It’s time to speak up
Do you sometimes find it hard to talk about somethings?
Do you get scared to speak up?
We know that there are certain conversations that can be tricky to have. But, there are things you can’t help but talk about. Things about your future, boys, or sex.
You see, saying how you feel is very important.
This is why we’d like to share some tips to help you take on conversations
Forget about being called a talkative
Often, as girls, we are taught to be nice, soft, and quiet. Forget it – girls too have the right to say their minds like boys.
Sometimes when you are outspoken, some people see it as you being talkative.
The truth is, you’re just saying how you feel or what you want. You never have to feel like you have to dull yourself to make others comfortable.
Your opinion matters
No one else in the world can be more ‘you’ than you can! Know that. So you need to be confident with your voice.
You also need to learn that your opinion is important, in any situation. If you would rather focus on study than dating like all your friends, go for it! If you prefer rap music to RnB, stick with it.
Cool off
When angry, it can be hard to communicate clearly. If you are having a disagreement with your parent or a teacher, talking to them with a calm attitude will help them see that you are approaching this in a mature manner.
Learn the power of NO
If you don’t feel comfortable doing something, say “no”. Whether it is sneaking out, skipping class or going to the next stage with your boyfriend, you are allowed to say no. By saying ‘no’, you’ll also help empower other girls around you feel that they can say no too!
Support other girls
If you hear a girl in class speak up about something important to her, but a boy or classmate shuts her down, try to say something supportive. Like, “I think what Sara said was really interesting,” or “I think Sara had a good idea”. Helping to raise the voice of other girls helps all girls voices to get the value they deserve - meaning you’ll be listened to when it’s your turn to speak out.
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Big sis my bf use to ask me to kiss him but i use to say no and he want to break up with me.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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I think u should learn d power "NO"
Learn how to say no
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March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Nice one Gemini
Hi gemini am new but i would love dat:-*
Am always afraid of been scolded or shouted at
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Well everyone is. You just need to believe in yourselves that's all.
luv the article what I luv is for 'WE' as girls to stand up for what we believe in... to show d world we are better than what they think we are by being brave,confident,eloquent,soft-spoken buh bold,goal achievers and most importantly future planners....... . who's with me on this one???
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Oh yea..100% 😊
Am with u😁
I'm standing with u this minute😊😉(☞ ͡ ͡° ͜ ʖ ͡ ͡°)☞
Dnt leave me out oooh
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Big sis , i dont realy like speeking out but i do speak out sometyms
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
I don't talk dat much,i like to be alone when at home,even when my brother want to play with me when i am like dat i will walk away or scream 2 leave me alone
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Me too oooo my parents talk about that but like seriously i love being alone.....n dats y iont wanna date so dat ill b free as d air enjoy my life n slay on
Though i'm a guy, I believe that we should not be afraid, but speak up what's in our mind, even in the public because there's power in our lips THANKS.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Sure emma ......theres power in d spoken word......a closed mouth is a closed destiny
I am a shy type, I don't talk in public and I really want to stop being that way but I don't know how to go about it
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Rose! Thanks for the comment. We understand how you feel and we have written a lot of articles because of you. Kindly search for #Confidence at the bottom of the page and read the articles that relate to you there. We hope this helps
I'm a shy person, and i'm trying very hard to stop being shy. pls big sis i need ur help
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Baetiana! Thanks for the comment. We understand how you feel and we have written a lot of articles because of you. Kindly search for #Confidence at the bottom of the page and read the articles that relate to you there. We hope this helps
I am always troubled and sad.....Cox I am scared of getting influenced by friends.....I don't have a boyfriend and I don't want to...I am scared of being easily influenced....And I wish to have someone who will tell me aw to not do things like crush
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
I am always troubled and sad.....Cox I am scared of getting influenced by friends.....I don't have a boyfriend and I don't want to...I am scared of being easily influenced....And I wish to have someone who will tell me aw to not do things like crush
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. The moment you become scared about getting influenced by friends, there are high chances of you being influenced by friends and not even know it. You need to make friends and be free with them. Cutting people off because you are scared of being influenced in a way that you do not want is not the right thing to do. Once you know what you want for yourself and you are disciplined, you will not be easily influenced. There is an organization called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.
How can I share my story on Springster? I really need someone who will listen to me and help me with the things bothering me. And I also want to hear people's opinions on my story
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Go on thelyinoluwarh
Go on dear
I've tried replying you but it seems there's a problem with my comment. Something about it being inappropriate. I've tried correcting it but it's not working. :(
Hey TheIyinoluwarh! Welcome to Springster. Big Sister is here for you. Feel free to share your comment with us. We hope this helps
It helps. Thanks :)
hello
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
I am new hello beautiful & handsome girls & boys ;>8-);)
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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I believe
Believe in you
I've tried replying you but there seem to be a problem . with my comment. Something about it being inappropriate. I have corrected the error but it's not working. :)
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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What is it?
We have the same issue gaez
Hey TheIyinoluwarh and HuangZhai! Thanks for the comment. You have an inappropriate word in your comment and you need to edit the content of your comment. You can see that this comment went through because you do not have an inappropriate word in it. Springster is a safe space where some words are not allowed. We hope this helps
@Big Sister I tried editing it. I didn't use any swear words or give any personal/inappropriate information yet it kept saying there's an error
Big sister,i use to be scared of talk to my fellow even in public.Am scared of being laugh at cos i speak wit my tongue.Pls help me out
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Big sis,i cnt actually speak up u see.cause nt every girl /boy think the way i do.. Nd actually some things are better of hidden in the mind than speaking it out u knw... Nt everyone Wants to hear u speak... Dats y being supportive,kind,or speaking up does'nt work out this days..
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey chi_nel_1! Thanks for the comment. Not everyone will think like you and this is normal because we are all different and have different ideologies. However, it is always advisable for you to have someone you can talk to. No man is an island and truly, no one has ever made it in life on his own. We are not saying that you should talk to everyone but then you need to have at least 1 person that you can speak to. Keeping everything to yourself is also not safe for your mental health. Also, speaking, being kind and getting support actually does work these days. In fact, they work more even now. Have positive vibes and get the right people around you and you will build each other to be better people. We hope this helps
What is on my mind is dat to become a person in life.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
I think am in love with three boys that am dating now, because I can't think of hurting any of them, please big sister is this really love?
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Juliet! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you cannot love 3 people equally. There are high chances that you do not love any of them at all. You are already hurting all of them by dating them all. Imagine how you will feel if a guy did this to you? It is better for you to end it with all of them and then go back to asking yourself what it is that you want in a guy and also out of a relationship. This will guide you in choosing THE partner when you get advances from other guys. We hope this helps
I think I have a big problem. OK hv tried to stop bt its not working. I usual masturbate
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Have you tried talking to a trusted adult about these? We advise that you do and also try to distract yourself the moment the thought comes to your head. There is an organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything
I always have this fear of not letting my crush knows that i have feelings for him cos am afraid what and how he will react and i let the fear rule me but sometimes i always thank that fear for being there becos it later turns out that he loves my classmate
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Big sis i have a problem and i want you to reply fast. there is this boy i'm totally crushing on for three years and he told me he has always loved me since 4 years ago but something happened my friend told me that i should forget about him that he didn't really care that he just wanted to use me that's all and i foolishly believed her and on april 1st i was confused cuz i was avoiding him for like a month now and i came up with a plan and i told him that i liked him but later i told him it was a prank he took it pretty hard and to cut the story short he ended up liking two other girls my best friend and my cousin along with me and these girls got their eyes on other boys and never saw it coming so what should i do please answer quickly
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
M a kind of girl that don't talk much am gentle and quiet and I smile alot buh u think my colleagues don't like me for who I am they always shut me up when ever I am talking saying I talk to much and it makes me sad cuz they don't know me N so confused big sis I need help
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Nvm them if theres anything u can say that u know will benefit others say it out.....and then to ur collegues tell them boldly to allow u speak,u have the ryt to asend n desend freely in any discussion
i feel it very difficult to say hw i feel becus...i hate embrassment nd am not always sure of wat de out come might be.i hate pple laughing at me.
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
Hi big sister, my parents are my problem they are too strict, I am not allowed to go out or have friends at age 22+ my parents(mother) still dictate nd think for me. they don't want me out of the house. because of this I am only allowed to run a per time program. am d first daughter of my family, I listened nd seek for advice everywhere but none is working for me, I ran out of the house some times ago for two weeks my parents had to be pasting my picture everywhere and at d end my father got me, my friend nd the landlady of the house arrested. like all dis are just tips of an iceberg. am so down right now, I need freedom
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
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lol,I don't see anything with what your parents are doing. your parents really love that why they have been protective. they don't want you to be mislead by friends. and you are a lady. you are the first born and you be thinking about your future.they want you to get pregnant.I have a girl who is My bestie that share similar case like u. your parents love you a lot.best advice I could give my own blood