How my mother helped me
I was 10 years old when a guy first approached me. I can remember the day very well. I was at my parent’s shop as usual in front of our home. My mum had gone to the market and my younger ones to school. My dad was also not around.
An older boy who lives around my house came to buy something. I noticed he was looking at me in a funny way that made me uncomfortable. I tried to avoid his look. I asked him what he wanted to buy. He kept making silly advances at me as I packed the items he came to buy. It made me feel so uncomfortable.
I noticed after that day that he started coming to the shop more often. Sometimes he tried to get me to come out of the shop to meet him. He even asked me to meet him at the backyard where no one would see us. I made sure every time he asked me to meet him I said no. This is because I knew meeting him alone could be risky.
No matter how much I said no he refused to give up. He kept trying to get me to meet him.
I knew I had to do something to make him stop. And so one day while talking to my mum I noticed she was in a good mood. I thought to myself now is a good time to report this guy to my mum. And so when we were quiet I said “Mum there is this person that keeps coming to disturb me in the shop, I have asked him to stop coming but he won’t listen. He always asks me to meet him at the back yard but I have never answered him!”
My mum asked who the person was and I told her about him.
My mum went straight to their house and reported him to his step mother. She warned him seriously. Since that day he has stopped disturbing me.
Now I am happier that he no longer disturbs me. I also feel proud of myself for being able to report this to someone that is older than me.
Years have passed since the incident happened. Sometimes when I see him I just remember how he made me feel so uncomfortable with his advances. I even imagine what could have happened if I had remained too scared to report.
Thanks to my action I now know how to confront other boys on my street who are also disturbing me and asking me to date them.
For the stubborn ones I report them to my parents.
I am not scared to report anyone or speak for myself. You too can do the same.
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nice story
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Nice story😊
great .kip it up girl.:)
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
i'm facing problem like this but wenever i tried reportin to my mum she be like"you are a girl and u won't marry urself there's notin wrong wit a guy askin u to be his girl friend that i shld use my sense in dealing with them" . I feel so shy and uncomfortable whenever a guy approach me for friendship wot's wrong wit me plz??
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Ntin X Rong Wit U, U Ave 2 Mk A Tight Decision 4 urself
Hey chrisdove! Your mum is very correct. You do not need to be shy or uncomfortable when a boy approaches you. They are humans like you and it is perfectly normal for boys and girls to be just friends. Do not get worried for nothing okay, all you need to do is to losen up when you are around boys and see them as friends too. Your mum is amazing and it is good to see that she is teaching you how to build good friendships even with the opposite sex. We hope this helps
There is nothing wrong with you stand on ur feet and shine ur eyes
There Was A Guy, I Don't Knw Hw He Get My Pix. He As Show It 2 All X Family Bt I Didn't Accept His Proposal, Fortunately He Didn't Cm To Me As He Use To Do B4. Did He Luv Me Like Dat?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Abitem! Thanks for the comment. Love is beyond just sharing your picture with others, it is deeper than that. Please, do not use this act to determine whether he loves you or not. You need to have an understanding of what you want in a partner and what you also want in a relationship so that little acts like this won't confuse you. We hope this helps
Is true my sister we should be bold enough to open up to our especially our mother and also with stand it
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
I HAVE A CRUSH ON A BOY ONCE BUT I DID'NTSEE HIM AGAIN NOW HE IS BACK DO YOU THINK I WILL LIKE HIM AGAIN?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey JUILET! We cannot say if you like the boy again. You are in the best position to know this. However, if you have to think about it, then the chances of you still liking him are slim. If you still like someone, you will really not be asking others if you like the person or not because you will just know. We hope this helps
A friend of mine once rebuked me bitterly, she said telling my mum things like that shows that I'm a baby and that I should grow up and be wise. She said next time I should thrash things like that myself as I had a similar experience to this
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. There is nothing wrong with you telling your mum things. As long as you are comfortable with it, you can go ahead and do that. We always need a trusted adult that will guide us. You need to watch that friend because that is not a good advice she gave you. Please, still feel free to talk to your mum whenever you want to. It doesn't make you a baby but rather, it makes you understand how to handle situations better because you are guided. We hope this helps
hmmm das true
I have a cousin who keeps disturbing me he even goes naked in my front what should I do
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
I have a cousin who keeps disturbing me he even goes naked in my front what should I do
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
It is a good you did girl ,girls always try to speak out.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
It is always good to start against them
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
girl talk to your parent about something you dont know
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
BIG SIS PLS HELP ME OUT MY YOUNG COUSIN SIS OF14 WAS RAPED RECENTLY LAST WEEK BY THEIR PASTORS SON IN LAGOS BECAUSE GOES TO THEIR PASTORS PLACE ALMOST AND SHE TOOK HIM AS HER ELDER BROTHER HER MOM SOMTIMES PERMITS HER AND HER YOUNGER SIBLINGS TO GO TO THE PASTORS PLACE UNTIL THE UGLY INCIDENT OCCURED HER PARENTS DID NOT NOTICE AT FIRST BECAUSE SHE WAS SHY AND SCARED OF TELLING THEM THEY STARTED NOTICING THAT EVERYTHING ABOUT HER CHAGED AND SHE WALKS AS THOUGH THERE WAS A NAIL PIRCED UNDER HER LEGS AND THEN SHE WAS CONFRONTED BY HER PARENTS AND SHE LATER CONFESSED AND THEN HER PARENTS WENT IN SEARCH OF THE PASTORS SON WITH POLICE AND HE IS NO WHERE TO BE FOUND THEY JUST SO CONFUSED AND STRANDED RIGHT NOW BIG SIS WHAT WE DO WHAT IF SHE GETS PREGNANT OR INFECTED WITH STD
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey GRACE! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry for what your cousin went through. We were going to tell you to tell your cousin to talk to a trusted adult about this. The good thing is that her parents are aware of it and she is not being blamed for what happened. They are in the best position to handle this situation. The best thing you can do for her right now is to support her and be there for her because this is a very tough time for her. Big sister will be here for you both whenever you need her. We hope this helps
BIG SIS WHAT DO WE DO PLEAS REPLY WE ARE CONFUSED DONT IGNORE ME PLEAS
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Brave one
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
I LOVE UR WAY GAL,KIP IT UP
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
telling your mom was the right thing to do
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
Hi cod
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.