What to do when you like two guys
Dear Big Sister,
Peter and Wale are my best friends. I’ve known them since I was small. When I’m in trouble, Peter helps me out. When I’m sad, Wale makes me laugh. They mean so much to me.
But now things have changed. Whenever I see Peter, my heart starts beating very fast. I feel all weird and funny inside. I think I want to be more than friends with him. But my heart also beats faster when I see Wale! I think I want to be more than friends with him too. *
I don’t know which of them I like more. I don’t want to lose my two besties. I don’t know what to do, Big Sister! Help!
Regards,
Young and Confused*
Hey Springster!
First of all, you’re not young and confused. You’re completely normal. As we grow, our bodies and feelings change. It’s nothing to be ashamed or scared of. We’ve all been there.
When you’re alone, who do you think about most—Peter or Wale? Whose company do you enjoy more? This will help you figure out who you like more.
It’s important to be with someone who really likes you too. So keep an eye on Wale and Peter. Have they shown any sign that they don’t want to be ‘just friends’? Who makes excuses to be alone with you the most? If you’re true to yourself, you’ll have your answer.
Try hanging out in open places with them. You’ll get to know their hobbies and dreams. You’ll also see how they treat you and others in public. Your boyfriend should never put you down.
Remember, it’s okay not to date Wale or Peter. You can change your mind if you want. Dating is cool, but having friends is way cooler.
I hope this helps. Good luck.
Lots of love,
Big Sister
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I HAD THIS EXPERIENCE MY OPINION IS THAT CHOOSE WALE
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
I my opinion i choose peter.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
LIKE DIS
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
I like two guys Joshua and Abraham but Abraham lives far from me bt I attend the same skill acquisition sch with Joshua Hw am I to know d one I really like
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Springster! You are in the best position to know who you like the most. Like in the story above, you need to ask yourself certain questions asked in the article. We hope this helps
my mum told me dat u can only have a bf wen u are 18+ but I'm having a crush on some one shud I disobey my mum?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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U should obey her cause she has a reason for that try ask her about her past then u know y she said so besides if u obey ur parents u will live longer and also remembered the outcome of any decision u make now cause it will affect ur future who knowns u maybe happy if u follow ur mom advice
Hey surpy! Your mum has her reasons for telling you this. Of course we can't tell you to disobey your mum. All we know is that a crush is usually short lived and has a tendency of dying faster than you think. You can talk to your mum about the crush. We hope this helps
hi big sis! more power to your elbows ma! I'm a virgin! my boyfriend was using his penis to romance my Virginal along the line, he released!! and I just finished my period a day before! but he didn't insert his penis! does that means I'm pregnant!
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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pls answer me
Your funny...... If the p*nis wasn't anywhere inside your female body.... No need to panic.....
Hey adumasha! Please talk to a trusted adult and do a pregnancy test to be sure. We hope this helps
IT IS SAID ACTIONS SPEAK BETTER THAN WORDS.IN ONE WAY OR ANOTHER HINTS ARE DROPPED,IT UR JOB TO BE AT ALERT
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Their reciprocation to your love is the beginning of the conclusion.. As the big sister said.... Watch what they like and figure out if you like those things too.... Check out on who loves you... Or loves you more.. Don't make mistakes.. Lots of love
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hello big sister i want to tell you something. One day when i was going to buy fuel a boy came skating beside me he asked me about myself i told him and i asked him about himself too and now i can't seem to concentrate on anything he has filled up my head and i want to be seeing him everyday,and there's this my primary school classmate that was coming to my house and buying me gifts i don't know what got into me and i took the gifts until one day when my mum was at home she shouted at them and they ran his school bus drives past my house every morning BIG SISTER WHAT DO I DO?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hello Stephanie! You are just like many girls your age, you're noticing boys more and starting to like them and that is completely normal. The important thing is to know this and remember that it is most important to get to know yourself at this time. Understand more about what you like and what you don't, the way you act in different situations, the type of personality you have. You can also get to know a few boys so you know more about the kind of boys you like. Don't rush into anything, this is your time to explore and make good friends. We hope this helps.
u hav to choose d one ur hrt desire ok
The discision Is yours dear.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
There is dis girl i met three years ago. I approached her and ask her if we can be friends. Nd she accepted. As time pass by i decided to tell her my decision to make our relationship to be more than a friends. But she refused. She said dat she can't date me dat she needed more tym. And i told her I'm ready to wait until she's ready. But unfortunately she left the town. But distance is not enough to stop me from loving her so i keep calling her. And keep reminding her about her promises. Whenever i made mention of relationship she got annoyed and refuse to talk to me. Suddenly she blocked me from Facebook and changed her number. So ever seen then i stop luving i av not been able to cope in any relationship cus i don't think i can love any other than her. All i need is only her. She has taken away my heart. I search for her new account, lucky this year i founded it and she accepted me. She even like most of my post on Facebook. I msg her 'good morning' and she replyed by 'morning. But since i sent her how are you? She refuse to reply. I'm even afraid to say anything to her cus her status is saying she's in a relationship. Pls Big sister i don't wanna lose her. I don't want any guy to hurt her. Meeting her has made me no to be able to cope in any relationship anymore. I'm dying........................... Pls help me what can i do?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hello Akin! Thanks for sharing this with us, we can imagine how hard this is for you. We know it is hard to hear but we think you should try to not to stay in touch with her anymore. You have tried all you can and she does not encourage you to continue. To save yourself more heart ache, please try and start getting her out of your mind. She is not even in the same town so it will be a bit hard to even have a relationship if she agreed. But the main thing is that she has not agreed and you have to respect her choice. We know it is hard to stop loving someone. But you can try. Look for more things to do to get her out of your mind. When you notice that you are thinking of her and how to contact her, get up and do something else. Call a friend that knows about the situation and tell them to talk to you about other things. Try and meet more people - boys and girls. It will take some time but we believe you will move on one day. We hope this helps.
Hi Akin I know how u feel cause I've hurt a guy like that there's something she doesn't want to tell u but hope u understand so think about her as a friend and not more maybe one day u will see what she really want. I hope what I'm saying will also help.
u can't force a gal into relationship beside i think she is not ready for it but u can still be frnd with her but it's gud u told her abt ur feelin ok
i support big sis on dis 1 trying forgettin ha d world doesnt end witout ha
i once had a she like u d xame story,but her case was different she dated both at once and lose both d xame time,so u better choose one nt two
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
is it good n supported for a girl or lady to stand n approach a guy when she hv hv feelings fo him?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey lizzy! There is absolutely nothing wrong with it as long as she is comfortable with it. There is no rule that says a girl cannot speak up if she likes a guy. We hope this helps
Big sister der is dis guy im so much in luv with i really luv him bt d problem is our religion im a christian nd he is a muslim nd im nt ready 2 loss him bt im scared of my parent findin out im confuse pls wat shud i do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Czee! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Love is a beautiful thing. Do not get scared, it will definitely affect your relationship. Enjoy your relationship for now, when that time comes for all of that, you will face it. Don't let this affect your happiness. We hope this helps.
THANKS I LV IT
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hi sis, is it normal for a female to av feelings for her female friend?
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What kind of feeling
Hey mizzs421! There is nothing wrong with it but lIke A.j.b asked, what kind of feelings? Please sahre with us. Thanks
I think it's totally normal. You see, we're all growing and with the ragging hormones and all you may like a girl even though you are a girl but you shouldn't dwell on it (don't think you're a lesbian) it'll pass... I promise
I thing its not normal
it depends on the kind of feeling. But as for me i think it is not normal
pls i can't see my comments here, except if i reply to another person comment help plz.
To me i dont think it is normal
The this guy in my church i love and de guy love me, but i can not tell him how i feel what should i do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Springster! First of all, you need to be sure that you are in love with him and not that you have a crush on him. Also, what makes think that he loves you too. You need to be sure so that you do not assume and get more dissappointed. Talk to him and become friends with him first. Get to know him better. Don't rush anything okay? We hope this helps
big sis pls am in a relationship with a guy nd ah really love him wen ah accepted him we wer close to each other and now he has vacated and we r not close (I.e a distance relationship) its affecting me ah promise him dat ah will be faithful to him till de day we r together tho we due call and chat bt is absent is making crush on anoda guy and am not always comfortable with dat feelings aw can ah get rid of dat feelings of crushing on anoda guy(the guy we do talk, is fun to be wid bt wat ah am feeling is lust nt love) aw cn ah get rid of dat feelings pls big sis
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey grachi! Thanks for opening up through this comment. If you are sure it is a crush, then the feelings are bound to die soon. A crush is shortlived/ doesn't last long. However, do not overwork yourself. Talk to your boyfriend more often. Let him know that you really miss him so that you both can keep in touch more. Do not let this bother you because it can affect your relationship with him. We hope this helps
please ion have a girlfriend but some of them disturb me a lot should I avoid them or get into one
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Ikechukwu504! You do not have to go into a relationship because you are under pressure. No, that's a wrong thing to do. You are to go into a relationship when you are ready because relationships come with lots of responsibilities. We hope this helps
Actually,there is this guy am having a crush on,but i don't know if he feels the same way am feeling,we don't even talk to each other,but when ever we hear something funny,we smile facing each other.Why?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Thanks Cordy m with u on this
i dnt tink he does just approach him and tel him how u feel or else u forget about him
There's this guy I had a crush on. When ever I am chatting with him, he always ask about my love life but I am not sure if he does love me
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Janet2! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Why don't you find out if he loves you. We can only assume but he is in a better position to tell you if he loves you or not. We hope this helps
Pls i am in love with a girl but i dont know how to approach her nd what to tell her pls i need help.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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If you don't tell her there is no How she will know you love her cause she might actually be in love wit you so u need to gather yourself and confess your love to her
i am afraid she may tell me that she already has a boy friend and she may likely turn my request down what else can i do?
Yeah! alice u spk d truth out.caleb u jst a'v 2 b a man,jst be brave nd approach her.hpe it wil help
Thanks!
Hey Celeb! There is nothing wrong with you talking to a girl you like. The truth is that there are 2 likely answers you will get... A yes or a No! If it is a yes, then we are sure you will be happy about it. If she says No, it is not the end of the world. Do you know that rejections can sometimes make you stronger? Yes! When someone says No, it doesn't mean that you are not good enough. It means that you are not just what they want in a partner. So don't take rejections too hard okay. But also consider the fact that it could be a Yes too. The best way to know is to give it a shot okay? We hope this helps
But how can i know if she has the same crush unlike me?
hey big sis I am lonely and it's seems like boys don't like to be friends with me while all my friends have boyfriends I feel lonely what should I do..
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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I sure you will get Wat your are looking for when it's the right time
This is gud advice
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
dis is a gud advice gven 2 u by big sis.jst wrk wit it nd see
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
dis is a wonderful advice
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hey Cordy! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We cannot say why you both laugh facing each other. If you are sure that guy does not know about the crush, why don't you talk to him.. be friends with him. Get to know him better and know if you really like him or you are just attracted to him. We hope this helps
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
hello big sis, i av a problem. my bf romanced me and i noticed somthing watery coming out of my discharge am scared...am i normal?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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it's because he was romancing you, nd u were in the mood, that's y u ar seeing it.hope this help
Hey Pat! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Yes, you are alright. You ejaculated and that is what came out. This happens when you are sexually excited. It is normal and it happens to all of us (both male and female). We hope this helps
hello big sis my first boyfriend i love him he was my first love but we from different tribe and i hate the tribe so also my parent but i do love him i have to break up with him but he behaves badly sometimes like insulting he looking down on me cause his ten years other than i am always questioning whatever i do and whoever he see me with but now his begging me to come back to him and disturbing me and i have a new boyfriend now but i still have feelings for him
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey fumy! Thanks for this comment. First of all, you cannot hate a tribe and love someone from that tribe. You will always have issues with that person. Hating a tribe is not right because we are all humans regardless of the tribe. Hate is a very strong word and also very dangerous. If you had issues with him while you were dating him, you will continue to have such issues if you choose to go back to him. What you need to do is to figure out what you want in a boyfriend and why you want to be in a relationship. We hope this helps
same tin happen to ma babe maryam,she told me she luv me and aondohemba(tiv boy) so she dont no wat 2 do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hello big sister i want u to advise me,there was a guy he toasted me nd i was frustrated,so i abuse im nd since den we ave nt been talking again.pls did i did wrong.nd i want ur advise.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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it was wrong, u don't av to be abusing any guy that toast u, just be patient with them, don't be rude to them, they might harm you..
Hey Vicpet! Abusing him was totally wrong. There are so many other ways to turn down advances from guys. Please read - 3 ways to politely turn down advances from boys. You will get tips on how to do this going forward. You can apologise to him if you feel bad. We hope this helps
Dear big sis,i got a boy friend....bt dere is dis guy who i so much love..he is my bestfriend actually..he said he loves me..but i dont believe him cos i see his love text wit oda gals.to tell u d truth.i love dis guy more dan my boifriend...i dont knw wat to do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. If you are not in love with your boyfriend, why are you in a relationship with him? It seems like you are decieving and that is unfair. Now to your bestfriend, if you do not trust anyone, don't bother going into a relationship with them because you will always be under pressure. We can only advise but the final decision is up to you. We hope this helps
hy big sis i was rape wen i was young bt since i started menstrating i av nt had sex .cn i still b a virgin .help me
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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no dear, u are not a virgin any more
Hey GOLD! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We are so sorry about what you went through. Unfortunately, menstruation does not make one a virgin again. We hope this helps
hii big sis,how can i know if a guy truly luv me?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey cruzy! This is a personal thing you need to find out. There is no manual that shows how to know if a guy likes you or not because everyone has their own unique way of showing love. So look at the way he treats you, talk to him too. We hope this helps
big sister. my bf dont not ve time 4 me again jzt bcus I don't kiss him.want did I do bcus I dont want to lose him
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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If he started avoiding you because you refuse to kiss him, then you should forget about him.
If he wants to leave you becos u don't kiss him......then he dosen't deserve you. Don't give in pls
Hey pweetylamide! @Mike9580 and @Presh have said it all. If he is avoiding you because you refused to kiss him, it only means that he was only with you for what he will get and so, he does not deserve you at all. Please forget him. You deserve more than someone like him. We hope this helps
tanks big sis and@ presh @mike9580. .I ve tell him am not interested again thanks for the advice.
hey big sis am confused i lyk a gal nd d gal lyks me but due to some certain circumstances e r a little bit seperated nd i dont usually av much tym fr her coz f ma academics nd along d way she feels lonely nd deeply in me i still lyk her but i dont usually av her tym coz f,m academics nd now anoda guy says he lyks her she told me nd i sed if she still lyks me she shuldnt go fr him but now shes starting to avoid me nd i still lyk her so so much plz wat shuld i do???
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey kyaba04! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Sorry about what you are going through. What you should be asking her is if she is still interested in the relationship. If she isn't, it is best for you to let her go because forcing her to remain in a relationship with you will only do more harm than good. Talk to her okay? We wish you all the best.
Just Choose the best one for you
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Dear big sister, I once dated a guy who loves me and I love him too. But am always shy to talk to him in school because I know he's too good for me. I broke up with just to test him whether he will beg me back but he didn't. He told my friend that he willingly failed the test. We are just friends now but he has changed towards me since the day I told him a guy asked me out and he knows the guy. He has been saying bad things about the boy for me. He's already in a relationship with a girl in ss3 in our school. I still have small feelings for him. Please I need your advice big sister to know whether he's still want to continue in the relationship.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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my dear.if he truly loves he would come for u and never date any other gal.BT if he doesn't ,pls move on wit ur lyf
I really need help.. I really like this guy but he's my best friends brother I don't know what to do.. I don't know if he feels the same with me.. I can't get rid of the feelings
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey hencha! Thanks for the comment. He has moved on and he is trying to stop you from moving on. This shows that is he jealous. We cannot say if he wants to continue the relationship but one we know is that he willingly failed the test and has now moved on. That means he was not interested in fighting for the relationship. It is not just about him now, it is also about you. You need to define what you want for yourself girl. Do you want to move on with the new guy at all? Are you in love with the new guy or are you looking for someone that will distract you? You also have a huge role to play here. Take your time to answer these questions. We hope this helps
it is nt a sin for u to love u best frd brother, if he felt the same way for u tht is all abt it hnnn!!!!!
Big sister, I have a boyfriend but there's this guy from my school (am thru with secondary school). This guy was my junior in secondary school, he's in ss3 now. I met him online, we've been chatting n it's been so amazing chatting with him. And I like him and he says he has feelings for me n I think i do too. Well I want to break up with My boyfriend, cos am not sure if I love him and I don't want to deceive him but he doesn't understand. What shld I do, I love this new guy. pls help me
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for opening up through this comment. Politely tell you boyfriend the reasons why you want to end the relationship. Be very calm and peaceful about it. Let him understand. As for the new guy, be very sure of what you feel and do not be in a hurry to date him. Take your time. Not everyone you meet online shows their true self. Some actually pretend. We hope this helps
Hell big sis....... I really need help, i hav a frnd who is vry close to me, an am madly inlove wit his sist. I even told the girl hw i feel abt her but she never giv me a reply if she also do like me or not........ So what can i do??
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Isreali! Thanks for the comment. Go back to her and ask her how she feels. This is so that you do not wait forever. We hope this helps
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that was awesome,tanks big sis
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hii Sister my advice to you is keep ur eye on both of them you will get who loves you more and more
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Dat was really helpful big sis
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Big sis,there was this guy i met last year at my tutorial center,we were really close for a while,at least for people but i was not okay with our level of closeness i wanted more.january this year we lost contact and i have not been able to get him out of my mind.what do i do?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Talia! Ask around for his contact, talk to mutual friends, look for him on social media platforms. There are so many ways to link up with old contacts. We hope this helps
my boyfriend is very close wit a girl in skul nd he always tell me abt her and am nt okay wit it.pls wat can i do? i love him so much
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey temia! If you are not okay with it, talk to him about it. Let him know politely that you are worried about his friendship with the other girl. Express your feelings to him. We hope this helps
am in love with a guy online we never meet before am confused did he really love me n he was my sis classmate she said he good did he really love me n am a newcomer am I welcome
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey princess! Thanks for the comment. We always advise that you stay safe online. There are a lot of predators online looking for people to take advantage of. Remember you only know as much as the person tells you and some of it may be lies because you have no proof. Just be extremely careful so that you do not fall into their trap. Take your time and do not be in a hurry. Remember that what you have is a crush and crushes always tend to die naturally. We hope this helps
I had feelings for a guy in my secondary school nw am done and we are far away he's dating but till nw i can't forget him. If I tell him will I be able to forget my feelings or it will grow
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Minam! Thanks for opening up through this comment. You need to make up your mind on what your want to do. Do you want to forget him or do you want to open up to him? The choice is yours. If you want to forget him, all you need to do is to distract yourself. Keep yourself occupied so that you won't have to think about him. We hope this helps
I don't want to forget him I just want us to be friends
There's this girl I like but I'm not sure she likes me. I've never talked to her yet she drives me nuts. What can I do?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Jeff! First of all, what makes you think that she loves you too when you have never spoken to her? Also, how sure are you that what you feel for her is really love and not a crush. It is very difficult to love someone you know nothing about. Get friendly with her, gist with her and know her better. We hope this helps.
hi big sister... there also this two guys in my area, favour and glory, l love both of them so much and am already dating both of them, am confused because l have tried to drop favour but the more he comes closer the more l fall inlove same with glory.. pls l need help
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey pamela! Thanks for opening up through this comment. It is not fair on the guys because you are cheating on them. You can never love 2 people equally. What you need to do is to find out the person you love the more and stick to that person but we do not advise that you double date. Remember if it is done to you, you won't like it. We hope this helps
There's this guy in my school he loves sitting with me and always hang his hand across my shoulder at the slightest opportunity.I think its so obvious that my brother have to tell me that he's highly disappointed in me because everybody knows the guy have a crush on me and i just allowed him to please sister what should i do because am falling for the guy already
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey nikkylove! Thanks for the comment. You need to know exactly what you want to do. This will go a long way. We hope this helps
It happens many times. As a girl you feel cool to be with more than a guy. Many times we find it really difficult to tell who you love more. We may live one 50.1% and another 49.9%. In that case, making a pick looks really difficult. But then as girls we should learn to be smart, and stick to who makes us a better person.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
helo i dont no hw i cn keep out wit som of my gf i hv abt 5 of them bt i only need 1, get some away lots hard becoz they almost are the same i need help
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey jstmanny! Thanks for the comment. Having one girlfriend takes a lot, so 5 will be even more demanding. You need to politely let them know that you are no longer interested in the relationship but first of all, you need to find out what you want for yourself which is very important. You may be surprised that you do not necessarily need to be in a relationship right now. This is up to you to do. We hope this helps
Big sis pls there is this girl i am falling in love with but i dont know if she feels the same. Please how can i know if she loves me without talking to her?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Celeb! Thanks for the comment. There is no manual to show how someone feels about you. Also, you cannot know without talking to the person. It will mean that you will keep guessing about the signs you are getting which is not right for you. We hope this helps
Hi big sis pls am confused I have a crush on a guy but we are just friends and I have other friends who are asking me to be their gf and I do not like them pls what should I do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey kesha! Thanks for opening up through this comment. The first thing you shouldn't do is to date a guy you od not love or have any feelings for. No matter how much they claim to love you, if you do not love them back, do not force a relationship to happen. You need to take your time to make a decision on what to do. We hope this helps
i tink u should give peter a try!
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
hey big sis i hv a problem. d gal i lyk just told me never to talk to her again on a sudden morning infact she blocked me on facebook nd just dzorganized me nd itz vry hard to frget her plz wat shuld i do?
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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I think there must be something she heard or you said about her. Just try finding out
Hey kyaba04! Thanks for the comment. You probably offended her in a way that you are not aware of. People rarely cut others off without any offence. Like eniela said, you should talk to her and find out what exactly it is that you did to offend her. We hope this helps
Big sis, plz help me. There was a particular girl that am in love with but she base at Badagry and i based @ Ascon, i dnt no what to do i want to confirm maybe she love me or not. How will i confirm plz
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Marvelous! There is no manual to show or know if someone loves you. We cannot in anyway tell you if she loves you or not. It is up to you to find out yourself. We hope this helps
thhnk wel b4 u knw d one u love most
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
I need an advice am in love with two guys one was my first boyfriend he was the first I loose my virginity too and the first I have ever kiss,but because of the distance between us I decide I needed a company till the day I will meet with hem again but on that process I fall in love with de second pertiner and I have been communicating with my first lieing am still single because I still love hem and I also lie to my second I don't have any date so now am so confuse I do not want to loose any.am here with my second but it has been two years now I have not seen my first I need your help
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Springstar! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you cannot love 2 people equally. There is definitely one you love more. You need to search within to find out who the person is. You also need to stop deceiving both guys because it is not fair on them and also, if they find out, you will lose both of them. Being in a relationship with 2 people at a time means that you will end up hurting their feelings. You need to work on yourself girl and let one of them go. We hope this helps
Am In Love With A Guy, Dis Guy We Are Friend Nd I Dont If He Loves Me Also, Big Sister Please What Should I Do
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Victoria! Thanks for the comment. You are in the best position to know what to do about this. Do you want to know if he likes you too? If yes, you can have a conversation with him about how you feel about him. That's a starting point. We hope this helps
Am In Love With A Guy, Dis Guy We Are Friend Nd I Dont If He Loves Me Also, Big Sister Please What Should I Do.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
I had dis friend we had been friends from Js1i dont if he likes me
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
big sis help me!!
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Rinal! In what way?
Big sis i am new here pls help me am in love with 2 girls and dey are my besties and d girls are also friends with each other can i go into a relationship with any of them
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Blazing! Thanks for the comment. You cannot love two people equally. There is one you will love more. You need to find out who it is that you love more among the two. You are in the best position to decide what to do. We cannot tell you who to go into a relationship with. We hope this helps
heloo big sis, i av a question 2 ask....pls whem sumone is feeling honnic wat does it mean
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Hey Pat! Thanks for opening up through this comment. This is a feeling of sexual excitement. Your body becomes active and you feel a certain way. This feeling happens to everybody and so do not feel like you are alone in this. This is a sensitive period so you need to be careful about what you do at this time. We hope this answers your question
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Hi big sis am i normal there are many guys in my school and area i think they want to be in a relationship with me but i tuned them all down they said playing hard to get am i ok?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
is it possible for me to be disvirgined through fingering??
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey jomy02! It is possible for one to lose her virginity through fingering sometimes but this does not happen all the time. We hope this helps
Choose Anybody U Want If Peter Or Wale And Start Ur Frendship
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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DEAR,U NEED TO THINK VERY WELL AND CAREFULLY,INORDER NOT TO MAKE A MISTAKE
PLS BIG SISTER,I NEED YOUR HELP,IS SEX COMPULSORY IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey chi223! Thanks for the comment. No, it is not compulsory to have sex in a relationship. Sex is totally voluntary and it is up to you being ready. If you are not ready but your partner is ready, he should not force you to have sex. SEX IS NOT LOVE dear. You should have sex only when you are ready for it and not because you are in a relationship. There are some relationships that do not require having sex. We hope this helps
One older sister in my neighbourhood said she love me. What should i do big sis?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Shisberry! Do you like her? The final decision is up to you to make though. We cannot tell you what to do. We hope this helps
Nope. I didnt like her. Buh she like me d most. Help me out big sis
big sis i like a boy in my neigborhood but i dont know wether he likes me
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey adenike! Thanks for the comment. There is no manual on how to know whether a guy likes you or not. You can get to know him better by being friends with him to even know if you like him or if it is just a crush. We hope this helps
Hey Big Sis i have dated four boys none of whom i cherishd.i just dont know how tu love.all my ex-boyfriends are now my friends boyfriends. am 16 i like guys 4 a little while and den begin tu dislik dem.but it abnormal not tu have a guy. wats my problem?
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Elin! Thanks for the comment. You are perfectly normal. What is happening is that you are rushing into relationships with people you have a crush on. You never loved any of those guys but rather, you had a crush on them and remember that crushes do not last for a long time. They tend to die after a while. Another thing is that you never define what you want from a relationship before you start dating. You just like and want to be in a relationship for the sake of being in one. Finally, there is absolutely nothing abnormal about not having a boyfriend. There is a problem when you begin to feel like it is abnormal not to have a guy because that makes it obsession. We hope this helps
Big sis am just confused right now i dnt no what to do can u pls help me.... they is this boy am working with any time am with him i fill unease, i just cant hold my self then my mind will beat so fast big sis am confused
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Favourmatilda! Thanks for the comment. Do not be confused. We have written a story about this and we will love for you to read it so that you can clarify how you feel. The story is "Crush vs Love: Know the difference". Read the story and let us know if you understand how you feel. We hope this helps
tink abt it very well
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
wat do i do i love my bf he luv me 2 bt were nt close 2 each other
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey jenny! What do you mean by you are not close to each other? Is it distance or in terms of relationship? Please explain. Thanks
were distant hez scholing somewhere nd im schooling somewhere bt were frm desame place(hometown)
am temi am 16 years old i dont know what wrong with me i loved 3 guy at the same day pls what will i do
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey temi! Thanks for the comment. You cannot fall in love in a day. That is a crush and you also cannot love 3 people at the same time. It is also a sign that it is a crush. Crushes die after a short time so be sure that this feeling will soon die. We hope this helps
Am eli, i
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Am eli, i don't really wanna be close to guys cause it causes lots of distraction but still they all wanna be close to me. At times i crush and few weeks later, i suddenly feel like am doing something wrong..... Am really confused
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hi eli,it's okay to crush but your not wanting to be close to guys,have you been hurt by one earlier in life?if so try not think much of it,make good guy friends,you mustn't date ,you can learn alot from them,they are nice but still be careful and if you fall in love you can date as well,it helps to know that there is someone that is always there for you and loves you the way you are
Hey Eli98! Grace has said it all. Go Grace! Thanks for this wonderful comment. You rock girl
Am eli, am 19. i don't really wanna be close to guys cause it causes lots of distraction but still they all wanna be close to me. At times i crush and few weeks later, i suddenly feel like am doing something wrong..... Am really confused
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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u jst scared to fall in luv dear mayb cos of wat u av heard, its tru tho. bt if u neva try u wud neva knw,ma advice u sud giv dating a trial,ntn like falling in luv n mistakes r allowed,dats hw we learn. goodluck.
I also feel d same way
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
I like two guys who are brothers.The younger one's girlfriend is my friend.I tried to control myself to no avail and now am feeling like a betrayer.What should i do?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Tiga! Thanks for the comment. We have already replied this comment in the other article where you commented. Kindly go there to see the response we gave you. We hope this helps
pls big sis. What is the difference between a crush and real love? i am confused
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Celeb! Thanks for the comment. We have written an article on this. The article is titled "Crush vs love; know the difference". Read this article and all your questions will be answered. We hope this helps
I'm enjoying dis article but_answer my question pls
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Pre111! Your questions have been answered. Please go to the articles to read the responses. Thanks
Big Sis, What Are Signs/Symtoms To Be Obeserve Of A Person That Loves You
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Normal! Thanks for the comment. We have written an article titled "Crush vs Love: Know the difference". This article answers your question. Please search for it and read it as it will answer your question. We hope this helps
my opinion is that you the second guy you like because if you like the first guy so much you would not like the second guy
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
In my own view... Firstly: are they friend or not? if yes, just be only good friend to them and move on with other guy inorder not to be the lady dat will cause trouble btwn them.... And if no,, then u choose the one u like most... Good luck.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Hello I'm new here. How do i ask a question please?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Dempress! You just asked a question
Big sis I'm feeling so down right now... My boyfriend just confessed to me dat he cheated on me with his ex.. I'm not sure if I should trust him again or to just forget about him.. please help springsters
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Oh Qween_ella! We are so sorry about this. We understand how broken you are right now and it is fine. Right now, it will be hard to make a decision. You need some time to think about it and be sure of what it is that you want to do. Trust me, it will be hard but you can do it. Once again, we are so sorry about this. Just take your time to before you make up your mind on what it is that you want to do. We hope this helps
Big sister please is it right for a fourteen years old girl to be in a relationship?
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey tetylorpe! Thanks for the comment. There is no particular age for one to start dating. Dating has to do with maturity and not age. Before you start dating someone, be sure that you are really ready for the responsibilities of dating and if you are mentally prepared for it. Also, don't date because your friends are doing it or because a boy is pressurising you to do it. We hope this helps.
tetylorpe am also 14years old I don't think is bad for you to start dating but sha their is no particular age before someone will start dating.
Big sister is dating normal
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey fathia! Thanks for the comment. Dating is a personal decision and you have to be ready for the responsibilities that come with it. It is not about being normal or not, it is about you knowing what you want and also being prepared for it. We hope this helps
Its also same with me, I don't know how I feel
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Hi Big sis. I am in love with a girl for over two years, and we love each other we share everything in common. But her families hate to see us together that she must not marry me over their death body to see us getting marriage and the girl stand firm that without me she can rather die than letting me go. I am confuse now please help me out.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Springster! Thanks for the comment. We advise that you talk to a trusted adult about this. We hope this helps
Big sister please help... I have a boyfriend, we've been dating for 6-7months buh I have never really loved him... I just like him cos I feel he's a great friend And now I met a guy last week and I think I've fallen in love with him... when we kissed I had this feeling I've never had in my entire life... I love him and he loves me too... he wants me to be his girlfriend, he's always talking about me to his friends But I really don't know if I should break up with my boyfriend because of this guy... I'm really confused
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Ted_dee! Thanks for the comment. First of all, you need to stop deceiving your boyfriend because that is what you are currently doing. It is unfair for him to think that you love him when you really do not. As regards this new guy, we think that one week is too short to know if you love someone and so we suggest you take things slow and get to know him better before you start concluding that you are in love. We hope this helps
ahhhhhhhh Jesus is lord.
Big sis,there is this guy I love and I think he loves me too,we like the same things our hobbies are the same but the problem is we argue about little things,what should I do??
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
big sis is it wrong for a 13years old girl to be in relationship with a guy
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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no it isn't derby,as long as u are matured enough to handle d relationship den that's all.
Hey big sis isn't bad for a 14 years old girl to date a 17 years old boy
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
Hey big sis,i hv a problem,dere are two guys in my class which i like nd also likes me too,de both of them are asking me out but i dnt know what to do they are also best of friends,pls what should i do?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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ahhhhhh u are in trouble o je so are e(u better warn urself).
hey big sis there are two boys in my church, i love them and they love me too.Please big sis i need your help please!
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Princess! Thanks for the comment. There is no way you can love 2 people equally. There is obviously one person that you like better. As regards these boys, you need to be sure that it is not a crush that you are mixing up for love. Do you know any of them well enough (not based on what they told you), what do you like about them? These are some of the things that you need to ask yourself. Also, you need to know that both of them liking you back can cause some problem especially when they both realize that they have to start to fight for your attention. Think about it and talk to a trusted adult. We hope this helps
Hi am new here this is interesting
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hi mira u are welcome and u can always chat me up when u are lessbusy.
hi every one i just this group i love this
March 20, 2022, 7:55 p.m.
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Hi Rita
hlo big sister tanks for accepting me. mine is not a thought is a question, if u hàve a boyfriend who is always checking on u, going through ur fone, neva allow u interact wit sum orda person wat will u do? and u are leaving under his huz, he accuses u and beat u up.pls big sis tell me is dat d way to show dat u luv a ģurl
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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dears different kind of love the love that make u or him helpless is setup because its not in a natural man to love without a selfish purpose because mans love is affectionate instead of compassionate love and compassionate love are for people that their mind is cultured
I don't think it's right for him to beat you up.
Big Sis U Ar Claver Yes I Got It With Joy
March 20, 2022, 7:54 p.m.
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Thanks TEASY!
This is exactly wat is happening to me and it is very strange and weird because it was the first time in forever.
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I am new here, hope am welcomed
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U are welcomed i'm also new i joined d group yesterday
i have a problem my best friend that I usually see as my everything like bestie Walk up to me and asked if I had a boyfriend and I said no and he told me that he has fallen for me at the moment I felt like crying because I didn't expect it and he gave me time to think about being his girlfriend but that time I was scared though I have feeling for him but I refuse due to my fears and unfortunately for both of us we went to same church and that period we are to go to camp for three days though I was scared I manage to go with him and others but when we got there he always comes to my department to eat and chart with me but I was not willing to tell him no because it will cause him pains but I have to gather courage to tell him so after telling him I cannot be in a relationship with him at that age he was very annoyed and wept bitterly, I also have feeling for him but it was a public camp and he likes being close to me at times he tries to hug me but I refuse to, I'm happy now that he has moved on with his life but I'm beginning to feel bad because since then I have lost my bestie and I'm scared to fall in love again please advise me on what to do
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
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Hello dear, I wanna say congratulations at first. Why? It's because you overcome the fear of if I tell him how will he feel and the second thing is that I salute your courage because so many girls will keep it in mind without replying the guy and thus cab cause something else. You will get over it ok. What you did is the right thing my dear don't develop any fear that you find it difficult to fall in love. With time you will. Bye
Am new here am I welcome?
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
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Yeah
Yes u re
am in love with a girl,but is intention is have sex with and found out his asking my friend out whatwe i do
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Choose the one you love most,you can't love them equally
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Hey Evry1 am rili broken...Can I get any help here
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Sorry,broken as in...
Just choose one
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
I also have a similar problem.I met a guy in my aunts church when I went there on vacation he talked to me but I found him annoying but wen I came back I started thinking about him and I also discovered that I have a crush for a boy in my class whom I used to think annoying.
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
is it bad to Have a boy friend
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
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Not at all as far as your of age
I love a guy who asked me out he was like my crush but I was too nervous to reply so he didn't talk to me and dated another person who was my classmates he was also my classmate
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
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I've been In that kinda situation before
Me too.but that only made it more clearer to me how insincere he had been about his feelings towards me.
That means he truly likes me but why did he date my classmate
Hi am new here am I welcome?is
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Is it bad to love two boys at a time
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Not really
Well i have a crush on two guys they are both cute but only one of them has asked me out
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Love this..
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.
Big Sis.... Is there any specific age for dating
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