How to deal with my teenage hormones
Making sense of all the changes
Puberty can be a tough time for a girl. Lots of us feel sad or confused or angry sometimes and wonder why. Our bodies are changing in ways that maybe we don’t understand. Maybe you have loads of questions or are feeling anxious.
Here’s the good news: it’s perfectly normal. You’re growing up and your body is changing. That’s all. We have some tips to help you handle it:
- As your breasts develop, it’s normal for one to be bigger than the other. They may catch up with each other, they may not. It’s fine. Most of us don’t have identical breasts. Don’t feel bad if your friend’s breasts are bigger or smaller than yours. We come in different shapes and sizes. You are beautiful just the way you are. Love yourself no matter what.
- Days before your period, you may be moody and cranky. You may want certain foods or have tender breasts. This is called PMS (Premenstrual Syndrome). It’s caused by changes in your hormone levels. Cutting back on sugar and fat will help. Put those sweets and chocolates away. Do simple exercises to sweat off the stress. In addition, drink plenty of water and get enough sleep. Soon you’ll be happy and cheerful again.
- At your age, it’s okay to be curious about sex. And sometimes when you think of a boy you like, your heart beats faster. Your emotions swing left and right. Don’t be scared or embarrassed. You’re completely normal.
That’s it. Now try to relax. Being a teenager can be fun.
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by controlling ur emotions
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Wow .... Tnk u very much .... Cos i thought i ws going insane bcos they ws ds guy i fell inlove with ... Whenever i hears his name my hrt will jst start beating.... U jst help to relieve my mnd set ...
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
how do i relive menstrual pain
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Ademi! Thanks for the comment. Periods come with pain/cramps and it can be really uncomfortable as nobody likes pain but getting your period means growth. You can try any of these easy solutions to stop the pains; have a hot bath, place a hot water bottle on your tummy, take a walk or take some pain killers as prescribed by a doctor or certified pharmacist. However, if the pain persists, please talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor. We hope this helps.
U can relief menstrual pain by taking ibuprofen if prescribed by d doctor or put a bottle of hot water on d lower part of ur tummy u can also do things u like to have a less painful and worry free period hope it will help u
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Hi big sis were can I get panty liners or wat can I use to replace it is it possible to tear some part of pad for it as a professional worker said. pantyliners are not easy to find in Ilorin my mum also helped me to search
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Star! Panty liners can be gotten at supermarkets around you. If you cannot find in local stores, try looking for them in big supermarkets. Tearing a pad won't turn it into a panty liner. It will only make it really messy and it probably won't serve the purpose again. So we do not advise that you do that. We hope this helps.
Big sis wat is spotting for girls and how does it look lyk and hw will u no
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Star! Spotting is when you see drops of blood on your panties. This is usually towards the end of your period. These drops of blood are not heavy so they do not necessarily require the use of pads but rather something lighter like panty liners. We hope this helps.
Sorry star maybe big sis is confused she doesn't know it
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Pls ma i am expeincing stunted gowth in my beasts ,is it nomal
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Tizzy! First of all, you are probably not experiencing stunted growth. Your breast is probably not growing as fast as you want it to grow. You need to be a bit more patient because it will surely grow. Also, the size of a girl's breast can sometimes be influenced by her genes or her body shape. We hope this helps.
Thanks big sis u r d best muah love u
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Star! You're welcome. Love you too
I feel embarrassed sometimes when I'm with him... There's this day we're together don't know what got into my head... I just kissed him.
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Amrah! Why do you feel embarrassed? Does he make you feel ashamed or less of yourself?
can one miss puberty..??
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Grachieve! No dear, puberty is part of everyone's growth process in life and it cannot be missed. Your parents once went through puberty so it is very normal. We hope this helps.
why do i sleep much
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Lovty! We cannot say for sure why you sleep too much but we can suggest ways for you to reduce the way you sleep. Here are some; Get up and move around to feel awake, take a nap to take the edge off sleepiness, eat a healthy snack to boost energy, start a conversation to wake up your mind, turn on the lights to ease fatigue. We hope this helps.
Hi lovty!wei do sleep much becoz of puverty
i dont understand hw 2 track my periods pls help me
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Kali! In calculating your period/menstrual circle, note that the first day of your period is also the first day of your menstrual circle and the last day of your period is not the last day of your circle but the last day of your period. The duration/flow depends on the individual. The last day of your cycle is the day before your next period starts. For example, if your period started on the 1st of April and your next period starts on the 3rd of May, your cycle will be 2nd of May. This means that your cycle lasts for 31 days. Your new cycle starts again from the 1st day of your next period. Please note that your period can be delayed at sometimes and can also come earlier than normal. We hope this helps.
hi...is it wrong to have a boyfriend as a teenager?!
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Wuralum! There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.
It true big sista
Hi big sis am new here. pls am i welcome?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Yes of cause you re welcome enjoying new things about teenagehood
Hi big sis is it part of puberty when you start having crushes on hansome boys
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Ashie! Good question girl! It's hard to ignore fine boys so we tend to crush on them. Lol. It's perfectly normal to have crushes however, it is how you handle the crush that matters. When you reach puberty, your body grows and changes and this change also affects your feelings. You begin to feel some attraction to the opposite sex. So do not feel like you are weird, it's normal. We hope this helps.
is there any particular time that if u mate with a guy it will lead to pregnancy no doubt, if there is pls wen?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Stardom! The best way to avoid pregnancy is to abstain but if you must have sex, please use a condom. There is more to having unprotected sex e.g STIs, STDs, HIV etc. We hope this helps.
thanks
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Hi big sis, pls how do i get a bigger breast and maintain little cleavage?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Shine! The size of your breast is hormonal and may increase as you grow. Do not worry about it as there is little you can do to increase it. Just be comfortable in your skin and take your mind off it. The size of your breast does not determine what you will be in life. Look at the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful (big breast or not). We hope this helps.
my breast isn't growing since I clocked 11and they look tiny
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Kinky! You not having big breast may be hormonal and there is little or nothing you can do about that. What we advise is that you first learn to love yourself and your body first. This is the key to overlooking what others will say about you. If you don't love and appreciate yourself, others will find it hard to appreciate you too. Remember that you are still growing so there is still time too. We hope this helps.
big sis ..why is it that a day to my period my breast will enlarge & some how paining me.....and also when my period is flowing my waist will be paining me....why is it like that?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Jenny! Every girl has different signs and symptoms when she gets her period. For some, it may just be slight discomfort while others may feel extreme pain and like you, may have tender breast and waist pain. All of this depends on the individual. But please, talk to a trusted adult and also see a doctor. We hope this helps.
hi springster
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
You can feel like you aren't just that, perfect personality the society projects in the "medias" as "Suiting"..
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
I think i am a cute boy magnet
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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YOU ROCK SPRINGSTER!!!!! YOU GO GIRL
is it right for a teenager to have sex with the opposite sex while they're dating?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Rity25! Thanks for opening up through this comment. The official age of adulthood in Nigeria is 18 but that doesn't mean that is the age for you to have sex. It is all about an individuals readiness and maturity for sex. Before you think of having sex, you need to make sure you are ready for it (not because everyone is doing it but because your mind and body is ready for it), also you need to make sure that your partner is above the age of 18 and is willing to have sex with you. Do not force yourself on anyone because that officially becomes rape. The most important thing is safe sex. Please always have protected sex to prevent unwanted pregnancy, STD's, heart breaks, infections etc. We hope this helps.
is boys welcomed
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
Listen to songs
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
Some times I feel sad having a big breast
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Sophy! Do not feel sad about that. You should learn to love your body the way it is. There is nothing wrong with having big breast. You are unique the way you are. Nobody can be like you. Look in the mirror every day and say to yourself "I am perfect the way I am". We hope this helps.
Thank u so much big sister, your words gave me courage
Thank for ur advice its relli encouraging
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
pls,I always have breast pain b4 seeing my period.Pls is it normal?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Christy! Yes, it is normal.
my period last for three days is't normal
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Well I kinda think so do u take sugar before your period because well its meant to last for five days
Hey Bee! Periods last from 2 days - 7 days depending on the individual. The flow also depends on the individual. @1-803216et1 not everyone sees their period for 5 days. She is perfectly normal for seeing her period for 3 days. We hope this helps.
PLS I AM NINETEEN AN I HAVE A VERY SMALL BREAST IS THAT NORMAL
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey SCHOLASTICA! Thanks for the comment. The size of your breast is hormonal and may increase as you grow. Look at your family members (both paternal and maternal) and notice their breast sizes. Ask questions about how their breasts were when they were younger. Do not worry about it as there is little you can do to increase it. Just be comfortable in your skin and take your mind off it. The size of your breast does not determine what you will be in life. Look at the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful (big breast or not). We hope this helps.
hey big sis... pls is good 4 a girl 2 use rober buttocks when she like 4 sex
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey anam6571! We will appreciate if you explain what you mean by rober buttocks so that we know how to reply to your queston. Thanks.
Pls,i am sixteen and my heart tends to beat faster when i hear the name of a particular guy in our neighbourhood mention, pls whats happening to me? could that be feelings?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Beney! It happens a lot especially to teenagers. What you have is a crush *big smile*. So it's really nothing to be worried about. Just remain calm and not get agitated when you see him okay. We hope this helps.
I don't av a crush but I do think guys av a crush on me even they don't. Most guys DAT come my way and treat me nicely I do think they have crush on me. Wat can I do to stop that feeling
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. You have to know that not all guys that come to you are interested in a relationship with you. Some of them just want to be friends with you. So the next time a boy approaches you, what you need to do is to totally open your mind know what his intentions are and accept him if he wants to be 'just friends'. It is all about your mindset. We hope this helps.
hello i am a new member my question is my always tells that shs always sex without a man is it right to have sex without a man
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Peace! We do not understand this question. Please resend in a way that we will understand. Thanks
hi springstar what can i do take away streetmark on my breast becouse it making my breast to fall queick and am really ashame but my friend own are still standing,becuase of this, it has made may breast to be very-very soft i need your help sis
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Queen3636! First of all, stretch marks do not make your breast fall. Maybe your breasts are naturally not as firm as you would like it to be and believe us, it is normal. Remember that not everyone is the same and so are our bodies. Comparing yourself to other people is always a bad idea because you will be disappointed. Some natural cures for stretch marks include; aloe vera gel: apply and leave on affected area for about 20 minutes. Wash off. Lemon juice: apply and leave for about 10 minutes. Rinse off with warm water. Potato: cut potato into round slices, rub on affected place. Once the potato juice has dried off, rinse off. Shea butter: apply shea butter on the affected place as cream. Keep doing this. Be sure to use any of these methods and remember that the marks will not clear overnight. We hope this helps.
Hi big sis my problem is whenever i run without a bra my breast use to pain me please what's the cause
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Seyifunmi! Thanks for the comment. There is no cause. You shouldn't be running without a bra or sports bra. Bras support the breast and when you are running, there is so much pressure on the breast it is bound to pain you. We hope this helps
Hi big sis when I'm about to see my period both of my legs will keep paining me I sometimes sees two tick things but my sister told me she sees one in her own what does that mean does it mean that I'm sick
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Please talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor to be sure of what it is. We hope this helps
How can one deal with sexual urge?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Mide! Thanks for the comment. You can either surpress the urge or explore it. Just know that there is nothing wrong with having a ssexual urge. It is perfectly normal. Please explain better what you mean by deal with sexual urge. We look forward to your response.
Hello big sister I need your help when I have sex with my boy friend. my vagina is pain me so help me
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey olafikky! Thanks for the comment. Please talk to a trusted adult and see a doctor. Also, stop having sex for now until you are very sure of the cause and if there is meant to be a treatment, finish the treatment before you continue having sex. We hope this helps
Big Sis iwant to start wearing bra but in my class they laugh at someone pls advice
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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if u have started growing breast it not bad if u wear bra or do u show them dat u wear bra in ur class no.so wear it and ignore dem dat it
Hey Mary! Kali has said it all. No one should determine if you should wear a bra or not. When it is time to wear a bra, wear it! Thanks Kali for helping a fellow Springster out. We appreciate.
pls is it gud to watch porn,wat re d effects of porn?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey M100! Watching porn is a personal decision so there is no yes or no answer to the question. However, there are some bad effects and good effects of watching porn. This includes affecting your sex life - It is addictive, You may find more sexual fulfillment in watching porn than in the act itself. Also, it will increase your expectations and when your expectations are not met, you end up being disappointed. For the good, porn gives people (especially people with low sex drive) inspiration and ideas, it also watched for curiosity (especially among teenagers), some people watch it for inspiration to masturbate. We hope this helps
It's wrong to watch porn, you'll end up not being happy with yourself and you wouldn't even want others to know
At dis age watching porn isn't gud aside frm d adv wen u bgin 2 ve 2minds ova sth leave it if ur par knw dey wnt b hapi.
big sister pls, how do we see next page comments, it's really encouraging
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Fighting it can be very annoying at times
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hello,,,,,, Am New Here Ooh, Lovly Friendx Am I Welcomed??? Please I Hav A Questions Frm Som1 ; Mine Is When Ever I Am With A Lady My Penis Wil Rise What Happenin To Me??
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Deborah807! Thanks for the comment. We have written an article on this. It's called, "We're changing, they're changing too". The story will answer your questions. We hope this helps
Most girls in my class js3 has developed breasts. mine ate still small but my mum said they are growing.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Engaging in things u like will really help like reading a book.... Or singing your favorite song I stay away from pple it helps Buh its just my personal remedy
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
my breast is small nd i feel like its not growing what type of bra should i use
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Love! Your breasts are growing, trust us. It may not just be growing as fast as you want it to but believe us when we say so. Do not compare yourself to others (especially when most of your mates already have breasts). Just remember that we all grow differently. Also, bras are meant to support the breasts. Talk to a trusted adult about the bra but be sure that you really need one. We hope this helps
I deal with my hormones by reading story books¬e books
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Hey, my roommate usually has rashes all over her vagina after her period Please, what causes this?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Vaginal rashes can be caused by some things. It could be heat and/or dampness or reaction to the pad she uses. This is because of wearing pads too much. She should change her pads regularly when she is on her period. At least every 4-5 hours. Also, she should try another brand of pad maybe she is reacting to that brand. Please tell her to also see a doctor. We hope this helps
datz very true
I deal with my hormones by always thinking about positive stuff Is that okay?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Sure.... I Like That. High Five
Hey Kylie! Yes, that's fine. Thinking positive is a good way to get over hormonal issues. So,it's perfectly fine
Am 20 and I always strongly feel like showing boys my vagina. What should I do to avoid this?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Rachel! Thanks for the comment. Your vagina is your private part and it is private for a reason. Wanting to show people your vagina to other people will make them either take you for granted or just see you as a weird person. What you should do is to try to take that thought off your mind. Not everyone should see certain parts of your body. In our society, certain things like are rebuked and seen as horrible. Also, it is not morally okay. You should also remember that you are very valuable and see your body as a precious gem that does not belong to just anyone. This way, it will be very easy to get over this thought. We hope this helps
I think something is happening to me. Am 20 and a virgin, I often felt like seeing my male friend's penis, I nearly discuss this issue with my roommate. I can't live for a day without seeing a guy and whenever I see a guy my first view on him is straight to his trouser, it's not even easy for me to stay in girl's hostel. Am actually tired of this strong desire for guy all the time. Please big sister what can I do to restrict this?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Rachel! Thanks for the comment. You are not the only one that looks for a man's trouser when you see him for the first time. Everyone has what they are attracted to that no one knows about. However, the fact that you want to see your friend's penis is a bit disturbing because that sounds like trespassing. It may gradually be turning into an obsession if you no longer feel comfortable staying in a girl's hostel. If nothing is done about this, you may fall into the wrong hands (guys that will take advantage of this weakness). You have the power to stop it by curbing this feeling. Make a conscious effort to stop by distracting yourself when you have such thoughts. Also, hang around friends that will help you get over this instead of the ones that will push you into doing more. You are special to us and we will not want anyone to take advantage of you girl. Make up your mind to get over this and we are sure that you will overcome it. We hope this helps
Thanks for your advice big sister. You're lovely
is it normal to go to ur bf house
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey tomi! This is a personal decision and is totally up to you to make. However, you should be careful and also tell someone you trust where you are. We hope this helps
Ma'am, as a 21 years old girl, hav been having sagging breast right from my developing stage.. Am ashame of it wat Wil I do
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Moondaniel! Thanks for the comment. First of all, there is nothing like sagging breast. We all grow differently and while some people's breast grows pointing, some other people's breast may not grow in that particular pattern. This is because all bodies are not the same. As you have already said, your breast started growing that way and so that is how you are naturally. There is no particular way a girl's breast should look. What you need to do is to love and appreciate your body and also, stop comparing yourself to others because we are all different. You do not have to be ashamed anymore, you are perfect the way you are. We hope this helps
hey big sis can we put on bra while sleeping at nite?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey jayniz! This is a personal decision. We hope this helps
jayniz you can if you feel comfortable when wearing bra.
Am New Here I Hope Am Welcomed
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
yes is really true,,that heart beat faster when thinking about the boy u love
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Mmmm....really
Well it's nice
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Is It Bad To Think Of Having Sex With A Guy You Really Like?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Mirabel! Thanks for the comment. Thinking about sex is not meant to be strange especially at your age. However, it is not about just thinking about it, it is what you do with the thought that really matters. We hope this helps
Big sis if guys can like a lot of girls is possible for girls to also like a lot of guys .
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Anyone is allowed to like anyone. Please note that it is not a thing for guys to "like a lot of girls" so please do not generalize. We hope this helps
What causes masturbation? Is it okay to masturbate?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Gift is not bad to masturbate but is bad when done excessively and what causes it is when you are having the urge to have sex or when you start thinking about it or when you see sex toys e.g dildo,vibrators or even condoms.
big sis is it okay for me not to like relationships (dating) not like i have had heart breaks or been molested in a relationship before i just don't lyk it although am cool with guys and have most of them as friends and just so u know i don't do girls as in am not into girls
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
pls big sis tell me how it feels inside the breast when ones breast are growing
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Please big sis every time inside my right breast is always paining me when I touch it please is there something wrong with me
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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I will advice You go to the Hospital For Check Up
Hello Michelle, We agree with Sintex's comment - please go to the hospital and speak to a doctor about the pain. Do not be too worried because a lot of growing women experience pain and tenderness when their breasts are growing. But there could be other reasons for the pain so make sure you confirm with a doctor that nothing else is wrong. We hope this helps.
pls dis is it true that when a guy fonds with a girl's breast they will fall
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Yes it is the more you stretch a robber band that it becomes wider, so it is the more they play with it that it sag
In men, what is the cause of the heartbeat that occurs to you when you see a woman that is attractive to you
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.