And don’t know how to get better
Feeling sad and lonely? You’re not alone.
It’s normal to sometimes feel down. Maybe you’re sad because of something that’s going on in your life, like failing a test or missing a loved one. Or maybe you’re just stressing about your bodily changes or family’s situation.
Here’s what you can do to feel better…
It can be a bit hard to feel positive when you feel sad. And most especially when everything around you just seems to be going wrong. But you have to try. You can start by reminding yourself of all the things that make you feel good about yourself. Things like being smart, having a great family around you, a skill you have, or how nice you. This can make you feel so much better.
Keeping a notebook also helps. Write stuff that makes you feel great, like motivational quotes about your worth, strength and purpose. Place it somewhere you can see it. Looking at it everyday can lift you mood. It will also remind you to stay strong/If you get stuck on what to write about yourself, speak to your parents or guardian and ask them what your good traits are.
Join a club or start one. Hanging out with people like yourself is good for laughs and self-esteem. Let’s say you love reading; start a book club with other kids in your compound or at school. You can also start a sports or dance group with your friends. It will distract you.
Look around your community. Is there an group that needs volunteers? Or try your neighbourhood. Is there an old person who needs someone to help them go to the market? Before doing good, remember that your safety comes first. Get an adult you trust, like a parent or teacher, to help you find the best organisation or person to help.
They say a problem shared is half solved. Tell an adult you trust what’s happening inside you. Opening up about your feelings can make you feel better. If you don’t have a trusted adult in your life, you can speak to a close friend or even a cleric.
With the right support, things do get better.
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HI AM NEW HERE
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u are welcome
JBABY005 THANKS FOR WELCOMING ME
U are welcome
u are welcome dear
Hi darling,u are welcome,nice having u here
How is everybody doing
Hi I'm doing great
Hello great minds am holymouth and am new here hope am welcomed?😀
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Welcome, am pretty sure that your mouth is holy.
Please don't be angry I was just joking with you
Big sister I didn't go to school today, when I came this morning to school the school dental me home and said they are on strike. I heard in the news stuffs about labour union saying that all workers are going to go on strike that schools, hospitals, banks and other agencies are going on strike. They said both federal, government and private schools are going to participate in it and here in Abia this strike have started. Please is this happening everywhere in Nigeria.
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hi Paris it is not happening everywhere.
Paris its happening here in Warri ooo....
the place I stay,people went to school, is like it is for some places that they have no school because of the strike,why are they even on strike.
Hi Paris it is happening to all public schools here in Ibadan
My school is a federal government school, it is happening to both government and Federal government schools and also few private schools. It is going to end on Friday this week, they said it is a week warning strike to pressurize the government to pay them. They say it may be extended or stopped on Friday
Won't it be great if we start a springster of the month award.
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Big sis this, Your story competition is already being done in some springster sites as at now. I checked Ghana and SA own sites and they are being done. When is it going to start here.
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Hey Paris2! Thanks for the comment. It was going on in Nigeria but we were not getting enough entries so we had to stop. Not to worry, we are working on some exciting topics and other interesting topics. We will let you know once we start them. We hope this helps
Big sista I really luv dis article...it's jux like u r talking to me personally cos hv been feeling sad for d past few days.. I noticed dat if I talk 2 my friend abt it, I feel relieved a bit...bt if she's nt wit me, I do feel lonely nd sad...I will try all u've said...I hope it works...TANKS BIG SIS U R 1 IN A MILLION
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Hi preety
Watsup jbaby....am sorry I hvnt cum online for some days....hv been a bit busy
Hey Pretty_val_32! Thanks for the comment. We are glad this article was really helpful. Feel free to share this with your friends.
Big sis pls is dere no way u can do it dat for us to see pple dat r online? Sum1 will reply 2 ur comment bt wen u txt dem bak dey must hv gone offline nd wen dey reply d other person might nt b wit d fone....nd so dat it can even make it interesting...like commenting nd getting immediate answers frm u md our fellow springsters... Pls I hope u find a way of doing it...lots of love
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Hey Pretty_val_32! Thanks for the comment. There is no way for that to be implemented for now because this website was not built to be a social media platform or a chat site. We hope this helps
hi guys am so excited for tomorrow independence day,I love my country no matter what, I will always be a Nigeria no matter what shout out to my home (Nigeria) one Nigeria!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Yes oooooo
hi Paris.
I dey jare,How things
school is Great jare,do u have strike
Happy independent day in ADVANCE
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hi cutie, how far nah,how things.
how school nah
Cutie thanks for saying hi to me,nice meeting u.
Happy independence day!!!!!!
Happy independence to everyone including big sister.
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Hi springster and Big sis,Happy new month and happy independent day may God continue to favour and bless us.someone say a Big Amen and be blessed.AMEN!!!!!!
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AMEN ooooo.
Hiiiiii everyone,Happy independent Day. May the Lord in his infinite goodness and mercies continue to shower us with blessings, knowledge,wisdom,strength and understanding in Jesus Most Precious Name I pray ,AMEN!!!
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Hi Cutie and jbaby005. Good Morning to you all and Big sis.
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hi pinky.b,how are u,I hope u are enjoying this great and amazing day.
Hi pinky
Okay,thanks
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hi Regina.
Yes I'm enjoying this wonderful day and you,hope you are cool.
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I have been feeling sad over family situation, this had being making me feel depressed and lost of concentration. Even when i try to get away from depression, by doing what i love best or tried to be with my friends, i still feel worried. I really wonna get away from that distraction.
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Hey Patience! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Depression is actually a huge deal and you need to open up to the people that are directly making you sad to let them know about it. Distracting yourself especially when you are still depressed is not the way to go. You need to address what it is that is making you depressed instead of hiding behind it. You should also talk to a trusted adult for help. We hope this helps
Hello Patience, I'm deeply sorry for what you pass through, I believe with the Almighty you soon get over it.
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Hlle am new here hw welcum me
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Hi sasja u are welcome
Hi sasja2 u are welcome baby.
Hello Sasja2,you're highly welcome to this platform.
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Thankyou Pinky.b i appreciete
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hi!!!!!!
Gud
Hi... Am New Here
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welcome ,hiiii.
Hi tope u are welcome.
Hi Everyone, how are you guys doing. Hello Tope, you are welcome.
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hi big sister,my mate makes jest of me because of my statue and my face(look) and i always feel left out among.Big sister pls help me,what should i do
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Hey queenbae! Thanks for the comment. You should learn to love your body and your look if not no one will do this for you. The way out is for you to learn to love your body and be confident in your own skin because the truth is that no one will appreciate you like you will appreciate yourself. We hope this helps
Hi
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Hi queenbae, Firstly you have to love and appericate your body. Secondly, don't listen to what people are saying about you. Love your self for who you are because that your statue and face is what makes you who you are and always remember you are special, beautiful, different, unique from others and wonderfully made by God. Again always stay positive, Do or engage yourself on things that will make you happy.
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I want to share what's happening to me right now, I'm going thru some hard times of my life, everything that is happening to me it's not good and not going in the right way. I'm totally depressed, I want things to go right but they aren't, I feel like dieing will be my solution coz nothing feels right, I have lost every thing and I don't know if I will get another chance and the worst thing is I feel like to talk to some one but I can't because I don't trust any body even my mother. I feel like I'm drowning inside an ocean, I really need help!
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I've had that feeling b4, countless times I will take a knife and contemplate on whether to kill my self or live. I just didn't know what was wrong with me, I'll cry sometimes , my head was messed up, I didn't even know the cause. It even happens this days( it happened to me last week self), I felt hated by everyone around me, but my solution was God ,I'll pick up my Bible and read and also pray, I couldn't share my feeling with any one so I talked to God. Depression can lead to death and has killed alot of people, my advice for you is to be closer to God there is this joy you get when you become closer to him. I hope it helps, bye and I'll pray 4 U
I am passing through this also,am lonely and sad dont have any one to talk to but using the above ways listed cant really help me right now
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Sorry about that. You should try to open up on what is making u feel this way so we can hit the hammer on the nail
Let me help yah ma'am
HAVE u been in dis situation open up to ours nd we will go nd beat d person
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ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha😂😂😆😆😆😆😆😅😅😅😅
I have plenty sad and lonely experience and am always talking about it to my friends but still filling same always....
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
I don't have friends and I'm always lonely and Left out because everyone thinks I'm mean and rude when truly I'm just a socially awkward introverted 14 year old trying to live life
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I don't have friends and I'm always lonely and Left out because everyone thinks I'm mean and rude when truly I'm just a socially awkward introverted 14 year old trying to live life
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Am very sorry mars but never allow others to define u OK?
Be your self ok mars
Hey Mars! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about how you feel and we know what it means to be left out. It's fine to be yourself. Do not try to impress others. We are sure that there is someone out there that will understand you and not judge you for being you. Being socially awkward is not a crime okay? We hope this helps
just be yourself and stand Ur ground
Am in love with some one who crush on me only what to do
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey Kimani! Thanks for the comment. You need to remember that crush is not love. Also, how sure are you that what you feel for him is a crush and not love. How well do you know this guy? Do you know his true personality? Have you had deep conversations with him about what he likes and doesn't like too? There's a lot involved in this that you need to know before you can claim to love him. We hope this helps
Thanks big sis
How can i speak boldly in front of a crowd ,like i don't know what's wrong,fear had been dominating my life since childhood now till 20 ,,how can i be confident and speak boldly comfortably in the social where ever i find my self.
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Being bold takes a lot of practice, I'm in my school's press club so I have to deal with the crowd always, but u can practice these solutions; 1. Don't look at the faces of d pple ur speaking to, rather look above their heads. This is my favourite😀 2. Always be prepared 3. Practice in front of ur family, friends or mirror 4. Don't freak out if u make a mistake just breathe in and out(unnoticeably) 5. Know that fear is a thing of the mind and so is boldness
I love putting smile on people faces bt at times i end up hurting them pls what do i do?
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I hardly keep friends
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hlo big sis . really ve sum problems.my facial luks sumwat not dat pretty ve gotten broken teeth nd scartherd teeth .I feel miserable really miserable.secondly I dunno y buh men we re not coming .am 19buh not a suitor cummin.nd I ve got nervous wen ever I talk to strangers of de opposite sex.big sis I want to get rid of all dis .I nid elderly advice tnk till I hia from u
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Hello,I'm new here. I have problems keeping friends,most especially street friends . I only say "hi" and I'm off. Who knows what they might be thinking about me My close friends are my classmates and we don't see all times except online. Please big sis how can I win back their (street friends) hearts😕
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ddav: try to get close to dem. u may start wit greetings, u asked them how they'ar doing. If you see some playing football or any other games u can start by joining them. b4 u know it, I'll av become a very good friends. I hope dis help.
Hey am new here
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Hi counsellor, You are highly welcome.
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Hi I'm new here
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Hello Emmy, You are welcome.
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Hi am new here hope am welcome?
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.Yes, welcome.
WHO IS USE TO THIS ENVIRONMENT?
Hi Love, You are highly welcome dear.
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Hi, pinky.b
Hii First time commenting😅 Exciting
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Nice to meet you onyx
Hi Onxy
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Hi Onyx.
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hi
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Hello Elegantguy.
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I THINK BEING LONELY IS AS A RESULT OF LACK OF PEOPLE WHO UNDERSTAND YOU AROUND AND PEOPLE WHO HAVE THE SAME KIND OF MIND WITH YOU!
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I THANK THIS WHAT HAS BEEN MY PROBLEM UNTILL I STARTED TRESSING OUT FOR GOOD FRIENDS.
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I need some advice my friend and I go t into a huge fight well it started like this we both attend the same school until something came up and I changed my school I was so sad I was leaving her then she decided to join me in my new school when she came it was much better because I no longer felt lonely until I stopped seeing her I called her feeling worried she replied she was sick telling me to pray for her ever since that day I waited for her for about a week she didn't show up,she then called me saying she's living the country that she was not coming back again I felt like crying because she was the only friend I had . After a week someone from my school came up to me saying she saw my friend in the market place i didn't believe it until I saw her when coming back from school I was so mad at myself for believing her till today I told myself I will never speak to her again but someone told me to speak to her why she did that but do you think she is a good friend ps big sister I need an advice
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Hey evie! Thanks for the comment. We totally understand how hurt you are about this. We advise that you also talk to her to find out why she lied to you. Assuming is never the best option. We believe she will have reasons for saying what she said. We hope this helps
Big sis pls i need ur help i like making friends bt i dnt really knw how to keep them. Dnt knw how to strt up intresting conversations with them..mst tyms i feel left out among my friends
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Have you tried asking your friends what they want to talk about? This is a good way to have a conversation where both parties can actually talk. Also, you can ask them about themselves and while they talk, you can throw in similar situations you have been in or tell them how you wish you were in that situation and so on. We hope this helps
Big sis please help I like to make friends but it's very hard for me to trust them and if I trust them will hurt my feelings for them so should I continue with the friends or I should be lonely?
Please i need a friend am lonly
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Hey Pierces! Thanks for the comment. We understand how lonely it can be sometimes. We advise that you try to make friends in your neighborhood. You can also find something interesting like reading a book, watching a movie, etc. This can keep you company and make you feel less lonely. We hope this helps
i need a good female freind please
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Thanks for the advice big sister
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You're welcome evie!
Hey VictorCyprain! This is a group that inspires and encourages girls in Nigeria and not a place to look for a girlfriend. Grooming and things like these are not allowed on this platform and so we have to take down this comment. Thanks for understanding
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Thoughts affect our health. The best medicine isn't drugs but keepin our mind on good thoughts about ourself and others.. Hi...frnds am new here..
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Hello Ameenou, how are you doing? Happy 😀 Sunday.
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add me on fb> Etz De Prince
All I need is wife , basic !!!!
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hi everyone .Id like to make friends. Check me out on facebook... I'm Wizzay Chyde Bite on facebook with cardi profile picture.
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pls accept my friend request
pls accept my friend request
This is nice. I use to fill lonely some times.
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I also feel lonely because am always indoors and I don't have friends
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Hey Pweetiediva! Thanks for the comment. Staying indoors can't get you friends. If you want to make friends, you need to at least step out of your house. It's really not hard to make friends, we have a lot of articles about making and maintaining friendships.To read them, we advise that you search for #Friends at the top or bottom of the page. We hope this helps
big sis what should i do i run out of friends i try making friends bt it doesnt work for me i am always rejected i fell hated any where i go pple hate me for no just course i feel like am cursed lonlliness is eating me up big sis pls help
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BIG SIS is it ok nt to have friends?
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I don't have a friend, but Mumy is my friend sometimes she go to work or when I go t schools m
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I don't have a friend, but my Mumy is friend sometimes she go work or when I go to schools l I always feel lonely. Thank God to my notebook """
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I am always lonely, because am always indoors The environment.
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y are u always indoor
I'm always lonely because am the only child and am always indoors
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Hi, i can make u active and homely only if u want.
Am here for u dear
I always Sad becos am the only child
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Wao sorry dear am i will be ur partner
Hello everyone, I'm new... I broke up with my boyfriend few days ago and he was my only company. I'm so lonely and sad but ever since I joined Springster, I've been motivated and gradually getting out of depression. Thank you Big Sis😘
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You've got to move on, sistser.
Then what about me that have no reason for my sadness?
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hello i am new here
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Hello
To get rid of lonelines,is 2 get more frends 2 hangout wit
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Hello!I'm new here Anyone here,l need friends
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Let make friend
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I I'm new here any friends
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Hi mighty,u are welcome,i hope u will enjoy the articles
Hi Mighty you're welcome
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Visiting friend
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Yeah! Keeping yourself bussy can make you feel less lonely
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hi big sis
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sometimes being sad is natural,there are things that bothers me,like my past,things that have done ignorantly, I can get my head over it,girls are being molested and abused,those are one of the things that makes us sad,God help us.
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Just stay happy nd always look normal
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Hello!! Am new here...
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Hw u doin
Hi i am new here but i have some idea u should have self esteem because it can also help u out
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Am new here and looking for friend
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Hiii
most times I feel like my friends don't like me
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Hi anny
Hi, u can always talk to me to keep u company............ Am also new here, y not give me ur number
Hi, u can always talk to me to keep u company............ Am also new here, y not give me ur number
I am new & am looking 4frend
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Hey Springster! You're welcome. We hope you like the stories. Feel free to invite your friends here.
me too big sister how can i post my own
that was gud♥
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in the situation am in now, i am trying to pretend that it didn't happen but its like its not working, doing all these things only stops it for a while & later it continues
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Hey Vicky,u cant run away from reality u just need a better mindset.avoid things dat make u sad,dont allow anybody to force u 2 do anytin u dont lyk
i have noone to talk to..
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i dnt av anyone to talk to in my dept,cos am shy hw do i go about that?
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here am i
Hi pelz.Being shy shouldn't stop u frm talking to people.Really.The people in ur dept are lk ur family away from home.I'm nt saying u must talk to everyone,u can start off by greeting them with a'good morning'(with a smile on ur face) -hope dis helps
am a lonly guy i dont have friends who loves all girls avoid me so i tink about it and i still stay alone
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Most time i feel like my frnds dont like me
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Why would that happen! How do you behave towards them? How do you react when they tell you something? Are they really your friends? Ask yourself these
sometimes I feel so sad, I will just keep questioning God why was I born why wasn't I born into a rich family..
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Xup chioma?
Well, you just have to work hard so, your cholchil would be born into a rich family
We all pray to have wealthy parents... buh since we don't, we struggle and strive to be wealthy. Most wealthy peeps started from nothing,see them now... just know whatever you're going through isn't forever... remember being rich is all about having a vision and mission.
May God help us, we just have to be contented
I lost my boyfriend 5 days ago and I just get admission into the university and it's hard for me to cope with everything I don't know what to do about it I cry all the time but I know I can't bring him back I need help a way to get over his death cos he was more than a boyfriend his was my best friend a good advicer and a great person I need advice pls anyone
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I feel am d worst n d most wicked n stupid girl..... No one loves me...
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hello am new hear can a beautiful girl just welcome me
I feel am d worst n d most wicked n stupid girl..... No one loves me...
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did you like me
Hi am new here
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Hi i'm new here 2 can we be frds
Hey! I'm new here, anyone to make friends?
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You are welcome. Am Iyanuoluwa by name
Can we be friends. Give me your phone number so we can talk better
your welcom