How to stay safe
Dear Ms. Tech,
I’ve been on Facebook for about 4 months now. I have lots of friends. Lots of them are people that I’ve never met. One guy is someone I’ve been chatting to for a while, and now he says he wants to meet up. He says I’m really beautiful and he knows that we’d be a great match. I’m afraid to tell my friends or my parents because they’ll say it’s dangerous. But I think I’ve found my future husband, and I really want to meet him in real life! What should I do?
Confused but Curious
Dear Confused but Curious,
It’s a dangerous game to meet up with someone you only know online. It’s easy for people to pretend to be something they are not online. You don’t know if the photos and stories somebody shares online are real.
You might feel comfortable sharing your secrets much faster online than you would in person. This makes you vulnerable to being tricked or manipulated. If you have developed feelings for someone that you met online, he may be able to convince you to meet him privately somewhere, where he might take advantage of you or somehow harm you.
You don’t get something for nothing, as they say. So if someone online promises you something that seems too good to be true, or compliments you a lot, be wary. They might be sweet talking you with the goal of getting something. The boy you think you are in love with may actually even be an older man, using the Internet to seduce young girls.
If you DO decide to meet someone, be sure to take a friend with you. Never go alone. Meet the person in a public place where there are lots of people around who could help you if needed. Never get in a car or public transportation with him. Don’t reveal where you live. And never be alone with him until you have checked with people from your community that he is who he says he is and that he is someone who is safe to be with.
Be careful, I care about you!
Ms. Tech
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Not only men but women also do dat, so my brodas n 6tas b carefull about dat
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Dat rite,tank u
That right
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
tru talk
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
You are a TRUE genius.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
I've sent my essay (story)but when am I going to receive feedback?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Pls its gonna b vewi dangerous 4 u 2 go cos whu knws anyting may happen
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Dear MC Tech i rily wnt 2 tank u 4 dat wanderful advice caus am facein simila proble nd dnt knw wat 2 do.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Much Tnks To U Ms.Tech,4 Dat Advice!
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
dont dare it
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
yes you can meet many peoplo online when are you be always here see i am a new person here and i neet to meet some new peoples ok
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Don't even think about it
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
thanks
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
I thinks this is a good ideal, thanks
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DATS A GOOD ADVICE 4 HER MS TECH
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Datz a very nice idea
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
my boyfriend is disturbing me for sex Wat should I do
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Eva! If you are not ready for sex, talk to your boyfriend about it and make him understand that you are not interested in having sex yet. No one should force you to do what you don't want to do especially when it comes to sex. Do not compromise and remember, love is not forceful. If he really loves you like he claims, he will wait until you are ready. But you have to be very careful and try not be alone with him in a lonely place or at night. Also, if you can, tell a trusted adult about your relationship with him. We hope this helps.
If u wnt 2 hav sex with him it's ur own decision. Don't let someone disturb u to hav sex with the person. Think of the dangers involved. I hope this helps
it been 2 years and I love him very much
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Thanks for that write up....it's cool.....I have so many friends on social media that said they want to meet up with me.....but I'm scared that ,they might not be who I thought they are...and if they sees me they might have contempt for me
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Patience! You are welcome. First of all, you have to be careful because not everyone on social media (Facebook, Instagram etc) lives a real life. Some of them are hiding their real personalities on social media. If you must go out on a date with him, please go to an open place that has many people and be very watchful. If he asks you to go somewhere private and/or secluded, please do not go. If possible, go with someone and tell a trusted adult where you are going to and also give his number. We hope this helps.
this is nice
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
yea,tanks bt u knw dats d biggest mistake girls do make
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
dere is dis guy dat wants us to meet. but am scared pls wat should i do
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Vina! First of all, you have to be careful because not everyone on social media (Facebook, Instagram etc) lives a real life. Some of them are hiding their real personalities on social media. If you must go out on a date with him, please go to an open place that has many people and be very watchful. If he asks you to go somewhere private and/or secluded, please do not go. If possible, go with someone and tell a trusted adult where you are going to and also give his number. We hope this helps.
true fact Big Sis. Noted
i also ave many frnds on facebook who wants to meet wits me i rather choose d place were we both meet it makes me feel safer nd mostly at eateries nt at their houses
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey ShezDammy! Thanks for this. Yes, that is a better option. Instead of them choosing a location, you choose one you are comfortable with. Regardless, we still advise that you stay careful and also make sure someone close to you is aware of your outing and details on your meeting (including the phone number of the person you are meeting up with). Thanks for sharing this.
i met a guy on Facebook 4 months ago we started dating but we have never seen each other before he always wants to come and visit me when am at home alone but we have never gotten a chance to do that. When I got to school today one of my classmates was checking through the pictures on my phone she saw his photos and told me that the guy has a lot of girlfriends i couldn't believe it at first but when I asked him he couldn't say anything and he got angry for no reason he blocked me on messenger and i block him on Facebook now I'm seriously heart broken i don't know what to do and i don't know if i should continue dating or not
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Tess! We are glad that you got to know about this early enough. The fact that he was looking for ways to meet you alone means that he is dangerous and should be avoided. Please, we advise that you be careful. Also, please tell a trusted adult about this. We hope this helps.
i have a guy am dating we only met once but we talk on phone he said he love me nd i also love him pls i need ur advice how to knw may b he is not deceving me
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Arinola! We cannot know if he is being real or if he is deceiving you because we are not in the relationship. You are the in the best position to know if he is being true or not. You need to look out for patterns that are not right. Sometimes, you need to put your emotions aside to know if he is real. So, you have some work to do right now. We hope this helps.
you can meet up with him sure I do meet my fb friends even in their house I know its risky tho buh I do that only when I think he is a good guy, I also do take somethings that I can use to defend myself along if you're scared of meeting but you would also like to see your fb friend you should be the one to choose the location.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Earl! This is a very risky thing to do. We are glad that you are aware of the dangers. We only advise that you always choose the location you are safe with when you have to meet up with strangers because you can never know what the person is up to and having something to defend yourself with may not be the solution sometimes. It should always be safety first. Thanks for sharing this. We hope this helps.
Big sister!But nt all guy's are dsm right?
People this days r really dangerous
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Big sis mine is deferent.. The is this guy we met at the bus stop 3 years ago and we exchange contact.... Since then we haven't seen each other I mean meeting each other face to face..... We only talk online and he calls me and now he want us to stop being just friends .... He wants us to start dating..... And I don't know what to do or say.............. Please help me out guys
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Bani@! We still advise that you remain very careful. If you must go out on a date with him, please go to an open place that has many people and be very watchful. If he asks you to go to somewhere private, please do not go. If possible, go with someone and tell a trusted adult where you are going to and also give his number. We hope this helps.
It not safe to meet someone you met online.. It very risky and dangerous thing to do.... Please be careful guys
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
It isn't safe to meet someone u met online. People aren't whom they seem on social media. So be very careful life is very risky.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Goody! You are very correct. Thanks for sharing this.
it's very bad
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Big Sis Is Advisable To Have A Bf At The Age Of 15
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey JAMIE! There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurizing you to do it. We hope this helps.
Big Sis Having A Bf Should It Be Secret
am new here am i welcome?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Springster! You're welcome. We hope you like the stories. Feel free to invite your friends here.
big sister,hmmm...... am 16 years old. l have not been in relationship before ,l was chating on facebook one day,a guy ask me to be his girlfriend l expect it but since that day can l say a spirl enter into me l began to feel romantic, some how,which l can not long control my feeling please help me. the guy is asking me to meet him. am confused.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Miracle! First of all, you have to be careful because not everyone on social media (Facebook, Instagram etc) lives a real life. Some of them are hiding their real personalities on social media. You are probably enjoying the attention he is giving you since this is your first "relationship". If you must go out on a date with him (which we do not advise), please go to an open place (of your choice, not where he chooses) that has many people and be very watchful. If he asks you to go to somewhere private and/or secluded, please do not go. If possible, go with someone and tell a trusted adult where you are going to and also give his number. We hope this helps.
i advice that u block him!
Comment Here What Should I Do To Convince My Frnds And Family That A Boy Who Just My Frnd S Nt My Bf
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Jamie! Talk to them and tell them. There is nothing proper communication cannot do. Also, they may not believe you because your body language may be saying something else (this is the way you act around him. It may be like you are flirting with him). Just talk to them and tell them. We hope this helps.
i met my bf on-line though he is what he represent on-line but..He stop his messages! although we've met face2face only on few case.I think he is scared to loveme
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Big sister, I feel so nervous and think am a bad girl to date a boy
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Sophy! It's okay to be nervous but you shouldn't feel like a bad girl. Dating a boy should be done when you are ready to date (not because your friends are dating). So please, do not feel pressured to date anyone. Live your life (without feeling nervous or under pressure). We hope this helps.
Unadviceable ! it could be very risky
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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you are right 0)PRETTY
You have to be very careful with people you don't know and meet online (especially men)
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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you are so right Garnet04
hey! baby don't just d such why you we never tell your parents you know they are your God and you also know they can lead you through be wise my dear
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Pls there is my class mate who i make frn with and i do want to hv sex with her
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Shaibu! Thanks for opening up to ask this question. f you are below the age of 18, you are a minor and shouldn't be having sex (this doesn't mean that once you are above 18, you should be having sex freely either). If you want to have sex, just be ready for the consequences if they come up. These include unwanted pregnancy, STD's, heart breaks, infections etc. Also and most importantly, there has to be a mutual agreement between you two. If she does not agree and you force her, it is called rape and that is a punishable crime. We hope this helps.
Ncy one
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Nyc one
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That's true
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Yeah, is not good to
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pls is it bad to date online?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Christy! First of all, you have to be careful because not everyone on social media (Facebook, Instagram etc) lives a real life. Some of them are hiding their real personalities on social media. If you must go out on a date with him, please go to an open place that has many people and be very watchful. If he asks you to go to somewhere private and/or secluded, please do not go. If possible, go with someone and tell a trusted adult where you are going to and also give his number. We hope this helps.
Hey big sis.. I'm new here... I'm a girl of 19 and also a virgin.. There's a guy in my church.. He has been asking me to his girlfriend and he said he loves me very much.. But am not ready for any relationship now.. And I have not been in any relationship before.. And also we are in the same department in Church ..i somehow have feelings for he... And he is not the only person.. Please big sis.. I don't know what to do now.. Please advise me.. THANK YOU
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Hey Richie11! Thanks for the comment. No one should compel you to do what you do not want to do or are not ready for in the name of love. If you are not ready to have sex yet, do not allow what he says to disturb you. Love is not forceful. If he really loves you, he will respect your decision. We hope this helps.
hello pls I will like to join dis blog, how can I join
i am New to here
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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hi
Hi
Pls I'm 18 and I'm dating but i want to end it here, i don't know how to go about it. Pls give me a clue. Hanifa
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Hannypretty! All you need to do is to tell him you are not interested in a relationship anymore and do not be rude about it. Say it like you mean it and you really have to mean it. We hope this helps.
i am new
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Please i need an advice, is't wrong or right for a girl to date her friend's exboyfriend
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey MhizGEe! This is dependent on how you and your friend feel about it. This is personal. Some people feel it's wrong but some others don't think there is anything wrong with it. However, you need to be sure that the guy has genuine intentions for you. We hope this helps.
Not bad when your friend is not with him again, that one is not a sin
Hi ma is it right for teenager to date mostly if dey can stay clear from sex
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Sexyshine! You need to be sure that your partner is on the same page with you. You may not want to have sex but the other person in the relationship may want sex so you need to discuss things like this before you get into a relationship with someone to know if it will be worth it or not. We hope this helps.
How are you going to bed now
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
if you.really love him go and meet him in a safe location
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it good
Hey Godstime12! Your safetly comes before love. What if he has bad intentions and has been pretending all the while? What if he is not the person you have been communicating with? What if you fell in love with a bad person? These things happen which is why we have to be wise even when we claim to love someone. People hide their true personalities online. They pretend a lot and show you the personality you want them to show. Please be extremely careful when you deal with someone online. If you must see them, tell a trusted adult and also choose an open location. We hope this helps.
just be ur self-defense
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Live life, never let life live you Enjoy life, savour each moment with joy in your heart Fulfill dreams, never let dreams fulfill you Take things as they come, not otherwise It's your birthday and am here to say may your wishes come true.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Fat Is Take A Step Invent The Guy Tell To See U Some Around Ur Prent Home
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Hello
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
what is the fulmean of W.A.I
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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nwafordaniel W.A.I means War Against Indiscipline.i hope this helps.
Seriously,that's exactly what I did,I met a guy online and he was disturbing then because he wanted us to meet,so I later decided to meet him.But I didn't went alone, I went there with a friend of mine.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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So what happened?
pls ma, am 23 yrs old am a virgin i just wnt to about wen to av sex widout pregnacy and wen nt to av sex
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hi sweetheart, have you asked yourself why you want to have sex? Is it right for me to do it now? Are you pressured to do it? Does it make you a better person? If you can sincerely answer all these questions. .then we might find the answer you need.
Hey Mizzs421! Chychy has said it all. Thanks a lot Chychy for helping your fellow Springster out. We hope this helps
Thank you Big Sister!!!
Life is beautiful😍😍😍
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
There is nothing bad in it, life is beautiful 😀
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
is-very-bad
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Hi MhizGEe Well you have to be sure your girlfriend is cool with it, very important so you dont hurt your girlfriend, also have to be sure the boy is genuine.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Yeah of course it's nt a bad idea just b vigilant bcuz we re in dangerous world nd don't see him/her confidential.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
yes
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nice friends
I don't think it's wise to meet a guy you only know on social media. You don't really know him, so please be careful. And by the way, if you feel like you have to hide something from your parents, then it is absolutely a big DON'T.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
that is very dangereous
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
It is very dangerous d person u dont knw even if u see d person phisically u have to investigate
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
That is very dangerous
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
I think the best thing is to be safe, and take someone u can confide in with u
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
to me is not good
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Not every body is dangerous , there are some destiny helpers you know, all you need is just to becareful and smart
Trust me it's a bad idea he might want to take advantage of you
Yes, even if you decide to meet up, go with at least two friends, stay in open environment nd never give out important information
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
No don't do so try to negelet such chat and you desire to go at least you and two of your friend and take notice of your environment at that moment.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
If the person stay in ur neighbourhood,u can pay a visit.if he is far,u stay where u are
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey fame! Please, just stay careful especially if the person stays around your neighbourhood. Remember you do not know this person's true intention. If you must see this person, do not go alone and inform someone you trust about your movement. Never meet up in a secluded or lonely place too. We hope this helps.
i agreed
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
what if the person was ur known or ur old friend and u cn,t recall him or her again?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey CUTE! Even if the person was an old friend, you still need to be careful. People change and you can't be too sure that the person is still the same good and nice person you knew before. So still be very careful. We hope this helps
What is. This is this love
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
U need to be very carefull
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Thanks alot.................,
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Thanks alot.................
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
she should go
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Why
Let the person go.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Be wise
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hi Gabro is really good to be smart, wise when meeting a stranger me am not afraid of meeting strangers,do you know why is because am not that foolish to meet the person at a dark and scary place if you want to see me then call me.
Be careful because some guys if there get what they want from u they wil dump u like trash and also u may lose your virginity nd it a shame i hope this will help u..... Nd also am new here hi:)
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
even if he was/is your frnd don't meet him
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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#YourOpinion Don't be judgemental
before meeting some online'u should first all sit and think of it,before goin through.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Nah cool 2 me...buh unless your *INSTINCTS* tell u it safe...u can. #MyOpinion
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hmmm
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Thanks Alot
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
thanks a lot
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Tanx
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
IT IS VERY DANGEROUS TO VISIT A MAN OR A WOMAN YOU MET ONLINE BECAUSE THEY MIGHT HAVE SOMETHING DIFFERENT IN MIND,
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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You are very correct BLECE. Thanks for this
Is it right for me to date a guy i met online
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
please who would like to chat with me here on springster,anyone if their is anyone then fix a time a day we can chat and on what topic(my first year as a mum)or any other topic you want please grant my request.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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hello #jbaby005
hi Francis.
Hi friends am new here am i welcome
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Ur absolutely welcome
Any Of Ur Choice
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Thanks
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