this helps

But what about been shy & unconfident in public or on the streets except when going out eg school or Church

March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.

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LOOK INTO THERE EYES TELL YOURSELF "I CAN DO IT" DON'T ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE INTIMIDATED.

it is positive and I really learnt so many things from this story

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

Nice one keep up

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Am not pumpus, i don't add value to my self. Am teal me.

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That One It's Nice

Am real me.

March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

don't ever let anyone discourage you because of your height, size , thinness or fatness. you are beautiful the way you are, always remember that.

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey miss-suzy1! Unfortunately, there is no like button but this comment is endorsed by Big sister! You are truly a Springster and this is how all Springsters should think and behave. Thanks for sharing this.

hi i am 22.' i have a very small breast and is not surpose to be so. and always feel bad about it what should i do

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey nne! Thanks for the comment. Why do you say it is not supposed to be so? The size of your breast is hormonal and should not be compared to others. What you need to do is to learn is to love your body the way it is. There is no particular way or size your breast is meant to be. If you keep looking at others, you will continue to hate your body and you will keep feeling bad. Please love your body and embrace it. We hope this helps

i have small breast and io feel bad about it what should i do

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey nne! We have given you a response but just a reminder that you should love your body and embrace it the way it is. We hope this helps

Manage it like that,some are like it like that.i l like it

Whenever i learn something new,it boost my confidence

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Yes Tiga! That's the way it should be. That's great to hear

Saving is very imfortan, advice me how i'll save money.

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey Mayana! Thanks for the comment. We have written so many articles about saving and ways to save. Just search for "saving" or #money at the bottom of the page and then choose from the many articles we have for you. We hope this helps

Hi!big sis,it's actually my first time here. well i really find this article as the best confidence boost ever seen .thank u

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey mitchbela1! We are glad you love this article. We had you in mind when we wrote this article. Thanks for this amazing feedback. Feel free to share it with your friends

Hello big sis, it's first time being here. Please I'm too shy nd don't know what to do.

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Just be yourself

guyz plz i relly need your help plz when is veletine&i need a veletine message

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

is the stuffs only for girls

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No jcee u are welcome and pls reply

To be confident trust in yourself. Be bold,don't let people see you are afraid or not sure. Biting of finger nails show lack of confidence

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

Do things that you are afraid of doing. The moment you fo that, you conquer your fear. Mind you fear, is a disabling frame of the mind. It only exist in our mind.

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

Take a bold step do not allow circumstance or background to pull ur back down,trust in urself

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

How can I be confident in my dressing

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Hey Springster! You should wear clothes that you are comfortable in. That's the first step. When you are comfortable in a particular outfit, you are free to move around as you like. Also, wear clothes that make you feel good and beautiful. We hope this helps

Hello am new here..pls how can I be confident when walking ,especially when I walk pass boys on d streets,my steps automatically change..The worst is that I have knock-knees (k-leg) ,so I try covering them by forming bow legs.

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

hey sis is there true love out there coz i need one

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

big sis pls reply

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

i alwaz feel that i am the only me in dis world that without me there is no other me.i luv dis platform may God bless the day it was created

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Amen

I've confidence in myself because i'm intelligent,brilliant and beautiful.

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

how do i kno real

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

Yaa am very proud of my self and my life living style,, i had wisdom, i can be able to control my self in any condition i find my self, and yet i believe doing things by it times no matter how long it can take, i always manage the Little @ hand

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

I'd put that into practice Thanks

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

I don't think fear is bad... I think it keeps us alert and vigilant. A hero is not he who is fearless but he who thrives in it... When you're not afraid, you lose causion and finesse. If you concur or disagree, let me know.

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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I clearly agree with u

You Don't Forgive People,you Get Enough Power And Strength To Crush Them You Bring Them Down That's How I Feel Right Now He's Gonna Pay

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

So fantastic i agree

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

Sometimes i get lesbian urges which i don't like bit i like girls to boys. pls can u help me.

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey Vicky! Thanks for the comment. This is normal especially for people your age. You need to keep an open mind and do not be too quick to conclude. You are still very young and you have a lot more to see and know. Do not conclude at this stage. A lot of girls feel this way at this stage but it does not always end up to be the case. We hope this helps

Be yourself always

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

For Me, I Have An Ambition To Be An Civil Engineer. But Unfortunately My Uncle Say I Should Rether Nurse.Am Confuse Wad Sho I Do?i

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey Bouncer! Thanks for the comment. You should talk to your uncle about this and let him know why you prefer civil engineering to nursing. Also, state reasons why you will make a better engineer. We are sure that he will understand better. We hope this helps

Confidence is biult on knowing what, who you want to be, it is all abaut crativity.

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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nice quote crown.

Nice

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

How can you tell ur mother that you now have a date at the age of 19

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

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it is so easy,just begin a conversation with her den find a way to tell her.

How can you tell ur mother that you now have a date at the age of 19

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

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Your old enough to date if I'm say.but I guess you should wait for big sister's say

Can I date a guy of 23 ,when am just 19. Pls I need ur advice

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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Hey Alicesty! This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. You need to first of all know why you are even going into a relationship in the first place and also what it si that you want in a partner. You should also know what it is that attracted you to this guy. We hope this helps