Have Fun, Stay Safe
Hanging out the safe way
As teenagers, spending our free time with friends is a cool thing to do.
Sometimes, hanging out makes us feel all grown up. And this makes sense. The older we are, the more activities we are allowed to be part of. We are allowed to do more things when our parents and guardians are not around.
For you, hanging out can mean going to a party with friends.
For others, it can mean going to an eatery or visiting a new mall.
Most of the time, it’s harmless fun. But sometimes it can be unsafe. Things can get out of hand and beyond our control. This is why parents and guardians worry about us going out sometimes. We need to show them that we can make the right decisions to stay safe.
We can be safer by remembering the tips below. Especially if we’re hanging out with a boy
- Try to hangout in groups like if you’re meeting a boy take a friend along - tell him to bring his friends too and make it a fun group activity like hosting a picnic or a fun match.
- Avoid isolated places. Try to always meet friends in places where there are other people who can see or hear you. This will ensure you have help if anything goes wrong. Your hangout place should also be a place where you are free to leave and get home safely and quickly if you need to.
- Don’t drink alcohol when you are 18 years old or younger. This is illegal in Nigeria. Taking Illegal drugs will put you in a lot of danger even if you are just holding them for someone you can be charged. Avoid being around people who do drugs or want you to do them too.
- Tell your parents/guardian where you are going, who you are going with and when you will be back
- Don’t go off with strangers. Even if you meet them with people you know.
- Don’t leave home without a phone or money to make a call if you need to.
- Never be alone with someone who has been drinking a lot or taking drugs.
- Never get in a car with someone who has been drinking or taking drugs.
- Don’t leave your drink or food unattended when in public.
Have you ever found yourself in an unsafe situation? How did you handle it?
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I Don't Have Best Friend That I Can Tell Were Am Go To Visit Someone Even At Home I Lie To Them That Am Go To My Mum Place Y My Go To Boy House I Know Is Not Gud Pls What Can I Do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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you just av to stop it
Hey Tailor! Thanks for the comment. That is not safe at all. Someone should at least know your whereabout for safety reasons. If something happens to you, no one will know your actual whereabout and this may even put your mum in trouble because you have already told them you are going to see her. Please have a trusted adult you can freely confide in. We know you want to have fun but please, you have to stay safe too. We hope this helps
Hello I need a good lady that can take good care of me
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
hi sis.I find it difficult to go out b/c of my size. I always feel lyk am 2 small 4 my age and it makes me 2 feel withdrawn
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Your stature should not make you feel that way. You are smallish in stature does not mean that you should be anti social. What you need to do is to learn to love yourself because if you do not, people will definitely take advantage of you all the time. Make good use of your stature. Small girls are also pretty too you know. The irony is that someone somewhere is wishing to be like you. So please girl, love yourself. We hope this helps
may Lord Almighty bless Nigeria
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hello dear do you mind if I get your pin let chat
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Kelly! This is a group that inspires and encourages girls in Nigeria. Requesting for personal information and also sharing personal information is not allowed on this platform. Thanks for understanding
Hi
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Please I would like to know if there are appropriate times for a babe to cross her legs when sitting in the public?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Dumebi-9! This is a personal decision and it is up to you to do what is convenient for you when you like too. Create your own rules and work with it. Just be sure you are not doing anything that is overly disturbing to the public. We hope this helps
Haw can i fun safe whit girls
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Pls... I Have Big Belly.What Should I Do To Have Flat Belly?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Cz! Eat healthy, drink lots of water, reduce your starch and carbohydrate intake, exercise, try not to eat dinner after 7 pm for proper digestion, eat fruits, don't skip breakfast and have fun while doing these. We hope this helps
I had been in an unsafe situation b4,where i was with a guy nd d nxt tin was he started romancing nd kissing me.i had2push him away nd tld him i didn't lyk it nd he let me go
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Unique! Thanks for sharing this with us. We are so sorry about that. Please, for your safety, try to avoid being in enclosed/private places with these type of people. This is for your safety. Also, a trusted adult or someone you trust should always be aware of your whereabout. Once again, we are glad nothing happened to you. Thanks
hey snr sis i tend to av big chicks which i dunt lyk h0w do i c0ntrol it pls
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Gold! Having big chicks is natural to you and there is little or nothing you can do to take it away. What you need to do is to learn to love your chicks the way they are. Chubby chicks can be cute you know. Love it and flaunt it because you have it. You are beautiful! See it, love it and say it. We hope this helps
Don't forget you are wonderfully and fearfully made dear! since you've got it,flaunt it.
I was invited by my frnd a boy preciselx to hangout in is house .0nly my junior sis is aware of .how do i make it safe ?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Gold! The best way to make it safe is to not visit a boy (especially when you do not know his intentions) in a private place because you can be violated. Please and please, if you must go (which we do not advise), let a trusted adult be aware of this. You can choose a location in an open place for you both to meet. Please stay safe girl. We hope this helps
hello snr sis y do i feel dis seriouse hormonal discharge by mere staying close to a guy pls
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey GOLD! Thanks for opening up through this comment. You are sexually attracted to some of these guys. This sensation is felt by all girls especially to people you are attracted to (it tends to increase when you are ovulating too). You are not alone, we all experience this. We hope this helps
yes.when my mum is talking to me am always shy
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
BIG SIS CAN WE HAVE FRIENDS HERE
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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hmmm yes of curse
Hi gud morning. I don't know what's wrong with me 'cus i always feel shy whenever am out even to go to an errand causes shyness 4 me. WHY
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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may be u are Fulani tribe like me@
Hi,pls I need advice,am confused of my feelings between two guys
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Good advice.I'm so much in love with this.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Hi guyz
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hi Sarkozy
In my school a guy approached me saying he loved me. I liked him at first but he made the first move. Due to our religious belief not to have a boyfriend or involved in a relationship with a guy I got scared to accept the fact I liked him before everyone even though he had made it known to everyone and is ready to defend it but I can't. His a good friend and gives me advice not even my girl mate could tell me. His truthful to me but I can't be in any relationship with him and his frustrated eating me to acknowledge him. What do I do?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Explain the situation to him, since u said he is a good friend then he will understand
Go straight n tell him the truth n see wat will come up next
is it right to kiss and have romance with a guy you are dating?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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I don't see anyting wrong wit it if you are more than 18
Hey Sharon! This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. @richard is also very correct too. We hope this helps
I am new
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Hello big sis.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
My mum doez nt allow me go out with my frnds am always in doors nd I dnt lyk it.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Hello big sister,i wish i had some1 to talk to,my mum n i do not really have one on one discussion at times she feels am too small or maybe bcos am a girl am usually indoors n if she sees me wit any boy,she will get upset n ask if i want 2 get married so soon n am 17,i also rarely make friends pls i need help...
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Have you tried talking to your mum about how this makes you feel? If you haven't, please do. Politely tell her that talking to boys does not mean that you want to get married. Another thing is that you need to gain the trust of your mother. Once you do this, you will see that things will be better. We hope this helps
i love kisses from guys bt my bf's romance style z getting out of hand,pls what do i do?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Talk to him about it. Communication is very important in every relationship. We hope this helps
I love hanging out with friends and all...but my Momma is the type she doesn't like me hanging out or wanting friends come visit me. She just loves me being indoors. Big sis I'm not okay with it, what can I do?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
i like hanging out,but my sisters wo'nt let me and am 14 already big sis pls i need ur help
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Am dating a guy g dnt love but am afraid to break up with him wat should i do big sis
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hello Kimani, This is a difficult situation and it is a good thing that you are trying to do the right thing. The most important thing is to ask yourself what you want in a relationship. If you want to be in love then you are not getting what you want so it is best to end the relationship. If you decide to break up, it should be a conversation between just 2 of you but do it in a public place to make sure you are safe. We hope this helps.
I like hanging out wit my friends , but my dad don't want me to ..I tried explaining to him but he was still not OK wit it ...pls help me out big sis...
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey DOJ! Thanks for your comment. Your dad not wanting you to hang out with some satin people could be for your own good, there most be something he has seen that makes him react that way. If you think your dad is wrong about them try speak to your mom about it or a trusted adult that can help you speak with your dad. We hope this helps.
Thanks big sis