What a feeling!
Being a teenager can be fun. The highs, the laughs, the trips. Sometimes there’s drama too. Like when you have a crush on a guy. Or think you are in love.
Exciting things begin to happen. Your heart beats fast when you see him. You think of him all the time. You want to be with him. And you hope he feels the same way.
But things can get confusing. So it helps to know whether it’s just a crush or real love. Here we go:
Example One
Bibi is fifteen-years-old. She’s very close to her big brother, who has a friend named Jahda. Whenever Jahda comes around, Bibi can’t look him in the eye. He’s so tall and cute! He dresses so well. Bibi likes the way he talks. In short, she likes everything about him. Even the way he chews. She dreams of him every night. She wants to be his girlfriend so bad. What is this — a crush or love?
It’s a crush, Springsters! A crush is a very strong attraction to someone. Mostly because of the person’s looks. Or the way the person walks or talks.
Crushes don’t last long. You might have a crush on someone this month, and a crush on someone else next month. It’s a normal part of growing up. We’ve all been there.
Example Two
Ogo is seventeen-years-old. There’s this guy on her street named Kesiana. Lately they’ve been hanging out together. When she’s with him, she feels like herself. He gets her in a way nobody else does. He listens to her and supports her dreams. He doesn’t think she’s silly for wanting to be a senator. Seeing Kesiana is the best part of Ogo’s day. She cares about him a lot. She wants him to be happy. She even sees him in her future. Could this be love?
Yes! Love is a deep, tender feeling of affection for another person. Love is passionate. It can keep two people together forever.
When you love someone, it’s not about how they look. It’s not just a warm, fuzzy feeling in your stomach. It’s deeper than that. You accept the person’s flaws. You like those little things that make them unique.
Love feels different for everyone. But one thing’s for sure: it’s the best feeling ever.
As teenagers, it’s easy to mistake a crush for love. If you’re confused, open up to a trusted adult like an aunty or older sibling. Yes, opening up to them might not be easy. You may be shy and worried about being scolded. But remember, they’ve been there before and they care about you. So they’ll give you good advice that’ll make you feel better.
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Jan. 28, 2023, 5:28 p.m.
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Pls i love him
Jan. 28, 2023, 12:26 p.m.
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Hi big sis,i knew dis guy wen we were kids and i was crushing on him,even up till now dat we ve grown up to teenagers i still love him,wen i told him abt my feeling he said he dosent want to be in a relationship cus of his past experience,hw do i make him love me too,and realise that not all girls are the same,i truly love this guy pls help me
Jan. 28, 2023, 12:24 p.m.
if someone have a deep affection 4 someone at first sight, is it crush or love??
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it's a crush.
Hey photropal! It's a crush.
Simple - Its a crush!
hw will u know if someone had a crush on u?
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Hey olex! It is hard to know when someone else has a crush on you except if they make it obvious to you. Crush is a personal feeling. We hope this helps
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March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Please big sister,There is this my male friend at school,i don't have any feelings for him,i just see him like a brother,sometimes last week,he told his friend that i loved him nd his friend told my besty who told me.i wasn't really happy,so i stopped chatting with him but he keeps asking me why am ignoring him,because we talk mostly on chat.am confused on what to do,because his friend told my besty to keep it from me in order not to get me angry.so i just pretend like i don't know. Pls what's your advice on what i should do because i don't even have feelings for him,and he has a girlfriend which he keeps away from me,for reasons i don't know.tnks in anticipation sissy!
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Hi springster. I suggest you should open up to him that you are not interested in relationship with him and relieve yourself too and be free but you have to do that in a polite manner. Hope this will help.
Tanks! But his friend wants me to keep it a secret
Hi springster. Is your personal decision to make but they are still your friends. I would suggest you explain to him if it bothers you most how you feel about it to free up your mind and relax but with a polite manner and still be friends. Just friends no strings attached. Hope this will helps.
Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Since this story is between just the 4 of you and you do not want to betray anyone's trust, you can just let it go but you need to let the guy know that you do not want to be close to him anymore (chat again). Then also let him know that you are aware of his girlfriend that he has been hiding from you. He doesn't seem like a straightforward person so may want to keep your distance from him. Also, tell your best friend to tell his friend that you do not like him just to clear the air. Since she is your best friend, she has a right to know who you like and who you do not like. We hope this helps
Thank you so much!
hi big sis I have this guy in my school he's so cute he Care's about me a lot I like him to he listens to me I think I'm in love he makes me feel complete likes spending time with me but he never has enough time for me he's always busy with work what should I do am I in love
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Hey Tkgirl! Thanks for the comment. The first thing you mentioned was the fact that he is cute so that means that the first attraction is his looks. Also, love is not about if the person has time for you but how willing you are to make out time to be with the other person (you are trying to find out if you love him right?). Do you like spending time with him? Because it seems like you are more interested in how you feel about him so it doesn't seem like it is love. We hope this helps
is good to make
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HI AM NEW HERE
U're welcome
Big sis i have a gal i like and she claims she likes me back but i don't see any gud sign dat she likes me she don't call dat much she calls once or twice in 2 week she don't even text me i do d calling and texting ha and she don't even care to text me back big sis i want ur to advice me on wat to do plz i need ur advice big sister
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Hey 007! This is totally up to you and it is a personal decision. You have to make up your mind on what you want to do. However, it doesn't seem like you are in love with her because you have more complaints about her than good things to say. We hope this helps
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Ok, thank u big sis
I feel happy and comfortable when am around him but i don't have any feeling for him. Is dis love or what, pls big sis i nid help.
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Hey Annabel! It is not love once you do not have feelings for him. You feel comfortable and he can be just friends. We hope this helps
Der is dis guy in ma church,anytym i see im i feel appy nd at d same tym shy arnd im.i also hv feelins 4 im,is it luv?
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Hey Springster! That is not love because you do not go beyond looking at him. You cannot love someone you do not talk to. We hope this helps
big sis i started my period last year dec and no boy have ask me out why
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Hey gift! Thanks for the comment. Starting your period has nothing to do with a boy asking you out. So please, do not measure this based on whether or not you have started your period. Starting your period is a major milestone in your life as a female and has no relationship with whether or not a boy should ask you out. We hope this helps
hmm it doesn't matter add me on face book Ugbani goodluck let chart
hey Big sis...have got this guy I knew from kids though his older than me with about 9 years...his sister then was my besty but then we got splitted 4 like 7 years n we just got reunited a year ago n I kinda like him..n he's asked me out..bt den I knw of his girlfrnd..n something keeps telling me to tell him a yes..u think thas love..?
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Hey shebach! That cannot be love. The fact that you knew him at some point in your life does not mean that you love him. Most times (not all the time), you tend to crush on people that are older than you as opposed to falling in love with them. Also, you need to bear in mind that this guy is probably trying to take advantage of the fact that you have a crush on him and that you are younger. He has a girlfriend but yet he claims to love you. We advise that you try to get him off your mind and move on because this is not love. We hope this helps
Tanx Bigga Sisi
nice one
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Nice one... good to know
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
hi big sis hw 'll u knw if a guy lyk or luv u as he claim
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Hey FLAME! Thanks for the comment. We have an article for this and it is titled, 'Does he like you". Please search for it and read it. It will answer all your questions. We hope this helps
Is this luv or crush i just feel crazy when i see this guy.?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. It is a crush. It is based on his looks and not about his personality. We hope this helps
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Big sister,please is it even possible to find love at a teenage age?.
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Hey bella_6767! Yes, it is very possible. Love does not start a particular age but you need to be very very sure that what you feel is love and not a crush. We hope this helps
Now I get it😏😏
is it good to live someone, you love because of he/she dont like talk to you,he/she allways want you to first of all talk to he/she is this good?
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Hey john! This is a personal decision for you to make. We hope this helps
Big sis,is it possible to love and have a crush on someone at the same time? and can crush lead to love?
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Hey Dobest! No, you cannot have a crush and still be in love at the same time. It is can but you it is very rare because a crush tends to die after a while and doesn't last for long so before you leave the crush stage and move to love, the crush must have died. We hope this helps
Thank you Big sis. LOVE YA!
Hy Big sister,i have a problem,there is this guy that we have been dating for two years now,which I love him to the extent that I sometimes wish we could get married,buh I dnt know is mind if he too wishes so. Then one day I ask him were our relationship is heading to if its marriage or some other way bt all he could say was"If I dont love you I wont be caring for you,spending time with you" Which am not satisfied bt my problem is I dnt want to loss him and I want to marry this guy bt am confused dnt know what to do. Plz help me,advice me on wat to do
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Hey Bharsha! do you think you are ready for marriage? but you must not forget that marriage is not all about love......he might not love you to the extent of marriage,but if he does try not to put pressure on him.....maybe he's not ready.
Hey Bharsha! CHOMMY is very correct. Marriage is really much more than love (Love is also very important). There are so many things that need to be in place and you also need to be careful so that your love does not turn to obsession. Even if he loves you to the extent of marriage, once you are not ready to get married, there is no need to worry so much about it. Love is sweet and nice but you also need to plan your life and your future. Just try to take things slow okay? We hope this helps
Hi! big sist..plz help me...there's diz guy am having feelings 4 right now...I don't know how it started but I realise I just can't stay without thinking about him...but He's not d kind of guy I should admire cuz he doesn't share my visions...he doesn't see d future d way I do...what do I do???
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Nefe, I would just say I'm as much as you can quickly realized that he's not looking into the future as you do then why do you have to jeopardize that and take a step that you'll later regret. My sister just make up your mind and walk away. 🙏🙏
Hey Nefe! What you feel is a crush and not love so do not spend too much time and effort worrying about him because you already know that he doesn't fit in your kingdom. You are queen and we are glad you know what you want for yourself. Since it's a crush, once you stop paying it so much attention, it is surely going to die after a while. We hope this helps
hi..big sis,am confused pls help me,there this guy that i see some days ago,when ever i see or luk at him i lost all thoughts,i feel like am save,pls help me am confused...............
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Hey slim! What you feel is obviously a crush. You should not be confused about you just saw a few days ago. Don't worry too much about it because you will soon get over it. We hope this helps
pls what us love at 1st sight?
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Hey Splendor! it's a crush
CHOMMY is correct, Splendour
Please how can one get over a break up heart break.A friend of mine needs help.
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Hey bella_6767! Thanks for the comment. The first thing is to make up your mind that you want to get over the person. Heartbreaks are hard to get over but once you make up your mind that you want to get over it. Next is that you should cut all forms of communication with this person so that you can focus on getting over him/her (this works for some people). Another thing to do is to occupy your mind with things that will make you forget the person e.g a new hobby, business, gisting with friends, reading a new book etc.. there are so many things you can actually do. This is very important because you are developing yourself while trying to get over the person. We hope this helps
Hi! big sist..is it okay 2 tell a guy u have feelings 4 him...what if u can't imagine what his reaction and response would be?
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Hey Nefe! There is nothing wrong with it as long as you are comfortable with it. This is exactly how guys feel too when they tell you how they feel... they also imagine what your response will be every time. So if you feel OK with it, why not? We hope this helps
Thanks alot...big sist
Yea I had a crush once,but I thought I was in love with him,nd we started dating, d relationship didn't go well cause I don't ve feelings for him anymore,it'd sad but I wished I Neva made dat mistake
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Hey Titexluv! Thanks for sharing this with us. You shouldn't feel sad about this. The good thing is that you learnt a good lesson from this.
love is when no matter how many times you say mean things to him, he always forgives u
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Hey mk5074! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you shouldn't be saying mean things to him in the first place. The fact that he loves you does not make you disrespect him. Love is respectful and not ride. Another thing you should note is that some people do not know how to take things like this easy. No matter how much they love you, they tend to get angry and lose patience when you say mean things to them. In all, do not say mean things to anyone (not only the guy that you are dating). Thanks and we hope this helps
yea
Dat good
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Yes, have fallen in love times without number, b4 I graduated from college ,there is a guy who really love and cares about me but then I don't love him, but later on I fell so much in love with him but I don't know whether he is still in love with me or not because lately he has been ignoring my calls or texts. I don't know what to do Is this a revenge or what ever
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Hey Nike! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you need to be really sure of what you feel for him. Is it love or is it the comfort of him being in love with you? This is very important for you. Now, you need to do is to talk to him about it. Communication is very important in a relationship and it can solve almost every problem. Instead of assuming something is wrong, you both need to talk about it. Remember to be really polite and do not jump into conclusions, let him express himself without you interrupting him so you fully understand how you feel. We hope this helps
so good
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Hlo .there z dis guy my uncle introduce me to e z my uncle's stp broda bt nt desame mum nd dad .d guy nd i became frndz .bt each days i tink abt him i just want to be with hm everyday e makes me smile wen m sad ,weneva i luk at z eyes i feel sumhow as if e z my everytn just want hm in my lyf plz i nid eep coz sumtinz came up nd i was warn to stay away frm hm bt i dnt tink i can i nid advice plz.
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Hey Samaira! Thanks for the comment. You need to be really careful about him. If you are being cautioned about him by the people that introduced you to him then you need to slow down a bit. What you feel about him may be a crush because it doesn't seem as deep as love. Just be sure of your feelings for him. We hope this helps
that is nice
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This is usual advise but i like more explanation about Thare is one girl on our area she is all ways shy to face me or to look my eye is this affection,crush or love
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Hey Niga! That is a crush. We hope this helps
I like a guy and I know he likes me but we don't know how to talk to each other
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Hey Praise! Thanks for the comment. How do you both know that you love each other when you do not talk to each other? It is more of a crush because you cannot love someone you do not anything about. We hope this helps
I like a guy but I don't know if he truly likes me how do u know if someone truly luv u
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Hey Praise! We have written an article titled "Does he like you?". This article addresses this question and we have givem
Hey Praise! We have written an article titled "Does he like you?". This article addresses this question and we have given you tips that answer you. We hope this helps
i am19 i have feelins 4 smbody wenever am wit d pasen i cant say anytin n d feelin kips on growin in me wat shuld i do dose d pesen realy loves me
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Hey ANN! Thanks for the comment. We have written an article titled "Does he like you?". This addresses your question and you will see good examples of how can know if he likes you or not. We hope this helps
I am seventeen plus and I don't know whether I love divine or like but we are very close to each other but he has a data and me too DAT wveen people call us husband and wife so pls tell me whether is love or crush or like but for now we are not taking again some beef and I don't want to apologise nor him to so wart do call this one
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Hey Toria! Thanks for the comment. What you feel for divine may just be fondness because you both ate close. The fact that you are trying to determine what you feel for someone based on what other people call you cannot work. If you truly love someone, there will be no argument on who will apologise to eachother. You both will just feel sad or bad about why you people are not talking. We hope this helps
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That's y it's called "incest"
it's fair a blood sister to be a Crush to a blood brother
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Hey FRATERNISE! Thanks for the comment. In this part of the world, this is not right culturally and morally. You both can share the normal sibling attraction, friendship and love which is normal but when it gets romantic and emotions begin to get in the way then it should be stopped immediately. Remember that this person is a blood relative and will be seen as a taboo if it is found out by others. We hope this helps
I am in relationship with a guy a year older than I, so lately I discovered that am no longer interested in that relationship without as any reason Pls how am I to tell the guys who is really in love and I don't want to break his heart
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Hey Ameenaht! Thanks for the comment. Breaking up can be hard but it is better and easier to break up than to pretend that you still love the person. Politely let him know that you no longer have feelings for him and you want to end the relationship. He may try to beg and convince you but stand your ground without being rude and let him know that you want to move on. We wish you all the best and we hope this helps
Thank you Big sister for replying all my questions but there is something else I want to know and I'll be very elated to have your reply. I know this guy he's all I look out in every guy. We are classmates and I think he has been liking me since we were in Ss1 now we're in Ss2. He wanted me as a girlfriend but whenever he asked he was always laughing so I didn't take him serious because I always taught I am not good enough for him or anyone. He has left now and I want him now but he's not there again. He comes to school sometimes we get all lovey dovey but his ex girl is always in the way. What should I do big sister?
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Hey Gesi! You're welcome. First of all, YOU ARE ENOUGH! Do not feel like you are not good enough. Girl, you are more than enough for yourself and it will be a privilege for anyone to be with you. Do not let anyone make you feel like you are not good enough okay? Now to the main issue... the only problem we have is the fact that he never seriously told you he liked you when you were around him. What is the assurance that now that he is in another school, he will be serious with you? Also, are you mentally ready to handle a long distance relationship? If you aren't then don't bother getting into one. However, before we start talking about getting into relationships, you need to be sure that this guy really loves you and is willing to make this work. We hope this helps
thank you Big sister but he has asked more than three times but you know guys of these days they aren't always serious and committed because of that I didn't answer him even if deep down I wanted to agree. He's the ladies guy and him coming for me was a big relief that someone will want me somewhere. I didn't reply him so he went to another girl and she accepted but he was always like he wanted me....does this change the situation?
3 minutes ago Your comment: Thank you Big sister for replying all my questions but there is something else I want to know and I'll be very elated to have your reply. I know this guy he's all I look out in every guy. We are classmates and I think he has been liking me since we were in Ss1 now we're in Ss2. He wanted me as a girlfriend but whenever he asked he was always laughing so I didn't take him serious because I always taught I am not good enough for him or anyone. He has left now and I want him now but he's not there again. He comes to school sometimes we get all lovey dovey but his ex girl is always in the way. He asked again more than three times this time no jokes but you know guys of these days they aren't always serious and committed because of that I didn't answer him even if deep down I wanted to agree. He's the ladies guy and him coming for me was a big relief that someone will want me somewhere. I didn't reply him so he went to another girl and she accepted but he was always like he wanted me...I want him....what should I do?
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i think that's true
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pls help don't much understand d sprinster
Hey dezmond19! What don't you understand? Let us know. You can read the Springster guide for more details on what Springster is about. We hope this helps
He bought me my first hd devotional when i couldnt get one after fellowship he said he wanted to see me, and i said ok he later told me that he needed my prayers that he was falling spiritually. I started praying for him but the more i prayed and talk to him the more i feel i love him its more than 5 months now. he quickly apologies for his mistakes and dose not try to fake his behaviour when ever he talks to me he open up freely and smiles when ever he sees me even if he was angry. Is thîs love between us hiddenly.
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Hey shooting44star! Thanks for the comment. It could be. You both need to get to know each other better and be true to yourselves. Talk more to each other too. We hope this helps
There is dis gal i like so much, anytime we ar 2geda she feel like cmin 2 me, tlkin 2 me etc. Bt wen we ar no more 2geda she won't chat wit me even if i sent her msg she wont, crush or love?
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she is having crush on u
Hey olaboy! We do not know what to classify this under but it is definitely not love. We hope this helps
Maybe crush
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am in love with dis guy but i dnt know if he love me how will i know if he loves me
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big sis,wat if u ave a boyfriend and whenever u a with d guy, u can't look him in d eyes,u a always happy and u a always looking forward to c me...and u also always very eager to chat with him..pls is dat a cruch or love
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Hey verna! Thanks for the comment. It sounds like a crush to us. We hope this helps
Big Sister Am plus 22 years but i still don't know how u would know a lady loves u and how can I win her heart
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Hey Pclassic! Thanks for the comment. You can only win the heart of someone that has feelings for you. The most important thing is how you feel for the lady. Have you ever genuinely fallen in love with someone? Please read the story; "Does he like you?". This will explain how to know if someone likes you. We hope this helps
I have really learnt from this piece, its time for action!!!!!!
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I have really learnt from this piece, its time for action!!!!!!
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Yes Eli98! It's time for action!!! We love this.
I had a crush when I was 15 and called it love lasted for 1 month and 2 weeks but had another relationship which lasted for 8months before we broke up because of my refusal to have sex and he felt he can't wait and since I'm going to higher institution I will cheat on him,I tried to make him feel positive but no he said.I really love this group it helps me to let others learn from my life experiences which I've always wanted,thank you big sis
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Hey Grace! Thank you so much for sharing this with us. We love this feedback... Super amazing! It goes to show that the effort we are putting into this is not in vain. Big sis loves you very much and please share this with your friends
I have a crush on this guy named darling he's brother lyks me an his sis told me he also lyks me and my best friend lyks him too and the brother asked me out but I said I will think about it
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Hey Iam1234! Thanks for the comment. Like you said, you have a crush on this guy. Crushes tend to die after a short time so it is not advisable to date someone that you have just a crush on. It will not last a long time because when the crush dies, what will you do. You need to take your time to figure it out because 2 brothers are also involved. The final decision is up to you to make. We hope this helps
Am. In love
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there's this girl I love but whenever I tell her,she will be like I should show her her...pls need your help
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Hey splen! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Saying you love someone does not mean anything if you do not show her that you love her. What you are doing is just saying you love her and she is not seeing it in the way you act around her. Please note that if you really love someone,there's a way you will treat such person. It flows naturally, no one can teach you that. So you need to think well and be sure that you really love her like you say. We hope this helps
what are the things I need to do?... cause I truly love her
Hello Big Sis. I have a problem in this aspect. I have this male friend of mine. He loves me, surely, i can tell he does. Buh, i find myself not loving him the same way he does love me. 1. Is there any possibility to love him later in future? 2. For the present time, what can i do to make him feel loved a little?
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Hey Kem! Thanks for the comment. The fact that someone loves you does not mean that you should automatically love them back. It is perfectly normal for you not to love the person back. Love is not automated, it is intentional. You cannot force love to happen. It is better not to deceive him by making him believe that you love him right now. It is best for you to let him know that you do not feel the same way. Do not feel bad, love doesn't work that way. You will totally understand when you finally meet someone and fall in love with them. Take your time, if you force love, you will not like the outcome because it can eventually end up as hatred. We hope this helps
TANK BIG SIS iii WAS IN THE DARK NOW HV SEEN LIGHT
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big sis i hav a girl in my clas we use to talk and i lik her very much but i dont have the confidence 2 tel her pls help
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Hey malik! try to practice in front of a mirror, that will help boost your confidence, because if you don't tell her, someone else will, we hope this helps
pls chommy i cant tell her dos it make sens to rit a leter & put in her book?
Hey malik! Thanks for the comment. We understand how hard it can be to walk up to her and tell her you like her. However, what you should do is to make sure you are sure of what you feel about her. It might just be a crush and not love so you need to be friends first (talk about random things), you do not have to tell her how you feel right now but you can just use this opportunity to get to know her. We hope this helps
even if i try to talk to her i will just faint plz i need advice
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Hey malik! This sounds like a crush to us. It is perfectly normal to feel that way too. You just need to take things easy okay. In no time, you won't feel that way again because that is how crushes work. We hope this helps
Dere is dis guy in my class wen ever I see him my heart stop beating I always love to be around him wen ever we chat I forget abut all my worries nd he has tod me he want to date me but my question is dat do I love him or I just ave a crush on him I am new to discuss group pls help me
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Hey Ayomide! Welcome to Springster, we are glad to have you here. It sounds like a crush because your heart can never stop beating (if it does, you will be dead. LOL!). Take your time to get to know him more and know his likes and dislikes. Do not just chat about random things. You may realize that you do not like certain things about him. We hope this helps
deys is a guy I meant, I loved everything abt him, he showed me love, but now he is avoiding me
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Hey beyonce! Thanks for the comment. He showed you love does not mean that he loves you. Maybe you both rushed into it and didn't take time out to get to know each other better. Talk to him about this and find out what is happening with him. Communication is very important in relationships. We hope this helps
i dont even no wat to say
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big sister pls where do u get this u unstopable answer
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Hey Toye! Thanks for the comment. Big sister gets all these unstoppable comments because she is older and has experienced most of the things you ask her. It is easy for big sister to understand what you are going through because she has gone through most of them. We hope this helps
pls wat is d meaning of masturbation
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Hey Springster! Masturbation is when you stimulate your body parts by yourself to get sexually excited. We hope this helps
I once fall in love with someone, but after some months I felt that i don't like his life, I mean everything about him, I don't want to meet him too... but sometimes I use to feel like I luv him but not that much..... is this luv?
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Hey mamiey! Thanks for the comment. It was never love. The thing about love is that you cannot really love someone without knowing the person. What exactly are you in love with? If it is all about the physical, then it is not love. We hope this helps
I aactually lyk a guy.....lyk d way he talks,his opinions r always meaningful,always want 2 b with him,i knw he lyks me,I think I really lyk him too Pls big sis m I in luv or I just av a crush on him??
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Hey Freyja! Thanks for the comment. This is beyond a crush. It seems like love to us. We hope this helps
Tnx ......
I once love a guy , and he showed me the love back But all of the sudden he changed correcting me all the time even if I do he right thing ,anytime I offend him he always say that I am doing it because I knows that he loves me and I don't think it true
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Hey kirah! Thanks for the comment. The fact that someone tries to correct you does not mean that the person does not love you. You need to understand that being corrected is not hatred too. Maybe he is correcting you in a way that you do not like. However, it is best to talk to him about it so that you both can understand better. We hope this helps
nice 1, many people got into crush and think that they are in love
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When u are in love why are u always thinking of it future with that person
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Hey Springster! That is the way it is. You always want to be with the person and also plan for the person in your life forever. We hope this helps
Big sister I once had a boyfriend whom I loved so much but something happened which I caused that led to our break up . i am in the same school with this guy and I still love him and he is always telling me that he still loves me too and everyday he tells me that I look beautiful despite that everyone in d schl knows that he is dating someone else. One day he called me somewhere and we started kissing and he almost fingered me. So the next day I told him am not going to continue doing that with him so since then he doesn't talk to me again. What should I do and I Still love him
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Hey Victoria! Thanks for the comment. The final decision is up to you to make however, you need to remember that you both are not in a relationship anymore. He has moved on and he has a girlfriend now so he should not try to get closer to you because that will mean that he is cheating on his girlfriend. Besides, saying that you are beautiful is a fact because you are beautiful but that doesn't mean love. He is probably taking advantage of the fact that he knows you still have feelings for him and that is wrong. You need to move on. You did the right thing by telling him that but now you need to stand by it. We hope this helps
I had a crush when i was 14 and later confessed to him when i was 17 but it did not last long.We are no more together
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Tnk God 4 dis article it helps alot dere ws dis guy whom i loved so much nd i knew he luvs me 2 widout any doubt. we were in this relationship for almost a year+. bt sumtin happen which was my fault we had 2 quit. after lyk 2yrs he nw started calling nd disturbing me dat he want the relationship bck, though i still love him bt i told him no am nt interested which he stil refuses to accept telling me he is not ready to date any oda gurl apart 4rm me. Pls big sis tell me wat shuld i do cos am confused.
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Hey cutie! Thanks for the comment. Do you still like him? Do you want to go back? You need to think about this properly before you answer us. It doesn't matter what he says or how he disturbs you. What matters most is what you want. If you are no longer interested in getting back together with him then you already know the answer to give him. Do not pity him or fell pressured to give him a response. Take your time and be sure because you do not want a repeat of what happened the first time. We hope this helps.
tnks alot big sis am gratefull for ur kind advice nd answer.
Big sister I know a guy I my school he asked me out.......but I don't really have affections towards him what should I say....
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Hey Springster! There is no other thing to say than to say NO. The only extra thing to note is that you have to be polite about it. You do not have to be rude because you want to say NO to him. We hope this helps
Hey big sis there is this young Corper Who Lecture me after some tim i just develop feelins 4 him when ever i see him m always shy n happy but i neve knew how he ws felin After smtme i startd feelin inferior so i left after jamb since then it 3yrs now when ever i hear or read abou love i think about him I nw hav him as facebk frnd afte 3yrs of not sein or hearin 4 him i stil hv that same felin evn as he is very far 4m me i fel so shy to chat with him pls is a crush n wat do i do
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Hey,it's okay.It could be possible that you just love the way he looks or probably there's something about him that drives you crazy that you want to be with him.He might be sexy,fluent in english and maybe you love his relationship with people your age group. Let's take for instance,you felt inferior and left and after a while he came back and the feeling was rekindled,it's clearly a crush.You have to know that there is nothing he possess that you don't possess,you might even be better because one of the things that starts a crush is when you accept first with conviction that the latter is way too okay,and avoid him at all costs.Think about it,it'll help.
Hey care! Thanks for the comment. It is perfectly normal to have a crush. However, you need to be careful when you have a crush on someone older. The good thing is that he is no longer around him. What you need to do is to move on. This is a crush and you need to know that. The earlier you realize it, the better for you. You need to move on and focus on other things because when you hold on to things like these, they tend to distract you. It's been a long time and you need to focus on other things and move on. We hope this helps
The awkward moment when my crush told me he is Inlove with my girlfriend begging me to help him tell her
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Hey Harbeynih! Thanks for the comment. This is really an awkward situation and it is very painful too. The good thing is that it is a crush. Crushes tend to die after a while and so that makes it easier. Do not let it affect you in anyway. We hope this helps
Now i understand better about this 2 words CRUSH & LOVE
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big sis is it bad 2 have many crushes
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My opinion is (I don't think so) you can crush on many guys but don't get crushed
Hey kali! Thanks for the comment. There is nothing wrong with crushing on more than 1 person at a time because crushes are for a short time and you just crush on people based on their physical features. We totally agree with Sam1, you can crush on many guys but don't get crushed. We hope this helps
I enjoyed myself now I know d different btw love and crush
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OK thanks for reading Vivian.
Am Happy I gained something,Now I know the differences between crush and love
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Big Sister,I hope am right about care's case.
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Big Sis..Is It Nice To Have A Crush Or Lover Online?
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Hey Allen! Thanks for the comment. There is nothing wrong with having a crush but having a lover online is not safe in any way. This is because people only tell you what they want you to know online and this could be lies. You can never validate these because online relationships are based on trust only. You have to be very careful because they are so many people online that are looking for people they will take advantage of. We hope this helps
Yes i_a-crush_nw mk me happy and want too mk him my friend so Pls help me sister
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Dear pre111 u can meet him u can say hi,tell him ur age,smile u can become his frnd
Hey Pre111! Misty has said it all. It's that easy to make new friends. We hope this helps
what if ur heatt beat whenever u see him
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Hey chidinma! Your heart beats all the time dear. Your heart beating faster for one person does not necessarily mean that you are in love with the person. Love is very deep... deeper than what you see on the surface. We hope this helps
Big Sis I love a girl net toy compound I love but when i c her I imagine dat she is my wife but when she is walking or talking I fear to talk or express my feeling is it love or crush
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Hey lefty! Thanks for the comment. It is obviously a crush. Love is deep and you need to know the person well enough before you start saying that you love them. Since you do not know her on a personal level, you cannot say that you love her yet until you know her and understand her better. We hope this helps
Before I Taught Love And Crush Are The Same But On Reading This Article, I Can Now Differenciate It
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Hey Deejaty! We are glad you find this helpful. Feel free to share it with your friends.
There Was A Guy That Dated Me Before But Wat Made Me 2 Accept Him Was Because Of The Way He Dress And Interact With People.. Xo I Taught I Love Him Not Knowing That I Only Had Crush On Him
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am new here.
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am new here Sis
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big sis, I have dis guy,which I luv and he also does he told his friend (my neighbor)About it and d friend told me about it,we are both shy to tell each other about it
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Hey girl! Thanks for the comment. Someone needs to break the silence. It will really help because keeping quiet will help you out. Also, the fact that you both like each other does not mean that you both are compatible. You need to know each other better and be sure that you both can work things out. We hope this helps
hi am new here
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hi big sis,dere is dis guy I love so much,he love me too,BT he has be asking for sex BT I can't open my legs for him,but I dnt want to lose him.then I met a anoda guy as a friend he took me to his house nd we had sex,I wanted to tell my bf BT am scared he might leave me nd go for anoda girl. pls tell me wat to do
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Hey fresh! Thanks for the comment. We got lost somewhere in your comment. However, the final point is that you had sex with someone that is not your boyfriend. We cannot advise you to hide this from your boyfriend. You need to let him know about this. Yes, he will be angry (he has every right to be) but imagine if he finds out from another source... that will definitely be worse. He may also decide to end the relationship but your integrity is better than any other thing. We hope this helps
Pls Sis what is dating all about.
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hellow big sis,there is this guy i haven't met him before, i met him in facebook,he cares for me,he takes me like his own biological sister and i started having feelings for he,woll well i do
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Hey annabel! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you have to be careful because not everyone on social media (Facebook, Instagram etc) lives a real life. Some of them are hiding their real personalities on social media. You are probably enjoying the attention he is giving you since this is your first "relationship". If you must go out on a date with him (which we do not advise), please go to an open place (of your choice, not where he chooses) that has many people and be very watchful. If he asks you to go to somewhere private and/or secluded, please do not go. If possible, go with someone and tell a trusted adult where you are going to and also give his number. We hope this helps.
Yes
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hello big sister,am a shy guy and there is a girl that I just met where she was learning. I always used to go there before her arrival, so since when have met her we have been good to each Other and am falling in love with her, should I express my feelings for her or this is just a crush bcoz I don't have girlfriend
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Hey yekmy! Thanks for the comment. This sounds like a crush to us. You cannot love someone you do not know. You need to get to know her better first before you start to talk about getting into a relationship with her. We hope this helps
yes thanks a lot
yes thanks a lot
Big sis, can crush lead to love?
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Hey lekcee_16! Yes, it can. But you need to be sure that you are not mixing things up. Most times, people confuse crush with love. We hope this helps
So big clap for person written this article
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hi big sis? it abt a girl i have love over four years, and am nt able to tell her her bcus i dont want to loss the friendship between up. i do visit her often at her mums shop bt main looking at her she behaves differently as if she like me and also does nt like me..., many times i try to tell her dat i love her, i get a nervous. if i tell her dat i want to tell her someting she will say, if my speach is nt abt education matter i should keep it to my self, to me i tink she is in love wit me bt pretending, and am afraid of losing her to another guy at the end pls help me.
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Hey Escober! Thanks for the comment. You are only guessing about how she feels about you and that is not the right thing to do. Also, you need to be sure of what you feel about her because often times, we confuse crush for love and that is not right. The only thing you should do right now is to tell her how you feel (once you are sure of it) and then also ask her how she also feels so that you stop guessing and assuming things. We hope this helps
Big sis, is there love at first sight?
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Hey lekcee_16! Thanks for the comment. The way to know if you really love someone is when you get to know the person well. Most of the time, we confuse attraction for love. We hope this helps
hi big sis there is dis guy i love so much and he love me too, but the problem is that i don't know if his family we accept me and i don't want to loss him, but am afraid to ask him if his family we accept me mostly his mother, i don't know what to do am confused
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Hey joy! Thanks for the comment. Don't you think it is too early to start worrying about being accepted by his family? We advise you to enjoy your relationship for now. When you get to that point, you both will handle it. Worrying about this too early will only put a strain on your relationship with your boyfriend. Worry less and let that time handle itself. We hope this helps
Hi I just wanted to know if maybe a guy likes and may want to get your attention by saying he likes another girl I am just asking if that can happen as we haven't introduced our selves but we usually connect by just staring at each other.
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Hey precious! Thanks for the comment. We cannot say. However, we do not understand why a guy will try to get the attention of a girl he likes by saying he likes another girl. It doesn't sound like the right thing to say. We do not know if he is using that to get your attention or if he really likes another girl as he said. We hope this helps
Hi big sister, there is a girl I love and she also love me too. We agree not to leave each other nd be partner for ever but, d problem is her mum told her not to marry a Muslim and she's not ready to lose me cos she love me so much and am ready to lose her too. Plz whatshiuld I do?
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Hey Optimist! Thanks for the comment. This is a personal decision and it is up to you to make. We cannot make an input on this because of how sensitive religion is. You both should seek guidance from trusted adult around you on how to handle the situation. We hope this helps
Hi,big sister can someone who i had crush on can later become my lover?
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Hey Dimeji! Thanks for the comment. Yes, a crush can become a lover. However, you need to be sure that you are not confusing crush for love. The truth is that crushes don't last for long and so you have to know the person well before you can be sure that you love the person. We hope this helps
I've been a friend to this boy for almost 6years,we play,quarrel,share secretsand do alot of things..at a point we fell inlove but we can't date,we've hugged severally but we can't kiss..why?
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Hey Reena! Thanks for the comment. Kissing and hugging is a personal decision. You do not necessarily have to hug and kiss to show that you are in love. Love is not sexual. We do not know why you both can't kiss but please, do not think that kissing and hugging is love. That is not what love is. We hope this helps
Reena ya not the only person in that situation, at some point the same thing happened to me...i had a crush, fell inlove, hangout, date...we were very close but i couldn't break the touch barrier, i couldn't hug him, talkless of kissing...seriously i don't get it!
ya right!
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my crush is doing great
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Yeah! I have a crush buh i think i still have problem knowing if it's a crush or love🤔🤔
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Hey Dempress! Thanks for the comment. It seems like you are trying to convince yourself that this is love and not a crush. You already said that this is a crush. What you need to do is to know what you want for yourself in a relationship/in a partner. But to us, this sounds like a crush to us. We hope this helps
My boy friend keeps telling me that he loves me, even when I tell him things that provokes him ,if I tell him to leave me alone ,he keeps saying that he will never leave me, Dnt know what to do.
yes is true I feel like that some time
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There Is this guy. I liked him in year 1,2,3 and He is not really handsome.people Insult him because he is Very Dark.i am shy around him but i know a lot about him.is this just a crush or love?
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pls ansa me
Hey Springster! This is all about his looks and what people say about him and not about his personality so this is crush and not love. We hope this helps
hello big sis... there is this girl I so much love ,I had let my feelings known to her and now we dating but I find it hard to understand something's about her.... like she is so shy while with me and she don't communicate with me freely.
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Hey samdansy! Thanks for the comment. You both need to learn how to talk to each other. Dating is not just about love, there's a lot more to it and you have to be mature to be able to successfully date someone. Sit down and tell her this and also let her know how you feel. We hope this helps
Hi big sis, please how do I know that am deeply in love, cos i so much care about him, when ever he told that he is sick or has injury, i feel so much uncomfortable about it, i ask him whether he has eaten, is this love or crush?
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Hey excel! Thanks for the comment. We advise that you read the above article to really understand the difference between crush and love. You can feel uncomfortable when anyone you are close to tells you that they have an injury or that they are sick. It is normal for someone you care about and even those that you do not even care about too. That is not enough to know if you love someone or not. You need to use other instances or scenarios. We hope this helps
Big Sis Why Is Being In Love So Hard Dat U Cnt Say This Word "i Love U".
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Hey Hangal! Thanks for the comment. Love is really deep and beyond what most of us see. It is beyond saying "I Love You". Love is very very deep and requires a lot of work. We hope this helps
big sis thanks for this lovely post,bt i want to ask some question ................pls what signs will know if your bf loves u soo much
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Hey kizzygirl! Thanks for the comment. We have written an article that answers this question. Kindly search for the story "Does he like you" at the top or bottom of the page. We hope this helps
Hi big sis, their is girl i have falling in love with since 2years back, we both used to talks together and make calls on phone, severally she always asked of me from my sister, but i have no courage to tell her my feelings, we both chats on facebook when we're not in same place any more, it upto a year now that we have seen each others and since then, am always dying for the feeling i have for her and whenever i called her she gives me good responds, but my problem now is that i have no the courage to tell the pains am going through and maybe she's also feel the same i am or not. Please i need your advice.
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Hey Hurlardex! Thanks for the comment. The only wayout is to tell her how you feel. If you are not comfortable with telling her on the phone, you can send her a text or a message online. The most important thing is for you to let her know how you feel. If you do not tell her this, you will be stuck this way for a really long time. We hope this helps
It is true, sme people mistake this 2 words. "love nd crush" sme persons thnk their crush is their <3 nd sme of dem thnk their love is their crush
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hey big sis,there is dis guy in my area who ask me out,nd i told him am nt ready,until am true wit my secondary sch,nd he said he wil wait.bt he keep on tellin people dat he is datin me,nd i don't like it.wat should i do?
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Hey pumpkin! Thanks for the comment. You need to tell him that you do not like what he is doing. He is disrespecting you by doing that. You need to set things straight and also tell a trusted adult about this. We hope this helps
Plz wld u call dis Der is dis boy, we are frnds i think of all d tym, i wish we are somtin more dan frnds nd him on d oda hand feels shy wen we are together bt always wants to be close to me
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LOVE
big sis can crush led to love...????
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Hey beautifulgold! Thanks for the comment. Yes, it can but not all the time. What happens most times is that people mistake crush for love over time and just assume that the crush is now love even when it is not. We hope this helps
hi there's this boy i like him i don't like how he act to some people he makes fun of them but apart from that i like him
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But big sis can we grow love and feelings, like can it be developed and grown for a guy u don't love but have all attributes of the holy book and u no he loves u deeply. Like he's religious ,hardworking and above all cool and God fearing
pls big sis need a reply am confused wether i have a crush on him or not or is this love pls i need i quick reply am the one who commented ealier
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Hey Springster! All you need to know is in the article above. We advise you to read the article as it will guide you on answering your question. We hope this helps
If a guy love u nd u don't love him wat does it mean?
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Hey harbeke! Thanks for the comment. It means that you do not love him. Nothing has changed and nothing will change. You cannot force love to happen, it happens naturally. We hope this helps
big sis i have a crush at a boy like maybe 5 or2,3,4 yrs older and he those not notice me but other girls in his class which is ss2 and am 4 classes lower
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. That's how it it. The fact that you have a crush on someone does not mean that the person should also have a crush on you and notice you. This is why it is called a crush. We hope this helps
big sis how do u know a boy loves or have a crush on u
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. Please read the story "Does he like you?". This will answer your question. We hope this helps
Big sis wat if u love a boy at dis tender age is it right or wrong. Because some people says boys only want to destroy your life
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Hey pony! Thanks for the comment. Love is a personal decision and there is no particular age for you to start falling in love. Love is a feeling and not something that comes at a certain age. You have to be mature enough to know the difference between love and having a crush. We hope this helps
Big sis! there is this guy i had a crush on him firstly when i meet him on facebook but now i cant take him off my mind
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Hey laz! Thantks for the comment. First of all, crush is not love. There is a huge difference between the two and you need to be aware of this. Crushes do not last for long and so we advise you to give it sometime because after a while, you won't feel that way again. We hope this helps
Is it wrong to fall in love?
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Hey Milka! Thanks for the comment. It is not wrong to fall in love but it is very wrong and dangerous to confuse a crush for love. We hope this helps
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plz big sis there is dis guy in my area I don't talk to him n he too but recently we interacted n I just get to like him n he too so wat is it?
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Hey Lv33! It is definitely not love. You both should get to know each other better before you jump into anything. We hope this helps
Hi, wen i fall inluv nd start datin,after 2-3 month i get fed up nd find a silly excuse 2 break up. pls is dis luv/crush
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Tomizy! Thanks for the comment. This is obviously a crush and not love. We hope this helps
Big sis i dnt if it luv or infatuation there is dis girl i hav feelings for we talk chat online every morning day and night be4 we go to each other various destination we play joke watch movie together listen to music even she is my neighbour our rooms is facing each other wen she cooks she always bring my own so one day she was nt at home i was chatting with her online i nw told her i hav feelings for her dat am inlove with her so we started sharing personal information about eachother ex boy and ex girlfriend and about each other family so she told me i shuld say it to face wen she coms bak dat am inlove with her to d extent she said she is going to giv me d attention nd chance to tell her but wen she came bak i did nt tell her i taught may be it just an infatuation dat after some month i will get over it but i later found out she is dating a guy after a week i told her am inlove with her online but after some month i still hav feelings for her and nw we dnt talk again we dnt chat we only greet each other good morning good afternoon. Wat shuld i do ?? Big sis
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey mankind! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about what you went through and we advise that you move on. She is already in a relationship and you cannot be the reason why she is distracted. We hope this helps
tanxs big sis
Please how do i know when a girl luvs me
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Kennedy! Thanks for the comment. Please read the article above. You can also read "Does he love me" and read it. We hope this helps
please ooo! what is actually the differences between a boyfriend or a girlfriend and just been friends.please I want to know please I beg.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
big sis i hv a bf who luv me so much and even told me that he would wait for me till i finish my school my school pls big sis is this true luv
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey derby! Thanks for the comment. We cannot tell if this is true or not. If you have a doubt in mind about what he says then you are meant to be in a relationship with him because you do not trust his words. Also, you need to know what you want in a partner in a relationship so that you do date for just dating sake. We hope this helps
There is dis boy I have feelings for. I come online almost everyday for him but sometimes I'm annoyed by his actions, we were classmates. Not talking to him for long, it's like my feelings are disappearing, does that mean it's a crush? And I told him I like him, should I continue pretending to like him?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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It's probably a crush, if you don't have feelings for him anymore then don't force those feelings out. Love takes time to grow to a point where it stands strong. If it didn't happen this way then I don't think you should go ahead
Yeah i have that problem he ignores my message what should ido?
Hey Sweetie! Thanks for the comment. It is definitely a crush. Please and please, do not pretend to like him... it is misleading and not advisable. How will you feel if someone did the same thing to you? We are sure that you won't like it. We hope this helps
Can a crush later become love?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
I have a crush on two boys
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Big Sis
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
I av a crush nd i tink my frnd lyks him nd am very jelly
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hey Active! Thanks for the comment. You have a crush on this guy and crushes tend to die after a while. We understand the need to feel jealous however, you need to know that crushes don't last for a long time. So what happens when you no longer have a crush on him? Think about it well. We hope this helps
I had a crush on a boy once although I mistook it for love. I wanted to be his girlfriend so bad. I saw him everyday we talked, laughed, that's this cute smile he has I liked. All of a sudden we became to grow tired of each other and that's the end of our friendship that I thought would grow. We rarely talk to each other now.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Big sis plz I need an answer,actually am not sure if it is a crush or am in love I like one of my classmate I like everything about him and I think he also like me do when we are doing water carnival in school I don't want to get wet so I just stay inside the class am just helping the student to get some water so that they can use so we are four in number me my two friends and him my friends were standing at the front and I and the guy is at the back we are all going the two girls they are far from us so unfortunately I slip all because everywhere is wet so I fell on him he quickly catch me but the way he was looking at me I thought something is wrong I quickly stand up and go and meet my friend's my heart beats so fast did I really love him
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Fifi! Thanks for the comment. This is not enough to know if you love a guy or not. However, you are in a better position to say this. Now to guide you, you need to sincerely answer these questions; What exactly do you love about him (not based on what he has told you in the past). What qualities does he possess? Do you think he knows you well enough? If so, how well does he know you? So Fifi, you need to know that love is deep. Deeper than what we usually call it. You need to take time to know what it is that you like about this guy and what it is that you want from a relationship (please be honest to yourself). Match them both and see if they even tally. We hope this helps
Hi dis awesome am glad to be a spring term der is dis girl I love so much to the exstex I do go market bye her shoe even give her money 4her hear we are not wet relationship but thou to my work schedule I do call her she won't pick my calls even I do send her trxt message she won't reply and she is da only one I HV dis feelings 4 what should I do in dis case.Is it cruch or love.Thanks
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Springtser! Thanks for the comment. You could be in love with her but the question is does she feel the same way? Have you asked her how she feels about you? Do you feel like buying her all these things will make her like you or are you trying to win her love through these means? If this is eventually love, you need to know that it has to be a two way thing and if it is not so, then the purpose is defeated. We advise that you get to know her better and be sure that you really really like her (You have to be honest with yourself though). Also, you need to talk to a trusted adult about this too. We hope this helps
hello big sis there is this girl i love positively any way. But i don't knw how 2 tell her pls teach me.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. You need to get to know her better and talk to her more before you start to express how you feel to her. Love is really deep and we feel like you need to understand the person better and not just act based on what she says to you. We hope this helps
plz ,am new here. actually, i have a boyfriend whom i really love but sometimes i always feel like i am not the right girl for him. i always feel,i didnt worth him nd i dont know y. have tried all means to end d relationship with him but he would never agree cos he always said he loves me.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey becky! Thanks for the comment. Why do you feel like you are not the right girl for him and not worth him? What circumstances make you think of these? You need to believe that you are good enough. Do not for any reason look down on yourself. Girl, you are more than enough. You should not be in a relationship because you want a guy to complete you, you should be complete and enough for yourself first before you get into a relationship. We hope this helps
plz ,am new here. actually, i have a boyfriend whom i really love but sometimes i always feel like i am not the right girl for him. i always feel,i didnt worth him nd i dont know y. have tried all means to end d relationship with him but he would never agree cos he always said he loves me.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Ok think I have been crushing on someone for 3 years Do I love him
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Hi Big sis! Have been dating him for 3months nd i love him though he has broke my heart before....And i do doubt his love for me because he do things he just pleases as if am d one forcing him in a relationship calls me anytime he wishes nd if i call he won't pick it sometimes...And most especially he do command me as if he's my daddy ...Big sis what's ur opinion about this because me am fed out about this
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Ariyike! Thanks for the comment. You have already answered your question because you have the final say. The fact that you are fed up is enough to end the relationship. We advise that move on and end the relationship and stop trying to patch things up. We hope this helps
I Have Crush Oh Yes And We Keep Promising
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Well.. i have had a crush before. In my secondary school. I liked the guy alot.. really i did. And i realized he was after me first that's what ignited my feelings for him. Later on he asked me out and i refused. We graduated and till now he hasnt spoken to me since we graduated 2016. But till now i still do have feelings for him. Lol.. Though i have not seen him for years.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Peace! Thanks for the comment. It happens that way sometimes. He stopped talking to you because he was hurt and probably does not know how to handle rejection and it is totally fine. We hope this helps
Yes I have a crush but I don't know if he likes even though he wrap is arms around me sometimes .I think he is just being friendly but that is not how he behave to everyone else. Does he like me?
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Tina! Thanks for the comment. We cannot know for a fact if he likes you or not. Have you considered asking him how he feels about you? This is the only way you can genuinely know if he likes you or not. Note that you may be hurt if he says no but then again, what if he likes you too? We hope this helps
Hi! Big sister but don't you think it is vrey difficult for a girl to walk up to a boy and ask him about his feeling about her. And I know that he is a confused guy , because he was asking me that do I have a val yet and I told him no and he was like should I ask you to be my val, but I said I don't know and was about to walk away before my friends came in . I was shy because that was the first time someone will ask me that type of questions
It's normal to have a crush on someone, but crush can end up to start a strong relationship
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
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Hey Tsam! Thanks for the comment. Crush is not love but sometimes, it can be confused with love sometimes. However, sometimes, crush can develop into love but you need to be careful not to mix things up. It is better if you seek counsel from a trusted adult. We hope this helps
I am new here,I noticed that I easily have feelings for d opposite sex. my mom says I should not give room to any relationship now but face my book for now...I find it difficult to know if a boy really loves me or not cause an what people call very beautiful last year September, I met a boy on fb we are friends he asked me to date him but I refused..,.he says he won't force me but will wait for wen am ready...I fear being too close to him cos he used to watch phonographic videos and I don't trust him even though he says he has stopped n DAT he loves me n wants to marry me in future do u think it's possible or do u think we are made for each other I
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
I have feelings for this guy it started unexpectedly we don't talk we are schoolmate i really have this feelings deep inside of me he has graduates for more than 3 months ago but i still have this feelings is this love or crush
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
The first time i had feelings for this guy i was shy to talk to him that was in 2016 with time i began to be my self around him..I feel save with him, i can stand by him or stay with him without being scared to come close to him..and now i have fallen deeply in love with him, I once tried to remove him from my head but it's impossible..he loves me so much,it's like i drive him crazy because I'm naturally beautiful..wherever i go.guys look at me like they fall for me..he is willing to wait for me and actually wants to marry me when the time is right..but my problem is that he can't face ne me and tell me how he feels about me???.i actually found out my self, he keeps looking at me ...and gets lost ..he doesn't know i have fallen in love with him.i don't want him to know..I'm scared if my parents don't accept him...all i want is for him to happy the same he wants for me...
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
I think am having a crush on 2 guy's big sis what should i do
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
Mine is crush not love.I just like her
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
Hello big sis,why do i always have a feeling on opposite sex,mine is too much,i can even start imageing things like,me fighting for her..pls is it normal what.
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
There is this boy 3 yrs older than me when i see with other girls i get sad when am with him in one room for just few minute i feel happy when i imagine him in my mind my heart stars pounding fast is this crush or love
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.