Look out for these warning signs
Imagine this. You meet a nice guy. You like him and he likes you too. Everyone says you’re the luckiest girl in the world. Next thing, he turns into someone else.
Sound familiar? Well, you’re not alone. Some people are not who they say they are. So in relationships, you need to watch out for red flags. Here’s what you need to know:
He gets jealous
It’s not normal for a guy to be jealous all the time. If he always accuses you of cheating, it’s a clear sign of trouble. Same thing if he’s suspicious of every call and text. Or cuts you off from your family and friends.
He tells you what to do
When a guy is insecure, it affects the way he treats you. He’ll tell you what to wear. Or what to do. Or who to talk to. But you have the right to make your own choices. So you should be with someone who respects this and values your intelligence. Instead of someone who wants to control you.
He doesn’t respect you
Name-calling is a no-no. A guy should never say rude or insulting things to you. It’s not okay for him to mock you or laugh at you. All this can destroy your self-esteem and make you feel worthless. Stay away from people who put you down.
He stops talking to you
Some guys use silence as a weapon. For example, after both of you quarrel, he’ll start ignoring you. Then if you try to break up with him, he’ll threaten to harm himself. He’ll even say he can’t live without you. These are cheap tricks to make you stay with him. Not cool at all.
He shouts at you
Maya Angelou said, “When people show you who they are, believe them.” Wise words. Avoid hanging out with guys who get upset over the smallest thing. Avoid guys who yell, curse, threaten you, or hit you or anyone else. There’s no excuse for this horrible behaviour. No relationship is worth you losing your peace or self esteem.
If you’re in any of these situations, please end the relationship immediately. And if a guy hits or threatens you, don’t keep quiet. Talk to a trusted adult or report to the police.
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What should be ones reaction to boys who uses silence as a weapon?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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your mind tells you what's next!
Hey Augustina! Thanks for the comment. The first thing you should do is to talk to him about the way he is acting. If he doesn't listen or change, give him some space and while you are at it, do not let it bother you. Just live your life and enjoy it. But whenever he gets over it, you both have to sit down and set things straight. No mature person should ever use silence as a weapon. Communication is always very important in every relationship. We hope this helps
there's a guy who only calls when he wants sex. if you call him on a regular day or ask him for financial support, he will just disappear and appear when you have solved d problem. next he will call to take u to a hotel. some guys are irritating
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey pirate! You shouldn't be doing anything with that guy. He is obviously just using you for sex only. You also shouldn't be with someone for just what you want to get from them. Please, we advise that you cut off all forms of communication with him for your good. We hope this helps
wel is nt fair
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Whats not fair?
am talking about the story!!!
it not fair
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if a guy treat u like dat u av to quit d relationship
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Hello bigsis
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
am I young to have a boyfriend? 14
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Hey fnly! There is no particular time to have a boyfriend but this is a personal decision. Starting a relationship is about you being ready for the responsibilities that come with being in a relationship. We hope this helps
Hey fnly! You're too young to have a boyfriend
THE TRUTH IS BITTER BUT WE HAVE TO SAY IT, U ARE TOO VERY YOUNG, THE LAW SAYS THE LEAST AGE IS EIGHTEEN(18)OR ABOVE.
fnly you can have a bf only if you can carry out the relationship as big sis said and CALIDON ,there is no law that states that bf and gf is for people of 18 and above rather there is a law that states that from 18 and above are adult and there are even some adults that can't even handle a relationship so when you can have a bf fnly is only when you are ready for it thanks.
A friend of mine was hit by her boyfriend because she told him to stop womanizing. Now after few days he came back apologising and now she is asking me if she should accept him back or quit the relationship?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Pretty! This is a personal decision for her to make. However, violence or battery in NOT allowed in any relationship. Also, since he womanises and she knows about it, what exactly is she still doing in that relationship? She should not settle just because she wants to be in a relationship. The guy is not worth the stress and really, he will still repeat this and come back begging. We hope this helps
Wat about a guy dat u offend bt will be d 1 begging u.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Robin! Thanks for the comment. Does this always happen? Do you always apologise whenever he does something wrong? If yes, then you shouldn't be in that relationship because it is obvious that he never accepts his fault or the fact that he is also wrong. The final decision is up to you. We hope this helps
Pls I have a question, is it right to still have sex with a girl that is pregnant already, she could be your wife or girlfriend, I want to know if someone can still sex a lady with pregnancy. am a guy and I wants to know pls?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Ami! Thanks for the comment. There is nothing wrong with having sex with a pregnant woman. We hope this helps
Hey big sis, I have a boyfriend whom I like very much and hr likes me too but wen we quarrel he starts avoiding me,ignores my texts and doesn't call even in sickness,h e always accuse me of having other boyfriends which I don't, I think he is jealous. I always have to the one to reconcile with him,once I have tried waiting for him to come himself but he doesn't,inatead he started talking if break up,wich he apologized later,am afraid I might loose him if I kip waiting for him to say sorry after a quarrel,I cant also live in fear of making him angry,wat do I do pls?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Bliss! No one should ever use silent treatment on you. Your boyfriend is obviously very jealous and insecure and you do not have to pay for such insecurity. Anyone that can never accept his fault and apologise when he is wrong is really arrogant and that is dangerous. You need to talk to your boyfriend about this and let him know how you feel about his behavior. Keeping quiet will not solve anything so let him know how you feel. We hope this helps
I really need opinions on matters, my parents hate my girlfriend, they really want me to brea
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Emiola! Thanks for the comment. Do you have an idea why your parents hate your girlfriend? Talk to them about this and know why they hate her. Communication is also very important. We hope this helps
sorry about dis emiola i think u should talk to ur parent and change their mindset
Hi bigsis am i too young to have a BF,i will be 13 years old
I lied to my bf DAT am pregnant, an e was accusing me of being pregnant for someone else, e got angry with me, but we have nt break up,I need him back,wat should I do
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Shelty! Thanks for the comment. That is a very sensitive topic to joke with. You shouldn't be doing that no matter what your intention is. Please, do not joke with things like that. Have you both had sex before? If yes, did you use protection? If you have never had sex before, then he has every right to accuse you of that. The final decision is up to you to make. We hope this helps
I don't know why my girl stop responding to me. I text her and no response. Even if I call her she will tell me that she is busy.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey 1234! maybe she's tired of the relationship and have moved on, so I suggest you should move on too.
Hey 1234! Thanks for opening up through this comment. There could be so many reasons behind this but assuming won't solve the problem. We know communication is an issue between you too but you both need to talk about this. Find out why she stopped responding to you and why she is keeping a distance. Communication is very important in every relationship. Please talk things out and let her know how you feel. We hope this helps
Hey CHOMMY! Thanks for the comment. However, your comment is assuming and conclusive. There are so many reasons why the girl is being distant and concluding that she is no longer interested and that your fellow Springster is not right because it may not be true. We know that you are trying to help out but next time, try to suggest a form of communication between them instead of concluding okay? We see your responses and we appreciate them. Thanks
am in luv wit a guy nd d guy loves me very much,if I tell him too do any thing he will always do it.but now he is no longer calling me,although he misplaced his. phone but should at least call me.but he did not call,don't know wat happening to him.big sis can u tell me wat to do
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey sunshine! Thanks for the comment. You already mentioned that he misplaced his phone so that can be a reason why he no longer calls. However, the big problem we see here is the fact that you have made it his responsibility to call you. If doesn't call, why can't you also call him. If you love him, you will always make a move to call and keep in touch. Being in a relationship comes with a lot of responsibilities and this is one of them. Please note that it is not only the guy that should call and keep in touch, it is the responsibility of you both to do that. We hope this helps
Hey big sis i have a crush on a guy... Bt it seems he gets irritated by my sight and he even rolled his eyes at me one day
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Perpie! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about that. But the fact that you have a crush on someone does not mean that they have to automatically like you. He probably doesn't feel the same way about you. The good thing is that you only have a crush on him so it will easily fade away. We hope this helps
there is dis boy i love and he also loves me too but i later found dat he is still communicating with his ex and i later discovered dat dat his ex still luv im,nd whenever i confronted my boy,he always tell me dat he has nothing with her i.e just only a conversation.Big sis,pls help me on what to do cos i still luv dat guy and he also love me bt am scares cos we girls,we hav dat trick.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey olex! Thanks for the comment. You should talk to this guy about how uncomfortable you feel with the way he communicates with his ex. Communication is very important in relationships. Do not fight him or quarrel with him. Just be serious when telling him about how you feel. It is okay to feel insecure about things like this. We hope this helps
thank very much
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Tnks 4 dat big sis
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tnx very much big sis
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I love this
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Big sis u have been helping us a lot thanks
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
big sister, I'm in a relationship with a guy I love, i have led down my principles bcus I love him....anytime we have a misunderstanding ND it his fault I apologize just to make him feel happy...am not happy bcus I don't want to end up with a man I sacrifice my happiness for... I really love him ND I don't want to lose him, what should I do?? Thank you Big Sister...
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Goodness! Thanks for the comment. You should not let down your principles because of love. Your principles are your standards and anyone that does not meet up should not be in your life. The fact that you are not happy is enough for you to move on. Your happiness is more important than man. Never be in a relationship with a man that does not make you happy. He is worth losing if it means that you are happy. The final decision is up to you to make but please know that your happiness is all that matters. We hope this helps
Thanks Alot Big Sis I Have Learn't Alot From Your Post
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Good morning guys,i this is also for the girls to the guys treating them badly in teams for fake love and money.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Hi big sister, I'm new here,I have a boyfriend,he always chat wit his ex girlfriend, he abandon me and chat wit his ex girlfriend, when they are thru wit their chat,then he will reply my messages,so I chatted wit d girl,I asked her if she is in love wit my boyfriend, she said she is just a friend,I confronted my boyfriend, he said they are just friends,my question is shud I continue wit d relationship or end it
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Alreen! Thanks for the comment. You need to tell him that you do not feel comfortable with this "friendship" he has with his ex. Communication is very important in every relationship and you both need to learn how to talk things out. The final decision is up to you to make. We hope this helps
Big Sister,i Just Met A Guy ,,,but There Is One I Thing I Love About Him,he Likes Smiling And I Got Carried Away With Those Smiles.He Claim To Love Me But Am Afraid Because I Dont Know If He Truly Do As He Said.How Can I Kw That He Loves Me For Real Big Sis?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey fabulous! Thanks for the comment. First of all, do you like this guy in question? Loving someone's smile sounds like a crush to us. What do you really like about his personality? You also do not trust him. This is beyond what he feels about you because how you feel also matters a lot. You need to figure this out first. We advise you to read the article "Does He Like Me?" We hope this helps
Ok
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Hi big sis,how can u stop loving someone (your boyfriend)?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Izzy3! There is no manual for this and you really cannot force it. It is something that happens naturally and so we cannot tell you anything regarding this. However, we will like to know why you want to stop loving someone. We look forward to a response from you. Thanks
Hi big sis,how can u stop loving someone (your boyfriend)?
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Patient Is The Most In Relationship
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yes
Hi Big Sister,i've got a problem.I've a boyfriend whom i love so much,and he tells me he also loves me.But I think i'm not the only girl he's seeing,his friends also tell me that.I've confronted him with it two times but he doesn't answer my questions definitely.I don't know what to do.I love him but I always feel hurt.Should i let go of him?,Or should i keep managing it that way?
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Hey Reeta! Thanks for the comment. You need to ask him for a definite answer. The fact that he is not going straight to the point with his answer is suspicious already. Be persistent and you should also ask others around too. Be sure of this first before you make a decision. When you finally find out, the final decision will be up to you to make. We hope this helps
Thanks Big Sis!
lies
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pls l had a boyfriend that lloved so much , but now his going after my best friend without telling me its over , pls what should l do about this situation.
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Hey K2K2! Do nothing about it. If he had to go after your best friend when he is still dating you. He doesn't deserve you at all. You deserve better than this. Please move on and leave him to continue chasing other girls. Moving on can be hard but you will be fine. We hope this helps
All you just need to do na is to call him and talk some sense into him and that your so called best friend
You can still ask talk to him about it tho.... Rather than walking alone since you say you love him
If a guy is treating you in that way,one day,you also try him by threatening to kill yourself and you'll see some changes.
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If a guy ask a lady out, she should test him by doing thinks she knows will upset him and then observe his immediate reaction. By that she will be able his temperament
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He keeps talking bad about you Its good when he talk about you to his friends, but what kind of information does he likes to spread. Is it the type that makes all his friend laugh when ever they see you, or how well does he keeps your secret
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
big sister please I can't still see any replies please what can I do.
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Hey jbaby005! Kindly check the articles for big sister's response to your comments. We hope this helps
EH Big sister the things I have seen in this Lagos with boyus ehn, I don't trust their smile anyway. I will rather get to know them first and not allow their smile put me in trouble
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Hey NaijaFineGirl! Thanks for the comment. We totally understand how you feel but we really love the way you are taking this because it is always best to know the person first before taking it to another level. We are not telling you to trust every guy but the truth is that not all guys are out to deceive you. Thanks for this amazing comment and we hope other Springsters will learn from this.
yea this is pretty cool especially when the guys feels he is wiser than u nd trys to play games wit u
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Not all smiles are fake
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Omarionjinxy01! Thanks for the comment. We did not say or imply that all smiles are fake, what this article is about is to show girls warning signs to know when a smile is fake. We hope this helps
There are other warning signs in relationships.A guy should never playfully hit you and should never be domineering in a relationship. A lady should try to make a guy understand that you guys are on the same level and you want to bee treated as an equal in the relationship and nothing less.
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one should not just trust any guy first watch him closely
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Hi everyone. Feeling loved meeting u all fr d first time
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Can i get ur number
I have lent my lessons in love you dont have to give all u got or u might go crezy at the end that is what am faceing now
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Krisly I have told you just leave the past behind I beg of you please what has happened has happened and nothing can change that please I hope you found love someday.
Hi, I think that feeling in love will be the must crazy thing I will think of because it end badly. He might leave you , chase your friend, sister and give you gift and for sex in return, and if you guys are not using condom you might get pregnant In fact, I pity the girls.
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I think the relationship must end in order to avoid more trouble
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Even when a guy do what you hate like press your breast and bottom said to he that you do not like it
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hello guys,how is your day going,mine is great cause am no longer sad I learnt that been sad can't change any situation you find yourself in just keep on been happy never let your enemies removes those beauty smiles from your faces cause your smiles makes you more special keep smiling and keep moving. big sis why I was sad was became of someone I called my friend let me down which made me sad but now am happy thanks a lot for in concern in my emotional life
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am new here
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hi mek u are highly welcome to springster.YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!
Hi Mek u are very much welcome to this platform,can we be friends?
I guys am new here
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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welcome to this wonderful platform. now a springster!!!!!
Welcome Mek.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Hi Love, You are proudly welcome.
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
WHEN A GUY ALWAYS WANTS YOU TO MEET IN QUIET,DARK OR QUIET PLACES.HE HAS A MOTIVE IN MIND.
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
Hey they is this girl we talk all the time I dont no how to tell I I love her
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Hey Jbless247! Thanks for the comment. Love is really deep and much more that what we always call it. How sure are you that you are in love with her? How well do you know this girl beyond what you both talk about? Talking to her does not mean that you know her. We advise that you take your take and get to know her better first before you tell her that you love her. We hope this helps
I luv dis guy named shamsudeen but I don't no hw to tell him pls help
my boyfriend always get jealous now I know it's trouble I'll stay away from him
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
most of them are deceitful, Heartbreakers . I think waiting is the best
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My boyfriend always ask me for sex, when ever I visit him and he don't want me to make friends with boys anymore!!! What should I do?
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