Learn how Idayat turned down a toaster
Idayat was 18 years old the first time a man asked for her hand in marriage. The day it happened she was on her way to the shop where she sold food.
The man in question was not a stranger. He was a businessman that owned a supermarket on her street. When he stopped her that day to talk her she had no idea what he wanted to say until he said;
"Idayat for weeks now I have been observing you. You are a really smart and beautiful young lady. I see how hardworking you are. I admire you so much. I like the fact that you make money unlike girls your age who beg for money from people. I really will like to know you better. If you let me I will like to make you my girlfriend and then wife in future."
Idayat replied him by saying;
"Thanks for admiring me. But I am not interested."
He tried to persuade her but she said;
"Sir, I am not ready to get married. I am too young for that. I don’t want a boyfriend either. I don’t want to experience all the drama and emotional stuff that comes with a relationship. Right now, I want to focus on my business. I need to help my single mother. I don’t want anything to hold me back."
This did not stop him from disturbing her. Once or twice he tried to stop her on the street to declare his love.
And then one day he showed up at her house. He had come to see Idayat’s mother. He came to declare his interest. He promised to marry her and take care of her. Her mum believed him.
Afterwards, she asked Idayat to date him. She said he was a successful man from a good family. She told her how lucky she was to have gotten the attention of such a big man. But that didn’t change Idayat’s mind.
But her mum insisted.
So she started to tolerate him. For months, she pretended to like him. At a point she started to give him the silent treatment. Her mum noticed the behaviour and cautioned her.
Idayat begged her mum not to let her marry him. She told her mum she didn’t like him. They had nothing in common. She told her mum how unhappy she was with him. She even mentioned that an early marriage would hold her back.
Luckily, she was able to convince her mum. Her mum gave her the permission to end the relationship.
She had a conversation with him. She told him she was not interested and only led him on because she was been forced.
He felt hurt and disappointed. She apologized for her action before breaking off the relationship.
Today Idayat is focused on growing her business. She has learnt the importance of speaking out.
Are you in the same situation as Idayat? Are you being pressured by friends or family to date someone?
Speaking out might be able to help. Tell them how you feel. Let them understand your interest. It is your choice to make.
Are you being pressured by an older person? Look for a trusted older person to speak to them. They might just listen to them.
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Nice post…
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Nice post Big sis I want to seek your advice before I do something bad There's this boy who I really like and since we started dating he never has my time at school and church and he hardly comes to my house what should i do
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Linda! Thanks for the comment. Have you tried talking to him about this? If you haven't, we suggest that you do so and let him know how you feel. Communication is very important in a relationship and you have to be able to properly communicate how you feel to your partner. We hope this helps
I think We have d Same problem
There is a boy l like. He is my classmate and l heard that my cousin told me that all the boys in my class have a crush on me but l am not sure yet. The boy is also my very good friend and l think he also have a crush on me. We chatted in WhatsApp and send me slightly romantic pictures and videos. I am shy to express my feelings and l don't know what to do. Please, l need your advice
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Jessica! Thanks for the comment. You need to get to know him better before you start to talk about feelings. If you do not know him well enough then it is not safe to start expressing feelings that you do not have because crush is not love. Take your time to know him better. We hope this helps
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March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Big sis, there is a guy he approach me and tell me her feelings toward me. But i didn't like him and i walkout from him later he call me and i didn't knw how he get my number. Pls i need ur advice
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey Maiden! Thanks for the comment. Nothing has changed since then and you should do nothing about it. Let him know that you do not feel the same way about him. The fact that he got your number and called you does not mean that you should automatically have feelings for him. Do not be rude to him. We hope this helps
Thankz @big sis i really appreciate
Dear big sis, please help out, i've a crush on this girl but she alwayz turn me down, what do i do
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey Babilun! Thanks for the comment. Do nothing about it. It means that she doesn't feel the same way about you and you cannot force her. The fact that you have a crush on her does not mean that she will automatically feel the same way about you. You cannot force her to give you attention when she doesn't even have a crush on you. We hope this helps
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March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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hi pinky how are u dear
I'm fine,thank you and you.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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am fine as well dear.
hi everyone long time no talk ,i hope u are all fine,coz i am getting better,i dint go to church cos i am not dat ok .i have not been chating with you guys coz i dont have data .who is online to gist with.i missed you all. sorry if i dint reply ur comments i will try and fix.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Hi besty,Happy Sunday to you. I pray you will get better soon.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Hi besty. Happy Sunday to you. I pray you will get better. Remember to always pray,eat well,sleep and exercise yourself.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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tanks for ur concern pinky.
I do i know a true and Godly girl to marry to???
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Welcome newbies !!!!!!!!!! Zoom u should try asking her out First.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Ohh I just remembered you are amazing just the way you are, love your self no one can do dat for you not even your husband or bf or gf or wife, It's only you and try to listen to just the way you are by Bruno Mars anytime you just hate being urself
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Tnxs for sharing dis. Good nite swt dreams.
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Thank you for sharing this with us
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Thanks
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Big sis am having dsame issue u mention in d article above, i broke up wit my bf some weeks back nd b4 dat dere is diz guy dat has started dating me witout my permission nd he has asked me several tyms wen 2 cum nd meet my parents buh i keep prosponding it cuz am not intrested buh he wont leave me alone nd am trying to tell him buh am scared nd shy so plz i need ur advice on wot to do.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey jjmi! Thanks for the comment. First of all, no one can date you without your permission. He also shouldn't be disturbing you to see your parents if you told him that you are not interested in a relationship. He sees some form of interest in you which is why he is so confident. You need to tell him that you are not interested in a relationship and mean it. You do not have to be rude about this also. If he still insists, then you should tell a trusted adult about him and cut off all forms of communication with him. We hope this helps
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March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
hy big sis a guy who is up to the age of 20 yrs tried to have sex with me i ran away from him after few weeks that i warned him dat he should leave me alone dat i don't want to have any thing with him he told me he loves a lot that he want to date me am not sure of to do should i agree
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey love! Thanks for the comment. First of all, do you even know this guy that you want to agree to? The first thing you said was that he tried to have sex with you and afterwards, he now claims he loves you. What this seems like is that he is just looking for a way to have sex with you and he is trying to use "love" to get it. Please, you should not just consider just any guy for a relationship (especially when he is already talking about sex when you both are not even in a relationship yet). You need to carefully think about it and be watchful so that you do not make a mistake. Talk to a trusted adult about this first. We hope this helps
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March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
is it good to dat your friend ex boy or girl friend
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey queen! Thanks for the comment. The best way to answer this question is for you to ask yourself this question... How will you feel if your friend starts to date your ex boyfriend or girlfriend? Your answer to this question is the answer to this. We hope this helps
My Bf Has Been Asking Me For Sex And I Have Rejected Him..I Told I Wasn't Ready For That Yet..He Told Me Sex Isn't A Big Deal But I Think It Is And I Don't Want To Do It Now..Big Sis I Need Advice.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Hello Favvee, Politely tell him No that you are not ready to have sex
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hello pinky.b
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Hmm i am in a relationship and this man has promised to marry me. I seduced him and we gave each other a hand job. I feel terrible, i wish i hadnt accepted to be his girlfriend because i cannot forgive myself for leading someone else to sin. I have confided in two people already, they advised me but i still feel hurt. I am depressed. Help me please.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Hi Emma, how are you doing.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Hi Emmy, how are you doing.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
I'm doing great, how about u?
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
I'm good 👍.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
I'm fine.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
I feel lonely i need someone in my life
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hi
Am here
I had once been in this situation before. I was been pressurised by a closed friend to a guy whom i don't even love, considering fact that he can't contribute positively to my well-being.But due to the pressure laid on me, i went into a relationship with him and what in did was to start avoiding and ignore him.After sometime, he walked up to me and questioned my attitude towards him then i apologised, after which, i opened up to him and we broke up.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Big sis pls i need ur advice...ther is dis guy i love nd we have been datin for some months nw all of a sudden he says he wnts to break up with me without any reason he did bt i still love him..we both hve a mutual friend who z also a guy nd he z askin me out bt i dnt hve feelins for him nw my ex z pleading with me dat if i love him i shuld accept his friend
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Hi there bob sister when can a female go on a date
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