Keys to a fresh new year
2017 has come and gone. Yes things happened last year.
Some you were proud of. Some you wish you could change
Like someone hurting you or you making a decision you are not proud of.
The truth is you can’t change it. But you can do something to make things better
Because we want you to move forward. Here are some ways to do that
Let go of the past
Did someone say something hurtful to you? Did you make a bad decision? You probably still feel bad. You feel like it’s unfair it happened to you. You feel like it is hard to forget about it.
Yes it has happened. No you can’t change it. But you can change how it affects you. Try to stop thinking about it. Quit blaming yourself or anyone for what happened. Think of all the great things you can do and achieve this year. Take it one step at a time.
Learn from your experiences
Every experience has a lesson. Think of everything that happened last year. Both good and bad
Did you keep getting in trouble last year? Were you able to save money? What did you do to make sure you saved? What did you learn from these experiences? Ask yourself these questions. Answer them honestly.
Take the lessons from the experiences. This way you can learn what to do if you find yourself in the same situation again.
Focus on this year
Now is a good time to focus on what you want this year.
Decide what you want. Is it to cut off people who keep hurting you, save more money or stop holding onto grudges? Make up your mind. Believe you can do it. Work on it.
This year stay positive. Be grateful for the things you learned last year. Enjoy the year.
You can read our article on how to rock this year in our article I slay, I rock
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March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Pls i need help, i fnd it very difficult to 4get my past life.am just new here
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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what's ur problem
I she am also new here jst try to forget ur past it might hurt but is a part of experience in life.learn from ur mistakes and from others to keep u in a better positio.hope dis helps
well just stop thinking about it okay darling?
Hey she! Thanks for the comment. Holding on to yout past will not help you see what your future has in store for you. You need to learn to look ahead and not behind. Yes, it can be hard but what you need to know is that no one ever made it by looking back but rather by moving ahead. Jbgold made a valid point. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Every experience is for us to learn from but then, we all have to move on. We hope this helps
Hi try to 4get past sorrowful event happened ur my life
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Tenx alot
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Tnx may god help us
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Big sis, i made a terrible mistake last year. I gave birth at the age of 18, since then i have been judging myself. Some people said that i could have abort the baby. Some said am now an old fashion. Did i make another mistake by keeping the baby?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Nice! Thanks for the comment. First of all, it is perfectly normal to question some of the decisions you made in the past but please, you should not blame yourself. We have all made decisions in the past that we are probably not sure were the right decisions (you are not alone) but do not beat yourself about it. What others think or say about you does not determine who you are. You have the pen to write your story. Do not let another write the story for you (No, you are not old-fashioned because you have a child. Having a child does not make you old-fashioned). Keeping the baby was not a mistake. No child is a mistake. At times like this, it is best to talk to a trusted adult who won't judge you. If you have one, please talk to the person. There is an organization called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.
der is dis guy dat say sumtin i dnt do 2 people,i ve forgiven him bt should i til be his friend
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey naomijohnson! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you should politely let him know that you do not appreciate what he does so that he knows you are aware and how you feel. You can still be friends with him but you need to be watchful and also be careful so that it does not repeat itself. We hope this helps
is it gud 2 associate with sumone i dnt like,bt he cares alot
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey pleasylovercute! What do you mean by associate? Please explain better. Also, you are only there because the person is caring and nothing else and that means that you are using this person. Association is not a one-way thing but you both have to be fully involved. We hope this helps
big sis you guys said we should leave the past in the past but what if we should put everything in the past what if it's in my case big sister ? it all started when i was enrolled or registered in a new secondary school so excited to be in a new school and able to make new friends and learn more new things but unfortunately for me everything turned infertile everything went wrong one certain morning when i went to school with a running stomach which had been some sort of illness i suffered from some time so It was been controlled by some pills my mom got for which the phamarsist said it would eradicate it with time but i Iam thankful to God almighty today I am free usually i take the pills the medicine before going to school i wasn't familiar with the pattern of the school so i had to Rush everyday for school so normally forget my drugs after eating in the morning so a day came in school it was an examination day so when started to feel abnormal i ran to toilet to ease myself when arrived the toilet surprisingly i was shocked because what i say wasn't a sight to behold when i got to the corridor there was urine that could cover half of my legs and soak my socks so i had to. for the exams i decided to manage until i got home since there was no water in the school tank and i was restricted to go home by the principal and gate keeper after i explained that I was ill but I was restricted on the ground that it was a cheap trick to escape from school so i had to sit for the exams i was so uncomfortable i felt like flying and running crazy. so eventually i got myself messed up i ran out immediately to get myself cleaned water was fetched from a far distance after the school from a FAR distance outside the school and did not sit for the exams. and that was when i let to go home i was so diverstated
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
since that day lost confidence in my self i. usually feel shy and i don't associate with people any more when I am with my peers i feel stupid engaging in their matters or talks i no more like going out anymore. i fell foolish all the time whenever i want to do something meaningful I feel like I am not worth It i always feel like a disgrace and shame i weep most times i cant control my emotions anymore . after the incident I was indoor for some months i don't know who to blame what should i do big sister i feel like i have made the worst mistake and I AM the biggest foul ever i think no one have ever been in my shoes before what should i do big sister?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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You Have To Let Go Of The Past,and Move On
Hey Grace! Thanks for the comment. We understand how embarrassing situations can make you feel bad. However, you need to note that we havehad all had that moment we wised the ground open up and swallow us but the fact that we got over that moment and continued to live is enought to actually leave it behind. Grace, there are amazing and wonderful things happening to and around you everyday BUT the moment you keep holding onto an embarrassing day in your past, you will never enjoy these good moments. You need to learn to keep your head up high and let the past go (especially this situation). You have ignored the fact that you do not have to depend on medicines again... this is a good reason to move on. What if you still had to take this medicine everyday? Be grateful and be happy. Some people would have forgotten about this incident but it won't make a difference if you do not let go. For your own sake and sanity, please let it go and love your life! You are young, you have a lot of beautiful moments to enjoy so don't let what happened one day affect the rest of your life. We hope this helps
big sister please give me a response
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
I find it difficult to save money, even though i try to save it i will still make use of the money. What should i do?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Frank! We understand that saving money can be difficult sometimes. The trick to saving is to save towards something (a new dress, phone, a gift for a friend etc). This way, you are not so tempted to spend the money you get. You can also make a piggy bank to save money. With this, you will not be able to get the money out until you break it. You can tell a carpenter to make it or you can buy one. We hope this helps.
big sister, i never like d man i luv nd i never luv d man i like. wat should i do?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey enyola! We do not understand your question. Please explain better. Thanks
d man i luv is just out of pity(nt dat i truly luv him), nd d man i like(attitude, care,)we were just friend.
Enyola You don't love someone out of pity is either you love him or you don't and moreove you are on hurting him more pretending to love him no body like to be deceive or played My advice is for you to break up with him and probably try to fine out if the other guy loves you or just think about you as a friend
Gaby the guy am dating i dont realy love him but i love someone else that i dnt knw if he love me what do i do?
Lilprety Try finding out if this guy you are in love with love you back without him knowing you have feelings for him in other for him not to take advantage of what he knows u feel for him And probably try to break up with the guy you are with now in a more peaceful way
Big sis I am in love with my friend who is a guy I don't no if I could tell him this kind is called one side love.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Ganiman! Thanks for the comment. You need to be sure of your feelings towards him. Is it a crush or is it love? Once you finally think it through, you need to think of the consequences. If you tell him, will it make him hate you? Will it affect your friendship? Think about it well because it is a 50-50 chance. You can either lose his friendship totally or gain love. We hope this helps
Sister I'M In Love A Girl,But I Did't have the coreg too tel her
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Enyeribe! You need to be sure that you are really in love with this guy and that it is not just a crush. Sometimes, you cannot be in love with someone you do not know. Start by being friends with her and then get to know her better before you start talking about love. We hope this helps
they are shoulder cheerful happily and those girlfriends together is good proudly
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
hi guz sometin iz really bothering me,dere was diz guy about 5 yrs now he was cuming so close to me up to d extend if he dont c or talk to me he wont b at peace i noticed his closeness to me buh i was affraid to give him a chance i thought we were jxt frnds so i broke up d frndship and since den wen eva he see's me he pretend as if he has neva known me but i regrated everitin, sometyms i wish to pick up d courage nd talk to him but i do b shy nd afraid nd now am in love wit his younger brother nd am afraid he might not accept me as his sister in-law to be in yrs to cum so pls some one should tell me wat to do am lost.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey jayniz! Thanks for the comment. First of all, his younger brother has to be aware of what happened between you both so that it doesn't come as a shock to him when he finds out. He started ignoring you out of anger and heartbreak and that is normal. You can randomly say hi to him when you see him so that it doesn't look like you are rude but the most important thing right now is to let his brother know. When you get to that point in the nearest future, you both will cross it. We hope this helps
Wat is d difference between to crush and to love?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey labzzy! Thanks for the comment. We have already addressed this question in a story titled "Crush vs Love; know the difference". Kindly search for this article, read it and you will find the answer you are looking for. We hope this helps
Dere was a girl, she came to me and borrow 7000 naira, she said, she need it for food. then i said when' ll you return my money to me? she ans me in oneweek time, then i gave her de money and she go away. after oneweek 2days i didn't see her, and i went to her house, asking her why she didn't return my money? she said, she is verry sorry for that, and i ask her what do you mean by that! she said i should give her de grace of 4days again, i said; dont faill to pay my money again. after 4days, 3day again 2day she keep on turnning me around ontill i let it go, and it pass away.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Mozy! Thanks for the comment. We understand that it can be really painful when things like these happen. You need to talk to her and make her understand that you do appreciate what she is doing. Another we will advise is for you to involve a trusted adult in this. This way, it will be easy to resolve it and get your money back. Once again, we are so sorry. We hope this helps
Pls I need help I am about 31yrs old now and I don't hav a girlfriend What should I do pls??
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Teddy! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Not having a girlfriend can be caused by many things. However, you need to ask yourself if you are sure you are ready to have a girlfriend. Another important thing is that you need to know what you want for yourself and also in a girlfriend. This will be a guide for you to know and also choose a girl. We believe everyone should know this so that you do not randomly enter into just any relationship. We hope this helps
Nice answer big sis somebody need to know what he/she can do before start doing it.
it depend if u don't ask her out u don't except a girl to toast u
I have a lady i love so much but she is short and i a tall lady as a wife because am not tall, what should i do cause i need my kids to be tall, what should i do, reply needed
I'M Too shy, I Cant even toast
i have a story like this
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Thank
Of course it is ture
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True talk
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Boys are really cunning they want us for lust not love then after that they abandon us shall thank God we are overcoming them,before they destroy our futures
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Don nt all boys are like dat.
Hey Don! Thanks for the comment. Not all boys are the same and not all boys are out to destroy anyone's life so please, do not generalize. You need to know that there are some girls that are also out to destroy the life of not just boys but their fellow girls too. Springster is not a negative space, please do not classify all boys as cunning. It is not fair because there are so many genuine good guys out there. We hope this helps
Yes ,,,,is so hard for me yo let go of the boy who broke my virginity,,,,I reli to luv him but e don't luv me any more don't know,,,, plx I need your advice
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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I am so sorry precious like what the article says let go of everything that is hindering u frm making your life better and if u are pregnant u can still cope out there in the world even with the pressure i pray God help u.
Hey Presh2244! Thanks for the comment. We totally understand what you are going through right now but the truth is that letting go is a personal decision. It takes discipline to get over someone. That thing they say about it being hard to get over the person that disvirgined you is a myth. Once you make up your mind to forget the person, it shouldn't be hard for you to do so. The fact that you know that he doesn't even love you should be enough motivation for you to get over him. Presh, you deserve better than a guy that does not even care about you. You need to chin up and move on. We hope this helps
nobody wants to be my friend in this platform why because the only reason I joined this platform is to have friends and share ideas but it seems to me nobody wants to be my friend here.my reason for joining this platform is because I don't have any friends or even a friend at home that's is my aim of joining this platform please comment guys I need friends please.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey jbaby005! We are all your friends here. Maybe others are not just responding but trust me, we see all your messages. Do not feel bad. We hope this helps
It hard for me forget my bf that break up with.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
thanks big sis it helps alot
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Not esay at alll.these memories keep haunting 👽👽me
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
I went to be a nice person to people
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
I actually once hated my parents for their past which they affected with my future.. but I had to let go of it cause it's their past ND can never be corrected... I lived 19 yrs without them.. Tho it was like hell to me.. After I met my mum ND found out why she left me for so many yrs,I growed hatred towards her that I stopped seeing her and hardly call her on phone but my bestie changed my thinking on that.. She made me believe that there is a reason for every action our parents take on us,she would share different stories with me just to make me take my mum as d best mum for given birth to me in the first place... I grew interest in her views ND started missing my mum ND eventually got addicted to hearing her voice ND visiting her always.. I later fell in love with my bestie but couldn't tell her cause I don't want her to feel disappointed..
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Sms! Thanks for the comment. Your bestie is a friend indeed and we are happy that you had a friend to put you back on track when you needed that. Thanks for sharing this with us. We hope this helps
Last year i let a male classmate touch me on my labs.thats something i always reprimand myself for even up till now.i want to let it go and stop thinking about it.how do i do that?
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.