The Secret Lives of Boys

What they’re really thinking

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When I was little, we moved to a different town because my Dad got a new job. I remember being nervous about starting another school. But on my first day, everyone was super nice to me. I made lots of friends. Like Ebuka, the most popular boy in school.

He had a way of making everyone laugh. And he was hands down the best footballer in school. Yet somehow, he managed to be normal in spite of everything. We would talk and play throughout the day. Then walk home together after school. Ebuka was sooo cool. He would help me with my homework and cheer me up when I was down.

One day, Ebuka came over to me during break. He looked worried. He asked if we could talk in private. I began to panic. I had never seen him looking so serious.

When we were alone, he said that he saw Ivie, the new girl in school, sitting in the corridor by herself. He said that she seemed lonely and he wanted to be her friend. Only he was too nervous to approach her. I told him to try making her laugh with one of his crazy jokes. Or to ask her if she had settled down in school. Most important, I told him not to be nervous. After all, he was a great friend to me, so I was pretty sure he’d be a great friend to Ivie too.

That’s when Ebuka told me that many boys wanted to be friends with girls. They felt we were smart and funny, but they were scared to speak to us. They thought we’d shun them. I couldn’t believe it. All along, I thought boys only wanted to be friends with other boys. It felt good to know they admired girls too. Funny how boys and girls think alike sometimes.

Anyway, I told Ebuka girls wanted to be friends with boys too. And it wouldn’t hurt us to try. That way, we could get to know one another better. I think this encouraged him to talk to Ivie because they ended up becoming friends.


I’m glad Ebuka opened up to me back then. He taught me that boys aren’t that much different from us. Pretty awesome.


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they is this good friend of mine ,we tell self

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

I'm a social person, I like being friends with everyone both boys and girls, I'm so friendly to boys that I hug them and it seems normal to me. There's this particular boys I was friendly to, we share our problems and help each other solve it but later I discovered that he had another plan that's seems so annoying to me, he was thinking of how to press me and so was another guy. So I decided to stop being friends with boys. Is it the right decision?

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Hi sweetie ur xperience with dose boys shouldn't make u ave a bad view of boys bcos not all boys are like dat u can stgi be frnds whgh boys am a girl u can still have fun wit boys.thanks.

Okay, thanks, I appreciate. I'll do that (continue being the friends of boys)😊

But suddenly I'm scared to do that for the first time in my life because a guy told me that all boys think alike and this drew me away from someone I like and who likes me too. I don't know what to do.

You can be friends with who ever you wish to but make them understand there's a boundary which they can't cross it will make you the boss lady... Trust me you need them around just be free with anyone you feel like okay... Moreover every boys are not the same. The package differs

Thank you all, I really appreciate

Ur'e welcome.

Am new here someone please show me around

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

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Hi giffty, welcum to sprihgster feel free to invite ur frnds nd post a comment.

U re welcome

U can share girl stories,read girls stories and many more,U can also ask 4 advice from big sis.

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

hey, no offensive comments pls I have dis cousin Broda dat has dis affection towards me d way he touches me It turns me on though he too doesn't like it he his 25 m 18 n I dnt want to tell any of our oda cousin pls if dere is any tin he could do or I do to stop dis touches n every oda tin he would do pls jst an advice tnks no harsh comments

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If he dosn't lik de way he touches u den he shouldn't b doing it, coupled wit the fact dat he is ur cousin, tell him 2 stop nd be strict nd serious abt it.hope dis helps.take kia.

To be frank it's not a good idea provided he is older than you are I think he knows difference between good and evil... Stop him from touching you anyways or still better to make it easier talk to your mother about it or your father or even his parents.... It's not a good thing being in an intimate relationship with your cousin try to remember that today.... And desist from any act that will lead you to do otherwise....

Hi everyone i am new here

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Welcome.

You're welcome

Am new too

Yes friendship never end.You could loose little and obtain alots via friendship.

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

evening to everyone, iam new here can anyone tell me how it go

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

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hi holy welcome to springters this forum is amazing it goes like this when you have a question about anything just ask big sister because she is very good at giving good advice.

My boyfriend and I haven't communicated well enough lik in the beginning for the past 3 weeks now... Buh he wunt tell me wah d problm is... Wah culd b d matter??

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Get closer to him and try to know.... If he refused to open up keep on pressing to know from him

Hi, I just signed up today and I'm so confused,I don't know where to start and I could really use some help Thanks

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

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You can share your problems we can help you

Hi mekky welcome to springter when you what to ask any question just log in you will see a box then write your question on it and click comment or anonymously.

Then how did u start when typing those ones..? Why can't u use d same method

Thanks for your help

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

There's this boy from my brother's school that I have a crush on... Unfortunately we had not met in person and he doesn't know me so we started chatting on Facebook later on and after few days he asked to meet me in person but it didn't feel right with me so I said no. When I asked my friend she said it was the right thing to do but now I'm beginning to feel weird and somewhat unimportant to him when we chat, I don't know why... Any suggestions or advice on how I'm feeling or what I should do?

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Hi, u cannot marry somebody online. U must have to met him in person however, if u feel unimportant to him, live him alone and wait for a better ones. Do not force urself to any person. U might regret it later if u do.

Thanks Meki

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

i'm new here

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

Thanks

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

that is good to learned

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

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hello Vinson welcome to springters.

OMG dis is really helping

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Hello cutie

I think that's good

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

its true

March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

Quite ok

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

Actually my mates in schools that are boys I feel nervous to talk to them thinking they don't want to talk to me could it be the same as ebuka issue

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

exactly, when I was in higher school, my best friends were boys.

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

i prefer guys than girlrs

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Why??

very true

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

Dats basically true

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

I have si

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

I felt dat some guys wil tel their others frds dat u were d 1 who talk to dem first nd wil start bragging abt it, dats y i dont talk to guy first

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

Some guys like me feel shy around girls. so we prefer staying single

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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Hi Telvin if u don't want to start dating yet,that's not a bad idea.

I love she loves me too wev really been gud an bad tyms buh naw is like she dosent lik me anymore..she dosent text and call as usuall buh shes always online pls what shud i do

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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Hi Paul I think u should find a way to meet her so that u can tell her all this, maybe she still love u but there might be reason for her behavior, just try talking to her OK.

well my mother told me not to make any boyfriends that god said it wrong but i dont see anytin wrong with it pls i need advice

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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Hi Mary please don't be offended did she tell u where it is written in the Bible, if she did please send it for me,God never said that it is not good to have a boyfriend,maybe she does not want u to have a boyfriend yet.

Its NT de issue of bible ..its just dat..wen u are young u may want Tu du tins Tu please ur bf even though it means losing ur virginity..ur mum loves u soo much ND is using probably her past experience or dat of odas Tu train u up rightly

hi Mary ur mom said u sud not have a boyfriend is bcoz ,with her experience maybe she noticed that all relationships end up with sex. and she doesn't want u to get sexed. but believe me she is your mom. she is right, never disobey her. she has her reasons.

i am a guy that av crush on girl end up aving feelings for them bt i av neva been in a relationship maybe i dnt knw hw this things are done od dating is nt for me the girls i use to av crush for end up becoming my friend s

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

Hi am new here

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hello ejire u are welcome to Springsteen.

Hi I'm new here, Pls dere is a girl I've feelings for... But I don't want to be in relationship!!! Pls I need help"any one"(Big sis). I'm a guy.....

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

NB. I don't want be in relationship now. I'm guy....I need help

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

Hello big sister pls help me they is a boy in my street any thing I see him my heart beat become faster i don't know if it is infatuation or love.Cause they said if you are in love anytime you see the person your heart beats become faster.pls tell me if it is infatuation. or because he play football and I love footballers

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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Do those things first become friends with him, then play around with him, get is attention, let him be all yours, what you see feel may not be love but something else?

yea that the truth

I want to be in a relationship but is hide and difficult for me i need help

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

Pls big sister I need help, am a guy i can't create a relationship with girls I don't know what to do.

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

Helloo fine lady's Am New here

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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hi iniobong,the best thing for u to do is to be able to socialize with them,and also try by saying hi as pinky rightfully said by saying hi to them or her u can bring in any topic and start talking.

Hello inibong, you are highly welcome.Before you create a relationship with girls. start by being friends eg saying Hi or Hello.

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

Hi, I'm new here

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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Welcome iceadonis, are u a boy/girl, that aside can we be friends.

Nice one.... Please I'm new here

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

i kinda feel relieved

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

So there is no difference in boys and girls feelings, I thought it was only girls that were shy

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

actually I'm a shy type and I do feel scared talking to girls...I barely have girls as friends, big sis can you help out?

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

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Hey zackky! Thanks for the comment. You shouldn't be shy around girls because girls are humans like you and the truth is that they are also cool. You need to identify what the fear is; it could be that you are scared of being snubbed, spoken to rudely or not knowing what to say. The earlier you identify the problem, the easier it is for you to work on it. Trust me, the worst thing that can happen is that a girl will snub you but it is unlikely if you want to be just friends and nothing more. We hope this helps

that good of ebuka

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

Wow interesting I perfer a guy been my best friend than girls

March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

I prefer boyfriends than girlfriends

March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.

I prefer guyz being my close than girls.

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pls let's be friend I can make it up with you

But it is still nice to have the both.

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Hello every one ,am new here

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some times you will just see a guy looking at you from one side instead of saying their mind

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AINA YOU ARE WELCOME.AM ALSO NEW.

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yea eighty percent of my friends are girls I like making friends with them cos we will be able to open up to each other,but I still have some weakness by finding it hard to approach some girls especially if I admire them

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girls I am looking for girlfriends we can make it up together

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Cool

Mtchew.........

Hey David! This is a group that inspires and encourages girls in Nigeria and not a place to look for a girlfriend. Grooming and things like these are not allowed on this platform and so we have to take down this comment. Thanks for understanding

hi,am new here,iluv being wit Guys bt my parent wnt hear of it,am always indoors,plz hep me,i,feel bored.

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Hey Kenechi! Thanks for the comment. We totally understand how you feel right now and we know that it can be really sad. You can talk to your dad and make him know that there are no strings attached and also, boys and girls can be just friends. You really need to earn his trust too. This part is very important because when he trusts you, he won't have a problem with allowing you have male friends. We hope this helps

Hello my great and amazing friends, it me jbaby,I missed u all a lot.

March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.

I love being friend with boys and I think I need tips to getvto know them better

March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.

One thing I've noticed about boys is dat when they talk to u 4 the first, the nxt day they'll be expecting u to greet them first nd if u do nt greet them, they won't greet u too nd it will continue lyk dat until u talk to him.Y re guys lyk dat???

March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.

I love talking to boys more than girls but sometimes they are annoying

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it's all ways hard for relationship to be strong without trust

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Trust matters all

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