Do you want to be a girl with inner strength? Try these tricks and be empowered!
Do you feel like you do not have control in your life? Do you feel like you’re stuck? Are there things on your mind you can’t speak out about? Are there things you want to do, but don’t know how to start? Do you feel like you don’t have the power to change anything?
Well, you can change things. And you can start by doing something that seems small. Stop saying ‘I can’t’.
When you say ‘I can’t’ it usually means:
By using one of these instead of ‘I can’t’, you can start to understand the real problem and see how to get to the answer. For example, if instead of saying , ‘I can’t do this work on my own,” Aisha says ‘I don’t know how to do this work,’ then she knows to solve her problem by asking for help.
You see, once you replace I can’t with the real meaning, then you can do something about it
Confidence in yourself doesn’t happen overnight but it can start with one a small thing. Stop using the words ‘I can’t’. You will begin to feel more powerful and ready to make your goals happen
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Good advice
May 6, 2023, 1:43 p.m.
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So encouraging ma'am
April 27, 2023, 7:07 a.m.
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Good advice
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okon
I THANK U FOR YOUR ADVICE
Sept. 26, 2022, 12:25 p.m.
Odionmary176
I've a friend that has confidence and her,being my friend is giving me boldness.Because l am learning from her.
Aug. 30, 2022, 9:18 p.m.
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okon
okay alright
Adesuwa
Thanks for this advice, I really needed it.
July 18, 2022, 6:37 a.m.
Yea true
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i love having sex all d tym wot do i do?
YES
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Hey girl! This article was written because of you and we are glad you love it. Feel free to share it with your friends
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Hey girl! This article was written because of you and we are glad you love it. Feel free to share it with your friends
Thanks, You inspires Me
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Very Nice
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Wow...this bring out confidence in me
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Is It Right To Ignore People Trying To Annoy Or Bring U Dwn
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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YES
Hey Crystal02! Yes, it is. You shouldn't be with people that bring you down because they destroy your self esteem. When choosing your friends, try to be friends with people that will encourage you and not people that will bring you down. Friends are meant to encourage and also uplift one another. We hope this helps
it z a very big deal 4 us 2 discover who we are and wat we are capable of doing.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
is it ok if u overlook some annoying words that sum1 says to u nd kip quiet
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Yes its okay...if it's getting too much, you could just walk out so as not to arouse anger in you. But if it's a grown-up, then you should just listen and keep quiet. I hope this helps!
I CAN
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yes u can
yes i can''''
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of course uCAN
Yes I Can
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I Can
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I Can
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Yeah, you can only achieve your goals by having an accurate confidence.
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Thank you so much for this...it works
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
yes
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
thanks for this i ave learn more
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God help us with God i can
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
now wherever i go i can be able to stand firm because i am now strong and powerful before i do say i can't now i say i don't because i believe in myself
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Very intresting,why is it that you people creat it for a lady alone?no na it surpose to be both male and female.big sis. why na
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Iyke! Thanks for the comment. This site is primarily for girls and that is why most of our stories are written for girls. However, boys are also welcome to learn and share their experiences with girls. We hope this answers your question.
Yes,we can!
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Wow i love dat tanx a lot big sis.may d lord guid u.
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Wow!!
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I CAN because I am a woman of substance
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Thanks, I can do anything because i am strong and powerful
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Interesting
Thanks
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March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
thanks for your advice
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
very inspiring,,, I believe l can do all things through Christ Jesus Amen. thanks
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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BESTIE I LIKE YOUR INSPIRING
I believe in him 2ooo
Here is my I am Roy by name I'm from Rivers state a graduate of public administration university of port Harcourt please I need any job connection I'm seriously facing a financial constraint I need assistance
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Royvick! We believe everyone was born with a talent. Whether is it talking, singing, cooking, writing, reading or even taking care of little children. Now to identify your talent, all you need to do is to think of the things you love to do and the things you do without stress. Once you identify these things, think of how much passion you have for them. If everything is positive, you have discovered your talent. No matter what it is, use it for good things and see how far it will take you. Sometimes, you do not have to wait for that big job that will give you so much money. While you wait, you may need to find other sources of income. We hope this helps.
abge guy go fine handwork do like tailoring,barbing course it can supply ego for u ooo...
Being optimistic relly helps alot
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
being plain helps in identify ones problems
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
To have confidence and be bold
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
that is plain truth
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
hy,am adedoyin by name,there is something bothering me but i dont know who 2 tell becus i dont trust anybody around including my parents,what am i suppose to do
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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My Advise For U Is,pray 2 God And Share It Wit Ur Parents B Confident Gues Ur Parents Wil Help U Out.
Type your comment here..My dear share ur problems with God nd also to urmom nddad
And Sharing Ur Problems 2 God In Prayers
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Don't be scare just try! Because practice makes perfect
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Lucky U R Hundrd Percent Ryt
hi guys am new here
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
It is good
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I guy I am new in here
A newcomer
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
daz true me too
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Here hir truth
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
It's true
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Pls Friends Help Me Out. I Hv A Male Friend Whom I Love So Much And He Loved Me Too But, Am Nt Comfortable Because He's Not Close To Me. And I Don't Want To Loose Him, What Will I Do, Am Confused!
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Eucharia! First of all, you need to be sure you love him first and if he loves you too. Love is very deep and it is hard to love someone you don't know. We advise that you become friends with him first. Put your feelings aside and then get to know him better. You may be surprised that once you get to know him better, he may not be "all that" again. We hope this helps.
Confidence is also d ability 2 believe in urslf wen no 1 does.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Hi am new here I love being confident in myself
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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keep up !! thats the spirit always belive in ur self
Thank u Ambella
I luv that
I AM A YOUNG PROF. CONFIDENT MATTER MOST EVERYWHERE U FIND YOURSELF.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
i grow up to always learn to belive in my own ideas even when others think its useless.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
believing u can do all things is a strong conviction from the inner man nd only cowards shy away from things. if u see a thing that u feel u can't do start doing it till u finish, laziness nd procrastination disappears as its part of our weakness. the better u face ur problems the stronger u become.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Casey! Yes, girl! Very true. Thanks for sharing this.
Be yourself if you don't want to like everybody
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
life about who u ar where u come from or wat ever its about wat u can impact on other people and that wat a woman sould always do avouy
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Always believe in urself girls!!! Never say u can't do it believe in urself and u will be surprised at how amazing u can do things.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
what can i do when am with friends but still lonely
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Joy! Thanks for the comment. It could be that you have a lot of things on your mind or that you are not enjoying their company. It could also be that you are not enjoying the topic of discussion or activity. Have you tried (politely) suggesting a topic or an activity you like to them to do when you are together? Remember, we said suggest so you should not forcefully impose on them. Just politely suggest what you like or you all can take turns to choose a topic or activity to do everytime you meet. This way, everyone gets to do something they like with the people they like. We hope this helps.
hy I love being around boys dan my fellow gals coz I feel guys are more reliable in keeping secrets though I have female friends but dey are few is it normal coz gals in my class think to tinz like I am dating dem or smtin else should I stop talking to dis guys
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Favour! People will always assume things that are not actually true. What you need to do is to make it clear to your friends that you are not dating the boys. It shouldn't stop you from being friends with guys. All you need to do is to tell your female friends that the boys are just the male version of them and there is nothing more. They should understand when you tell them. Remember to be polite while telling them these. We hope this helps.
am going to lesson and am the only girl what should i do
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Eghosa! Just be very careful when you are walking alone. Also, try not to leave your lesson when it gets dark or at night. We hope this helps.
Inspiring
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Truly inspiring
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
I Have Gotten A Point
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
I am always scared and shy to do somethings
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Michael u don't have to be shy,open up and be de best u can,,always tell urself," I can do it" !!
I want to save money but I don't know how to start..wat should I do?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Mhizfella! We understand that saving money can be difficult sometimes. The trick to saving is to save towards something (a new dress, phone, a gift for a friend etc). This way, you are not so tempted to spend the money you get. You can also make a piggy bank to save money. With this, you will not be able to get the money out until you break it. You can tell a carpenter to make it or you can buy one. We hope this helps.
I dont know how to discover my talent
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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What you love doing the most.......find out what you feel so comfortable doing
pls can someone talk to me i have a bf he love and i love he but his ask for sex which i can't give he just like that. so my qut am my wicked ???????????????????
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Ayomi! Thanks for opening up through this comment. You are not wicked. Do not let anyone try to force you or blackmail you into doing what you do not want to do. If you are not ready to have sex yet then don't do it. If he really loves you, he will respect your opinion and not disturb you. We hope this helps.
same here with my bf
Cool..anyone on facebook?
hy iam so silent and i dont like to fight all my friends they're so strong but me to slowly....., i want be stronger help me please
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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There a nice one
Hy i awlys feel shy to speak out pls help
When the variable is not available the available will be variable
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
I've been saying things like I can't whenever I don't want to do something. But now I hope my view about questions will change
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Pls am always shy interacting with girls even in class, pls help
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Vicky vieno james
Vicky vieno james
I'm super shy.. I'm also called names.. Probably what aids my shyness... What do I do especially as the others think I'm strange
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. You need to overcome your shyness first. You may think it is hard but it is totally do-able. Do not allow people to call you names. You are in the best position to define what people will call you. Please see the best in yourself at all times. We hope this helps
I always get stepped on I can't fight for ma rights pls wht can I do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey favyjais! So sorry for what you are going through. What you need is confidence. We have given you tips on how to be confident in the article. Follow the steps and you will be amazed at the results. We believe in you and we hope this helps
My madam I work with told me that I'm too confident that I too known she also all me worthless good for nothing especially if I did something wrong everyday pls I don't what to do I keep telling my mom and my and d people I live with that I'm OK but I'm hurting inside what will I do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey 1999! Thanks for opening up through this comment. First of all, do not allow anyone talk you down. You are not too confident and you are definitely not worthless. Everyone is bound to make mistakes. It's okay to tell your mum and the people you live with what is going on. In fact that is what you should do. Keeping this to yourself will only hurt you more. Remember the article "I am special, i am me". Read it, you will find it helpful. We hope this helps
What everyone can do, then I can do it better
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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i belive,u cn be beta dan me,but cant be me
U can be yourself
Hi Ayobi, we think it would be impossible to be better than everyone at everything. Take joy in being the best you can be and let everyone else live their own lives. We hope this helps.
a good advice
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i can make it
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Morning
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i can made it in life
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I can do it through God who strengthen me
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thanks, you make great
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hi plz I nid hlp, am always used 2 saying" nothing "whn some1 iz expecting mi 2 sai smtin. Hw can I wk diz out.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
tanks
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Waow nice
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Hi big sis, please how con I know how to read,speak nd write correct English.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Olaoluwa! You can learn to read, write and speak correct English in many ways. One of which is that you should read lots of books. This way, you get to learn new words and also how to structure sentences. You should also have a dictionary around to find the meaning and synonyms of these words. We hope this helps
you can read by practicing the vowels, by the way, how did you write your commet.
i love this
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
ha ha skippo don't make jest of olaoluwa,see olaoluwa u can speak corect english by reading novel the word u don't understand check ur dictionary for the meaning,and some dictionary always write the pronounciation.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
I love dis,it's educating
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
I can and I have aggreed for that
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
I love this its educating
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Am Happy now even though am always troubled of my visions of the past.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Tanz big sis my secret problem in school is always shyness and fear and the courage to stand up and answer a question i rather sit down because i feel ashame of my self now i will face my fears not my fears to face me tanz so much big sis for this tips
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Big Sis Am Always Usin Dat Word I Cnt N It In Return Hurt Me Alot
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thanks big sis
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Interesting
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thank you helped me
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Thanks, it helps
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
dats gud
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Thanks
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Being brave is saying if someone else has done it then I can, and if no one has done it yet then I will
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
I can't speak to people confidently, either my hearts beats faster or skips a bit,Pls what can I do to stop it
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hello Anon, You are not alone, this happens to alot of people and it takes a lot of practice to learn to speak confidently. This article will help with some tips - http://ng.heyspringster.com/sections/my-future/say-something-or-die-trying/ We hope it helps.
OK...Thanks Big sis
i can speak confidently with my frds but with others outside my comfort zone i can't
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Helpful
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Very helpful
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hello am new here am I welcome
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Thanks
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K true talk
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love it
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This is nice, I love it.
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I love it
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Tanks big sis you really inspired me
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Thanks am inspired
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A real inspiration
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
Wow I love the
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Hey Springster! This article was written because of you and we are glad you love it. Feel free to share it with your friends
It's motivating
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
hw can I have faith myself
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