With puberty comes blooming and physical changes that sometimes increases the interest of boys in some girls
It is not a bad thing to be admired as it is natural to be attracted and be friends with boys.
You however have the right to turn down a boy if you are not interested especially when romantic advances are not welcome or you don’t feel the same way
Here are some polite ways to let him down:
Just say no
Don’t be mean or rude. But be firm and consistent. Politely make it clear that you are not interested and you are not going to change your mind
Explain that you understand the risks of getting involved with a boy at your age
Let him know you don’t want to take chances with your future
If you feel that he is pressuring you, tell an adult that you trust
Don’t be afraid to report a boy that is making you feel uncomfortable. Also avoid being in situations where you are alone with him.
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Nov. 27, 2022, 1:24 a.m.
see thought that if woman or girl shouldn't think the all and all--- beautiful one not yet born? 0Only girl shirt man
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
girls are not yet born
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Wat do u mean
He Is Really On My Neck To Be His Girlfriend, But I Dont Want To.And I Dont Think He's Any Of Those Boy's Who Can Take Care Of A Girl If She Mistakenly Get's Pregnant.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Marvelasting! Thanks for the comment. Since you are not interested in him, just like the story says, say NO and mean it. If he still insists, please tell a trusted adult. We hope this helps.
Well Guy's Are On Me But I Dont Think I'm Ready For That
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Marvelasting! It's good to hear that you know what you want. Keep it up girl!
This guy is all over me not asking me to date him but to change him
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Blue! Glad you are sharing this with us. Since he has made his intentions clear (saying he does not want to date you), you can be friends with him. However, we urge you to still be careful and if you do not feel safe around him, please follow your instincts and stay away from him. Don't forget to tell a trusted adult about this. We hopes this helps.
i don't really fancy guys sometimes
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
I love this page
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
I keep looking at a boy and it seems difficult to stop staring at him.Why? and what should i do.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey 1999! Thanks for sharing this with us. You stare at people for different reasons. It could be because you like the person or you dislike the person but whatever the reason may be, you will know through your body language. If you feel happy when you stare at him, there are chances that you lke him. If you do not feel happy while staring at him, there are chances that you do not like him. You can do either of 2 things; you can either walk up to him and say hi or you can distract yourself by doing many other things like studying, learning a trade, focusing on a hobby etc. We hope this helps.
i av a teacher dat i av a crush on wat shld i do??.. coz it is really affecting me in my studies nd i always feel somehow wen am around him. plz anty do u av any advice to give me??
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Muhibbat! Thanks for opening up with this comment. Crushing on someone in authority or an older person like your teacher can be dangerous because it distracts you from that particular subject and sometimes every other subject because you keep getting distracted by him anytime you are in school. The best way to get over crushes like this is to get worthy distraction. This could be a study group, a hobby, or even writing/drawing (depending on your skill strength). When you have a strong distraction, your mind will no longer be so focused on your teacher. Please, do not forget that your teacher is trying to impact knowledge to you and you should try as much as possible to learn. Also, we suggest you talk to a trusted adult that won't judge you but will help you out. We hope this helps.
HMMMMM PLS DON'T B ANGRY OOO, HOW OLD ARE U PLS ?
tnc u so much... but he has left d schl presently so i don't av any disturbance...once again tnc u i really appreciate ur advice...
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Muhibbat! You are welcome. We are more than happy to hear that you are no longer distracted. We still advice that you focus on any of the things we listed before, it will help you with your studies and don't forget to invite your friends to register on our page.
tnx alot big sister i really appreciate ur concern to teenagers lyk us ,but i av an advice to give dats if u don't mind??
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Muhibbat! You're welcome and it's our pleasure. Please feel free to give your advice.
ok i will
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
cant we create a grup on whatsapp??
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Muhibbat! Thanks for the comment. Unfortunately, we cannot have a group on Whatsapp. This platform is our community. Please feel free here. No one will judge you or talk down on you here. Thanks.
tnx
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Is it good for a girl or a boy to kiss his or her boyfriend
ok
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d
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Theres dis guy in my area dat keeps disturbing me to meet him in a hotel dat he wants to tell me something.wat should i do?
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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you shouldnt go maybe the guy got other things in his mind.you should never go to people houses or hotel rooms without trust if you trust the guy you can go.but it is still unsafe.
Please help
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
I love my guy so much but am confused if he loves me as he said becuz of the way he behave.plz help
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Future12! Have you tried talking to him about this? Communication is key in everything we do. He is the best person to tell the way he feels about you. All the best! We hope this helps.
lovely
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
what can i do to make gim quit
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
such a nice advice good
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey girl! This article was written because of you and we are glad you love it. Feel free to share it with your friends
Tanx
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Tanks for d advise
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Thank u
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Is it good for a young lady to keep her virginity until 25yrs?
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Until marriage
Hey Prettypresh! There is nothing wrong in keeping your virginity until you are 25 years old. If that is what you want, go for it! All you need is to remain focused and principled. We hope this helps.
Tanks for all dis advice but I want to say sumtin There's dis guy I love so so much I can't date him but am dating some one else...he is asking me of sex and my lesson boys they are kind of making me fall for them,there was a guy among dem dat told me he likes my hips since then to now I av been thinking of it and d way his friends do look at me it seems wen I say no my no is yes...AM JUST CONFUSE
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Marina! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Sex is not a proof that you love someone. Also, no one should compel you to do what you do not want to do or are not ready for in the name of love. The boys in your lesson are just lusting after you. They are like those boys on the corner. The best thing is to stay away from them (we are not saying you should leave your lesson for them but if it means you leaving the lesson for them, talk to a trusted adult, preferably your parents). Girl, let them stare but do not let them distract you. The next time you say no, say it like to mean it and really mean it too. The reason why your no does not sound like no is because within you, you are confused. Stand your ground, you own your body and no one should make you feel uncomfortable or less of yourself. Also, please talk to a trusted adult about how you feel. We hope this helps.
hey im a girl that is pretty young and i totally dont want any sort of relationship with anyone i just want friends only not boyfriends.but many and i mean many boys keep on coming to me.and probably some arent boys but men twice my age.and i just don.t want anything to do with them.i just want only friends only.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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JUST REPORT ANY ONE DISTURBING YOU TO UR PARENT OR ANY TRUSTED ELDERLY PERSON
Hey Diona! Thanks for the comment. We love the fact that you know what you want for yourself. Please, stay true to this, politely tell them you are not interested in anything other than friendship and if any of them keeps disturbing you for a relationship, then cut them off because they are not worth being your friend if they don't respect your decision on things like this. If they keep coming back, please tell a trusted adult about this. Once again, stay true to your principles and we are sure you will find true friends that will respect your opinion. We hope this helps.
yes
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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PLEASE WIZPRYDO CAN WE BE FRIENDS
WHEN YOU ALSO RUDE TO THE BOY HE WILL STOP DISTURBING YOU
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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That is true anonymous MAY WE BE FRIENDS PLEASE
OK
pls WIZPRYDO may i be ur fnd
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
JUSTICE can we be friends please?
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Pls am not interested
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
Pls not intrested now
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
My classmates try to sleep with me but when i say no, they tell lies about me to my friends and they all mock at me so how do i tell them the truth?
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey 165481! Thanks for opening up with this comment. First of all, you need to report your classmates to a trusted adult and stay safe at all times. Explain what really happened to your friends but what is more important is that you stay safe and away from your classmates. We hope this helps.
just report to your parent if he still continue
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
I was always disturbed by boys and when ever they tell me things like I want you to be my gf ,I always give them an answer No! Because I do not want any thing to distract me in my studies.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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so, don't u have a boyfriend?
Hi Sam, I don't have a boyfriend and I don't want to have till I finish secondary school.
What's ur surname
I don't speak to them rudely but I always smile and tell them am not interested.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Melody! That's a very good way to go about it. Tell them and do not be rude about it.
U ARE GOOD INDEED
Hi 2468,thanks a lot!
Wise g,u are indeed wise
Hi Philip, thanks a lot!
I always made it simple nd clear dat am nt interested without been rude
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Horkanmeeyorninuholuwa! That's a very good way to go about it. Tell them and do not be rude about it.
I LIKE U WAY
I do make it clear 2 dem sumtyms
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
I olwaiz tell dem am nad interested in any relationship ...
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
My question is, why is it that some girls do not accept friendship early but when u didn't give up they will later accepted u?
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Sam! Some girls like to take their time to analyse situations and not just jump into friendships. This is because they need to know the person that wants to be their friend and know the person's intentions too. You will also notice that when you start to talk to some of these girls more and they get to know you better, some of them tell you somethings they don't like about you. This is because they have realized some of your personality traits and habits. We hope this answers your questions.
Also, we will like if other girls will comment and share their own personal experience on this question. We look forward to your comments.
SO ARE NOT easiy 2 GET
its jst so hard, saying no without being rude. i mean h how do i gt to stand my ground without being rude.
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
I do evrytin abov, actually most guys r drawn closer bcos of dt, n it later seems like dey want a genuine relationship, ive always had ds p of nt wanting to hurt any1, pls i need more tips, the above tips makes them want me as a closer friend, 'truth' i dnt want dt.....I jst want to b left alone
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
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Hey Aice! Thanks for opening up with this comment. You need to check your body language with these boys. You may be saying NO but the way you act around them may be suggesting YES. Most times, boys look at the way you speak with your body language and not always your words. We hope this helps.
Some of don't easily agreed with what they were told by the girls they will continue to pursue them until the girl finally agreed
March 20, 2022, 8:04 p.m.
I don't have Hi 🙋 everyone.I am new here
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Some girls easily fall victims
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Some Girls Just Dont Have The Mind To Turn Down A Guy Proposal
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Am 15,my friends laugh at me for being a virgin at my age,telling me they lost theirs already,isnt it stupid of them to boast of a thing like that,i already quit their friendship but i need the advice to give them because they are ignorant.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Vstar! We like that you are principled and that you are not moved by peer pressure. What you need to do is to tell them why you think they should keep their virginity and what gives you confidence as a virgin. We hope this helps.
Ask yourself: what are ur friends motives for encouraging u to hav sex? Is it for ur gud or to make them feel better?
What if you have crush on that guy
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Rita0708! A crush is a feeling that is short lived (for a short time). So having a crush on a guy means it will die soon. We hope this helps.
What if u love the guy so much
Guys won't just let me be
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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It's natural
Hey Juristicaas! Most girls experience the same thing especially at this age. If you are not ready for a relationship, you need to learn to stand your ground and stay principled. Turning guys down is not a bad thing but do not be rude about it. We hope this helps.
am in ss2 but ss3 boys will never let me be...even some corpers in my skul.am really tired..
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Then Locate An Elederly Man Or Woman And Report. May Your Teacher.
Hey Nne! Most girls experience the same thing especially at this age. If you are not ready for a relationship, you need to learn to stand your ground and stay principled. Turning guys down is not a bad thing but do not be rude about it. We hope this helps.
Hw Can I Knw Someone That True Lov Me
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
YES
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If u believe and trust yourself with faith not with hope,trust me u can win
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THANKS, THAT GOOD
Some guys only Want ur body,thinking that they are interested in relationship once U open. Up they eat U nd run away. Girls be careful
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You are correct bizman
BIZMAN YOU ARE RIGHT
I agree wit u
Yeah
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That right sis
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good
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Please i need an advice i had a crush on my classmate for a long time and when i finally opened up and told him how i felt he started keeping malice with me. And to crown it all i think he also likes me but he can't open up
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Belove! He probably was not expecting it. If you are sure he likes you, try talking to him and ask him why he is keeping malice with you. We hope this helps.
i feel lonly am nt with any girls at my age 28y old,IT BECUS I DON'T HAVE SURCSE OF ICOME DAN WHAT I WILL FEED MY SELF
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Say NO politely
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
I do have guys that are pressurize me about marriage..but am still too young.. What do I do?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Doris! Please tell any guy that is pressurizing you for marriage that you are not interested (remember to be polite about it). Also, please inform a trusted adult about this just for your safety. We hope this helps.
Dis great & wonderful i like dis:*:*
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Martzđ! This article was written because of you and we are glad you love it. Feel free to share it with your friends
Young Guys Likes Playing With Me And It Is Geting Suspicious What Should I Do
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey girl! We do not really understand your question. Please make it clear so that we will be able to answer it. Thanks.
I do have a boy who keeps on disturbing me..I have told him I'm not interested in getting in a relationship now but he refuses to listen...don't know how to tell my parents even friends are of no use cause they just make mockery of me and all they could say is that I'm still a kid who knows noting about life.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Big sister what should I do
Hey Pearl! Maybe you are not being serious while telling him no. You need to say it like you mean it and if possible, cut off communication from him so that he knows you are serious. Also, you need to find a way to tell your parents. We suggest you try talking to one you are closer to and who is more approachable. Since you do not want a relationship now, do not let anyone ridicule you because it is your life. We hope this helps.
I am even dating him already buh I want to stop the relationship even though i feel d same way .wat do I do?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Danielle! Communication is key! You just need to tell him how you feel and what you want with the relationship. He will be hurt and even beg you but since this is what you want for yourself, you have to be strong. Remember to be very calm and polite. We hope this helps.
Ok tell me
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Hello, i like a girl and she also likes me, please how can I ask her out.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Express ur feelings and show her how much u like her. If u notice she's interested in u go ahead and ask her out!
Yes i not in support just when you are mature you get married and them flex your life
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Big sis please I have a guy that has been disturbing me now for about two months now he says he loves me and would like to be my boyfriend which I detest I have told him a No politely but he's begging me to change it that he loves me so much that I don't understand anymore please big sis say something
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey girl! If you detest the idea of having him as a boyfriend then all you need to do is to tell him how you feel and stick to him. Your body belongs to you and you know what you want more than anyone so stick to what you feel. Try to get him to understand that love must come from both sides for a relationship to work so he can not force you to be with him just based on his love. If he keeps insisting, we suggest you cut off communication with him for a while so he understands how serious you are. We hope this helps.
Another way , u can tell the boy who is disturbing u that have a person dat is dating u already politely
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
There's this guy that has been disturbing me on FB, he said he can't live without me & he's gon' marry. I've told him I can't date him but he's still insisting, what do I do?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Marie! First of all, you have to be careful because not everyone on social media (Facebook, Instagram etc) lives a real life. Some of them are hiding their real personalities on social media. If you must go out on a date with him, please go to an open place that has many people and be very watchful. If he asks you to go to somewhere private and/or secluded, please do not go. If possible, go with someone and tell a trusted adult where you are going to and also give his number. We hope this helps.
I Have A Friend She And Her Boyfriend They Have A Disagreement And The Boy Now Likes Me And I Am Also Starting To Like Him What Should I Do?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Fame! Are you sure you are liking him for the right reasons and not to make your friend look bad? If you really like him, you need to ask yourself 2 questions; 1. If you eventually start dating him and you both have a disagreement, will he leave you for the next available girl? 2. If your friend did this same thing to you, how will you feel? Once you are able to sincerely answer these questions, then you have the answer you need. We hope this helps.
FAME HE IS YOUR BOY FRIEND, FRIEND HOW DO YOUR THINK YOUR FRIEND WILL FEEL
what if d guy is stil pestering you because he claims he is mad about you
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Evergreen! If you do not have feelings for the guy, then you should not be moved by all the pestering. Make him understand that you are not interested in a relationship with him and then if he still insists, cut communication with him and tell a trusted adult about this. We hope this helps.
Wat if clams not to be like other boys?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Blizzy! Everyone will claim to be different but it is left for you to study his behavior to know if he is indeed different. We hope this helps.
Den watch him very to know if truly his mad at u
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
I fell in love wit a boy nd he holds same standards wit me no sex b4 marriage,bt he left our area so i was lonely nd started dating sm1 else,he later came back nd i continued wit him,becos i love him so much,bt he leta found out that i'd cheated,nd left me saying i broke his heart,now i'm afraid of telling the other guy dat i have a boyfriend so that he wont get angry. What should i do?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Petracci! Thanks for opening up with this comment. First of all, was there a lapse in communication while he was away? If yes, try and make him understand that it was as a result of you both not communicating that you decided to start dating another person. If you both were still communicating, simply apologize. Secondly, you should tell the other guy as soon as you can about your relationship before he finds out because that it will be worse if he finds out from someone else. Keeping him in the dark is like cheating on him. Make him understand that you cannot continue with the relationship anymore and apologize for keeping him in the dark for so long. We hope this helps.
pls i dont want
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
i have a boyfriend he gave money an anything i want but he ask of sex should i go on with it ,big sister help me.
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No.
Hey Mayababe! You shouldn't use sex as a reward for your boyfriend giving you money. What it means is that he is paying you for the sex and you know what that means. If you really do not want to have sex yet, make him understand this and if he chooses to still give you money, then fine. Just make sure you are not pressured into having sex with him because of the money he gives you. We hope this helps.
Sex does not have any meaning in true love. What matters most is you receiving the gift what kind of promise did you make to him. If to marry him or to just empty his pocket. If to marry him but he refereed sex let him know about sex before married.
I am a boy, I understand that some girls also do disturbs boys most especially in school,camp etc. As a boy you are dating with another girl what should the boy do?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Sky-Rocket! Thanks for this comment. Do not let any girl distract you. As a guy, distractions will come, girls will throw themselves at you but learn to say no to them and mean it. It can be difficult but a principled guy will definitely go places. We hope this helps.
I have a guy who was a friend to me,but now I fall in love with him,and even from his side, he's showing me the sign that he loves me too but up till now he didn't tell me..What should I do?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Namccie! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Assuming that he loves you through some of the signs he is showing you is not good enough because you may be mistaking these signs for love. You can talk to him and stylishly find out how he feels about you (if you are too shy to out rightly ask him). We hope this helps.
Thanks for ur advice,big sis,i'll try my best right away.
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Ok i get d message(abstinence is d best)
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
i had a boy which is friend of mine since but now he told me he love me but i was warn by my brother,and he keep disturbing me please what should i do big sister?
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey girl! Do you have feelings for him? Do not feel pressured by any guy to be in a relationship with him. You have a right to say NO and mean it. Also, we advice that you read the article - 'Now I am a big girl can I get a boyfriend?' so that you can be sure that you are indeed ready for a relationship. We hope this helps.
Saying No Is The Best
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
pls am new here. there is a guy in my area his my broda frnd he sumtim stares at me at church wen we meet we grt an pass i realy likes him natural am nt shy bt i dnt no wht to say i dnt no hw he wil feel abt it i jst nid words to say pls
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Issabae! Thanks for opening up with this question. Are you sure you don't like him because he stares at you all the time? If you really want to know if he likes you, start a conversation with him to find out. But be very careful. If he doesn't like you the way you like him and he is not a responsible person, he may use you and play with your emotions. Also, remember he is your brother's friend and so you need to be sure if your brother will be comfortable with you talking to him about such things. Try and tell your brother about the way he stares at you so that he can caution his friend. We hope this helps.
hi, am new here gist me abt wat going on
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
Hi big sis,help me out on this,i always turn down any male that try to make advances to me but in a rude and harsh manner,i dont even give them a chance to even express theirselve and i feel bad and helpless as i cant seem to control these behaviour, help me out
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Younglady1! Being rude and harsh is not good. It may even chase away good guys that just want to build genuine friendship with you. There are several ways you can say no to a boy and not be rude about it. Sometimes, you will be surprised that they do not want anything more than friendship from you. So the next time a boy approaches you, be patient and listen to what he has to say till the end and if it is a situation where you have to say NO, say it politely and not harshly but also be serious about it. We hope this helps.
I need your help. Guys disturb me in my area and I'm not ready to be involved in any relationship. I always say No, not in an harsh manner, but saying it gently even makes them not to leave. They are having the impression that I love them.I really don't know what to do!
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Bianca! Maybe you are not being serious while telling them no. You need to say it like you mean it and if possible, cut off communication from them so that they know you are serious. Being polite does not mean that you should not be serious. Maybe your body language is saying something different from what your words are saying. Learn to make them know that you are serious about your NO. We hope this helps.
A guy toast me I turned him down but I love him I don't know how to show my feelings to him cause am shy
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey Ronke! Why did you turn him down in the first place? Try being friends with him to know if you truly love him like you claim. We hope this helps.
I Will Slap Him
March 20, 2022, 8:03 p.m.
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Hey David! Violence is never the answer/option. There are so many ways to make your point known to someone verbally instead of choosing violence. So please learn to take things over rather than fight to make your point known. We hope this helps.
Yes, nah so
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Yesoo
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YES BUT I DON'T KNOW HOW TO TELL MY PARENTS
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Hey Beans! Tell them whenever they are in a good mood or you can tell a trusted adult that is close to them to help you tell them. It is important to tell them things like this for safety sake. We hope this helps.
Well when ever I goes out to do some shopping guys always wants to talk to me and am really shay
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When a guy want to rape you and both your hand and leg is tied what is the best thing to do
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Hey Omowumi2! Thanks for asking this question. Although no one wishes to be in such situation, the best thing is not to stay still, don't give up without a fight. Shout for help and don't stay still. If you know anyone that has been raped, please tell them there is an organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.
I love dis boy with all my heart.He ask me for friendship and I accepted we love our selves but I'm not happy with the way he used to act.they is this one tin I used to ask him of but he refused to give me the what I need from him.i need sex but he didn't like to have sex with me.i don't know what to do.
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Hey Faitoh! He is not ready to have sex with you and you have to respect his decision if you truly love him. Since he doesn't want sex yet, you have to respect his decision. Do not pressure him because he owns his body. We hope this helps.
Hello faitoh can we be friends ?...if yes u can add me up on Facebook with dis name Nnaemeka sky
Add me on facebook pls my username is safat ammani
Isn't it too early?
THERE IS DIS BOY N MY SKOOL WEN HE SEES ME HE WINKS AT ME I GET CURIOUS AND I DONT NO WOT 2 DO
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Hey Dola! There are 2 things you can do. You can either ignore him completely (this will probably make him come to you) or you politely ask him why he keeps winking at you. The choice is yours but we advise that you remain extra careful. We hope this helps.
yes
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Hmmm....big sister,I am crushing on my big male cousin he likes me too,smtimes we do chat secretly, but I don't think I like DAT.. Pls wat can I do?
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Tel Him To Stop Seeing U In Private
Hey Shabyv! Stop whatever connection or relationship you have with him for your own safety. In this part of the world (sometimes), such relationship is seen as a taboo. So we suggest that you politely tell him to stop whatever it is that he is doing and you also stop. We hope this helps.
when i feel pressure by male,i scared them away with Grammar or Better still i stop moving in where they might be!
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Hmmmmm interesting
There is dis guy that stares at me in d church and i don't feel comfortable about it,pls what can i do to stop this?
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Hey Kate! Someone needs to break the silence. Walk up to him and start a conversation (be very friendly). Tell him you noticed he stares a lot at you and you are sure he wants to be friends with you but he's just shy. We are sure you can take it up from there. The more you both wait, the more the starring game continues. We hope this helps.
there is this guy that pressured me to say the word i love you too but i said no and he keeps on distrubing me by calling me and i blacklisted his number what i did wat it right
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Hey Star948girl! As long as you are satisfied with what you did and you have peace of mind, then you did the right thing. No one should ever pressure you into saying things or doing things you do not want to say or do. Glad you didn't give into the pressure. We hope this helps.
there s dis boy who always disturb me he said he wanted me 2 date him ad i told him am nt interested he keep on disturbing me ,,i told him dat am dating someone else.
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there is guy that makes me feel uncomfort his name is frank what will i do big sis
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Hey Beans! How does he make you feel uncomfortable? You can walk up to him and politely tell him or you can just choose to ignore it. We hope this helps.
what if you don't have any one to talk to?
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Hey SPIFELA! If you do not have anyone to talk to, big sister is here for you. We hope this helps.
There is a gal dat make me feel uncomfortable ??
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Hey Phod! How does she make you feel uncomfortable? Please explain. Thanks
Hi big sis..there is this guy i have been dating for 2yrs now,i love him so much and he love me too but the issue is that he wants me to have sex with him.I'm not ready for that now and it has been causing problems between us.I dnt know what to do big sis,i seriously need your advice.
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Hey Shuga! Thanks for the comment. Sex is not a proof that you love someone. Also, no one should compel you to do what you do not want to do or are not ready for in the name of love. Love is not forceful. We hope this helps.
But What can be done in the case where there is no trusted adult?
March 20, 2022, 8:02 p.m.
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Hey Marfer! You are surrounded by adults all you need to do is to trust one or more. If you can't talk to your parents/guardians about certain things, you can also talk to an aunt, grandparent, cousins, teacher, religious leader, neighbours or even your siblings. Just be sure that you are talking to someone you trust and also someone that won't judge you. We hope this helps.
I have a boyfriend, we have been dating for like 7months but am not jxt feeling it. He is not open to me dunno what to do
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Hey Chinny! If you are not feeling it, why are you still in it? Politely tell him that you are not interested again. You do not have to be ina relationship if you do not enjoy it. We hope this helps.
My Best Friend Just Asked Me Out.To Me He's Just My Friend But I dont Want 2 Hurt Him By Saying No.Am Confused!
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Hey Daisy! You need to politely let him know that you value his friendship so much and that you don’t want to ruin it by going into a relationship with him. Make him understand that you like him as a friend and nothing more. This may hurt him but sometimes, it's better to say these things than not to. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps.
Big sis, I had a similar problem. I actually loved him but we were too close for relationships. Now d friendship is officially over. He's still trying to get to me but I don't want him to. Is there any way to stop him without breaking his heart
pls can u talk about feminism
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Hey Winny! Feminism is an ideology. This ideology is unique to individual. There are different types of feminists and they all share different beliefs. The truth is that feminism is a very broad topic and can be complicated sometimes. It is just best to have your own understanding of what you want as a woman and stick to it. We hope this helps.
It is hard for me to turn down the boy i have a clush on.He is handsome,cute,hot and lovely,he say i should meet him alone.what should i do,i dont want to lose him.
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Hey Pinkybabe! It is not advisable to meet a boy alone. What if he is aware that you have a crush on him and he is only trying to take advantage of you? If he respects you, he will not choose to see you in a lonely place. Also remember that a crush is a feeling of infatuation that usually dies after a while. So we advise that you are sure of what you want from him and vice versa before you choose to see him in private. Be careful and stay safe. We hope this helps.
BIGSIS THERE IS A BOY IN MY CLAS HE KEEP TELL ME HE LIKE ME BUT IDONT LIKE HE BUT HE KEEP PRESSING ME WHAT SHOULD I DO PLEASE HELP ME
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Hey NNE! Thanks for the comment. Politely tell him you are not interested in being in a relationship with him. If he keeps disturbing you for a relationship, then stop communicating with him because he doesn't respect your decision on things like this. If he keeps coming back, please tell a trusted adult about this. Once again, stay true to your principles and we are sure you will find someone that will respect your opinion. We hope this helps.
there is dis boi dat i hv a crush on nd he is making advances 2 me buh ...
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Big sister i want to have sex with my girl friend but she dont want to she can only allow me to touch her breast wat can i do
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Hey Wizard! You cannot do anything about this. If she does not want to have sex about you then do nothing about this. Do not force because that will be a criminal offence. If you love her, you will respect her decision. We hope this helps.
Big sister i am not ok with touching her breast only
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Hey Wizard! Forcing a girl to have sex with with you is also known as rape. Rape is punsihable under the Nigerian law. So if your girlfriend tells you she is not ready for sex, accept it that way. Once again, do not force a woman to have sex with you for your own safety and also the safety of the girl. We hope this helps.
There is a boy in my class at skul,he told me 2 be his girlfrnd nd i dont lke him,pls wat should i do
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report him to any teacher and he'd kw wat'sup
Hey Babechi! Politely tell him you are not interested in a relationship with him. If you don't like someone, nothing should make you settle for that person. If he doesn't listen to you, then you should tell a trusted adult about it. Remember to stay safe. We hope this helps.
tell himyou are not yet ready for relationship right now politely
Tell him no but don't be rude. Say it politely
ok.so theres dis guy who i met thru a friend. Hes expressd his feelings but i dont feel d same way and ive adamantly told him NO. He keeps on slamming my fb page with messages expressinf his love. Presently i dont want any adult to know. I want to treat it without any adult involved. please i need some help. I want him to get the point that i dont like him and ive tried all the 3 steps of sayin NO. help me please.
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Hey Blehsin! This happens to so many girls. You should start by cutting off every form of communication with him (even if it means you blocking him on facebook or not responding to his calls). Sometimes, talking to some boys does not stop them. Also, we still advise that you involve a trusted adult that won't judge you. This is just for your safety and it is always advisable for one to involve a trusted adult in things like this. We hope this helps.
Is it right for a girl from 12-15 to start dating or going into relationship with a guy or boy
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Is it right 12 to 15 to b datin at d age.it needs ans
Type your comment here..i dnt get u
Hey Blizzy! Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.
There is dis guy who has been disturbin me.4 3mnth we ave nt been talkin 2 1 anoda.i broke all contact wit him ,his friend is tryin 2 get involve ,he himself texted me just 2 tell me he has nt been d same after i broke contacts wit me.i need help
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is the 2 guys trying to ask u out at same time?
Hey Sussannah! Thanks for opening up with this but we need to know what exactly you need help for. If you have been rejecting him for 3 months now, you need to think about why you have actually been rejecting him in the first place before you think of going back to him. If this didn't answer your question, please resend your question in easier terms so that we can understand you better. We hope this helps.
my boyfriend gives me everything apart from sex but i want sex
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Humn y so soon Are u both Legally married?
Hey Sandy! If he is not ready to have sex with you, then you cannot force him. Sex is very volunatry and it is not meant to be forced or imposed on anyone. Also, if you must have sex, please use a condom to avoid STIs, STDs, HIV and unwanted pregnancy. We hope this helps.
Sandy don't yhuu think it's too early for sex?
Ur boyfriend luvs u so respect his wishes
pls my date ask me fr sex but i refus diz haz brught a big problm bitwin us dat he dnt evin pick my cal or chat wit me onlin bcz i told him to go out n sex a gil n i refus pls don knw wat to do
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Hey Lambert11! You shouldn't do anything about this. No boyfriend should force you to do what you don't want to do. Love is not forceful. If you choose not to have sex, he should respect that decision and if he stopped picking your call because you refused him sex, then do nothing about it. We hope this helps.
If he doesn't chat with u,answer ur class and de rest as you've said, den just ignore him and pretend as if it did not disturb u,if he truly loves u,he'll cum bak
Hey big sis and hi girls! I've turned down so many boys because of my mom's advice up to 11 boys and my mom said that I can't have a crush on till I'm done with school (BTW I'm 12 years and I'm in ss1).
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u can have a crush from the moment u can see. A crush is someone u are crazy about and think you love but the feelings die fast. Your mum must have meant a boyfriend and she means well for you
Non
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cool nd nyc
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But what if you like the guy?
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Hey Kimberly! Thanks for this question. If you like the guy then there is no need for you to turn down his advances. We hope this helps.
and be sure he truely loves you
what if the guy is a feared guy in your community
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Hey Ashie! Thanks a lot for this question. If that is the case, please inform a trusted adult about this and try and stay safe. Also, you shouldn't be rude in anyway to him. Just politely tell him you are not interested. We hope this helps.
at times am always shy to even answer a guy call on the road but they wont understand so they will always say ur forming even if u go and say the NO they will still say u are forming
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u can nicely dismiss a guy without problems evrytime he's pestering, some guys dnt jst listen to serious no buh playful ones.
Hi guys i am new here
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hi katie.,I am new here too.
I'm new here too
I am new here too
When can one start dating?
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Hey Goody! There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.
Please help me,my crush told me to prove to him if i really luv him,he say he want a kiss but am scare and i dont want to lose him.what should i do
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Hey Pinkybabe! First of all, kissing someone is not a proof of love. Secondly, A crush is a feeling that is short lived (for a short time). So having a crush on a guy probably means it will die soon. Now back to the question… No one should force you to show your love through romantic and sexual gestures. Love is not forceful. If he really loves you like he claims to, he should respect your decision. Please don't fall for that trap girl. We hope this helps.
Pinkybabe, love manifests. It can't be proved besides remember he's your crush. Those feelings will die soon.If he doesn't believe you love him, try to forget him because if he loves you like you love him, he wouldn't be needing a proof.
allow him remeba u alway get money from dere
Big sis.....i have been disvirgined right frm childhood thru childish play buh i use to av a boyfrend when i was 14 whom i started my sexual active life with,nw am 16.i nd d guy broke up recently but i still love im,thou av started dating sum1 else whom have start to develop feelings for too but this new guy likes sex alot and have started giving it to him but i want to stop doing so cus am afraid of getting pregnant so as not to disappoint my family..big sis please help me
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Hey Oluwatimileyin! The safest way to avoid pregnancy is to abstain from sex. So, talk to your boyfriend about this. But before you talk to him, you have to make up your mind and be sure that you are ready to abstain. Also, talk to him politely (do not quarrel) but be very sure even with your words. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps.
Some boyz won't take no for an answer and u hav tried to be polite. What do u do?
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Hey Goody! If he does not listen, then you cut all forms of communication. This does not mean you should be rude but no more calls, chats or conversations. Sometimes, we have to go the extra mile to be taken seriously. We hope this helps.
my bf penetrate hard into my pussy,it hurts, what can I do
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Hey Kinky! Sex becomes unpleasurable when the person is not doing it right, when you are not well lubricated or when your mind is not active in it. If you must have sex, please and please, we advise that you use a condom to avoid pregnancy, HIV, STDs or STIs. We hope this helps.
Hey kinky and Big Sis. I'm not trying to be offensive but I'm still twelve yrs old and I guess I'm way too read that.
Barrack stop give out bad advice
Hey Itx_queenannie! Apologies if you feel offended by the question and response but Kinky needed to ask a question and we needed to answer her. Thanks for understanding
hello am new here nd I av issues
big sis I have a uncle that pays my school fees and gives me money after loosing my dad but he always try to kiss my and always say let me feel your body.have wanted to tell my mum but I can't cos she will be so mad at him.I don't know what to do and this can affect my education
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Hey Shirley1! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Please and please, tell your mum about this. Your safety is the most important thing right now. Your mum needs to know what is happening. She will definitely know how to handle it better. Also, try not to be alone around him. Yes, we know you are concerned about your education but keeping this to yourself is not a good idea. Please, tell your mum as soon as possible. We hope this helps.
Shirley1,I'd suggest you tell your Mom. No matter what happens,believe in your integrity and stand for it
Shirley I suggest you tell your mom and don't mind barrack, its better to avoid an early age pregnancy.
I totally agree with the others, pls tell ur mom
Some guys are persistent and won't mind fighting till their last blood
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Type your comment here Hey gals sex is not a key to love plssssss so don't let guys to deceived u plssssssss
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Thanx
Some guys re annoying
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Thanks Big sis ! I've Learnt Not To Be Rude 2 Boys But I'll Never Underestimate The Word "NO"
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Hey PETTY! Yes girl! There is a difference between being rude and also saying 'NO' when you have to say it. So many girls miss this but we are glad you know this. Thanks a lot for sharing this.
i hav a boy in my area who swear dat no 1 can date me after knowing i have my own bf bt i later learnt he is abusing me in my back and care for me wen he see me so advice me wat can i do
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Hey Indomie! We do not really understand this question. Kindly explain better so that we can answer you. Thanks
yes i av
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i did it oo but he insisted nd i was tempered i mistakenly slap him
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Hey Shaloy! Violence is never an option or solution. You should apologise to him for the slap but still make him understand that are not interested in his advances. You can follow the steps in the article but please, never choose violence. We hope this helps.
there is dis gal i truely love,bt i find mysf flirting and i dnt realy like it each time am unfaithful to our relationship. Wats ur advice
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Hey Teestar! What exactly is attracting you to the other girls you flirt with? You need to figure it out first. If you really do not like flirting, you need to make a conscious effort to stop it. Stopping it is a personal decision that needs a lot of discipline and hardwork. So whenever you think of flirting, take 2 steps away from the person you are about to flirt with and smile. We hope this helps.
Tank u big sis for the advice
I lov u
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Who do u luv or u dnt knw wat 2 ryt
Hello bigsis i dnt av a boifrnd but wen my talking abt theirs dey make jest of me wat can i do
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Hey Blessing! Do not allow your friends to make a jest of you for not having a boyfriend. If you are not ready for one, do not allow anyone to pressure you into doing what you don't want. We hope this helps.
Hi I'm new here am i welcome?
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Of course u r deary
yes.me too.
yes.and y is boy nt in dis group.
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Hey Lekzy! We focus on girls here because that is what Springster is about but boys are welcome. The articles may be centered around girls but we reply to every comment that needs attention whether it is for a boy or for a girl.
Big sis am kind of new here, hw do I make new friends????
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big sis am in love with my big cousin brother,and he loves me too,we have kissed and when ever I see him with another girl my heart will start beating and ghost pimples will appear all over my body,I kinda love him so much I don't even know what to do?please help me
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Hey Sally! Stop whatever connection or relationship you have with him for your own safety. In this part of the world (sometimes), such relationship is seen as a taboo. So we suggest that you politely tell him to stop whatever it is that he is doing and you also stop. We hope this helps.
it's not love it's mere attraction I can't believe he also led u on, cut such ties with him
When guys are disturbing me,i told them my aim is beyond that,is that idea good Big sis
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Hey Phunmex! Sure, it is. While you do it, please remember to be polite but still serious. You can make your point without being rude or aggressive. We hope this helps.
Big sis,my bf striped me naked and penetrated into me and it seemed as if I didn't know what I was doing then .And now anytime I see him now, I feel ashamed of myself.How do I face him?
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1 remove dat bf,two he doesn't love bt ur worst enemy,3 u threw urself at him 4 free,
Hey Precious! Thank you for your question - it's an issue that affects lots of young people and it's important you get good information and advice from people you can trust. There is an organisation called 'Education as a Vaccine' who run a Helpline that you can call and find out everything you need to know about health issues, including menstruation and pregnancy. The number is 08 02 71 92 781 and it's free if you call from Airtel and open Monday to Friday from 9 till 5. It's completely confidential so you don't need to give your name or any details - you can just ask questions and get the support you need. Good luck with everything.
Where did this happened? I believe you were around close doors. Don't stay with an opposite sex in close doors. You encouraged him. Anyway, you had and experience, don't let it repeat again. Move on dear
Many guys have asked me out but i keep saying no because of my first experience with my first boyfriend..but there is just one person i have feelings for he also have feelings for me,am just scared to give anybody another chance
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Hey Jay_Bee! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Do not allow your past experience affect you. Remember, not all guys are the same. Some are actually genuine and the only way to know the genuine ones is to give one a chance. However, you have to be very careful with whom you let into your life. We hope this helps.
Hi i'm new, am i welcom
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I have a girl in my street that i like,and my feelings tellsme she likes me due to the way she always do to me,i dont know mybe i should date her
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Hey Bobo! You need to be sure that your feelings are telling you the truth. Better still, you need to get to know her better before you can start thinking of dating her. Dating someone that you like from a distance is not a good idea. If you must date someone, both parties needs to be on the same page (feelings and commitment). We hope this helps.
There are some boys that don't take no for an answer.
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Hey am new hope am welome
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hello guys,am appi 2 here. rilli wish 2 enjoy dis site
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I NEED SOME HELP I KINDA THINK IM A LEBIEN/gay and i dont know what to do i need some advive
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Hey Mary! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Why do you think you are a lesbian/gay? Please let us know because we are sure that so many teenagers get confused about their sexuality a lot of times and it is perfectly okay. We look forward to your response.
hmmm big sis my own case is very serious oo,I don't have a boyfriend neither do I want to have because the urge isn't there anyway. But there's this particular guy that has been disturbing since my jss1 till now am done wit my sec school and by the grace of God I will gain admission this year.He said if I didn't accept him as my boyfriend he will commit suicide, he even said that he won't b alive to see me date another guy, pls what should I do,I'm kinda confuse and the pressure is too much on me
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Hey Zenaica! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Do not allow this young man to blackmail you into a relationship. You should not go into a relationship out of pity. Please, for your safety, talk to a trusted adult about this and also try to stay safe at all times. Also, you may want to reduce or totally cut communication with him. However, do not be rude about it. Always be polite. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps.
I had this boyfriend that i once had a crush on And later we started dating He doesn't call me, he keeps saying he doesn't love to call And i started getting used to his way and now i don't think i love him anymore.. And now he is showing me that he loves me And i don't have that feeling again I don't know how to tell him Big sister please tell me
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OK sis just tell him ok be free
Hey Allison1! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We advise that you tell him you no longer have feelings for him. It's better for you to tell him than to deceive him. The most important thing is that you should not be rude while saying this to him. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps.
If they love each other no problem
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Hi big sis, pls help me out. My brother in law always hugs me from behind and manages to get his hands on my breasts....he will later tell me he just sees me as his sister in law and nothing else,but he does all this behind my sister's back..... I reported this to my sister(his wife) once, she didn't believe me but said he was just playing with me.He does this always when my sister isn't around and i escape from him by shouting. I can't take it anymore.....what do i do to stop him permanently....please i need your help....
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Hey Charlotte_1! Thanks for opening up through this comment. You need to tell someone about this. We suggest you tell your sister again and also tell her how serious you are. You also need to tell another trusted adult about this before it escalates. Your safety is very important. Please treat this as urgent. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps.
Why now? no boys
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boys are free to join if they wish
Zenaica! what's up?
Big sis, you are really doing well by bringing this girls together, i'm impressed, GOD bless you
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Hey John! Thanks a lot for the kind words. We really appreciate.
big sis pls tell me some tips about girl if they love and how they speak and how they look at you pls
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Hey Endearing! Thanks for opening up through this comment. There is no generic way in which a girl should act when she loves you. Everyone is different and shows their emotions differently. Girl A will never act the same way Girl B acts when she loves you. You need to study the girl and talk more. Communication is very key in relationships. We hope this helps.
i think im a lesbien cos im not actracted to the opposite gender and some times i get personal feeling for my gender.
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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can't you change your self
i love a guy & he loves me & wnts us 2 be 2geda bt doesnt wnt 2 breakup wit his grlfrnd. wat shld i do? pls help BigSis
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Do nothing about it. He is indirectly telling you to be his second girlfriend. However, if you are comfortable with the arrangement, then feel free to be the second girl. If you are not, please let him go. Remember you will be the second option and not his main priority. Like we said earlier, it is your choice don't forget consider the heartache that comes with it too. We hope this helps.
Dear... If he loves you.... he wont be with the other girl. As a girl... dont allow yourself to be taken as a second priority... but if you feel he loves you even as he is with the other girl, you can go ahead as experience is the best teacher......
i'v told him im no longr interested. im letting him go. it hurts but not as much as i thought. we r now just friends.
Tnks Bsis. i told him im no longr interested. im letting him go. it hurts bt nt as much as i tot. we r now just friends.
big sis Fast replies asps so a boy can have two or more gf with thier knowlege.is.it right or wrong
there was this man who usually disturb me,i av said NO so many times but he will nt give up,then he said if i dont agree ye will kidnap me,but i av reported him to my parents is that all i will do
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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if u kw he's really serious abt it, go report 2 d women affairs departmnt of d police & also 2 his relatives or friends.
Hey Springster! Like your fellow Springster said, you should also report to the police and you really really need to stay safe at all time. Avoid walking alone, cut all forms of communication with him, make sure someone you know and trust is aware of your movements. Your safety is very important to us. Please be safe and we hope this helps.
big sis,dere is a guy dat has been disturbing me 4 sum time nw i told him i hav a bf bt he jst won't stop wat shld i do?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Leo_Amber! Thanks for the comment. We love the fact that you know what you want for yourself. Please, stay true to this, politely tell him you are not interested in anything other than friendship and if he keeps disturbing you for a relationship, then cut him off because he is not worth being your friend if he don't respect your decision on things like this. If he keep coming back, please tell a trusted adult about this. We hope this helps.
a guys is disturbing me nd i told him i have a bf thou i like him buh as a friend,yet he's stil disturbing me what do i do?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. He is not taking you seriously because there is something missing in the communication you are giving him. This could be in your tone, body language or the way you are communicating to him. All these can make him believe that you are not serious. You need to tell him like you mean it but don't forget to be polite while you are at it. We hope this helps.
I have a bf buh im seriously inlove with someone else,what do i do?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Well it once happened to me but with time i realized that it wasnt Love rather it was just infatuation.. So am advicing you should find what attracted u to another boy and try bringing it into your relationship and see if it works out. Thanks
Hey Springster! Just like Lizanda said, it just may be infatuation. If you are very sure that you no longer love your boyfriend, then there is no need to keep him in the dark. Politely tell him that you are no longer interested in the relationship. We have given tips on how to politely turn down advances in this article. Read it and follow the steps, they will be very helpful. We hope this helps.
there is this boy while I was in jss1 that usually pester me sometimes he tells me to just give him a kiss on his lip in front of the whole to show I love and care for him but I was not moved because of his attitude to other girls there was once he said I should marry him now in jss2 boys begin to pester me the same way now i am in jss3 and there is one particular boy that always wants to touch me anytime he his close my friend and I are in the same situation we had turned down advances politely or rudely pls what should we do?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Jasmine! Please report these boys to a trusted adult immediately. You are no longer safe around them and no one knows their next move. Please this is for your own safety. We hope this helps
there is a boy that usually pester me and my friend we had turned him down on different occasions but to no avail big sis what should we do
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
But when d pussy gets wet and wetting... what should I do?
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Doc! We do not understand your question. We will appreciate if you explain better. Thanks.
boys can be so annoying sometimes
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Solution! Yes, they can be so also girls. The truth is everyone is annoying at some point but generalizing that just a particular group of people are annoying is not fair on them. We assume that you have been annoyed by a couple of boys but we advise that you don't generalize this so that it doesn't affect your view. We hope this helps
My bestie is a male,I tink he likes me(as a friend) and I do too....is it okay for us to become gf n bf
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey MhizIra! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision and we cannot tell you what to do. We hope this helps
I've got alot of boys as frnd nd 1 is disturbing me through fb
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Eca! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you have to be careful because not everyone on social media (Facebook, Instagram etc) lives a real life. Some of them are hiding their real personalities on social media. If you must go out on a date with him, please go to an open place that has many people and be very watchful. If he asks you to go to somewhere private and/or secluded, please do not go. If possible, go with someone and tell a trusted adult where you are going to and also give his number. We hope this helps.
HELLO
There is this guy that always stare at me to the extended that people are telling me we are dating so there came a time he ask to see me but did not answer hope i did the right thing
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Seyifunmi! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We cannot tell you if what you did was right or wrong because we do not know your intentions/reasons. Why did you reject his proposal in the first place? There must be a reason why you did what you did and you need to go back to that reason. This is very important. We hope this helps.
hi,there are boys dat are disturbing me though i said no to dem bt dey are still pressurising me and i dont know wat else to do pls i need ur advice and support
March 20, 2022, 8:01 p.m.
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Hey Babyyo1! Thanks for the comment. You may need to intensify the way you reject them. They are definitely not taking you seriously when you tell them NO. Say it like you mean it. If they keep disturbing you, then you should report to a trusted adult and then cut off every form of communication with them. We hope this helps.
if a boy is asking u out is it a right tin to ignore or turn d person dwn when nt interested
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Surpy! Yes, you can turn him down but please remember to be polite about it. Do not turn him down in a rude way. We hope this helps
Just be turning them down okay!....but when none comes,...... you'll start getting worried!!!
Stop K299, your being rude For no reason💕💕💕💕👎👎👎
A friend of mine told me his feeling I told him I don't to then he travel and I travel for my holiday he came back and ask after me but when I was told I did take it serious then I left there I was latter told that his grandfather had die and I haven't called him and I'm feeling guilty what should I do pls help I don't want him to think I'm giving him a chance
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey 1999! We do not know for sure what you want but what we advice from what we understand from this comment is that you should call your friend and sympathize with him over the death of his grandfather. There is absolutely nothing wrong in that. We hope this helps
OK thanks I'll do just so
BIG SIS I HAVE A CRUSH ON THREE GUYS IS NUT DAT DAY DONT LIKE ME BUT DAY HALF NOT COME UP 2 ME
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Matured guys take lots of time to study their catch,just don't act cheap and impossive
Dat Rite But U Nn Dis World Is Ful Of Ilitrate Boy Dere Dnt Undastand Even If U Explain 2 Dem So Hw Do We Go About Dem?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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it is not ur fault dat de boys around ur area are illitrates......it's just that you havn't met one yet......their very cool! (am a boy, i don't like what u wrote bless)
Don't get mad at anyone were all here to learn, so keep your cool K299, I don't disregard you just cause your a boy so..... 😜😜🙍🙍🙍🙅🙅🙅 Xoxo Mira 💛💜💚
big sis all my friends are girl i dont like boys i dont know y maybe because is girls only my mum said i should try to have a male friend pls how do i do this
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Toyoursee! There is nothing wrong with being friends with boys. Also, it is totally optional for you too. If you prefer female friends to male friends, then follow your preference. The only thing you should do is not to have any form of hatred or disregard for boys because they are also humans like you. Having a male friend is just like having a female friend so follow the same process and do not forget to be yourself. We hope this helps
dere is a guy am dating he ask me to vow dat i wont do so we also take oath but now i dnt know wat to do pls help me with good advice big sis
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Marlin! Thanks for the comment. Taking an oath is not a proof that you love someone. First of all, it is extremely dangerous especially to your health (if it is a blood oath). You could get infected with HIV/AIDS if the person is already infected. Also when you eventually get tired of the relationship, it is also very hard to move away because of the oath. If you have not taken the oath, please do not go ahead with it. An oath is not a proof of love. We hope this helps
U are right big sis
Big sis... There is a guy dat asked me out i turned him down over and over again.. I don't have single feelings for him. He came again i accepted him just for him to stop disturbing me.... Am just guilty of myself.... Cos i don't still have feelings for him. What should i do
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Sapphire_eme! Thanks for the comment. First of all, it is never advisable to date someone out of pity. It will end of hurting you and the person. If he keeps disturbing you, cut off all forms of communication so that he knows how serious you are. To end this feeling of guilt, it is just best to explain everything to him and end the relationship. The earlier the better. Once again, do not date someone out of pity. We hope this helps
Hey big sis I love a girl this girl always smiles at me when ever she sees me and I smile back at her is that a sign that she loves me? And if so I don't know what to do?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Demolisher147@! We cannot say if she likes you back because a smile is a lot. Why don't you talk to her and get to know more about her to be sure that you truly love her. We hope this helps
Hey big sis a girl asked me out in my class so i ignored her then anytime she sees me,she always blush and pass away
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Never Nind
Hello I'm new here ; how can I say no when boys are still disturbing me
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Don't stop saying NO if that's what you want. Even if they continue disturbing you, as long as you are not ready to be in a relationship with them, you should keep saying NO to them. If they keep on insisting, politely cut off every form of communication with them and then report to a trusted adult around you. We hope this helps
This is just reminding me of what a girl did to me...so u people are de people advising them..okay
my friend in class she just loves staying with boys to distract her self in test or exam she basically does not know anybody
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Sonia! Maybe she feels more comfortable staying around boys than girls. It happens and this is her choice/preference. You can also suggest being friends with her but do not impose yourself on her. We hope this helps
I like making friends guys then ladies. But they know who am dating and i know who they're dating too. We don't cross our limit while play. I hope its normal or should i stop?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Rocxy! There's absolutely nothing wrong with what you are doing. It's a good thing that you created limits and that is how it should be. Boys and girls can be just friends. We hope this helps
there is absolutely nothing wrong with that
No not now not ever
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Oh tanx bigsis niw i knw wat to do
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
thanks for the tip
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Thanks big sis!
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thank you big sister
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Big sister i hv a guy i'm dating presently and he ir kind of putting pressure on me 2 hv sex with him nd meanwhile i told him b4 we started dating dat no sex nd he agreed but as tym goes on he started asking me 4 sex nd he even said it's normal 2 hv sex when dating nd i am not ready 4 dat now even if it means i should break up with him but i don't know hw 2 go abt it
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Felicia! Thanks for the comment. No one should pressure you to have sex with them. If he loves you like he claims, he will respect your decision to wait. It is not compulsory to have sex when you are dating. Sex is a personal decision. If you are not ready to have sex, you should not be rushed. Let him know that you are not interested in the relationship anymore since he is putting so much emphasis on sex. Relationships are not primarily about sex, there is more to a relationship than sex. We hope this helps
But Big Sis, l am afraid to tell my parents
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Jessica! Thanks for the comment. You should not be afraid to tell your parents. They will not hurt you for telling them about a guy that you are trying to turn down politely. You can also tell any other trusted adult around you. We hope this helps
There iS this guy dat ask me out and i told him that am not interested but he still disturb upon the fact dat i have explained everything to him .so help a sister
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey HONEY! Thanks for the comment. If you have told him off and he keeps disturbing you, you need to talk to a trusted adult about this and also cut him off. Stop every form of communication with him so that he gets the message. Sometimes, when you keep communicating with people like these, they tend to misinterpret your words and feel like you still want them. This will make him know that you are serious. Please note that you do not have to be rude to him. We hope this helps
There's this guy disturbing me on facebook...i know him though...we were classmates in high school..i've told him many times that i'm not interested but he keeps disturbing me...what do i do Big sis?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. If you are sure that you have done all you can to make him know that you are not interested then the next thing for you to do is to tell a trusted adult about him and also cut off all forms of communication with him so that he knows how serious you are. In this, please note that it is best for you not to be rude, always remember that you are meant to be polite. We hope this helps
Thanks a lot Big Sis
They is dis guy disturbing me ....asking me out nd i turned down de offer nd he is angry ....but is juz dat all i wanted was 4 us to be juz normal frnds Plzz advice me on wat 2 do
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Do nothing about it. If he does not want to be friends with you then let it go. You are the only person that should give the conditions for your friendship and not him. If he wants a relationship, tell him that you cannot give it to him and if he does not want to accept what you have to offer, then let him go. There's no need for you to overthink this thing okay? We hope this helps
There was a guy disturbing me on facebook, though we met once in a place, so since that time he has been disturbing me nd even tell me to come and meet him in a place which i did not go but still, he is still begging me, what should i do?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. DO NOT go to his house. The fact that a guy is disturbing you does not mean that you must date him. The decision is up to you to make but you need to know how to handle pressure and know that it is not everyone that pressures you that you should say yes to. How well do you even know this guy? Do you know what he likes, how he reacts when he is angry, his weak points and his strong points? Do you even know what you want from a partner or what you want from a relationship? You need to know these things and work on them. We hope this helps
Am just 15 can i date???
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. There is no particular age for you to start dating. You need to be mature enough to handle relationships and know what it is that you want from a relationship. We hope this helps
i am just 14 and i'm having a crush on two boys at a time one of them is my class mate wwe were good friends he always told me i 'm his best friend and he was my best friend too suddenly i start having a crush on him he never told me he had a crush he told my friend that he had crush on me the other boy i met hihim in my friend's church he told me he liked me and he want me to be his girl friend i went home with out giving him an answer but right now i have a crush on him and i dont know what to do
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey disa! Thanks for the comment. Do nothing about it. Crush is not love and you should not start to date a guy because you have a crush on him. Crushes do not last for long so there is no need for you to start thinking about dating a guy because you are crushing on him. You should get to know each other better and become friends with them first and not think of dating any of them for now. We hope this helps
BIG SIS AM IN A RELATIONSHIP WIT D SAME PERSIN MY PARENT TOLD ME 2 STAY AWAY FROM WITOUT DEA KNOWLEDGE N HOW CAN I NOT GET DISTRACTED FROM MY STUDIES PLEASE HELP ME
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Ritkama! Thanks for the comment. You are disobeying your parents and that is not in anyway the right thing to do. We do not encourage this in anyway and so you have to talk to a trusted adult about this because going against your parents instructions is not the right thing to do. We hope this helps
Big sis my best friend who is a boy is Asking me out though i like him but Dont want to be in a relationship yet ..... Should i tell him to wait or no .... Am Confused big sis
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Tell him to wait till ur ready if he truly loves u then he'll wait if he doesn't then girl i'm sure you'll find someone better when ur ready
hello lovelyna if you are not ready to date yet that's fine you guys can continue to be friends just let him to know you are not yet ready am sure he would understand.
Hey Lovelyna! Thanks for the comment. You need to tell him that you are not ready for a relationship. You do not have to tell him to wait because that is you eating your cake and having it at the same time. Since you are not ready, you shouldn't put him on hold as that will be selfish of you and you shouldn't change your mind just because you like him. If it is meant to be, you both will work it out. We hope this helps
big sis theirs this gal I love since i was in ss1 but didnt just have the confidnce to talk to her but notice other girls wrent my p but i asked her out in sss2 e both loved each other but my best friend was angry because i didnt have time for him which led to a fight then he went to tell the girl abt my past about my xxxx gf tht i disvirgined her ad now any body come in ad go in in her she was vry angry ad stop trusting me like before till we broke up now am in the uni i hav never in my life fall in love wit a girl except from her please is it possible i win her heart back big sis
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hi Tenny007 am very sorry for all that happened it is still possible for you to win back her heart cause nothing is possible the thing you need to do is to make her trust you again cause no girl will like to date a guy they can't trust cause trust is one of the things that keep a relationship firm I wish you all the best in your journey to winning the heart of you lover again.
Hey Tenny007! Thanks for the comment. First of all, it is not your fault that this happened. The only question we have to ask is if you disvirgining your ex girlfriend was a mutual thing (like you both agreed to it and not forced). If it was, then she really has no reason to not trust you. However, if you forced the sex, then she and every other girl has every reason to distrust you. You can try talking to her again but you need to know that trust is earned and cannot be forced so if she doesn't still trust you, you will have to let her go (for your own good). We know it will be hard but this is the best thing to do. We hope this helps
Hy Big Sis Dere Is Dis Dat Guy Asked Me Out While Am In Ss2 I Tld Him Am Nt Yet Ready Nd He Said He Is Ready To Wait True To His Words He Waited 4 A Year And 2 Months Now I Have Graduated Frm Sec Schl Should I Acept Him? Does He Really Love Me?
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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If you love him just accept him. But always be with your sense for him
Hey Nancy! Thanks for the comment. You should not accept a guy because he waited for you. Waiting does not necessarily mean that he loves you, in this case, it is what you feel that matters. You need to be sure that you are ready for a relationship. We hope this helps
well there is one good for nothing boy who always disturb me I have try to stop him but all my effort went futile
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hi cutie
hi cutie, just ignore him.
Hey cutie! Thanks for the comment. User such words to classify someone is not the right thing to do. You could have just said "one boy" instead of insulting him. You can follow the tips in the article above but please note that you do not have to be rude to get your point across to him. Also, if he keeps insisting, please talk to a trusted adult about it. We hope this helps
Hey
I have a guy disturbing me on facebook.nd have told him times without number dat am nt interested.nd he said he wanted 2 start a new life with me.but my spirit is nt moving wit him.i only like him but dnt luv him.wat shud i do?
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Dammy I think u should block him,hi
Just keep moving with him but don't block him oooo bcos block him is not the solution. And it will seems as if you want to break his heart
Hey Dammy! Thanks for the comment. Do nothing about it. We do not advise Springsters to consider online relationships because it is not safe for you. Since you are also not in love with him then you really shouldn't force it. We believe that you are being pressured into it by him. We hope this helps
Pls is it gud 2 tel a guy, u're a virgin?
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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reps,i think that your decision to make,but to me ,it is not safe.
Hey Reps! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. We hope this helps
there is a boy kept my friend like a bird in a cage, he didn't use to call,text or attend to her,until she do so. I think this will be dangerous for her if she don't say no on time
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey Regina!Thanks for the comment. No one can cage a human. Your friend chose to remain in the relationship and she needs to know that she has the power to either remain there or she can move on. If she chose to stay, this is a personal decision that she made. You cannot tell her what to do because she has a right to make a decision. However, you can make her understand that she is in this relationship because she chose to be in it. We hope this helps
I have a guy disturbing over 6 to7 months nw.nd have told him several time dat am nt interest.but he keep frustrating me.am fed up.pls big sis.wat can i do?
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey Aderinola! Thanks for the comment. We have given you tips in the article above. However, if he still insists, you need to talk to a trusted adult about it. You also need to stop giving him the attention you normally give to him because he can mistake it for likeness. You need to politely tell him that you are not interested in him, report him to a trusted adult and then cut off forms of communication with him. We hope this helps
Big sis..... Is it possible to crush on someone for more than 2-3 years. Is that crush or love???? Thou you're not in a relationship with anyone else and the person also
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Science says a crush of more than 4 months and above is love
Hey Swiftygold! Thanks for the comment. There are different levels to this. Some times, we have crushes, other times, we get infatuated with the person and we confuse it for love. Crushes don't usually last for long and the feelings always die a natural death. Love is really deep. You also have to know the person very well to say that you love them. We have written a story titled "Crush vs Love: Know The Difference". Please search for it and read it. It will help you. We hope this helps
You are so right
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hi ann.
there's a boy who keep making advances towards me.what do i do?
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Do nothing about it. The fact that a guy is making advances at you does not mean that you should start to give it a thought. You need to know what you want in a partner and from a relationship too. We hope this helps
There's this guy he's a nice friend,he's crazy abt me,he sends me recharge card sometimes without me asking, the first time he asked me out, I said I ll think about but I ve thought 4 sometime now nd I realize I am not ready 4 any relationship nd I don't like him in DAT way.I told him but he was angry nd said I hurt him. But I like him as a very good friend nd I don't want to lose his friendship though now we re on talking terms again nd he said whether I approve or disapprove I am officially his girlfriend to him...I don't know what to say to him anymore...coz now we re normal again nd he still sends d card even when I ask him not to......but even If I am ready in future I don't think he ll be d one
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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SOLUTION: tell him to his face that ur not ready to date but u really want him to be ur friend OR we can share d recharge card😀
Hey Emilie! Thanks for the comment. You need to let him know that you are not in a relationship with him and let him know how serious you are about this. Acting like nothing is wrong with this while he thinks that you are in a relationship with him is actually misleading and can cause issues in the nearest future. Also, you may want to reconsider what the "recharge card" means. He may be using it as a means to get you and trust me, it is not safe for you. You need to address this and the earlier you do it, the better for you. It is not advisable neither is it safe for you to lead a guy on. We hope this helps
plz my aunt said i shuld b preaching to dem nd am shy plz is dt d best to do
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Kenechi! Thanks for the comment. Your aunt has given you some advise on what to do. If you have any reservations, we advise that you talk to her about them and we are sure that she will guide you on how to go about it. We hope this helps
I fell in love with a guy in my school when i was in s.s.s. 2 dat was in 2014, he asked me out about 3 times and i politely declined, i wanted to be done with secondary school first(although i did not tell him dis) but we were still friends. After sec school in 2015 i noticed he had a girlfriend, so i went ahead and dated someone else too. But my problem is dat although we both have moved on (though still friends) i have not been able to love another boy again. All d boys i dated, i later notice i dont really love them. I still love him but cant tell him. Pls what do i do? Thank you
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Vee_kee! Thanks for the comment. Moving on can be very hard but it is very necessary in this case. He has moved on and we advise that you do the same. It can be hard but you have to. He has moved on now and you have to do the same thing. We hope this helps
There is a girl in my class we were friends when i was in ss1,i keep on crushing on her since my ss1 although she use to talk and do crazy things with guys which makes me angry, one day she asked me wether am a jealous type but i refused to answer the question, her friend always admires me which make her jealous. i told her that i have feelings for her and could like to date her,she turned me down though it hurts buh with time, i moved now year later she send a request to me on facebook and i acepted she asked me for my number and i told her to tell me anything she wants to tel me physicaly she asked me to be her bf that she loves me. now am inlove with another girl what shuld i do?
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big sis two of my friends are disturbing me and I don't no what to do pls help
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big sis my parent never want me to av a bf but I av one and the more I try to move away from him d closer we get pls what should I do
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