How to start a conversation with a boy

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Being a teenager is great—most of the time. Certain things can be hard, e.g. talking to guys. Because when you see that guy you like, your heart starts beating real fast. You get all shy and tongue-tied.


If you’ve ever been there, you’re not alone. Getting to know guys is a normal part of growing up.

Truth is, guys are human too. They’re not any more special than you. In fact, they’re probably just as shy as you. These tips will help you get talking to that guy:

Say Hi or Hello
When next you see him, smile and say hi or hello. Your confidence will shine through. You’ll be surprised that he’ll smile and say hi too. Afterwards, you can introduce yourselves.


Find Something You Both Like
It could be a book, a hobby, even a sport. Let’s say he’s reading a book you love. You could start by saying, “Hey! That’s a really good book.” He might be happy to hear you’ve read it too. Or if you both like football, ask about his favourite team. Then see where it goes.

Be Friendly With His Friends
Some guys trust their friends’ opinions a lot. So if you know someone who knows that guy you like very well, try being friendly with the person. It might just make that guy think you’re pretty cool. Next thing, he’ll want to be friends with you too.

Ask a Question
Try asking simple questions that’ll tell you more about him. For instance, during your youth group meeting, ask how he spent his weekend. Or what he thinks about that hot new song. Remember, avoid asking questions you wouldn’t want to answer. Look him in the eye and listen carefully while he talks. Guys want to be seen and heard—just like you. So this’ll earn you high marks in his good books.

Compliment Him
This is one of the oldest tricks in the world. Because it works! Who doesn’t love a genuine compliment? Just keep it simple. Compliment his shirt, his shoes, or his haircut. It’ll make him feel good about himself. Then he’ll take it from there.

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There is a guy his name is ridwan I had a crush on him wen I was in JSS2,so in my jss3 the love was reducing till now in ss2 buh I like to b around him, talk to him and flirt with him nd I tell everyone dah I dnt lyk d guy, his ugly and abusive words. Buy I av a feeling dah he lyks me coz wen he sees me in d morning he calls me nicknames buh don't greets me or wen he sees me anywhere, d next for him to do is to smile at me. The tin is I don't get is it dah does he he has a crush on me or not? coz in jss3 he had a crush den, nd he told me he does boh av a crush bug pple still match make dem and he says nothing big sis pls help me wat can I do with dis guy

Nov. 27, 2022, 1:22 a.m.

This is great because i have a crush that i really like so i would like to start talking to him and this steps here are the best steps to ever take thanks big sister i would always love you.

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey Misty! We are glad this helped. Big sister loves you too Misty. Don't forget to invite your friends to learn these tips too

I know this guy....his mother owns a shop around where I stay and he usually helps her in the evening to sell her wares.... he's fine sha and tall he na has moustache on top😩....I don't think I have feelings for him but talking to him would be nice but I don't know how to do it... anytime he sees me coming towards the shop he starts smiling....I have three problems big sister..how to talk to start the conversation....talking to him and what to talk to him about...I know you will always come through... thank you in advance💝

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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HEY SPRINGSTER! JUST TRY AND WORK ON YOUR CONFIDENCE, THERE'S NOTHING HARD IN SPEAKING TO THE GUY YOU LIKE........TRY THE TIPS IN THE ARTICLE ABOVE, AND DON'T FORGET TO TELL US HOW IT GOES

Chommy is absolutely correct you just need to be confident i have that kind of case too Gesi i guess we are in the same shoes *-*.

Thank you for your replies chommy and misty....I wasn't expecting it😩.... it's true sha but I'm just scared he will not answer me.... that's how I feel when I wantu talk to somebody I have not talked to before

Hey Gesi! Thanks for the comment. We understand how you feel and that is why we have written this article for you. Just follow the steps and we are sure you will have a very good conversation with him. We hope this helps

wen i started talking wit dis guy in our neighbourhood .i first said hi den i asked if he has any story book,he said 'yes' i told him 2 help me wit 1,he gave me 2.buh later i wanted 2 start a discussion he soundde like he was nt intersted.i withdraw i dont know wat 2 do 2 start a discussion again

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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I am think you should leave the guy alone so it won't look like cf you're forcing yourself on him.

tinx bhella...i think dat's wat i'll just do

Hey KIMMY! Thanks for the comment. Sometimes, it is best to give some time before you start a conversation. You can go back to him after a day or 2 and just say something or when you return one of the books, you can start a conversation. It was probably awkward for him at that time. Boys have feelings too you know... What if he also wasn't in the mood to have a conversation that day? Don't just give up! You can try again and see how it goes. We hope this helps

Hi Bigsister

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

Hi Bigsister! Thank U For Answering All My Questions, Pls how will someone fill when he or she is in love.

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey Springster! You are welcome. We have also written an article to help you know the difference between crush and love. Please search for the article "Crush vs Love: Know the difference". When you read that article, all your questions will be answered. We hope this helps

big sis,my crush asked me out,am i safe to date him? pls i nid a quick reply

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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u just sayed ur crush remember a crush die in few times therefore u are not safe

Hey Mama! Thanks for the comment. Victor is right! The fact that he is your crush does not mean that it will automatically become love. A crush will fade away after a while so what will happen when the feeling goes? Will you then break up or will you continue in the relationship? Think about it properly. The final decision is up to you to make. We hope this helps

hello i am new hear am i free to comment??

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hey teska! Welcome to Springster. Yes, you are free to comment and invite your friends here too. We hope this helps

i tink u are correct.Be cos it once happen 2 me.

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

Hi bigsis there was a guy in my street i dont no him and he asked me out, should i accept?Please help.

March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.

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Hi Preshi,xori for interfering bt dnt u think u need 2 knw d guy very well at least study im first b4 u think 'bout anything lyk relationship.

Hey Precious! Mhesyluv is very correct. You need to know the guy very well before you get into a relationship with him. You both need have a very good understanding of yourselves and also what you both want from each other before you start a relationship at all. Relationships come with lots of responsibilities and if you are not on the same page with your partner, you will have to endure instead of enjoy your relationship. Please, do not say yes to just any guy because he asked you out, you need to know what you want for yourself too. We hope this helps

hi,am new i hope am welcome

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Yh ur welcome

I have boyfriend and we both love each other and recently I met a guy,he ask me out at first but I rejected him and told him I ave boyfriend,so we later became frnds and now I notice dat I like him more and always want to be wit him,am suddenly missing him.so now am confused cos am already having feelings for him and I also don't want to loose my boyfriend and I don't want to double date.....big sis pls help

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. You need to go back to why you started dating your boyfriend in the first place. What was the attraction? Also, you need to ask yourself what it is that gets your attractions in a guy. This will help you to know what it is that is making you like this guy. It may not be love but a crush but the only way to find out is to ask yourself these questions and answer them sincerely. Do not make a decision until you do this. If you do not know what you want in a partner and out of your relationship, you will most likely be in and out of relationships frequently. There's more to relationships than just liking a person. We hope this helps

yeah I started a conversation online with a guy I once crushed on. It wasn't that bad though. The chat went well.

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

Hi mhesyluv thanks for de advice,dont be sorry for interffing .Can we be friends?Because i am new here

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

hi, i no of guy he is attending my school, he asked if i would be his girlfriend, i accepted cos i luv him and as we were moving on ,he gave me a kiss for de very 1st time.and now he went 2 tell people dat we are dating and it was not true and i was angry at him and i brokeup with him,and now his begging me, pls should i accept him back? i need your help.

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey Precious! Thanks for the comment. The final decision is up to you to make. However, it doesn't seem like you both understood each other well before you started dating. You said yes to his proposal and so that automatically means that you are dating so he was not lying. That means that you are not sure of what you want from a relationship. Why then did you say yes to him if you did not want him to tell others about you both? Relationships come with lots of responsibility and it is all about your maturity to handle them. We hope this helps

YES

Hy, i have a situation i dated dis guy in ma skul nd we broke up cuz he was double datin me d next term he asked me out again nd i agreed . We broke up again nd he nd i dated oda pple nd now he asked me out again nd i started having feelings 4 him bt i told him 2 wait 4 a term b4 i give him an answer cuz i dont want d same tin 2 happen again. 1 day we were chattin on FB nd he started saying mean/dirty tins 2 me nd i insulted a lil cuz i still like him den i blocked him bt i unblocked him we stopped talkin den a week l8r he started flirting wit me bt he didnt apologize 4 wat he did .Am so lost i dont knw wat 2 do cuz i still hve lil feelings 4 him.

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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I am so sorry for what is happening to you well he can be playing with ur life and it can be dangerous and u can not trust him completely%-)

Big sis can u pls answer d question

No offence I don't no y a girl would like a boy, I don't ave emotions for anybody except my mum, everyone no's I like beating boys at my skul and I dislike boys not also interested in dating, so d story is a boy asked me 2 be is girlfriend I said no he asked y I said bcos I don't like u he looked heartbroken and I felt sorry for him, he never spoke 2 me I didn't care now recently 1 bad boy in my set asked me out I felt irritated cos i hated him gave him a slap and is friends tried 2 beat me until a teacher came. Now everyone says I am wiked.Big sister do u tink I ave a problem with emotional tings I need ur help

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

Hi

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Big sist Emergency. I've started my waec exam and I'm making progress.i had the shock of my life on the day of civic education. Am an art student I only have Three subject in common with the sciences and civic was the first. I had seen the guy before in the school compound because most of the candidates of about 130 only 20 were from the school.. the first time I saw him Wal into the compound I stared at him a lot. But I didn't know we sat together. I've seen him for two days nw and just one subject together to go. We say a few hi's and I know his name,i guess he knows mine. The first day.i was happy when what I read came out as most of the questions so I was singing happily bt quietly.im a lover

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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It's me.. I'll continue so I'm a lover of pop and I'm surprised he knewthe song we sang together.it was beautiful. We noticed we say the same thing at same time.its like we think the same things we finish each others sentences. He's funny. I think he has meet all my expectations from a guy hes funny can sing ,he's smart.. Bt I don't know if he feels same.. B

We don't talk outside the hall. I think even though it's puppy love... I like him a lot. Even though we don't date.hw can we be friends.i don't know him before nw bt I've been seeing him around for two days nw. I don't even know if I'll see him after waec

We don't talk outside the hall. I think even though it's puppy love... I like him a lot. Even though we don't date.hw can we be friends.i don't know him before nw bt I've been seeing him around for two days nw. I don't even know if I'll see him after waec. I just have this feeling and I like to trust my guts

plz oh am new here

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Thanks for joining u are now an official Springster!

Thanks for joining u are now an official Springster! Please u can invite people u know here thanks. I'm so glad u are here welcome ♡♥♡

i luv b'in a frnd wit a handsome guy witout dating. buh i dislyk him whenever he proposes.is it fyn?

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey enyola! Thanks for the comment. There is nothing wrong with it. It shows that you only like him as a friend and nothing more than that. We hope this helps

hello am a newbie

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

I am crushing on a guy Bt Wen he ask me out I dnt know if I should say yes or no. I do feels lyk seeing him all d tym.

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey limah! Thanks for the comment. First of all, crush is not love. You need to know that. If you say yes to your crush, it does not mean that your relationship will be wonderful. It will be the opposite. A crush will fade away after a short while so it is really not advisable to date your crush because you need to consider what will happen when you no longer have feelings for him. Think about it well. We hope this helps

i think what big sister said is right, u really need to take some time and be sure wether ur ready for the relationship

Y am I always shy to talk to guys

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

it goes well

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

Big sis i dnt no wat'z wrong wit me, if a guy ask me out nd i hav feeling 4 him already. i don't no hw 2 say yes. (need some help. plz!)

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey enyola! Thanks for the comment. There is nothing wrong with you. You are not just ready for the relationship yet. Having feelings is not enough. You should not feel obliged to say yes to a guy. We hope this helps

hey big sis am 16 yrs old n I don't have a bf not cuz I don't want but bcux I rearly get attracted to gys my own age. I prefer them older, and now I am caught in d predicament where I now am interested in some one else's husband I need help

kul

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

I dont knw hw to say yes its weird

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

I was shy at first when I met him but as time get on we became good friends

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

is there something wrong with me? I'm 18 in college and I've dated any guy and I don't want to date any guy I like some of my guy friends but only as friends but they sometimes say I'm playing hard to get but I'm not, I'm just not interested in dating because I'm scared I won't be able to say no when it comes to having sex, I'm a virgin and I do masturbate, so is something wrong with me

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey bosede1! Thanks for the comment. There is nothing wrong with you. It is okay not to want to be in a relationship. This does not make you weird or funny, it is your decision and it is very okay. You do not necessarily have to be in a relationship because you want to be in one. As regards sex, it is almost the same thing as you saying you are not ready for a relationship. Once you make up your mind not to have sex, you can stay that without being forced or made to do what you are not ready to do. Do not be worried, you are fine the way you are. We hope this helps

thanks for help

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

Big sis! i hav a question. is it gud 2 be dating on face d guy u don't know or never met?

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey Snowwhite! No, it is not good. Why should you date a stranger? What if the person turns out to be someone you cannot even stand or cope with? What if the person is violent or harrasss you? It is best to find out these things before you even get into the relationship than to find out when you are already in. There is really no need to rush into a relationship with a total stranger. It only takes a short time to get to know someone. Take your time, know what you want and be intentional about your happiness. We hope this helps

Thanks! big sis

hello big sis, i need yur help, am in love with someone on fb, he loves me too, but we havnt met before, now d both of us are confused about d situation

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey neki! Thanks for the comment. First of all, what makes you think that you are in love with this person and vice versa? Love is very deep and you need to know the person well enough to be in love with him or her. We do not support or endorse online relationships because a lot of times, people tend to fall for the wrong personalities online. You only know what the person tells you about themselves and so they even lie more often than not. Please, we advise you to be extremely careful so that you do not fall into the wrong hands. We hope this helps

How did u no dat he loves u so much

How did u no dat he loves u so much

Big sis i lk a guy in skul bt i cant talk to him i later found out dat he has a girlfriend wat shold i do shold i expres my felling

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey ZINZI! First of all, you probably just have a crush on this guy because you do not know him personally. You cannot be in love with someone you do not know. Also, he is also in a relationship so there is no need for you to be a distraction. How will you feel if someone tries to steal the attention of your own boyfriend? The response you give to this question is the answer you need. We hope this helps

Smtimes i feel dat guys shud do de talking nd so on.am i rite or wrng

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey Amrita! There is also nothing wrong with a girl talking to a guy. It is not a crime. You can walk up to a guy and say hi. This does not make you cheap neither does it make you a bad girl. It is all about maturity too. We hope this helps

Tanx big sis. and to answer question i really will fell bad. But i've sth also dat bafles me i know aguy in d neborhood who had ask me out on a date but am always at home bcos of my mum and if i turn him down he ll fell bad wat do u think i shold do

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey ZINZI! Thanks for the comment. There is really nothing that you can do about this. You have to let him know that you cannot go out with him because your mum won't let you go. It is better to let him know than to keep him in the dark. This means that he can be making plans for the date because silence means consent. You are not making him feel bad, you are only telling him the truth and this is the reality. We hope this helps

Big sis hello My boyfriend and i are havin communication issues I want to talk to him but most times he says he is busy It hurts when for a day we talk only once Pls big sis how can i solve this issue? I love him alot and i want to solve this issue of comunication btwn us. Cud this also mean he doesnt love me any more? Thanks big sis Am expectin ur reply

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey Chilives! Thanks for the comment. We totally understand how you feel right now. We get that it can be very sad too. You need to tell him how you feel about this lack of communication. Also, you both need to find other means of communication. So if he is too busy to call, you can call him or even chat him up. It is the responsibility of both of you to keep communicating. We hope this helps

my boyfriend brake up on me bt i love him so much pls hw wil i forget him nd move on with my life

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey beauty! We are so sorry about the breakup. It can be really hard to get over a breakup so what you need is to get a distraction. You need to keep yourself occupied so that you do not remember him too much. Also, if you keep looking at pictures and reading old messages, it will only bring back memories so you also need to let go of those too. It will take some time but we are sure that you will definitely heal. We hope this helps

Hey Bigsis! Please note that your username is an impersonation and it can mislead other users of this platform. We will have to take down your comment for this reason and we advise that you change your username to avoid getting removed from this platform. Thanks for understanding

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

i have a crush on a guy but we've never said anything to each other before maybe it because i am not a social person and i don't know how to start a conversation and i am way too sshy.i met him when i was going for dance rehearsals but i just couldn't say anything throughout my stay there and i still really like him and i have already stop going to the dance rehearsals but i see him occassionally(rarely).pls big sis i need your help.

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

I Hav a vry close frd in church and he always told ME Dabout his attitude towards girls in harras,abusive way ,and sexually but anytime he talk hbt dem l always feel jelous 4 no reason and i luv him very much any tin he said always very funny 2 me and if l am alone d serious tink is him and he told about his real girl friend how d btray him but wn he kame 2 tel me about his feeling towards me i wa s so overwhelmed bcause l knwn dat l luv him and he told 2 tink about it l was just posting him and i dont knwn how say yes dire was alone l was just thinking about him l am crying dat i dot want 2 lose him because can last 4 ever but relationship can break any time big sis pls advice l dot known what 2 do. (2n 4jggw)mistake

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey KEDDY! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you should NEVER be in a relationship with someone that abuses girls. It sounds good to you the way he talks about how he treats these girls now because you are not involved. The moment he starts to abuse you, trust me, you will not find it funny at all. Please be very careful around that guy. Being around someone that is proud of being a violent person is not safe for you. You deserve better than this. Talk to him about this bad behaviour because he really needs to change for his own good. We hope this helps

Tankx bigsis but hav already answer him 2day but hw can l advice him 2 change bcause anytime l always want 2 taik 2 Him l always afraid.

Hey KEDDY! Thanks for the comment. There is nothing you can do to change him. Once again, you cannot change a guy! It is not in your power to change anyone. It is up to him to change if he wants to. Never date a guy with the mind that you can change him because it won't work. Also, why are you afraid? Why are you in a relationship with someone that you are afraid of? That's not right and safe for you too. Think about it properly. We hope this helps

plz is it that some girl are hd 2get

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey Robino! They are not necessarily hard to get but they just know what they want (or not) and they do not want to say Yes to you but you keep pressuring them. Other times, they are taking time to get to know you better before saying yes. We hope this helps

Tankx bigsis, l really 1t him 2 change 4 my my own gud but hw can l bcause l always afrald 2 taik 2 him and l dot want 2 lose him again, help him 2 change bcause l told him yes 2day.

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Hey KEDDY! Like we said before, you cannot change a guy. He has to be ready to change. The thing about being ready to change is that you, first of all, have to admit that there is a problem. So, does he think that this is a problem? If he doesn't, there is no way that he will change. Please read our remaining response below. We hope this helps

hey! how do i realy know if a girl is having a crouch on me or not?

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey Skippo! Thanks for the comment. We have written an article that will help you know the difference. We advise you to read "Crush vs Love: Know the difference". This will make you know the difference between crush and love. We hope this helps

hi if a guy loves will b shy of u

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

Big sis sorry am new around, what re u going to do if u want to talk to a girl and u re shy

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. We understand how it can be when you are shy to talk to a girl but the easy trick is to smile more and say "HI" when next you see her. You can also compliment her or offer to help with something (if it is necessary). Do not do all of these in a day, it is a process and it takes some time too. Be patient and be friendly. We hope this helps

Big sis need advice Der z guy i like but seems he does not like me wat do i do

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey Rosela! Thanks for the comment. The fact that you like a boy does not mean that he should automatically like you too. It doesn't work that way girl. There is nothing wrong with him not liking you back, he has a right to like who he wants to like. We understand that it can be sad but there is really nothing that can be done about it. One very important thing you need to do is find out what you really feel for him. It could be a crush and you need to know that crushes tend to die after a short time so if this is a crush, it will be better and easy for you. We hope this helps

LIKE WICH PROB GIVE ME EXAMPLE

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

U guys I am so sorry I had to post my auestion here but its a little confusing. I had a misunderstanding with a boy i like and everytime he sees me, he just shakes his head and goes to class to cry and i have tried to apologize but he won't let me😢

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey Princess! You do not have to be sorry for posting a comment here, your questions/comments are always allowed okay? To your question, it is obvious that he is still very upset with you and the fact that he shakes his head when he sees you means that he probably did not expect such behavior from you. The deed has already been done but you need to let him know how sorry you are and also try to fix things. Please note that things may never go back to how they were but the most important thing is to mend the relationship. Try to sit down and talk to him,. Make him understand how sorry you are and how you regret what happened. We hope this helps

IS ryt tin 2 go luk 4 ur bf at home.j

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Hey KEDDY! Thanks for the comment. It is always better to meet in a public place to avoid any form of pressure and temptation. The most important thing is to have an understanding with your partner. We hope this helps

Not that good

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

big sis i have a very big problem since i was in secondary school many girls have actually wanted me to be their boyfriend and sometimes most of them can courageously walk up to me to tell me that they like me but d truth is that i have never had a single crush on them but until now this is the first time i have ever seen a girl that really gave me a sleepless night , her name is cindy she is just unique and nice i later told her how i felt for her but she didnt even want to give me a reply and i dont know if she like me or if she is playing too hard to get big sis i really need ur help this is the first time am falling in love

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Hey francovazquez50! Thanks for the comment. We totally understand how you feel right now. What we advise you to do is to get to know her better so that you know if you really love her or you just have a crush on her. Please, do not allow your emotions cloud your judgement at this point because this is a very important decision. When you figure this out, you will know the next steps to take. Do not be in a hurry, just be patient so that you do not make a wrong decision. We hope this helps

big sis, I want to no d difference btw having a crush on someone and being in love

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey Belle! Thanks for the comment. We have written an article on this titled "Crush vs Love: Know The Difference". We advise you to search for it and read it because it has the answer to your question. We hope this helps

Big sista dere is dis boy I lyk, he likes me too, dis is for d past 5-6 months, we r both shy wen talking wit each other bcos we did nt start talking wit Each other early nd dis is d first tym we r both falling in luv, do I call it crush or love?

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Hey Pretty_val_32! Thanks for the comment. This is a crush, not love. You both are not talking because you are shy but the most important part of being in love is knowing the person well and you cannot love someone you do not know. We hope this helps

Big Sister.Please Is It Right For A Gal To Date Her Mate?

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey fabulous! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. We hope this helps

Hi big sis.. Is there any chat forume in dis platform?

March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

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Hey Nnaemekasky! No, there is no chat forum on this platform.

Pls big sis, M currently writing a book about girls ND most of your articles relate pls can I use them.. Not the stories jst write-ups

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Hey Fancy! Thanks for the comment. Are you asking to copy our articles or are you asking if you could use them as a guide? You will have to reference us fully if not it will be tagged as plagiarism. We hope this helps

Is it okay to have a boyfriend as long as you both like each other and aren't doing anything bad

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yah its cool, relationship tends to help wif depresion,boredom etc.you have someone who can relate and share you thought with.but dont try to do what is again your morals just to please him or her.

Is it okay to have a boyfriend as long as you both like each other and aren't doing anything bad

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Lyk I know d guy well bt am shy to express my feelings wen I see him except wen we talk on fone, he is now very bold to pour out his feelings to me bt am d shy one, wat do u tink big sista?

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Hey Pretty_val_32! This article is for you. We have given you tips on how to start a conversation so we advise that you read the article and follow the tips we have given. We hope this helps

Hello

Hi

Hi big sis ,,I kinda have a crush on a girl,,but she is just too quite and gentle ,,I try talking to her but she is just not complying, and also we don't have anything in common eg she likes writing and reading novels and am the movie and tech guy ,,I actually went to her house for a visit with my friend ,,and I tried talking to her but she just keep snubbing me ,,we actually do talk but that's only on social media ,,real life ,we don't get along ,,so big sis ,wat should I do

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Hey Junior! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you have a crush on this girl so there is no need for you to push to have a relationship with her because crushes do not last for a long time. So we advise you not to force a relationship out of this because it won't last. We hope this helps

Hello Big sis

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Nice article but some boys do think a girl that do those are crushing on them

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That is true

dat's just it

really?

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Big SIS,how do i know that I have feelings for boy please i need your help

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Hey excel! Thanks for the comment. This is personal and up to you to know but we advise you to read "Crush vs Love: Know The Difference" for more guidance. We hope this helps

BIG SISTER AM A BOY.BUT I HAVE A CRUSH ON SOMEONE BUT I DON'T KNOW TO TELL HER AND HOW FEEL ABOUT HER.PLEASE I NEED YOUR HELP BIG SISTER..

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Hey chizo! Thanks for the comment. Crush is not love. After a short time, the feeling will fade. There is no need for you to push it. We only advise you to get to know her better and be friends with her to know if you can love her. We hope this helps

Big sister i have a crush on some one in my class but i don'nt know how to tell her because we are far in seat and communication. What should i do ?

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Hey Joymaker! Thanks for the comment. What you feel is a crush and crushes do not last for long. Do you want to tell her you have a crush on her? Please note that crush is not love in anyway and when the feeling fades away after a while, what next? Think about it properly and decide on what to do. We hope this helps

Big sis there is dis gal i luv and her broda is my friend i want 2 tel her how i fill about her but i am sceared of her broda i don't wat to do need your help pls

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bro its weird when your best friend is dating your sis...but if you guys are mature enough to set your rules e.g the do's and dont. then you can look pass the whole friend stuff....if you like her and you are sure she feels the same way then you guys should talk it over with her bro.whats the worse that can happen.

Hey Springster! Kassidy has said it all, especially from a male perspective. However, we want to add that you need to be sure of how you feel about her before you start to express your feelings to her. You should get closer to her to know this. Talk to her more and know if you really like her personality. Do not be in a hurry to make a decision on this. We hope this helps

dats great

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hi big sis,pls is it true that virginity is now old fashioned i.e its no longer valued? Am confused about it pls help me

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Hey grace! Thanks for the comment. You do not have to be confused about anything. What you think about virginity is your personal decision. You do not have to follow the crowd. Everyone has a right to believe what they want to. Believe what you want to believe in and do not let anyone talk you out of it. We hope this helps

Hi big sis, hw will kn dat a girl luv me?

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Hey Maxson! Thanks for the comment. Please read the story "Does he like me" to know when someone likes you. We hope this helps

Maxson In my own way if I like a boy I would start staring at him then make him to be my friend and will like talking to him especially when he is my classmate but when he ask me out I won't accept rather I would say no let's just be close friends .

thanks for this advice

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big sis how wil i control my emotions for someone i love nd he donst love me in return.

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Hey selin! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision and you have to make up your mind to let go of that person. It is when your mind is made up that you will see know how easy it is. No doubt, making up your mind is not as easy as we say but you need do this for your sanity. We hope this helps

tanx big sis

Good evening every 1 am new here and i hope am welcomed

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Big Sis i have dis kind of attitude which is dat whenever i see any of my male classmate around my area,normally we are supposed 2 greet our,but no i wont instead i would just run or hide some where cuz am always shy 2 dem cuz i wont know wat 2 say. if d guy nw see's me and greet me i would snub him but later after he has gone i would nw b troubled by my conscience dat why didnt i greet him or answered him wen he greeted me,and it happened recently and i dont know hw 2 face him and say am sorry and hw to conquer dis behaviour dat makes me hurt people pls i need your help ma

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Hey Amaya22! Welcome to Springster. This article has all the answers you need and more. Read it and follow the tips given. We hope this helps

i dont knw y am always shy 2 talk 2 my male classmates especially when we are outside d sch dis incident happened recently,i followed my female classmate who live near my my house we went 2 buy sth wen we met 1 of our mate he is a male and he has toast me on facebk so he greeted us i snubbed him so he was only chatting wit my frnd and i was also trying to avoiding him and he caught me he was annoyed later i got troubled by conscience and i dont knw hw 2 face him 2 apologise and stop been shy so i wont hurt anyone's feeling

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U R NOT D ONLY ONE AMAYA 222, I AM VERY VERY SHY TO TALK 2 A GUY, ND IT HAS MADE ME LOSE MANY GUY FRNDS I AM SUPPOSED TO HV, I HV TRIED STOPING IT AND AM PROGRESSING

It's easy.. simply take in deep breaths, walk up to him the next time you see him. Look him in the eye, no matter how hard it seems, and tell him you're sorry for ignoring him, that it wasn't quite like that. You're just really shy, so it's hard for you to converse... You'll be fine

amaya 22 me that is the way I normally do I would start boosting for my friends that I can talk to a boy but when a boy start toasting me I Would be really shy to say anything I think it natural to feel that way.

Hi big sis, I don't know it hard to say no to guys Bcos i do feel like asif am a bad person

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Hey favorite168! Saying yes to every guy when you know that you do not like them even makes you a bad person because you are deceiving them by being in a relationship with them. Saying NO when you do not like someone does not make you a bad person, it means you know what you want for yourself. We hope this helps

big sis, there is dis guy i lov so much, he ask me to be his gf, but i told him am not ready, he told me dat any time am ready he is ready, dose dat mean he luv me so much

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Hey lovelove! This does not necessarily mean love. Read the article "Does he like you" to know more. We hope this helps

hello big sis, there is girl i like in my area but any time i try telling her how i feel, i just lose the confident to tell her and i become really shy

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Hey coolguy3! Thanks for the comment. We have given you tips in the article. We advise you to follow them. We hope this helps

Hello,i'm new here.i find that complicated at times,cause i always feel it's d duty of a boy to approach a girl and not vice versa.but it's hurt me alot when i like a guy and when we see or stare at each other i'm not being nice instead i give him a snob and then we go our ways later on i'll start feeling bad,sad and angry at myself,i may sometimes cry and feel regretful.

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Well, don't let that entitlement mentality make you lose what you want. If you want someone, talk to the person. You might not ask him out on the spot, but say little things in small talk.. be fun, be interesting and you'll see the person liking you back.. and don't snub people you like, you'll only hurt yourself

Share you mind with him

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this will really help?i will try it

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Gain his attention

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good attention

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tnx

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thanks this is helpful

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I havent oh but big sister wat if he doesnt respond to your hi or hello

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Hey Rose! Thanks for the comment. You should not let this affect you okay? If he doesn't say Hi back, it is not the end of the world. Just smile and move on. We hope this helps

The chances on the greater side, are, he will reply. But if he doesn't, well Big Sister has said you should smile and move on. An alternative would be tapping him and saying "I said hi to you. The least you could do is be polite", turn and walk away. He'll feel guilty or something and will drop his self-conceit...

Will a guy think you like him if you try to talk to him or make friends with him ?

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Hey Mars! Thanks for the comment. Only an immature guy will think that way. Talking to someone does not automatically mean that you like them. We hope this helps

they like asking from friends before taking any action thats hw they are

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I HAV ONE GUY DAT I LUV SOMUCH BT I DOT LET HIM TO KNOWN BT LATER HE CAME 2 ME ONE DAY AND TOLD ME HIS FEELING TOWARDS ME I WAS SO HAPPY BT I DOT ALLOW HIM 2 KNOWN &NOMA TIN I TOLD HIM I WILL TINK ABOUT IT LIKE 1 MONTH AND HE HAV 1 FRIEND THAT TOD ME HE LUV ME 2 B4 HIM BUT BCAUSE,. I DOT HAV ANY FEELING 4 HIM OVER LUK IT, BUT LATER I ANSWER HIS FRIEND WE START DATING AND HE TOLD HIM ABOUT ME BCAUSE WE ARE ALL LIKE FRIENDS & HE CAME 2 MEET ME AND STARTED SHOUTING DAT WELLDONE U HAVE DONEWELL OH,PLS BIG SIS WHAT IS MY FAULT THERE PLS TELL ME DIF I DID MISTAKE BY ANSWERING HIS FRIEND.7 N

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Hey KEDDY! Thanks for the comment. First of all, it doesn't seem to us that you know what you want out of a relationship because you went for the guy you "felt" was available for a relationship. This is not what relationships are about. You do not say yes to a guy because he asked you out. Secondly, it is very risky to date friends. What we mean by this is that you do not know if it is a bet between them or a trap they set for you. You need to be very careful. Also, if you are not interested in dating a guy, instead of leaving them guessing or telling them you will think about it, just say NO so that they can move on. We are sure that is why this guy is upset. Finally, please note that you do not love the guy that you are dating now. Yes! You need to know what you want out of a relationship and not just date the next available guy. We hope this helps

when she told him actually she love him is any problem?

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I'm new here, the first time I tried talking to a boy I like ended in a disaster. I made him my friend, called him every day, read together but one day when we were reading, he started touching me sexually. It was very annoying and disgusting that I had to call off our friendship, he doesn't even acknowledge me again and I've told myself that I won't talk to a guy I like again, but it always hurt me. Big sister, what can I do?

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. What you did was right and we are proud of you for speaking up. However, we believe that you should not judge all guys based on one bad experience. Others may not do the same thing to you. You only need to be very careful when with these guys to avoid this repeating itself. Avoid staying in lonely places with a guy for any reason. We hope this helps

big sis....umm there this girl i like and always want to talk to her but when am beside her i feel dumb founded and also disgraced when i tell my friends i like this girl but dont have the balls to talk to her.

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Hey loverboy101! Thanks for the comment. You feel that way and it is normal. This article is for you. We advise you to read it and follow the steps in the article because they will really help you. We hope this helps

I like the trick,but can it be apply to girls also

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bt i always feel uneasy weneva am wit a guy i lyk or anytime i c him

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Be confident

me too I feel uncomfortable

Hey Damell and Ana! It is normal to feel that way but if you keep on letting how you feel determine a lot of things for you, you will never be confident enough to talk to them. You should start by smiling at them when you see them or even wave at them. This is the beginning of every conversation. After you have gotten their attention, you can then say Hi. We hope this helps

Always feel free to say dear

any time I am sitting with boys I feel uncomfortable

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big sis i have a problem , thier dis gal she is not my classmate bt i hav crush on her and i have waited for more than a year to know if the crush hav faded away bt no way,instead i keep think more abt her , and dis gal always stares at me , smiles whenever she sees me , and she always want to seat beside me ,some of my female classmates told me she likes me , bt am a really shy guy and because she is a bit lower in terms of class makes it harder for me , this gal has turn down request from my friends bt i dont knw how to start pls help

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Hey francovazquez50! Thanks for the comment. You need to start by saying Hi to her. You should also try to smile back at her. We also advise you to follow the tips in the article above. We hope this helps

Big sis there is this girl I love right from my jss class and I know that she also love me .but I made one mistake by slapping her since then she don't talk to me again I know that she still wish to talk to me but maybe she is afraid pls big sis what should I do because I love this girl from the bottom of my heart pls help me out.

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1999 to be Frank girls don't like to be treated that way if I was that girl I would feel really hurt so I advice you to take a bord step and apologize to her so that she can understand you really didn't mean to slap her.

Call her and ask her for forgiveness and promise her it will never happen again. And make sure it will never happen again

Hey 1999! Thanks for the comment. First of all, slapping anyone is totally wrong and so she has every right to stop talking to you. The fact that you slapped her the first time means that you can slap her again. You seem very confident that she loves you and wants to talk to you again but it doesn't seem like you are sorry about what you did. You need to apologize to her and mean it. Violence is never an option and when you think you can overshadow a girl because you have more power, this is even worse. Please note that she is not obliged to answer you still. It is her decision finally. We hope this helps

A boy is chasing over me, what should i do help.

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Hey Cythia! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision. You should not say yes to a guy because he is chasing you. You should know what you want for yourself and this is will help guide your decision making. We hope this helps

An excellent tip

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I have feelings for a boy in my class but i don't know how to express it or make him know that i like him.

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Hey Olivia! Thanks for the comment. You need to, first of all, know whether this is a crush or if it is love. There is a huge difference. You cannot love someone you do not know so the first thing is to be friends with him so that you can get to know him better. After that, you will have all the answers that you need. We hope this helps

applauded

hey big sis my bf broke up with me he says he can't keep a sexless relationship but he said that he really loved me but git tired I'm confused because I still Love him

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hey Elsie am new here I know you are going to feeling hurt now but just cheer up girl even if your bf broke up with you because of sex don't be sad if he truly loves you he Will come back to apologize for want he did was wrong and don't have sex to please him unless you are ready for it.

Hey Elsie! Thanks for the comment. @jbaby005 has said it all. He doesn't love you because sex is not love. If he loved you, he would have waited and respected your decision to wait. That is true love. Let him go girl, you even deserve better than this. You will be fine and you will find someone that will love appreciate and wait for you. We hope this helps

that is fake love

u loved him but I don't think he love u, even without sex u guys can make love

Hi big sis am new here I have a question for you what about if you have a crush on a boy and your mum does not even allow to go out then how can you express your felling for the boy.

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Hey jbaby005! Thanks for the comment. Crushes do not last and so it is not even advisable for you to tell your crush about it because what will happen when you no longer have feelings for him? Just enjoy it while it lasts. Also, know that crush is not love. We hope this helps

Hi big sis am new here I have a question for you what about if you have a crush on a boy and your mum does not even allow to go out then how can you express your felling for the boy.

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if u 're sure the boy loves u let him first express his felling

Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. First of all, crush is not love so there is really nothing you should do about it because the feelings will surely fade after a while. Do not stress over a crush because the feeling will not last. That is why it is called a crush. We hope this helps

helpful

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applaud, true talk

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kind of cool. i 😍 it

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😍What if you smile and say ''hi'', and he still dosn't seem impressed? What's to be done then?😍

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Xup u

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Big Sister Pls Am Always Afraid To Be In A Relationship Pls I Need An Advice

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Hey Beauty! Thanks for the comment. If you are afraid of relationships then you are not ready for it. You need to first of all find out what is making you afraid first before you jump into a relationship. We advise you to take your time first and then know what it is that you want in a relationship and what you want in a partner. We hope this helps

Big sister, dere is dis guy am dating nw, I dnt hv a fone so we dnt communicate quite often, I do use ma mum or ma frnds fone to talk to im, nw we r almost done wit sec sch, and at tyms ma mum will restrict me frm using her fone, I dnt knw wat to do, we still lyk each other very much, it pains me, big sis wat shld I do?

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Hey Pretty_val_32! Thanks for the comment. So sorry about that. We know that this can be really painful and sad but there is always a way out. You both need to understand that communication may be slower at this point but you both should be ready to make this sacrifice. Do not be desperate okay, you will both be fine. Relationships come with responsibilities and requires maturity. This is one of those things that happen to a lot of us. We hope this helps

soo realistic, I feel this inspiration.

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Hmm

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How do people make out for the first time?

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Hey Gesi! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision and there are no tips to this. You need to be sure that you are both ready for it and no one is forcing you to do this. We hope this helps

nice

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Nice one

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Interesting

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Trust me this doesn't work in Nigeria like d probability is like 80 to 20

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Hey Pope! Thanks for the comment. Trust us, this works in Nigeria. There is nothing extraordinary about starting a conversation with a guy and these are tips that are tested and trusted to work in Nigeria. We hope this helps

nice ,but i want to date a grl and i find it difficult to sproach her pls help how wil i do.

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Hey sam! Thanks for the comment. You should get to know the girl better before you start thinking of dating her. We advise that you read the article above and follow the tips. We hope this helps

A boy n a girl are friends, the boy truly loves n cares for the girl but has never asked her out. The girl on her side loves d boy, but feels shy to ask him out.. Funny enough, they are both shy to tell themselves they love each other... Pls hw can the girl tell ask d boy for friendship (dating)

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Hey Fila! Thanks for the comment. Every good relationship should start with friendship first. Before they jump into a relationship, they should get to be friends with each other and also get to know themselves better too. Say Hi, get talking, become friends and then decide if they are even fit to date (compatible). We hope this helps

I have a crush on a boy but if I just try talking to him he will just shout on me

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Hey peace! Thanks for the comment. Please, let him go. The fact that you have a crush on someone does not mean that they should like you back. He obviously does not like you back so you may have to think about what to do about the crush. Shouting at you is rude and unacceptable. We hope this helps

Big sis, there is dis guy i like alot but dont know hw to start a conversation with him, each tym i sees him my heart will start beating fast even to say hi will be a problem.At tyms he will say "Morning" nd i will reply with de same tin nd we both ll go our own seperate ways.

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. It looks like you have a crush on this guy and it's fine. We have given you tips in the article above on how to start a conversation with a guy. This will make it easier for you. We hope this helps

there's this girl I love ,, but she already have a boyfriend whom she love ,,, but it seems like she likes me also ,, I don't really know to win her heart totally..

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Hey sunnisleek! Thanks for the comment. There is no way to win the heart of someone that is in a relationship already. That is a red light and that means that she is unavailable. Please, leave her alone and do not try to spoil her relationship because you feel like you love her. That is totally not right. No matter how she claims to feel about you, once a girl has a boyfriend, she is off limit. Imagine someone doing this to your own girlfriend? We hope this helps

try your luck.Bro you can win it but it wil be very chalenging try ad make her.bf look like a fool in front of her always ad send a text too his phone ad make her see.it or if you have a female friend tell her too meet her ad ask is it true your dating.my bf dat she should better leave him.alone

Big sis , there's a guy I have feelings for and he also have feelings for me but he's always shy to talk to me

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Hey Peejay! Thanks for the comment. How are you so sure that he is also has feelings for you? You need to be sure so that you do not assume wrongly. You can start by saying "Hi" to him. There is nothing wrong with saying hi. Get to know him better by being friends with him first. We hope this helps

I love a girl so much and I show her my feelings but she does look at me at all,what should I do

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Hey medex! Thanks for the comment. The fact that you love a girl does not mean that she will automatically love you back. It actually does not work that way. She probably is not interested in you and that is perfectly fine. You also need to be sure that what you feel for her is love and not a crush because it seems like a crush to us. We hope this helps

It May B Dat Girl Is Nt In Good Mood, Try More

okay thanks

big sis when I was in( JSS1) when my classmates sees a girl talking to a boy they would start gossiping about that person but now that am about going to SS1 they are now behavin

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i love a girl but she not love me what should i do

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Hey Olamiplenty! Thanks for the comment. The fact that you love a girl does not mean that she should automatically love you back. There is nothing you can do about it. Just let her go because you cannot force someone to love you. We hope this helps

I tried to talk to a boy online but we attend the same school and most of the time he ignores me and replies 3 days after. Also does his best friend. What should i do?😭

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Have you considered the fact that he probably did not have access to the internet for that period. Why don't you just talk to him physically instead of sending him messages online? Try this and see how it goes. We hope this helps

Maybe You Can Give Him Time

Yes,u can give him sometime and maybe he will be d 1 to chat u up

It's Cool

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Big anuty i try to talk to a girl but anytime i say hello or hi she usually ignore me. what should i do next

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Hey dan! Thanks for the comment. You should give her space. If she ignores you, this means that she is not interested in talking to you and you should not force her to do so. We hope this helps

big sis good evening ma I tried convincing my class mates that a girl can ask a boy out but they said'is a lie a girl can not ask a boy'i then said a girl can ask a boy out cause firstly they were created by one God, they gave to them through same process then why can't a girl ask a boy out but in India ladies a the ones that pays the dowries of a man but they said is a lie they then said is not proper but I said is proper but when they asked me so you will be the one to propose to you future husband I was like God forbid why will I be the proposal am I the man then will started interrogating the boys few said it was not bàd while others said its not good that if the girl ask them they will not love that girl that much because what you suffered to get you will cherish it than something that just came I then said so you like suffering abi.

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Hi

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Hi

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how do I start a conversation with a girl?

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just say hi and then you start asking some questions,if you are both on the same class then you can start a conversation about what happened in class or any other thing.

As a shy guy. How can I start a conversation with a girl?? Response asap.

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hi cephas I think you should say hi to the girl just the way I said hi to you cephas I know it can be difficult at times but just say Hi.

Thanks @ jbaby005. Although its difficult just as it has been said.. But goona give it a trial. Who knows if the girl also is even more shy than I do.

that is great I know you can do it my friend but cephas don't be annoyed ooo I was trying to join another platform that is like this platform earlier today but no way please do you have any way please do you know how to find your email address on an android please help cause I would like to be on two or more teenage platforms since am not allowed to be on Facebook and other unsecured platform please help me please.

Hey jbaby005! We know that you are aware of our house rules that says that requesting and sharing personal information (including emails) is not allowed on this platform. We are surprised that an active member like you will request for such. However, we will take it as a mistake but we will have to take down the comment. Breaking the rules on here is not allowed. Please note this. Thanks for understanding

hi my name is Asha I think I have problem socializing to people especially the guys. Can you help me out?

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Hey Asha! Thanks for the comment. This article was written for you. We advise that you read through and follow the tips we have shared. We hope this helps

hi big sister please that was not what I meant I was only trying to know how I can relocate my email address because I need my email address seriously,I was only trying to know which app I would go to and see it that's all I was not asking for his email address please. And now big sister please how can I relocate my email address I want to use it to join a platform that need it but I don't know it and am looking for it which app should I locate on an android phone please big sister I know I wound have missed a lot of words for eg instead of me tour say my I said your that is the misunderstanding their and i can not take anyone personal information on this platform since it's not. allowed.

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Hey jbaby005! Thanks for the comment. Now we understand. We only tried to clarify things and now that we are clear, we totally understand. Thanks.

There are people i meet after talking with them it seems they become bored and would want to end the conversation.what do i do?

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Hey Freeyou! Thanks for the comment. You can try asking them what they want to talk about and also what their interests are so that you can also talk about what they want to talk about and not bore them with just your interests. We hope this helps

I've been trying to catch her attention But she didn't... She's scripture union (su) I need an advice here Pls

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Big sis please Where are you

Hey Jude1830! Big sis is here o! It doesn't matter if she is SU or not, what matters is that she is human. We advise that you read the article and follow the tips we shared. We hope this helps

Hi am new here,hope am welcome n thanks Big sis i really love dis article i have been here for over 5 months but find it difficult to be among but now am now among d springsters one again thanks Big sis

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Hey Berry! Welcome back to Springster. We are glad to have you back. Feel free to relate. You're welcome

Berry! U are highly welcome

Hey Berry,u're welcome...

wow...i just joined this group and i love wat am seeing i've started a conversation with a guy just like this and it was cool

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Hey summer! Welcome to Springster and thanks for the comment. We are glad you can relate to this and we are so happy you like it here. We hope this helps

Hey Summer(like the school of rock manager:-)) welcome we are family here we love u,u can also share feelings here u will always receive an answer and i am Misty u can meet my friends Fortune,princess and Given bye and stay cool.

Thanks,good idea

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someone i really know told me that he likes me and am someone that is often shy of talking to a guy.I don't know how to confront him or even know what to say but he chats with me well on social media and even collected my phone number, pls what should i do

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I have a crush on this guy..we attended same high school,now we've graduated..but i still like him and he lives very far from where i live..while we were still in high school,i felt really shy around him and could only talk to him online not face to face and whenever he messages me my heart beats really fast..it still happens though...i really dunno what to do now that we can no longer see Big Sis please help!

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Hi i'm new here so i hope i'm welcome

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hello i just joined hope am welcome. well i have a problem socializing with people especially boys, please how do i come about it, tanks.

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Well Hi Big Sis, nice write up there but I noticed that sometimes I run out of things to say with some of my close guy friends.

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hi tonya

hey sis,but how will I continue the conversation with him if am speechless but want to keep on talking with him

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hol,wat if u never meet d person before but he keep celling me every day nd message me with no reply wat can i do 2 stop him .pls i need ur advise

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Hi dear,chat me up, i will gladly put you through.Am a guy by the way with lots of experiences from both sex.Cheeers

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Hi mekuzy.

Hi am new here, but there is this girl I really like have been taking to her over a week now and she is so shy to talk to me or even look at me please what should I do or have been thinking she's got a boyfriend that why I don't really know please help me out

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Hey Drael! Thanks for the comment. The first thing you were meant to ask her while talking to her is to know if she has a boyfriend before getting deep into the conversation. So what you need to do is talk to her and sort this out. If she has a boyfriend, this has to end immediately. This is the most important thing for you to do right now. We hope this helps

Hi Friends I Have This Guy That Told Me That He Love Me And Can Not Do Anything Without Me And I Don't Even Like Him Anything So What Will I Do

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Well I think you should give him a chance maybe his not laying about that

Give him a chance drael is right

Just give him a chance

GIVE HIM A CHANCE ND HI AM NEW HERE

Hey angle! Thanks for the comment. Contrary to what everyone is saying here, we do not advise that you compromise and "give him a chance" because he claims to like you. You the ultimate decision taker here. Since you do not like him, you should not take that risk at all. This goes to show how we all make mistakes when it comes to taking decisions as regards getting into a relationship. Do not say YES because a guy says he loves you, say yes because you love him and he also loves you too. Please take note. We hope this helps

angle guys are very funny when they tell me that eh I will begin to laugh.

Jux because he claimed dat he luv u and he cannot do anything without u, thats y every body is advicing u 2 give him chance, my dear sis if u are dear counting nom of boys dat said so, u better stop because am not sure u gona plan ur future...check be4 acting

Hey am new here am I welcome

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Hey Kenzie! Welcome to Springster, feel free to refer your friends here.

Hy big sis.., De is a guy i luv.... & he also luvs me... but we are always shy 2 talk wit each oda.... pls help me.. wat should i do..?

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Hey STELCY! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you both are not in love with each other. You cannot love someone you do not know personally. If you are both shy to talk to each other then that means that you are not getting to know each other better and that automatically means that you do not know each other well enough to say you are in love. What you should do is to get talking and also get to know each other better. We hope this helps

Hey just new

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big sis, there is this my girl friend DAT l love so much, and she loves so much to the extend the she don't allow me spend on her but she keep spending on me, but now she left me for my friend all because I refuse to have sex.

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Left u because of sex?

Hey best1! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about what happened. We understand that it can be very painful especially as it is your friend that is is involved. The truth is that anyone that leaves you for material and sexually things does not actually deserve you. Let her go and let him have her. You deserve better. We hope this helps

A genuine relationship has nothing to do with sex, if u start with it, u will eventually end in disappointment. Secondly, that girl did not see anything unique in you, she saw u as a sugar Daddy, a sex machine. She was using her money on u just for that purpose which u rightly rejected. The truth is that it is worst sin one can committe, for it can lead u to many other mistakes which can land u in hell fire. Dear, run for ur life and do not accept them.

Meki up u dear, u hav even finished wat i want 2 say

Hey big sis...hey everyone. I'm new here..I love the articles written here on Springster, they are so lovely. I'm sure going to recommend it for my friends.

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Hey RhiRhi33! Thanks a lot for the sweet and kind words, we really appreciate you and we can't wait to meet the friends you recommend. Love, Big Sister

Big sis,there is this guy at school that I like a little bit nd he also likes me a bit and my friends are framing us that we are dating how do I tell them that we are not dating?

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Hey sewa! Thanks for the comment. You tell them that you are not dating. There is nothing to hide or to pretend about. You both do not like and know each other well enough to date so you need to let your friends know this. This is how peer pressure starts and if you do not let them know now, this pressure can make you to start dating him even when you know well enough that you both cannot date each other. We hope this helps

Hello, I'm zaddy. I'm new here nd am looking for a serious girl to start a relationship with...

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Hi am joseph I have a girlfriend confidence by name I this girl but am a big time cheat pls tell me how to stop and being faithful to her

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Hey JoeGold! Thanks for the comment. The first question you need to ask yourself is "why do I cheat?". Cheating and being unfaithful is a personal decision and so you have a huge role to play in stopping this. We can only advise you to make up your mind not to do it again but the bulk work is on you to do by yourself. You have to make this decision (and very very soon too) not to cheat anymore. We hope this helps

Hi am joseph I have a girlfriend confidence by name I this girl bu t am a big time cheat pls tell me how to stop and being faithful to her am also new here need to make more friends

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Perfect

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hi guys what's happening big sis I want to ask if a guy says he loves you when you said you guys should talk about love matter is that real love or fake love.

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Hey jbaby005! Thanks for the comment. It is not love in anyway when you have to talk about it. Love is deeper than having a conversation. It is also deeper than what we usually call it. Do you both even know each other well enough to even say that you can love each other? We hope this helps

Good day Big Sis, i am ify, please i am having issue aproching a girl or lady i like, i will not say love cos love grows, each time i meet this girl or lady, i am short of words to say, but i am advicing people on how to approach a girl or lady. Pls help me

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Hey ifydavid! Thanks for the comment. We have written this article because of you. We advise that you read the article as it has all the answers to the questions you have asked. We hope this helps

Mr advicer is now ur turn 2 be advice wow.......!

Hi everyone am new here hope to get some friends

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hi fearlessnicky01 welcome to Springsteen.

Ur business

Hi

Pretty kul

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Big sis.pls am new here, I always av a chance of having girl, but I don't know how to maintain my, cause I always get tired of them, 1 way or the other they left, I always feel bad, please Wat shld I do to be satisfied with just one lady, please I need a good advice an lecture, tnkz

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Hey Peacemaker1! Thanks for the comment. What this means is that you are not ready to be in a relationship but you are just forcing it to work out. This is not the right way to go about things right now. You need to know what it is that you want in a partner and also out of a relationship before you even start to think of going into one. We hope this helps

Peace maker1 is like you have read the peacemaker by Charles Nnaemeka (nano boi).welcome to the house you have not seen what you what in a girl yet don't worry Peacemaker.

De only advise left, is dat wen eva u c a lady, try 2 close ur eyes until she pass, even if she try talking 2 u, u can jux use liqiud gum and gum ur mouth but i think superglue can serve better i hope dis help

Thanks for the advice. I knew I could count on you

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Thanks big sister for answering my question thanks a lot.

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Ok i hav heard u thank GOD

I wanna funking say something to someone here,Beth1 why so rude to people here?when people asks a question here instead of u to help u funking go about to insult them?are u alright or what if u are having issues at home, or somewhere else go settle ur self and not coming here to post rude comments are u alright or what, if this is painful to u,that's the way ur fucking comments are to others,I advice u should always think before commenting those fucking stuff of urs bye.

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God bless u oooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!bcus I have even been looking for a way to warn her but I haven't bcus I am a bit gentle.

Hi expivstar

big sister hwfa

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Hi ivia

Cool read

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I WILL GIVE IT A TRIAL

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Hi

I'm 2 shy

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Hi, ss-star

Hi George

Do it then i would put you first in my life

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i do feel shy bt i sure will try this

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Hi

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Hi guys am new here can i get some friends

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yeess like me

I am new here

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Thanks

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