No means no
Dupe was 16 when she joined a community choir. She practiced every day with other girls from her area.
They performed at school events, community functions and even weddings.
She loved the choir. She made good friends there. Every day she was eager to go for practice. Everyone loved her, including Mr. Ayo, her choir leader.
Mr. Ayo was a nice young man. All the girls loved how he taught them.
But Mr. Ayo liked Dupe more than the other girls. Some days he took her home in his car.
He bought her drinks and snacks a few times. He always complimented her. He told her she was a smart young girl. He called her beautiful.
Some girls noticed the attention. They made fun of her. They called her Mr. Ayo’s small wife.
She was not bothered until Mr. Ayo bought her a chain. He told her he liked her a lot. He said he wanted to be more than her choir leader.
He promised to take care of her if she agreed.
This scared her. She didn’t know who to speak to. She was scared to tell her mother.
She told her elder sister. Her sister told her to tell him no.
She asked her to be careful. She said Mr. Ayo’s behaviour was inappropriate. It was not right for an older man to use money to get the attention of younger girls. Not all older men who are nice to younger women are looking for something else. But there are those like Mr. Ayo who demand relationships in return for their gifts and money.
She told her to stop taking gifts from him. She also asked her to stop getting in his car with him.
Dupe was scared to say no to Mr. Ayo. She was scared he would scream at her or send her away from the choir. She asked her sister to help her out.
Her sister reported him to their community leader. Mr. Ayo was cautioned.
Today Dupe is back in the choir. Mr. Ayo no longer disturbs her.
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I like this character about Dupe stood up for herself and she was independent.
Sept. 4, 2022, 4:12 p.m.
hi sis.I don't know why older men always ask me out.Am 17 years old.the younger guys am attracted to don't come Y.Some say is b/c I act to matured 4 my age.is dat y
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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A matured guy gets attracted to a matured lady and vice versa,its irresistible, you just need to know what you want and work towards achieving it
Its not true when its ur tym d ryt guy wil com dnt worry exprienced sth similar,just ignore dem n live ur lyf ur way LOL
Hey Chickchary! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We will like to know who you hang out with? Your friends? Your click? Are they much older? Sometimes, the people we spend more time around tend to influence things like this. Maybe you should start hanging around younger guys. This way you hang around them more and make friends with them. Be careful with the older guys so that they don't take advantage of you. Also, let a trusted adult be aware of any older guy making passes at you. We hope this helps
Her Sister Was A Extremely Great Sister's She Should Been Calling A Great Sister Indeed..... Mr.Ayo Intended To Had Sex With Dupe Not Just A Relationship He Demanded For, He His Trying To Won Her Heart First
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
I experienced it more than once i totally avoided him n treated him wit scorn.
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hey Springster I blieve dat u dnt have 2 shapen ur lyf 2 fit pples ideal just be u
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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true talk!
Nyc article
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
I have a similar case wit my teacher nd i'm tired,wat do i do
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey Oyindamola! Please report him to a trusted adult immediately. Someone needs to know about this. We hope this helps
a boy asked me out I refused and now our friendship is lost but I was enjoying his friendship and I want it back how can I big sister
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
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Hey tommy! Thanks for the comment. He probably cannot stand being just friends with you. It's best to let him go because the friendship will never be the same. You want just friendship and he wants more than friendship. We hope this helps
nyc storie........ Dupe made d right tin by tell her sister...
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Its nice hw she reported to her sister
March 20, 2022, 8 p.m.
Hello I Am New Here
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
iam a new comer here
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
HELLO!Bigsis compliment of d season.der was a guy who toasted me nd i said no nd letter went to my frnd nd toasted her also nd she accept cus she already has cruch 4 d guy.nd my frnd change he attitude toward me nd i told her dat d guy as already toasted me nd she was lyk y dont u tell me b4 nd i told her dat cus ave seen it in her dat she z already inluv wit d guy.d following day wat i heard frm her wat dat she has breakup wit im nd i was confuse dat did i did wrong 4 telling her dat cus i dont lyk hw dey breakup.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
9ice 1 big sister, d pple of dis century don't think abt d negative effect bt only positive aspect.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Really????
that what most people did to spoil the life of teenage girls
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Ohh big sisy it can also happen to a boy i know a woman wich is dating a young guy like 18 and she is like 26
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
nyc
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
am new here
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Ma guy am dating is having a child from another girl but he said he doesn't love her but me am confused
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Is badly to youngman get attention to smal girl,
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
fantastic idea
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Once my teacher in sch told me to date,that he is going to add my mark,but my frd tod me not to do it that it wrong okay
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
Der is dis teacher in my skul,he ws our biology teacher,he came into our class 2 teach after teaching he ask me 2 com 2 his office 2 take my biology textbook,so i wnt 2 his office wen i got der,i asked him 4 d book,he told me 2 tek it in his drawer,i tuk it nd ws abt 2 liv wen he held my hand nd pulled me over 2 himself,den he started touching me,i told him i would scream if he doesn't liv my hand but he stil did nt liv me,he cover my mouth nd i could nt shout,he ws abt 2 tear my cloth, i managed 2 remove his hand frm my mouth nd i bite him nd ran away nd nw am scared 2 tel my aunt wat had happened bcos she gonna blame me 4 all dat happened.
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Hey Nb! just like Dupe's sister told her in d article ,,,ur teacher's behaviour wasn't appropriate .Besides ,what would u have done if a fellow student or teacher suddenly opens d door only 2 find d both of u ...... . Anyway ,action speaks louder n better than voice ,u did it girl! keep it up!!!
Hey Nb! Thanks for the comment. We are so sorry about what you are going through. You need to talk to a trusted adult and report this teacher immediately. You should also tell a teacher you trust in your school and also please be careful around him. No one will judge you for this. Your safety is very important. Please, talk to someone. We hope this helps
hey! I am a guy but i love what her sister tell her and the boundness to go and met the man, that is a good advice
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
big sis i am like dupe
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
This is what every young should do in situations like this..
March 20, 2022, 7:59 p.m.
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Big sister i really like ur adevice.
Thanks better!
hey big sister.i have a problem,there is this guy my friend(boy) want me to be is girlfriend.The guy is 18years while I am 17 years.should I accept it or not?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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U will demand ur self if u have feelings for him then accept but if u dont know body can force u
Winds I u have feelings for him u can accept
my dear way u dey do reme
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Hi i got a prob there is a boy in my class he teases me alot he make fun of me in class and i do see him stare at me in class from d very first day i attended d school.please whats going on?
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Jbgold! Thanks for the comment. This guy is probably taking advantage of you. The fact that you saw him stare at you doesn't take away the fact that he likes to tease you. You should walk up to him and politely tell him that you do not appreciate the way he talks to you. If he still does not listen to you, you should tell a trusted adult and also a teacher. Try as much as possible to avoid him too. We hope this helps
No 1 has d right 2 force us into any relationship we don't want 2 av
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Hey K299! It is never a girl's fault that someone tries to rape her, NEVER! Never give excuses that a guy somewhere could not control his sexual urge. What about girls that cover themselves based on their religion that still get raped? Does this mean that they were dressed sexy? Or little children and infants that still get raped? Are diapers and pullovers also seductive? We should never excuse a rapist. If you feel someone is dressed in a certain way that turns you on, does that mean that you will rape the person? Rape is a crime that is punishable under the Nigerian constitution, for you to freely commit a crime because you feel the person wore something that attracted you means that you are really a criminal. We need to stop blaming girls for being raped. IT IS NEVER A GIRLS FAULT. No means NO! Nothing can change it. We hope this helps
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Hey Prity! Thanks for opening up through this comment. We are so sorry about what you went through. Attempted rape is a serious and punishable offense and you would need to get professional advice and on what to do. It is important for you to know and remember it is not your fault something like this happened and should not blame yourself. You need to talk to a trusted adult about this. If you feel your aunt will blame you, please talk to another adult you trust (cousin, siblings, teacher etc). Someone around you needs to know what happened. There is a Child Advocacy Center where they help and give professional advice to young people in situations like this on what they can do to be safe. You can call them on 08 00 80 080 01. This service is completely confidential - which means they won't share what you say to them with other people. It is free which means you don’t not need to have credit before you call them. We hope this helps
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
There was a guy then he was actually a soldier i didnt feel intimidated by him i just told him NO.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
hello big sis there was this that said he loves me but I told him no but he would not listen he keep on saying that I am his wife to be
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
wat should I do with him pls
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
Hello big sis there's dis guy i am dating we met nt quite lng so he jst gained admission into d university does it mean dat our relationship is going to end after he has gone
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Perfection! Thanks for the comment. No, it doesn't mean that the relationship will end. People do long distance relationships that are successful. You can also do that but please note that it requires a lot of work. You both need to be ready for the responsibilities of a relationship especially a long distance relationship. It takes a lot of hard work and commitment for your relationship to work. So, if you both put in the work, then your relationship can still work. We hope this helps
I agree no means no,but when it comes to girls... I DESPISE them for one thing... When you as a girl falls in love with a boy and you have been greenlighting since and he refuse to respond.What's the meaning of that?And yet you girls will never-let-go.Is love by force?Is there other ways of showing a girl how much you love her?Or if it's a girl now that loves cooking for a guy to eat,love washing his clothes,everytime you want to be close to him and he still refuses you,you will be feeling bad.Tomorrow you will say NO HUSBAND.Will husband fall from HEAVEN?Ok,we guys that want to travel abroad,for us to settle down we need women.
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Urudia! Thanks for the comment. First of all, it is wrong to generalise. Not all girls fit the description of what you just gave. Another thing to note is that everything that you mentioned in your comment is personal and dependent on individual. Your mindset about girls/females and what they portray is not the best because it shows girls as objects only and this is absolutely not correct or fair on girls. If almost all the girls you meet are like this towards you, don't you think it is time for you to look inward and see if the problem is from you? Blaming girls for everything that you feel is wrong is not the fair thing to do so you need to work on that. We hope this helps
urudia you're nt fair at all
hello big6ta! der iz sumtin bothering me, its just dat my old friend (just a friend) saw me sum monthz ago, received my contact nomba, den when calling started saying sum wordz lik hello babe, honey, sweety etc. since den i deleted his nomba. but still he keep disturbin me. nt dat i was'nt lik him, buh,(1) i don't lik dating someone living around my area (2) i don't av ny feelings 4 him. so wat should i do? quick advice 4rm bigsister nd fellow springster. please!
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey enyola! Thanks for the comment. You should politely let him know that you are not interested in a relationship. Saying NO does not make you a bad person, it goes to show that you know what you want. Deleting his number does not in anyway make him know that you are not interested in him but telling him is the easiest way for him to know. We hope this helps
I agree with big sis. If u r not interested, tell him no. And no means no
Big sis there is dis guy am dating though i luv him i dnt knw if he luv me also bt he claims he does. The problem with him is dat he is very jealous whenever he sees me talking with a guy or laughing with a guy he get jealous and most times harrases d guy am a very jovial person nd i dnt think its possible to lose him pls i need ur advice
March 20, 2022, 7:58 p.m.
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Hey Joy! Thanks for the comment. You are in a toxic relationship and that guy is violent. You do not need to be in such a relationship because he may hurt you. Please, you need to leave that relationship for your own safety. You deserve better. A mature guy will handle that situation in a better and easier way. Your safety is more important. Love should not be that way. We hope this helps
thanks
a great escape
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
I also went through something like this when i was 10 years old (i'm 14 now) there was this man named kenhinde who was disturbing me i wasn't close to my mum then and i didn't have a father so it was difficult for me i didn't have anybody to talk to it got to a point he started kissing me and telling me that he loves me i didn't know what to think my silence have him power over me and then one day he told me that he wanted to have sex with me (this man was close to my mum and he could get her to allow me and my siblings to stay in his house for holiday)i wasn't liking the fact that he would touch my body sexually ; i kicked against it .Few days before i was suppose go to his house i was tired and scream to my mum to tell her what was happening only for me to find out that this same man was doing the same to my sister and my mum spoke the man and he stopped bothering my sister and i .Please i beg every girl out there to always say no to older men please learn how to stand your ground.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Wow Niveraire! We are so sorry for what you went through. We are so glad you found the courage to say NO to him. Thanks a lot for sharing this with us. A lot of girls can learn from this. Once again, thank you for opening up and sharing this with us. We hope this helps
I once was in that sport when I was 10 but now am 12
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hi Linda How are u doing.
Hi great sister! y is it that all girls have to go trought form all this
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey chioma! Thanks for the comment. This happens to girls because of some of these men feel like girls are weak and young and so they should take advantage of them. This is all girls need to learn to say No and mean it. Girls also need to learn to stand their ground and know how to speak up when this happens. It is very very important. Please know that big sister is always here for you. We hope this helps
Hi big sis! I have similar issues, bt mine z kind of complicated...... There is this guy in my church that has been disturbing me on marrying him... And i asked him to give me time to think abt it. After everything, i still find nothing interesting on his proposal to me even though he is rich. And i told my boyfriend abt it, and despite the fact dat he loves me so much, he still adviced me to marry him since he has money and ended up saying ''he does not want to deprive me of the joy in early marriage, that he wouldn't want to stand as a blockage of denying me my ryt and d happiness of early marriage'' bt my problem z i dnt love the so called 'suitor' nd i went ahead telling him NO.. Bt still felt assive i said something wrong by saying no, bt was still happy i told him my mind..... Big sister, infact ehn! It was assive i even invited him the more, because the more i tell him that i am not interested, the more closer he comes to me..... Pls what do i tell this man to make him resist me totally, because i'm tired of this whole thing??? Pls i need your ultmost advice, help me.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey Bb! Thanks for the comment. You need to let him know through your words and your actions that you are not interested in him. There are ways to tell someone that you are not interested but your body language can say otherwise. You need to say it like you mean it. The fact that he has money does not make him husband material. Money is not love. If he still does not want to listen then you should not entertain any form of communication with him. Cut off all forms of communication and inform a trusted adult about it. Marriage is not by force and he cannot buy you. Also, if you have been collecting gifts from him, it is best to stop immediately. We hope this helps
well i think you should pray
yes bt nt similar
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
I was in d same situation
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Thesame thing applicable to me
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
dupe is a smart girl,girls should learn from her ways..
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
Dupe is a smart and good girl,small girls of nowadays should also learn from her story,don't let any man/boy decieve you.
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
yes a boy do disturb me
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
that was interesting
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
my leaving wit my aunt nd her husband is tryin to get close 2 me.. sayin dat he want 2 b my bestie.should i allow him or nt plz advice
March 20, 2022, 7:57 p.m.
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Hey 22! Thanks for the comment. You need to talk your aunt and also a trusted adult about this. You also need to be very careful around him. Please, do not keep quiet, tell your aunt or someone older that you trust immediately. We hope this helps
plz hlp me out na my school principal told me that I should date him that I we no longer pay school fees again plz hlp me abt wht to do
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hi,i guess you know whats right from wrong,which is why you are asking this queation,and the truth be told,such evil practices ends in a disgraceful and despicable way.My dear dont do it,his a devil who wanna lure you.Face your purpose there in school,no matter how hard it seems to pass,believe in your self.You dont need good grades to be great in life,you need good brains and Gods grace.So stick to the right thing and God will reward your undieing effort.God guide and bless you.Cheers.
Hey Feranmi! Thanks for the comment. Mekuzy is right! You need to tell him NO! This is not even something to think about. You also need to tell a trusted adult about it immediately. Please be careful and try to stay safe okay? We hope this helps
I love Spingster I'm so glad I joined
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Welc
Hey Kosi
what should i do i dnt like him but he keep insisting i should give him a chance
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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I think you should give him a chance. But don't let him take control of you
You don't like him...what matters the most in a relationship is if both parties love themselves and how committed they are to each other if you don't like him and b'cos he's insisting u say yes ur relationship with him might not end up well so ur no should be no...tell him u don't like him and u're not interested but u can be friends if u both want..hope this helps
You don't like him...what matters the most in a relationship is if both parties love themselves and how committed they are to each other if you don't like him and b'cos he's insisting u say yes ur relationship with him might not end up well so ur no should be no...tell him u don't like him and u're not interested but u can be friends if u both want..hope this helps
Hey Bambi! Thanks for the comment. If you do not like him, do not bother giving him a chance. Relationships are not for you to gamble with. If you do not like the person, why stress yourself and also the person in trying to make it work. Barbie is very correct. Please, do not compromise because someone is disturbing you. We hope this helps
What should i do if my parents keeps Persuading me to accept the mans Gifts to avoid trouble simply because he is rich
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Hey Lovelyna! Thanks for the comment. You need to let your parents know the risk involved in accepting gifts from a total stranger and also allowing someone to take advantage of you because he is rich. You also need to talk to a trusted adult that can help you talk to them. We hope this helps
hi guys I want to share my story With you people when I was 11 at night when I my sister and my cousin we were playing(running and one person will start chasing you guys)we were playing at night in the mean road if you are living at alimini elele barracks you will know the type of road this type of road looks sandy but not much the road just look like an estate road,so when we were playing a married man called me he was living at my street my sister and my cousin were not there when he called me so he called me I ignored him the next day he called me and I ignored him again then when we finished playing I told my sister and my cousin then from that day when we are playing I went straight to him an warned him from that day he stopped calling me.
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
I met a friend on facebook he always disturb me that i should come to his place but i am scared of my parent but he advice me to lye 2 my parent please what should i do..?
March 20, 2022, 7:56 p.m.
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Beth1 please do not go to his house cause you don't know him and don't lie to your parents cause anything can happen and remember you might him on Facebook what about if some thing' bad happens to you what will you parents do what would they say please don't break the trust of you parents which you have already built OK just tell the guy you are not coming that if he really what's to meet you then he should come to your own House.
Hi am new here am I welcome
March 20, 2022, 7:53 p.m.