Waiting is okay

Holding on a little longer is cool too

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As we grow up we become more interested in certain things.

At this age, it’s perfectly normal to be curious about boys and sex.

Some of us even have friends that have boyfriends. And they can’t stop talking about their experiences.

It might make us feel like we are missing out. It definitely makes us want to know more.

Before you make the decision, here are some things to consider;

  • Sex can lead to early pregnancy
  • Any sex can expose you to sexually transmitted diseases. Do not forget HIV. Although It is advisable to use a condom to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases, they are however not full proof The only 100% way to have safe sex is to have“no sex”
  • Having sex before our sexual organs fully develop can be dangerous. It can lead to serious health issues
  • Sex comes with a lot of emotional stuff. Are you ready for the emotional attachment that comes with sex? What if your relationship doesn’t work out after sex? Can you deal with that? What if your partner does not reciprocate your feelings for him after sex? Can you cope with that?

Only you know when you are ready to take that step. If you’re not, it’s ok to say no. We should never let anyone pressure us into something we don’t want.

It’s also cool to wait, you know.

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waiting gives you a kind of honour...

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

Yes, waiting is cool because it save you from a lot of heartbreak

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I rilly wan to no u

I think waiting is okay because most of thoes guys out there don't really love us They ar just after lust and not lust I learnt that from my past mistake and am nt ready to make d same mistake again

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Wow wow dear, is a nice tlk bt u no dere is someone whu love u and he dnt no how to tell u bt d way u are tlkin dat will make him rum frm u....

1.Wen u are mature,wen u are ready,wen u are tru wit ur education

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

Waiting makes you stand out with pride and dignity

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

For me waiting is the best and am waiting still marriage.

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Hi grace I like to be your friend too nd and am new here

Yes am in secondary school am preparing for WAEC next year. And want about you are u still schooling?

Hi Richy,wow!am so surprise,we are in the same class,am also in SS2 and preparing for WAEC next year!

Wow dear i will love to no u more is dat ok by u?

Hi Nelking, it's okey by me!hope we will be good friends in this platform. pls don't be vexed if I ask but are you still in secondary school,we can know each other well and pls which state are you from? are you a male or a female?you can also ask me questions too!

Hi can i know u more, I lik d way u are free with pple

Hi Barbiy,yes we can know each other more and I also hope we will be good friends in this platform.We can know each other more by asking questions!nice meeting you!are you new here?pls text me back okey!

I pass out in 2014 and i liv in kaduna, am a male

Hi Nelking,is nice meeting you,I live in Lagos,am preparing for waec next year.you can also ask your questions I will answer!

I think waiting is the best And as for me I am going to remain a virgin till I get married

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Hi Richy,am Grace and I love what you just said waiting is the best,when you are married and your husband sees you're still a virgin,he will love and respect you more,I want us to be friends!pls text me back.

Hi Richy,thank you for accepting me,we could be friends forever,pls don't be annoyed if I ask this question!pls are you in secondary school pls tell me!love you!

HELLO,WHAT ARE THE TIPS TO GET A FRESHER AND SMOOTHER SKIN?

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Hey Sexychick! We suggest you use things your skin is comfortable with or natural therapies like shea butter, coconut oil, olive oil, aloe vera gel etc. Also, don't forget to drink lots of water, eat healthy and also get good enough rest because these also go a long way in determining how your skin looks like. We hope this helps.

waiting is better becouse if ur husband marry u as a virgin,he will respect and value you and even ur parent will be proud of u.......but pls am new here hope am welcome...

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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You are nicely welcome here dear!

thanks

Waitin is best for a good marriage

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

When u r very much satisfy of ya lover and her love

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

When u are matured enough to understand what marriage is all abt and the journey in which u ganna embark on to set up a good family

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

waiting is the best because all this boys are a just liers when once u open ur body for them they are all gone

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Dear,forget insults while commenting so you won't encounter unexpected insultive speeches to you! Thank you.

Some girls are d one pusting guyz fr sex, if u did nt do, dy c u are nt good fr dem...

There is no need for insults,waiting is okay and good for those young ones who aren't ready to be pregnant to become a mother now and to fulfil your future dreams. To wait means you have a purpose of doing that,so you have to be diligent and focus!

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

Am 24 yrs old am already in a relationship but the guy is disturbing for sex and i told him to wait till marriage but he refuse please big sis encourage me what can i do

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Hey Penpen! Thanks for the comment. Sex is not a proof that you love someone. Also, no one should compel you to do what you do not want to do or are not ready for in the name of love. Love is not forceful. Since you don't want sex until marriage, he has to respect your decision. Do not allow him to pressure you because you own your body. Stand on your ground and do not fall into the pressure. We hope this helps.

hi everyone and greetings to you all please am new here am i welcomed to this lovely family

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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YES YOU ARE JULIE, WE CAN BE FRIENDS YOU ARE WELLCOME TO SPRINGSTER.

When you are fully able to cater for yourself and those around you

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

Am waiting....and even made a decision not to have a boyfriend now till am ready.... Sounds odd but m proud to practice NoSUM(No sex until marriage).... Love Over Lust

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Hey LilyJ! We are glad you know what you want. And no, it doesn't sound odd as there are still girls out there like you that still stand on the NoSUM rule. Keep it up girl!

am waiting bt i have a boyfriend he understand me so he dont ask for it

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

I need advice i want to do wedding next week and i new a wedding night tip

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Hey Omowumi2! First of all, congratulations on your forthcoming wedding. Secondly, as regards your wedding night, we just suggest that you try as much as possible to be calm and real to your partner. Do not try to be what you are not and enjoy the moment.

i'm actually dating my bestfriend of 6 years ....he respects me waiting....Hw long wud he b able 2 keep waiting? questions i ask myself or probably he askes himself 'subconsciously' ,,,,he's nt a V n recently hes been saying 'he wants me' nt in a demanding way....bt lyk wishing i did d same. We'v been an item 4 2yrs nw. Age 21/20 ...actually i dnt c virginity so morally but i dnt feel lyk loosing it yet....It gvs me dt edge ''m in total control of myself n no1 z gona hurt me''

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Hey Aice! If you don't feel like loosing your virginity yet, then don't be under any pressure to loose it. Remember your body belongs to you and you are IN CHARGE! If loosing your virginity will make you feel like you are not in control of yourself, then don't loose it at all. We hope this helps.

I'm a guy and i know waiting is important...but for how long are you going to wait...talking about WAITING...what are you waiting for ?? A guy that won't ask you for sex...or a guy that will love you unconditionaly ??

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Hey Manners! Everybody has their own definition of waiting and how long they are waiting too. While some people are waiting for the right time to enter a relationship, some others are waiting for the right time to have sex or even the right person (as the case may be). Not everyone waits. So before you start waiting like every other person, find out why you want to wait. But from your comment, you sound like someone that doesn't like the idea of waiting. Do not put pressure on anyone because you do not but the idea of waiting. If you actually cannot wait, you do not necessarily have to stay in the relationship because you will obviously not be fulfilled there. We hope this helps.

I tink waiting is d best nd am going 2 wait . wen u Wait u don't av any regret, dough u Will b pressurized.

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Hi Barbiy,yes waiting is the best and it's good to wait for one not to have regrets!am Grace,I would love to be friends with you!

Hi I will luv 2 no u more also . wat class are u.

Hi Barbiy,am going to be honest,am in SS2,preparing for WAEC next year and what about you?

Am 2rough withy ss3 am preparing 4 neco

What will happened if someone keep his|her virginity for long??

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Trust is what will happen

Hey Toju! Nothing will happen to you if you keep your virginity for long. We hope this helps.

I didn't understand

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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they mean u should wait 4 ur own time 2 come

100% sure article

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

It's ok to wait,I like a guy,he likes me,I told him he said he liked me too.. We don't feel like dating cos we Know we're not ready but we do talk about emotional stuff and so on,just saying that we are waiting for d right time...😉😉

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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sorry,i am new here,i lyk d way u did it

Hey Boviti! We love this and we love the maturity you both displayed. Keep it up girl and we hope this encourages other girls like you that waiting is good and not a difficult task. We also hope that boys will learn that it is not a crime to wait too. Once again, thank you for sharing this.

Yeah its okay 2 wait it will save u 4rm unnecessary hrtbreaks

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

waiting is cool, awesome and splendid because it makes you think, get wiser, and helps you know more before getting into it.

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

Its really cool to wait so that you will later not be emotionally or psychologically challenged.

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hi am a female nd am new here NYC to meet u hope we will be frnds

hi am a female nd am new here NYC to meet u hope we will be frnds

Am a male,but i will advice u girls to wait.the way i will not like to see my sister pregnant,so i wont decieve any girl.

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Hi Philip! Am Grace thanks a lot for what you said, can we be friends?pls text me back!

For me to wait is the best because, you may have unwanted pregnancy,HIV and AIDS with other sexually transmitted diseases!

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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U say smtng best

Hi Marie,looks like you're new.....welcome!

Its better to wait....,.

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

i am new here and i love to be ur frd grace

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Hi odin99,I will also love to be your friend....wow you're new...welcome!are you a male or a female?

a male

Hi odin99,wow!is nice meeting you!

Dat,s gud

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

I,m new here i,m very hppy 2 discuss wit u..

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Hey girl! Welcome to GEM Nigeria. We hope you like the stories. You can also invite your friends here.

KAJIMEHMASHIR I MEAN NICE TO MEET YOU MARIE YOU ARE WELLCOME THAT'S IN JAPANESE.

Waiting might make u feel odd but it is the best,if i can wait till now then i can wait till marriage.

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

So is having sex wrong...Even if it was your choice to have it??!

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Hey LeMainé! There is no yes or no answer for this question. If you are below the age of 18, you are a minor and shouldn't be having sex (this doesn't mean that once you are above 18, you should be having sex freely either). If you want to have sex, just be ready for the consequences if they come up. These include unwanted pregnancy, STD's, heart breaks, infections etc. We hope this helps.

big sister.What of if your parent ask you to quit a relationship.But the both of you are not ready to let go of each other.

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

hello am a female and am new here NYC to meet u guys,I really love dis discussion😊

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Hey girl! Welcome to GEM Nigeria. We hope you like the stories. You can also invite your friends here.

can l be in relationship,am 16 by nov l will be 17, can l be in relationship, am afride of being pregnant,and it effect

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Hey Miracle! Being in a relationship is all about being ready and not what someone tells you. If you are not ready for a relationship, then don't go into it. Your age does not matter. Just do you. Do not be bothered about what people may say. As long as you are not ready, don't force it. We hope this helps.

i think i prefer d people here more than classmate.i just want good friends here.i will prefer ladies more than guys here,no offence.am kinda a ladies person u knw.i just need good friends,just coment if u wona be friends wit a smart guy like me.

some men get into relationship for what they want from the girl and likewish to whom the man is.

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

Waiting is cool also but i advise that whoever you are to friend with make him known to some of your friend and know the type of person he is.

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

Hi Nelking am just seen ur chat may i know u

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

Hey Grace as you can see am philip by name and a male. i will like to be your friend also

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Hi philip,thanks for accepting me as your friend, we can know each other more by asking questions! I am a female.

Hi Philip, pls don't be vexed but are you in secondary school? do you know how to speak French?

Grace why not we chart on social media(facebook).i think it's fast and we can go through our profile.its your choice

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Hey Philip! Sharing of contacts and personal information are not allowed on this platform for safety, security and privacy reasons. You can freely chat on this platform without anyone disturbing you. Thanks for understanding.

Hello Nelking am favi and nice meting u, what re de things u want to know about me.

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

Big sister i understand u,but i just feel we can know ourself more on social media.it's her choice bt as for me am not negetive

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Hey Philip! For you to connect with her on other platforms means sharing her full names here which is what we are trying to avoid. The aim behind GEM Nigeria is to keep every member's identity private so that they can freely share and contribute to the other members of the community without being bothered about their identity revealed. Do you understand? Thanks.

Ok big sis i understand

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

Big sis you are making me to feel guilty

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Hey Philip! So sorry about the way I made you feel but I just had to make the point known so that you understand why we try to keep and make everyone's identity private and safe. We hope you understand now though. You can still freely chat with anyone here. No one will interrupt your conversation or stop you (as long as it is safe). Thanks for understanding and once again, sorry for making you feel guilty.

you can still have be in a relationship without sex right. i mean you and the guy can reach an agreement.

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Hey Caro! Yes girl, this is very correct. You and the guy can agree to abstain from sex together and also make a conscious effort to avoid anything that will lead to sexual intercourse. Thanks for sharing this.

Grace am in secondary school but to be sicere i dont know how to speak french

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Hi Philip, am also in secondary school,me too I don't know how to speak french but I was just asking to know if you can speak french(for you to teach me little)when is your birthday?why am asking is because I want to wish you a happy birthday on your birthday!mine is on the second of June so it has passed. pls tell me when is your birthday!

i am a new comer am i welcome

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Hey girl! Welcome to GEM Nigeria. We hope you like the stories. You can also invite your friends here.

i am still in secondary school

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

wow that is cute is philp guilty

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

Waiting is okay because it is more sweetened and enjoyable when we wait and it also brings trust between you and your spouse after marriage or before marriage

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Hi Katerina, yes waiting is the best,what you said about it bringing strong trust in marriage is true.I want to be friends with you if you want pls text me back.

Hi,pls i want to know if a guy has fallen in love with me by staring at me

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Hey Omowumi2! Staring does not necessarily mean love. Do not assume that a guy loves you because he loves you. You may be wrong. We hope this helps.

Grace,even if it has pass"happy birthday,wish u long life".my birthday is 28 january mine too had pass

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Hi Philip, thanks for wishing me a happy birthday and am also wishing you a happy birthday,long life and prosperity!

Philip, pls don't be angry but I want to ask if you're going to write WAEC next year?are you in SS2?you can also ask me questions,I will answer!

Grace,i wrote waec this year but i did not write jamb.which class are u?.plc give me a nikename that i can call u.

Hi Philip, wow you're my senior! am in SS2 and that was why I asked if you're in SS2,I know you will come out with flying colors in your waec,jamb,GCE and other exams!em.........I would love you call me wise g(wise girl)!!! pls tell me a nickname I will call u too!don't mind me I don't know any good nickname to tell u because my friends never gave me a good nickname so....that's y I told you wise g!!!

i think it cool to wait.cause my told me not to rush into what is meant to be enjoyed later

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

thanks for the article. i will wait till the right person comes

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Hey girl! This article was written because of you and we are glad you love it. Feel free to share it with your friends

Hi wise g thanks for wishing me success i wish u xame when writing yours.you can call me smiling or p s m.i like your nikename you are indeed wise and nice

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Hi Philip, thanks for wishing me success too!looks like you love smiling always(I love people that always smile)because been happy makes you live long,there is nothing like happiness!I love your nickname "smiling"!

Am waitin bcoz pre-marital sex is nt part of God's will for me

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

waiting is good and am waiting because Gods plan for my life is the best.

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

My girlfriend is a shy type she is shy to even talk to me when i am looking at her eyes she will be feeling shy what can i do to make her not feeling shy anymore

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Hey Omowumi2! You cannot change the personality of someone. You can only try to make her comfortable around you by encouraging her with your words and with your actions. All she needs right now is to learn to be comfortable around you. Once she is, the shyness may reduce (doesn't mean it will go totally). We hope this helps.

How can i know if my boyfriend is a virgin without having sexual intercourse with him

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Hey Omowumi2! Truth be told, there is no physical virginity test for men to know if they actually are. The best way of getting to the bottom of this is to openly ask your man if he has had any sexual relations in the past. This may be a bit difficult because you are fully dependent on his ability to tell the truth. We hope this helps.

Wise g,i like your friendship,how old are u

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

Yeah I think waiting is best to avoid certain dangers that comes with it

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

Wise g.One year older than u

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Wow!I thought u mit be two years older,you finished school on time!

What type of film do u like?is it tragic, horror etc pls tell me!

Its a good lesson for all....we know all girls get curious but we Rily need to endure this and wait...big sister,plz we need more sex articles for d girls in d building

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Hey Shabyv! Thanks for this. Sex is a very hot topic for teenagers and even adults. The questions are always endless. We will work on more articles on this topic as you have requested. Thank you.

YOU'RE RIGHT

Bigsis,what if a guy can do without a female's body?

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

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Hey Shabyv! Please explain this better because we do not really understand what you mean. Thanks

Wise g,i dont like film,and u you wat's your best?

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Hi smiling, like seriously u don't like films but for me I like films but not that much(so it won't distract me) I love cartoons more than films u may think is childish but I love cartoons,I love films with happy ending(I hate tragic and most especially horror because is too scary) which university would u love to attend?

Am I Welcome Here

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Ya sure

Yea 4 Me Watin Is Col Bcus U Gain Trust Nd Respect 4rm Those Who Know U 2 Wel. Nd Dat Includs Ur Real Nd True Patner

March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.

Am sooooooooooooory

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is okey smiling!I understand!I forgive you, we still friends right?

Hi smiling!

it's good to see everyone getting along

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Hi Vivi!

Hello Grace what class are u in and if u don't mind which state ar u from

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Wow! Lovely Grace am an igbo too probably from Enugu state and i just wrote my waec this year ............i wish u were in any social network so that we can chat more and have fun..........

Hey Grace and Sky! We know you are trying to make friends here but sharing your personal information on the Springster platform is not allowed because we like to maintain the secrecy of all our users. You can make friends without giving out so much of your personal details. Thanks for understanding.

Hi sky, how are u doing?

Hi grace

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Hi peri,are u new?if yes welcome!

Helo g how are u doing

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am fine and you?

Am good

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Yes

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thanks for accepting me as your friend!

Calling all Springsters! Please remember not to share information about where you live or your contact details. To stay safe, you should never share these details with people you meet online. If we think messages are too unsafe, we might have to remove them which would be a real shame. Help us keep everyone safe by only sharing your thoughts, ideas and support, nothing more! Thank you

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Am so sorry big sis!it won't happen again,am really sorry pls forgive me!!

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Gracy sneh hw are u doing

Hi smiling, am cool and u?

waiting is good.

March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.

For me i'd rather wait coz i agree with the NO SUM law

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Lol

My bf keeps pressuring me to have srx

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No one shed pressure u too hav sex sista!

No one shud pressure u too hav sex sista!

am still waiting for God give

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God will answer you perfectly

I'm going to w8 until the right man comes that will luv me and I'll luv him 2

March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.

Am waiting because am still thinking

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

I'm waitin til i'm 18 or mre b4 i cn tink of avin any guy in my lyf

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

Waiting is cool , but I've been waiting too long , why then??

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

I will keep waiting til I'm tru with skul n married

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

I wil keep waiting til I'm tru with skul

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how old are you

Y asking....add me on Facebook as Tebrimam Ira n u will know.....pls identity wen u do

I will keep waiting cuz d right time has nt cum

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

I have being thinking about this guy for years now, every minutes that passes I think of him although I only saw him on television it is very hard to forget about him although I have tried to forget about him I can't pls am I in love or not

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey loveth! Your question has been answered in the last article you commented on. Kindly go back and check for the response. Thanks

Yes,it realy good to wait for the right time.It will make you to have respect and self dignity in the society.

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

Big Am 19 and am still a virgin And my new age is making my sexual urge get much And i don't want to have sex now I even get wet when reading sex stories What is wrong with me And what can i do

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Angiel! It's perfectly normal to have sexual urges. It happens to almost everyone so nothing is wrong with you. Do not let this bother okay? We hope this helps

ITS RIGHT TO WAIT

It is right to wait. Stop reading sex stories. If you continue, you will succumb soon.

I'm 16 years old and I've never had a boyfriend.At first,I thought I was missing out but now,I feel so happy with myself.As a pretty teenager,many guys have asked me out but I've decided to stand for what is right. I'm not ready to handle a relationship now.My priority is my education now.Like my mum says,"Study hard and leave all side-attractions,and when you excel in life,you'll enjoy and then,suitors will begin to queue up for you.#Single_and_happy"

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Hey Trintel123! You, go girl! We love how confident you are. Keep it up!

Perfect decision

hi sis.is it gud 2 masturbate as a girl while waiting

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

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Hey Chickchary! Girls your age tend to explore their body a lot of times so it is perfectly normal. Masturbation is a personal decision that only you can make for yourself. We hope this helps

Pls don't masturbate. It isn't right. Sex is meant for a man and woman who are married. Wait till you get married before involving in any sexual activity. Be patient, every one has sexual urges, but you have to restrain yourself like when you are on a diet. When you feel like masturbating, go for a run or to where others are. Don't stay alone when you have sexual urges.

One more thing Chickchary, you could infect your pubic area through masturbation.

Wetin Is Gud Sis English Said Do D Right Thing At D Righty Tym

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THAT'S TRUE EWAOLA

Big Sis am afraid to av sex and my bf is on my neck wat shud I do

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Hey motunrayo_! Thanks for the comment. Don't have sex if you are not ready. Sex is not a proof that you love someone. Also, no one should compel you to do what you do not want to do or are not ready for in the name of love. Love is not forceful. We hope this helps

Never.... If he truly loves you, he does what you want.

Am personally waiting till i finish my secondary school

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hey baby

SECONDARY SCHOOL?

YEAH!...I'M WAITING TILL I'M MARRIED....HAVE GOT MY PRIDE TO KEEP!!!...

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Happy to hear that

am still going to school

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Waiting is cool because I believe that there is time for everything.This is not the due time for me to engage in that,the right will come when I will be fully ready to take that step

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waiting is okay my future first

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I luv dat, Dream big nd tink short, future first.

It the best to do

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i realy prefer the waiting because guys are so tricky yeap after the sex they may not pay attention to the way you feel any more....the love is dead and gone all what they were after was the hole between our legs.....and when they get that they leave the girls broken beyond prepair......is best to wait

March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.

I think waiting is cool because it will give you opportunity to learn more about sex before going into it

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Hey jemmy! You are very correct! You get to learn a lot of things. Thanks for sharing this

I'd luv to wait, but I'd also luv to have sex with the one I luv. I also heard dat ur husband accords u more respect if he marries u a virgin. Is dat true?

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Hey Springster! Whether to have sex or not is a personal decision that only you can make. However, if you must hav sex, please always use a condom to avoid sexually transmitted diseases/infections, HIV and unwanted pregnancy. We hope this helps

I THINK WE SHOULD WAIT A LITTLE FOR THE WRITE TIME TO COME GIRLS.

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Type your comment here. To wait until u re married is the best option.

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To Wait Is Much Cool Thou Is Not Easy Seeing Ur Friends Doing It And U Will Be Feeling Inferior

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I Tnk Waiting Is Cool, But Hw Can Some One Stop Masturbation

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Hey Castle05! Thanks for opening up through this comment. If you really want to stop it, you need to make up your mind and make sure you stick to it. Also, look for a strong distraction that will keep you busy all the time so that you won't have the time to masturbate. We hope this helps

Wait is cool but not all d time

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Truly waiting is cool nd waiting is okay.bcox me too am waiting 4 d rgt time nd rgt man 2 come.springster u knw u have ur rgt so nbdy shld frce u 2 do wat u dont wnt fght 4 ur rgt.wen u mistakenly hv sex nd den broke up can u cope wit dats d end of d story.b careful

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HELLO! I'M NEW HER PLS SOMEONE SHOULD TOCK TO

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How do you do

Hello, please I need your help, I met this guy 5 months ago, he's nice and cool, he asked me out and I said no,because i am not ready for a relationship and he also told me he has a girlfriend who's not always available and doesn't have his time. We became so close, like best friends, he wants more but I couldn't, he has a girl. Unfortunately I fell in love with him, yeah, I know it's love because I never felt that way before. I tried all my best to avoid him thereafter, because I knew it was a bad idea, but he keeps coming back, I couldn't hold back also, he's the first person I fell in love with. I told him, he said he also felt that way since he met me. We were very close that I began to forget he has a girlfriend. I only see him once in a while, but we talk and chat on phone daily. We then chatted about sex and so, I told him I'm a Virgin, he said he had sex before. I love him so much, sometimes I even buy our meal. He said he will love to be with me forever, i told him our age difference is quite much, hes 26 and im 18, but he told me it doent mean, that love matters. One day he took me to his sister's house, she went for holiday. We planned on having sex, and he promised he'll be gentle on me. When we got there, he kissed me, that was my first kiss, then he offed my cloth, I didn't care aslong as he's the one, the one I loved, and he loved me. As he was about do it, I told him not to, then he didn't, he wore my cloth back for me, he always promise me he'll never rape me, so he drove me back home that night. He didn't call or chat me, I called him the next day he didn't pick then I called again he shouted on me and hanged up when he picked, I couldn't believe it, I cried, I remembered the days he use to call me for hours and beg me not to sleep yet because he wants to hear my voice. I remembered everything he always tell me like, he'll never leave me, he love me. I didn't love him from start but I don't know how I fell in love, but I think he's over it now, he doesn't call unless I call him, whenever I call him hell tell me I just forget him. I couldn't bear it, I deleted his number. But I swear I still love him, and I don't think I can love another person. Please help how can I get over this.

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Hey Macbeth! This comment has already been answered in the other article. You do not have to comment on more than one article to get Big Sister's attention. Please, comment on just one article and you will be replied. Thanks

Apart 4rm condom hw cn i have sex with pregnancy?

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Hey Triumph! There is nothing else that can prevent it apart from abstinence and condom. Also, please note that pregnancy is not the only risk involved when you have unprotected sex, you are also prone to having HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases and infections. So please and please, if you must have sex next time, always use a condom. We hope this helps

Hi

wetin z most ryt decision to make cus if u did everything in d name of sex u can regret d action made,pls if he ask u to show im if u truly luv im by aveing sex u too tell im dat if he truly luv u too,he should nt ask 4 d sex anymore.

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Av bin datin my bf 4 almst a ayear now,bur we av no sex 2geder,cos i dnt want it now,i want on my engagement nyt if he cant wait anymore.bur aw i wish he can wait 4 me til my wedin nyt.i dnt want 2 lose im either cos his type z scarce.bur if he insist on disvirgin me m goin 2 break up wid im.m in institution 200 level nd m 16,he z 21.wat can i do 4 nt 2 lose im?cos i realy wanna marry im.

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Hey Michelle! Thanks for this comment. Sex is not a proof of love. Yes, we know that you love your boyfriend but if he askes you to have sex with him as a proof of love, then that is not right. If any guy truly loves you, he will respect your decision to remain a virgin. You do not always have to compromise to keep the relationship. Sometimes, let the guys compromise their need for sex to keep the relationship too. We hope this helps

dax gud sis I like ur ...........,

Pill can prevent also

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That's great but big sis but i'am ten years and i am in luv

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Your too young to be in love

I think its okay but when is the right time to have sex?

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after marriage hahhhhh

I feel waiting is best, but if you cant be careful with the boy you're about to go into any relationship with

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Hey girls and boys ,all of u knows that having sex before marriage is prohibited in all the religions of the world,no religion that allowed to have sex before marriage in bible,quran,and other religious book just dont have sex before marriage it is prohibited big sis dont tell them to have sex even with condom

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I agree with u girl

yes it iz said in d bible dat our body iz d temple of God so wen u try it d person is notin front of God

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Sex can also cause soul tie. A situation whereby u can't stay without having sex with the person.. It is absolutely dangerous. Its more dangerous wen the person u had sex with, does not marry u again. You will have to live with the guilt for your entire life, except u ask God for forgiveness. Outside these facts, there's no sexual fulfillment after marriage.

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Hi Springsters ! I'm new here hope i'm welcome ? Hey Cedar, luv ur comment ,pls can we b friends ?

I think waiting is best because I wanna have sex with the one person I'll spend the rest of my life with I don't want boys to use me and dump me it reduces the Respect or selfworth I'll have as a Girl if we abstain from sex, buys tend to respect you more as a woman and the right and serious guys come your way but if you tend to involve yourself in sex before marriage all kinds of boys will come your way only for that one thing and once you become loose and not pleasurable,you'll become useless to them so please girls abstain from sex before msrriage and also its a Sin against God and to your body

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I am tempted to masturbate whenever am alone and after i relapse i feel terrible and promise myself not to do it again but when the urge come i can't resist,what should i do

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Hey Lawrencer! Masturbation starts from the mind because you think about it before you do it. If you really want to stop masturbating, you need to make up your mind that you want to stop and then do things that will distract you and keep your mind occupied. You can learn a new skill, gist with friends, finish up that chore etc. Just do something that will not let you think about masturbating. We hope this helps.

I'm 23 years old, and there is a girl that I love for almost about five years back, and I promise with my whole heart that I will marry her and make her my best lover girl, so she agree with me for the first time and told me that she is a vergin and say that she didn't want to be disvergin. And I also promise that I will not disvergin her untill I get married to her, but later on, I don't know what I did to her that she didn't want to talk to me again, even if I call her, facebook her and get to her physically, she didn't give me a reply but just shun me like a deaf and dumb, so one day that I did the investigation, ''IMAGIN'' I saw her with a guy, with a way kind of dressing that she never dress before. that make me to know that she is not a vergin again. and one of her friend love me so much & I don't love her like as I love the girl & she wanted to get my love. what if I started date her as the one I trust has left me?, BIG SIS, is that good or bad, please tell me. What should I do?

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Hey Excellove! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We are so sorry for what you are going through. To clear the air, you should not conclude that someone is not a virgin because of the way she is dressing. Now to the friend, we honestly think it will be wrong for you to date her because you do not genuinely love her and you will be dating her just to make her friend look bad. Never date a girl you do not love for any reason. We hope this helps

I have Dat similar situation my bf want to us to have sex. he said Dat he cannot his sexual urge control

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Hey Agnes! Are you ready to have sex? If you are not, you shouldn't be under any form of pressure to have sex. Sex is not love and you are in charge of your body so you have a right to say NO if you are not ready for it. If he truly loves you, he will respect your decision. We hope this helps

Ave Experience Da Bt My Bf Use Condom

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Thanks Bigsis

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Waiting makes u a princess.Virginty is a crown to every princess who values her worth nd does not give away her crown to d dogs in d name of love.I am well over 20 nd my virginity is my pride.I am not missing out on anything instead it is those dat have lost it dat ar missing coz dey can't get it back

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I totally agree with you.... PROUDLY A VIRGIN

waiting is ok, but still whatever u plan to do u hw to wait for God time.

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am so afraid of having sex with my boy friend

waiting is the best becos am a virgin,i don't want to disvirgin

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how old are you?

am afraid of ve sex wit my boyf becos i dt ve dat expirest be4 nd i tink dat i ill be prenacy

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Hey 5830! Your comment is a bit confusing and we are not really sure of what you are saying BUT what we could gather is that you are scared of sex. This means that you are not yet ready for sex if you are still scared of it. Do not have sex because someone wants it. Wait till you are ready for it and the responsibilities that come with it. We hope this helps

Hw many Munit It Wil Take A Gel To Release Sparm When Hv Sex Wit Guy?

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Hey Prof! There is no particular time for this. You can never time this because it happens as it comes. It is also different with every individual. We hope this helps

When Ever I Hv Sex Wit My Babe She Is Alway Cry Wit Pain N Difficult To Me To Penetrate Her Vigina, The London No Gree Open. Big Sis I Need Adomose

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Hey Prof! The pain can be caused by different things. These include; the fact that she is a virgin and the vaginal opening is still tight. Also, it could be that you are doing something wrong. Another thing can be the fact that her vagina is dry and not wet. Trying to penetrate into a dry vagina can be really painful. You should take things easy with her. Sex is a process and it takes a lot of work. Try and look at these options above to see what could be causing the pain. We hope this helps.

plz big sis,am 19 ave got a grl wich am datin nd she's nd we both love each oda so much, she jst my kinnda grl bt nw ave gt 2 big issue 1. She always scared of lossin me 2. She's a virgin nd has refused me sex fr a lng while nd nw am a type of dat cnt cheat no matter wat cuz ders a big value in our relationship, bt still i hav my strong urge fr sex , **we already plan on gtin married 1nce am done wit school nd diz my yr 1 plz i need ur advice on dis

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Hey kenny-drumz! Thanks for the comment. First of all, Being a virgin is not and should not be an issue. You have to respect her opinion on No Sex! We are sure she told you about this before you started dating and you agreed to wait for her too. No means NO! No matter the urge you have, you need to know that her opinion stands no matter what you think. You both have a long time before you get married but the truth is that if you really love her like you claim, you will respect her opinion because she owns her body and has a right to what she wants. We hope this helps

hw cn i reduce d urge nd hw do i go abt waitin fr 4-5yrs fr smone lyk me dat has been sexualy active

I am wisyranking, I have a girlfriend whom I love so much, I don't want her to get pregnant so that she will still continue her studies and she doesn't Want me to sex her with a condom, what do I do?

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Hey wisyranking1! Thanks for the comment. Do you know that boys can also get pressured to do things against their will? Yes, this is what is happening. You have a right to say NO to her as long as you are not comfortable with having unprotected sex. Pregnancy is not the only risk involved in unprotected sex, you are at risk for so many other things. Let her know your stance and stand by it too. We hope this helps

when is the best time to have sex with a woman so that she will not get pregnant, it it after period or before period

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Hey wisyranking1! Like we said before, pregnancy is not the only risk involved when it comes to having unprotected sex. You both can get an STD/STI or even HIV. If you must have sex, please you MUST always use a condom. We hope this helps

when its gud 2 hav sex bcos am still a vergin nd am 18 nd pple sy is nt gud dat it can affect me when havin sex dat it will pain me

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Hey fweeshy! First of all, not having sex will not affect you in any way. That is a myth and you should not believe it. The only time you should have sex is when you are sure that you are ready for it and not based on what someone else says. The first time you will have sex, you will definitely feel some pain but this is perfectly normal and it has nothing to do with your age or how long you have been a virgin. Please do not be under pressure for sex with anyone. Wait until you are mentally ready and also ready for the responsibilities (good and bad) that come with it. We hope this helps

I'm 19,and I'm still a virgin as well,please don't mind them,I've been through lots of temptations,but it depends on how you take your stand,you must never quit or waiver. Be you,and you always.

hey fweeshy can we be feiends

Waiting is okay, but my gf always when me to have sex with her and don't when to do it till I married her, and don't when to loss her because I love her so much......big sis what will I do to save the relationship?

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Hey Podoski! Thanks for the comment. You have a right to say NO as long as you are not ready for sex. Most times, we tend to ignore the fact that boys are also put under pressure for sex. It is okay for you (as a boy) to also say NO. If you are not ready for sex, do not allow anyone (not even your girlfriend) to make you do what you are not ready for. Sex is a personal decision to make and if you are not ready for it, there is no need for you to force it or make it happen because you will not enjoy the result. Sit down, talk to her and make her know that you will have sex when you are ready for it. We hope this helps

I'm sixteen and am nt under peer pressure.there's a guy I like that likes me too,we are already friends.but I want to know when is the minimum age for a platonic relationship???

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Hey Despacito! Thanks for the comment. There is no minimum or maximum age for one to be in a relationship. You should only go into a relationship when you are ready for the responsibility of it. Age has nothing to do with a relationship... rather your maturity has a very important role to play. You need to know what you want in a relationship and in a partner before you even think of dating. We hope this helps

I'm also waiting for the right time,but he's not.

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Waiting 4 dat right time

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To me waiting is cool because, after you have waited till when you get married, you get to enjoy sex with your life partner like everyday and you might even get tired of it. So to me waiting is really cool.

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I love this. 100% way to have sex safe Is to have no sex.

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i luv a girl though she seduce me but am afraid of her

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I prefer waiting bcos if u wait ..d gut will still giv u d respect u deserve...u will still be a lady with dignity...if u hav a misunderstanding that leads to breakup u wont regret ur actions cos u havnt giv ur dignity out..u will hav ur own right...pls if u havnt hav sex plss keep on waiting cos u ar doing the right thing...thanks

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Thanks alot

Is it true that girl will love u more if u can sex her very well?

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Hey oscarlimo! No, this is not true. First of all, sex is not love. You cannot say that you love someone because of the sex they give you. That is a totally different feeling but it is definitely not love. We hope this helps

Its hard but cool to wait till u are ready what do you think?

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Yeah yeah

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Yeah yeah

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thats ryt

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bigsis acually am new i meant a guy 4 d 1st tym and we got use he later approach me bt i refuse bt i cant thinkin about him 4 a whole year i just keep on remberin him bt think in should wait ma am confuse i think i luv him (big sis i dont hw 2 say yes 2 aguy)

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It sometimes happens

Go on and become is friend again

big sis, am new is it right 4 a guy 2 av 2 or more girlfriend

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Hey DANNIWEST! It is not right to have more than one girlfriend because you cannot love more 2 people equally. If you have more than one girlfriend, it means that you are deceiving one of them and that is totally unacceptable. If you want to do this, just imagine someone else doing this to you. How will you feel? We hope this helps

Big sis can i have.boyfriend. at.the age.of 17

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Hi big sis to me;waiting is d best becos wen sex is dne at d ryt tym u wil b respected

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Of course say no to sex bfour marriage

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for me i_tk d_right time to hv sex_is after marriage

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Hy i am jenefa. i am new here can i be your friend

hi big sis av been dating a guy,its been four yrs now nd am a virgin but he dont still understand dat sex is nothing in our relationship he once try forcing me cause guys are stronger than girls you know so we had a knock on d door dat was wat saved me since then i neva went to his room again so he have been actin strange to me he will say if i dont come i should not chat wif him and i really love him wat should i do now

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Girlll, you need to leave him. He doesn't love you and he attempted to rape you! Stand your ground and tell him no to sex. If someone loves you they will wait for you and never force you to have sex. He doesn't love you and if you have sex with him, it will only cause you heartbreak.

Hey booboo! SpiceGirl is very correct. This guy does not love you at all and he attempted to rape you so you should be reporting him to a trusted adult. You need to end whatever it is you have with him because he does not deserve you at all. Your safety is more important than anything else and the moment you do not feel safe around someone, you should not even be in a relationship with them. Please dear, you deserve better because sex is not love and no one should force you to have sex with them. If he loves you like he claims, he will respect your decision to wait. We hope this helps

Hello pls am still a virgin recently I've been in situations I've nearly had sex....so I decided to get some condoms just to be safe pls am I doing d right thing?

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. It is good to be prepared. One other important thing to know is that sex is not just about you almost having sex with someone, you need to be prepared for sex before you go into it. Sex should not be done on impulse. You need to be very sure that you are ready for it mentally, emotionally and physically. Do not just have sex because the opportunity came, be ready for it, read about the changes it will cause in your body, learn how to take care of yourself and then talk to a trusted adult about it (if you can). We hope this helps

Someone I know told me she once crushed on a boy and saw him after a long time.When she saw him,she quickly hid her face and her heart was beating fast,does it mean she still like him?

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Hey Mayo! Thanks for the comment. This does not mean that she likes him. Hiding her face does not have any connection to liking him. You should ask her why she was hiding from him but to us, it does not signify anything to us. We hope this helps

😍She probably stole his money and she feels shame naturally.😍

Well am a gal of 21yrs of age, although I have seen alot from guys but I still keep to my promise that no sex until I marry........ It really fun to be a virgin, I don't feel sex at all, infact I hate sex, the only thing am amazed is that what are they really enjoying in sex that some people can't stay without it,.....no matter what am gonna keep my virginity!!! It's cool for u to wait like I did 😇😇I believe that the lord is our strength

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Hey Sexylepa! We are glad that you not only know what you want for yourself but the fact that you are sticking to it is really amazing. Keep up the good work! Thanks for sharing this with us.

ITS COOL,BCOS ITS GOOD TO BE A VIRGIN

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I tell my girlfriend that I want to have sex with her but he tell say no, but he use to tell me everyday that he love me and I knw in my self that he does not love me plz what should I do

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Hey Yungwill! Thanks for the comment. First of all, sex is not love. The fact that she doesn't want to have sex with you does not mean that she doesn't love you. She said NO because and she has reasons for it. If you love her, you need to respect her decision. Love is not by force and you should do nothing to make her change her mind. Sex is not the only thing you can get from a relationship. If you are in it for sex alone, you need to go back and figure out what being in a relationship means. But before you do that, do not pressure that innocent girlfriend of yours for sex. Sex is not what defines a relationship. We hope this helps

I wish i have something good to say ,i was raped,so i never lost my virginity intensionally,but since then i haven't tried it again

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Hey erella! We are so sorry about what you went through. Rape is very hard to get over and the trauma is so bad. We are so sorry about it. It is always advisable to talk to a trusted adult about what you went through. It is not advisable to keep quiet about it. There is a Child Advocacy Center where they help and give professional advice to young people in situations like this on what they can do to be safe. You can call them on 08 00 80 080 01. This service is completely confidential - which means they won't share what you say to them with other people. It is free which means you don’t not need to have credit before you call them. We hope this helps

big sis what if uve done it before n nw feeling bad n regreting it?

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Hey lilly! This is just a thing of the mind and the solution is to try to get over it. There is really no need regretting it because the deed has already been done. Beating yourself over it is not the right thing to do. Brace up and shake it off girl, you'll be fine. We hope this helps

Hey big sister Well am 17+ and I m dating dz guy I feel he is cheating on me cos he is always taking pictures with other girls and he even denies having a relationship with me cos he is asking a girl I know out... I don't know if I should continue with the relationship although he doesn't hurt me in anyway and I like the fact Dat he understands d reason y I refused to b intimate with him but I ve tried several times to let him know how jealous I feel wen I see his updates with other girls but he takes it personal

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Hey Chloe! Thanks for the comment. You should not be in a relationship with someone that is asking other girls out and denying you to the public. This means that he does not only disrespect you but he also is not proud of you. When we talk of people hurting you, we do not mean that they have to physically harm you, it really includes the way they treat you too. You are obviously not happy with the way he treats you right now. The final decision is up to you to make but we advise that you to not allow emotions cloud your judgment. We hope this helps

😍You're past jealous, you're now clingy. You refused to be intimate with him and you don't want him to be intimate wih another person!?!?(It is not a question but a rhetoric)😍

i hv a frnd dat is nt naturally shy but there is dis particular guy in our area dat she's shy of anytym she sees him she becomes suddenly shy n tongue tied she cant talk 2him in person but on social media dey r gud frnds n dey talk alot n she told me dat she doesnt even knw y she is alwaz shy around him so pls i want 2 knw is it dat she lyks him or not?

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Hey Springster! We advise you to tell your friend to remain calm. This happens when you have feelings for a person (This could either be love or a crush). She also needs to learn to work on her confidence. We have written articles on confidence on the website and we are sure that they will help her. Please read search for #Confidence at the bottom of the page and also invite your friend to join Springster. We hope this helps

tnks big sis

The guy may have brainwash her on social Media.... Tell her to build her SELF-ESTEEM

You like him.

how sure are u

So, true!!

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But for how long will it takes If yhur emotions is feeling some how

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Though, we may this feelings while growing up but we can get rid of it by determination... Your determination is your determination..... Don't let peer pressure to pressurize you.. Don't copy people... Sex is not a small something.. Some Christians call it a Covenant between couples but nowadays it is between a female and male boys not even men.... Sex is a temporary pleasure..... But most of the people are guilty of it..... Anyways,SEX IS GOOD when you engage in it at the right time of your life.... Mind you,Glory can be taken through sexual intercourse.....

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Dat's true we just hv to be very careful and pls if u want 2 hv sex with anyone and he tries 2 use any strange thing on u pls do not allow him 2 use it on u becos men are fond of using some things 2 take away destinies of young girls whenever they want to have sex with them

big sis my girl friend always say am not a man, i cant make her fill like a woman doing sex..she said am lazy on bed.that i can't give her the sex that she.wan't please bis sis i need ur help.i love her somuch i can't let her go.

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Hey chizo! Thanks for the comment. You need to talk to your girlfriend about this and ask her what it is that she wants. Communication is very important in a relationship. You both need to talk it out. She should tell you what she wants from you and vise versa. Also, since you are already having sex, please always use a condom to avoid sexually transmitted diseases and infections and also HIV/AIDS. We hope this helps

Hi big sis, pls help me out like now a boy dat had been masturbating from age of 14yrs continuesly, at the begining the sperm was very tick then geting to 20yrs it now very watring does it means dat the person cannot impragnant a girl anymore? And wat should d person do to regain it?

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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Getting a girl pregnant is not about how thick your sperm is but rather, how potent it is. You cannot just assume that because you have watery sperm, your chances of impregnating a girl are small. You need to go to the hospital for a proper test to know if you are potent or not. We hope this helps

Hi big sis, pls help me i luv my girlfriend somuch and she's also proofing dat she luvs me so but theres certain things dat she use to do dat use to discourage me sometime, she would like to see me but wen she's seing me presently she would doing as if she doesnt luv me but yet would be displaying her feeling over me via sms, so does it means dat she luv me or wat? i Am complicated honestly

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Hey Maxson! Please talk to her about this and you both should talk things out. Communication is very important in every relationship. If you do not like what is happening, talk about it. We hope this helps

My questions are: - Does it normal for a girl to ask for sex? - What is the different between strong sex and weak sex and what is the advantages of the two?

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Hey Sandra1! Thanks for the comment. The subject of sex is very personal and up to the individual. There is nothing like strong sex and weak sex. This is because it is only a partner that can say if sex is not good or not (not weak or strong). There are no advantages of these. Each individual has to go for what they prefer. Sex is not what can be defined in a book, you have to be mature enough to understand it. We hope this helps

I feel waiting is best for me in order to avoid regrets

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Hi am new here, my boyfriend broke up with me cos I didn't allow him have sex with me nd now he is calling me back 4 us 2 get back 2geda although am still insisting I cnt have premarital sex bt am so tempted to accept him back cos I still have feelings 4 him and am talking abt someone who is 15 yrs older than I. Even while dating, we fight a lot cos of this issue, pls help.

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Hey temmie! The truth is that if he broke up with you for sex without respecting your opinion on no sex before marriage, then he does not deserve you in any way. A guy that does not respect you does not deserve you. If you go back to him, he will keep disturbing you for sex and there is no need for you to go through that heartache. Another major issue is the age difference. Please and please, what are you doing with a guy that is 15 years older? You both are of different mindsets and he has nothing to lose because he has seen it all. He is also sexually active and so what he wants is sex. One thing for sure is that this guy is too old for you and you should not be in a relationship with him. You need to talk to a trusted adult about this too. We hope this helps

i told my boyfriend am not ready to have sex he agreed but when ever we see privately he tries to put me in d mood and even when we are almost close in having sex i will resist him 。。he would stop but always feel bad

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Hey jenny! Thanks for the comment. Please and please, if you are not ready to have sex, you should avoid being in a lonely place with a guy that you know likes you (or any guy in general). This is where they try to lure you into it or even force you. You should meet him in open places only and make him understand that this is not what you want. If he really loves you, he will respect your decision. Please note that sex is not love. We hope this helps

Big Sis am 19yrs old, am still a virgin i started dating jst 2 months back, i accepted my boyfriend becus he promise he will neva force me 2 hv sex wif him, bt last week it ws only God dat saved me 4rm a guy who wnt 2 raped me. So my fellow sprinters be careful.

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Hey Dule! WOW!! We are so sorry about this and we are so glad you shared this with us and your fellow Springsters. This is a wake-up call to everyone. We advise you to talk to a trusted adult and report him immediately because this guy won't stop with you. Who knows how many people he has done this to. Once again, thanks for sharing this with us

Big Sister Pls I Need Help Concernin A Friend Who Was Betray By His Beloved B/f After She Was Been Disflower And Sex Unwilling On Several Occassion By Him Nw She Is Heartless And Lonly And She Find It Very Difficult 2 Trust And Love Again ,i Have Tried Al D Logic I Knw But It Nt Workin Pls Hw Can I Help

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Hey Olamide! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry for what your friend went through. This can really be hard but she really should not keep quiet about it. She needs to talk to a trusted adult immediately. There is a Child Advocacy Center where they help and give professional advice to young people in situations like this on what they can do to be safe. You can call them on 08 00 80 080 01. This service is completely confidential - which means they won't share what you say to them with other people. It is free which means you don’t not need to have credit before you call them. We hope this helps

I'm 22 years old and waiting has been one the best decisions I've ever taken.

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As for me waiting is okay, Because i belive that God's time is actually the best

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as for me I think waiting is the best

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hlo big sis, am having a gf n she Love's me n I also love her, though we've been frnds 4 a long time b4 dating, n we've been dating for almost 2 years nw, but she did something very terrible, we were bearly 2weeks in d relationship ween she was dis virgined by some1 old enough to be her father right in his quarter's she claims it an accident she refused telling me ontill knw. what should I do n I still love her am just confused.

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Hey Chibudike! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. We ask that you think about it properly before you make a decision. We hope this helps

Is it possible to have a boyfriend without having sex

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Hey Honeydrops! Thanks for the comment. Yes, it is possible to have a boyfriend without having sex with him. Sex is not compulsory in a relationship and you also need to know that sex is not a sign of love. Do not allow anyone to force you to have sex with them if you are not ready for it. We hope this helps

It's possible to have a boyfriend without having sex it just depends on your partner and you

But most of the time I just think about s*x

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it'something normal to think about it,i also do

😍 You probably think alot about sex because you're not busy. 'A jobless man is the devil's...'😍

i always feel like doing it when my friend tel me what wil i do

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Gold,i will advice u not to do it,it's something normal to have sexual desire since u have reached the age of puberty.The best is just for u to know how to control it,u can avoid that feelings by not allowing ur friends to discuss about sex with u,always shut them up whenever they raise the topic or leave the premises.ur voice is ur weapon,u have the right to say NO to other people s decision if it is BAD

😍If you'd ask me, I'd say what I'll always say:''As long as he/she's the right person. Sex is all about passion not commitment. It's better to have pre-marital sex than to be guilty infidelity.😍

Gold.. my best advice for you is to be wise and mind the kind of people you called your friends.. remember bad friends corrupt good habit..

guys having sex is not by force get this if,if you don't like what your friend is saying to you then tell them "girl abeg stop this things you dey talk I no like am" perhaps you can even change the topic into something else and keep what Mike said in mind be careful of the friends you keep,for me sex is all about maturity and reediness girl.

Am still waiting 4 d right one. think waiting is okay because dey is time 4 everything

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U are right

I think waiting is cool.Being a virgin till the night of ur wedding is the best.Virginity is the most precious gift u can ever give to ur husband.Although sometimes we have sexual desire but it is best to know how to control it.Body no be firewood

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😍I for one will never marry a virgin although I'm one my self. So I strongly disagree with all this shit you typed.😍

True talk

If your boyfriend is asking for sex bt nt pressing nd ur nt ready yet..is it better to oblige,even though he still loves you without sex bt wants it?

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Hey Debs! Thanks for the comment. NO, you should not oblige. As long as you are not ready for it, do not do it because he asked you for it. He is already putting you under pressure because you are considering it. Sex is not love. You not have to prove that you love someone through sex. Please, do not be deceived. If he loves you, he will respect your No that way. We hope this helps

PLS BIG SIS SO MNY GUYZ R ASKING ME OUT N I DNT KNW WAT 2 DO

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😍 If you're not interested, let 'em know! Negligence will only further exacerbate the whole situation. They'll only take your indeciciveness for timidity or worse, immaturity. You gotta let 'em know your NO is your NO!😍

Hey DELPHINE! Jeff has said it all. Thanks Jeff for giving such a great response. We appreciate you

Thanks #jeff. Relationship is not all about sex.. if you found yourself with a guy who always ask for sex be wise and find your way, because that's not love but (lust)

waiting is okey,cus keepin ur viginity until ur're married is also a way of gaining respect frm ur husband

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that my mothers subject,"gaining respect"

Well, I have a boyfriend, and he is pressuring me into having sex with him, I told him I was too young, and if my parents finds out, I am literally dead, after too much pressure, I broke up with him, 2 days later, he came back to me, pleading that he was sorry, and that we should get back together, should I go back to him? I need your help big sister

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Yeah!! if you know he truly said that from the bottom of his heart.. and if I should be you, I will ask he out if he will accept me the way i am, as in relationship without sex. my dear relationship without sex is the best. dont force yourself to do what you dont want to do.

dont accept him...cux he cant control his emotions for sex and such a person after having his way may run out of the relationship...

Hey Selena608! Thanks for the comment. Do not go back to him because he won't stoop disturbing you. As a matter of fact, it may even get worse because he may have plans to do something drastic. Please run away from him for your own safety. The urge for sex does not go just like that. We hope this helps

no selena don't,I had a similar case too and I did not go back to him bcus he was a coward.

i wait because,scripturally is not good to have pre-marital sex...and most importantly i fear God so much and i would not break is commandment...

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uhm dats cool..girl

its good to wait

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hi i think waiting s d best 4 a lady wo want best 4are futur husbd

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Yea, indeed waiting is pretty cool, but it can be a little bit challenging.Like me, am still waiting cos i dont want a situation whereby a guy will persuade me into hvng sex cos i hate sex bf marriage.

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Up u dear......

Yes its true that waiting is the best.it might be a big deal when it comes to patience.but for the fact that you are being pressured doen't mean that you should just give in. I am 14 years old and could only accept boys as my friends,and i always stik to my words. It seems and sounds silly to me when i see my classmates that are just in ss1 dating with someone who graduated from secondary for about 3 years ago while the girl in secondary school is not serious with her studies and even a repeater but still yet she jokes with her studies. Even when people try to talk to her but she is only being foolish . It baffles me cause its only getting worse.

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hi who are u ,i mean you nickname and not anonymous ,the pleasure would be minre if i could be friends with people like you ,can we be friends.

Waiting is not OK, it definitely makes you. feel inferior among your friends and colleagues

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Why must anyone copy bad vices? Why should anyone feel inferior for not being silly? Please think before you speak and not vice-versa. You may just be voicing your opinion but you're also confusing some people who are struggling with what to do. Please be considerate.

Though waiting is cool because u wnt ting much about them u wnt be worried and u will stay focus nd if ur frnds try to pressure u tel them to back they are nt the one that shuld u

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Though waiting is cool because u wnt ting much about them u wnt be worried and u will stay focus nd if ur frnds try to pressure u tel them to backoff! they are nt the ones that shuld rule u

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Waiting is okay for me because I know that God's time is the best for me.

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hello ,I'm new here

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Hi Kay, You are proudly welcome.

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I also believe waiting is okay I am 21 now BT still I am waiting and keeping myself for my husband .

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Thumps up. You go queen.....

Waiting is cool,because there a lot of advantages

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Waiting is the right thing. Iam 17 and still a virgin. I want to remain so till my wedding night. We girls should wise up. Most guys want to marry virgins but go about taking other girls' virginity. So don't fall for their tricks.

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Waiting is the right thing. Iam 17 and still a virgin. I want to remain so till my wedding night. We girls should wise up. Most guys want to marry virgins but go about taking other girls' virginity. So don't fall for their tricks.

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Waiting is good so that you don't mess up yourself

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Waiting is soo good

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I'm actually waiting but one mind is telling me not to wait

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Waiting is perfectly good to save you from regret

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Waiting is perfectly good to save you from regret

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Hi am i welcome? waiting is good/right thing to do.

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Waiting is the right thing to do.

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Yeah, waiting prevents lots of issues

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Hi am new here