Be happy and fulfilled
Thinking of dating? You’re sooo not alone! Dating is a normal part of growing up. And it can be fun!
That being said, it’s best to be in a safe, healthy relationship. One where you’re totally happy and fulfilled. One where you can truly be yourself. These tips will help you get started:
Be Friends
Great relationships are built on trust, treating each other as equals and mutual respect. When you guys start off as friends, these things are likely to come easily. Because you’d have gotten to know each other as people first, before anything else. Better yet, you’ll be able to tell if you have similar likes, ideas etc. You will also be able to tell if this is someone who respects and appreciates you for who you are.
Speak Up
When you’re with someone, you should feel free to communicate with them. If something is bothering you, it’s better to talk about it instead of holding it in. So from your opinions to your feelings, let it all out. Your partner can’t read your mind. Be as clear, direct and honest as possible.
Don’t Be Anyone’s Secret
One of the coolest things about being in a relationship? Meeting each other’s loved ones! If you can’t tell your closest friends you’re seeing someone, something is wrong. You should be able to show each other off to friends. It’ll let both of you know where you stand. Besides, you’ll find out whether or not your loved ones are happy about your relationship. If they are, yay!
Make Time For Yourself
Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean you guys must be together all the time. You both need your space. You shouldn’t abandon your friends just because you’re dating. Or stop doing the things you’ve always loved. Once in a while, take a break and do your own thing. There’s joy in being alone too.
Be Kind and Supportive
No name-calling or silent treatment. No yelling or hitting – no matter how upset you are. Always lift each other up, instead of putting each other down. Believe in each other’s dreams and cheer each other on. Yes, you guys will disagree sometimes. But things can be settled in a fair, mature way.
Remember, you deserve to feel safe, loved and accepted. You have the right to leave any relationship where you feel unhappy and unsafe. If you have serious concerns about your relationship, talk to a trusted adult immediately.
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Hey Big sis Am new here😁 I broke up with my bf a while back, buh the funny thing is that I miss him alot Though I was the one who called the strings off Am really trying to forget him And move on buh it's hard We dated for about 2 months
Nov. 2, 2022, 11:03 a.m.
NICE
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
big sis what if you both love each other but the guy is not working and can't meet to your needs, is it advisable to quit that relationship?
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Hey Savage! Thanks for the comment. Please note that it is not your partner's duty to meet your needs. A relationship is not an avenue for you to be taken care of. If you are in a relationship for this reason, then you do not know what relationships are about and you are obviously not ready to be in one. Your boyfriend is not meant to be your sponsor. No! Your parents or guardians are meant to take care of that and if you need more, you should work for it. If he is not working, why can't you work? Please, this is a wrong mindset to carry into a relationship. This is what makes men take a lot of women for granted because theu believe in the end, it is money that she wants. This is not the essence of relationships. We hope this helps
Big sis when in a relationship how do u know if a guy loves u or he is only playing games with u.and is sex part of dating
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! We have replied to this question in the other comment. We advise you to read it. We hope this helps
Am Very Hot Temper Nd Which I Dnt Lyk,well Any Little Thing D Guy Does,i Shout At Him Though He Is Caring Wht Shuld I Do?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Hangal! Thanks for the comment. The first thing is to learn to control your temper because a hot temper does not help anyone. You need to learn how to stay calm even when you are angry and know that shouting is not the best way to resolve a conflict. This should not just be done when you are with him but with everyone. How will you feel if someone treats you the way you treat this guy? Obviously, you will not feel good about it. We hope this helps
pls at wat age can u start to date
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Damell! Thanks for the comment. There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.
If You Are Dating,is It A Must That You Have Sex With Them Because You Trust Them?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Mirabel! Thanks for the comment. No, sex is not compulsory in a relationship. Sex is not love and should not be mistaken for love. You need to both have an agreement and also let your partner know that you are not interested in sex. Keeping quiet about it is not the right thing to do. We hope this helps
True, i surpport u
is dating a crime????
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey lhord! Thanks for the comment. Dating is a personal decision. You should be able to make a decision on this that is not based on peer pressure or any such thing. Please note that it is a huge responsibility and you have to be mature enough to handle it. We hope this helps
Good I Love That
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Hi Ihord,dating is not crime. its a personal decision to make,but u have to know,consider,and also determine whether u are fully matured (both emotionally & physically) before u go in for a relationship ,do not enter in a relationship because others are in it or because a guy ask u out or force u but enter in it because have considered and reconsidered,and also please follow your heart.I hope this helps.Thanks And God Bless.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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chummy you're right but at times relationship at a young age aint always maturity its just following your heart and being with the person who makes u happy. the aspect of maturity kicks in from 18 and above,thats when you think you are ready to make the relationship more official,at this stage its just to play it safe ,have fun and be happy
I love it
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
is age a barrier in a relationship
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in some cases age usually is but it should't
Am 16,i have been into many relationship but i don't see any seriousness in that and for now am on my own what i need is serious relationship how can it be possible
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it is mostly good to date a friend because that person knows you, your inseriousness may be as a result of lack of interest. so I think when you want to date now you should date with ur hrt not bcus of anything
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March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Big sis do u think it's right for us minors to start dating ?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey precious! Thanks for the comment. There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurizing you to do it. We hope this helps.
How do u know a guy is playing with your feelings or not.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
He no longer give attention n communication is d relationship at stake?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
He no longer give attention n communication is d relationship at stake?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. We advise you to talk to him about this. Communication is very important in every relationship. We hope this helps
my bf always agree to wat Eva I say does that mean I am controlling him or am to bossy I am confused
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey diva! Thanks for the comment. There are two angles to this. The fact that he agrees does not mean that you are bossy or controlling, it could mean that he actually agrees with what you say to him. It could also mean that he is doing these to please you. The only way to find out is to ask him how he feels about this. Tell him to be honest with you. We hope this helps
is it good for a girl of 14 to date even though she is ready is it good?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Nope i started dating way younger than that but just be wise and know what you are doing
Hey jbaby005! Thanks for the comment. There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurizing you to do it. We hope this helps.
big sis my friend asked me I should tell three reasons why a boy loves a boy.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Hi big sis pls how long can a crush last?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Ene! Thanks for the comment. There is no defined answer to this question. This is different for everyone. We hope this helps
Help sis,I think my boyfriend is cheating on me,he hide his phone for not to see his chat with girls, what will I do
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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U will just be patient don't even say any about it do asive u dont even nowhat is happen by doing this u will now no the truth he might be testing u to know the kind of person u are please be patient with me
Don't be worried about it, just feel like you don't know anything happening like that. What goes around must surely comes around, my dear just be patient.
Hey Optylilly! Thanks for the comment. First of all, his chats and his phone is his private space so you really have no business trying to get into that space except he willingly lets you in. Also, assuming that he is cheating may not be absolutely correct. What if he is chatting with his male friends? You should talk about your insecurities with him but you need to know that his messages are personal. We hope this helps
yes! I agree wit Big Sister
love is the most important thing in relationship without love the relationship will not last long the reason why I said this. is that a lot of boys normally say I love to especially to the girls but there do not
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
understanding your love one,it's the most important things in relationships.No rooms for happiness without LOVE.
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big sister i am new here am i welcome ?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
im new here...hope im welcum
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Big Sis, i have a question...if u are in a relationship with a guy claims to luv only u, but still says he do say "i luv u" to some other girl whom he said he is helping to cure her of depression and fear of luving...wat would u do? would u still trust his luv towards u? or would u break up with him?
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Hey SPARKLE! Thanks for the comment. Love is relative. What if he loves her like a friend? It is the same thing with you loving your friends or siblings. You need to be sure that you are not mistaken. Talk to him about this and let him know how you feel. We hope this helps
ok...thanks Big Sis
Am new here Am I welcomed
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Yes, you are welcome
Big sister a friend of mine asked my boyfriend out
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Oh wow Wemi! We are so sorry about this. Have you tried talking to your friend about it? This can be really painful but we advise you to keep calm. Please we will appreciate if you get back to us so that we can follow through on this phase. We hope this helps
Is it good for boy's to be asking d girls if he want him to propose to her
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Hannah! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision and it is up to the individual to make. We hope this helps
dear iz diz girl I like bt I cannot talk 2 her 2 no my thoughts
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
hi,i have talk to many girl in my street... but they all turned me down.does this mean i cant toast a girl or its my speech
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you should not be toasting just any and every girl. This just shows that you are not sure of what it is that you want for yourself. You need to make up your mind on what you want from a girl because it is obvious that the girls don't take you serious. You do not need to learn how to toast every girl on the street, what you need is to know what you want for yourself, once you know this, you will realize that it is not all the girls on your street that should be toasted. We hope this helps
Pls what r de words to use in toasting a girl.cause have try but it did't workout 4me.pls i need ur help
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Pls what r de words to use in toasting a girl.cause have try but it did't workout 4me.pls i need ur help
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. There are no words they use to toast a girl. We have given you tips that will help you to build a strong and good relationship. We do not share toasting tips because there is nothing like that. You need to know what you want in a partner and also what it is that you want from a relationship too. We hope this helps
big sis,my bf cheated on me wit my besty.i caught dem avin sex n ever since den i had rejected all guys dat approached me.i avent been able 2 luv any1 else,its lyk i dont even ave a heart anymore.now every1 thinks i ave a problem.de believe am not normal n even my mum believes dat am sick.am confuse i need help.big sis do u also think am sick?do u think i can fall in luv again?i would really appreciate it if u can reply me as soon as possible cos dis whole thing z already driving me nut.thanks big sis i would b expectin ur reply.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about this. This is very painful and also very hard to deal with too. The truth is that the fact that you caught someone cheating on you does not mean that all guys will cheat on you. He obviously did not deserve you and you deserve love. Do not allow that incident to cost you love and friendship. Yes, you can still fall in love again but what you have to do is to let go first of all. Once you are able to do that, you will see that not all guys mean harm. We understand that this is very tough but we believe you can come out of this. There is a Child Advocacy Center where they help and give professional advice to young people in situations like this on what they can do to be safe. You can call them on 08 00 80 080 01. This service is completely confidential - which means they won't share what you say to them with other people. It is free which means you don’t not need to have credit before you call them. We hope this helps
hey big sis! I had a girlfriend,we had a bad end,(she cheated), I broke up with her,I'm so in love with her cousin,I made it known to her,she loves me in return,I'm confused, what should I do,can we possibly date?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey kayy! Thanks for the comment. What makes you so sure that you love her cousin? What if it is a crush? You need to go back and reassess what it is that makes you so sure that it is love that you feel for her cousin. You cannot love someone you do not know. Also, about choosing to date her, there is just one question we have for you to answer; How will you feel if your cousin starts to date your ex- girlfriend? Put yourself in her shoes and be honest too. We hope this helps
Kayy omo e be like e no go fit work oooo because your ex na her cousin and now you are in love with her cousin this is terrible but be careful don't cause the both of them to hate each other cause when two sisters has feeling for one man is like when two countries are dragging a piece of land so be careful while you make your decision to avoid trouble
Guy i don't think that is love please check ur self very well
Pls i need help an older man once called me he asked of my name which i told him he asked 4 my fone no so i told him i will get back 2 him lata which i didnt want to i feel i shouldnt have ans him wen he called me now wen eva i see him am alwaxs awkard nd afraid pls i realli need ur advice on wat to do tank u
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Hey Muriella! Thanks for the comment. There's really nothing to be worried about. You should talk to a trusted adult about this first and then try not to feel awkward about it. It is your phone number and you have every right to not give it to him. If he comes back and disturbs you for it, politely let him know that you do not want to share it. He cannot force you. You will be fine okay, don't let this bother you. We hope this helps
Tanks bip sis i will do just dat im muriella
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Is dating bad in secondary school?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Akofeola! Thanks for the comment. There is no particular age to start dating. You should date when you are mature enough to handle to responsibilities that come with being in a relationship. We hope this helps
Dating is not bad in secondary.
no,as long as u are matured enough to date then there is no problem.
The decision is urs
Hey Big sister I really like dis boy BT he's kind of a very quiet boy. He's dated someone b4.I am shy to talk to him What do I do
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. It is either you talk to him or you let him go. The choice is yours. You have to get to know him better by being just friends with him now. We hope this helps
Am having issues with my relationship we can't even talk for a whole day without quarrelling
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Big sister, please is it OK to kiss one's partner while in a relationship. Thanks.
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Its a personal decision so its left for you to decide.
Hey mmhiz_sunshine! This is a personal decision and totally up to you to make. We hope this helps
Big sister, please is it OK to kiss one's partner while in a relationship. Thanks.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Learn how to balance your work if you are a student
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big sister please advise me I have 3 boys asking me out at the same time.... I am really confused.... all of them proves to be caring.... what do I do?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Sorry,does ur mum know dem?If she knows dem den i think u should tell her about it.
The decision is urs we cannot choose 4 u
Hey precious! Thanks for the comment. The fact that 3 boys are asking you out does not mean that you should consider any of them. It is not about people asking you out, it is about you and not them. If you do not like them and you want to consider any one of them then it means that you are going into the relationship for the wrong reasons. We hope this helps
hi big sis i hv a bf who is in university and i am in SS1 i really luv him but am scared because he is from the northan side wat should i do
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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you should leave him and move on.. moreover he is older than u i hope this help or u should see him and talk to him
I guess u re too young 2 date dat guy.
Hey derby! Thanks for the comment. Being in a relationship has to do with maturity and you need to be mature enough to know that being from the north is not enough for you to be worried about. You already said yes to him and now you are being tribalistic. You need to know what love is to you. We hope this helps
Hey ifeoluwa! We believe that your response is not the right decision to make. Is it that people from the north are not meant to be in a relationship? That won't be fair on them because they are also humans that deserve love.There's more to being in a relationship and you have to be mature enough to know this. We hope this helps
i hav a gyal freind i told her i luv her but she replyed no
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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flash I replied your comment but it's not on your replies it on top of it.
Big sis how can you tell a boy you love him when you dont talk to each other
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Raphalla that's kind of impossible.
Raphaella dats almost impossible.
but it cant be posible 2 say such word 2 him wen u 2 dnt even smile at each oda
Hey Raphaella! The story "Does he like you" has the answer to your questions. We hope this helps
flash just respect her decision she has her own reasons but if you guys were friends please don't allow her no make you guys to stop been friends one day you will surely find a girl that will love you back.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
guys I want to say something about dating,dating can be a kind of complicated especially if your bf just like been friends with girl just friends with a girls you the one he is dating you not like it cause its makes me feel jealous but that was then because he never told me anything and I was wey younger then then I was 10 but am now 14 and I have learnt lot of things about relationship thanks a lot to myself for learning from experience and others experience and the ones that also helped me are you guys Springsteen I wonder what I would have done you guys have helped me a lot am happy am not missing a experience like this as a teenager takes guys.
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..Uwc hahaha.
Hi jbaby005, happy sunday hw was service today.
Mine was good too.
Hello big sister they is this guy who has been disturbing me since I was in secondary school and till date he keep asking me outwell I like him but i told him i want us to be friends for now but he said no what do I do
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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I'd be scared if I were you... Just move on and forget about him if he doesn't understand your feelings will eventually alter and when you move on to someone else (who understands) , so will your feelings.
cheer up my dear anyguy that love u must respect ur decision
Hey Imelda! Thanks for the comment. You should do nothing about it. You should not compromise just because someone is disturbing you. We hope this helps
Imagine if you like someone (your brother knows the person) and found out the person's Facebook name and eventually you both become friends visit right to date the person?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Well,before u do that,u must make the friendshp last b4 dating the person so as to knw mre abt the person.
hello girls.
Thanks @Badgal and hello to jbaby005
Hey Mekky! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision. You should also talk to your brother about it so that it doesn't cause any problem. We hope this helps
Imagine if you like someone (your brother knows the person) and found out the person's Facebook name and eventually you both become friends visit right to date the person?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
My boyfriend always think am cheating on him cause of the way my friends both girls and boys comment on my picture when ever I upload a photo on Facebook. His always angry at me, what will i do plz?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Your boyfriend has trust issues and he needs to work on it. You need to talk to him about it. The fact that you have a boyfriend does not mean that you shouldn't have friends. He needs to learn to trust you and also learn to be secure. We hope this helps
Hy🤚... I'm new here...I have a best friend that is a boy...we do almost everything together ,we share secrets too but the problem is I'm falling in love with him and I have a boyfriend... what should I do
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Oh. come on. He might be having the same feeling as you. Find out and make a move
For me dating is really complicated if you are not ready don't jump into it. Since I was 10 I have been asked out by at least 8 guys but I turned all of them down cause I don't think I am ready to date until I get to the age of 16. So if you are ready to date and understand it you don't need a go ahead order to start, but if you are not ready wait until you are ready then you can go right into it. You may even be 15 and not ready to date or you may be 9 and ready so understand yourself and the person you want to date. One L💖ve bye 👋
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Hi Big Sis, Am New Here Though,but I Have A Bf Who Loves Me Nd I Love Him 2 His Big Sis Know Me Nd She Welcomed Me Into Their Family Bt Am Afraid 2 Let Mum Knw About Him Since She Dissaproved My Dating Right From D Beginning I Cant Jst Leave Him ,he Is Intelligent,caring,loving,social Nd Wit A Strong Moral Background Plx Wat Do I Do?
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hi Nancy welcome to springster.
Tanx Cutie But Please I Need Help To My Present Problem
then feel free to ask big sis anything bcus she is always here for u even if she does not reply on time
pls how can u tell a boy have a crush on him
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hello. Just go ahead and tell the guy. But before you do, find out if he loves you.
pls how can u tell a boy have a crush on him
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Any1 online 2 chat wif.
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Yes I'm here
Yeah always available
Hi cutie and prince1.
Hi prince1 if u are online we can have a few chats.
Hi bayley I'm cool what of u
Hi barley.
Hi my service went really well what of urs.
hi jbaby,are u a Corper ?or what service are you talking about.
or do you mean church service.
At wat age are u 2 start a relationship as a girl?
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At times my boyfriend isn't interested in what I have to say and he's not open about himself and harsh
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If he can't respect ur opinion then why is he ur bf???????
Thanks
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one problem I have in relationship is not having the time to hang out and my boyfriend is not happy with it,and I don't know what to do sometimes if he ask me out I would not know what to say,I will just pretend I was sick but am not,am just confused that I might loose him cos I love him soo much
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After reading this i got work to do
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Is it right for a girl to confuse her feelings to a guy?
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Yes it is bcos if u keep waiting for him to ask you out there's a probability it may never happen don't 4get boys can also be shy😋
kissing and romancing
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Be truthful and make him understand your feeling and feel free to speak out,don't be shy like me,always be happy.
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Hi ss star
Hi George
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hmmmmm dats so sweet
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❤❤😘💖😍
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hello friends, I 😍 you all, you are all so nice here.
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my boyfriend suddenly chat me and said my ex whatsup. i was shocked. i, don't understand. please help
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