This Boy Keeps Saying Bad Things

How I dealt With Rumours

This Boy Keeps Saying Bad Things

I was in year one when I experienced my first boy drama.

The boy in question was my family friend Jide.

He was like my brother in school. Always helping me out with school matters.

During our second semester, I noticed he started acting weird. He started avoiding me. Barely spoke to me.

I spoke to him a few times about his behavior. His behavior however remained the same.

After a while, he totally stopped talking to me.

I figured he did not want me around him. I decided to mind my business.

Everything was fine until a girl approached me one day. She introduced herself as Jide’s girlfriend.

I was surprised to hear he had a girlfriend.

She said she only wanted to meet me. We exchanged numbers and she left.

2 weeks later, Jide himself approached me. He asked me to stay away from his girlfriend. He acted as if he was protecting me.

To my surprise after our conversation he went about to tell people I was in love with him. He said I was the reason his girlfriend broke up with him. He even called me a gold digger.

I didn’t know what to do. I was so upset and sad.

I couldn’t walk alone around the school.

I really needed to talk to someone. I opened up to my mum. Although, I did not tell her it was Jide.

My mum said to me;

You can’t control what people think or say about you. However, that should never change who you are.

In life, some people will be good to you and some will be the opposite. So, don’t let this experience make you think everyone is bad.

I am happy you opened up to me. But I need you to report this issue to an authority in your school. He needs to apologise to you. He is spoiling your name and that’s not acceptable.

In the meantime, try not to bother yourself about this issue. In a matter of time, people will forget about this gist. You just focus on your studies.

My mum was right. After a while, people just stopped talking about it.

I will like to say if you ever find yourself in a situation like this please speak up. Report the person to an older person or an authority. You can also talk to an older person like a mum, aunt or even cleric. They will be able to advise you on what to do.

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