How to start a conversation with your parent or older relative
“My parents won’t understand”.
We’ve all said these words before.
The truth is we need to learn how to talk to our parents and older relatives so they can understand us better. We know talking to our parents can seem scary but they really are there to help and support us whenever we need help. So it is really important to not keep important issues from the people who love us the most.
If you don’t really talk to your parents every day, it might be hard to have a proper conversation with them. So start by talking to them about little things. You can ask them about how their day went or talk to them about your own day.
Here are some tips to help make it easier.
Before you talk to your parents you need to do the following;
Don’t let the worry about what your parents may say, stop you from talking to them. No matter the subject, when you talk about it with your parents, the stress will go away.
When you speak to your parents you need to be calm so they can understand you easily. Don’t exaggerate. Be honest. Be simple and clear. Let them know what you think, feel and want. It is important that your parents understand everything you say.
The most important part of communication is the ability to keep quiet and listen. Make sure you understand what your parents say to you so you can respond well. If you do not agree with what they say, be mature and speak to them with a positive and respectful tone. This way they will take what you have to say seriously.
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this could help me a lot.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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And me too,it will also help me
Hello
I needs to share my ideas and thoughts with my parents
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Big Sis what if they deny
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
parents are always is the best i love my parent
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Life
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
parent are they best of all, though i lost my mother my her soul rest in peace.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Smart! Thanks for opening up through this comment. So sorry for your loss. May her soul rest in peace. *hugs*
Sorry losing ur mom , Smart likewise me.
Sorry what a big lost may her soul rest in peace.
Yeah ,thats good.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
An interesting morale
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
a very gd nd interesting 1
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Thank u a lot for your advice.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
good ideas
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
WOW THIS TIP ARE ALL NICE,AND IT WILL HELP TO BUILD OUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH PARENTS. THANKS \#TGIF #JEREX2ART #MMFTRENDS.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
WHAT IF AFTER THEY REFUSE AND SHOUT ON YOU THE MORE
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Adaeze! You should know your parents and when to talk to them. In addtion to all the tips in the article, remember the tone you talk to them with also matters. If you talk to them with a rude or loud tone, you will definitely get shouted on and probably also smacked. So think about it well before you speak. We hope this helps.
Wow,vry interesting
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Nice advice
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Wat if u speak up n none blieves even ur mom n it only cos enmity 4 u
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Nooooooooooooooooooo Your mom will always believe you....that's de fact here....every other person may not.....but mommy will.....so give it a try
As Aurora said if it cos enimity for u am telling today that no matter how u are or no matter what u say ur mother will alway love u but u need to be strong and tell her what u want to say at far as is notting stuiped
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
ok
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
ok i understand
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Okay thanks, big sist i have a big dream but i dont know how to start small
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey efe! Every big dream or big business you see today started from somewhere. No matter how big your dream is, you have to start. If you keep waiting for that big break, you will never start. Start with the little you have and grow into that big thing you want to be. Rome wasn't built in a day, always remember this. We hope this helps
Big sist the period that i was pregnant my parent dont want to see me and they rejected me but after i give birth the want to take the child from my partner mother who take care of me before i give. And my partner is upset about it what should i tell him now
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey efe! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We can only imagine what you are going through about this. There is an organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.
Big sis! Is it right for a girl to ask a boy out
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. There is nothing wrong with asking a boy out. If you are bold enough to do it and you are really sure that you like the boy, then go for it. We hope this helps
Hey big sis, I planned of getting married on October but when my fiance met with my mum she said she won't collect less than #400,000 as bride and he's discouraged of carrying on the plan, on my side I've decided not to visit home again because I'm really not happy about it, please tell me, am I taking the right decision?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Treasure2235! This is a personal decision and it is very tough. However, one thing we know is that leaving your family is never a good option. You need to talk to your parents about this. You can talk to another trusted family member to help you talk to them. You should know that anger and walking away will not solve this issue. We hope this helps
BIG SIS I HAV A BIG PROBLEM BUT FIND HARD TO START TALKIN 2 BOTH MY PARENTS ABOUT IT AM SCARED
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Ritkama! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about this. If you cannot talk to your parents about this. Have you tried talking to another trusted adult like an aunt, uncle, cousin, teacher, neighbor or religious leader? You have to have someone around you that you can talk to about these things. We hope this helps
AM ALWAYS LIVING IN FEAR PLEASE HELP ME
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hi riktima being fearful cannot solve ur problem